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Foundation Father

Foundation Father

By Matt
Become a better father. A podcast about fatherhood, leadership at home, ancient wisdom, educating our children, and masculinity. Build a foundation for your great-great-grandchildren foundationfather.com
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Respecting the Strength of Her Brothers
Prepare your daughters to respect the strength of your sons. She should treat their potential strength as actual strength. Don’t put your daughters in a position where they are naive about the strength of men and the respect it deserves.
02:58
July 22, 2021
The Best Habit to Build as a Father
Reading to your kids every night is one of the best habits to have. Start immediately after they are born, before they can hold their head up, before they can crawl, before they can read. The earlier the better. Tips to get started and some book recommendations.
03:31
July 15, 2021
Choosing Your Wife Everday
Marriage is not choosing your wife.  It's choosing your wife every day. What your wife wants is for you to have lots of other options…and then choose her, no matter what. To choose her every day. To come home every day. She chose you when you were still a boy. Choose her after you have become a man.
02:13
July 12, 2021
King David - The Quit Porn Strategist
Interview with King David - The Quit Porn Strategist.  Porn is poison. It will cause you to rot from the inside and prevent you from enjoying life to the fullest. David has made it his mission to help people quit porn for good. He shares why porn is so addicting, why treating it like drug addiction is useful, why real-time accountability is important, and some tips on what NOT to do if you find out your sons are looking at porn. Check out his master class on how to quit watching porn: https://gumroad.com/a/459347059/WinfK Find him on Twitter: https://twitter.com/KingDavidTKA
01:05:14
July 7, 2021
Growing Generational Wealth
It’s hard to create a legacy without wealth. And by wealth, I mean valuable assets: real estate, investments, intellectual property, etc. I wish I had discovered this secret 15 years ago. Grow your cash, tax-free, at a guaranteed rate Help pay off your bad debt while growing your pool of money Bypass banks to fund your big purchases (cars, mortgage down payments, etc) Provide emergency cash when needed Help fund your other investments Reclaim opportunity cost Take care of your family in the case of your untimely death I’m pretty good with money. No credit card debt and I save up for big purchases. Learn more about the solution here.
04:36
July 1, 2021
The Secret to Making Your Wife More Beautiful (Overnight)
If you could instantly make your wife more beautiful overnight, would you do it? It's in your power.
06:45
June 28, 2021
Love is not Inclusive
Love creates boundaries. It sets up exclusionary relationships. Those you love have a claim on your time. They have a claim on your attention. They have a claim on your strength and treasure.
02:07
June 24, 2021
Ask Them to Teach
Are you having problems connecting with your children? Ask them to teach you something. If you ask them to teach you about something they love, they will not shut up about it. You will be drinking from the firehose.
03:30
June 22, 2021
Replace a “No” with a “Yes”
You will be forced to say “no” to your children for various reasons. But that doesn’t mean you can’t give them something else.
01:14
June 17, 2021
Chores and Money, Identity and Obligation
A family is about a shared identity. It runs on something more important than money: shared obligations and responsibilities. Your children should learn to fulfill their obligations without expecting any kind of monetary reward. Just like their father. Just like their mother.
02:11
June 14, 2021
Basic Financial Education for Your Children
You can start the financial education of your children early. And the earlier the better. It doesn’t have to be elaborate.
04:12
June 10, 2021
Make Home Economics Redundant
How far our households have fallen. The word “economics” now needs the qualifier of “home” to have any semblance of its original source, despite having the meaning of “home” in the word itself! Modern households have become places of personal fulfillment and entertainment. They used to be the core productive unit of society.
02:05
June 7, 2021
Mothers do not Know How to Attract Women
Boys should not learn how to attract women from their mother. It’s like asking for a recipe and getting all of the measurements but with no ingredient names. Meaningless. Fathers should take the lead on this. Which means they need to know what to teach and how to teach it.
04:06
June 2, 2021
Reclaiming Authority as a Husband and Father
You are a husband and a father. You have been invested with real authority and you don’t want to squander it anymore. You want to change. You want to lead. Like you are supposed to. How do you do that? Start small.
04:01
May 27, 2021
House Rules vs. Universal Rules
Universal rules never change. House rules can vary from house to house, from town to town. House rules are important. They will be part of what makes your family different, what defines its culture, and what helps form a legacy. But remember to never conflate house rules with universal rules. Equating them does not elevate your house rules. It only lessens the universal rules in the eyes of your children. It drags them down.
03:20
May 24, 2021
Teachers are Agents of the Father
As the father, you are responsible for your children’s education. As you attempt to manage this responsibility, you may decide to delegate part of it to others. Teachers would fall under this umbrella. And yes, this also means public school teachers.
02:40
May 20, 2021
Don’t Associate the Good with the Negative
As much as it is in your power, do not associate anything that is Good, Beautiful, and True with negative experiences. That association can last a lifetime. Maybe for generations. Take care of the negative associations you create. You are cultivating their affections.
