Feminist Survival Project 2020

Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gmail.com A transcript of this episode is available on the FSP website. DORRIE LANE'S WONDROUS VULVA PUPPET Shop

Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gmail.com A transcript of this episode is available on the FSP website.

Why did Emily write a new edition of Come As You Are? We're glad you asked! After five years of talking to readers, Emily has updated Come As You Are with new science, new language, and new perspectives. In this three part series, she explains some of what's in the new edition. ******** Order a signed copy from our local bookseller, Book Moon Books. Or preorder on Amazon. Join the Emily’s Adnexa email list here. If you have a question that she can answer in the email list, send it to cayapod@gmail.com A transcript of this episode is available on the FSP website.

Let’s make some New Year’s Resolutions. Or not! Do whatever you need to get through this mess. Amelia is still dealing with long Covid and Emily gets really excited about Bridgerton. ********* LINKS: Episode 46: What Even Is Hope Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 29: Allegra Your New Year’s Resolution in 2021 Should Be To Stay Alive | A Serious Message From a Comedy Writer Shantira Jackson on Instagram Kate Bornstein get out of hell card Episode 51: Calling In Amelia’s Covid Burnout: THE SECRET TO UNLOCKING THE STRESS CYCLE Defying Hitler: A Memoir You'll Never Believe What Happened to Lacey: Crazy Stories about Racism by Amber Ruffin and Lacey Lamar feminist survival project instagram

It’s a special holiday episode where we ask you not to attend holiday gatherings. It’s about turkey, but it’s not really about turkey. Bonus: Amelia’s secret stuffing recipe. ***** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by If the Boot Fits, A Smart & Sexy Cinderella Story by Rebekah Weatherspoon LINKS: Fomite NY Times: For Home Cooks, Burnout Is a Reality This Holiday Season Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Hygge Vestibular Migraine Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome Bell’s Poultry Seasoning

It’s the final episode of the season! Emily and Amelia discuss what all of you learned from the show. And if your name is Brené Brown, there’s a special gratitude song just for you. ****** Taco Emoji 🌮 Don’t Bring Facts to a Feelings Fight Underbelly Yoga Nap Ministry A Slob Comes Clean Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle Burnout: The Secret to Unlocking the Stress Cycle: Penguin Random House Amazon

Everybody’s been asking about the class Amelia teaches on the book Burnout, so she’s gonna lay it all out for us. And, ohh… did you know we spoke to Brené Brown? That actually happened. ***** Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski  on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle  Episode 18: The New Hotness Episode 04: The Abyss Episode 13: Is it Burnout... Or is it trauma? Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 36: Embrace Tiger Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far! feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com Instagram Twitter

What’s your attachment style? Which Broadway musical number does it correspond to? Emily and Amelia discuss… and sing. ***** Episode 52: Trust Attachment theory Reaper Incandescent Sisal Light Up Halloween Decor Candide - Make Our Garden Grow Brené with Emily and Amelia Nagoski on Burnout and How to Complete the Stress Cycle How to Be an Adult: A Handbook for Psychological and Spiritual Integration Tell us one thing you’ve learned on FSP so far! feministsurvivalproject2020@gmail.com Instagram Twitter

How do you know when to trust other people? How do you know when to share your cupcakes to make the world better for everyone? Emily and Amelia discuss and end with a song. ******* Books by Dr. Sue Johnson Entitled: How Male Privilege Hurts Women Gas Light by Patrick Hamilton Episode 08: The Monitor Come as You Are chapter 4 covers attachment theory Brandon Sanderson’s “Reckoners” series

Update on Amelia’s long Covid situation and Emily’s new dad, Mandy Patinkin.  ******* “I’m a Black Feminist. I Think Call-Out Culture Is Toxic.” by Loretta Ross lorettaross.com Schadenfreude Mandy Patinkin’s twitter Mandy Patinkin’s love song

