Self-Acceptance & Confidence
1. To find self-acceptance you must first be self-aware. This step takes a serious amount of time, effort and energy. As life goes through phases, I feel like our kids today are rushed from the word GO and can easily end up not having a time or place for self-awareness until their mid-20’s, 30’s or maybe ever.
2. A few starter places here:
  1. Ryan Holiday’s book: Obstacle, Ego and Stillness helped me break down a lot of this. To combine the outlooks of those books into one sentence, I believe that breaking down your ego is the greatest obstacle we have to overcome, and can only be achieved through stillness.
  2. Pulling back from relationships, work, school, the hustle and bustle of life generally are all a requirement to achieve self-awareness and be free to tap into your true thoughts, beliefs and principles.
  3. I believe once you do that, only then can you have supreme confidence in yourself, and your decisions. Because if you are truly tapped into this, you cannot make a wrong decision FOR YOU. Others may perceive it as wrong, it may go against their principles, or their beliefs, or their thoughts...and they might get butt hurt about it….but because you are walking your own belief path, it cannot be wrong. The most offensive thing to an insecure person is a confident person.
3. This must be the starting point for us. All relationships, all life choices, all passion and belief stem from tapping into your real thoughts and feelings. When you’re dialed in on these things many absurdities of life fade away, and real conversations with those around you can begin. True, honest conversations with your spouse about things you’re unhappy with, your frustrations, your passions, etc. can be openly discussed without negativity. Once you have ‘freed’ yourself, then, and only then, are you able to accept people for who they really are without bias, negativity or hate. And I believe you can only really help people once you’ve accepted who they are.
4. This hustleporn culture and “Sensationalist” “expert” posting mechanism makes people feel like theyre failures or failing.

Episode 113: SCC with Tendekai Benn Mudzinganyama