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Free Range Thinking - A Neurodiversity Podcast

Free Range Thinking - A Neurodiversity Podcast

By Free Range Thinking - A Neurodiversity Podcast

Your hosts Sharon Leigh and Alex Kahl take Neurodiversity as a starting point for the conversation. Aaaaaand go right off into the weeds and down different rabbit holes ;)

One of our first goals with the podcast is to find some languaging and words around the whole topic of Neurodiversity.

So please send us your feedback, your questions, your experiences with Neurodiverstiy, your languaging around it and everything else you think we should talk about.

Sharon's LinkedIn is: www.linkedin.com/in/sharon-leigh-pp4l/
and you can reach Alex via mail@alex-kahl.de
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017 The Indiana Croft and Lara Jones Mindset - or: Treasure Hunt for Mistakes and Resiliency

Free Range Thinking - A Neurodiversity PodcastMar 20, 2023

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S02E27 - Anne-Laure le Cunff - Mindful Productivity, Liminal Minds and Nesslabs

S02E27 - Anne-Laure le Cunff - Mindful Productivity, Liminal Minds and Nesslabs

Greetings Friends! This is a very special Episode for us becaauuuse: Anne-Laure le Cunff and her mindful productivity community nesslabs.com are somehow the reason why this Podcast exists :)


So we are talking about:


Ripple effects and Anne-Laure's topics


NessLabs.com

Mindful Productivity - achieve goals without risking you mental health

Her Newsletter

Her research about ADHD and neurodiverse online learning experience at Kings College Lab in London

How she gets evertyhing together in a book for 2024?

tbd title: Liminal Minds


limimal is the threshold inbetween things like teenage and adulthood, between relationship and breakup, between uncertainty and discomfort


teach people to

feel better

think better

live better


a node in the network

see yourself as a translator


do neurodiverse people have more experience with being in this liminal state?

mindful productivity vs toxic productivity

building overwhelming procrastinating systems in notion or obsidian

neurodivere people tend to try to get control

happy in swimming in this massive pool of ideas and thinking and creativity and artistic are not the same thing


nurture vs nature


liminal states and spaces in school


conducting scientific expermients



**conducting an experiment**

1. a topics you are TOTALLY fascinated by

doesnt have to be useul

2. conducting experiments

what are deifferent modalities to study this?

online class, study group, Workshops, Classes

3. collecting data and reflecting on that

**metacognition = thinking about thinking**

pattern noticing, take notes, capture obersavtions

how was i feeling? engaged? too slow, too fast? people around me distracting or engaging? when teacher said "imagine this"


let an AI like chatGPT look for patterns in it - is their corresponding to anything


self discovery with chatGPT


kids who wish for more silence and retreats in the classroom

- psychology of eventmanagement

- higher loads of what is asked of us

- constantly socially engaged


how was Anne-Laure's eductaion?


please write us for Anne-Laure:

what is your next exxperiment

newsletter at https://nesslabs.com



Future of Learning

School of the future



You can find Anne-Laure at:

https://nesslabs.com

https://www.linkedin.com/company/nesslabs/

https://youtube.com/TellMeMoreAnneLaure

https://twitter.com/ness_labs

https://instagram.com/ness_labs

Oct 31, 202354:01
S02E26 - Steve Chapman - I am a Curator of Weirdos

S02E26 - Steve Chapman - I am a Curator of Weirdos

aaaand we have another wonderful conversation from summer with Steve Chapman


All his art, content, Podcast, talks and wonderful things can be found at:

CAN SCORPIONS SMOKE?

https://www.canscorpionssmoke.com/innercriticonline/


We start with the question:

Why does Steve do the stuff he does?

he lost touch with his intrinsic side until around 35 years

He doesn't make stuff because of the fun because he cant not do them


Example: February Challenge


A Project is like a Flower.

Start and End of a project is just in our minds

everaything is always becoming


because of Dyslexia Steve sees himself as a very good improviser


Do you think it is possible to start an organization to give people like us a "Job"


The projections people put on art

self saboteurs


Education and Kids


4 philosphies as guidance :)

as soon you say 3 things in a talk people get out their pen and papers

1. be fascinated (not only interested!) swim in sharky waters

2. open windows in your world so people can SEE you working fascinated (Andy Matuschak) - interestred papers are interesting

3. learn to live without your means - it is not gonna happen

4. hang out with weirdos and outsiders - self taughts


The Book - It sounds like a lot of micro burning mans


weirdos meet and sparks mor inspiration and fascination


creative resilience talk

the community of outsiders


Popup Radio Station


the portsmouth symphonia - a Talk

Also sprach Zarathustra https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hpJ6anurfuw


Inexpert conference

the Inexpert Conference a structure

steve coached the speaker

get as much into a place of not knowing on stage

https://www.canscorpionssmoke.com/inexpert/


Sound of Silence

the dyslexic monkey mind brought out

the podcast 2 minutes of recorded silence with special guests

100 episodes


The paradox of not knowing

you cannot get good at it because then you would be knowing


"You cant sepnd anytime in nature without being surrounded by death and decay."

Who trains our muscles of stopping or walking away

the quality of the compost


the more it gets a familiar discomfort...

existential philosophy

ernest becker denying death "humans fear impermancne and insignificance" - everything is an immortality project


Book - Rooted - Lyanda Lee Haupt


on a scale of 1 to 10 what is your fear of death


experiment in B2B:

find a team that is open to doing stuff differently - introduce a agenda item "2 minutes and contemplate in which order they would die"


philosophize THIS


Steves Childhood and school

writing stories

the tea group - 4 days for 10 hours with 16 people and 2 fascilitators



what are some signs of the discomfort

feeling like being musunderstood and no logic will help

Zen Monk - Psychotherapist


3 zen monk trades

- bare witness

- not knowing

- compassionate action


the obstacle becomes the path


Sharons Mom:

Raised with the concept of honorable witnessing



Imagine you are the finished article


be inspirable

and retain a childlike level of openness


not wanting to die is kind of Ego-based


The great pause and its opportunities


Imagine the world without humans for 60 seconds

calm the distrubed and disturbed the calms


pandemic was the invitaiotn to do ANYTHING


Keith Johnson -. dont try to be celver - your job is just to be obvious


creative adventures

with the inner critic


Steve's TED Talk https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lnf-Ka3ZmOM

This talk isn't very good. Dancing with my inner critic at TEDxRoyalTunbridgeWells


I AM A CURATOR OF WEIRDOS




Oct 17, 202301:28:48
S02E25 - Perry Knoppert and we have a wonderful weird conversation

S02E25 - Perry Knoppert and we have a wonderful weird conversation

// NEURODIVERSITY AT WORK UPDATE: The last upload didn't work correctly. Know you have the FULL 90 minutes :-)

//

Greetings Friends!

We are back from our Summer Hiatus and we are back with a BANG!

In this EPisode we talk with Perry - Dr. Octopus - Knoppert the founder of the global Octopus Movement and what a blast we had with Perry.

A wonderful and weird conversation about:

Dyslexia, ADHD, just different

How Perry did a hard reset

Awesomeness of the atypical thinker

Multipotentialite, Scanner, Zebras

Or ALL the curious misfits as Perry calls them

a different brain solves everything

Octopus Documentary

Octopus Movement has 5000 members already

Occupy - Apple Pie - Octopy

ASML semiconductor company in Eindhoven

When Perry tried to get a Philips MRI Machine to see how we are wired?

Meeting Temple Grandin

HSP People

what would be the first thing you would do with an MRI machine?

a system from the think tank

a digital whiteboard workshop

rethinking intelligence whitepaper was made in 2 hours time

companies can access the octopus global nonlinear brain

nobodoy studio - creating 100 companis in 5 years

the solution to climate change is not a technical solution but a people solution

⁠The Art of Life YouTube Documentary ⁠

Captain Kirk and Captain Picard Dialogue in Star Trek Generations

The power of asking for weird strange things

the linearity in society

BOOKS

Erich Fromm - Fear of Freedom

Sand Talk - How indeginous Thinking can save the World

Nomads - with Anotony Satin

nomadic DNA linked to ADHD

Nomads are Generalist

intellectual nomad

⁠Brain Lunch comversation with Anthony Sattin about his Book Nomads ⁠

the balance is too much towards linearity

Invitation to the Life Lab

the catalyst that brought us together: Anne-Laure le Cunff

⁠Perry's Pickmybrain Profile⁠

and ⁠Alex started one as well⁠ :-D

aaaand

the new service ⁠Pick my Neurodiverse Brain⁠

The wonder of Postcards and phyiscal things

Send us your addresses if you want a postcard from Sharon

⁠Dr Octopus drinking coffee with guest

Oct 15, 202301:38:03
S02E24 - Just a short Hello ;)

S02E24 - Just a short Hello ;)

We just chatted on this one and just recorded these short greetings :)

Jul 17, 202305:03
033 - How imagining takes the shock away - Jane McGonigal

033 - How imagining takes the shock away - Jane McGonigal

travelling as a neurodivergent


being overwhelmed by people

or

by expectation


preloading energy


segway into


Book: IMAGINABLE

by Jane McGonigal

course at stanford


muscles for imagination are very well developed in sharon


Sparring in Martial Arts takes the Shock away

like imagining takes the shock away


preparing for blackouts, anxiety


Prepare to being rediculous


Nature and Nurture


Raise kids being on the spectrum

it bothers us but it doesnt stop us


Montessori


Trust


female human animals are people pleasuers

trust own instincts and trust their own selfs

- freunde finden, freunde verlieren, angst davor ablegen, alleine sein


neurodivergent have more experience with taking a punch into the face

"thats the way society is"


as a neurodivergent in FRANCE

with all that kissing on the cheek :)


how much energy it takes to meat the demands of sucial and cultural


idea

RENT A NEURODIVERGENT

a Mediator

"What is your wicked problem?"