Fifty episodes! Let’s review the toolkit we’ve built during this year of podcasts. Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Brené Brown: The power of vulnerability (TED talk) Episode 31: Social Support Episode 01: Separate the Stress From the Stressor Episode 08: The Monitor  Episode 28: Foop Episode 32: The Owl and the Cheese Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex Episode 11: The Bubble of Love Episode 05: What's Your Something Larger? Episode 34: The Madwoman Episode 35: Too Much Connection Episode 18: The New Hotness Episode 36: Embrace Tiger Episode 49: How to Dreams Episode 47: Pause For Pleasure Episode 20: How to Numbing Episode 27: How to Unfamiliarity

Are your dreams purely biochemical processes or are they Jungian-scented mind candles your subconscious teaches you lessons with? Emily and Amelia discuss. ************* Jonathan Haidt: "The Elephant and the Rider" The Happiness Hypothesis Encyclopedia Of Occult Sciences (archive.org) Episode 34: The Madwoman Episode 21: Your Body Will Tell You Multiple trace theory

Do the views of authors and actors affect your ability to enjoy things? Can you consume problematic media in good conscience? Amelia and Emily discuss. J. K. Rowling is not invited. ************* WTAF, RWA: Courtney Milan Banned, Suspended From RWA I Asked My Friend WHY She Had a Plantation Wedding Episode 29: Allegra Zaris-Angel performs 'Naughty' at West End Live 2016 Splash Mountain to Be Rethemed to The Princess and the Frog Auliʻi Cravalho Hattie McDaniel The Wind Can GTFO [A Gone With the Wind Breakdown] Episode 43: How to Bystander Episode 07: Your Racist Uncle, Your Apathetic Aunt, and Your Misogynist Cousin: How To

Can focusing on pleasure help your brain counteract depression? Is it worth taking a moment to enjoy every donut even if it doesn’t? Emily and Amelia discuss. ********* SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Siren and the Deep Blue Sea,” the latest book in the Embraced by Magic Series by Kerrelyn Sparks. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781496730060/the-siren-and-the-deep-blue-sea/ ********* Entenmann’s donuts: https://www.entenmanns.com/en/products/8-crumb-donuts?category=8 Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-03-human-giver-syndrome Iggy Pop, King Biscuit Flower Hour:  https://www.allmusic.com/album/king-biscuit-flower-hour-mw0000029108 How to Manage Your Home Without Losing Your Mind: https://www.aslobcomesclean.com/manage-home-without-losing-mind/ Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-41-bikini-industrial-complex Episode 10: Rest IS the Revolution: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-10-rest-is-revolution Disney's Polynesian Resort Music Loop (Full 3 Hour Edition): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=QrAkWFQpi0w A Social History of Background Music: http://passport2dreams.blogspot.com/2017/10/a-social-history-of-background-music.html

What is the nature of hope? Amelia’s off this week, so Emily discusses with her mysterious Marital Euphemism. ****** How We Hope: A Moral Psychology by Adrienne Martin: https://www.amazon.com/How-We-Hope-Moral-Psychology/dp/0691171394 Irascible Appetites: https://aquinasonline.com/sense-appetites-passions/ Episode 08: The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor Oregon Trail Generation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Xennials Marital Euphemism: https://twitter.com/rstevens

Emily’s worried about the future of democracy, but the good news is It turns out the nature of the problem doesn’t necessarily dictate the nature of the solution. (This one’s a little dark.) ******* Sonya Renee Taylor: https://www.instagram.com/tv/CD4C_56AbP7/?igshid=jrczl9b8x7ay https://www.instagram.com/tv/CECUAjsADLF/?igshid=1ecl04ohd5a1h Surviving Autocracy by Masha Gessen: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/50695164-surviving-autocracy How to Be an Antiracist by Ibram X. Kendi: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/40265832-how-to-be-an-antiracist Defying Hitler by Sebastian Haffner: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/65458.Defying_Hitler Early warning signs of fascism: https://www.snopes.com/fact-check/holocaust-museum-warning-signs-fascism/ The Cake in the Rain Song (not to be confused with The Pina Colada Song) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sD-zTwi3_GU How Fascism Works: The Politics of Us and Them by Jason Stanley https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/38255329-how-fascism-works Episode 44: How to Shadow Work: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-44-shadow-work Episode 04: The Abyss: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-04-the-abyss

