The Forward Healing Project
By Whitney Allen
The Forward Healing Project is a weekly podcast where we acknowledge the challenges and grief experienced with infertility and miscarriage. Through honest and real talk we will share stories, explore emotions and seek healing by reclaiming, redefining and renewing what it means to heal a hopeful heart.
Episode 58: Using Your Five Senses to Make Space
How to use your five senses to make space in your heart and go deeper in prayer.
September 06, 2022
Episode 57: Check Your Ecosystems
On how our emotional and spiritual ecosystems matter.
July 26, 2022
Episode 56: Carrying Weight You Don't Need to Carry
We need to let go of weight we do not need to carry.
May 31, 2022
Episode 55: Mother's Day is Hard
As we head into Mother's Day weekend, a few thoughts on how this is a hard weekend and it's ok to not be ok.
May 06, 2022
Episode 54: Choosing Happiness Inspired By Downton Abbey
This episode is inspired by an episode of Downton Abbey and the line, I am not unhappy, I am just not ready to be happy. Happiness is a choice, a hard choice, but a choice nonetheless.
April 12, 2022
Episode 53: Surrender But Don't Give Up
Surrendering to God does not mean we have to give up.
March 29, 2022
Episode 52: You Can't Get Here From There
We can't get to a place of healing while remaining in a place of sadness and despair. We must choose to move forward.
March 08, 2022
Episode 51: Watering the Desert Alone
Watering the desert is impossible but we try to do it and we try to do it alone, but we don't have to.
February 22, 2022
Episode 50: Healing Is Not Linear
Few things in life are linear, healing is not one of them
February 08, 2022
Episode 49: Embrace the Grace
In this episode I talk about the grace God gives us on our healing journey. Apologies for any dogs barking in the background :)
February 01, 2022
Episode 48: Feeling, Finding and Filling the Void Part 3 Filling the Void
In the third and final part of feeling, finding and filling the void I share how we can fill the void.
January 18, 2022
Episode 47: Feeling, Finding and Filling the Void Part 2 The Finding
Part two of a three part series on Feeling, Finding and Filling the Void
January 11, 2022
Episode 46: Part 1 Feeling of Feeling, Finding and Filling the Void
The first part of a three part series
January 04, 2022
Episode 45: I Hope
Closing the year with a shorter episode on Hope.
December 28, 2021
Episode 44: Wait With An Open Heart
Waiting is hard, we must do so with an open heart.
December 14, 2021
Episode 43: And The Soul Felt Its Worth
Remembering the reason for the season as a healing tool.
December 07, 2021
Episode 42: Through Not Over
Working through grief not past it. Healing takes time and we stumble but we can not forget we are working through the grief.
November 30, 2021
Episode 41: Your Story Matters
Our stories matter. This episode is about the healing power of sharing our stories and how it can help us heal and help us heal others. Side note: Apologies for the poor sound on this episode. I had to record on a lapel mic in a closet in a hotel. It's been a busy fall!
November 16, 2021
Episode 40: Trusting Your GPS
When we are lost along the way, we need to trust our GPS.
November 09, 2021
October 26 Update
Hello! I am so sorry but I am taking this week off but I will be back next week on November 2!
October 26, 2021
Episode 39: Trigger Season
Halloween, Thanksgiving, Christmas and New Years are right around the corner and with them come major triggers for those navigating infertility, miscarriage and childlessness. I outline a few tips and advice on how to prepare for Trigger Season.
October 19, 2021
Episode 38: The Joy Deficit
In this episode I discuss something I call the Joy Deficit. How we can all feel it and how we can begin to make it smaller.
October 12, 2021
Episode 37: Special Guest Interview with Brandi Lytle of Not So Mommy...
I had the great honor of interviewing Brandi Lytle, founder of Not So Mommy... creator of the olive green Childless Not By Choice Awareness Ribbon, Brandi is a wife, dog mom, aunt, host mom, and infertile woman who has redefined what momhood means to her. Not So Mommy…’s purpose is to support, educate, and advocate for the infertility & childless not by choice communities. Learn more about Brandi: https://notsomommy.com/childless-resources/ https://www.instagram.com/notsomommy/?hl=en https://issuu.com/tutumjournal
October 05, 2021
Episode 36: Stop the Spirals
Learn a few ways to stop the emotional spirals.
