For Church Girls Only

Patience is a virtue...until we have to wait.

In this episode, we talk about the details of what it means to wait on God: patience. As we share past and current life circumstances, we are talking about what that waiting process looks like and how God uses that time in between the closed door and open window to refine and grow us. 

What is it that you're currently waiting for? Listen in to discover why you may be in the waiting season of your life, what He wants you to do in the interim, and things you should be watchful for in this space.

Scriptures referenced:

Proverbs 4:23

Do you network?

Networking is one of those things that we do to try to with the intention of advancing business ventures. Let's talk about changing that mindset a little...because networking opportunities can be used for advancing the Kingdom too!

Just as you want to be equally yoked with a relationship/marriage partner, deciding who to be connected to in business matters has implications too.

Join us in this episode as we talk about how to strategically network, how to make it less awkward, and why it's so important in continuing in ministry.

Verses referenced:

Ecclesiastes 4:9-12

1 Corinthians 12:12-27

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When you're called to be an example to the Kingdom, is there any room to be authentically you?  

We are created uniquely because we each have a unique purpose. Showing up in the world as God has created you has Kingdom implications and Kingdom impact.   

Tune in to learn more about how you can discover who you are, how to show up authentically as a Daughter of the King, understand the challenges to being authentic, and how to live out your purpose as the real you!  

Verses referenced: Psalm 139:13 Ephesians 2:102 Timothy 2:15 

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Procrastination. "To delay."

A word with a tiny meaning that has huge Kingdom ramifications.

In this episode, we talk about:

-what procrastination is;

-how it shows up in our lives;

-what it looks like to have a sense of Kingdom urgency, and 

-how to reclaim your time for Him.

Verses for reference: John 9:4-5 and Ecclesiastes 9:10

Are you ready to say "yes" to God?

When you say yes to the calling on your life, there are things that will happen. Tune into this episode as we discuss what to expect, what you need, and what it looks like to say "yes" every day.

Are you protecting your peace? 

In this episode, we talk about what it looks like to protect your peace and why it's so important. The truth is that your peace is directly tied to walking in your purpose and there is a Kingdom implication in that decision. 

We'll share our personal stories and share action steps to guide you back on to the path to your purpose. 

Resources:

Matthew 5:13-16

Romans 12:1

"When to Walk Away: Finding Freedom From Toxic People" by Gary Thomas https://amzn.to/3O4oq7U (referral link)

"Boundaries: When to Say Yes, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life" by Drs. Cloud and Townsend https://amzn.to/39oF9UP (referral link)

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Guard your heart above all else, for it determines the course of your life. Prov 4:23 NLT

This scripture is typically applied to dating relationships. But in this episode, we'll talk about how this principle is critical in other relationships.
We'll talk about the characteristics of a toxic person and how to separate from them. Also, listen in as we discuss how to guard your heart against internal thoughts.

Following the steps of:
-building a fence,
-pulling up the weeds, and
-planting new grass to cover the patches, we'll walk you through the Spirit-led process of guarding your garden so that you can produce the fruit that God has planted inside of you.

May is National Better Speech and Language Month. As Church Girls, those skills are needed every day in the way that we communicate with others...and with ourselves. Join us as we kick off this series discussing what it means to speak life to others and to yourself.

Proverbs 18:21 tells us that "The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit." Listen in as we discuss how the way that we speak to others...and to ourselves...has the power to transform our lives. Whether it's for better or worse, it all starts with the words we allow to come out of our mouths.

Our favorite speaking book - Seasoning Your Words by Nancy Eichman (referral link) https://amzn.to/2SDPjZ3

In the third part of our fear series, we talk about reconciliation and obedience. Fear is a real emotion that we deal with but how do we move past it?  

Listen in as we talk about Kingdom consequences in the disobedience of fear, what happens when you say yes to the will of God, and the 3 steps involved in reconciliation with God and moving forward in obedience to Him.    

Scriptures to reference: 

1 Kings 13:8ff 

Isaiah 5:6-9 

John 15:2-6 

1 Peter 4:17-19 

2 Peter 3:3-10 

1 John 1:9 

Hebrews 11 and 12

Book to reference: Overcoming Fear and Anxiety with Spiritual Warfare https://amzn.to/2QwCPBJ (referral link)

Do you know who God has said you are? 

The enemy would have you believe that you are so many things contrary to what God has declared in His word. Listen in on this episode. A follow up to our conversation on the gift of fear, You Are Who God Says You Are is a Jesus pep talk for the sister who needs to be reminded of the greatness that God has put inside of her.

What was the worst gift that someone has ever given you? No matter what it was, it can never compare to the gift of fear that the enemy readily tries to give to us. In this episode, we take a deep dive into the spirit of fear, addressed in 2 Timothy 1:7. 