03:09
May 17, 2021
Teach a History Timeline
Our children are forgetting the past, and so they will be susceptible to manipulation by nefarious actors who seek to rewrite the past. One thing you should do, starting from an early age, is to saturate them in a timeline of the history of the world.
04:19
April 21, 2021
The House of Mourning
Death is an inevitable part of life. Our children should grow up saturated in this truth. "It is better to go to the house of mourning..."
02:40
April 13, 2021
The Selfishness of Showing Emotion
Masculine men do not have the privilege of showing their emotions whenever it feels convenient. That is the realm of children and immature adults. Your life is not about your own personal emotional fulfillment. Morale matters, in armies and in families. How and when you choose to show emotion will affect those under your care, whether you want it to or not.
05:36
April 9, 2021
Let Their No be No
You provide them a safe space for them to fail, so they come to no real harm and the consequences are minor…but fail they must. And there should be consequences.
01:53
April 7, 2021
Set Clear Expectations
Good leaders lay out their expectations clearly. In order to be a good father, you must do the same. Don’t waffle. Don’t interject a bunch of “maybes.” Don’t qualify. Be a man and state your expectations clearly.
03:58
April 6, 2021
Where There are no Children, the House is Clean
Having a house to clean, and that needs to be cleaned, is a blessing. A house that is always clean is just an elaborate tomb. It might look nice, but even tombstones can have a nice wreath of flowers hanging on them. Where there are no children, the house is clean, but a legacy is passed on in the heart of a child.
03:35
March 26, 2021
When Masculinity is not Masculinity
There is a way to pursue masculinity that is the opposite of masculinity. Doing the hard work of leading your wife and children is the ultimate in masculine responsibility. If you fail to do it, it doesn’t matter what you can bench or squat.
02:59
March 24, 2021
A Wife So Valuable You Become Her Servant
The goal was to have a wife so capable that he could put his entire trust in her. If she became industrious and diligent, and she said something in relation to her domain, he would not hesitate to obey that word.
03:02
March 22, 2021
All Education is Religious Education
There can be no neutrality. There is no “secular” education that refuses to impose a standard of right and wrong on its students. In order to qualify as “education”, some standard of righteousness will always be promoted. If you send your kids to be educated by Romans, don’t be surprised when they pledge their allegiance to Caesar.
04:18
March 12, 2021
Do a 30-day Challenge
Discipline is a muscle and laziness is a drug. A good, time-boxed challenge works as both an exercise for your discipline and detox for your laziness. It doesn't matter what type of challenge you do. Anything works. The gains you get from doing the work will bleed into other areas of your life.
03:39
March 10, 2021
Smash the Patriarchy and You Get Tyranny
If you break down the fences of patriarchy, which enclosed a wide-open space where good things could run free, you instead get chains and shackles bound to the center. Everyone is huddled together, scared to move, a hunted expression on their faces. Nothing is free. Nothing is wild. All are in subjection to fear.
02:33
March 4, 2021
Do Not Trust Netflix with Your Children
Do not trust Netflix. In fact, you shouldn’t put your trust in any of the media-entertainment complex. Companies are beginning to get bolder in their attempts to corrupt. Parents are getting lazier in their defenses. A dangerous combination.
04:12
March 2, 2021
No Auto-Pilot for Parenting
Learn the type of soil that makes up your children's hearts. Each is unique. Parenting is a creative endeavor that cannot be put on auto-pilot.
03:29
February 25, 2021
You Do Not Choose Your Own Identity
We are not autonomous. Our many relationships define our identity.
04:40
February 23, 2021
Run the Risk of Investigation
Jane Austen offers some wisdom to fathers in her novel Mansfield Park. Value virtue over the appearance of virtue.
03:23
February 19, 2021
Write Things Down in a Commonplace Book
I cover my system of writing things down on index cards and what it has to do with fatherhood. Ryan Holiday's system: https://ryanholiday.net/the-notecard-system-the-key-for-remembering-organizing-and-using-everything-you-read/
05:04
February 18, 2021
For Men Only
Men need spaces away from the feminine, and boys need that space early. Spend time alone with your sons away from their mother and sisters.
02:56
February 17, 2021
Empathy and Immaturity
Empathy has been weaponized by the immature. It has become a power tool in the hands of those who want to be seen as helping victims. But you must refuse to be tyrannized by their sensibilities.
05:26
February 11, 2021
Teachable Moments Can Happen Anywhere
And they can be triggered by something as dumb as a Judge Judy marathon.
02:17
February 10, 2021
How to Play with Kids
Four tips for playing with kids and getting swept up in their imagination. A lesson from The Story of the Treasure Seekers.
03:47
February 9, 2021
Masculine Markers and the Language of a Culture
Fathers should be fluent in the language of masculinity, and boys must be able to express their masculinity in healthy ways.
04:40
February 8, 2021
Just Show Up
90% of fatherhood is showing up.
