Foch woman podcast
By Fochwoman
Foch woman podcastDec 14, 2020
Never ending disputes
Day 2 focuses on navigating never ending disputes in a relationship and offers a superior ideology outside the 50/50 phenomenon.
This episode speaks to every relationship committed to getting to their full healthy potential in spite of the differences that may exist between the parties involved.
Can't wait for Day 3, where we talk 'Loving the wrong person'.
Stay tuned!!!
Right person, Wrong time
Day 1 of the #FochLoveSeries.
We are talking on things we must consider when we subscribe to 'right person, wrong time' ideology.
Is it valid? is it not? You tell us.
Let us know your thoughts on the episode. See you @ Day 2 tomorrow where we look at 'Never ending disputes, the 50/50 phenomenon'.
The hack to navigating friendships in adulthood
Gone are the days where friendships were characterized of sleepovers, all day conversations and shoulder-hitting laughter.
It has not been eliminated, but it definitely is more controlled with the responsibilities that have come with adulthood.
We do not have to kiss those good days of friendship goodbye, we only need to learn to navigate handling it in spite of the demands of adulthood.
We discuss 5 points on hacking friendships in such a way that it stays full of value and quality.
The only thing you need to know for 2024
We are keeping it simple and straight to the point in 2024. If you are wanting to know just one thing to run with this year, it is in this podcast.
Happy New Year from all of us at Foch Woman. We are convinced of such great things for 2024 and beyond.
Stick with us, 2024 promises content that sticks, uplifts, guides and yields fruits.
Recognising God in my season without losing sight of God in His entirety
Video Episode - I hope this episode brings understanding to your heart that begins to always spur unity among discussions in the faith, rather than appear contradictory.
God of my current season is not all there is to God and I must acknowledge that when I speak to other people in other seasons with God.
The beauty of this body of Christ is the uniqueness with which God walks with all of us.
May God help us seek unity always.
Does God go back on His word sometimes?
For a God who honours His word above His name, must be tough to hear your children think or ask this question because of the events of this fallen world that we live in.
But it remains a frequent question in the heart of most believers who are yet to see a manifestation of the things promised. So, does God really go back on His word?
In this episode, we answer this question simply and clearly in 5 points. Hopefully, at the end of this episode, your question changes to highlight more the responsibility on us, than on God alone.
The believers approach to the sensitivity of this generation
We are living through very sensitive times, every topic is tagged 'touchy' or 'sensitive' and so we completely refrain from talking about heart matters, especially when they are sinful.
This sensitivity has brought compromise on the standards of God, even among believers. This episode details 5 points on dealing with the sensitivity of this generation to ensure we are upholding the standard of God and staying accountable.
Training our hearts and minds to believe to the end
In this episode, we discuss 5 points on training ourselves to expect miracles. We must grow from a place where we sound and live like people who believe more in God's reluctance than in His willingness to show up for us.
This episode will help us evaluate how much our minds and hearts have been trained to stay on God in spite of the circumstances around us.
N.B. Sincere apologies for the poor audio at one point, the microphone will be changed before the next episode.
Have you created a saviour complex around your partner?
It is a video podcast and you are able to watch the live recording @Foch_woman Instagram page.
Am I ready for a new relationship?
After a breakup, how do we know if we are ready to progress to a new relationship?
This episode explores 5 points on discerning how ready we might be to move on. The timeframe cannot be the same for everyone but is dependent on factors that are discussed in this episode.
How to advise people in relationships
I'm sure we might be able to recall a situation or two where we thought we were helping 2 people in a relationship by our counsel, and ended up in the burnt position. I want to say such is life, but I honestly believe there is a way to navigate such situations.
In this episode, we discuss 5 points on effectively advising people in relationships. These points should be at the forefront of your mind when next you feel a deep urge to be a saviour in someones deteriorating relationship.
Deciding my career path
Our profession and career are a big part of our human existence. For the believer, even more so because God has made us kings over this realm and expects that while we are here, we are curating it to be like His kingdom above. The first and most important call is to be a witness of the gospel, and added to that, to utilise all that God has placed within us for the building of people and to the glory of God.
We see in the story of the talents how the master returns and asks each servant to account for what they had been given before his departure. The same will apply to us when Jesus returns, we will stand before Him and give an account for all the investments He made in us; the gifts, skills, interests, etc, and it is my prayer that we will not be ashamed and also be called good and faithful servants.
This episode gives us five points to consider in navigating the decision as to what you might want to build your career in.
