Stress Bucket Solutions
By Gin Lalli
Then this podcast is for you.
In short sharp episodes you will learn about how the brain works, solution focused techniques to use every day, and how to empty your own stress bucket for life.
Make Stress Bucket Solutions your new Gin o'clock!
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group:https://www.facebook.com/groups/stressbucket
Stress Bucket Solutions Dec 06, 2022
15. How to be Solution Focused when there is no Solution
This episode is dedicated to those of you struggling with chronic or terminal illness, either personally or with a loved one.
When there is no solution how can you remain solution focused? How can you be positive when there is nothing but a negative outcome, however much you try to wish for it all to go away?
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
14. Cold Water Therapy - a solution or a fad?
Fancy dipping yourself in ice-cold water? Or going for a swim in a freezing loch? Use this episode to decide if it's for you or not.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
13. Stop Looking for External Validation
Why do we crave likes, shares, and comments? Why do we need others to boost our ego? Can we find validation from within ourselves?
In this episode I talk about the causes of validation, in particular with social media, and how to get self-worth and self-esteem from within. Because when you do that you'll be unstoppable!
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
12. Everything you need to know about my 10 week programme
Following on from the last episode I want to tell you exactly what you can expect from my 10 week programme - and I'm a bit Lucy Goosey about the 10 weeks ;)
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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11. De-mystifying Therapy: I share the Playbook for Solution Focused Therapy
If we can be more open about what happens in therapy sessions will that reduce the stigma? In this episode, I explain why I am passionate about being open about the solution-focused formula.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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10. Dispel these 8 Common Therapy Myths for Good
Do not make assumptions about therapy - and stop listening to some random person who once had a bad experience with therapy. In this episode, I bust the myths around therapy that could be stopping you from getting the help you need and changing your life.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
9. The cycles of deep and REM sleep
In this episode, I explain why you should be getting better quality sleep - the cycles of sleep should be understood by everyone.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
8. How do you "work on yourself?"
We hear people say that you should "work on yourself" but how do you do that? In this episode I'll explain how - and you don't need to start journaling!
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
7. New Year, New You?
You were fabulous last year and you'll be fabulous this year, so no need for new year new you!
But if you want to change try the Wheel of Life for an audit however, be like the monk in this story I tell in this episode of the monk (rather than the hiker)...small steps in the right direction.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
6. Hoarding and mental health
Hoarding is a sign of poor mental health...so clear out 1 drawer or cupboard this week and empty your stress bucket.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
5. People pleasing and personal boundaries
If you're a people-pleaser you need to listen to this episode.
Find out how to identify the traits of people-pleasing and how to maintain healthy personal boundaries.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
4. Loneliness and Romantic Relationships
Dating in the 21st century is difficult - but we all need a human connection. Do you have an 'other half' or are you a complete person on your own?
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
3. How to Empty Your Christmas Stress Bucket
Here's your Christmas Stress Strategy!
The butcher's post I refer to is here and the Martin Lewis video is here - they're both worth a look.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
2. Can you Do the Work?
You've got to get honest with yourself and think about if you're comfortable with your anxiety or if are you ready to choose another 'type of difficult' that may also require you to do the work.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
1. What's The Difference Between Acceptance and Avoidance?
Welcome back to season 4 - we're back to the old format of short sharp episodes to make you think.
This week it's all about how to accept the events in our life and deal with them, not avoid them, which only leads to more stress and anxiety.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
CLIENT INTERVIEW 7; A Business Coach's Perspective
There's a fine line between coaching and therapy but when you need help it's important to get the right help. In this episode Ewan talks about his own productivity and performance, how it spreads to ALL areas of your life, and how a sticking plaster of venting your problems is not the answer.
Please connect with Ewan on LinkedIn and check out his website.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and my online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
CLIENT INTERVIEW 6; But Not Really a Client
In today's episode, I interview someone who has been following this podcast since the beginning and has emptied their stress bucket just by following my advice and yet never seeing me 1 to 1 for a session - which means you can do it too. Find out how Jane now has better perspective, is sleeping well, and managing the challenges of her life like never before after being convinced that the solution focused process was a good fit for her.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
CLIENT INTERVIEW 5; Mental Fitness While Running Your Own Business
You're going to hear from Eloise today - superwoman extraordinaire who runs her own linguistics company.
She's honest about the brick wall she slammed into after a phenomenally successful year and how SFT got her through it. Should everyone in business have a therapist? Warning - she's like me; she talks fast when she gets excited to put on your seat belt and get ready for the ride!
You can check out Eloise on her website https://www.olimcomms.com/ and be envious of her gorgeous hair, she also just started her own podcast
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and my online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
CLIENT INTERVIEW 4; Men do talk about their mental health
When people say that men don't talk about their mental health I strongly disagree - they do - they just want solutions, not to go over the problems. I see a lot of male clients for this reason as solution focused work really appeals to that sort of mindset, so hear from Stuart in this episode. How he changed his life and started changing the world around him by seeing the positives everywhere he went - even when he was going to Tescos!
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
CLIENT INTERVIEW 3: Jules' husband
In this episode, you're going to hear from David, Jules husband - you remember Jules...one of the worst cases of anxiety I had ever seen. You can hear her original interview - Season 2 episode 3.