03:54
February 4, 2021
Rites of Passage for Your Sons
What does it mean to be a man? And how does a boy know when he has become a man? He needs a rite of passage to overcome. Masculinity must be sought out, hunted, and captured.
07:20
February 2, 2021
Have Your Child Memorize Anything in Four Steps
Have your children memorize things that are good, beautiful, and true. It doesn't matter if they understand it or not. Just get it in there. Understanding comes later. Creativity comes later.
05:52
January 29, 2021
Deflating the Balloon
Don't deflate the zeal of your sons as they set out to complete a task. Don't nitpick. Set the parameters and let them run wild and free.
02:52
January 27, 2021
Read to Speak
Read anything and everything to your kids, especially poetry, and you'll find that you have improved in public speaking.
01:46
January 26, 2021
Words That Live in the Bones
Your words should have weight to them. Treat them as if they mean something, and your children will follow that example. Do your best to keep every promise you make to them.
03:24
January 22, 2021
Let Older Men Be Useful
Men want to be used up and spend. They want to be respected for doing something useful, no matter their age. Do not let the older men in your life waste away.
02:42
January 20, 2021
Education is a Father’s Responsibility
Complaining and casting blame on something else is a failure of nerve. You are the captain. You are responsible. Do something about it.
02:38
January 18, 2021
Trust is Better than Accusation
Even if your kids lie and give you a reason not to trust them...you should trust first. Love covers a multitude of sins.
03:39
January 15, 2021
The Letter of the Law
When you are dealing with your children, you should encourage them to obey the spirit of the law. If you know they have tried to do that, then the letter of the law doesn’t matter so much. Give them credit.
03:29
January 14, 2021
Your Kids Are More Important Than Those Kids
Do not rob your children of your time, resources, and attention. They have a claim on you unique to anyone else in the universe.
04:50
January 13, 2021
Societal OCD and Boys with ADHD
Are 13% of boys really mentally dysfunctional? When it comes to boys, we are using the wrong measuring stick. Our societal OCD demands everyone fit into a single mold, but that way lies madness. What can you do if your own boy is hard to teach?
06:21
January 12, 2021
Friendship and Physical Affection are Dying
Male friendship is one of the tragic casualties of the sexual revolution. What can we do about this? Anthony Esolen's article: https://www.touchstonemag.com/archives/article.php?id=18-07-021-f&__s=pdbs8icngri8ke5fgpmn
04:26
January 7, 2021
The Poison of Family Secrets and Weak Husbands
Define your own position. Lead your family. Do not cower in fear from your wife's disapproval. And don't keep secrets.
03:49
January 6, 2021
The Attempted Sabotage of Samson
Many would like to nitpick Samson's methods rather than fight their enemies. Don't be like that.
03:52
January 5, 2021
You can Say “Because I Said So”
Do not let anyone shame you for saying it. Sometimes it is necessary.
03:18
January 4, 2021
The Bible is a Dangerous Book
A church full of eunuchs is easier to manage. This is why we have made the Bible boring and castrated. But the Bible contains the greatest epic of all time, and it is meant to help create dangerous men.
05:19
December 31, 2020
The One Way to Lift Up Other Fathers
How do we fight back against the tide of father-ridicule? What is the one thing you can do to show respect for other fathers around you?
03:41
December 30, 2020
The Real Blessing of Adult Sons
What does it actually mean to have a quiver of arrows? What is the key blessing of adult sons?
02:50
December 28, 2020
The Legacy of Jonadab
A legacy blesses the descendants, but God also blesses the father who started it.
02:57
December 24, 2020
5 Ways to Forge Sibling Bonds
Will the bonds they have with each other outlast your own influence? You better hope so.
04:50
December 23, 2020
How Your Children Are Some of Your Best Teachers
They are a mirror to your soul. Do you have the courage to look?
02:42
December 22, 2020
Keep Your Playfulness
A lack of playfulness in any institution almost always means systemic anxiety and emotional regression. Why so serious?
04:20
December 17, 2020
Your Are The Head
You are the head of your wife. Your only choice: be a good one or a bad one.
02:06
December 16, 2020
Write Letters to Your Children
Your written word might remain an artifact that lasts long after you are gone.
02:36
December 15, 2020
They Are But Dust
Your children have a fragile frame. They are but dust. We should have patience and compassion, much like our Heavenly Father has for us.
02:51
December 14, 2020
Fitness and Fatherhood
Your laziness and lack of discipline should not be the reason your kids become fatherless. Fitness is important. Just remember to lift your kids up more than you life weights.
05:51
December 11, 2020
Your Household Needs a Mission
Households were meant to be productive and children should work to help build the legacy you want to leave them.
05:02
December 10, 2020
Churchill's Father was Disappointed
What is the power of a father's simple approval?
03:46
December 9, 2020
Children Need Men to Teach Them
The task of teaching our children should not be consigned to the feminine. Both boys and girls need men to look up to.
03:43
December 8, 2020
Fathers are the Foundation of Everything
The title seems presumptuous. Is it? Listen to find out.
02:37
December 7, 2020