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Helping you honor yourself, your children and your partner. Tips and strategies to create peace, authenticity and self love within your family.

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Helping you honor yourself, your children and your partner. Tips and strategies to create peace, authenticity and self love within your family.


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Cultivating a Grateful Heart
Happy Thanksgiving everyone! The holidays can be a busy time, so in the episode, we take our own advice and are simply doing a gratitude episode from home. We discuss some awesome research on the benefits of being thankful, share our individual gratitude lists, and give you some specific tips to help you cultivate a grateful heart during this holiday season. Here is the article we refer to on the benefits of cultivating gratitude: Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): Find us on instagram: Felica: Taralyn: p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
December 2, 2019
Keeping Our Personal Identity While Parenting
This topic is near and dear to our hearts because we know, from personal experience and from hearing from many of you, how easy it is to lose our identity while pouring our heart and soul into the parenting of our children. How can we give selflessly like we want to while not forgetting our own wholeness? In this episode, we share with you our own raw experiences of our journey into motherhood, and times when we have lost our wholeness and how we found our way back to ourselves. Sometimes it’s easy to forget that we are more than the roles we fill. If you or someone you know is struggling with staying intact personally while parenting, we hope the discussion in this episode will help you navigate your own personal journey and find what works best for you and your family. Here is the article about postpartum support we mentioned: Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): Find us on instagram: Felica: Taralyn: p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
November 25, 2019
How To Rise Above Our Parenting Triggers
Throughout our lives, we often find ourselves being triggered emotionally by other people’s actions. Maybe a store clerk says something that really sets us off, or a co-worker makes a comment that triggers anger or shame in us. These experiences every day give us the chance to really learn about ourselves. There are few situations that force us to really face this reality than in parenting because we are often pushed to our emotional limits (and we are often short on sleep for it as well!). That’s one of the beautiful things about parenting—it is truly a soul revealing journey. Our kids give us so many opportunities to observe what is triggers us (some days, it might feel like there is a bit too much triggering:). In this episode, we give you lots of concrete examples from parenting to allow you to first identify your own triggers and take back the power in the way you connect with others:) The book we referenced wasThe Whole-Brain Child: 12 Revolutionary Strategies to Nurture Your Child’s Developing Mind // Daniel J. Siegel and Tina Payne Bryson // Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): Find us on instagram: Felica: Taralyn: p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
November 18, 2019
Growth Mindset is Crucial for Our Kids, BUT What About Us?
Carol Dweck’s groundbreaking work on mindset has influenced so much of the way we talk about growth and success. In fact, our children’s school district is currently restructuring their teaching program to incorporate the concept of growth mindset! In this episode, we share our personal journey towards growth mindset and share tips on how to develop it in your own life. The focus here is how to truly internalize it and model it (not perfectly though—there is always room for growth!:). It is liberating as adults to realize that with a growth mindset, we are never stuck. The world is often far more open to us than we realize if we are willing to let go of our fixed mindset and look at the malleability of growth. This approach has the power to lessen the damages of perfectionism and allows for a less anxious view of life. The book we referenced was Mindset: The New Psychology of Success // Carol S. Dweck // Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): Find us on instagram: Felica: Taralyn: p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
November 11, 2019
When Kids are Sick and Toddlers Feel Unbearable
Every parent experiences their kids getting sick. In this episode, we explore how we can engage in wholehearted parenting even on those days when they aren’t feeling well. We also discuss some questions from listeners about what to do when toddlers seem to become so difficult that parenting feels unbearable. Things we mention: Peaceful Parent, Happy Kids: How to Stop Yelling and Start Connecting // Dr. Laura Markham // Felica’s favorite story meditation for her kids to listen to on sick days: Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): Find us on instagram: Felica: Taralyn: p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
November 4, 2019
Making Education Awesome