TV Series like Scorpion


underapprciated skillsets

like seeing around corners


Penetration testing for Business Models


https://tim.blog/2022/03/16/jane-mcgonigal-imaginable/

Jul 17, 202301:28:38
032 Resources for Neurodiversity

032 Resources for Neurodiversity

Don't take anything as gospel!

Analogy: Neurodiversities as Flavors

paté de canada with corn chips and sour cherry

keep your mind open - you know you! you GET TO know you!

ADD/ADS without the Hyperactivity

back off from diagnosis self assessment get to know yourself

don't be too serious about it

self-diagnosing bashing

mac gyvering your way through life

ask on reddit: what neurodiversities do you have that are lesser known?

sharon's mom knew SO much AND was SO competent in using that knowledge 

NEVER tell them they are stupid but find out how they understand the world in a different way

so since most people haven't won the life lottery like sharon with her mom we have more tips:

Sharon's sister: "You are two-faced" and meet yourself for the first time

if a teacher tells you "you cant do it" you can answer "maybe you are just not the right teacher for me"

https://concreteplayground.com/brisbane/arts-entertainment/hannah-gadsby-body-of-work-netflix-special

IMPORTANT: think about your expectations for example: what do you usually do... imagine yourself at home, at work, at a party and what would you do 8 times out of 10? Do you like to be in a ballpark, in a swimming pool or on a race track?

you need the permission to call bullshit

let out who you are is helpful for example to find out HOW to deal with it, how people might react to that, how you can use it

search ADHD on instagram and go down the other hashtags

watch youtube videos and find people you like and can relate to

there is NO one size fits all

laboratory of US

the world is much more aware and you have unlimited ways of discovering and finding your preferred way of communication

Sharon's Calendar Moca

what is useful / works for you?

Thrive and not just survive

if something doesn't feel right: question it!

  • Wanting - Luke Burgis

  • Range - David Epstein

  • Interviews with Richard Branson

  • Ed Catmull from Pixar - Aphantasia

get into communitiesa TON of informationwhat does MINE feel like?be your own scientistbe curious and find out what fitswhere would you look to find out more about which Neurodiverse-Attribute could beAlex Tipsin Kids:think back your childhood (and life) if there is a pattern when people said something about youchoose your teachersHannah Gadsby Body of Work is a great resourceMBTI Test - with a grain of saltthe journey is precious and important!advice from the pregnancyWhy don't you just use...You have to be careful with lists, experts, therapists, research!Resources

Jul 11, 202301:13:48
S02e23 - Flow, Autotelic and Exotelic and the ability to selfcalm

S02e23 - Flow, Autotelic and Exotelic and the ability to selfcalm

Rereading Finding FLow by Mihaly Csikszentmihalyi


Incorporating Knowledge over time


The Maid - autistic and OCD detective in a hotel


Explosion of research around everthing neuro


Autotelic and Exotelic

selfgoals and outside goals


intrinisic and extrinsic desiries

Wanting, by Luke Burgiss


Art of Impossible by Steven Kotler


Why are we motivated to different goals

and how much is it effected by being on the spectrum?


The Courage to be disliked


Montessori Method and Trust in themselves


Parenting with Games


Emergent purpose

Evaluation languaging

Experimenting

10 years ago how much would this have effected me?


The normal people and the notnormal people


The ability to selfcalm

acknowledging emotions but going through them

oh that is interesting or an adventure


There is only one way to find out: TEST


view yourself from the outside


asking myself what kind of neurodivergent feats might be at paly here


How do we develop our selfcalming and flowstates in workplaces

Deciding a group isn't for you


use an intro YOU design for yourself and test it

not as an identity

but as HELP for others

introducing yourself as a neurodivergent

s interesting for others AND makes it easier for them


People who are rolling their eyes about others feeling special

Jun 28, 202301:29:24
031 - Shame, Reward and Punishment

031 - Shame, Reward and Punishment

Shame 

Hackupy Scham CO2 Fußabdruck Seth Godin

"What did I do to deserve this?"

Reward and Punishment

instead of WOW this is amazing

positivity vs negativity

churches and religion

the bible is like Tarot Cards

Tools

pass along cultural norms

there 

the problem when you are really good at pattern recognition

and contradiction

and what is NOT working anymore

and what is a blatant lie

exclusion

back then help the less fortunate

together we are faster and better than alone

From the Church as a Shame Machine

we get to

How people project things on neuro diverse people

Writing down all Ideas to talk to Sharon about in a HEY SHARON file :)

all people Sharon talks to in the last weeks are ALL neurodivergent

Label / language yourself

it gives indescribable freedom 

Labeling is something powerful

Being labeled by others is great for Alex

then he learns about himself

giving the labels an AMAZING meaning

projecting something on others

example:

not being self confident

people don't show the inner work

being on the spectrum and having the luxury of being able to develop a sense of self naturally

self

identity

ideology

teachers in montessori

empathy in medical studies

Sharon's Mom: council for extraordinary children

THE HORSE! https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=SCfndagI_k4

running forward or backward

creativity

Test and Measure Creativity

George Land - NASA 

retain creative capacity

cultural punishment factors

and

losing the pathways in the brain

how can we help other people to reconnect

- meditation

- sport

- taking time and being in nature

reconnect with childhood creativity

behavior modification bracelet

BONUS:

Shame and Church


Jun 28, 202301:21:22
S02e22 - Ideas for Workshops, a Platform for Neurodivergents and: You can send us messages!

S02e22 - Ideas for Workshops, a Platform for Neurodivergents and: You can send us messages!

Greetings Friends!

You can send us Voice Messages on the Spotify Page!

Pleeeaaase try it out!

And you MIGHT end up in one of our episodes :)


What Sharon threw off guard this week.

And how other people reacted to it

aaaand sharon observed herself during it


Saskia and Sharon as Guiney Pigs for a training.


Drama and emotional intelligence


Navy SEAL Team of Coaches


Emotional Intelligence


Let's build a Platform for Neurodivergent Coaches and Trainers


Getting support in recognizing some really shitty family dynamics :)


What is normal and from what power structure does it come from?


Pathfinder Mindset and the level of discomfort


Homework for Alex :) - when do I put myself in a wandering situation

Difference between searching and wandering


Alex found his style of wandering


The ones that got away


THE cello musicians for Sharon an dALex

https://www.zoekeating.com

https://www.apocalyptica.com


It plays into what I observed last week: ADHD Ripoffs

cheap Notion Planners

little ebooks that seem really put together very unmotivated


Especially when it is REALLY expensive


Navy SEAL Team of Coaches



IDEA Workshop Emotional Intelligence

What is Emotional Intelligence?

A Workshop as a Emotional Intelligence Gym

Self Permission

instead of

Self Sabotage

Perspective and distancing

not taking things personal


How could you advertize that to a company?


IDEA: Let's build a Platform for Neurodivergent Coaches and Trainers


Idee und Technology von Creare Pausa


Train them to do coaching and workshops with neurotypicals


I offer the Platform my help to make the EXCEL Sheet into a Google or EXCEL Form


A database of neurodivergent Coaches - for neurodivergent coachees - and for neurotypical company people

Jun 20, 202301:31:42
030 - What are DAOs and are they interesting for Neurodivergent working at one

030 - What are DAOs and are they interesting for Neurodivergent working at one

Greetings Friends and welcome to this technical sounding Episode of FRT! But: It is not that technical as you might think :)


Sharon and Alex talk about Dezentralized Autonomous Organizations - short: DAOs


Are they communities Is it a forum? Or a company? Or a univserity? something for learning?

some are VERY loosely structured can be frustrating and slow for some people

  • concentric circle -

is there a blueprint for DAO?

  • housekeeping and decision making by a coregroup can be smoother - when there is enough emotional intelligence - understand to work with people
  • Future of Work
  • Sharon'S tkae: a group of really smart people

Is it more about the people or the technology

it is more about building a community to solve problems its not about the tools

come up with challenges and problems the want to solve contact the DAO Group and get into a meeting

DAO sounds a bit like a German "Verein" - Club Alex comparison to the Montessori Club in his town

Jeremy was hired to talk at DAOs how to get started with their structure

The Shopping List of DAOs

DAOs ask: "How do you think to fit in here?"

Tiny House Bielefeld eV 

You need Patience

The passion of the DAOs...

you can move humanity forward only globally otherwise its colonization 

Culture and Borders of the Group

Living Documents

  • how do you work?
  • what gets on your nerves?
  • what makes you progress?
  • what is the vision
  • what are the rules
  • why are we doing this and that
  • how did we get to this point?

some DAOs recommended by Sharon

what are DAOs?What differentiates DAOs from a website or Forum?Example: Fashion Design around Ballroom DancingAlex Voice Message StoryDocument and tell your story consistentlyWhere to go from here

Jun 19, 202301:27:20
s02e21 - Chris Marshall talks with us about Gin, the Science of uncertainty and how he helps people to be optimistic about change and the future

s02e21 - Chris Marshall talks with us about Gin, the Science of uncertainty and how he helps people to be optimistic about change and the future

Greetings Friends! Meet Chris Marshall: A behavioral and uncertainty scientist with an endlessly curious Oldschool Aspie personality.


Find more about Chris Marshall on

His Website, on his own Podcast Transitional Matters, his Book DECODING CHANGE or on LinkedIn.


And of course on the Forager Distillery Website where he works as a Master Distiller. ;)


- Discover his passion for brewing and distilling Gin, including a memorable moment in a Belgian bar where he asked for the bartender's favorite drink.

- Hyperfocusing on gin and the creation of Foragers Gin, inspired by juniper bushes along the M25.

- Embracing uncertainty as the fundamental skill for navigating the Age of Awareness.

- Exploring the layers of the world and the impact of slow updates versus fast updates.

- The influence of artificial stress, suspense, and fear in various aspects of life.

- Delve into the concept of uncertainty as unlimited potential and the what influenced Chris's thinking.