September 28, 2021
Episode 35: Special Guest Interview With a Fertility Dietician
Coutrney Warday is the founder and owner of Abide With Me Nutrition, Courtney is a Catholic wife and mother of two with a mission to bring hope to all women suffering the heavy cross of infertility and hormone imbalances. Both of these crosses she knows deeply and intimately. Courtney is a Registered Dietitian who received her bachelor's degree and master's degree at the University of Nebraska-Lincoln. She completed her Dietetic Internship at the University of Lincoln-Nebraska. And is a Registered Dietitian and Licensed Medical Nutrition Therapist. You can contact Courtney at email@example.com www.courtneywardayrd.com https://www.instagram.com/natural.fertility.dietitian/
September 21, 2021
Episode 34: Legacy and Letting Go
In this episode I talk about getting older and the fears of losing our legacy without someone to hand our possessions and legacy to.
September 14, 2021
Episode 33: The Plans We Make
This episode I talk about the plans we make and the plans makes for us.
September 07, 2021
Episode 32: The Worst Best Advice
In this episode I share the worst best advice I was given on my path to forward healing.
August 31, 2021
Podcast Update Message
I will not be posting a podcast this week but wanted to hop on and let you know what's in store for next week...the worst, best advice I was given on this journey.
August 24, 2021
Episode 31: Fitting In vs Belonging
This episode we unpack the difference between fitting in and belonging on the path to forward healing.
August 17, 2021
Episode 30: The Shoulder Wound
This week's episode is how we can all relate to the Shoulder Wound of Christ through our healing and grieving journey.
August 10, 2021
Episode 29: Faith Over Fear Healing Tools Part 3 of 3: Embrace the Suck
The last of a three-part series on using healing tools that place faith over fear.
August 03, 2021
Episode 28: Faith Over Fear Healing Tools Part 2 of 3: Gratitude
A powerful faith over fear healing tool is gratitude, and a special kind of gratitude, belligerent gratitude.
July 27, 2021
Episode 27: Faith Over Fear Healing Tools Part 1 of 3
This is the first of a three part series on healing tools that let you choose faith over fear on the path to Forward Healing.
July 20, 2021
Episode 26: Relying on God on the Path to Forward Healing
What does it mean to rely on God, to have a relationship with Him on this journey? I am just beginning to figure it out. Listen in on my insights on how we must reply on God to find true healing.
July 13, 2021
The Forward Healing Project is Taking Two Weeks Off
I will be taking two weeks off for some family time and an eight day silent retreat. The next episode will come out July 13. Please pray for me and I will be praying for all the listeners. If you have a special prayer request please send me a message on Instagram or email me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
June 23, 2021
Episode 25: It's Complicated
This episode is on how to walk with your friends dealing with miscarriage, infertility and childlessness when announcing a pregnancy. And it's complicated.
June 22, 2021
BONUS Prayer Mini-Episode: The Litany of Humility
The Litany of Humility can be a powerful way to move towards Forward Healing, surrender and consolation.
June 17, 2021
Episode 24: Tears of Consolation
This episode I talk about the incredible healing that comes from tears when we surrender our suffering to God.
