Blow the Whistle With Coach Andrea

The topic of "what to tell the kids" come up so much in sessions. Parenting is so hard because we are imperfect beings who are responsible for such precious beings. There is no perfect way to share, but this episode offers a few factors for consideration and a framework to consider when talking to your kids.

How do you know when it's time to leave a destructive marriage? This is one of the most common questions partners ask when trying to decide how to move forward after betrayal. In today's episode, Coach Andrea shares some signs that leaving might be a good option. Please note that there are many nuances that can't be covered in 60 minutes. This is food for thought, not a directive.

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In this episode, Coach Andrea wraps up Black History Month by sharing her own personal experiences as a Black woman. This epidsode is designed to spark curiosity and bring awareness to a conversation that often gets overlooked in trauma spaces. You're invited to step into a space of vulnerability and openness as Coach Andrea approaches a much needed topic.

Today Coach Andrea shares a book review on the popular book "Attached" by Amir Levine and Rachel Heller. If you've ever wondered how you and your patners attachment styles impacts how you show up in relationships, this is the episode for you!

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Doing the work to heal can be frustrating! Today Coach Andrea shares a path she uses with clients to help them heal and heal well. Grab your pencil because you will want to take notes!

Trust is an essential element to every healthy relationship. Without trust, it's very difficult to build the other factors that contribute to good relational intimacy. In today's episode, Coach Andrea defines trust, explains how trust is lost, and how it can be earned or reearned. This is the relational check up we all need!

This podcast is dedicated to partners, or anyone, who feels like, "I don't have a choice." Empowerment is the ability to make a choice and being empowered is critical to healing. If you struggle with seeing your choices, knowing which choice to make, or moving forward with a choice you know you need to make, this podcast is for you.

Happy 2024! In part 2 of a discussion on growing up, maturity, Coach Andrea continues to share thoughts on what it means to grow into your adult self. Using material from several resources, she shares what it looks like to step into your "second half of life".

Aging happens naturally, it requires no effort from us. Maturing into an adult takes intentional, purposeful effort. We don't grow into emotionally healthy, mature functional adults without doing the work. Today Coach Andrea shares what it means to grow up and some thoughtful reflections on how to do that.

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Today's episode is in honor of the countless numbers of people who choose to walk away from a destructive marriage. Divorce comes with lots of stigma and judgement, which often shuts down the voices of divorced people. This episode is a PSA for those who haven't had a chance to speak for themselves or ask for what they need.

For this last month of the year, I'm focusing on the most talked about topics I cover in my sessions. My favorite B word, boundaries, definitely is at the top of the list. We all need to know what healthy boundaries are, why they are important, and how to set them. This episode will help you do that and so much more!

How important is trauma-informed care in the midst of traumatic situations? Today Coach Andrea has a conversation with Donna M. Dixon, founder and lead servant of A Door of Hope. Learn what trauma informed care is and how A Door of Hope is training women to provide a place of safety and hope for women recovering from betrayal.

If mental health is the commitment to reality at all costs, that means that we regularly should be doing reality checks. In this episode Coach Andrea shares some things that keep us from being in reality and offers some ways we can stay grounded in reality.

In honor of Domestic Violence Awareness month, we are discussing abuse on the podcast today. It's a topic that's difficult to talk about, but even more difficult to experience. We cannot change what we do not discuss and we cannot heal what is not exposed. Awareness is key and could save a life. If you are in immediate need of support, please contact the Domestic Violence Hotline 800-799-7233.

Just saying the word abortion stirs up VERY strong feelings for many people. Today on the podcast, Coach Andrea talks to Lisa Rowe, CEO of Support After Abortion, a non-profit organization that provides compassionate care to help people impacted by abortion to receive the hope and healing they deserve. Support After Abortion offers a research-centered, options-based model which gives people hurting from abortion experiences an opportunity to live their best life by breaking free from guilt, shame, condemnation, and other painful emotions. www.supportafterabortion.com

As I'm continually celebrating this year of Jubilee, a thought hit me about the amount of gratitude that I feel in this season. Does grief deepen our level of gratitude? When we have periods of loss, if we allow grief it's due diligence, does it make space for more gratitude. I don't have the answers, but I do think it's a topic worth exploring. I'd love to hear your thoughts!

Identity theft is one of the fastest rising crimes in the physical. In the spiritual, it's the oldest trick in the book. Listen as Coach Andrea shares the importance of having our spiritual vision checked on a regular basis so that we don't lose sight of who God truly is AND who we are as image-bearers. You can break free from whatever lie the enemy has told you about who you are and walk in the abundance of the truth.

Trigger warning: This episode is deeply personal and covers some details that may be triggering. Who knew that the year of turning 40 would begin the fight of my life? This is, by far, my most vulnerable podcast episode. Listen as I share how the 40s took me through hell and back, shattered my life, and are ending with a renewed excitement for my 50s. This journey has been the fight of my life, but with the help of God, I won. You can too!

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None of us is exempt from experiencing trauma. Post traumatic growth is the term used to describe what happens when we go through trauma and come through it with a greater appreciation for life, richer relationships, and personal strength. My guest today, Nakia Hanson is a picture of what it looks like to live in post traumatic growth. Her story of experiencing rape, abuse, cancer, and a car accident is reminder that the human spirit is powerful and that God truly can bring beauty from ashes. (Trigger warning: Sensitive topics are discussed in this episode.)

What happens when God starts to pull apart the fabric you've use to weave your identity? Today my guest, Titus Benton, shares how the loss of his job caused a great unraveling in who he thought he was. Titus' vulnerable story is full of great insight and some really powerful thoughts to ponder. If you've ever found yourself in the middle of an unraveling or you're in that process now, you don't want to miss this episode.