- Understanding the stress response and the importance of becoming the master of your own stress response.

- Introducing the Pause, Pause, Move framework as a physical and mental tool for stress regulation.

- The significance of awareness, radical self-truth, and reframing procrastination as a white lie.

- Reflecting on the Stone Age and the need to reduce overload and complexity in modern life.

- The relationship between state of mind and environment for optimal thinking.

- The Tolerance of Uncertainty Quiz and the role of self-awareness in managing uncertainty.

- Practical tips for accessing your best thinking, such as taking important questions with you to the shower or car.

- Exploring the Pathfinder Mindset, resilience, and the pillars for successfully navigating change.

- The synthesis of the Pause, Pause, Move model and the role of joy in decision-making.

- Contrasting joy and happiness, with joy being the magic formula to returning to a default state of well-being.

Jun 13, 202301:23:21
029 Unlocking sustainability and circular economy through Neurodiversity

029 Unlocking sustainability and circular economy through Neurodiversity

Greetings Friiieeeends! :)

This Episode holds for you:


Rewriting the LinkedIn Bio with a focus on company culture and living documents

- Importance of making the story repeatable for sustainability, neurodiversity, and circular economy

- Need for diverse thinking from people on the margins of norms and around the corners

- Critical role of creativity and faster thinking for the future

- Sharon's Flow State and balancing coaching and artwork for a surf startup

- Exploring the use of NFTs and meeting deadlines with AD(H)D

- Pressure and motivation: self-imposed or from others in the context of company romance (CoMance)

- Understanding DAOs, power dynamics, and relationship dynamics

- Avoiding sneaking knowledge through the side door

- Delegating culture through awareness, biases, norms, boundaries, and trust levels

- Developing a common language to facilitate communication between neurodivergent and neurotypical individuals

- Building awareness and non-judgmental attitudes for trust and group dynamics

- Confidence-building techniques and overcoming overpreparedness

- Increasing awareness of personal superpowers through listening, reading, watching, and engaging in conversations with neurodivergent circles

- Recommendations for communities and resources on LinkedIn, NeuroQueer, YouTubers, NessLabs, and Reddit

- Evolving communication and interaction in the digital age

- Empowering individuals to ask for what they want and work in ways that suit them best

Jun 12, 202301:37:37
s02e020 - How to find Collaboration Partners

s02e020 - How to find Collaboration Partners

Greetings Friends!

Our podacst guest got caught up on a mountain top :)

So we had to freewing this episode and talked about:


How NOT to find a Collaboration Partners - and how to do it in a good way.


Know thyself

what do you

- need

- want

- is fun for you


The Operating Manual of Me


Editing is OK for me but STARTING the editing process ist REALLY hard


Tim Ferriss Five Bullet Friday

Great for Sharon

Too structured can equal boring for Alex


Live Collaborating :-D


Sharon is the right person for podcasting for Alex too

Alex would be not curious enough on its own and too concerned that a topic is not interesting enough.

Sharon is naturally great at getting a conversation started


Some things you CAN do alone but they are better with a partner:

Like sparring or playing tennis


Sharons widsom podcast Wizecracking


Sharon's filter of everthing:

2 choices to start a project with this or with this person

with which person you would like to be stranded for 8 hours in a shady airport in?


Alex story when he did travelling around the world in 80 hours in germany.


Do you feel save saying no?


Does the person has a sense of humor about themselves?


Being adapt plug-pullers


With all that is in our heads:

How do we get these things out?


[[FRT BOOK WRITING SUMMER CAMP 2023]]


the Tucker Max - Book in a Box Workshop

and Sharons Happy Meal of Meatball Sundae


Why it is hard to collaborate for Alex in real life

researching, learning, throwing legobricks of content on the floor and build a space station


Montessori Methods in agile companies


Sharons TV-series Recommendation:

Ted Lasso


4th principle

**We Don't know**

We have a Book Title there! :-D


Back to how to find a collabortive partner?

Where to find one?

- LinkedIn and put it out in the universe and see what you get back

- Start your own movement

- WhatApp Story / Status and ask if somebody knows somebody - that is a bit more private

- Write a DM to people on LinkedIn or other contacts and ask them if the would collaborate with you

- join a community like NESS LABS (free or low priced) or cohort courses (often expensive) like altMBA from Seth Godin or the Book in a Box course or Youtuber Academy by Ali Abdaal

- Discord Servers or Reddit Groups

- Start a Working out Loud Circle


Sharons closing question about the opposite thing of

Death by a thousand papercuts

Freudensprung

Glücksmoment


Alex and the ONE word nothing rimes to in german is APFEL

Jun 07, 202301:43:50
028 - Learning Language as a neurodivergent, Notetaking and Consistency

028 - Learning Language as a neurodivergent, Notetaking and Consistency

Learning french

how can neurodiverse people


Reading

Listening


English as secret language for parents :)


Learning with

DuoLingo

Babble


What does a learning app need for neurodivergent?


THe concepts of Notetaking:

Architects - Gardeners - Librarians

Tiago Forte

Maggie Appleton


How cool would be an app that finds out about your neurodiversity


Lucy's Cave Children's Story


Dangers of AI

Homogonizing the diversity


How can you convince a CEO to use diversity for an advantage to get ahead

rebellous diverse group of AI designers


Ernst Ulrich von Weizsäcker

NOW-Drunkness


why isn't it ok to be a pebble to make a ripple effect

the long game

infinite games


what are you daily consistent about?

planting and nurturing seeds

posting every day?


taking time for thinking and reflectiing everyday


Sharons consistency gives her a solid structure


Seth Godin - writers block - plumbers block

Monday Models

Lydia's BMW


Neurodivergent Entrepreneurs

Startup Couple


Freakonomics Podcast with Harari

Jun 05, 202301:33:25
s02e19 - Different take on Gratitude and Words to live. Not only live by.

s02e19 - Different take on Gratitude and Words to live. Not only live by.

Greetings friends, in this episode we talk about sayings, quotes, phrases and words to live. Yeah. Word that you can live. Not only live by :)

Sharons experience of talking about things in another language.

Whan Alex talks about Neurodiversities and ADHD, Dyslexia, he uses the english words because it sounds more playful and curious than using the German expressions.

The WW II Squirrel - Eichhörnchen - Story

Sharon's Cheese-Buying-Incident in France

Alex seeking Supermarket Adventures

The loop back to the podacst :) New culture - like starutp culture The difference between being busy and hustling

Transition into something Alex wanted to ask Sharon People use technology to solve problems that came from technology in the first place

Postits with affirmation, habits instead of gratitude

Sharon's take on Gratitude does it come from DOING or BEING? being of value without DOING something

EXPERIMENT: 1 thing in the doing 3 things in the being category

Do you have postits or reminders on your desk, mirror or whereever?

a Commonplace ROOM instead of a commplace book

  • that which i most resist is what most threatens my identity keep your mind open
  • If you are the the smartest person in the room
  • keep seeking the strangeness
  • what am i doing to grow my capacity for sitting in the discomfort of being wrong?

Zip-Lock Bags in the Showers with Sayings

May 30, 202301:05:22
027 - Painting Murals, Neuschwanstein and the Power of Ambience

027 - Painting Murals, Neuschwanstein and the Power of Ambience

Greetings Friends! Here we are beack again after the 2022 summerbreak and the intro is directly interrupted by Alex's daughter to give Alex the update about the budgie bird :-)


And then we meander through topics like:


Castele Neuschwanstein


Ludwig II

Lover of Wagner

Pacifist


How great must it have been to be an artist in that space


Sharon about painting laaarge Wall Murals

Jungle Wall Murals


Was wurde aus den Künstlern in Neuschwanstein?


The power of ambience


Sustainability of a work like this


Alex thinks or is creative in connecting dots and finding patterns

Because of aphantasia

Ken Follett - Buidling a cathedral 

Limitation of Skills


We should write the screenplay about the artistry in Neuschwanstein


Neurodiverstiy: 

How much life can we orchestrate around that

and cooperate with people

and realize amazing projects

May 30, 202301:13:10
s02e18 - Sharon Hurley Hall is our guest about what would need to happen to be equality the standard & Star Trek

s02e18 - Sharon Hurley Hall is our guest about what would need to happen to be equality the standard & Star Trek

Greetings Friends and welcome to this wonderful conversation with Sharon, Sharon and Alex :)


Learn more about Sharon Hurley Hall here https://sharonhh.com

and on Sharon's and her sister Lisa's Introverts Sisters Podacst

Her bestselling Book - I’m Tired of Racism

And her Sharon’s Anti-Racism Newsletter


How Sharon and Sharon met


Misson Equality - where she is Co-founder for Leadership Education


Oooops - when the apology is different


Every week she learns something new - Like Stimming


Flowlab Emily Weltman


diagnosed as autistic a year ago


High masking and low support needs


When certain spaces just feel wrong


Stimming and ability to synthesize information


Figuring out the stage of "is this something that is consistently me?"


The difference when you understand yourself better


it is SO helpful to hear those stories how ADHD and autism manifests in girls and women

because Alex can understand his daughter NOW better when she is 8 years old

to be supportive


There is not enough science and information for and about Black Autistics

Nearly all of the studies are done on white boys


How to learn on Mission Equality


The prussian school system that was exported worldwide


One size fits none


LINK

A.J. Singh's Article about The Colonisation of Neurodiversity And How To Break Free: Part 1

Neurodivergent - Neuroperformative - Neuralembodied


Relabelling - Delabelling


Artists are the Muses for society

The idea of Sharons Newsletter


IF WE COULD SOLVE RACISM - we can solve everything!


What could be the next cool crazy steps?