Why do certain things really make you angry? Could it be that they remind you of things you dislike in yourself? Emily and Amelia discuss. Spoilers for Rise of Skywalker, The Mandalorian, Hamilton, Moana and The Accursed Year 2020. *** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Rebellious Rancher,” the latest book in the The Millers of Morgan Valley Series by Kate Pearce https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420148251/the-rebellious-rancher/ Jungian archetypes: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jungian_archetypes Audre Lorde: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Audre_Lorde Episode 34: The Madwoman: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-34-madwoman Metta loving-kindness meditation: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Maitrī 

So you’ve noticed something Not Okay is happening. What do you do next? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Green Dot Bystander Intervention: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Green_Dot_Bystander_Intervention Rage Fridge (From Thanksgiving episode): https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-07-thanksgiving Episode 41: The Bikini-Industrial Complex: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-41-bikini-industrial-complex Episode 18: The New Hotness: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-18-new-hotness Erika Moen: https://www.ohjoysextoy.com

Amelia’s COVID Chronicles, Chapter One Million. Emily helps her turn towards her fatigue with m********ing kindness and m********ing compassion. ******** Transtheoretical model: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Transtheoretical_model That Calvin Coolidge quote which neither of us endorse: https://www.goodreads.com/quotes/2749-nothing-in-this-world-can-take-the-place-of-persistence Episode 31: Social Support: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support Self-Therapy: https://selftherapyjourney.com Emily’s romance novels: https://www.amazon.com/How-Fall-Belhaven-Emily-Foster/dp/1496704185/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr=

The Bikini-Industrial Complex We have been lied to all our lives about the relationship between health and weight. It’s both liberating and infuriating. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Emily’s blog post on BMI and weight stigma: https://www.thedirtynormal.com/post/2016/08/07/bmi-mortality-weight-stigma-science-sigh/ Health at Every Size: https://haescommunity.com Episode 11: The Bubble of Love: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-11-bubble-of-love Episode 40: Food: It's Complicated: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-40-food-its-complicated Episode 36: Embrace Tiger: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-36-embrace-tiger Sonya Renee Taylor - The Body is Not an Apology: https://www.sonyareneetaylor.com/the-body-is-not-an-apology Anti-Diet by Christy Harrison: https://christyharrison.com/book-anti-diet-intuitive-eating-christy-harrison

Do you live to eat or eat to live? If you answered, "it's complicated," you are correct. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by “The Mermaid, the Witch, and the Sea,” Maggie Tokuda-Hall’s sweeping fantasy debut from Candlewick press: https://www.candlewick.com/cat.asp?mode=book&isbn=1536204315&browse=Title Episode 18: The New Hotness https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-18-new-hotness

Spoiler alert: COVID is serious. Amelia is past the worst and quarantined like a boss, but it really took a toll. Contains some coughing and mild coffee snobbery. ******** Amelia’s covid prep list: https://medium.com/@amelianp/covid-prep-list-7bbc6a8ee3d2 Hario V60 pour over coffee: https://www.baristainstitute.com/brewguides-2/hario-v60 Episode 08: The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor

As careful as she was, Amelia caught the virus. (She's OK.) Let's learn from her experience and get a Corona Plan together in case you need to quarantine. Bonus: Emily and Amelia discuss toilet paper. SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by Crushing It, a new romantic comedy by Lorelei Parker from Kensington Books. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/pages/landing-page/crushingit/ Amelia’s covid prep list: https://medium.com/@amelianp/covid-prep-list-7bbc6a8ee3d2

