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Prepare your daughters to respect the strength of your sons. She should treat their potential strength as actual strength.
Don’t put your daughters in a position where they are naive about the strength of men and the respect it deserves.
Reading to your kids every night is one of the best habits to have.
Start immediately after they are born, before they can hold their head up, before they can crawl, before they can read. The earlier the better.
Tips to get started and some book recommendations.
Marriage is not choosing your wife. It's choosing your wife every day.
What your wife wants is for you to have lots of other options…and then choose her, no matter what. To choose her every day. To come home every day.
She chose you when you were still a boy.
Choose her after you have become a man.
Interview with King David - The Quit Porn Strategist.
Porn is poison. It will cause you to rot from the inside and prevent you from enjoying life to the fullest.
David has made it his mission to help people quit porn for good. He shares why porn is so addicting, why treating it like drug addiction is useful, why real-time accountability is important, and some tips on what NOT to do if you find out your sons are looking at porn.
Check out his master class on how to quit watching porn: https://gumroad.com/a/459347059/WinfK
Find him on Twitter: https://twitter.com/KingDavidTKA
It’s hard to create a legacy without wealth. And by wealth, I mean valuable assets: real estate, investments, intellectual property, etc.
I wish I had discovered this secret 15 years ago.
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I’m pretty good with money. No credit card debt and I save up for big purchases.
Learn more about the solution here.
Are you having problems connecting with your children?
Ask them to teach you something.
If you ask them to teach you about something they love, they will not shut up about it. You will be drinking from the firehose.
A family is about a shared identity. It runs on something more important than money: shared obligations and responsibilities.
Your children should learn to fulfill their obligations without expecting any kind of monetary reward. Just like their father. Just like their mother.
How far our households have fallen. The word “economics” now needs the qualifier of “home” to have any semblance of its original source, despite having the meaning of “home” in the word itself!
Modern households have become places of personal fulfillment and entertainment. They used to be the core productive unit of society.
Boys should not learn how to attract women from their mother.
It’s like asking for a recipe and getting all of the measurements but with no ingredient names. Meaningless.
Fathers should take the lead on this. Which means they need to know what to teach and how to teach it.
You are a husband and a father. You have been invested with real authority and you don’t want to squander it anymore.
You want to change.
You want to lead. Like you are supposed to.
How do you do that?
Universal rules never change. House rules can vary from house to house, from town to town.
House rules are important. They will be part of what makes your family different, what defines its culture, and what helps form a legacy.
But remember to never conflate house rules with universal rules. Equating them does not elevate your house rules. It only lessens the universal rules in the eyes of your children. It drags them down.
As the father, you are responsible for your children’s education. As you attempt to manage this responsibility, you may decide to delegate part of it to others. Teachers would fall under this umbrella. And yes, this also means public school teachers.
As much as it is in your power, do not associate anything that is Good, Beautiful, and True with negative experiences. That association can last a lifetime. Maybe for generations.
Take care of the negative associations you create. You are cultivating their affections.
Our children are forgetting the past, and so they will be susceptible to manipulation by nefarious actors who seek to rewrite the past.
One thing you should do, starting from an early age, is to saturate them in a timeline of the history of the world.
Masculine men do not have the privilege of showing their emotions whenever it feels convenient. That is the realm of children and immature adults. Your life is not about your own personal emotional fulfillment.
Morale matters, in armies and in families. How and when you choose to show emotion will affect those under your care, whether you want it to or not.
Good leaders lay out their expectations clearly. In order to be a good father, you must do the same.
Don’t waffle. Don’t interject a bunch of “maybes.” Don’t qualify. Be a man and state your expectations clearly.
Having a house to clean, and that needs to be cleaned, is a blessing. A house that is always clean is just an elaborate tomb. It might look nice, but even tombstones can have a nice wreath of flowers hanging on them.
Where there are no children, the house is clean, but a legacy is passed on in the heart of a child.
There is a way to pursue masculinity that is the opposite of masculinity.
Doing the hard work of leading your wife and children is the ultimate in masculine responsibility. If you fail to do it, it doesn’t matter what you can bench or squat.
The goal was to have a wife so capable that he could put his entire trust in her. If she became industrious and diligent, and she said something in relation to her domain, he would not hesitate to obey that word.
There can be no neutrality. There is no “secular” education that refuses to impose a standard of right and wrong on its students. In order to qualify as “education”, some standard of righteousness will always be promoted.
If you send your kids to be educated by Romans, don’t be surprised when they pledge their allegiance to Caesar.
Discipline is a muscle and laziness is a drug. A good, time-boxed challenge works as both an exercise for your discipline and detox for your laziness.
It doesn't matter what type of challenge you do. Anything works. The gains you get from doing the work will bleed into other areas of your life.
If you break down the fences of patriarchy, which enclosed a wide-open space where good things could run free, you instead get chains and shackles bound to the center. Everyone is huddled together, scared to move, a hunted expression on their faces.
Nothing is free. Nothing is wild. All are in subjection to fear.
Do not trust Netflix. In fact, you shouldn’t put your trust in any of the media-entertainment complex.
Companies are beginning to get bolder in their attempts to corrupt. Parents are getting lazier in their defenses. A dangerous combination.
I cover my system of writing things down on index cards and what it has to do with fatherhood.
Ryan Holiday's system: https://ryanholiday.net/the-notecard-system-the-key-for-remembering-organizing-and-using-everything-you-read/
When you are dealing with your children, you should encourage them to obey the spirit of the law. If you know they have tried to do that, then the letter of the law doesn’t matter so much. Give them credit.
Are 13% of boys really mentally dysfunctional? When it comes to boys, we are using the wrong measuring stick. Our societal OCD demands everyone fit into a single mold, but that way lies madness.
What can you do if your own boy is hard to teach?
Male friendship is one of the tragic casualties of the sexual revolution. What can we do about this?
Anthony Esolen's article: https://www.touchstonemag.com/archives/article.php?id=18-07-021-f&__s=pdbs8icngri8ke5fgpmn
A church full of eunuchs is easier to manage. This is why we have made the Bible boring and castrated.
But the Bible contains the greatest epic of all time, and it is meant to help create dangerous men.