START USING OUR BRAINS TO THINK UP SOLITIONS

The Mission Equality Black Paper

Star Trek Discovery - All get what they need to do their jobs according to their needs

How do we get to THAT world


Jane McGonigal - Futurist Society - Imaginable


Star Trek Society has overcome the capitalist ecomnic system


The Octopus Movement


Star Trek **is not only about earth people**

it is about **EXPLORATION**

Alex has never thought of star trek in a diverse way

We are wondering how it would be interesting to use the Star Trek narrative much more

because it is exciting, intersting and something a LOT of people like

It's not only about the technology but also about society


Part of being socialized as a woman

Be mindful about new people


Set the bar high enough and some people take themselves out of the equation


how to teach a **NOgotiation** to children

No rudeness - but opinions and clarity


Trust and Decision Making Scaffolding


The school Sharons daughter went to is older than the USA


The pandemic might have influenced the next generation in a very profound and positive way of connective awareness


How COULD the world look like according to Sharon


It's like building a cathedral

WE HAVE TO START

Planting seeds for the future


Maybe go back to societies before colonizers arrived


Get people thinking about solutions and

Would need to happen to be equality the standard wherever you are?

May 23, 202301:26:48
026 - Giving others a Manual for Yourself - Neurodivergents in Relationships

026 - Giving others a Manual for Yourself - Neurodivergents in Relationships

Greetings Friends! This Episode revolves around being a Neurodivergent in relationships. Not only romantic relationships but friendships, work relationships and family business.

Have fun and get in touch with us!

sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com 

and

mail@alex-kahl.de 


Load on attention

1 1/2 until Sharon hosts her retreat


Being Neurodivergent in a relationship


Sharon's take on relatoinships


Alex is bit responsible for himself and for his girlfriend's reactions

overselfimportance


Aren't YOU perfect?


What kind of therapy exist for neurodivergent partners?


In Germany Therapy is REALLY not as accepted as in US


What is therapy for?

You just have to be open to discuss it


Dealing with medicine

Not putting others on the defensive

"I am reviewing who i want to be involved with. i am specifically looking for cooperative healthinsurance partners" - change the dynamics for my self made healthcare plan


Our boundaries

Minimize sensory overload

Example: The Wedding Reception - with earplugs


The reason why it took Alex until he was 40 to have kids


Choose from whom you learn from


Caretaker for older pepople with robots


Ali Abdaal - got the Feedback as a medical Student he had to work on his empathy for bein ga Doctor


Future of medical care

lowering the Egos on both side

"how to be a good patient"


Giving others a user manual for yourself

May 19, 202301:13:33
s02e17 Finding Partners in Crime, Cold feet and Organizing with ADHD

s02e17 Finding Partners in Crime, Cold feet and Organizing with ADHD

Greetings friend! We love to get even more in touch with you! Tell us what you'd like us to talk about or get on the show and talk WITH us! 

sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com

and

mail@alex-kahl.de 


How to find a tool that is always interesting

- follow out interest to stay involved and focussed

- rotating in and out with intention

- go with the current and follow the lead of the interest


Does the boat come back around?


It is a bit like surfing


Alex Life or Death Trauma with Boats and all things on the water


Kayaking vs Kanooeing


Finding partners in crime

getting projects out of your head into reality

especially with things you are not good at


exercize buddies

social anxiety

motivtaion

getting out of doing something you love


high sensitive persons HSP and cold exposure

cold feet


hyperfocus experience in getting into topics and rabbit holes

Craiglist, ebay kleinanzeigen classifieds and AirBnB


Curate the Experience

how airbnb came along


The brown M&Ms and Iron Maiden


Neurodivergent people and the "Buddy Sytem"

Be current what you want to care about and focus on

Keepi it moving further ahead


"you know what you NEED to do"


Ask people what they would like to be talked to


Cleaning up a room with a system

"Where do you want that?"


OCD or Ritual?

Organizing in Montessori


The guests coming up the next weeks

May 16, 202301:37:55
025 KITTENS & HEROINE: Shame, Blame and Overwhelm about Play

025 KITTENS & HEROINE: Shame, Blame and Overwhelm about Play

Hey! We would love to get in touch with you!

sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com 

and

mail@alex-kahl.de 



Feel the FUN and do it anyway :)

Do you need to deserve Fun?


How do you define fun?


The differences between the USA and Poker and Russia and Chess


How does Alex define fun? ( nd he is REAAALLLYY struglling with this question)

Being outside of the rules

What was fun for you and the elements of it as a kid?


How Alex built himself a job consisting of things he had fun with as a kid


Infinite games - finite games

poker US with Chess Russia


The gap between then and now


Why don't more people chose THAT


Do we take or make time

What when time is not there


For Sharon thinking things through is as much fun as executing

creativity is important

thinking is enough


Did she specified if time in the day - short term or time in her lifespan?


What has your family culture encoded in you about play fun?


Work ethic

Erst die Arbeit - dann das Vergnügen

Earn the play

Seriousness attached to games - Pen and Paper Roleplaying and Computer Games


Growth mindset vs fixed mindset

Light heartedness


Didn't play that much

My mom always lost


This is how human animals PLAY

Imagination

Curiosity


The pre-us way of entertaining ourselves

storytelling - discussing as a form of accessibility of things - things were SO complicated


Experimenting is play

Is not very valued in the workplace


Everything needs a purpose for Alex

He doesn't need permission


KITTENS!

The judgement-factor

What do we value?

Mimetic behavior - are we wanting

The balance of fun and destruction

**kittens and heroine - BANDNAME**

paying a price for fun

the tradeoff is time - scarcity


Boredom - baseline of entertainment and calm

learn self calm


Engineering as much interesing and fun things into life results in maximum creativity

May 14, 202301:23:02
S02E16 - Answering your Questions! Guess how many we manage to talk about

S02E16 - Answering your Questions! Guess how many we manage to talk about

Greetings friend! In this episode we answer some of your questions!


We love to get even more in touch with you! Tell us what you'd like us to talk about or get on the show and talk WITH us!

sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com and

mail@alex-kahl.de


Ah and at 41 minutes I left in something for documentation for me. There were two really loud BANGS you can hear in the audio that were the result of two Eurofighters breaking through the soundbarrier in Germany on the 1st of may. And it really scared the shit out of me :) No I am glad to have that recording.


And now let's listen :) Here are our notes from the show:


AUA: Ask us Anything! - it is like AMA but with multiple people :-D


It might be painful for us or for you all


QUESTION 1 - WHAT IS THE DIFFERNCE BETWEEN NEURODIVERSITY AND NEURODIVERGENT

Made up power-construct of what is normal.


When there is NORMAL then there is OTHER


The societal construct is an illusion

Being aware of it and create sidedoors


Labelling oneself vs. being labelled by others


Showing neurotypicals how to be able to value the complexity of neurodivergents


How to Citizen

with Baratunde Thurston - https://www.howtocitizen.com


Kinship and inclusiveness


Ask:

Are you interested in telling me more?


People are scared to ask because then they think the have the obligation to fix something


Shakespeare and Company and people in Wheelchairs


Modern theater as a metaphor for the overhwelm neurotypical feel with neurodivergent people or topics



QUESTION 2:

What's the difference between sensory and emotional sensitivity?


High Sensitve Persons vs people who are victims of there emotions


Baselines - for example for anger


a logical and a very emotional sibling


If you are a sensory type you can turn down a lot of stimulations - turning down EMOTIONAL sensitivy is really hard.


The difference between disappointment and frustration


(Learn to) Know what you need


Giraffe and Wolves Language

Non Violent Communication NVC - Marshall Rosenberg - https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Marshall_B._Rosenberg


Council for Exceptional Children


Self Calming


Long term goal is peace - especially in the Montessori Method


Ok.

We have an idea for the next round of questios:

Only 5 minutes for each question :-D

May 13, 202301:31:49
024 - Do Artists feel less shame and how to fortify kids against it

024 - Do Artists feel less shame and how to fortify kids against it

We now: the last 3 episodes were released in between 3 days :) LOTS of Sharon and Alex for you this week - but I wasn't able to edit the episodes earlier. Now we are back on track.


If you would like to reach out to us we love to hear from you!

Ask us questions, tell us your stories or get on the show and let's talk together about Neurodiversity in all its facettes:

sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com and

mail@alex-kahl.de


And now have fun listening! Here are some of our shownotes what we are talking about in this episode:


Do neurodivergent suffer more or less from Shame?


What are the family implications?


Imposter syndrome


Tv recommendation: Severance - split work and private life


Corporate Cultures


Comparison to other people


What are the difference between coaching and training

Sharon's take:

Emergent learning and client lead exploration

Fascilitation


Corporate Artist

Marcus John Henry Brown again :)

part 1 - The Tangible Corporate Machine https://youtu.be/YKSa_8vt-sk

part 2 - WORK like an artist https://youtu.be/JuBmHHKj6jk

part 3 - Sanctuary https://youtu.be/boW6nwW5LYU


Do Artists feel less shame?

Do they deal with it differently?

or do they become artists because the lack of shame?


Sounds we make in a conversation


Do actors become actors because they want to be someone else?


Alexes 2016 Project: 100 Vlogs a day to 42

https://www.youtube.com/playlist?list=PLa1NuzVzxAu1R57qW5bJWQKPmSTYDlPr4


How to teach kids to have a healthy relationship with shame


Being judgmental with yourself leads to shame


Singing

Level of Delightment

Let others do that better


Fortify Kids for shame


Personality type as receptive


Motivation intrinsically or extrinsically


Neuschwanstein as a metaphor for neurodiverse achievement

May 07, 202301:14:38
S02e15 - Sharon shares her struggle, Stress as a Slingshot and Cat Napping Trance

S02e15 - Sharon shares her struggle, Stress as a Slingshot and Cat Napping Trance

WOOHOO! We surpassed 1000 listeners! (not that numbers matter that much to us - we would also do this just for our pleasure :-D) but we LOVE to know that you are listening to us.


OH! And you can reach out to us if you would like to: sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com and mail@alex-kahl.de


Ask us questions, give us a hint what you would like us to talk about or come on the show as our guest and let's have a wonderful open and curious conversation about Neurodiversity!