Ode to Ode to Joy Classical music should be for everyone because we all deserve access to joy. You may have more in common with these dead composers than you thought. Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Was Beethoven Black? Probably Not, but These Unsung Composers Were: https://www.smithsonianmag.com/smart-news/was-beethoven-black-and-why-might-be-wrong-question-ask-180975159/ Joy playlist: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/0RmAELBeFBBItZnfTV4yX7?si=EsR-Yi_GRbyjw4IUk6lhvw Schubert: Symphony No.9 "The Great" / Bernstein Bayerischen Rundfunks: https://youtu.be/hCuC8--m-98?t=2453 Mahler: Symphony No. 2: Mov. 5 - Part 4 of 4: https://youtu.be/tf5fM1i3MGQ?t=234 Rachmaninoff plays Traditional/Rachmaninov "Powder and Paint" with Nadejda Plevitskaya: https://youtu.be/2mcnNDZPvgI Beethoven in Baltimore: https://www.bsomusic.org/GMLoungeLive Burnout playlist, art music by women composers in a mood of quiet strength: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/2F3axNgma4ropXUTvbKYXf?si=_df9yYjuSVC5GEXo3-NZFg

This week, Amelia discusses tai chi and nonjudgment in the hope that it can help Emily. (and you) Spoiler warning: The moral of the story is Universe Juice. ******** Embrace Tiger, Return to Mountain: The Essence of Tai Ji https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/252447.Embrace_Tiger_Return_to_Mountain Everything Is Everything (Lauryn Hill song) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Everything_Is_Everything_(Lauryn_Hill_song) Kung Fu Panda https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kung_Fu_Panda_(franchise) Chickpea To Cook, By Rumi: https://catmeffan.com/poem-chickpea-to-cook-rumi/

Connection is a drive, like hunger and sleep. But what do you do when you’ve had too much connection? Emily and Amelia discuss. ******** Born in Quarantine (Facebook ad) https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=8OW4AFbzjGk Social Distance podcast: https://www.theatlantic.com/podcasts/socialdistance/ Episode 31: Social Support: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-31-social-support The Noonday Demon: http://andrewsolomon.com/books/the-noonday-demon/ Raising Your Spirited Child, Third Edition: https://www.amazon.com/Raising-Your-Spirited-Child-Third/dp/0062403060

Emily and Amelia discuss the concept of The Madwoman, and how you can turn toward yours with kindness and compassion. Spoiler warning for those who don't yet know the stories of Jane Eyre or Moana. ******** SPONSOR: This episode is brought to you by Never Conspire With a Sinful Baron, the latest book in Renee Ann Miller’s Infamous Lords Series. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/9781420150032/never-conspire-with-a-sinful-baron/ Jane Eyre https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Jane_Eyre Bertha Mason (The Madwoman in the Attic) https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Bertha_Mason Buffy’s Madwoman©  https://medium.com/@amelianp/buffys-madwoman-a925672d7689 Episode 04: The Abyss https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-04-the-abyss Episode 11: The Bubble of Love https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-11-bubble-of-love Episode 02: Complete the Stress Response Cycle https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-02-complete-the-stress-response-cycle

Did you watch the interactive Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt? How does making good choices for Kimmy apply to real life? Emily and Amelia discuss. (Tons of spoilers for Kimmy Vs. The Reverend) ******** Kimmy Vs. The Reverend: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt10324166/ EMDR Therapy: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Eye_movement_desensitization_and_reprocessing Emily’s romance novels: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/27208942-how-not-to-fall https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/25985351-how-not-to-let-go Episode 03: Human Giver Syndrome: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-03-human-giver-syndrome

What do owls and cheese have to do with surviving the hellscape of 2020? How can we work to run toward the things that make it worth surviving. Emily and Amelia discuss. ****** Episode 5: What's Your Something Larger? https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-05-something-larger Pacific Overtures "Someone in a Tree" - Ann Harada, Austin Ku, Kelvin Moon Loh & Thom Sesma: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=-PNX9PPCEls&feature=emb_title Love Illuminated (part 1): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=F8I4zFUxU9g&list=PLY864P3qWCN7iwXSXbQ8ZFA7J1YeYM8 Sadie the Dog: https://www.instagram.com/burnoutbookgroup/

