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Conversations on Gifted Trauma

Conversations on Gifted Trauma

By InterGifted

"Gifted trauma" is the trauma that gifted (highly intelligent) people can experience when ridiculed, ignored, rejected, misunderstood, out-of-place, left out or left behind, pressured, or excessively groomed as a result of their unusual minds. Their high mental complexity also affects their experience of more common traumas in important ways. In this podcast, Jennifer Harvey Sallin, psychologist & founder of www.intergifted.com, explores all this and the many paths to healing for gifted adults, with her guests. To support our podcast, consider making a donation at www.paypal.me/intergifted
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Conversation 12: Giftedness, Positive Disintegration & Mental Health -- with Christiane Wells
Conversation 12: Giftedness, Positive Disintegration & Mental Health -- with Christiane Wells
In this episode, Jennifer Harvey Sallin talks with psychologist and founding president of The Dabrowski Center, Christiane Wells, on the topic of giftedness, positive disintegration and mental health. Chris became an expert on Dabrowski's Theory of Positive Disintegration after learning in her 30's how much the theory positively reframed her experiences as a child and young adult struggling with what she thought -- and was told by mainstream psychiatry -- were various mental illnesses. Through the frame of overexcitabilties and advanced personality development, Chris realized that the traits she had considered proof of her "brokenness" were actually full of developmental potential and gave her a unique and meaningful perspective on what life is and what makes it worth living. As a profoundly gifted person, Chris had never fulfilled conventional expectations of what a "genius" should do and be, but with this new understanding, she realized that her combination of giftedness and overexcitabilities were calling her to a life of meaning far outside of the stereotypes of the competitive, successful gifted overachiever. Her giftedness is best expressed in deep emotional connection and bringing complex information about healing and wholeness to people in a way they can understand and deeply benefit from it. That's what she does now through The Dabrowski Center, via her Positive Disintegration Podcast, and in her private practice supporting gifted and overexcitable clients.     In addition to hearing Chris's story, Jennifer and Chris discuss the the limits of mainstream views on mental health, the harm of normative stereotypes on gifted people, the differences between the intensity of overexcitabilities and the complexity of giftedness, how not all gifted people have overexcitabilities and not all overexcitable people are gifted, how gifted trauma and trauma from being overexcitable and misunderstood are different from each other, and advice and resources for listeners.  __ You’ll find the complete list of this episode’s reading recommendations, including links to Chris's bio, at www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma __ To learn more about InterGifted and our community and services for gifted adults, go to www.intergifted.com. __ To support our podcast, consider making a donation at: www.paypal.me/intergifted.
01:44:48
August 15, 2022
Conversation 11: The Effects of Intergenerational & Collective Trauma on Giftedness -- with Marc Smolowitz
Conversation 11: The Effects of Intergenerational & Collective Trauma on Giftedness -- with Marc Smolowitz
In this episode, Jennifer Harvey Sallin talks with The G Word Film director Marc Smolowitz on the topic of intergenerational and collective traumas, how they affect giftedness expression, and how we can find empowerment and healing. Marc was born into a family of holocaust survivors, came out as gay in his teens, lost countless friends during the height of the AIDS epidemic, and even nearly died of AIDS himself when he was in his 30's. These family-line, societal and personal traumas intersected with and affected Marc’s experience and expression of giftedness all along his life path, sometimes in very difficult ways and sometimes in very empowering ways. He shares his story with us, and how he has taken his various identities (some of which were born in trauma) and woven them together into resilient and rooted authenticity. He shares the role that community has played in his life, and how each of us has the opportunity to use the lives we’ve been born into and the adversity we face to ultimately strengthen our self-understanding, pride in our identities, and our meaningful connection to life and others. __ You’ll find the complete list of this episode’s reading recommendations, including links to Marc’s bio and film company websites, at www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma __ To learn more about InterGifted and our community and services for gifted adults, go to www.intergifted.com. __ To support our podcast, consider making a donation at: www.paypal.me/intergifted.