And this is what you can expect from this one:


Our Filter is:

Are we having fun doing that?


WHY we are doing this podcast

one outcome for Alex


Collecting Stones, Rocks, Nuggets


What Sharon is struggling with

Share the pain :-D

Executive Functioning and the way the struggle manifests


How she works through it and with which tools and methods


The voice inside your head - that is puzzling and frustrating


The Evil EXCEL Table for a REALLY cool opportunity of a coaching platform

what makes it so hard for Dyslexic human beings


Stress as a Slingshot


Showing not telling


Self Therapizing


Why does nobody ask:

How do you work best? How would you like to receive this?


Why continue to suffer in a homogenous way of doing things


Support systems for resuce and emergency teams like paramedics and firefighters


You cannot choose colleagues and family members


How does Self-Talk look like


Don't use rewards but making things fun and enjoyable


The brain doesn't notice the difference of being IN a enjoyable situation or thinking about it


Infinite games


Find a good listening-partner

Co-active Coaching


It's like sparring-sessions


Voice in your head

HI REN by REN

Where does the negative voice in your head come from?

Positive Intelligence - The Sage for the positive voice and Judges for the negative side


Remember that a lot of things are just a sprint.

But a lot of sprints result in a far distance, too


Giggle to yourself and be rebellious


What does your internal supportsystem look like through the choppy waters


Salty water and nutrition


Readjust your expectations

Box Breathing while napping

Cat Napping Trance



## Tools

- snacking Cucumbers so Sharon doesnt eat something that throws her Brain Chemicals off

- lowest possible Dose of Ritalin

- The filter. "when I am 85 how would it look like then?"

- Box Breathing while napping

- Salty water and nutrition

- Giggle to yourself and be rebellious

May 06, 202301:37:59
023 - Neil Gaiman, Skunk Smell, MJHB and Neuschwanstein

023 - Neil Gaiman, Skunk Smell, MJHB and Neuschwanstein

The last was rough on the sickness-side so the episodes are late - sorry.


And hey! You can get in touch with us via Mail:

sharon.leigh@poleposition4life.com

and

mail@alex-kahl.de :)


Let's go for this almost 2 hour chunk of a wonderful (at least for Sharon and Alex) episode :)


Here are some Shownote:


Neil Gaiman for us at least means:

Lean and smooth writing

There is nothing extra

Sharon models him

Especially when editing


Neil was on Episode 366 of the Tim Ferriss Podacst


Read fiction opens your mind for stepping into possibilities

Get passed those layers of resistance


Workshop as a Fantasy Story - PnP Roleplaying

not without permission

first ask for

Wants, Needs, Fears and Expectations


Keynotes as Theater Performances

THE PASSING https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=LIj2a9Tlo4g

The Performance a year before - more a Literature Reading than a solo-character play - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=wTFKjXq77gA

both by:

MJHB - Marcus John Henry Brown - https://www.marcusjohnhenrybrown.com


Agile mindset - Sharon's Keynote for the Female tech conference


Wants vs needs expectations


How does a skunk smell?

And what to do against the smell:

Tomato juice or baking soda

:)


What feels like an adventure


Fountain pen exploration


Sharon's favorite colors for Fountain Pen inks

Indigo

Olive green

Umbra / brown

Change inks / change of thougts


Sharon's self made Souvenirs

animals from Canvas


Leinen Servietten


The Museum Wäschefabrik in Bielefeld stories



younger people who do not know what to do with their lifes

enjoy what they really want to do

awareness practice


a martial arts coach story



tools of perspective

narrow perspective on the bad feelings



self soothing



Sharon's Tips when you visit Castle Neuschwanstein

Imagine LOTS of artists and musicians in the castle

A full blown Multi cultural artistic Bubble


A Neurodivergent, genderfluide place

and a creative safety bubble


Take the route with the horse coach!

May 05, 202301:55:48
S02e14 - Being raised with abundance and not scarcity

S02e14 - Being raised with abundance and not scarcity

The importance of play

book: Awaken your Genius

by Ozan Varol

Podcast Interview on The Human Upgrade


Sharon mowing the lawn

Being raised with abundance and not scarcity


Abundance of what?

Executive functions and ADHD


Giving us time to play

break out the vicious circle


Lifecoach Schook Podcast - abundance of money


Perception of time for children, animals and adults

Alex Hypothesis of Neurodivergents are often a bit more primal

Timeblindness for ADHD


Misspelling as an Alarm that goes of in one's head

Seeing patterns


Sharon's Filter for Who is this for?

being:

- open

- curious

- interested


Ozan:

we learn how to discard what does not serve us


the difference between abundance and overwhelm?


postwar and postcolonization generation


how to make technology accessiable to everybody?


scott pellet


are we using AI-technology for expanding or for gatekeeping?


Strong believes lightly held

Apr 25, 202301:29:08
022 - Who were your teachers and who are you modelling?

022 - Who were your teachers and who are you modelling?

Greetings Friends!


This one from 2022 was very influenced by the Book Wanting from Luke Burgess and the concept of modelling he describes in the book.


Who am I modelling on?

is really hard for Alex to say - because some things he likes to model had to be separated from the person

- like Steve Jobs

- try to model for example thinking models like Reasoning from First Principles

- Stoicism

- Like to Model or be inspired by people who or whose work I like.

Have to differentiate their Life and Character from the WAY they do things or they think

and then see if it works for me

- Casey Neistat

- [[Quelle - Neil Gaiman]]

- Katy Bowman

- Ryan Holiday

- Seth Godin

- Gary Vaynerchuk

- Ali Abdaal

- Tim Ferriss

- James Altucher

Try to pick


What do children model

Book Luke Burgess Wanting


when Alex was a kid he modelled for example my older cousin and people from movies

today:

ALex doesn't model people he knows personally


Sharon:

Freshmanistan

Celebristan


George Carlin / Richard Prior


Die 2 - Tony Curtis - Roger Moore


Modelling Karate Kid

and wishing for Mr Miyagi


Yoda

Dumbledore


They are very caring and protective


You can model yourself but not the circumstances


Do nothing - conversations / workshop

Unhurried conversations

Slow food - slow interaction


Blogging for serendipty in ours


Modelling with intent

Writing. - not thinking about a target person for content - modelling neil gaiman for writing fiction conciously to get into the writing

Using neil gaiman's fountain pen


Art Matters

you are what you risk

The Artist's way


Ann Handley Newsletter


Taking notes in a converstaions


Follow multiple conversations

and people who cannot follow




Apr 23, 202301:18:59
S02e013 - Do you have neurodivergent ancestors in your families

S02e013 - Do you have neurodivergent ancestors in your families

Alex Kyushu Green Tea Pot


Stories about Ancestry and Neurodivergent Family Members


Alex remebers his uncles


younger uncle - social avoiding


older uncle - artist - psychologist - real estate agent - box promoter - advertiser


always the same family party schedule


PTSD in german grandparents after world war II


the amount of uncertainty in the lifes of our grandparents


180 years old children's stories

- Struwwelpeter - https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Struwwelpeter

- Max and Moritz - https://de.wikipedia.org/wiki/Max_und_Moritz

- Grimm's Fairy Tales


Sharon's Rodeo Aunt

Being strict in situations you have no control over

and being very loose and relaxed in around horses for example


Advenureousnous in children of Immigrants to America

Feeling home in Europe as an American


Immigrants:

How did people get together back then?

in the village / tribe

How do families are founded today?


Otherness - Wrong to be differnt


Work ethic


Saying something between the lines


implications of living as a neurodivergent in a context of an irish / german ancestorial family in texas


rank and status system in the US

vs

school system in germany


cages made of mars bars


study the family with ancestral glasses

Apr 18, 202301:29:32
021 - Stories for living in a world that is not build for us

021 - Stories for living in a world that is not build for us

Greetings friends! This one is a great example for all those rabbitholes we manage to go down in one episode :)

Here a some Bullet points about the topics we discuss.

Have fun!


Comedians - Deep Questions without bashing someone


Political parties don't work anymore -

Especially not the large people's parties


The result:

One size fits all solutions like Putin, Trump, Berlusconi, Orban


What we need:

Stories that reach a lot of people


Stories that give people ideas and ways to do things


Stories that give people characters they can identify themselves with

Or

Find characters they can wish / look for in their lifes


For example:

Harry Potter

Where Harry himself is identifiable because he is like a blank page

But

A huuuuuge ensemble of teachers, mentors and concepts he and the reader can identify with

And a lot of characters that work together with him who can offer the same to readers


Sharon's take:

Model after other people

In US: sports stars - celebrities


Wanting by Luke Burgess


Trevor Noah calls people out

gently - but hard truth

some deep thinkers - not all philosophers


see what you've got

and what you are doing with it


unspoken norms


Behavioral Science


How to challenge unspoken norms and be always curious and a little bit unsatisfied

how can this be enhanced?


living in a world that is not build for us


it's not fair - people are chaotic


poeple that are pushing things, enhance them

understand the duality


implementing agile in a company

there is no magic pill


having exponential hope


Silver Lining:

Lots of people coming together

What can we learn from this?


When things are chaotic:

What can you change?


Believe System

sense of identiy and reality


What's important and whats interesting

people in power get to declare what's important


The word repent

changed from greek EVOLVE

to crawl

words twisted by people in power to control people


make discoussions fun, light

and not threatening


invite marginalized and neurodivergent thinking


we are living in a historical phase

how do we handle the pushback of the people in power


we have control about where we put our attention

who we surround ourselves with

who we choose as our models


how many of those five support your dreams and make you seen?

Apr 16, 202301:19:42
S02E12 - Primal Brains, Portals into Thought Kingdoms And: We have an INTRO!

S02E12 - Primal Brains, Portals into Thought Kingdoms And: We have an INTRO!

Yeeees! We ha a musical intro!

Thanks to Faustine and Ajay!


