Find Ya Light with Nakita Mariano

In this lightwork episode, Nakita shares some light bulb moments about achieving balance, building automatic deposits into your daily schedule for a positive balance, and discussing the implications of overdrafting your account resulting in a negative balance.  

Alongside the week of Thanksgiving, we explore the idea of gratitude. We share our perspective on the difference between being thankful and being

grateful.  We highlight what the daily practice of gratitude looks like for us and the things we are grateful for.  As always, thank you for tuning in. We are grateful for you and your support. Remember to Find Ya Light, Be a Light, and Share ya light!

In this lightwork episode, we recount The Five Love Languages and how they play out in our lives. We also ask the following questions: 

Can we live without love? Do we use these love languages to barter? and most importantly how do we pour into our own love language cups?

Thanks for tuning in and remember to Find ya light, Shine ya light, and Be a light!

In this episode, we explore Gary Chapman's book The Five Love Languages and its concepts. We interpret our communication in each language and why understanding the love languages are important. We discussed what fills our love tank and how we share that with others. Thank you for tuning in and remember Find ya light, Be a light, and Share ya light!

In this lightwork episode, we revisit our discussion of Don Miguel Ruiz's The Four Agreements and share our lightbulb moments. Aaron emphasizes that we should be mindful of people, energy, and interactions that reinforce the unhealthy agreements that we unknowingly entered into from our past. Nakita shares how all of the Four Agreements interact and can have an impact on one another. Thank you for tuning in and remember...Find ya light, Be a light, and Share ya light. 

In this episode, we provide a brief overview of Don Miguel Ruiz's book and his concept of the Four Agreements. We share our take on how we unwillingly enter into limiting agreements.  While exploring The Four Agreements, each one of us dives into the one agreement that we have a good handle on and the one that is the most challenging.  Tune in and let us know which of the agreements come easier to you? Which ones do you struggle with? Thank you for joining us and remember to Find ya light, Be a Light and Share ya light!

In this Lightwork episode, we re-cap our ideas of Self-Care.  Aaron shares how self-care should be a tool for constant work and how when not being intentional, self-care becomes ineffective.  Nakita details how self-care looks different every day but must be a daily requirement whether it's mentally, physically, emotionally, or spiritually. Also, we share tweets from our Lightsharers, where they define their ideal of self-care and how they use it in their lives. Thank you for tuning in and remember to Find ya light, Be a light and Share ya light!

In this episode, we speak about self-care. We expand on an early reference to self care from the incomparable Audrey Lorde. We affirm simple and hashtagable acts of self-care yet challenge you think beyond those. Like What does interpersonal and intrapersonal self-care look like for you? How do you practice self-care in your everyday environments? Lastly, we share some of current self-care practices. Thank you for tuning in and as always...Find ya light, Be a light and Shine ya light!

On this Lightwork episode we reflect on our interpretation of the various types of loves we previously shared. We share our lightbulb moments and highlight a few twitter responses from our Lightworkers. Thank you for tuning in and remember to Find ya light, Be a light and Share your light. 

In this episode we explore the eight types of love according to  Greek philosophers.  We share the kind of love that we've mirrored, the kind of love we live out now, our next level of love and our ideal love destination. We trade off examples of how these love types can range from for ourselves to pouring out to everyone we encounter. We thank you for joining us and remember Find ya light, Be a light and Share ya light!

In this Lightwork episode we reiterate the benefits of  "learning" or choosing optimism. We share our lightbulb moments and examples of how we need to get out of our own way.  Lastly, we revisit the A,B,C approach to reframing pessimism.  Thank you for tuning in and remember... Find ya light, Be a light and Shine ya Light!

*Check out some resources about "Learned Optimism"

1. The ABC Technique: Overcoming Pessimistic Thinking by MindTools (Video)

https://youtu.be/4ixkeBWPhdI

2. "Learning Optimism: Is Martin Seligman's cup half full?" article by Moore, Pscyhologist, MBA 

https://positivepsychology.com/learned-optimism/

3. Learned Optimism by Martin E. Seligman, Ph.D. (Book)

The father of the new science of positive psychology and author of Authentic Happiness draws on more than twenty years of clinical research to demonstrate how optimism enchances the quality of life, and how anyone can learn to practice it. Offering many simple techniques, Dr. Seligman explains how to break an “I—give-up” habit, develop a more constructive explanatory style for interpreting your behavior, and experience the benefits of a more positive interior dialogue. These skills can help break up depression, boost your immune system, better develop your potential, and make you happier..

With generous additional advice on how to encourage optimistic behavior at school, at work and in children, Learned Optimism is both profound and practical–and valuable for every phase of life.

https://www.amazon.com/Learned-Optimism-Change-Your-Mind/dp/1400078393#ace-g2545694624

In this episode we share the approach of 'Learned Optimism'.  Aaron and Nakita realize that they share a common thread of their early introduction to optismism being the attitude of their praying grandmothers. We highlight how pessimism can affect our livelyhood and future. We share the A,B,C approach which encourages us to reframe our thinking and push through adversity. Thank you for tuning in and remember Find ya light, Be a light and Shine ya Light!

Our bonus episodes, coined 'Lightwork'  provide a short reflection on our last episode. In  this Lightwork episode we share our 'lightbulb' moments and openly discuss our evolving truths.  Thank you for tuning in and remember to Find ya light, Be a light and Shine ya light!

In this episode we share some of our truths. We breakdown truth into two categories; ugly truths and freeing truths.  Ugly truths as those truths that we often don't want to accept or face. Freeing truths as the truths that allow us to breathe, let go, and find our way. We explore three ways to guide you towards finding your truth.  As always thanks for tuning in and remember Find ya light, Be a light and Shine ya light!!

Our bonus episodes, coined 'Lightwork'  provide a short reflection on our last episode. In this Lightwork we share our 'lightbulb' moments and some insight from our family of  listeners, also known as  'lightseekers".  Thank you for tuning in and remember to Find ya light, Be A light and Shine ya light!

In this episode we divulge on our early experiences with forgiving.  Nakita explores the need to forgive himself,

while Aaron asks for forgiveness.  We agree that there are no concrete rules to forgiving but provide 5 things to remember about forgiveness. Thank you for tuning in. Remember... Find ya light, be a light and shine ya light!

In this episode we highlight an unfamiliar approach to parenting while reminiscing on how we were parented. We share memories from childhood, discussing responsibilities at an early age and detailing our home environments. Aaron drags low self-confidence into his adulthood, while Nakita carries the load of abandonment.  Thank you for tuning in and remember...Find ya light, Be a light and Shine ya light!

Welcome! In our very first episode we share a bit about who we are, how we met and how the podcast came to be. We recount pivotal moments of self discovery, a few things we've learned about ourselves and some opportunities quarantine has made room for. Nakita wants to put theory to practice and Aaron is working on being persistent at being consistent. Thank you for your support! Remember to Find ya light, Be a light and Share ya light! 

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