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We read all the personal development and parenting books and distill them down to weekly episodes. We synthesize the information to provide you with tips and strategies to create authenticity, peace and love in your life.
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Find The Magic Feb 15, 2021

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279 // Are You Choosing Attachment Over Authenticity?
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278 // NO: a toddlers newly learned word
Mar 12, 202439:32
Magic Moment // Trap of the "Too Good" Mother

Magic Moment // Trap of the "Too Good" Mother

This episode Felica unpacks the tale of the too sweet mother and how we can learn to avoid extremes in our parenting from apathy to over parenting.


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Mar 05, 202407:50
276 // Self-Care: How To Do It Right

276 // Self-Care: How To Do It Right

Self-care seems to be a buzzword that gets swept up in consumerism and consequently the real meaning and purpose of self-care gets blurry. In today’s episode, we talk about what self-care really is and how intentionality, mindfulness, and boundaries can help us connect better to ourselves and others.


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257 // How to Handle Parent Guilt, Reinventing Ourselves, and Bossy Kids

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⁠⁠Running a Household Without Resentment⁠⁠


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Feb 27, 202439:21
275 // Come What May–Be Present
Feb 20, 202414:49
274 // Respect; it's mutual with Joe Newman Author of Raising Lions
Feb 13, 202456:55
273 // When Life Throws Us a Curveball with Brene Brown’s Atlas of the Heart
Feb 06, 202450:45
272 // Facing the Waves of Life with Taralyn
Jan 30, 202428:23
271 // 5 Tips for Implementing a Successful Quiet Time

271 // 5 Tips for Implementing a Successful Quiet Time

One of our most frequently asked questions we receive from listeners is "How can I implement quiet time with my kid?" Transitioning from nap time to quiet time can seem like a daunting change in your daily rhythm as a caregiver. We all need a little recharging time to refill our own cup and that can be difficult without any breaks. In this episode, Katelin shares tips for how you can implement quiet time successfully and how you and your kid(s) can make the most out of it.
Jan 23, 202417:20
270 // Protecting Your Children Against Sexual Abuse with Feather Berkower

270 // Protecting Your Children Against Sexual Abuse with Feather Berkower

We all agree that we want to keep our kids safe from sexual abuse but we oftentimes don’t know where to start and how to go about doing this. In this episode Katelin interviews Feather Berkower, Child Sexual Abuse Prevention Educator & Author, to understand what we can do to protect our kids and therefore create safer communities for all children. You can learn more from Feather Berkower below: www.ParentingSafeChildren.com Off Limits: A Parent's Guide to Keeping Kids Safe from Sexual Abuse (Must-Read Parenting Book!) feather@parentingsafechildren.com www.Facebook.com/ParentingSafeChildren www.instagram.com/parentingsafechildren/ https://www.linkedin.com/in/feather-berkower-8985a319/ http://blog.parentingsafechildren.com
Jan 16, 202449:44
269 // Weathering Winter
Jan 09, 202425:05
268 // HOW TO Renew & Recommit to Your Healthy Habits
Jan 02, 202423:55
267// Magic Moment Clear Unwanted Patterns & Make Room For 2024

267// Magic Moment Clear Unwanted Patterns & Make Room For 2024

Before we can add in NEW yummy desires and goals for 2024 we have to clear out the old. Our psyche can be full of unwanted triggers and patterns and this can be the very thing blocking us from becoming who we would like to be. Feel bogged down? Tune in for a quick retune before you embark on your 2024 goal setting.

Dec 26, 202307:24
The Greatest Gift We Can Give, Connection & How To Maintain it with Our Kids

The Greatest Gift We Can Give, Connection & How To Maintain it with Our Kids

Connection may just be the cure all to childhood misbehavior and troubles but it is harder to foster than any of us would want! In this episode we dive into one of our favorite books "Hold Onto Your Kids" by ⁠Gordon Neufeld⁠ and ⁠Gabor Maté MD⁠ and pull our favorite tips for maintaining a strong relationship with our children as well as signs and symptoms that may point to a connection issue! We also discuss how and why kids become "peer oriented" and why it is happening more and more.

We hope this episode leaves you empowered to create strong family bonds and connections that will heal past hurts and forge new relationship paths for future success! 

Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the MOST Effective Parenting Style

230 // Pt. 1 What Ancient Cultures Can Teach us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff

Discovering YOUR Life Essentials

Solitude Through Digital Minimalism

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Dec 19, 202353:12
265 // Moving Our Stuck Energy & Discovering What We Already Know with Kristen of MotherTree Reiki
Dec 12, 202335:51
264 // Navigating Difficult Parenting Differences by Modeling Gratitude
Dec 05, 202330:46
263 // HOW TO Move Through the Stress Cycle and Stay Out of Overwhelm

263 // HOW TO Move Through the Stress Cycle and Stay Out of Overwhelm

Stress is a fact of life, getting stuck in it isn't! When we are stuck in chronic stress or our stressors push us past our ability to cope we find ourselves in overwhelm. This episode we unpack Atlas of The Heart, the work of Brene Brown, as a guide to moving through stress and out of overwhelm. We touch on ways that we can identify the feeling in our body before it becomes overwhelmed and our favorite tips and tools for increasing our ability to cope with these often uncomfortable feelings.


9:00- Definition of Stress vs. Overwhelm

15:26 - Where do we feel stress/overwhelm in our bodies?