Alex's Lizard brain kicked into fight or flight mode because of a Wildcat on the car radio


That combined with some insights from Our Paleo Diet time


ADHD = the Ancestral-Brain?

as Lactose Intolerant digestion systems are the original ones?


Sedentary Lifestyle vs. Running - Sporty people


Reading and numbers are even only 6000 years old


Neurodivergent people THRIVE in uncertainty


You need a neuronormative persons to build a machine like a plane

but a neurodiverse person to find a really interesting destination to fly to


And now put in the mix

Drugs and candy

The media - not even digital

Coffee


Sharons Family Stories and Cocktails of Neurodivergents

Problem Solving Skills:

"You gotta outthink it"


Ask kids: "What would you do about it?"


Flying is 98% boring and 2% madness


Sharon's Dad once built "The best antitheft device ever" for someone living on a boat


The great thing of digital tools and toys:

Doing fun stuff for YOURSELF!

and then

Share it with the tribe!


The Story of how Berta Benz drove the first car in the world for thefirst time in history!


Pedestrian to Pilot

Neurodiversity Analogy Flighing - USA tries to get you in the Air - Germany tries to keep you on the ground


Montessori Furniture

Prepared Environment

How order can help people with ADHD


Get a notebook and jot down what you need, want try out

what distracts you or pisses you off

or what sounds like a good idea!

Talk about your experiments


Create you environments


Cluttercore

Joy of Junk

Living with Stories and things that remind us of certain ideas

Things that are like Portals

Modelbuilders

Things like emotional records

Portals into Thought Kingdoms


Airplanes and screeming children


Listen to our beautiful intro in the end again without us talking

Apr 11, 202301:45:38
020 - Can Neurodiversity be a Superpower?

020 - Can Neurodiversity be a Superpower?

Greeting friends and sorry that we can't bring you a higher quality of shownotes this week but Alex is soooo tired.


Greta Thunberg


Superpower - neurodiversity


Media and reality TV don't effect neurodivergent

ND are no slave to the things society dishes up


live content like in Clubhouse or Twitch


Armchair experts

brenee brown hard things - unlocking us


new podcast - the one you feed

about breathing - johnny miller (curious humans) - nervous system mastery - 481


mindful surfer - 76 why some surfers are more stoked

joy - passion - self care


being focussed on ONE thing or multiple things at the same time

seeing patterns

behaviroal science passion

connectiveness


picture of god


ND in the workplace

what can we give - what do we need?


motorcycle analogy

what is the dynamics of getting back on track

bring our childhood bullshit into every situation


Martial arts

practicing under stress


LARP in small groups


braking practicing


brenee brown - vulnerability

what does a proactive vulnerability position feels like?

how can you practice vulnerability?


there needs to be awareness

ease into it

storytelling - choose something like a low hanging fruit

Apr 09, 202346:37
S02E11 - The Art of Giving Gifts - especially for Neurodivergents

S02E11 - The Art of Giving Gifts - especially for Neurodivergents


Giving the gift of the decision

Presents that show you thought about somebody and know them

sending unexpected random stuff in the mail

What brings delight and joy to people

Washing machine manual checklist

Chocolate, Coffee, Tea


A FEW MOMENTS LATER


The Piglet Birthday :-D


Bad gifts make good stories afterwards in life


The hard things about pawn shops, thrift stores and flea markets


The power of stories for next time


today with an extro!

Apr 04, 202301:12:01
019 - Shame is a shitty motivator

019 - Shame is a shitty motivator

Can neurodivergent people live better with a feeling of being needless in a work environment for example


The 2 meanings of the German word "überflüssig"


People who work in mining and the people in eastern Germany after the german reunion


"My inner life is so rich I dont nessecarily need other people"


Not all neurodivergent people are introvert


Family culture and what you get as a child


Who are you when you do not work?


Extrinsic or intrinsic motivation

Childlike joy of creating

Omagine something for whom this is - blogging for example


Disrupting Flow States


Alex personal knowledge management system

obsidian, bujo, common place book, sketchbook


How to remove shame


Shéhérazade - Saboteurs - Psitive Intelligence PQ program

and the Sage side


Apr 01, 202301:07:29
S02E10 - Grandma's Sushi, Circular Economy and which role Neurodivergents play in there

S02E10 - Grandma's Sushi, Circular Economy and which role Neurodivergents play in there

Alex Recap of the Barcamp "Circular OWL Economy"


Doughnut Economics - Seven Ways to Think Like a 21st-Century Economist

Kate Raworth


How Neurodivergents can play a key role in a curcular economy


what competences and skills

Sustain a high level of curiosity and inspiration


Diversity around Washingston DC


Making your own Sushi

The Hawaiian Grandmother's rice cooking method


Grandma's cooking methods are Recilience in action


The primal aspect of outside cooking


Downhill Parking

a great sport for neurodivergent people

Mar 28, 202301:20:06
018 - Important vs Interesting and Rabbit Holes of Cupcakes and One-size-fits-all

018 - Important vs Interesting and Rabbit Holes of Cupcakes and One-size-fits-all

Hanna Gadsby - Netflix-Specials

#Book : 10 steps to the Net

Female Comedians


Podcast with Glennon Doyle - Words and Languaging

Interesting vs Important - NDs in the first group

Gaslighting

https://itunes.apple.com/WebObjects/MZStore.woa/wa/viewPodcast?id=1564530722&i=1000555544362


Alex Ressource of ideas vs executions


Brevi Manu Store in Bielefeld


Recharge - Hanna Gadsby


A new definition of what's important

Instigate: Fragrance Finder in the Store

HSP are not in the targetgroup


A dillution solution to weaken the smell


Neuroscience and Car Companies

Sense Workshop


planting seeds and instigating conversations


The "I don't care" is really strong in us


Connecting Skills


Specilization is for insects


Ask people / Companie: "What is INTERESTING for you?"


What is the difference between interesting and fascinating?

Benjamin Zander - Work (How to give an A)

https://youtu.be/qTKEBygQic0



Parking Downhill:

How can we make "important" things more easy and interesting to us?


Mar 26, 202301:17:22
S02e09 Implications of Neurodiversities, Montessori and Metaphors

S02e09 Implications of Neurodiversities, Montessori and Metaphors

Greeeetings Friends! We start with a short and graphic ;) description of what is going on on the feline side of Sharon's household Alex shares a slightly dark story.


The Story is about how a Neurodiversity like Aphantasia theoretically could lead to really bad implications.

Especially for rehabilitation in Prison.


How Montessori Teachers are trained in recognizing the neurodiverse skills in Sensitive Periods


We should get a Montessori Teacher on the show.

If you know somebody - please let us know: mail@alex-kahl.de


Montessori in School

Reading with ADHD and reading to each other

and:

Reading to each other

Goodreads Account


Sharon's segway into

**Metaphors**


Writing Prose

Alex got a Typewriter - Olivetti Lettera 32


Book

Wonderworks by Angus Fletcher

https://amzn.to/3FC0pDl


Yes and,

we have SO MANY more opportunities for telling us anecdotes, metaphors, stories


when stories can be annoying

when they are overused


Storytelling Bootcamp


Not training the Tiktok Algorithm


Digital Garden Metaphor


Building Metaphor Tools

how to write out the best metaphors

to keep us interested


Excessorize me drawings :)

https://www.youtube.com/@excessorizeme


Temple Grandin

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Temple_Grandin


who has aphantasia and got read a lot of books to you as a child - let us know your experience


aaaaand:

all you engineers and technical people out there:

how are you working with metaphors and stories?


Don't explain something to ALex like he is 5 years old :)


Islands of knowledge

Quantum physics

and

Exotic sicknesses like in HOUSE MD.


imagine an auditorial learner with a blocked ear and forced to learn visually


Mar 21, 202301:29:03
017 The Indiana Croft and Lara Jones Mindset - or: Treasure Hunt for Mistakes and Resiliency

017 The Indiana Croft and Lara Jones Mindset - or: Treasure Hunt for Mistakes and Resiliency

Greetings Friends! In this Episode of Seasong 01 of FRT we talked about mistakes and resiliency.


How do Kids deal with making mistakes


When does the shame set in instead of curiosity?


What kids can learn from experiments with mudpiles


0The importance of patience and time


Design thinking


Decision making


Tipp / Tool:

play GET LOST


What stresses people out about decisions


Buyers remorse


Alex wristwach experiment - treasure hunting (also applicable to fountain pens, typewriters and much more :)



Training out the mistakes

Alex first class experience


Canned decisions



Making decisions with OCD


Own your anxieties

Training of low profile decision making


Writing it down

Differnet types of dyslexia - I just dont care

Bought a REALLY good spellchecker for Mac


Do what we can do

**yes AND mindset**:

it is SO important to be selfaware

to make GOOD decisions


Indiana Jones Mindset:

It is an adventure and a treasure hunt

the TRAPS are more interesting than the ARTIFACT!


Youtube video about how realistic are treasure movies - an Archaeologist breaks down movie scenes:

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DmKU44ZeuRQ


Neurodiverse people and decision maing

regretting a decision?


When to experiment and when not?

Mar 20, 202301:02:36
S02E08 - Maintain Friendships as a Neurodivergent esp with ADHD

S02E08 - Maintain Friendships as a Neurodivergent esp with ADHD

Greetings Friend! 

Yaay! We have a YouTube channel! And we love you to subscribe and share it!  :)

https://www.youtube.com/@freerangethinkingpodcast

So you can also SEE us in out cozy recording caves :-D


So we got the inspiration for this episode from a comment on the YouTube Channel called "How to ADHD"

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=OEHD8B33-wc&t=2s


Alex often heard how he changed in the last years especially from his old friends


Friendship making with Neurodiversions


Prinz: Autsmus Pandemie / Ist Autismus jetzt In?

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=DKWOyZr0QUg


Celebrating the labels or dropping the labels


How Technology can making friendshipmaking even easier


The danger of online friendships all around the world


Finding your tribe


Culture of US High School


Change your group of friends


THe Courage to be disliked


How to make / maintain friendships 


What do I need in a friendships?