We live in a time when there are SOO many fantastic options for educating our kids (and ourselves!) formally and informally. We have had many parents ask us about our take on how to enhance the process of learning in our families. There seems to be a lot of parent guilt about not doing enough to teach their young children structured academics, and some worry that they are making learning a drudgery by pushing it too much. In this episode, we address these concerns and offer our own personal approach, which focuses on a combination of guided and self directed learning, with a heavy dose of wonder, a touch of positive challenge, and a relaxed attempt at moderation. We have experience with several kinds of schooling, including homeschooling, and we give our take on the benefits of the different options. Books we mention: The Well Trained Mind:  A Guide to Classical Education at home // Susan Wise Bauer // Teaching from Rest: A Homeschooler’s Guide to Unshakable Peace // Sarah Mackenzie // Taralyn’s current favorite homeschool curriculum options: Math: Primary Mathematics (aka Singapore Math) Language Arts, Handwriting, and Science: The Good and the Beautiful from History: A Well Trained Mind (they start with ancient and have all the eras). I started their Story of the World: History for the Classical Child: Volume 1: Spanish: Rosetta Stone Keyboarding: The Typing App from the Apple Store Also, here is a great podcast about the concept of free range learning if you are interested: Here is our favorite fall caramel recipe that Taralyn mentions in her high five: Taralyn and Felica’s Favorite Dipping Caramel Adapted from Jeanie Allen’s Caramel Corn recipe This caramel is the best we have ever had for dipping fall apples in. The texture is so creamy:) 1 cube butter 1 cup light corn syrup 1⁄2 teaspoon salt 1 box brown sugar (16 oz or 3 1⁄2 cups) (sometimes I just eyeball this - T) 1 can Eagle brand sweetened condensed milk 1/2 cup heavy whipping cream (optional) Combine all of these ingredients together and heat on medium low for a long time—at least a half hour, stirring often once it starts getting bubbly. The key is to do it slowly so it doesn’t burn, and it just barely boils. Do this until all the sugar is dissolved. Then, remove from heat and stir in the secret ingredient: 1 Cup Sour Cream (I’ve added anywhere from a half cup to 1 pint, and it always turns out AMAZING - T). Our Website (You can find all show notes here, along with book recommendations and links to all past books): Find us on instagram: Felica: Taralyn: p.s. Our secret to reading so many books is this little baby, a magical wireless earbud:)
October 28, 2019
Why Kids (and adults!) Need to Connect to Nature
As the weather outside gets colder, it becomes easier and easier to stay inside. Even when it is warm outside, the comforts of our homes and offices sometimes keep us in. However, going outside into the wild offers us soooo many benefits, from improved attention spans, increased physical wellness, and mood enhancement. In this episode, we explore what author Richard Louv has called Nature Deficit Disorder. This can show up as increased mood behaviors in children and physical affects such as cardiac risk factors and obesity. What happened to free playing outside!? We discuss how being out in nature helps our bodies and minds so much, and we give all kinds of tips on how to get yourself (and your kids) outside more.   Books:  Last Child in the Woods // Richard Louv - The Nature Fix // Florence Williams  - Our  Website (You can find all show notes here! Along with book recommendations and links to all past books):   Find us on instagram: Felica:  Taralyn:
October 21, 2019
Finding the Magic of Birth
In this episode, we indulge in talking about one of our favorite subjects—birth. Many of our listeners have asked us about our birth stories and for advice on how to approach the birthing process with joy instead of fear. We share our own personal stories, and what we found helpful in preparing for the birth of each of our children. Books we mention: Hypnobirthing// Marie Mongan // Ina May’s Guide to Childbirth// Ina May Gaskin //  Links:  This is the organization both of us took our classes from: This is a preview for an awesome show about birth (there will be actual births in this); Our Website: Find us on instagram: Felica: Taralyn:
October 14, 2019
Our Take on the Grit Phenomenon
Grit has become a buzzword in the self-help world thanks to some amazing research that has linked it to success. Grit is connected to courage, resolve, and strength of character. We believe grit is worth cultivating in our society as everything gets easier and our perseverance and commitment to go deeper in tasks can easily wane with our attention span. Angela Duckworth's book, Grit: The Power of Passion ad Perseverance, explores what makes someone "gritty,” why it is important, and how we can cultivate it. We are breaking down her theories in this episode and going specifically into how we can help encourage grit in ourselves and our kids! In this episode, we explore the research in Angela Duckworth’s book Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance. Books we mention: Grit: The Power of Passion and Perseverance // Angela Duckworth How to Raise Successful People: Simple Lessons for Radical Results // Esther Wojcicki Our Website: Find us on instagram: Felica: Taralyn:
October 7, 2019
Encouraging Independent Play and Letting Go of Guilt
As parents, many of us feel guilty that we aren’t engaging in play enough with our kids. Or, we feel guilty that our kids aren’t playing enough on their own to develop their imagination and instead spend lots of time in front of screens. Either way, there is lot of guilt to choose from. There is a reason mom guilt is such a popular term! We are here to suggest there is a better way:). In this episode, we address a few individual listener questions and explore how we can, by focusing first on connection and meeting their attention needs, create a secure setting or them to explore their own world of independent play. We also discuss how we can successfully let go of that parent guilt so you can actually enjoy that time you get to yourself while your kids are developing their imagination on their own. Books we mention: Magda Gerber // Your Self-Confident Baby // Janet Lansbury // Elevating Child Care: A Guide to Respectful Parenting // Our Website: Find us on instagram: Felica: Taralyn:
September 30, 2019
Finding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every Day
Have you ever been in the rut of the everyday? It can feel like a slog at times moving from one mundane task to the next. This shows up magnified in parenting when we are stuck on the treadmill of cleaning up spills, changing diapers, driving carpool, planning meals only to fall asleep exhausted and enter the next day that way! We easily catch ourselves living for our next date night, weekend away or perhaps even that day when “life will be easier, our kids will be older, we will have more money” etc. This episode we want to challenge that status quo. We want to share a concept with you that can awaken you to each of these moments and help you find the acceptance, joy and perhaps even enthusiasm in all of the parts of this life, small and big. We also chat about this weeks high fives including Taralyn being on Instagram! here- and Felica confirming one of our truths, letting kids discover their passions and removing your ego from your kids education and extracurricular drive!  BOOKS WE TALK ABOUT IN THIS EPISODE The concept of these three modalities is from Eckhart Tolle’s book A New Earth. - Oprah’s feature on Elkhart- Find Felica on Instagram here-
September 23, 2019
Essentialism / Permission to do less but better
We are so excited to review Essentialism by Greg Mckeown on this episode! We thought this book and giving our take on how to live true to your essentials would be a perfect follow up to the digital detox / finding solitude episode as creating that white space is really the first step in having mental clarity and presence with what you truly want for your life! Essentialism is the art of designing your life to include what is truly important to you. It is the discipline of separating the vital few from the trivial many. In this episode we chat about how we find mental clarity to do just that and what tools you can use to create space for your essentials.  THINGS / BOOKS WE MENTION Essentialism, The Disciplined Pursuit of Less by Greg McKeown Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport Present Over Perfect by Shauna Niequist OUR WEBSITE  FIND US ON INSTAGRAM - @felicaallen and @taralyngriffin
September 16, 2019
Finding Solitude Through Digital Minimalism
Sweet sweet SWEET solitude. Sometimes I classify solitude as going to the bathroom alone or hiding in my closet for a couple extra minutes! As people of this social connected, news blasted time in history we rarely find quiet moments of PEACE to ourselves and our minds are craving them. On the flip side we also struggle to make deep meaningful connections with those around us resulting in anxiety and depression. How can we counterbalance this teeter totter? SOLITUDE. Time for our minds to rest, relax and reboot. In this episode we are discussing our experiment with a digital detox inspired by the book Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport. Did we find more solitude and rest by simplifying how we use screens and technology? CAN YOU?   THINGS / BOOKS WE MENTION Digital Minimalism by Cal Newport Note to Self Podcast  Collin Kartchner on Instagram  OUR WEBSITE  FIND US ON INSTAGRAM - @felicaallen and @taralyngriffin Taralyn’s High Five: her fave yoga studio, Root to Rise
September 9, 2019
Parenting when Exhausted, TODDLERS & Fostering Imaginary Play
Today we answer questions from our awesome listeners! We address how to stay present and wholehearted while in the midst of parental sleep deprived exhaustion, how to survive with toddlers at the park while trying to feed a newborn, and how to help cultivate imaginary play in children who have become accustomed to screen time. Links to books we mentioned: Your Self Confident Baby // Magda Gerber Elevating Childcare // Janet Lansbury Simplicity Parenting // Kim John Payne Here are the podcast episodes we referred to: The Pause (this is our best advice on sleep:) Tantrums, screen time, and breaking out of a funk Curbing Our Own Screen Attachment
September 4, 2019
Putting Connection With Our Spouse First
We can get lost in parenting. One more diaper, another meal to clean up, another practice to run to. How can we connect with our spouse while parenting? Today we talk about both emotional and physical intimacy and give a few tips on how to cultivate it. Here are the professionals we refer to (as well as a hilarious YouTube video we laugh about:): Esther Perel’s Website  and one of her books “What Turns You On” from the Goop podcast: Love Warrior // Glennon Doyle This is the hilarious parenting video about how sometimes bedtime can be a reverse hostage negotiation by Michael McIntyre.
August 26, 2019
Putting Connection First
We all know connection is important, but sometimes we have a hard time knowing what we are doing to either foster of break our connections with the ones we love most. Today we explore what connection looks like, and how our ability to nurture connection is what gives us meaning. As with most things, it starts by looking inward. In this episode, you’ll find tips on how to set limits while still maintaining your relationships and how to give from a place of wholeness instead of resentment. The books that inspired this episode: Peaceful Parenting, Happy Kids // Dr. Laura Markham Soul of Discipline // Kim John Payne
August 19, 2019
Our Favorite Parenting Wisdom
Today we are posting at the beach at the Oregon Coast! We have two special guests, and we talk about the best parenting advice we have ever received. Enjoy!