18:30 - Your body keeps the score

22:52 - Move through the tunnel

23:50 - Completion of the stress cycle

25:50 - Fight, flight, or freeze

28:30 - Using RAIN from Tara Brach as a tool

31:45 - Grounding

36:11 - Having a positive social interaction

40:06 - Creative expression

Nov 28, 202345:25
262 // Taralyn’s Alignment Search

262 // Taralyn’s Alignment Search

It sometimes feels like we are being pulled in many directions, and it is hard to feel settled and aligned when that is happening. In this episode, Taralyn describes a few things she has learned lately in her wrestle for alignment. 

The steps she has used to help her are:

1-Identify what parts of you are misaligned and intentionally give them all a seat in your council.

2-Set aside time daily to imagine what it would feel like to have that settled feeling of being aligned in your heart, mind, body, and spirit. Use that powerful brain of yours to try on the feeling of having all of the parts be in harmony. Tapping into this vibration helps you pull it towards you. Grounding is also a really helpful tool during this step. The shower is a great place to try this habit because its daily and the water is so conductive.

4-Think bigger. Zoom out your perspective and observe that YOU are not your body, your emotions, or your mind. Once you FEEL that, aligning all of them becomes easier--like a magnet rearranging metal shavings.

If you try this, Taralyn would LOVE to know how it goes for you. Just DM her on instagram @taralyngriffin

Our Daily Meditation: this is the meditation that Taralyn does every morning. You simply push play and she walks you through it. It’s an easy way to get yourself into the habit.

Breathwork Exercises for Daily Habit Building with Taralyn 

203 // Meditation: Letting Fear Go

Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour

Make Your Morning Routine Happen!

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Nov 21, 202324:44
261// How 'Respectful Parenting' Fails & Remedies with Joe Newman
Nov 15, 202352:21
260 // How to Handle Parent Guilt, Reinventing Ourselves, and Bossy Kids {Best of}
Nov 13, 202347:09
259// Magic Moment Get Out of The Trap of Overwhelm!
Nov 02, 202310:60
258// Can Eroticism and Safety Co- Exist? With Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

258// Can Eroticism and Safety Co- Exist? With Jennifer Finlayson-Fife

Our favorite sex therapist is back and this time we are challenging the assumption that sexual desire dies with long term relationships. Felica interviews Dr. Finlayson-Fife and they dive into the challenges we face to "keep the fire alive".Esther Perel said " Eroticism is the antithesis to everything a healthy family life needs, ritual, routine and knowing. Safety and security. Eroticism is adventure" , in this episode we tease out the nuance in this and discover what eroticism TRULY means. Hint ** it isn't all about sex/ desire.We also touch on the fact that families are more child centered than ever with higher expectations for couples. All responsibility often falls on parents, not community, institutions or society. We set up play dates and take pictures of and talk about and invest in our kids yet our personal and couple relationships are left to shrivel up. How can we do better?We tackle all this and more! Don't miss this chance to bring more erotic energy into your life. 

Links We Mentioned 

https://www.goodinside.com/podcast/4759/sex-after-kids-tell-me-more-esther-perel/

Related Episodes

How to Own Your Own Desires with Dr.Finlayson Fife 

Discovering Self within Our Sexuality & Overcoming Betrayal 

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Oct 31, 202346:15
257//Magic Moment Are You Over Identifying With Your Role As Mother?

257//Magic Moment Are You Over Identifying With Your Role As Mother?

In this mini episode Felica helps us think about how we take on our role as mother. It is a blessing for all the women we have been and a challenge to shed our over identification with our labels. ENJOY!
Oct 26, 202307:36
256 // Our Favorite Value Aligning Techniques for Intentional Parenting {Best of}

256 // Our Favorite Value Aligning Techniques for Intentional Parenting {Best of}

So often in parenting, we find ourselves...losing our cool, to put it nicely. We respond with anger; we use bribing or coercion to make our kids behave, and we hurt our relationship with our kids and ourselves in the process. In this episode, we take a deep dive into individual steps we can take anytime we find ourselves triggered by our kids’ behavior. We start with ourselves, pause, attune to our child, and then respond, not react, by setting limits and allowing logical consequences by looking at the need being expressed by our child’s behavior. This conversation will help you reframe difficult parenting situations and allow you to focus on the priority of your relationship.

  • Take a pause to connect to your intuition when making decisions.

  • Pay attention to what you fear and ask yourself why? Parenting helps us see ourselves more clearly. Don’t parent from a place of lack.

  • The Pause - Give your self time and space with your children

  • Use breath to bring yourself into the present moment and pause

  • Sometimes bad behavior is a cry for connection.

Time Stamps

Related Episodes

Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the most EFFECTIVE Parenting Style 

Holding Boundaries / Discipline Pt. 1

Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections

Parenting with Unconditional Love 

How to Embrace Childhood 

Books and links we mentioned;

The Awakened Family // Shefali Tsabary

The Conscious Parent // Shefali Tsabary


Oct 24, 202301:01:56
255// Facing Our Fear {Best of}
Oct 17, 202333:03
254// Creating Roots Through Family Traditions {Best Of}
Oct 10, 202346:16
253// Susan Stiffelman On Remaining Present in Parenting (BEST OF)

253// Susan Stiffelman On Remaining Present in Parenting (BEST OF)

There is nothing quite like parenting--it’s something we want to desperately do well at, and it is simultaneously one of the most difficult things that many of us will ever do. We face fears, failure, triggers of our own emotions, often while experiencing physical and emotional fatigue. However, because of this, children have the capacity to be our greatest teachers. They allow us the opportunity to truly look inside of ourselves when we are triggered, and wake up to our own nature. 

In this episode, Felica had the incredible opportunity of discussing this topic with parenting expert and author, Susan Stiffelman, MFT. She explains how we can use the practice of being present to truly use this journey we have as parents to truly evolve ourselves as we face the daunting task of raising humans to do the same. Her books and her words are unbelievably inspiring and will help you as you navigate your own parenting experience. 