Interestingness :-)


Out of sight out of mind

Life is already hard enough

Don't make it harder for each other as friends


Maybe we are suspicious to Neurotypical people

Social anxiety 


Tip: Abstraction

Being social for my daughter


Try PnP Roleplaying


Want to come out and play?


Let's have a coffee?


Sharon's tip on ending social events.


## Links

- YoutTube Comment

- The courage to be disliked https://www.amazon.de/Courage-Be-Disliked-yourself-happiness-ebook/dp/B074TWG8V7/ref=sr_1_1?__mk_de_DE=ÅMÅŽÕÑ&crid=16F0OOEC335VL&keywords=courage+to+be+disliked&qid=1678638620&sprefix=courage+to+be+dislike%2Caps%2C273&sr=8-1


Mar 14, 202301:09:31
016 - When are you an artist? Alex caught COVID and Creativity

016 - When are you an artist? Alex caught COVID and Creativity

Geetings friends! This episode is from our archives after Alex's COVID Infection in 2022. In isolation he found out that he is an somewhat of an artist and has a lot of questions for sharon about the connections between art and neurodiversity. 

Art in Isolation and Neil Gaiman


Bullet Journaling Ryder Carroll Style (Who also has ADHD and his Book about the Bullet Journaling Method)


Doodling in the night with Peter

https://www.peterdraws.com - https://www.youtube.com/@peter_draws


Drawing YouTuber Danny Gregory

https://www.youtube.com/@DannyGregory


Ales got COVID _and_ Creativity


Alex Question to Sharon:

When are you an artist?


We are what we ever claim ourselves to be


I am an astronaut!


Tom Sachs https://www.tomsachs.com

Where your passion lies

selling artwork is not a qualification


Definition of an artist

someone who creates


Geeking out about fountain pens

and 

refilling the cartridges with siringes


Are left handed people automatically Neurodivergent?

Neurodivergents are creative experts in hacking the system.


Digitization 

Life as art

2 Boxes of journals of Sharon's mom's journal

what's the purpose of keeping Art / Archives / Journals

Maybe: Evolution of our thinking


Justifying yourself for your art and joy


A dance with your self


The best form of meditation: 

Being in the now


Are artists always neurodiverse persons?


The invitation to play and make mistakes


The art of people and fascilitation

Moderating workshops

Having Plan A, B and C


The danger of forcing ideas on people

Solution:

Your bag of Tricks

Mar 12, 202301:41:38
S02E07 - How to think like a connective Futurist - our Wundertüte

S02E07 - How to think like a connective Futurist - our Wundertüte

We start with Sharon's next level French Pastry Leftover Recipe :)


Followed by a brief recap of Sharon's trip to the NFT Convention in Paris

https://www.nftparis.xyz


Encouraging underwehelm


Alex's conference tips for neurodivergent people


Sharon is going to reengineer the perfect event for neurodiverse poeple


Dissolving the Pitch Persona


Sharon's profession as an Ambience Alchemist


What are you willing to be surprised with?


A project from the NFT convention: 

Moonpage for writers - https://www.moonpage.io


What might be the Facebook for the web3?


Being a resource for a specific group other people

that coaches each other

curating the superskills, energies and inspiration


Innovating the languaging and describing


Butterflies and Bumblebees


Alex Pig butchering re:publica Story

Low Tech behind the scenes allows the Tech to flourish


Give yourself selfpermission to make the switch to connect with the intrinsic motivation.


Designing for all


How to think like a connective Futurist


Equality vs Equity - MacGyvering


Tech for the infrastructure of change


Planting the seed of selfvalue in Kids - especially Girls

Mar 07, 202301:18:40
015 - Mistakes are a bruise - not a tattoo and can turn into resilience

015 - Mistakes are a bruise - not a tattoo and can turn into resilience

How to see the Silver Lining in mistakes


Being punished for doing it different

Resulting in a self-doubt cycle


Introverts and extroverts


Ego and the protectiveness around us


Do we have a headstart as neurodivergent?

Make micromistakes every day


Mistakes are a bruise - not a tattoo


When Alex's daugther is twenty - what would he wish for her

What resiliency tools would i like her to have


Healing habits that are no longer useful, that are only in the neuronormative world


Give people courage and helping them to explore Neurodiversity and name the discomfort


When WE claim our superpower - we can much more easily accept that OTHERS are some kind of different as well and help them to use THEIR superpower

without having the feeling that we are threatened by them


Get us out of shame and give us pride!


"Can't you just..."

"If you would just do a bit..."

Can you just TRY to do X a bit better"


Find the usefulness in your Neurodiversities


School System should have:

Life as an essay - questions

What did you learn on the job

Why does it matter?

What was good


BUILD A RESILIENCY MODEL!


Mining Sharon's experience and survial tactics

Sitting on a goldmine of information of people who are marginalized


People weren't happy before the pandemic

Mar 06, 202301:24:15
S02E06 - Where do you work best? Imagine working in Schloss Neuschwanstein :D

S02E06 - Where do you work best? Imagine working in Schloss Neuschwanstein :D

Being in a BIG convention

as a human sponge


NFT Event in Paris


How Sharon prepared and organized a side-event to let people come to YOU

One day AFTER the event


App:

Soundprint.co


We should ask Sascha Lobo to be a guest


How to thrive in loud places and at home

Ignorance is bliss


Libraries & Cafes


Working with Music


When Alex worked in front of a band playing in Red Rock Coffee in Mountain Dew


THE CONNECTION WAS LOST HERE FOR A SHORT TIME :) Just so you wonder


Work in Churches, Tiny Houses, Tree Houses and CASTLES

Imaging working in Schloss Neuschwanstein 


Hundreds of years of experience with solitude in monasteries


Talking to interesting strangers and working while travelling


Not being able to talk on the telephone when there are other people in the room


Where do you work best?


Alex: Working in a completely empty room vs. working in chaos and clutter

Object Permance

Needing visual clues


Sharon's Studio back then in the Black Forest

and the Bullerjan Oven there 


Be careful when you let introverted people who live very remotely pick the vacation appartment :)


The beautiful Bookstores Video by Max Joseph


Live Housekeeping Session of two Neurodiversive podcast people :-D

Feb 28, 202301:30:54
014 - MACGYVERGASM as the ultimate hack to how we can make it easier?

014 - MACGYVERGASM as the ultimate hack to how we can make it easier?

Uh! This episode has a hidden intro :-D We started talking right away, dived into different rabbitholes and interluded the inro somewhere on the way :) 

Have fun listening and we love to get in contact with you! 

Write Sharon on LinkedIn https://www.linkedin.com/in/sharon-leigh-pp4l/ 

or Alex via Mail at mail@alex-kahl.de 


Here are some topics of this episode:

Why smartphone Alarms are really bad as a Todo-List :)


How to macgyver yourself to do stuff


Find a new word / term für [[Neurodiversity]]

like

Alternatively Hardwired


Level up human tech


Womens tech neteork 


How did you come up with alternatively hardwired?


Core personal myth


The snow flake method for Storytelling 

by Randy Ingermanson (@SnowflakeGuy)


Listener feedback - you have to turn off the inner judgement


How to have constructive conversations


Did you have any troubles to get through the industrialized school system?


How easy from 1 to 10 is it for you to work in a 9 to 5 job


Sketchnoting - drawing notes


Getting Neurodiversity into schools


The importance of Recipes

and the Experimental Mindset


Martial Arts lesson for the head


Finding your Macguyverism through the catalyst of story


MACGYVERGASM = The Ultimate Hack :)

The Swiss Army Knive 

The pride in solving something with unusual means


Robotic competition

leading to

makers faire

tech camp for girls


Mentoring

What would be the first things sharon would build with mentee-kids?


Interestingness:

Flying a drone vs looking through the eye of a drone


Model bashing and Scratchbuilding

Adam Savage build in a day

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=7uS7A4x31PY


Sharon's Dad building a complete Apollo Lander Spaceship Simulator in the garage


Talking about Artist Tom Sachs who builds hiw own lifesized Space Missions from Plywood


Alex is a tool user not tool builder


How can we fascilitate the integration of people into our worlds

Feb 27, 202301:37:16
S02E00 - Interlude - No Episode today - we were lost in a rabbithole of Housekeeping ;)

S02E00 - Interlude - No Episode today - we were lost in a rabbithole of Housekeeping ;)

Just a short Greetings friend!

Feb 21, 202303:40
013 - Travelling, Big Cities, Hugging and Hierarchies für Neurodivergents

013 - Travelling, Big Cities, Hugging and Hierarchies für Neurodivergents

Greetings Friend! This is on of our first Episodes, so it might sound a bit different than those you are used to already :) It was recorded on Febrauary 7th in 2022. 


We talk about things like: 


Travelling as a Neurodivergent


Fire house delivery gear


Being born in a multichildren family not diagnosed


Being in a big city like Paris


Do you think differently while travelling in comparison to being at home?


Habits of peole who are not so aware


Neurodivergents, Primal behaviours and hierarchies


What are your models in your Life?

What are the models?


Identifying with characters in stories liek Disneys Raya and the last Dragon


Sometimes it is just not possible for people on the spectrum to walk across the room and hug somebody

Feb 19, 202301:18:32
S02E05 - Garrison vs Combat Mindset - Neurodiversity in the Military

S02E05 - Garrison vs Combat Mindset - Neurodiversity in the Military

Greetings friends. Today we have an interesting topic to talk about. We start out with strong habits since Alex managed to publish on his Blog on 100 consecutive days AAAND:

We started our Free Range Thinking YouTube Channel


First w talk about Brandon Sanderson's 10 years Mindset and the AD(H)D instant gratification mindset inspired by this Video by writer and YouTuber Jed Herne

How do we feel and think about the Babysteps?