Not only is fear the worst gift that we could get, it's a gift that comes with strings attached. Holding onto it is not just a bad idea for you, it has ramifications for the whole Kingdom.

Listen in as we talk about how fear shows up, how to dismantle it, and the consequences of holding onto this gift that you should definitely return to sender.

The story of Naomi and Ruth is one of discovering the blessings in a loyal friendship. The story of Ruth is of a woman who stayed by a friend in the most unexpected of circumstances. Because of her decision to stick by Naomi's side, she was abundantly blessed. But their story is so much deeper than that. Listen in as we talk about who these women were and how their story speaks to us today.

Who was Esther? Her life and herstory set the stage for who God would have us to be in the 21st century. As we go into Women's History Month, we're talking about some of the incredible women in the Bible, their role in history, and how emulating them today can make a difference in the world.

This episode discusses the reluctant Queen Esther, who was "perhaps created for a time such as this" and it's no coincidence that you are too. We talk about using our voices, position, and opportunity to speak up and speak out in the name of Christ. 

Have you - or someone you know - ever been in an abusive relationship? It happens more than you might think. More often than not, for a myriad of reasons, there are signs that we overlook or ignore that tell us the real story about what is going on. 

In this episode, we are joined by Dr. Malaika Brown (Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/drmalaikaspeaks) to discuss: 

-How to recognize emotionally or physically abusive situations

-What "red flags" to be on the watch for 

- How manipulation can be a form of abuse

-What to do if you're in an abusive relationship 

-How God intends for people to be treated in relationships/marriages. As Dr. Brown mentions in the episode, spouses are supposed to submit to each other. Read more about what that looks like here: https://beingyoked.com/submission-fragrance-men/

We also talk about the work of Leslie Vernick, who is guiding Kingdom conversations as they deal with Emotionally Destructive Relationships. Learn more about the work she does at https://leslievernick.com/. If you are seeking clarity on if you may be in an emotionally or physically unhealthy relationship, take the online questionnaire: https://www.leslievernick.com/pdfs/Relationship-test.pdf

Are you spiritually healthy? As women in the body of Christ, we tend to the spiritual well-being of those we love and have been charged to care for. But are we seeing to our own spiritual health? In this episode, we talk about identifying markers of a healthy vs unhealthy state and what it looks like to be healthy spiritually. We talk about how to keep and hold yourself accountable to staying spiritually healthy and address what steps to take when you find that you’re spiritually unhealthy.

Verses mentioned in this episode:

Galatians 5:22-23

Matthew 13:1-9

James 2:20

Matthew 6:33

Psalm 27:8

Romans 10:17

As we celebrate and spend money every year for Valentine's Day, we go all out for the ones we love. But what is love really? In this episode, we discuss what love is and what it isn't. A special episode that speaks to our younger church girls, we talk about National Teen Dating Violence Month, knowing your worth, and loving yourself the way that God loves you. Our reference scripture is 1 Corinthians 13: 4-7. 

One of the consistent things that we will face as Christian women is that we will inevitably experience the lows of valleys in our lives. Listen in on this episode as we talk about:

What does it look like to walk through the valleys?

Why is it hard to be happy in hardship?

What purpose does it serve to have our faith tested?

Scripture referenced is James 1 and the Story of Elijah (1 Kings 17–19 and 2 Kings 1–2).

Have you wondered about the Titus 2 woman that is heralded in scriptures? She is the mentor that God has qualified to help other women on their Christian walk. But how do you find her? How can you become her? Listen in as we talk about mentorship in the church and the need for mentor/mentee discernment.

It's Chara's birthday! In this episode, we're talking about lessons from her past, the hope for the future, and the message in it that Christ has for all of us.

To say that 2020 has been a trying year is putting it mildly. We are still on the upswing of a global pandemic, the flames of racial injustice are burning brighter than ever, and Christianity has been put on trial. But in the midst of it all, we have been blessed by God. Listen to hear what we've learned in the storms of this year, plus hear more about the blessing that is the air fryer.

Thanksgiving is not just a  holiday where you gather to eat with family and friends. As daughters of the King, thanksgiving is a way that we should live our lives. By learning to cultivate an attitude of gratitude, we change our outlook on life and learn how to see all the blessings that God has given us.

Join us as we talk about being grateful, the Attitude of Gratitude, and share steps to implement it into your life.

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The 46th President of the United States has been declared. And while this is a victory for more than half the country, there are many who proclaim to be Christians who are not happy with the election results. But whatever side of the political aisle you fall on, we have work to do. Those of us who are determined to live lives that show the rest of the world who Jesus really is, we have work to do. It's time for the Church to be the Church. 

There are two things we are never supposed to discuss in polite company: politics and religion.