You can learn more about Susan Stiffelman and her work and sign up for her newsletter on her website:  https://susanstiffelman.com. She is offering a webinar you can join her in about coparenting with a narcissist here.

You can listen to this episode on iTunes here or on many other platforms here.

Books we mentioned:

Parenting with Presence // Susan Stiffelman  

Parenting without Power Struggles // Susan Stiffelman 

Loving What Is // Byron Katie 

Playful Parenting // Lawrence Cohen 


Related Episodes:

Finding Joy and Enthusiasm in Every Day

The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting

Staying Open to the Present 

Tapping Into the Abundance Inside Us


Janet Lansbury’s episode: The Best Way to Deal With Intense Tantrums 

Oct 03, 202341:21
252 // Habits Deep Dive / Why Simple Changes Compound into Big Results (Atomic Habits by James Clear) {Best Of}

252 // Habits Deep Dive / Why Simple Changes Compound into Big Results (Atomic Habits by James Clear) {Best Of}

It can appear like people who are successful at achieving their goals simply possess an incredible amount of self control. That kind of belief lets us off the hook from creating the life we really want--we simply lack the self discipline, right? Well, it turns out that as we create habits that add value to our lives, we actually require LESS self control, not more. As we change our environment and our cues and rewards, we have the power to eliminate negative habits and build positive ones that can transform our life. Habits are the key to making our goals a reality. We discuss the science behind habits and explore the work of experts on the subject. We break down the steps for creating a good habit (or ridding yourself of a bad one), and give you applicable tips that you can use right away in your life. We share what has really worked in our own lives as we have experimented with habits and unlocked the magic of things like habit stacking.

Books that inspired us:

Atomic Habits // James Clear

Deep Work // Cal Newport

Essentialism // Greg McKeown

Getting Things Done // David Allen

The Power of Habit // Charles Duhigg

Our Related Episodes:

Habits for High Performance

Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connection

Make Your Morning Routine Happen!

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Sep 26, 202301:05:21
251 // Making It Easy to Do What Matters Most With Greg McKeown {Best of}
Sep 19, 202301:04:45
250// HOW TO Respond to Never Ending Demands & Requests Wholeheartedly

250// HOW TO Respond to Never Ending Demands & Requests Wholeheartedly

Research indicates that preschoolers, on average, make three demands/requests per minute! Wow. It’s no wonder we feel overwhelmed. “Watch me!” “Get that!” “Where’s my dinosaur?!” 

In this episode we talk about practical ideas and tools that have helped us navigate the barrage of daily requests, questions, and demands in a way that allows you to maintain calm and respect for your kids and yourself. 

Books & Links we mention

Raising an Emotionally Intelligent Child: The Heart of Parenting // John Gottman with Joan DeClaire

Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff 

Mom Watch Compilation by Johnson Files

Related Episodes

230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff

Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre)

How To: Create Pockets of Peace

Time Stamps

10:00 How many requests our kids make per minute

13:15 Why we future focus and how inputs from our kids overwhelm us 

14:15 Are our kids self centered?

23:18 Using body language and social cues

25:55 Mom watch this watch this!!

29:00 Do you have a hard time tuning out noise/ kids?

32:18 Good parenting does not mean responding to everything request 

40:01 Ask, is my child seeking connection?

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Sep 12, 202349:09
249 // Cultivating Secure Relationships with the work of Stan Tatkin, Relationship RX

249 // Cultivating Secure Relationships with the work of Stan Tatkin, Relationship RX

Having a secure relationship with our partner is the foundation for a long, happy life. Building on this relationship we create meaningful and lasting lives that support our psychological development as well as provide a strong foundation for our children, careers and physical health. We loved reading Relationship RX by Stan Tatkin and we had to distill this one for you! In this episode we discuss how knowing your attachment style can guide you to a self awareness that enhances your ability to connect, repair and forgive. We also share our favorite tactics from the book for putting your relationship first, healing past wounds and supporting each other in parenting.
Related Episodes
Putting Connection With Our Spouse First
How to own your desires with Jennifer Finlayson-Fife
Time Stamps
12:00 - Attachment styles
14:05 - Anchors
16:30 - Waves
20:01 - Islands
32:33 - The relationship as an entity should be the highest priority
35:35 - Conflicts within a relationship
44:30 - Am I putting my role as a parent, or my hobby over my primary attachment?
46:17 - Supporting your spouse in parenting
51:40 - Secret password for stressful parenting moments
57:50 - Bring issues up preventatively

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Sep 05, 202301:03:27
248 // Intentionally Questioning Our Parenting Choices 

248 // Intentionally Questioning Our Parenting Choices 

There are lots of decisions that we make as parents that are made out of guilt or a sense of obligation. In this episode we talk about how to navigate parenting questions from a place of wholeness in order to figure out what will be best for parent AND child. We talk about whether or not to do preschool and *spoiler alert* there is no one perfect decision. :)

Related Episodes

228 // Making Friendships, Creating Community, and How to Know When You’re Done Having Kids

Patience with Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood and Making Peace with Your Inner Landscape

Guidance for the Changing seasons of Motherhood

Time Stamps

1:44 - To preschool or not to preschool?

3:00 - Taralyn’s experience with kids going or not going to preschool

10:30 - Felica’s experience

14:15 - the questioning of our choices because it’s the worth the wrestle

16:09 - What will be the best for you and your child?

18:55 - Eliminating the guilt

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We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!