It turns out feelings are real and (spoiler warning) emotional support is really important! Emily and Amelia discuss. There's science to support it. Emily and Amelia discuss. This episode is brought to you by Kensington’s newest title from Lindsay McKenna, Wind River Undercover. https://www.kensingtonbooks.com/book.aspx/39281 ****** Gourmet Makes: https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes Shrinkchicks (Season 1, Episode 20) https://open.spotify.com/episode/61wmkKTydqaWbZ4pgorSKX Polyvagal Theory by Stephen Porges https://www.stephenporges.com/

“Democracy is the worst form of government, except for all the others” is attributed to Winston Churchill, who wasn't too great himself. And this year it might feel like the Democratic presidential candidate is the worst one on the ballot except for the other one. What’s a feminist to do?Emily, Amelia, and Amelia's colleague Mark discuss.  (Content warning: this episode includes discussion of sexual violence ) ****** what to do when someone tells you they were sexually assaulted: https://medium.com/@enagoski/what-to-do-when-someone-tells-you-they-were-sexually-assaulted-794d41e58c05

Amelia’s friend and fellow musician Allegra joins us this week and shares her perspective on social distancing and burnout. ****** Wozzeck Trailer (The Royal Opera): https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=YzU31UrXceo Predictably Irrational: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Predictably_Irrational The Ballad of the Brown King: https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/The_Ballad_of_the_Brown_King The Concert Choir of Georgetown University - Millennium Stage: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aPDZ2iwSMXA Vegetarian JapChae recipe: http://aeriskitchen.com/2017/03/vegetarian-japchae/

You know that crazy feeling of oscillating between frustrated rage and helpless despair? That’s Foop. Emily and Amelia discuss. ********** The Monitor: https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-08-the-monitor

We're all in uncharted territory these days. Amelia has a music metaphor to help cope with these times of social distancing. Emily helps break it down. Special appearance by Beethoven. (not the dog)

We're all wearing masks now. But why are we wearing them and how can we do so most effectively. Emily and Amelia get into it, cowboy outlaw-style.

Emily (from her bed) and Amelia (from her kitchen) discuss the importance of social distancing, as well as why it's so hard. And Amelia tops it off with a classic 90s Bette Midler jam. ****** Episode 20: How to Numbing https://www.feministsurvivalproject.com/episodes/episode-20-numbing SOCIAL DISTANCE - A Randy Rainbow Song Parody https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=WimbyL_25Nw Colin Firth Swimming https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=hasKmDr1yrA

Emily and Amelia’s first ever guest! They talk with the amazing Peggy Kleinplatz, one of the authors of the new book, Magnificent Sex. ****** Magnificent Sex Lessons from Extraordinary Lovers, 1st Edition By Peggy J. Kleinplatz and A. Dana Ménard https://www.routledge.com/Magnificent-Sex-Lessons-from-Extraordinary-Lovers-1st-Edition/Kleinplatz-Menard/p/book/9780367181376

Emily and Amelia discuss social distancing while social distancing. Plus: Bonus word games and ukulele music. ****** Mickey Mouse - Ku'u Lei Melody | Song https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=h8FasCHHsPk

Time is the only completely limited resource. What matters more to you, time or stuff? Are you willing to compromise to fit the expectations of others? Emily and Amelia discuss.

How do you listen to your body? It’s easy for some people and a completely alien concept for others. Emily and Amelia discuss. ****** The Communication of Emotion by Ross Buck https://www.amazon.com/Communication-Emotion-Ross-Buck/dp/0898621100 Interoception https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Interoception Proprioception https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Proprioception Singing Redefined by Walter C. Foster https://www.classicalvocalrep.com/products/Singing-Redefined-by-Walter-C-Foster-369633.html Peggy Kleinplatz https://www.aasect.org/member-spotlight-peggy-kleinplatz

Worried about the Coronavirus? Luckily, Emily has a background in public health and can explain it. This is an episode for people who aren’t at high risk, to talk about why and how they can help make the world safer for people who are at risk. Spoiler warning: Wash your hands. PS: Edited to add when Emily listened to this mini-episode, she realized they didn’t make it crystal clear that it’s not just age but also health issues that make people vulnerable. People of any age can have respiratory issues, diabetes or cardiovascular disease, all three of which are known to increase severity of symptoms if a person gets COVID-19. ****** By Emily: how to survive a long-haul flight — 2020/coronovirus update Emily loves Mrs. Meyer's Acorn Spice Liquid Hand Soap