Happy IWD - 3 struggles of the 21st century woman
I love that we have a day each year to celebrate our gender and all it represents. I also am fond of the themes that come with each year by the national organisation. This year, it happens to be #EmbraceEquity and so, you can rest assured that tomorrow we will be hearing and reading all about the bias and unfair treatment of the female gender in society.
While I perfectly understand the standpoint it often comes from, I am careful that we don't always get carried away looking at the other person and not at ourselves, and so for us at Foch woman and in this episode, we're embracing equity by being more fair and impartial to ourselves by how we handle our daily struggles as women.
This episode discusses the 3 main struggles of the 21st-century woman and how to navigate these struggles.
Nothing is happening in my life
Have you been, or currently going through a phase of total darkness and silence, where nothing seems to be happening in or around you? There is a temptation to allow such moments to impact our mental health and relationships, but we must be intentional about navigating these seasons in a healthy way that leaves no casualties.
This episode discusses 5 steps in navigating the daily ordinary while waiting for the once-in-a-while extraordinary.
Why do I only attract bad people?
Have you found yourself questioning yourself because of the people that seem to constantly come around you? This episode guides us to answer pertinent questions that might give us clarity as to why certain people are approaching us and why certain people are not approaching us.
Also, it brings light for us to know that the people attracted to us may not be a function of what we have done or not done; sometimes, people kick balls and just wait to see which enters. Just like Pharoah tried to kill all young boys under two in search of Moses, and Herod tried to kill all young boys in search of Jesus.
While we have some monopoly over who approaches us, we do not have a total monopoly, and we should take advantage of the times when we don't have the monopoly.
Dealing with an unaffectionate partner
Everyone wants to feel some fondness and tenderness in their relationship and marriage. No one wants to be left guessing if their partner loves them because they show no affection.
While it is important to communicate our affection to our partners, we must know that it comes easier to some people as compared to others, so in this episode, we discuss navigating how to deal with a partner who is not as affectionate.
In the end, we will see that while some partners appear more affectionate, others on the other end express themselves in other ways that should not be ignored.
My parents don't like my partner
This episode is for people navigating their way through convincing their parents or guardians of their partner. What is the godly way to show your convictions without dishonouring your parents?
We discuss 5 points to be noted through navigating this situation in this episode. In the end, while it remains your decision to make, your parents must be honoured and respected in that process because the bible recognises them as the stewards over you before any union in marriage.
No to eloping and dishonouring parents in this kingdom.
My partner doesn't like to talk about marriage
In this episode, we talk about steps to take if you are in a relationship where the other party is averse to talking about marriage. Might be excusable the first year (even though the start of a relationship must have an agreed destination, even if something happens along the line), but becomes a point of concern if by the second, third+ years there is still no word or hint of walking into marriage.
I do not believe that we were made to court for long or just 'see how things go', asides the tendency to become complacent over time, there is high tendencies that you might fall into temptation and that can be avoided if we just allow the Holy Spirit lead us per time; including when to enter a relationship and even when to marry.
While it is up to a couple to decide when to marry, it is important that it is a mutual agreement at every point in time, rather than one person hanging and wondering when the other party might be ready.
Understanding the real marriage
In this episode, we converse about the relationship that should exist between members of the body of Christ. The response and heart that we must all have towards each other, especially when either of us is found to have erred.
This episode challenges us to see the picture of a whole body; a head fitted on the body and see that each time we reverence the head and are irreverent towards any member of the body, we cause the head heartache because the head delights in seeing His body behave and react just like Him to each other and to those outside of that body.
How to be your Authentic self
It can be such an unconscious thing to pick up so much from around us and not pay attention to what is within us. It has become even harder in this media-saturated world where people spend more time seeing things and people they wish they have or are.
This has created a pandemic of desiring to be and do because we have seen others be and do, and not because Gods spirit in us is urging us in same direction. In this weeks episode we discuss 5 points to consider to be your authentic self always and how this enables the Holy Spirit in us find expression in the unique way He desires.
Getting married soon?
After my long hiatus from the podcast, we are back talking on some points that everyone must navigate through in entering into new phases, particularly matrimony.
I share a new life update as well, which may or may not be what you think it is from the topic. Either way, brace yourself for some deep, honest introspection through this episode
Dealing with sexual urges
Will your relationship lead to marriage?
In this weeks episode, we discuss points that could help you predict if your current relationship will work and lead to marriage.
While there is no certainty and heavy risks involved in love, we must agree that the Holy Spirit leads us in the will of God for our lives and does not author confusion. We discuss the pointers we must look out for to be certain of His leading for our lives.
We're saying no to vibes and 'inshallah' in our walk to marriage.
Our marriage rehearsal
In the spirit of all the love being thrown around this weekend, I thought it lovely to share about 'our marriage rehearsal'. How marriage is only a mirror of our relationship with God.