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Review of the week from mamaErinE

So much wisdom and humility

You women are amazing, thank you


Aug 29, 202324:03
247 // Revolutionizing Emotional & Physical Healing Postpartum with Arielle Martone

247 // Revolutionizing Emotional & Physical Healing Postpartum with Arielle Martone

Healing your body and spirit postpartum is a topic that is both under talked about and misunderstood. In this episode Katelin interviews Arielle Martone, doctor of physical therapy, yoga teacher and postnatal coach turned postpartum wellness coach after having 2 kids and overcoming postpartum depression and pelvic pain herself. She has 12+ years of experience and utilizes her knowledge and background to help new moms reconnect to mind/body and actually heal postpartum so they can feel strong and confident not only in their bodies but who they are becoming.

You can learn from Arielle at the following links:

www.findyourwaymama.com

www.instagram.com/ariellemartone

Free Resources

Pelvic Floor Recovery Guide   

Exhausted to Energized without Sleep Training 

Related Episodes

HOW TO Prepare Children for a New Sibling: a Conversation with Upbringing
Prepping Kids for New Babies, Earning vs. Rewarding, Quiet Time Tips, & Our Favorite Life Hacks

Time Stamps

1:42 - Intro to Arielle and the importance of postpartum care

11:40 - The signs to be aware of with Postpartum mood disorders

13:50 - Normalize seeking help vs. normalizing the struggle

16:30 - Feeling like something is “off” is a signal

20:20 - Trust yourself

26:50 - Tips to recover if you feel like you have no time

31:27 - Pay attention to when you’re saying “should”

39:50 - Prioritize your sleep and give yourself grace

41:25 - How “bounce back culture” can be a detriment to our overall health

47:09 - Don’t rush back into physical exercise

51:05 - Trust your body

57:15 - Pelvic Floor Therapy exercises

1:03:00 - Exhausted to energized

1:05:16 - How to get back to our true selves after having kids

Aug 22, 202301:12:19
246 // Tips for an Intentional Back to School Season

246 // Tips for an Intentional Back to School Season

The beginning of the school year is filled with many conflicting emotions for both our kids and us as parents. In this episode we share favorite tips, ideas and traditions that will help you start the year off right and from a place of wholeness. 

Related Episodes

207 // We Are All Good Inside: Parenting Without Using Shame and Repairing When We Do, with Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 1 

210 // Navigating Tricky Transitions With Kids Ahead of Time and What to Do When Whining Feels Unbearable: Good Inside by Dr. Becky Kennedy Part 2 

108 // Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Larence J. Cohen)

118 // Become a Child Whisperer / Parenting Your Kids True to Their Nature (based on the work of Carol Tuttle)

Links Mentioned

Weekly Clothes Organizer 

Fave Books back to school

Kissing hand by Audrey Pen

I Love You All Day Long  by Francesca Rusackas

Super Manny Stands up by Kelly DiPucchio 

Oh the Places You’ll Go by Dr. Seuss

Time Stamps

12:25 - How to navigate the logistics of going back to school with systems

15:35 - Weekly Clothes Organizer

20:17 - Special back to school dinner with notes of encouragement from family

22:21 - Helping your kids emotionally return to school by addressing your own anxieties

25:21 - Emotional vaccination with your kids

27:24 - Visualizing mediation the night before

27:55 - Review the child whisperer to help your kids deal with the upcoming

31:42 - Reading a back to school book

34:19 - Making love bracelets

35:00 - First day special events


Aug 15, 202338:50
245// Magic Moment Rituals for Emotional Wholeness

245// Magic Moment Rituals for Emotional Wholeness

Fall is the perfect time to reset our rituals, intentions and systems. In this magic moment Felica shares 2 rituals that are resetting her emotional wellness. The first centers on grieving our losses; the small day to day things we try to push past. The second is a ritual for visualizing our intentions and future goals around parenting and reframing our day to day tasks.
Aug 08, 202310:05
244 // Tips for Overcoming Distraction

244 // Tips for Overcoming Distraction

Centering our minds and finding a place of peace in our days is crucial in modern parenting. Our phones are filled with demands that pull us away from ourselves, our desires and our families. On top of that the demands of our lives from appointments to chores call us away from creating connection and relationships. 

In this episode we refresh our determination to keep saying yes to connection and no to superficial distraction. We share why and our favorite tips and tricks for cultivating a present life. 

Related Episodes

How to Enhance Your Ability to Be Present

227 // Magic Moment: Recommitting to Your Phone Detox

⁠204 // Daily Life As a Spiritual Practice⁠⁠Solitude Through Digital Minimalism


Time Stamps

11:04 - How can we curb distraction?

12:15 - Delete your apps

15:00 - Set aside time for phone time

16:30 - Turn off notifications

17:33 - A box for your phone

19:23 - A key to having self control - change your environment

22:46 - How to be present when our minds are preoccupied

24:41 - Maybe lower your standards for what needs to be done

27:20 - Magical mind will serve a magical body

29:00 - Practice being still


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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

Kimberly Br0ssi

I’ve enjoyed this podcast since 2019 and it helped me get through several hard moments. The mini magics are always awesome. All 3 hosts are so great and share how we can care of ourselves so we can better take care of others. Each are at different points in life and motherhood so there’s something for everyone. There are so many episodes that I re-listen to when I need the reminders!

Great for any woman, young or old, new mom or veteran. Thank you!
real and refreshing


Aug 01, 202331:23
243 // Magic Moment: The Power of Play

243 // Magic Moment: The Power of Play

Have you ever tried to teach your kid a value? Or help them stop taking toys? Or handle a conflict within a friendship or with a sibling? As parents we have a (sometimes) underutilized tool that can help us in these situations: play. In this episode Katelin walks through how to use role playing specifically to help work through these situations with our children of all ages. 