August 13, 2019
HOW TO Eat with Intuition
Eating is part of everyone’s life, and yet so many people struggle with having a healthy relationship with food. Before we can hope of helping our children grow into adults who are at peace with food, it is so important to model it ourselves. In this episode, we discuss our own personal relationship with food, which centers on mindfulness.  We share insights from authors who have plenty of research to back up this mindful method. The goal with this approach is a life that is at peace with food and a body that is healthy and balanced. We hope you find it helpful!  Books we refer to:  Intuitive Eating: A Revolutionary Program That Works // Evelyn Tribole and Elyse Resch Love Warrior: A Memoir // Glennon Doyle Also, here is the wireless ear bud that both Taralyn and Felica are obsessed with and that Taralyn was so sad to lose:) It is a GAME CHANGER! It’s really the key to how we listen to so many books. 
August 5, 2019
French Kids Eat Everything (and so can YOURS!)
Do your kids have trouble sitting for meals? Trying new foods? Are they constantly snacking and refusing to eat at meal times and do you find yourself cooking extra meals just for them? Sometimes food power struggles run our home and created unwanted anxiety and tension in our relationship with our kids. This episode we are breaking down one of our favorite parenting books "French Kids Eat Everything". It is on our list of recommendations to every new parent or caregiver. We are reviewing the French Food Rules that are applicable from the early days of infant eating all the way through childhood. And if you already have habits in your home that you are hoping to break this episode is for you as well! We have practical mutually respectful tips to create peaceful mealtimes in your home!  Books we refer to: French Kids Eat Everything: How Our Family Moved to France, Cured Picky Eating, Banned Snacking, and Discovered 10 Simple Rules for Raising Happy, Healthy Eaters // Karen Le Billon Happiness Project: Or, Why I spent a Year Trying to Sing in the Morning, Clean My Closets, Fight Right, Read Aristotle, and Generally Have Mor Fun // Gretchin Rubin We also mentioned Kodiak Cakes as one of Taralyn’s family’s favorite breakfasts. Her favorite flavor is the buttermilk and chia superfood packed one:).
August 5, 2019
Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the MOST Effective Parenting Style
Do ever just wish for a simple breakdown of how to be the most effective parent? Parenting is so tricky and unique to each family situation but there are some tried and true rules that can help guide you. This episode we are breaking down the four basic parenting categories that most of us fall into. We loved seeing each laid out in this way to really simplify how we can approach parenting. Each style hinges on DEMAND and RESPONSE and the level at which we show both to our children. We know you will find some useful insight into how you are currently parenting and how you may be able to sweet your expectation (that tricky word!) and warm responsiveness to create an environment of growth and respect in your home! Books we mention in this episode are-  How To Raise an Adult - 
July 21, 2019
Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us
In this episode, we talk about how to approach our life from a place of abundance instead of scarcity by tapping into the emotions we all have access to.  What is it that we feel like we truly want? A certain amount of money? A better marriage? And organized house? Kids who don’t sass?;) This episode is about tapping into the reserve of what we already have inside of us. By asking yourself some important questions about why you want any particular thing, you discover your true WHY. This discovery is a game changer because then, you can tap into that why at any time!  It is LIBERATING to realize that you have the capacity to feel anything you want. It’s like you are stoking up a fire—it is awesome! Then, you come at your goal without the desperation and scarcity that you might have had before. You come at it from a place of confidence. We share details of how to use this technique, and share examples of how we have used it in our own lives. Thanks for listening! We mention the book Thrive by Arianna Huffington.
July 15, 2019
Finding Peaceful Simplicity in Your Summer
Summer is here! This beautiful season can be exhausting. In today’s episode we are talking about simplifying in this season as well as some tips to find peace in less that ideal circumstances.
