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Gay After Thirty

Gay After Thirty

By Gay After Thirty
Gay After Thirty is a podcast about all things gay and grown. Host Kee Tobar discusses all the things that matter to those who are gay and over thirty. She discusses everything from the homebuying process and choosing the right investments, to family planning, dating, navigating family, and everything in between.
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From Survival To Thriving
Your favorite gay auntie, Kee, is back to discuss transitioning from survival to thriving. She discusses her journey navigating the trauma responses and daily habits that helped her survive, but no longer serve her in her current environment. Kee welcomes the audience to reflect and discuss how they are navigating their moment of transition, and moving from survival responses to a thriving mindset. 
25:57
August 30, 2021
Pride Isn't Linear & Neither Is Shame
Host Kee returns and discusses her journey to Pride and reveals a story she's never disclosed in honor of this year's Pride month. 
18:56
June 12, 2021
Black Women & Femmes, Multidimension, Play & Access to Lightness
Host Kee and guests, her good friends Tracie and Ashley, discuss Black women/femmes and our ability to be publicly multidimensional. They also discuss whether Black women/femmes have the ability to play and be playful without negative repercussion. Lastly, they discuss Black women/femme's ability to access lightness of being, while also being forced into the role as the mules of society. 
01:01:27
March 30, 2021
Black Girls/Femmes, Adultification, & Freedom
Host Kee returns with her guest and good friend Ashley to discuss important but not widely known issues surrounding Black girls and femmes. The  session as the question, are Black girls/femmes allowed/afforded freedom or the ability to space to participate in childhood? Lastly, both Kee and Ashley discuss how we can show up better for the youth, and also show up better for the girls and younger femmes within ourselves. 
39:00
March 30, 2021
Is Reddit Where The Money Resides?
Host Kee discusses the recent financial battle between Wall Street and retail investors (everyday people) who bought Gamestop, AMC, Nokia and other stocks after a few hedge funds nakedly shorted said stocks
14:58
January 30, 2021
Episode 5: Toxic Masculinity
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Host Kee and her guest Whitney discuss how being socialized into toxic masculinity has affected their lives as masculine of center women. 
43:15
January 22, 2021
Gay After Thirty Episode 4 : Friendships, Faith, & Labor
Host Kee and her guest Tracie discuss the seeming lack of close friendships between heterosexual and queer women and what might be the reasons behind the divide. They also discuss being a Christian LGBTQ ally. Lastly, they discuss Black women, and queer folx,  and their relationship to labor without reward.  In between those serious gems there were so many laughs, so make sure you check out this episode. 
55:30
January 11, 2021
The Importance of Black Queer Homeownership
In 2021 we're going where the money resides, as host Kee discusses the importance of Queer home ownership. So many gems were dropped, including grant programs. You don't want to miss this episode. 
27:06
January 04, 2021
Episode 1 Navigating Identity, Family, and Self pt. 2
In episode 1 we welcome my bestfriend Whitney, as we discuss how growing up in a small town has affected us as queer Black women, navigating family and creating healthy boundaries, self acceptance, as well as our experience of being queer and playing college sports. 
18:10
December 30, 2020
Gay After Thirty Episode 1: Navigating Identity, Family, and Self pt. 1
In episode 1 I welcome my bestfriend Whitney, as we discuss how growing up in a small town has affected us as queer Black women, navigating family and creating healthy boundaries, self acceptance, as well as our experience of being queer and playing college basketball. 
11:05
December 30, 2020
Gay After Thirty Episode 2: Single and Dating After Thirty
Kee and guest Whitney discuss what it's like dating after 30. We discuss what romantic relationships taught us about ourselves, having clarity regarding wants and needs, therapy as a tool to build healthier relationships & what our 30+ self would tell our younger selves. 
17:31
December 29, 2020