Related Episodes

Using Play to Diffuse Power Struggles and Connect With Your Child (based on Playful Parenting by Lawrence J. Cohen)

Books & Articles Mentioned

6 Steps To Do A Role Play

Playful Parenting // Lawrence Cohen

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This podcast is my happy place

I am SO grateful for the time and effort that goes into this podcast. Every episode is packed with gold. There is so much education and real conversations about life and motherhood. It helps to calm my soul, reassure me, motivate me and so much more. THANK YOU!

Jul 25, 202314:52
242 // A Balm for Summer Burnout

242 // A Balm for Summer Burnout

Summer is half over and with all the fun comes exhaustion and overwhelm. In this episode, we address the concept of summer burnout, which can be applied to really any season of life. This episode was inspired by a voice message we received from one of our fabulous listeners. If you’d like to send us a question in the form of a voice message, just click ⁠here⁠.Related Episodes 

Authoritative Parenting / Arguably the MOST Effective Parenting Style

230 // Pt. 1 What Ancient Cultures Can Teach us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff

Discovering YOUR Life Essentials

Solitude Through Digital Minimalism

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REVIEW OF THE WEEK:

-Mandy Schuh

I have listened to this podcast for years, it is hands down my favorite podcast! It is insightful, fun and full of great ideas. I feel like I have made a friend in Felica. I appreciate the realness from these ladies and within Find The Magic. Thank you for being a breath of fresh air!


Still My Favorite!

Jul 18, 202345:55
241 // How Delight Enhances Our Ability to Be Present
Jul 11, 202346:55
240// Parenting While Healing Trauma, Navigating Name Calling, Spitting and Punishments

240// Parenting While Healing Trauma, Navigating Name Calling, Spitting and Punishments

We all have negative experiences that impact our mental state day to day as we parent. It can be exhausting and disheartening to attempt to parent in this state of distress. Today we tackle a listener question on parenting while healing past trauma and parenting. We also hear from a listener seeking advice about her children's name calling, spitting and general boundary pushing.


Book Mentioned:

How to do the Work // Nicole LePera


Related Episodes

Hone Your Morning Routine

Morning Routines for a 30 day transformation

How To: Create Pockets of Peace


Time Stamps

14:00 - How to deal with trauma and parent

15:58 - Big T vs little t trauma

16:30 - Repressed trauma

17:40 - Adult trauma

19:07 - Therapy is a major tool

22:00 - Give yourself extra grace and self care

24:01 - Name your trauma

31:00 - 90 second rule with stress/anxiety

34:57 - How to handle kids being unkind

38:30 - This too shall pass

42:00 - Name calling is a hard no

46:40 - A family is a good testing ground for kids to figure out social interactions

49:39 - Foster positive interactions to start a positive momentum

53:35 - Honey vs. Vinegar analogy

54:52 - Give yourself self-care so you can be your best

1:01:00 - Laughter is a pressure relief valve


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Local1st 02/10/2023

Most helpful podcast

I listen to a lot of parenting podcasts, this one is my favorite! So many topics covered and ideas discussed. I always seem to get so much out of listening. Thank you!


Jul 03, 202301:04:17
239// Guiding Your Family to Homeostasis Magic Moment

239// Guiding Your Family to Homeostasis Magic Moment

Who doesn't want peace and homeostasis in the family environment? So often we can get to a place of chaos; where our homes and families feel out of sorts. In this episode Felica shares her experience of stripping away outside influence with their cross country move and how it affected her family environment. She shares tips on applying her learning to your home. She also explains how she felt the anxious buzzing energy in her home, recognized it, and found some settling. Hint hint, it always starts with us! 

Related Episodes

Patience with Aggressive Behavior, Friendships in Motherhood and Making Peace with Your Inner Landscape

Guidance for the Changing seasons of Motherhood

Time Stamps

1:52 - Recognizing something is out of whack

4:00 - Our inner landscapes reflect onto our outer landscape --Focus on yourself

6:45 - Find support from others


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MaryHag

11/08/2022

The highlight of my week🙏🏻

Updating my review since I have been listening now for a couple of years. Honestly, this podcast is a game changer and life changer for me, and truly a highlight of my week. I eagerly go onto my podcast app each week to refresh and pray for a new episode to be ready on my Tuesday morning walk. This podcast has helped me through so many challenges in parenting and in life, and I feel like I have been growing right alongside you incredible women for the last couple of years. I appreciate your authenticity and being real with us, approaching each new episode and book with such an openness and sense of curiosity and your clear passion for sharing the tools you discover with us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do - now please don’t stop because I’m about to have child number 2 and I need y’all!! 

Jun 27, 202311:44
238// Unearthing Our Ego with The Enneagram

238// Unearthing Our Ego with The Enneagram

The Enneagram is a system of personality typing that describes patterns in how people interpret the world and manage their emotions. It unpacks the intention by with we interact with others and make the choices we make. In this episode we unpack our Enneagram types and discuss how they helped us unearth shadow sides of our egos that were limiting us or helped us see ourselves and our relationships in a new light. The Enneagram is a multi-faceted tool that can make us aware of who we are and how to work with our strengths and also help us determine weaknesses we may seek to change. In this episode, we use it to help us explore our own personalities and share how knowing ourselves has helped us capitalize on our strengths and understand and work with our weaknesses. 