July 8, 2019
Raising Adults Pt.2 / Healthy Praise
Is praise a springboard or a trap? Everybody loves praise, right? But not all praise is created equally. Some praise encourages our children to develop grit, confidence, and resilience, while other kinds of praise can hinder our children and discourage their ability to keep trying when things get hard. In this episode, we share some fascinating research about both kinds of praise and discuss the best forms of praise for the overall wholeness for our kids.  We also discuss the benefits of chores and give some tips about how to successfully cultivate hard work and responsibility in your kidlets.  You can find the book that inspired us here:  How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success Praise advice from the American Psycological Association: An awesome article about how doing chores makes kids more successful:
July 1, 2019
Raising Adults Pt.1 / How to Avoid Overparenting
Do you ever feel like you are caught in the trap of overparenting? Today we talk about fostering independence in our kids using inspiration from the book How to Raise and Adult by Julie Lythcott-Hainsworth. As the Dean of Freshman at Stanford University, she spent a lot of time interacting with young adults. She found that despite the best of intentions, many parents are robbing their children of the chance to be their own independent person, and that this epidemic of child-like adults has been on the rise in recent years.  In this episode, we discuss possible antidotes to this issue as our children grow. We focus on independence, wholeness, and emotional resilience.  For a list of age appropriate tasks most kids can complete independently, check out: You can find the book that inspired us here:  How to Raise an Adult: Break Free of the Overparenting Trap and Prepare Your Kid for Success
June 24, 2019
Sharing, Bedtime Boundaries & Extra Needy Babies
On this episode, Felica offers advice on a few of our common listener questions. She addresses sharing (do we have the teach our kids to ALWAYS share? We don’t as adults...), the lovely bedtime boundaries that we all navigate, and what to do when you have a baby who seems extra “needy”.  Find Felica here -
June 17, 2019
When Other People Disagree with Your Parenting
We are all trying to do our best as parents, but as we adopt the wholehearted parenting philosophy, we might encounter resistance from people around us. Many of those people are well meaning, and some are not. It can be difficult because parenting is, well, a sensitive subject! And what about those people in our life who spend a lot of time with our kids and use differing parenting styles on them? Today we are going to give some tips to help you through those situations. (Hint: It has less to do other people than you think:). Books we refer to: I Can’t Wait to Go to the Dentist! By Jeanie U. Allen: I Can't Wait to Go to the Dentist! (9781098890858): Jeanie U. Allen: Books
June 11, 2019
Curbing Your Screen Attachment
We all know that kids need healthy boundaries around screen time, but what about us adults? There are fewer statistics on what it does to our health and brains, but wow—the research that has been done is...alarming. Technology is AWESOME, but it turns out that we adults also need time for intentional connection away from our devices. And whatever boundaries we set for ourselves impacts our own physical and mental health, and our relationships with the people we care about the most. We have an amazing chance to model what living a balanced, wholehearted life can look like with the convenience of smart technology in it while not letting it supersede the more important parts of our life.  In today’s episode, we walk you through the stats to help give you some motivation to find screen time balance for yourself, and then give you some super helpful tips on how to do it. Books and articles we refer to: The Big Disconnect: Protecting Childhood and Family Relationships in the Digital Age The Shallows: What the Internet Is Doing to Our Brains
June 3, 2019
Make Your Morning Routine Happen!
 We all know morning routines are important. This time of self care and energy management has the capacity to improve how we feel about our lives and how we show up for the people we love every day. Then why is it so hard sometimes to actually do? Today we are going to give you wake up strategies that you can do within the first 5 minutes of waking that will help you set the habit. We will also tell you is working for us right now in our morning routines that we are loving. We also answer a listener question about a toddler who won’t take no for answer, screaming, crying and hitting to get his way.  Trust us...this is a game changer. Hal Elrod’s bedtime affirmations you can say to yourself before bed: Books and other items we mention in this episode: The Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod: Blue light blocking glasses for evening TV watching: One of Taralyn’s current fave morning herbal tea: Organic Mint tea: With Bulletproof Brain Octane oil mixed in: You’ve Got Dragons by Kathryn Cave and Nick Maland (not on Amazon) For more parenting and life tips, tricks & inspiration find us on Instagram -
May 27, 2019
Creating Healthy Family Attachments
Nobody likes it when their toddlers misbehave. But what about older children, tweens and teens? Acting out happens at every age. Misbehavior is often a way kids “ping” to figure out where they stand with you. Most kids are simply disoriented. This reframing of their behavior is liberating for parents! In this episode, we give you examples of how to use connection and rhythms as the antidote to the disorientation that creates misbehaviors at any age and erodes your relationship with your kids. These tips apply to all parenting, but there are a few special tips that will help you as your kids are in the tween and teenager stages. Books we mention: The Soul of Discipline by Kim John Payne The Entitlement Trap by Linda and Richard Eyre
May 20, 2019
HOW TO Give Directions Kids Follow
Do you find yourself repeating everything a million times or getting into endless arguments with your kids before they will (or won’t) do what you say?! We hope this episode helps! We are going to break down why most kids aren’t responding to their parents requests (key word!) and give you actionable tips to apply when you are giving firm direction. Books we talk about - The Soul of Discipline by Kim John Payne
May 12, 2019
Staying Open to The Present
