Gay Dating Secrets

Are you tired of feeling like the odds are against you in finding love as a single gay man?

Have you ever felt stuck in your love life, wondering why finding the right partner feels like an impossible task?

In this episode, we're exploring the power of mindset when it comes to finding love, and how shifting your perspective can open up a whole world of possibilities.

In this episode, we will cover:

How do you feel about your body?

Do you wish you could change things about the way you look.

In this episode, you will learn about how to have a healthy body image.

Have you ever been frustrated while using dating apps?

Online dating is not stressful. The expectations you put on online dating are what make it stressful.

In this episode, you will learn:

• The 7 stages of online dating
• What to do if guys don't match with you
• What to do if guys don't message you
• What to do if guys ghost you
• ... and more!

Do you think you are interesting person? Are you living an interesting life?

People are attracted to INTERESTING people.

Interesting people attract other interesting people.

Most gay men don't have much of a life outside of their job.

In this episode, you will learn:

• How to quickly make yourself more interesting (and attractive)
• How to find time for a hobby (even if you're a busy adult)
• ... and more!

Do you desire an open or a closed relationship? What if it wasn't so black-or-white?

There are healthy and mature ways to explore both open and closed relationships. One is not better than another.

 In this episode, we cover:

• What percentage of gay men prefer open vs closed relationships
• How to talk with your partner about your sexual needs in a relationship
• How to have an open relationship WITHOUT the risk of your partner giving you STIs
• How to prevent your partner from cheating
• ... and more

We all desire to be desired. We want to be wanted.

If you are dating someone, it's essential you have the guy KNOW that you like him.

But you don't just want to make it clear. You want to make it ABUNDANTLY clear.

When you make it clear you like a guy, they will feel more secure being with you.

In this episode, I share the best ways to make it clear to a guy that you like him.

Do you find most dates lead to nothing but a hookup?

Hookup culture is well-known in the gay community.

If you want a long-lasting, mature relationship, it's essential to know when to hook up and when NOT to.

There may be subtle ways in which you are attracting men who only want hookups.

In this episode, you will learn how to STOP the endless hookups and START attracting a longterm, mature relationship.

If I asked you to tell me about your ex, what would you say? Would you have negative things to say?

Talking negatively about your ex is unnecessary, and it is unattractive.

The more you blame an ex for why a relationship failed, the less responsibility you show you will be willing to take in your next relationship.

You must release resentment you feel about your exes if you want to open yourself up to a new, healthy relationship.

And, what you say about your ex says nothing about your ex, and everything about you.

If you say your ex was manipulative, selfish, and toxic, that doesn't reveal anything about your ex. It reveals everything about you.

When you make your ex as the "problem" in the relationship, when other other men date you, they think, "Well, I don't want to be the next one he labels as the problem."

It is not a requirement for you to carry judgment an ex after the relationship ends.

In this episode, we explore the way you talk about your ex.

Do you feel like the dates you've been on have been shallow or don't go anywhere?

The problem might not be that you are dating shallow men, but that you are asking terrible questions.

Asking men what their favorite food is and where they want to travel is not enough.

You want to make sure you are gathering the RIGHT information to make sure your dates are an ideal match for you.

Quality questions lead to a quality life.

Your quality of life is a function of the quality of questions you are asking... of yourself and the men you date.

The good news is that everyone is capable of asking better questions.

In this episode, I share the top 10 tough questions to ask if you want take your dates and relationships to the next level.

Have you experienced drama leaving a previous relationship? 

Are you in relationship now worried about what might happen if you break up?

In this episode, I get vulnerable with you and share with you story of my first breakup. 

I share the ONE thing my former partner and I did during our break-up that eliminated any drama at all. 

You will discover:

• How to know it is time to end a relationship 
• How to uncouple in a loving, mature way 
• How to create closure (even if the other partner isn't cooperative) 
• ... and more!

Ever date a guy where it feels so right, but you know it's so wrong?

Or maybe the person is obviously bad for you, but you can't stop thinking about them or seeing them?

If so, you may be confusing chemistry with compatibility.

While chemistry is the desire to go towards someone, compatibility is what makes you want to stay with someone.

In the episode, I share:

• The difference between chemistry and compatibility
• The 4 types of compatibility
• The 7 questions to ask yourself to recognize if a guy is compatible for you

Alcohol is found everywhere in gay culture. 

But have you ever stopped and asked yourself, "Why do I drink? And do I like those reasons?"

In this episode, I talk about the role of alcohol in the gay community.

I also invite you to explore how your relationship with alcohol make be impacting your dating life.

In this episode, I share the three versions of your partner you must learn to love in order to have a mature and healthy relationship. 

Most gay men get this massively wrong, so you don’t want to miss this one. 

In this episode, I am joined by Scott Verrette, Leadership Coach and Gay Men’s Support Group Facilitator, to explore how to navigate grief and keep your heart open to love. 

In this episode, I am joined by Gayle Long, LMFT, to explore the hidden traps men often fall into when they date and how to avoid them.

In this episode we explore the #1 way to know if you can trust someone and what to do about people that have broken your trust.

In this episode, we explore the hidden danger “fairness” has in a relationship and what to look for instead. 

In this episode, we explore the one thing you can do so you never dread a first date again.

In this episode, we explore the not-so-obvious reasons why gay men trap themselves in hookup apps (and how to avoid them).

In this episode, we dissect the fear of rejection and uncover ways to overcome it.

In this episode, we talk about one of the most pervasive limiting beliefs that hold most single gay men back from finding love.

In this episode, you will learn the three false beliefs gay men have that hold them back from having the relationship of their dreams.

In this episode, we explore the TWO types of attraction. (Most gay men only know about one of these two.)

You will also learn the SECRET to sustaining attraction in a long-term relationship (no matter your age or appearance).

Welcome to the Gay Dating Secrets podcast.

This podcast will show you how stop attracting flaky, shallow men so you can create a mature, lasting relationship.

Join me on this episode as I talk about the bizarre thing I needed to do in order to find love.

And... I also share the the FOUR WORDS that changed everything.