How doing a LOT of Babysteps in DIFFERENT directions is the Polymath approach

aka

- A Pile of Ants

- A Bee Hive

- The Drunken Master Steps

That can mean: Walking AROUND a goal instead of towards it in a straight line


Sneaky Sharon tells Alex the idea for the Fantasy Book we have to write.


We got some Feedback:

So Alex started with Yoga - The Yoga-App is called Asana Rebel


On a party someone asked Alex:

"I heard about aphantasia on your podcast"


Then finally we takl about 

Garrison vs Combat Mindset - An idea by Jocko Willink on the Huberman Labs Podcast (around 19:11)


Working as a Chef with Gordon Ramsay

Or FRT as a Food Truck Daily Reality Show :)

HBO Contacts anyone?


FRT is Consistency and Fun for us
Adventurer / Explorer Mindset 


Back to the military :)


The German Military in the 90ies


IBMs method "Capture the Hill"


Premium Cola and Uwe Luebbermann as an example for a democratic company


Hierichal structures are great testing grounds


Autistic Person in the Air Force


24 as a theory as a tool for political influence 


Some Neurodiverse humans are good at Red Teaming

and

Lateral thinking


Sidedoors and Backdoors 


Red Oceans and Blue Oceans

Book Recommendation: Blue Ocean Strategy


It does not need to be for everybody!


Feb 14, 202301:13:45
012 - No yawning: 24h Watercooler Conversations with Saskia Listle in the collaborative, neurodiverse Startup Household

012 - No yawning: 24h Watercooler Conversations with Saskia Listle in the collaborative, neurodiverse Startup Household

THAT Episode-Title is a mouthful! :-D

And heeeere we are again with a new Interview Episode with Saskia Listle. First we have to say a little sorry: We were so engaged in the conversation that we totally overheard Saskia's connection had some hiccups. It's a minor annoyance but it should be possible to follow our conversation.

How did you find out your brain works differently?

How to see when the other one is maxed out

Logical Aphantasia

Learnings from being a Concierge in a High Class Hotel

How to interpret and act on hostility?

Yawning

Is there a way to make yourself interested in things?

How to get back into conversations you are not interested in.

Why is it yawning?

Because you are tired?

Or because it is an inappropriate thing to do in most situations?

Important: knowing yourself and your needs

How to live in a collaborative startup household as a source for serendipity

24h watercooler conversations

Accidents are frowned upon

Dying is forbidden

How much is on the  living together side and how much on the collaborating side?

Don't have any unspoken norms!

Get that stuff on the table

- wants

- needs

- fears

- expectations

With HUMOR in it - it can be healthy

Negotiating a personal manual for ourself

The secret smell Saskia can't tolerate in the morning

Here you can find out more about Saskia:

1. Saskia's LinkedIn Profile 

2. Saskia's Podcast: Conversations with my Future Skills

3. Her Newsletter: the grey area

4. And her Website: www.saskia-listle.com

Hybrid humans: is one of Saskia's and Sharon's projects 

and PSSST: They offer BEAUTIFUL art on T-Shirts - like NFT-Shirts :) 

Book mentioned:

RANGE - David Epstein - Generalism

Feb 11, 202301:18:00
S02E04 - How important is Laughing in Learning? - especially for neurodiverse people

S02E04 - How important is Laughing in Learning? - especially for neurodiverse people

Greetings friends to Episode 4 of our second season of Free Range Thinking! 

You can reach Sharon's via LinkedIn and Alex via Mail.  

Curiosity is tied in

Anchor important things with humor

Studies about learning and laughing

Is Memorizing useful or not?

Giving speeches or keynotes to neurotypicals

Hic sunt Dracones!

Coach

Laughing and fun in Martial Arts - differences between traditional martial arts like TaeKwonDo and more western ones like Boxing and Kickboxing

Laughing while Sparring. And when people are VERY serious it gets even funnier

Sharon's Yoga Teacher Voice 😀

The Yes-And Mindset

Where is the point when people lose their open mindset

...There is the death of a thousand papercuts again

Growing up in a very acidic and heavy household with JOY SQAUSHERS

How did parents(couples) like that ever get together??

Who is more joyful - catholics or protestants?

Emerging humor vs studied humor. Using jokes again and again

Shadow of the Gods humor and neurodiverse implications



Feb 07, 202301:02:33
011 - Being good in a crisis, Hyper Adaption and Universal Design - Pt. 2 with Matthew Bellringer

011 - Being good in a crisis, Hyper Adaption and Universal Design - Pt. 2 with Matthew Bellringer

Here we are again with our second episode with the wonderful Matthew Bellringer going even deeper down some exciting neurodiverse rabbit holes!


You can reach Sharon via LinkedIn
and Alex via mail@alex-kahl.de
Our Homepage is http://free-range-thinking.com/
find short Clips on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@freerangethinkingpodcast 


Hyper Adaption 

how we interact with the environment so it meets our needs

and how it's Trauma related

but not specifically Neurodivergent related

"if we don't do THIS - bad things will happen"


Hyper Empathy in autistic people

and

how we can manage other peoples level of feelings


Differences between Masking and Hyper Adaption

Hyper Adaption are the tools we use to mask


Hyperlexia 

and not saying "sorry i didnt mean that"


Strong Language, Fast Thinking, Shame

being strong but poorly coordinated


ADHDlers are well in a crisis

because we have PRACTICE with crisis :-)

It is a threshold, a transmission point.


Universal Design 

Perceviing signals of change earlier

can intimidate Neurotypical people


We need categories and (helpful) words


Preemptive selfjustification


Object Permanence and ADHD


Environmental Design

We can create an environment that suits as or does NOT suit us

How neurodiversive people might be more like chaos (not chaotic) and neurotypical people are more like order


Another kind of asthetic

Framework and flexible design


Explore specifics and

How people can play around with it


Neurodiversity as an organizational benefit 


Matthew's languaging around neurodiversities


Links to Matthew

- https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-bellringer/

- https://iaq.matthewbellringer.com

- https://www.matthewbellringer.com

Feb 03, 202301:54:27
S02E03 - How would you help people to find out what they are naturally good at?

S02E03 - How would you help people to find out what they are naturally good at?

We start with a question about Self awareness and identity but also really practical.

You can reach Sharon via LinkedIn
and Alex via 
mail@alex-kahl.de
Our Homepage is http://free-range-thinking.com/
find short Clips on YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/@freerangethinkingpodcast

In German there isn't really a word for Self-Awareness

How would you help people to find out what they are naturally good at?

Intrinsic motivators from our childhood and how it was outcultured through family and culture

Ask: "how do you want to feel?" Not what thing do you want to be or do

Shownotes Glennan Doyle - Doctor Becky Family Dynamics

How to teach kids to trust themselves

Where do you dwell?

How Alex ended upbeing some kind of Detective, somekind of Mac Gyver and some kind of treasure hunter.

Areas of security and privilege

We look for an alternative expression for "Death by a thousand papercuts" but: with a positive connotation

How Alex came up with the idea for this episodes through a Wordpress writing prompt:

Write about your first name, its meaning, its heritage and so on

Identity as a Tag in the clothing

Pronouns and identiy

Gracious Patience :-)

Our new definition for Death by a thousand paper cuts (and ChatGPT helped us with it :-D)

Link to the mentioned Episode of We can do hard things with Glennon Doyle and Dr Becky Kennedy about internal family systems


Jan 31, 202301:21:41
010 Sometimes the right answer IS masking - with Matthew Bellringer 1/2 Creative Innovation Guide and Neurodiversity Advocate who sounds a bit like Neil Gaiman :)

010 Sometimes the right answer IS masking - with Matthew Bellringer 1/2 Creative Innovation Guide and Neurodiversity Advocate who sounds a bit like Neil Gaiman :)

We talk with our third and wonderful guest, Matthew Bellringer, about how to get over the barricades and work with individuals and organizations on complex and wicked problems socially, techy plus human relations.

Matthew's neurodivergent Bingo card:   Dyslexia, ADHD and Autism

Matthew changed how Sharon speaks about high functioning and low functioning.

What is Atypical Autism?

When you meet one person with autism you met ONE person with autism.

If you are a problem for others you are likely to be diagnosed, whereas,
If you are a problem for yourself - you are less likely to be diagnosed.
So:
Diagnostic factors for neurodiversion is how we annoy neurotypical people.

If you are part of a neurominority you tend to distrust your internal state because the world tells you it is wrong.

Differences between hard empathy and soft empathy.

Strategies for how you can turn a "you are functioning in a wrong way" around?

How to develop awareness how to integrate and practice sensory awareness into skillful self-expression.

Fear with bureaucratic authorities up until being at gunpoint with the police because of neurodivergent behavior.

Sometimes the right answer IS masking.

The trick is having the choice!

When you study psychology - how much neurodiversity taking place there already?

Aphantasic - but also hyperphantasic in a way.

Having proceptic sense in space - knowing the relative relationship of things in space without knowing how they look.

How neurodiversity works in other pathways, other journeys and the analogy of the Schiebepuzzle = clusters are moving in the brain.

Is it possible to recreate the creativity in adults?

Flexibility in categorizing: Cognitive piles instead of boxes.

We enjoy the puzzle of things that contradict ourselves. It's our kind of sudoku :)

We become experts in our fields of focused interest, like elite athletes or musicians find pleasure in hours of training or practicing.

When we are doing something different and succeed with it - THAT scares people.

We internalize other people's feelings which leads to:  I learned to be afraid of it because OTHER PEOPLE are fearful of this


Alex's observation:  
Matthew sounds like Neil Gaiman!  :)
And:  Neverwhere works as a great allegory for unmasking
Our Downhill Parking:   Another way of Aesthetic and languaging around universal design


Links to Matthew

- https://www.linkedin.com/in/matthew-bellringer/

- https://iaq.matthewbellringer.com

- https://www.matthewbellringer.com

Jan 27, 202301:24:09