We cling to good experiences in our lives, and we attempt to close ourselves to bad ones. What’s wrong with that? This doesn’t allow either one to flow through us, and we often times end up losing the gift of the present moment when we do that. Have you ever been having a beautiful moment watching someone you love, when along comes a fearful thought about the future of that person to squash that joy? We will explore in this episode how you can stay open to the present moment, and lean into whatever feeling arises, positive or negative. This leads to so much present moment freedom. Books we mentioned: The Untethered Soul: The Journey Beyond Yourself by Michael A. Singer, and Radical Acceptance by Tara Branch
May 6, 2019
Diffusing Sibling Rivalry
We get more questions about sibling conflict than any other topic! We know that how our kids get along can make or break our days. As parents we are the source of all our kids need, it is natural for them to feel resentment towards their siblings. In this episode we break down our favorite tips for guiding sibling conflict without interfering with their process.  Here are the links of books related to this topic:  Siblings without rivalry  Janet Lansbury Unruffled Podcast
April 29, 2019
HOW TO Turn Control into Intention
In this episode, we delve deeper into how disciplining from a place of true acceptance is far more powerful than from a place based on expectation and control. Acceptance does not mean parenting from a passive stat of allowance of indulgence. In fact, it is quite the opposite. We can still hold our boundaries with strength, but our children will feel at their core that our love for them is not on the line. Today we zoom in on specific, concrete examples to help us as parents be able to release control and really connect with our kids in the present moment. This is where the magic happens. Here are the links of books related to this topic: The Awakened Family: How to Raise Empowered, Resilient, and Conscious Children
April 22, 2019
Letting Go of Expectation / Discipline Pt. 3
Children are wonderful teachers. We learn so much about ourselves during the journey of parenting. When our kids do something that drives us crazy, it is an opportunity for us to look inside of us. Kids don’t trigger us, we trigger ourselves. This concept is mind blowing once you unlock the theory. Today we explore the concept of how this process of self discovery can free us from expectations. The word expectation often has a positive connotation, but today we will explore how some expectations might be more damaging than we think. As parents, most of us want our kids to be independent thinkers and strong, confident trailblazers. But at the same time, we don’t want them to develop those traits while in our own home, because that might conflict with our own agenda. This mindset creates trouble because we can’t expect our children to become independent the instant they leave the house at 18 years old. Many children get the unintentional message as children: be yourself, as long as that self is the one that we have chosen for you as parents. Our expectations for you are the only ones you are safe to meet. Today we explore the paradox that as we release our children from our rigid expectations (while still setting healthy boundaries and limits of course), we can truly engage with them in the present moment by using powerful intention.These two words, intention and engagement are the antidote for relationship damaging expectation. The books/authors we mention in this episode are: The Awakened Family by Dr. Shefali Tsabary Elevating Childcare by Janet Lansbury
April 15, 2019
The Pause / Discipline pt. 2
Today we introduce the concept of The Pause. It is the idea that really first turned Felica on to the concept of wholehearted parenting. It is a quite magical technique that helps make so many parenting situations not only easier but more filled with peace and respect. We cover how it applies to babies, toddlers, and older kids in common parenting pain areas such as fussy babies, toy squabbles, hitting, and tattling. We hope it helps you:). INSTAGRAM
April 9, 2019
Holding Boundaries / Discipline Pt.1
This is the first episode in our series on discipline! We are so excited to guide you through this respectful parenting journey. Even in the moments that seem so simple you can parent with love and respect without compromising your connection to your children. Today we are talking about how to set & hold limits, lovingly! Boundaries are so important as our relationships with our children progress and we will talk about a few ways to set them with babies, toddlers and into childhood. This is a core discipline principle, we can’t wait for you to try it! No Bad Kids: Toddler Discipline Without Shame – Simplicity Parenting –
April 1, 2019
HOW TO Embrace Childhood
As parents, days sometimes feel like they will never end, and yet as we look back at our child’s life, it seems to have flown by. Within 5 minutes, we can go from feeling like we are going to pull our hair out, to feeling like our hearts are going to burst with joy and love for our kids. How can we balance the ideas of living in the present moment and cherishing our children with just surviving the difficult, patience testing storms? A lot of well meaning people give parents of young kids the advice to just “enjoy every second of parenting”, which often makes us feel guilty that we didn’t enjoy the morning full of screaming and soggy cereal on the floor. Enjoying EVERY second seems like a tall order. Today we will give you concrete tips on how to both reframe your perspective and also increase your parenting tools which will make finding moments to enjoy a bit easier. There is a way to maintain balance and contentment while experiencing the entire messy spectrum that is parenting, and we hope to help you discover it. Affiliate Links - High Performance Habits by Brendan Buchard - Elevating Childcare by Janet Lansbury -
March 25, 2019
Finding Light Through Hard Times
In our reviews we’ve had many questions from listeners struggling to break out of a rut! Whether you’ve had a loss, are in the grind of parenting little children everyday or have simply plateaued this episode is for you!  If we can find peace within our own hearts we will be able to make it through hard things and come out better for them. Getting to a place where you can TRULY accept the worst outcome  is true inner peace. If we can teach this to our kids imagine the endless life they will have! Eckhart Tolle // The Power of Now Brendan Buchard // High Performance Habits Listen in iTunes here, or for androids, listen here.