Books and Links We Mentioned:

Road Back to You // Ian Morgan Cron and Suzanne Stable

Enneagram Test

Enneagram Type Descriptions

Famous People’s Types

Dr. Nicole LePera // the.holistic.psychologist

Time Stamps

Related Episodes

⁠Building Bridges Back Home to Ourselves ⁠

⁠Becoming Embodied ⁠

Become a Child Whisperer / Parenting Your Kids True to Their Nature (based on the work of Carol Tuttle)

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Unicorns are Real

I have loved and listened to "Find the Magic" for years of motherhood. So many of those years I would listen to Taralyn or Felicia talk about reframing and even enjoying the mundane tasks (like changing diapers) and to dos that normally are mindless. They talked about enjoying these things, creating connection in them. Every week I tuned in but honestly, I didn't believe it. I said things like, "I can't be that mom, that isn't working for MY children, these women are just UNICORNS. And every episode I would still plug in my headphones and listen along and wish I could get there, be that mom. Then something switched, last year I went on (my first ever) solo retreat to South America. It was a women's empowerment, yoga, surf trip but a switch flipped and I started doing the work on myself. I continued taking steps like FINALLY starting a miracle morning routine (for me!) and guess what? Things started clicking with my kids, and at home. So if you are able, start with yourself. I was convinced that to be a good mom I had to read all the parenting books, listen to all the podcasts, plan all the activities but that is so far from reality. Start with your Self! So grateful to Find The Magic, To Taralyn, Felicia and Katelin... Thank you!

Jun 20, 202359:13
237 // Our Thoughts Create Our World

237 // Our Thoughts Create Our World

In our lives there are things that we control, things we influence, and things we have no control over. In today's episode, Katelin explores one thing that is entirely within our control: our thoughts. Our thoughts have power over the way we see and subsequently engage with our world. She discusses tips and tools, including the work by Byron Katie, for how to change our thoughts, which will ultimately change our reality. 

Related Episodes

Staying Open to The Present

The Power of being present NOW

Books & Links Mentioned

How Your Thinking Creates Your Reality // Jennice Vilhauer Ph.D. 

Can You Affect Another Person's Behavior With Your Thoughts?

The Power of Now // Eckhart Tolle 

Loving What Is // Byron Katie


Time Stamps

1:14 - Three buckets in life

2:32 - Our thoughts are within our control

4:30 - How thoughts become belief and how that primes our brains

7:45 - Beware of labeling our children – “terrible twos” “threenager”

10:25 - Experiment on labeling “smart” and “dumb” rats

13:51 - Step 1 is becoming aware of your thoughts are your thoughts

15:12 - Step 2 create what you want to see

16:50 - Step 3 - visualize every step and the end

17:25 - step 4 - invite God into this process

18:30 - Using the work by Byron Katie as a tool to unstick thoughts

21:15 - Example of navigating sharing holiday time with families

28:40 - Turning around your belief statement


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MaryHag

11/08/2022

The highlight of my week🙏🏻

Updating my review since I have been listening now for a couple of years. Honestly, this podcast is a game changer and life changer for me, and truly a highlight of my week. I eagerly go onto my podcast app each week to refresh and pray for a new episode to be ready on my Tuesday morning walk. This podcast has helped me through so many challenges in parenting and in life, and I feel like I have been growing right alongside you incredible women for the last couple of years. I appreciate your authenticity and being real with us, approaching each new episode and book with such an openness and sense of curiosity and your clear passion for sharing the tools you discover with us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do - now please don’t stop because I’m about to have child number 2 and I need y’all!! 😝😘

Jun 13, 202328:15
236 // Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre) {Best of}

236 // Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre) {Best of}

Have you ever driven in a city that isn’t well planned? The roads are often too narrow for the amount of traffic, and the flow of streets seem to have no discernible pattern. Navigating in such a place can be tricky and chaotic. In contrast, a city that has planned ahead of time what they want long term often has wide, orderly streets, and the initial time and thought investment pays back tenfold as their city runs much smoother as it grows. In this episode, we talk about using this theory of infrastructure in our own families. It takes some time upfront, but in the long run, it makes our family run sooo much more smoothly and makes parenting easier, while intentionally aligning it with our values.
We discuss the systems that we have tried out in our own homes over the years that have proven themselves to be priceless.
Books we mentioned:
The Entitlement Trap
Secrets of a Happy Family
Hold on to Your Kids
Miracle Morning
Links We Promised
Serendipity Parenting Episode from Linda an Richard Eyre
Related Episodes
Discovering Your Life Essentials
How To: Create Pockets of Peace
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gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!
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MaryHag
11/08/2022
The highlight of my week🙏🏻
Updating my review since I have been listening now for a couple of years. Honestly, this podcast is a game changer and life changer for me, and truly a highlight of my week. I eagerly go onto my podcast app each week to refresh and pray for a new episode to be ready on my Tuesday morning walk. This podcast has helped me through so many challenges in parenting and in life, and I feel like I have been growing right alongside you incredible women for the last couple of years. I appreciate your authenticity and being real with us, approaching each new episode and book with such an openness and sense of curiosity and your clear passion for sharing the tools you discover with us. Thank you from the bottom of my heart for doing what you do - now please don’t stop because I’m about to have child number 2 and I need y’all!! 😝😘
Jun 06, 202301:14:04
235 // The Kids Are Home For the Summer, Now What? {Best Of}

235 // The Kids Are Home For the Summer, Now What? {Best Of}

In a few weeks our kids will be home for the summer, and our daily schedules will change drastically. A lot of jokes, angst and dread can surround this time of year. Let’s start as we mean to go on! In this episode, we are sharing some of our favorite tips for designing our summer. We touch on creating and setting boundaries from the start, letting our kids be and resisting screen entertaining. If we have learned anything this year, it is that being fluid and available for change can help us live in the present and create a calm atmosphere in our homes. As we let them be free to work through the B word (boredom!) we will come out the other side with having enjoyed our summer together!