Numbing. Emotional ibuprofen. Maladaptive coping strategies. They’re short-term solutions, but sometimes reducing the pain is the only way you can rest enough to heal. FSP2020 joins the Frolic network: https://frolic.media Gourmet Makes with Claire Saffitz: https://www.bonappetit.com/video/series/gourmet-makes Explain Pain Super Charged: https://www.amazon.com/Explain-Charged-Butler-Lorimer-Moseley/dp/0648022706

What's the difference between art and entertainment? How can you engage with both in a healthy way? PS: Emily really, really loves Schitt's Creek. ****** How Horror Helps With Processing Grief and Trauma: Laura Kinsale

The Bikini-Industrial Complex. What is it and how can you escape it? Also- The secret identity of The New Hotness (Spoiler warning: It's you.) ****** Health at Every Size

Gratitude is important. But just because we’ve come a long way, it doesn’t mean we’re close to where we need to be. Emily and Amelia discuss. FSP2020 episode 5: What's your something larger? Nichole’s Gratitude on Medium. Amelia is a huge Brandon Sanderson fan.

We're white ladies. We know we're not going to say anything that people of color don't already know. We're going to make mistakes. But we're going to try our best. Show notes: Me and White Supremacy workbook by Layla Saad The Nap Bishop Leesa Renee Hall Tressie  McMillan Cottom's THICK Brittany Cooper’s Eloquent Rage A History of White People

It's the inevitable politics episode. Amelia is an idealist. Emily's a pragmatist. But guess what? They both want to do the right thing.

Amelia takes the lead on this one. How does creative self-expression help you complete the stress response cycle? (Hint: It has to do with recognizing that emotions are real.)

Burnout and trauma are not the same thing. Emily and Amelia discuss the difference and some ways to help. (Apologies for the audio quality on this one. We had some microphone difficulties.)

How much sleep do you need? What's the "right" way to sleep? Emily and Amelia talk about sleep debt, sleep personalities, and a just a touch of Jane Eyre.

What makes a relationship safe and renewing? Emily and Amelia explain using Cupcake Economics.

Rest is important. You're probably not getting enough. Let's talk about it with Emily, Amelia, and a special secret guest cameo appearance from Rachel Maddow. We're huge fans of The Nap Ministry, who you should follow on Instagram.

Rage. It's a maligned and misunderstood emotion. What's your relationship with your rage? What's your rage's relationship with... poop?

Frustration. Everybody feels it. Emily and Amelia discuss the science of how frustration works, and strategies for managing it. Worksheets from their book Burnout are here: https://www.burnoutbook.net/downloads

It's almost Thanksgiving here in these United States. Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies for dealing with people you disagree with during the holidays. In the words of Luke Skywalker, "This is not going to go the way you think."

Impeachment has begun. What's your relationship with the news right now? Emily and Amelia discuss their strategies. Spoiler alert: It's OK to dial it back and take care of yourself.

There's a lot of research that says meaning and purpose is good for your mental health. But how do we define that? Emily, Amelia, and Moana are here to figure that out.

Today... we’re gonna look squarely into the abyss. We’ve all got one. Let’s talk about it.

In this episode, the question is: What’s the biggest cultural barrier between feminists and their ability to complete the stress response cycles?

So if solving actual stressors isn’t enough to deal with the stress in your body, what does deal with it? How do we complete the stress response cycle? This episode is a catalog of a dozen concrete, specific, evidence-based strategies for doing just that.

Wellness is a state of action. The cure for burnout isn’t self-care, it’s all of us caring for each other. And when we embrace those things, we’re not taking a break from fixing the world, we are already fixing the world.

What is the Feminist Survival Project 2020? Emily and Amelia Nagoski explain the project and how you can help.