01:18:30
July 15, 2022
Conversation 10: Giftedness, Loneliness & The Art of Gifted Connection -- with Lotte van Lith
Conversation 10: Giftedness, Loneliness & The Art of Gifted Connection -- with Lotte van Lith
In this episode, Jennifer Harvey Sallin talks with Dutch giftedness specialist, coach, lecturer, trainer and author Lotte van Lith. Jennifer & Lotte explore the types of loneliness a gifted person can experience, including intellectual, emotional, family, social, physical, existential, creative, physical and more. Giftedness is about exchange, and when we cannot share our giftedness, it can feel as though it isn’t real or doesn’t exist, and that can lead to feelings of deep isolation from humanity and from ourselves. Given our modern cultures have pushed us toward emotional disconnection and relational separation through restricted narratives about what life is, who we are, and what giftedness is, it is our work as gifted individuals to open up our minds and hearts to a broader understanding of ourselves, life, and our relationship to the various forms of intelligence that exist throughout the earth and beyond. The Art of Gifted Connection is, in other words, deep work that we do to become aware of, in humble awe of, and in grateful and generous communion with the complexity in and all around us - biologically, emotionally, philosophically, cosmologically. __ You’ll find the complete list of this episode’s reading recommendations, including links to Lotte’s websites, at www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma __ To learn more about InterGifted and our community and services for gifted adults, go to www.intergifted.com. __ To support our podcast, consider making a donation at: www.paypal.me/intergifted.
01:13:52
June 17, 2022
Conversation 9: Our Inner & Outer Nature -- with Eric Windhorst
Conversation 9: Our Inner & Outer Nature -- with Eric Windhorst
In this episode, Jennifer Harvey Sallin and ecotherapist & coach Eric Windhorst explore our connection to our inner & outer nature, as well as to fundamental consciousness. When fragmentation caused by trauma keeps parts of us disconnected from what is true within us and around us, we can provide conditions to welcome the fragmented parts back home. Time in outer nature, compassionate attention to our inner nature, connection to fundamental consciousness, and importantly, support from loving people in our lives are the ingredients for healing and growth. Eric shares moving stories of clients' healing journeys, as well as deep insights for listeners on their own healing path.  You can learn more about Eric's work at www.ericwindhorst.ca To support our podcast, consider making a donation at: www.paypal.me/intergifted. __ More information available about gifted adult development via www.intergifted.com.
01:19:35
October 22, 2021
Conversation 8: Healthy Boundaries, Part 3 -- Cultivating Inner Organization
Conversation 8: Healthy Boundaries, Part 3 -- Cultivating Inner Organization
In this episode, Jennifer Harvey Sallin & Karin Eglinton conclude our three-part episode series on healthy boundaries by exploring the cultivation of inner organization. Particularly important in this discussion are educational trauma and various dominant ideologies which, when unnamed and unnoticed, make it difficult for us to show up in the world in an organized, generative and well-boundaried manner. We explore the process of self-reeducation and unlearning that many of us must commit to in order to recover our inner organization, employ healthy boundaries, and inhabit our place and role in the current world. You'll find links to resources mentioned in this episode at: www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma To support our podcast, consider making a donation at: www.paypal.me/intergifted. __ More information available about gifted adult development via www.intergifted.com.
01:28:08
September 07, 2021
Conversation 7: Healthy Boundaries, Part 2 -- Cultivating Coherence
Conversation 7: Healthy Boundaries, Part 2 -- Cultivating Coherence
In this episode, Jennifer Harvey Sallin & Karin Eglinton continue our exploration on cultivating healthy boundaries by looking deeply at individual, social and collective coherence and its role in helping us to be generative and boundaried adults. This is one of our longer episodes, and it reflects the importance of this topic in our world of quickly compiling and accelerating crises and conflicts. This is part 2 of 3 in our cultivating healthy boundaries episode series. You'll find links to resources mentioned in this episode at: www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma To support our podcast, consider making a donation at: www.paypal.me/intergifted. __ For more on gifted adult development, to to: www.intergifted.com.