Related Episodes

How to: Create Pockets of Peace

HOW TO Parent Less and Love it More

The Martyr Effect. HOW TO Stop Offering Ourselves at the Altar of Parenting

Interview with Dr. Mary Wilde: How to Joyfully Ride the Waves of Parenthood Without Drowning in Them

Encouraging Independent Play and Letting Go of Guilt


Time Stamps

10:00 - Summer bucket list

11:56 - Beware of over scheduling

17:00 - It's not our job as a parent to entertain our kids

20:45 - Importance of completing your essentials during the summer

22:27 - Consider eliminating screens

23:41 - Embrace boredom

27:23 - Give them a chore if they are bored

29:11 - The moment of "reaching" when we slow down

34:20 - Remind them to clean up

35:15 - Take the time to teach them more household skills during the summer

36:00 - Open the buffet

39:00 - Set the expectation & infrastructure at the beginning

45:34 - Verbally state your expectations

46:01 - Let go of control

47:31 - Children can contribute to the family


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May 30, 202353:07
234 // Magic Moment: In Defense of Books By Taralyn

234 // Magic Moment: In Defense of Books By Taralyn

We LOVE books. One of the casualties of our current age and our screen adapted/crippled attention spans is that we don’t read as much anymore. In this magic moment, Taralyn gives her best persuasion for reading and gives lots of easy tips to keep or acquire the habit of reading in your life. People ask us all the time how we read so many books, and she tells the secret to our habits:)


Books and Links We Mentioned:

Women Who Run With Wolves // Clarissa Pinkola Estes, Ph.D

The Gift // Hafiz

You Can Heal Your Life // Louise Hay


Related Episodes

The Power Of Beautiful Words

Book Club Recommendations for 2020

Finding Motivation to Claim Your Personal Power Hour

Make Your Morning Routine Happen!

Morning Routines for a 30 Day Transformation with Taralyn

Hone Your Morning Routine with Felica


Sponsor:

GABB WIRELESS

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Review of the week:

I have loved and listened to "Find the Magic" for years of motherhood. So many of those years I would listen to Taralyn or Felicia talk about reframing and even enjoying the mundane tasks (like changing diapers) and to dos that normally are mindless. They talked about enjoying these things, creating connection in them. Every week I tuned in but honestly, I didn't believe it. I said things like, "I can't be that mom, that isn't working for MY children, these women are just UNICORNS. And every episode I would still plug in my headphones and listen along and wish I could get there, be that mom. Then something switched, last year I went on (my first ever) solo retreat to South America. It was a women's empowerment, yoga, surf trip but a switch flipped and I started doing the work on myself. I continued taking steps like FINALLY starting a miracle morning routine (for me!) and guess what? Things started clicking with my kids, and at home. So if you are able, start with yourself. I was convinced that to be a good mom I had to read all the parenting books, listen to all the podcasts, plan all the activities but that is so far from reality. Start with your Self! So grateful to Find The Magic, To Taralyn, Felicia and Katelin... Thank you!

May 23, 202320:52
233 // Building Bridges Back Home to Ourselves with Tessa Brown

233 // Building Bridges Back Home to Ourselves with Tessa Brown

We have all been here; there are times in life of discontent, resentment, perhaps even depression and often these coincide with a forgetting of ourselves. In this episode Felica interviews Tessa Brown, an artist and writer who focuses her work on womanhood and feminine energy and happens to be Felica's dear friend.

They dive into reclaiming our younger selves and the decisions we made, wrestling with motherhood and its expectations as well as considering how we can build bridges to parts of our lives that we want to include and ask the right questions to determine what things we should leave behind. 

Time Stamps

3:30 - What do we say yes to?

6:45 - How did past selves make decisions for our future?

14:35 - What is the right question to ask

18:00 - The power of manifestation

22:30 - Not merge with collective

24:05 - I get to decide who comes onto the island

25:25 - Do I want this life?


Related Episodes

Living Life Untamed and Releasing Others to do the Same (Untamed by Glennon Doyle)

EP 99 HOW TO OWN YOUR OWN DESIRES AND THE ART OF INTIMACY WITH DR. JENNIFER FINLAYSON-FIFE


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she.will.be.katie

11/07/2022

Absolute favorite

This is the only podcast that I cannot wait for the new release each week. There’s so much to contemplate in each episode. Yet at the same time its easy enough to digest that, even when my mom brain is at an all time high, I finish each episode inspired. Thank you 💛

May 16, 202333:18
232 // When You Feel Like You're Drowning and Siblings Won't Stop Fighting

232 // When You Feel Like You're Drowning and Siblings Won't Stop Fighting

In today’s episode we talk about how to deal with your children squabbling repeatedly and what to do when you feel like you just can’t get it together. 

Time Stamps

  • 13:42 - How to help our kids have a positive sibling relationship

  • 19:17 - Sibling situation is working out a social dynamic for the real world

  • 21:50 - We learn in families how to read people

  • 21:21 - Emotional Preparing

  • 25:00 - Code words

  • 27:30 - Beware of comparison

  • 31:48 - I feel like I’m drowning

  • 37:43 - Life is a balancing act

  • 40:40 - Be kind to yourself and others

Books & Related Episodes

How to do the work // Nicole Le Pera

HOW TO Prepare Children for a New Sibling: a Conversation with Upbringing 

Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre)

Understanding Praise and How We Can Use It to Give Our Kids Confidence Instead of Insecurity

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Review of the week:

Good for dads too!