June 15, 2021
Episode 23: Pregnancy After Miscarriage-A Special Guest Interview
In today's special guest interview I sit down with a good friend of mine, Erin Phillips, to talk about the emotional challenges of a pregnancy after a miscarriage. Show Notes: BaptiCatholic Show https://open.spotify.com/show/75pnuqMQEOoTgHqE0ulSlZ?si=XZD5BNu9SK6OxUfN1hMPcw
June 08, 2021
Episode 22: Be Here Now
This episode we explore the importance of being in the present moment along the forward healing process. Contact: www.theforwardhealingproject.com email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org Instagram/forwadhealingproject Instagram/healinghopefulhearts Twitter/forwardhealing
June 01, 2021
Episode 21: Nunc Coepi- Now I Begin
This episode I talk about the meaning and the power of the phrase Nunc Coepi. Show notes: https://www.omvusa.org/bruno-lanteri/about-bruno-lanteri/spirituality/nunc-coepi/ https://www.si.com/nfl/colts/news/colts-qb-philip-rivers-explains-nunc-coepi Contact: www.theforwardhealingproject.com email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org Instagram/forwadhealingproject Instagram/healinghopefulhearts Twitter/forwardhealing
May 25, 2021
Episode 20: Special Guest Interview on Secondary Infertility
Secondary infertility is confusing, painful and frustrating and often misunderstood. Join me this week with special guest, Katie Wood of The Joyful Leap https://www.instagram.com/thejoyfulleap/ and author of Waiting With Mary: A Seven Sorrows Devotional for Catholic Women Facing Infertility. https://www.lulu.com/en/us/shop/kathryn-wood/waiting-with-mary-a-seven-sorrows-devotional-for-catholic-women-facing-infertility/paperback/product-1gqgzvmq.html?page=1&pageSize=4 Contact: www.theforwardhealingproject.com email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org Instagram/forwadhealingproject Instagram/healinghopefulhearts Twitter/forwardhealing
May 18, 2021
Episode 19: The Opposite of Love
In this week's episode we take a look at the emotional trap of indifference and how love can heal our wounds. Contact: www.theforwardhealingproject.com email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org Instagram/forwadhealingproject Instagram/healinghopefulhearts Twitter/forwardhealing
May 11, 2021
Episode 18: The Hardest Day of the Year
This episode is about the emotional challenges of navigating mother's day when you are dealing with infertility, miscarriage, childlessness and the loss of a mother. Show Notes: https://www.americamagazine.org/faith/2019/05/11/what-not-do-during-mothers-day-mass https://www.americamagazine.org/faith/2021/04/22/women-bibile-infertility-scripture-240494 Contact: www.theforwardhealingproject.com email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org Instagram/forwadhealingproject Instagram/healinghopefulhearts Twitter/forwardhealing
May 04, 2021
CORRECT EDITED VERSION Episode 14: You Don't Know What You Don't Know: Infertility and Miscarriage 101
CORRECTION: I am so sorry I misspoke when this was originally published and I switched the time frames for infertility if you are under or over 35. I have edited this podcast with the corrected information that infertility is defined as the inability to conceive on natural cycles after one year of trying for a woman who is under 35 and six months for a woman that is over 35. My deepest apologies. This episode I walk through some of the statistics, options and realities of miscarriage, infertility and treatments. This is a high level overview, a 101 where i try to cover some of he most common terms and issues one might encounter on their journey. Resources and References: https://www.amazon.com/Infertility-Companion-Catholics-Spiritual-Practical/dp/1594712891 https://ascensionpress.com/products/infertility-and-reproductive-technologies-a-guide-for-catholics-pamphlet?variant=7553709309988¤cy=USD&utm_medium=product_sync&utm_source=google&utm_content=sag_organic&utm_campaign=sag_organic&utm_campaign=gs-2020-10-16&utm_source=google&utm_medium=smart_campaign&gclid=CjwKCAjw6qqDBhB-EiwACBs6x320tQfjC4RV7hRYgSssYo3C_0kn1jAAg9jxS9yuXz6-U1_HtpTSnhoCe2oQAvD_BwE https://verilymag.com/2019/03/ttc-infertility-treatment-that-is-cheaper-better-than-ivf-napro-technology-2019 https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC6027082/ https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/29946210/
April 29, 2021
Episode 17 Mother of Souls: The Gift of Spiritual Motherhood