After years of working with partners, there are some things that I hear pretty consistently that wives wish their husbands knew. I'm sharing some behind the scenes secrets to close out Men's Mental Health month. Husbands, I want to see you win!

You may have heard Dr. Jake Porter, founder of Daring Ventures (https://www.daringventures.com/), but you haven't heard him quite like this. I got the chance to ask Jake anything and it was well worth it! Listen as Jake shares pieces of his own story, his journey to where he is today, and some of the reasons he's seen couples not do well in recovery. It's insightful and engaging!

Have you ever wondered what God was doing with your trauma? If so, you don't want to miss this episode with Matt Wenger, Clinical Director at Begin Again Institute and Boulder Recovery. Matt shares some things that God put on his heart during his own season of contemplation and seeking. If you have religious trauma, please know this episode may be triggering despite our efforts to be sensitive. If you've been searching for a way to make sense of your life, this might just be the episode for you. You can reach Matt Wenger at https://beginagaininstitute.com/.

What labels do you use to describe yourself on your healing journey? Sometimes labels get a bad rap because of the negative connotations attached to them. Today Coach Andrea explores why we shouldn't be afraid of certain words and how they can actually help us to move forward in our healing journey.

In this episode, Coach Andrea explores the connection between awareness, attachment, and authenticity. If mental health is "a commitment to reality at all costs", we need to be honest about who we are and how we engage with others. Learning to be the most authentic version of yourself is one of the greatest forms of self-care and a major contributor to your mental health and well-being.

Betrayal can impact all parts of a person's health, including their mental health. Listen in as Jen Cole Binkley, nurse and betrayal trauma coach, shares the commonalities of her experiences from her time as a nurse and as a betrayal trauma coach. Be sure to share this episode with someone who needs to know that healing takes time and that hope is available.

May is Mental Health Awareness month! If we're focused on being made well (whole), we cannot neglect our mental health. Our mental health impacts our overall well being, which means we have to be intentional about it. Listen in to learn the definition of mental health, understand the importance of brain health, how our faith and mental health are not contradictory, and get access to resources. Be sure to like and share to bring awareness to the importance of mental health.

We have all heard "God hates divorce", but what if that's not actually what the Bible says? My guest, Gretchen Baskerville, has spent years researching divorce and shares some long hidden facts about what the Bible REALLY says about divorce. She has years of experience leading divorce groups and works hard to advocate for men and women who are divorced due to destructive and devastating marriages. Gretchen has written a book called "The Life Saving Divorce" which is available for purchase on Amazon.

Have you ever stopped and thought about the benefits to telling the truth? Jesus, himself, said that freedom and truth are intimately tied together. In this episode, walk with me down the path of defining truth, understanding what happens when we walk and live according to the truth, and what happens when we don't tell the truth. This is a challenging episode, but well worth the listen!

Father wounds can create more issues than Vogue! Join me as I sit down with creative writer and producer, Lisa Alexander, as she shares how she turned her daddy issues into an amazing project called "My Father the Queen". Lisa invites us into a story that's intriguing, inspiring, but also challenging as she examines a very complex topic. If you would like to support Lisa's crowdfunding, go to https://ifundwomen.com/projects/my-father-queen-film-0.

When a BIPOC group and Brainspotting come together, great things are bound to happen!  I had the pleasure of siting down with three wise women to discuss Brainspotting, the power of safe spaces, and the power of healing.  Welcome Alexis Overstreet, LCSW (https://metaspacecounseling.com/), Mercedes Samudio, LCSW(https://solo.to/mrs.samudio), and Ruthie Unaegbu, RCC (https://www.ruthunaegbu.com/) to the mic.  This episode is full of wisdom and proves how women empowering women is life giving!

I had the pleasure of interviewing a queen and woman who I admire greatly, my aunt, Barbara Morales Kibbe,  Barbara shares her journey from being a small town girl to being a BOSS.  Listen to how God brought her through single parenting, breaking glass ceilings, healing from cancer, and the wisdom she has for the next generation.  You will understand why she is living HerSTORY.

My guest today, Matt Wenger, shares how God shifted his path from pastor to Clinical Directory at Boulder Recovery.  Our journey's are full of twists and turns, but God is never off course.  Matt shares how Boulder Recovery helps men to heal and recover from trauma and sex addiction so that they can experience a life of freedom and abundance.  Learn more about Boulder Recovery here:  https://boulderrecovery.com/.  Schedule a free 30 minute consultation with me https://app.squarespacescheduling.com/schedule.php?owner=19750524.

Micah Moore, LPC and owner of Guided Breakthrough, PLLC shares her journey to becoming a mental health counselor.  Micah works with college students and shares wisdom for students and parents alike!  If you need mental health support reach out to Micah on her website https://www.guidedbreakthrough.com/ or Coach Andrea at https://www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com/get-started.  Don't suffer in silence!

Every parent has hopes and dreams of what life will be like when their children are born.  No parent is prepared when those hopes and dreams get shifted by reality.  My guest today, Brandon Alexander, shares what it's been like raising two children on the spectrum.  His families story is one of triumph, struggle, and HOPE. If you are a parent raising kids on the spectrum or you know someone who is, please be sure to share this episode.  If you need coaching support, book your free 30 minute consultation via my website:  https://www.fullyalivecoachingllc.com/get-started

Part 2 of Kathy and Conrad Reynolds' story of their journey through heartache, healing, and wholeness. 

What's love got to do with a marriage rocked by trauma?  My guests today, Kathy and Conrad Reynolds, share their story of hurt, healing, and hope.  If you've ever wondered what it looks like to be FREE of shame, you will find out today!  

In honor of Black History month, I invited one of my favorite couples to come share their story.  Imagine meeting the love of your life in 8th grade and still going strong over 30 years later.  You will laugh and love the authenticity, as well as the wisdom.