As a father of two grown children and now taking care of my 16 year old nephew along with my wife, I still find lots of great tips and inspiration from these three amazing humans. I love the “high 5” and “facepalm” stories and the podcast is a soothing way to start a day or listen to in the drive home after a busy day at work. I wish I had something like this when my kids were younger as I think back to some situations I could have handled better. Thank you Find the Magic for all the times you made me smile, laugh, think and grow as a parent.


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May 09, 202343:22
231// Pt 2 Be the Calm Your Kids Need, Talking Less and Reducing Anger // Michaeleen Doucleff Hunter Gather Parent

231// Pt 2 Be the Calm Your Kids Need, Talking Less and Reducing Anger // Michaeleen Doucleff Hunter Gather Parent

Some parenting wisdom feels true to our core; that is how we felt when we read much of the wisdom from Hunter Gather Parent by Michaleen Doucleff. Today we are sharing our favorite nuggets from the book pertaining to disciplining our kids. The advice is less prescriptive and more in line with what we know to be true as parents and humans. Our children are learning. Our role is to see them with love and respect and teach them the ways of their family tribe. We tackle how to direct our kids with less force, create cooperation, and reduce the amount of anger in our homes. 

Find part one of our conversation here - 

230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff

Books, Quotes, & Links Mentioned

Understanding Praise and How We Can Use It to Give Our Kids Confidence Instead of Insecurity

Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff 

“When little people are overwhelmed by big emotions, it's our job to share our calm, not join their chaos.”― L.R. Knost

Time Stamps

7:15 - Premise of Hunter, Gather, Parent

9:50 - 100 commands vs. 3 commands per hour

12:00 - A request is giving our kids the chance to obey or rebel

14:30 - Master the facial expressions and gestures

15:11 - Ask 3 times calmly

18:59 - Parent is the pole analogy

22:11 - Don’t talk for your kids

25:17 - At intersecting points, redirect your kids to the family

27:58 - Misbehavior is a call for responsibility & freedom

29:00 - Our work is their play

32:15 - We can infuse connection into our daily chores

35:35 - Never in anger

39:19 - Take a breath & say nothing when feeling angry

41:10 - Yelling trains our kids not to listen

43:15 - When we respond with kindness & quiet, we teach them to do the same

48:13 - How we see our kids is changes how we act towards them

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Review of the week:

Cherise L&D nurse, 03/15/2023

I just want to take the time to thank you for being such a positive change in my life. I started listening to you guys while I was in nursing school back in 2020. Your very first podcast on morning routines changed my life forever. I then purchased “Miracle Morning” and have lived by this since then. I wake up every morning, oil pull, set my diffusers, do yoga, sip on tea, and if I have time run with my dog (I even make sure to do this on my work days). Being a busy mom of 2 kids ages 7 and 4 that I partially homeschool (they’re also in a homeschool co op), wife, and a nurse, I can’t thank you ladies enough. Your podcasts help center myself as a parent. It’s so easy to get caught up in the day to day busy lifestyle, and when I do find that happening, I pop my ear buds in and go on a run and listen to you ladies. I tell every single mom about your podcast. You have made such a positive change for my family. I truly can’t even begin to tell you how much gratitude I have for your show.

Thank you,

Cherise



May 02, 202355:11
230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff

230 // Pt 1: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff

"My kids never help", "It's like pulling teeth", "Our family life feels disconnected", "They don't care about me or what I do for them"; frustration over the lack of help in our homes from our children can send us into a spiral of hard days. The sentiment that "kids will be kids" and we need to cater to their whims can topple the structure of our families. In this episode, with the help of Hunter, Gather, Parent by Michaleen Doucleff, we are going to challenge the Western assumptions we all hold about parenting to bring a breath of fresh air and an ease to our parenting that just may revolutionize the way you think about your home environment! 

Time Stamps

  • 8:00 - Intro to Hunter, Gather, Parent

  • 10:13 - The silo parenting present in western culture (WEIRD)

  • 15:51 - The drive to help and belong is naturally present in our kids from the beginning

  • 20:30 - In the long run, forcing your kids is detrimental

  • 21:30 - Example of five year old girl from the Nani Gandi Tribe

  • 23:00 - Never force a kid to stay and work

  • 25:00 - Less praise, more acknowledgement

  • 26:38 - Independence vs. Autonomy

  • 30:01 - “We clean it up” vs. “You clean it up”

  • 34:15 - Example of autonomy the Hadzabe community

  • 41:05 - Chore charts and how they work against intrinsic motivation

Related Episodes

Systems and Values for Easier Days and Stronger Family Connections (Entitlement Trap by Linda Eyre and Richard Eyre)

How To: Create Pockets of Peace

Books Mentioned:

How to Raise Kind Kids // Thomas Lickona

Hunt, Gather, Parent: What Ancient Cultures Can Teach Us About the Lost Art of Raising Happy, Helpful Little Humans // Michaeleen Doucleff


Sponsor:

GABB WIRELESS

We LOVE devices that help our kids stay safe and be able to adventure while still being able to contact us safely and allow us to know where they are without being the kind of technology that steals their mental health and attention. Gabb wireless is an incredible company that we FULLY endorse for just that. Go to https://gabbwireless.com and use code FINDTHEMAGIC to get $50 off any device!

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Review of the week:

AngelinaEM

04/12/2023

My new best friends.

I am a busy mom of 4 (7 yo and under) and Find the Magic is something that I do for myself. I connect with these women SO well and they make me feel like I’m doing the best job, even when I feel like I’m not. Thank you ladies for being here for us mothers. ♥️



Apr 25, 202345:37