In this episode I take a look at what Spiritual Motherhood is and how all women are called to motherhood. Show Notes: https://carmelitesistersocd.com/2014/spiritual-motherhood/ https://lifeteen.com/cym/blog/spiritual-motherhood-2/ http://www.vatican.va/content/john-paul-ii/en/apost_letters/1988/documents/hf_jp-ii_apl_19880815_mulieris-dignitatem.html http://www.vatican.va/content/john-paul-ii/en/letters/1995/documents/hf_jp-ii_let_29061995_women.html Thomas Merton Conjunctures of a Guilty Bystander Contact: www.theforwardhealingproject.com email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org Instagram/forwadhealingproject Instagram/healinghopefulhearts Twitter/forwardhealing
April 27, 2021
Episode 16: The Healing Power of Silence
This week's episode is about the healing power of silence. I share a part of my journey into the discovery of silence and the gifts we can find there. I also share some practical tips you can use each day to start a practice into finding silence in your life and how it can provide healing. Notes: The Power of Silence Against the Dictatorship of Noise by Robert Cardinal Sarah with Nicolas Diat Ignatianspirituality.com https://www.jesuits.org/our-work/retreat-centers/ www.theforwardhealingproject.com email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org Instagram/forwadhealingproject Instagram/healinghopefulhearts Twitter/forwardhealing
April 20, 2021
Episode 15: Saying Our Goodbyes: Miscarriage Burials and Services: Special Guest Interview
In this special guest interview episode I interview Fran Boarders, the manager at Calvary Cemetery in Lexington, KY on the importance of the burial and remembrance services, naming your baby, and how we all grieve differently. Fran walks me through how people can utilize he cemetery and work with the hospital to collect their lost little one to be prepared for a burial. Sound note: We were wearing masks and social distanced so the sound is a little different than usual but we were being safe! Additional Notes: St. Joseph Hospital in Lexington, KY videos the services where peopled to not attend and have it available for those families to view the service. https://cdlex.org/calvary-cemetery https://www.wordonfire.org/resources/blog/to-jesus-through-mary-why-yes-and-twas-ever-thus/5970/ www.theforwardhealingproject.com email@example.com firstname.lastname@example.org Instagram/forwadhealingproject Instagram/healinghopefulhearts Twitter/forwardhealing
April 13, 2021
BONUS EPISODE: Praying the Seven Sorrows Rosary
In this episode, along with my good friend Meg Edwards Schneider, I pray the Seven Sorrows Rosary. I use the version you can find on Churchpop.com https://www.churchpop.com/2020/09/14/how-to-pray-the-7-sorrows-rosary-our-ladys-miraculous-promises-according-to-a-visionary/
April 03, 2021
Episode 13: Healing Through Sorrow with the Seven Sorrows of Mary
In this episode we look at the Seven Sorrows of Mary and how we can find healing through pain. References: Your Sorrow is My Sorrow by Joyce Rupp Waiting with Mary: A Seven Sorrows Devotional for Catholic Women facing Infertility by Kathryn Wood Article by James Finley https://cac.org/exploring-the-mystics-with-james-finley-weekly-summary-2017-10-14/ How to pray the seven sorrows rosary: https://www.churchpop.com/2020/09/14/how-to-pray-the-7-sorrows-rosary-our-ladys-miraculous-promises-according-to-a-visionary/ Send comments and questions to email@example.com or firstname.lastname@example.org Follow me on Instagram at @forwardhealingproject and @healinghopefulhearts Twitter at @forwardhealing www.theforwardhealingproject.com
March 30, 2021
Episode 12: Compare and Despair
This episode unpacks how when we compare what other's have to what we desire, we despair. And of course we look at how we can find forward healing in this space. Send comments and questions to email@example.com or firstname.lastname@example.org Follow me on Instagram at @forwardhealingproject and @healinghopefulhearts Twitter at @forwardhealing www.theforwardhealingproject.com
March 23, 2021
Episode 11: The Adoption Option- Special Guest Interview
This month's guest interview is with Rachel Richards. Rachel is an old friend and one with a difficult infertility and miscarriage story that led to the beautiful adoption of her son. Join us as we discuss the fears around adoption, trusting your heart and how the wounds of infertility and miscarriage never leave us but as always, there's hope. Rachel is a life coach and you can find her at https://sunnythelifecoach.com/ She also has her own podcast called What Light's You Up https://sunnythelifecoach.libsyn.com/ Send comments and questions to email@example.com or firstname.lastname@example.org Follow me on Instagram at @forwardhealingproject and @healinghopefulhearts Twitter at @forwardhealing www.theforwardhealingproject.com