March 18, 2019
Wholehearted Loss & Grief
None of us get through this life without dealing with loss of some kind or another. We lose loved ones, experience the grief associated with loss of expectations, and many experience betrayal and our own regret. In a family, we not only have our own grief to process, but we also watch our partners and children grieve. Today we are going to delve into our own personal experiences with grief and some things we have found helpful while processing our own as well as guiding our families through the waters of loss.  Here are the books we mention: When Children Grieve by John W. James A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle Listen here on iTunes: For androids, listen here:
March 11, 2019
Tantrums, Screen Time & Breaking out of a Funk
It’s our 10th episode! We have had so much amazing feedback so we decided to answer a few of our most asked questions on limiting screen time, dealing with BIG emotions and toddler tantrums and how to break out of a funk when you’re stuck! Books we mention: Simplicity Parenting by Kim John Payne The Gifts of Imperfect Parenting by Brene Brown
March 4, 2019
Comparison vs. Contentment
Let’s face it, we are living in a world of comparison. We see all the achievement of others and none of the downfall. We are over exerting ourselves while simultaneously feeling like we aren’t doing enough. When in reality we only have this exact moment we are in, so how can we remember that? By interviewing many people on this concept, we have found some great tips that will hopefully help you with that. In this episode, we cover what it means to be content with your current stage (and not torture yourself with all the other infinite options available to you), while still making sure you are fulfilled on the inside by still growing on the inside and connecting with yourself and your purpose.  Here are the books we mention in this episode:  A New Earth by Eckhart Tolle -  The Happiness Project by Gretchen Rubin -
February 25, 2019
Parenting with Unconditional Love
This episode is close to our hearts. It’s the core of our personal purpose for this podcast. We want everyone to feel safe being themselves, because in the end, that’s all we really can be—just the best, most authentic version of ourselves. When we react to our children with anger, it makes them focus their attention on OUR reaction, not their own action. Of course we love our children unconditionally, and expressing anything other than that is inauthentic. Are our actions showing that? Are we accepting all their big, scary or sad emotions as well as their big positive emotions? On this episode we will walk you through specific examples of different common parenting scenarios and ways to reframe them without anger, threats, or bribes. You’ve got this! Here are the books we refer to: Unconditional Parenting  And Always, Elevating Childcare
February 18, 2019
What is Love? Cultivating Unconditional Love
Do you feel like your love for yourself or your spouse is conditional? With Valentine’s day around the corner it feels like a good time to talk about love. There are so many misconceptions about connection and love. This episode we are sharing some of the concepts that have really shifted our whole perception of what love is. Here are the links to books we mentioned this episode! Gretchen Rubin “The Happiness Project” Eckhart Tolle “The Awakened Earth” And our favorite Bluetooth earbud -
February 11, 2019
How To: Create Pockets of Peace
The daily grind of life has a tendency to make some of us feel squeezed, so today we are going to talk about preserving or creating pockets of daily decompression time. We get a lot of comments and requests from people describing how they just feel like they are reacting all day to what life brings them, and feeling like they don’t have 2 seconds to themselves, let alone enough time throughout the day to actually recharge. We hope today’s podcast will help you with that. Here is the link to the books we mentioned: Simplicity Parenting and Your Self Confident Baby Also here is the link to the wireless earbud that we are IN LOVE with:
February 4, 2019
Emotions Pt.2 OTHER People’s Emotions
Next to our processing our own emotions, we usually deal with a lot of negative emotions from others. For most people, this can create so much distress, whether it be their children or spouse’s unhappiness, the anger of their boss, etc. Today on the podcast we will be explaining how it is possible to be present with someone else’s emotions, without actually letting their negative emotions change your own. This technique is powerful because you will learn to respond to others with so much more kindness and awareness when you realize you can keep the power for your own emotions, while allowing others the space to feel and process their own negative feelings. We have spent years learning about this concept and trying it out, and it’s been so liberating. We hope you find the freedom in it as well! In this episode, we mention one of our favorite childcare experts, Janet Lansbury. Here is a link to one of her books that we absolutely love, called Elevating Childcare. If you have small children in your life at all (your own children, grandkids, neighbor kids, any tiny humans really), this is a game changer:
January 28, 2019
Emotions Pt.1 YOUR Emotions
Who doesn’t want a little more magic in their life? We explore the word magic and talk about what we do to bring more of it in our life. The key is being in the present moment, but how do we actually do that? It’s all about how we handle our emotions, even the unpleasant ones. Crankiness? We talk about that. Underwhelm? Overwhelm? We have you covered.