01:57:13
September 21, 2020
Conversation 6: Healthy Boundaries, Part 1 -- Cultivating Aliveness
Conversation 6: Healthy Boundaries, Part 1 -- Cultivating Aliveness
In this episode, which is part one of a three-part series of episodes, Jennifer Harvey Sallin & Karin Eglinton explore an essential topic to healing from gifted trauma: cultivating healthy boundaries. We introduce the themes of cultivating aliveness, coherence, and inner organization in helping us heal from trauma and create sustainable relationships. This episode focuses specifically on the cultivation of aliveness. We explore how our sense of full aliveness can become distorted or dampened through trauma, how that affects our relationships, and how we can reconnect with our full aliveness as a healthy boundary for generative relationships. Links to resources mentioned in this episode can be found at: www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma To support our podcast, consider making a donation at: www.paypal.me/intergifted __ For more information on gifted adult development, visit www.intergifted.com
56:32
May 14, 2020
Conversation 5: Gifted Trauma & the Climate Emergency
Conversation 5: Gifted Trauma & the Climate Emergency
In this episode, Jennifer Harvey Sallin & Karin Eglinton explore how gifted trauma predisposes many of us to strong and painful - and sometimes debilitating - reactions to the climate emergency. Karin shares her personal story of how she was affected by this and worked through it, and we explore together what a gifted person can do now to heal from the inside as well as to contribute to the healing of the planet. It is a raw and real, and honest and hopeful conversation.  Links and resources mentioned can be found at: www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma To support our podcast, consider making a donation at: www.paypal.me/intergifted __ Learn more about I Heart Earth and join us there at: www.facebook.com/iheartearthmeditations For more information about adult gifted development, visit www.intergifted.com
01:24:45
July 11, 2019
Conversation 4: Gifted Needs & Symbolism
Conversation 4: Gifted Needs & Symbolism
In this episode, Jennifer Harvey Sallin & Karin Eglinton explore gifted-specific needs. In response to gifted-specific trauma, we often get distanced from a present-moment awareness of our gifted-specific needs and enter into a negative feedback-loop of self-alienation. We explore how this cycle gets started, and how we can interrupt it and exit it by becoming dynamically aware of and responsive to our own gifted needs. You can find links to the resources mentioned in our episode at: www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma To support our podcast, consider making a donation at: www.paypal.me/intergifted __ More information about gifted adult development at: www.intergifted.com
01:27:09
May 01, 2019
Conversation 3: Gifted Trauma & The Body
Conversation 3: Gifted Trauma & The Body
In this episode, Jennifer Harvey Sallin & Karin Eglinton explore the effects of gifted trauma on the body - shock to the brain, muscular and neuronal holding patterns and physical blocks, illnesses, disability and other longer-term bodily effects. All of these, in turn, affect our ability to self-care, to be healthy, to be fully present in our relationships, to be in touch with our intuition and to feel hope and a sense of clear purpose in life. They also affect the way we feel able or not able to access and enjoy our gifted mind. Thanks to an increasing scientific understanding of somatic modes of healing, we can include these comprehensive tools and frameworks into our gifted healing process. Resources and links from this episode can be found at: www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma To support our podcast, consider making a donation at: www.paypal.me/intergifted __ More information about gifted adult development at: www.intergifted.com
01:12:32
March 07, 2019
Conversation 2: Healing Through (Gifted) Connection
Conversation 2: Healing Through (Gifted) Connection
In this episode, Jennifer Harvey Sallin & Karin Eglinton explore how gifted-specific trauma is often felt as a disconnection from the world, due to feeling socially out of place, misunderstood, unappreciated or exploited. Thus, healing requires forming nourishing and healing connections with others - especially others who are gifted and share similar minds, needs and experiences. We explore how you can know who to connect with, how to find them, how to connect with them meaningfully, and how to create a network of generative connections that will contribute to your healing and thriving. Resources and links mentioned in this episode can be found at: www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma To support our podcast, consider making a donation at: www.paypal.me/intergifted __ More information about gifted adult development available at: www.intergifted.com
01:46:40
February 14, 2019
Conversation 1: Healing Gifted Shame
Conversation 1: Healing Gifted Shame
Welcome to our first podcast episode. In this episode, Jennifer Harvey Sallin & Karin Eglinton explore how gifted trauma can result in feeling shame about our unusual minds. Many adults with gifted-specific trauma also feel shame about the need to heal and redo more basic developmental tasks in the healing process. Healing is a complex journey, one that requires us to have self-compassion, clear self-understanding (including clear understanding of our gifted minds and our gifted-specific needs). With clear self-understanding and self-compassion, we heal our shame, and can fully embrace our unique healing process.  Resources and links mentioned in this episode can be found at: www.intergifted.com/conversations-gifted-trauma To support our podcast, consider making a donation at: www.paypal.me/intergifted __   More information about gifted adult development is found at: www.intergifted.com
51:12
January 22, 2019