God is doing something with marriages on the earth, this episode opens your eyes to see what He is doing, how He is doing it and how you can plug yourself into it.
A gentle reminder that Abba's love remains sufficient and full, plug in and get drunk in love!
Consistency hack
In this first episode of the year, we discuss 5 points to hack consistency in 2022. The paramount aspect of our life that must fuel every other aspect of us.
Practical points that we can add to our everyday life was shared to aid our keeping energy levels high all through the year.
Private or public courtships?
A caveat though: a relationship is not guaranteed to work because you kept it private or you made it public. More important values must guide a relationship to keep it healthy, but in the long run, questions such as this topic matter.
Conviction in Relationships
Every now and again I ask people what has kept them in the relationships they are in for that long, I get funny answers or none at all.
It is important we have convictions about our lives and living, particularly relationships. In this episode we discuss how important convictions are in eros relationships and also how to build conviction.
A lot of relationships have ended in hurt because there was no conviction from the start. Conviction can be likened to a truth or foundation, without a foundation, no structure stands.
Bible spotlight - Jehoiada
He teaches us treasurable lessons through His life and brings us to evaluate the things that truly matter as we journey through life. May we be and have Jehoida's in our lifetime.
Times we're living through
This episode is just a word of encouragement for everyone living this life.
I hope this episode just brings you to slow down and breathe.
Through their eyes - Child
NEW SERIES - THROUGH THEIR EYES
In this series, we hear the thoughts of different age groups on the same questions that vary across different parts of life. Our second guest is a 9-year old telling us her thoughts on friendship, life, fears and God.
Hopefully this series helps us revisit our younger years or think about our tomorrow years and start to make the best decisions now.
Enjoy!
Through their eyes - Teenager
NEW SERIES - THROUGH THEIR EYES
In this series, we hear the thoughts of different age groups on the same questions that vary across different parts of life. Our first guest is a teenager telling us her thoughts on friendship, life, fears and God.
Hopefully this series helps us revisit our younger years or think about our tomorrow years and start to make the best decisions now.
Enjoy!
Bible spotlight - Jochebed
We start a new series on Fochwoman podcast this week called 'Bible spotlight', where we will pick characters from the bible not often spoken about, maybe because they did not defeat opposition armies, or kill lions, but are still just as important.
This week, our spotlight is Jochebed, who played a role more important than we can say in the deliverance of the Israelites from the Egyptians. We discuss 5 lessons we can learn from her as we grow in The Kingdom.
Why you are getting hurt
Relationships will continue to be hard for us to navigate if we don't get the fundamentals and foundation right. A romantic relationship involves more than just two people who seem interested in each other. There are several underlying things that make a person who they are and those things need to be understood to have a flourishing relationship with the person.
In this episode, we discuss 10 points, with both reason and solution on why people get hurt. Hopefully it opens you to knowledge on how you can do better to have more flourishing relationships.
How to hear Gods voice
Hearing Gods voice should not be rocket science to us who believe. God says that "My sheep hear my voice; I know them and they follow me". This verse tells us already that as sheep, we are wired to hear the voice of our shepherd.
Oftentimes, the struggle with hearing Gods voice is not that He is not speaking, but what is the issue then?
In this episode, we discuss 5 points on how to hear Gods voice so that we are running this race with His guidance and not without direction.
How does my dressing affect your faith?
Enough of us excusing indecency and lack of modesty, but choosing rather to now submit to the Holy Spirit even in the choice of clothing and dressing.
We have a responsibility over our brothers and sisters in the faith and if we take that responsibility seriously, it will be reflected even in how we appear outside of our homes.
Dressing does impact our faith and that of others and in this episode we discuss how and why.
Healing from a break up you did not initiate
Most times, neither of the parties involved are bad, it will always be better to end a faulty relationship than manage it into a marriage where everything is magnified.
To God, be true.
Am I in line with Gods purpose for me?
This episode helps us think through where we are in walking in line with God's purpose for our lives, It asks us the necessary questions to evaluate our walk with God.
In the end, only a few things will matter, it matters that we expound our energy on those things now and not waste it on things that will fade away.
Are my standards too high?
In the context of relationships, we might be accused of having standards that are too high or settling without standards at all, it might get a bit confusing, so this episode discusses standards as a believer in a relationship and gives pointers to ensure that these standards are Spirit-driven and not merely physical preferences that will not matter in the grand scheme of things.
The bible is a standard book if we never knew it and it presents us with the One true standard that we must live by in every area of our lives, Jesus.
Why does my life matter?