Well, buckle up because you're in for a ride! The latest episode of For Church Girls Only talks about the politics of religion, Christian responsibility in the voting process, and how we stay true to our Christian identity at the polls.

This episode is sponsored by the Influencer Activist Toolkit, a platform that teaches online content creators how to use their own platforms to advocate for diversity and inclusivity for all. Learn more about the Influencer Activist Toolkit and how you can get involved in advocacy here:

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What is your legacy?

The world lost acting great, Chadwick Boseman, on August 28, 2020. We had the honor to know him as Prince T'Challa, Jackie Robinson, Thurgood Marshall, James Brown, and so many more characters. Kids at St. Jude knew him as a real-life superhero who cared about them and wanted them to get better. In retrospect, we discovered that he was a real warrior and that he was fighting battles that none of us knew about.

In all of the roles he played, his greatest role was as a child of the true King, who lived out his purpose, glorifying God, and edifying the world in the time that he was given.

In this episode, we honor the talents that he shared with the world and the lessons and legacy that he left for the rest of us.

We all go through hard times. We have the examples of trials, tests, and tribulations in the Bible, but what does that look like for Church Girls today? Listen to this episode as we take a dive into how the enemy attacks us in modern times and how old school biblical warfare is still the best offense.

Scripture referenced in this episode:

Galatians 5:16

Romans 8:16

Matthew 5 (The Beatitudes)

Psalm 34:6

James 1:4

1 Corinthians 6 lists a number of sins that are guaranteed to get you into trouble. But is there a hierarchy of sins? In this episode, we discuss sins, which ones are worse than others, and how that doctrine alters our faith walk.

What do you do when you feel the call to buck the system? Church traditions are often not based in Scriptures but we have trouble navigating how to change things in order to advance the Kingdom. Listen in as Chara and Katherine talk about church traditions, how they impact the body, and the steps to take when you move forward in Christ.

Scriptures referenced: 

James 2:2-4

Romans 12:1

Matthew 25:14-30

Colossians 4:6

2 Timothy 2:15

Books referenced (referral links):

A Woman of Strength and Purpose by Cynthia Tobias - https://amzn.to/3gWjzFX

Seasoning Your Words by Nancy Eichman - https://amzn.to/2DLCkNA

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Life as a Christian is going to have its ups and downs. But how do we navigate sharing our joy in difficult times? Is it ok to be happy when others around you are going through trials? There is a difference between joy and happiness, and God is to be glorified in every season of our lives.

Listen in as we discuss what it's like to know joy when others are experiencing sadness and pain. Discover how to edify, and be edified, no matter where you are in life.

Scriptures referenced:

Joshua 7:19-26

James 1:2-3

Romans 12:15

The world is living through 2 pandemics: COVID-19 and racism. Facing these issues that affect every facet and segment of our society, it is taking a toll on the mental health of our communities.  

Join us as we talk with Dr. Malaika Brown, Ph.D. (malaikadbrown.com), and our honorary "girlfriend" Jermaine Shorter (insideoutliving.org) as we talk about surviving the pandemic, how it's affecting our collective mental health, and the responsibility of the church in the midst of it all.

Symbols, Meat, and Leggings vs Pants...well, maybe not that last fight...

There is so much going on in the world. 2020 is winning its own awards for being in a special kind of shambles. But with everyone being affected or discriminated against in some shape, form, or fashion, how can we possibly keep up? We each have our own battles and we don't have time to be worried about what another community is dealing with. Or do we?

Join Chara and Katherine as they discuss what it looks like to love those who don't look, think, or believe as we do, in a way that keeps Christ as the focus. 

Let's talk about church hurt.  

A concept that has been around since the beginning of the church, being hurt by members of the flock isn't anything new. 

Join us as we talk about church hurt, how it interrupts us, and how to reconcile it.  

Books mentioned in this episode:  

Seasoning Your Words: God's Recipe for Controlling Your Tongue by Nancy Eichman found here - https://amzn.to/302PD3F (referral link)  

A Woman of Strength and Purpose: Directing Your Strong Will to Improve Relationships, Expand Influence, and Honor God by Cynthia Tobias found here -  https://amzn.to/3gTJnBQn (referral link)

Do you have a good church girlfriend? Listen in as Chara and Katherine continue the conversation about the importance of having good church girlfriends. There are important traits that they should have to edify you and glorify God. Learn in what ways you can also develop to be a good church girlfriend to others.

Do you have a good church girlfriend? Listen in as Chara and Katherine discuss the importance of having good church girlfriends and the traits that they should have to edify you. Learn in what ways you can develop to be a good church girlfriend to others.

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In the wake of the civil unrest and racial tensions that have been ignited through the latest killing of an unarmed Black man, For Church Girls Only addresses the issues within our community, the responsibility of our White brothers and sisters in Christ to people of color, and what we need you to do to reconcile the pain in our communities.