March 16, 2021
Episode 10:The Power of the Non-Negotiable
Non-negotiables are that which is not open to discussion or amendment. We can use non-negotiables as we define what we can and can not, what we will and will not, allow into our space as we grieve and try to heal. They can also be used to create physical, emotional and spiritual space to bring you peace and a quiet space to hear God. www.theforwardhealingproject.com email@example.com Twitter @forwardhealing Instagram/Forwardhealingproject
March 09, 2021
Episode 9: Shame Is a Lie
When we feel flawed or less than or that we are not keeping up with everyone else we can feel shame. And shame leads is to believe we are unworthy of love. Listen to hear some of my own personal struggles with shame and how I was able to overcome them. Web: theforwardhealingproject.com Email: firstname.lastname@example.org email@example.com Twitter: @forwardhealing Instagram.com/healinghopefulhearts Instagram.com/forwardhealingproject
March 02, 2021
Episode 8: The Male Perspective-Special Guest Interview
This episode I am joined by three awesome men who agreed to share their perspective in miscarriage and infertility. This was my first interview so I am thankful to these men for their generosity and candor as they walked together in sharing the male perspective. www.theforwardhealingproject.com firstname.lastname@example.org Twitter@forwardhealing Instagram.com/The Forward Healing Project
February 23, 2021
Episode 7: Isolation Island
We were made for each other. We were made for community so when something makes us different we can become isolated. Infertility, miscarriage and childlessness can make you isolated and kicked out of the tribe. Walk with me as we look at the challenges of isolation and finding a new tribe. www.theforwardhealingproject.com email@example.com Instagram.com/forwardhealingproject Twitter.com/forwardhealing
February 16, 2021
Episode 6 What Self Care Really Looks Like
This episode unpacks what self care should look like, it is loving and creates growth. www.theforwardhealingproject.com firstname.lastname@example.org Instagram.com/forwardhealingproject Twitter @forwardhealing Notes: Litany of Humility: https://ascensionpress.com/pages/litany-of-humility James Finley Quote: https://myemail.constantcontact.com/Richard-Rohr-s-Meditation--John-of-the-Cross--Part-II--The-Dark-Night.html?soid=1103098668616&aid=iKJi6fcLP-I Seven Sorrows Rosary: https://www.marian.org/mary/prayers/sorrows.php Novena to St Jude: https://www.praymorenovenas.com/st-jude-novena Novena to St Gerard: https://www.praymorenovenas.com/novena-to-saint-gerard
February 09, 2021
Episode 5: What We Lose and What We Gain
We unpack the things we lose with infertility and miscarriage but also take a look at what we gain. www.theforwardhealingproject.com email@example.com Instagram.com/ForwardHealingProject
February 02, 2021
Episode 4: Boundaries: You Shall Not Pass
Drawing boundaries to communicate and heal.
January 26, 2021
Episode 3: The Double Edged Sword of Hope
In today's episode I talk about hope, what we think it means, what it really means, and how we can be wounded by it or use it to slay despair. Send comments or questions to firstname.lastname@example.org Show Notes: Catechism of the catholic Church (CCC) 1817-1820 Thomas Merton: No Man is and Island follow TFHP on Instagram @forwardheaingproject www.theforwarhealingproject.com
January 19, 2021
Episode 2: The Other Side of Expectation
This episode we discuss how expectations can be dangerous if we fail to communicate and where joy can be found. I'd love to hear from you. Send questions and comments to email@example.com
January 12, 2021
Episode 1: The Who, The What and The Why
A brief breakdown of who this podcast is for, what we will be discussing the the reasons we need to have more conversations about infertility and miscarriage. Send questions and comments to firstname.lastname@example.org
January 05, 2021
The Forward Healing Project Trailer
An introduction to The Forward Healing Project podcast I'd love to hear from you. Send questions and comments to email@example.com
December 16, 2020