In this episode we discuss three points that remind us of why we matter on this earth to adjust our mindsets to see God's intention towards us here and now.
Letting go and moving on
While I strongly believe and advocate the accuracy of the Holy Spirit in the life of a believer, I do not demonise breakups even among believers because I believe that things happen, people change, and when these things and changes stop serving Gods purpose, it is highly advisable that you go your separate ways because in the end, our relationships and marriages must be God glorifying, but this will be impossible if the individuals involved are not God glorifying.
In this episode we discuss the godly way to let go and move on in 5 points, whether in romantic relationships or friendships that end for whatever reason. Through the whole process, we must be loving and forgiving of ourselves as well as the person involved.
The Waiting Attitude
Our hearts posture and mindset are important in the seasons of waiting.
In this episode we explore 5 things we must be conscious of as we wait on God.
What is your attitude saying in this season of waiting?
To the one scared to love,
Exciting weekend seeing different expressions of love. Probably my favourite characteristic of love; that it can be expressed in a vary of ways.
It is not enough to see expressions of love and just desire it when you have deeply rooted fears that make you think and expect the worse when you find yourself or other people deeply in love.
In this episode, we explore 5 things to keep in mind through the journey of romantic love. Beginning and conclusion on this matter is same; 'perfect love casts out fear'.
Free from guilt and shame
The cold friends that is guilt and shame are the easiest foul spirits waiting to bounce on anyone who leaves just a crack in the door.
They don't wait to be invited and need no introduction, all they need is a person to move from believing what God says about them to looking at their inabilities and faults.
In this episode we discuss 5 important things that we must be aware of in remaining rooted in the victory we have against guilt and shame. Don't allow the devil deceive you into isolation.
Be shameless about the victory you have in Christ.
My husbands return
Ask any bride her thoughts and feelings before her big day (wedding). Chances are that you will hear words like 'excited', 'expectant', 'thrilled' and 'happy'.
Any bride is always excited to receive her bridegroom. Is the church a normal bride? are we excited and expectant of our bridegroom? or have we found counterfeit substitutes that only satisfy temporarily?
This week we explore 5 things to stay aware of as we remind ourselves of Abba's return. It isn't far again. We're now listening for the trumpet, we've moved passed counting the signs.
Is church really important?
A lot of people have a vary of opinions on the institution that is church. Some people have grown with the idea of going to church every Sunday while others have often questioned the point and impact of meeting in a building to worship and fellowship together with people that might even constitute strangers.
This episode is not attempting to give us reasons to go to church, it is just giving us an understanding of what church is and why the bible encourages us not to neglect the 'gathering of the brethren'.
In the end, every man must be a liar and God must be true, so let's dive into what God says about the church community.
In the words of one of my favourite teachers, 'find your tribe and love 'em hard'!
5 things you must know about fasting
It is that time of the year again, for a lot of us who grew up going to church and beginning each year with a fast. Haha
I have learnt that it should never become a ritual or something we do 'just because', we must connect, engage and actually get what God has for us from this spiritual discipline. If you're one who limits your fast to just the beginning of the year, I hope this episode challenges you.
We discuss 5 things we must know about fasting and how to have the best fast experience.
The material referenced in the first point in the episode is 'Fasting 101' by Myles Munroe, feel free to check it out on YouTube.
Relationship maintenance
Anything that will last requires a conscious attempt at maintaining it, including our human relationships. In this episode we explore 5 practical ways to maintain our relationships, including romantic, parental, friendships and mentorship relationships.
We invest in anything we want to keep for long. Invest in the people you say you love by actively maintaining those relationships.
5 pillars upon which success is referenced
In this episode is all you need to know to start your year!
We discuss 5 points from Apostle Selman's message 'The price for uncommon impact'. Very condensed version in this episode but just as powerful.
I wish you peace, joy, clarity and plenty love in this new year. Welcome to 2021!
2020 in view and lessons for 2021
It is the last episode of 2020! Yayy!
I hope this episode blesses you and inspires you to do and be more in 2021! God has already gone ahead of us and made all paths straight and He will see us through.
A massive shout out, with a truckload of hugs to the 3k+ people listening to Foch woman podcast. I do not take it for granted and I am excited to see all that 2021 brings!
From Foch woman podcast, Happy New Year!
5 things they do not tell us about Godly courtships
A lot of people have this idea that Godly courtships are a complete walk in the park. While the holy Spirit does enable us to overcome challenges, He does not eliminate our human nature and so it is important that we discuss practical ways to attend to these issues and overcome them.
In this episode we discuss 5 things that aren't popular about Godly courtships and also give a cheeky explanation for why the church insists on calling courtship 'courting' and not 'dating'.