January 21, 2019
Discovering YOUR Life Essentials
At the end of most days, do you feel like you are failing or succeeding? We will help you discover for yourself what is essential for YOU to become your best self and to feel like you are succeeding. Most of us spend most of our day doing important things, but miss doing the essential things that are truly aligned with our core values, and over time, will help us create our best life. Here are the steps to discover and implement YOUR essentials: 1. Make 3 lists of the important things you do or would like to do in your day, separating them into 3 lists: Essentials, Super Important, and Good to Do. Then look at your lists again and move things around until the items left in your essentials are truly a SHORT list of things that help you become who you want to become. These aren’t classic to do lists; they are more like to BECOME lists. Our lists are below as examples of possibilities. Both of us have our Miracle Morning Routine on it, which centers on us taking time to connect with ourselves, with our goals, and with God. Our miracle morning routines includes Meditation (Silence), affirmations, visualization, exercise, reading, writing (scribing.) It’s a good idea to write 2 essentials lists: one for yourself, and one for your stewardship/career. (We have one for us and for our kids.)** 2. Make it non-negotiable. Think of something already non-negotiable in your life, and figuratively put into that same space. Eliminate decision making fatigue. 3. Make a quick list of how doing these essentials over your time in your life will make you feel. Keep asking the question until you get to a feeling: happy? Peaceful? Content? Worthwhile? Take a minute to tap into that feeling NOW so you can come from a place of abundance. 4. Print of a year at a year at a glance calendar - and put it somewhere you will see it often. Taralyn’s is on her bathroom mirror. Mark off each day you do your essentials list. (We do one slash of an X for personal, and one for kids or career). The idea is to fill up as much of the year as possible, and not to worry when you miss a day. Over a year, a decade, or a life, all the days add up, and there is no such thing as all or nothing with this. any year at a glance calendar will do:)
January 14, 2019
Morning Routines for a 30 day transformation
Taralyn’s morning routines. Meet Taralyn! My cohost for Find the Magic! She is sharing her morning routines in this insightful episode. Hone your perfect morning routine! We are breaking down our morning routines and tools to make them happen.  Book :  1. My meditation I invite you to try for 30 days: 1. Gratitude Breaths: 3 super deep breaths, thinking of one thing you are grateful for per breath, 2. Loving kindness meditation: Picture someone you love in front of you, and take a deep breath, and imagine all of the cells in your body lighting up with love and awesome energy. Then, take a super deep breath in and exhale that love out to your whole home or building. Do that same thing with your city, state, country, earth, and universe (imagining the love coming back to you on each inhale and sending it out on the exhale). After you’ve done at least one breath for each of those places, just end with that love coming back to you and energizing you. 3. Mantra Meditation: take 5-10 deep breaths, repeating the word ONE in your mind. When your mind wanders, that’s great! Just come back to the word ONE and take a few more breaths. 2. Exercise Tip: 7 Minute Workout App: it’s free and awesome if you want a quick workout:) 3. 6 minute miracle morning, which anyone can do and it will transform your life even if you don’t want to spend more time! 1. Sit down with a journal, book, and timer. Spend one minute on each of the following six SAVERS: Silence, Affirmations, Visualization, Exercise, and Scribing. 4. Document your state! Write down your current ratings on a scale of 1-10 of Balance (1 being totally unbalanced and 10 being perfectly balanced) and Contentment: (1 being not content with yourself or any aspect of life and 10 being perfectly content with yourself and your life). Do this now, and again at the end of 30 days of implementing a morning habit. See if there is a difference:)! Resources: Article on Meditation: Link to Miracle Morning by Hal Elrod:
January 11, 2019
Hone Your Morning Routine
Hone your perfect morning routine! We are breaking down our morning routines and tools to make them happen.  Book :  Meditations: Kelly Howell, Tara Brach, Headspace, Loving Kindness
January 3, 2019
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