I wanted you to hear from David as the partner of someone suffering from anxiety because it not only affects you - it affects those you love. If you're going to make a change and you can't do it for yourself, can you do it for someone in your life? Do you realise how worried they are about you? What difference would it make to them if you emptied your stress bucket and got the real you back?
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
CLIENT INTERVIEW 2: Understanding it emotionally
In today's episode, Ffion talks all about her fear of sickness. But not only that she talks about how she began to understand that undlerying anxiety, or a full stress bucket was affecting so many areas of her life.
But to feel empowered she needed to do this alone....so 2 months later, because she was doing so well, she wanted to re-record her interview.
I thought it would be good for you to hear both her interviews though - so you could hear the difference that solution focused work makes for life...the changes continue even after we've finished our 10-week programme.
I hope you enjoy this extra-long episode!
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
CLIENT INTERVIEW 1: One year on...still flying high
So what happens 1 year after you've emptied your stress bucket? Is it still empty or do you need more sessions?
Find out how Helen went from strength to strength once she had completed her 10-week programme. You can hear her original interview in Season 1; episode 123
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
BONUS EPISODE - What I learned about my own stress bucket on holiday
Contrary to popular opinion I'm not always positive, calm, and collected; I have my moments.
Hear about what happened to me on my holidays for my big birthday and how I handled it - could you learn something from this?
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
8. Are You Ready Now?
Are you ready for therapy now then? I hope this season has helped you either begin your research or, even better, take a leap of faith into therapy and change your life and the lives of those around you too.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
7. Prepare for your Initial Consultation
You've made the decision, and it resonates with you, now you need to book that introductory call. You don't need to be anxious about that because in this episode I explain what I ask and why I'm asking it.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
6. Online vs. Face to Face Therapy
Therapy is now more accessible than ever but you need to find what works for you. Although I work purely online over Zoom with my clients, in this episode I discuss the advantages and disadvantages of each. Find what works for you, there's no right or wrong answer.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
5. It's just talking though, right?
Many people put off therapy because they think it's just talking and they should be able to do this on their own.
And they're right, it is just talking, but therapists have been trained to use a lot of powerful questioning to create change within you. Don't underestimate the power of a professional. That's why you should respect the privacy of someone who has already emptied their stress bucket. Find out more in this episode.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
4. What type of therapy will work for you?
With so much information out there how do you find the right therapy and therapist for you? What's the difference between CBT and Solution Focused work? What to choose? In this episode, I hope to answer these questions but I'd like you to take the time to reflect on what resonates with you. There's no wrong answer.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
3. CLIENT INTERVIEW: one of the most extreme cases of anxiety I've ever dealt with
Jules' was literally shaking with anxiety and was off work. Listen to how she got her life back, got back to work, and how her kids are kind of pleased and at the same time annoyed that they've got their mum back!!!! She has created generational change in her family and you can too. She is an inspiration.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
If you want to follow Jules' journey of Solution Focused Therapy with me you can find her on TikTok or Instagram and FaceBook
2. What's Stopping You Getting Therapy?
What if it doesn't work? What is the right therapy for me? If the medicine is there why won't you take it?
In this episode, I talk about those barriers and, from my point of view, why you need to examine them. You have to do what's right for you so take some time after listening to this episode to self-reflect and work out what questions you need answering. Then go and do your homework!
The most difficult thing for me as a therapist is to offer you the help but you won't take it. Please look after yourself and those around you.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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1. Season 2 Trailer
It's good to be back....what's coming up this season?
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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150. EMOTIONS: Ghosting - it's emotional abuse
Yeah, I've been ghosted, and here's what I think about it.
Also, this is episode 150, can you believe it - I need a little break and time to have a rethink, I think.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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If you want to follow Jules' journey of Solution Focused Therapy with me you can find her on TikTok or Instagram and FaceBook
149. BRAIN BASICS; Change is an error message for your brain
No one likes change, even if it's good for you. Find out why and more in this week's episode.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
If you want to follow Jules' journey of Solution Focused Therapy with me you can find her on TikTok or Instagram and FaceBook
148. BRAIN BASICS; Your brain is like a business
Here's a really useful metaphor to explain how you can create powerful change in your own mind if only you can give your 'secretary' a detailed, positive image, and bypass the health and safety officer.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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147. A GIFT FOR YOU: a guided relaxation exercise
*** This podcast contains a relaxation exercise. Do not listen to this if you are driving or operating machinery ***
This is the intro to the relaxation I use during sessions and that my clients fall asleep to. I hope you enjoy it.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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146. EMOTIONS; Stress eating
We've all been there - you could demolish a packet of chocolate biscuits in 5 mins when you've been triggered, but where does it come from and what can you do about it? Find out in this episode.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
145. BRAIN BASICS; Stop fuelling your stress response
A full stress bucket fuels the primitive brain, but the stress response from the primitive brain is very different for each one of us. Can you identify yours?
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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144. RELAX; How to REALLY relax
The deep relaxation we do in solution focused sessions is extremely restorative. Different types of rest give you different feelings of relaxation. Are you really relaxing?
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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143. EMOTIONS; Exam stress
Good luck to all of you doing exams right now - here are some tips to manage your stress and ace that exam!
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book, and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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142. BEFORE THERAPY; The Therapeutic Threshold
Do you meet the therapeutic threshold? I look for confirmation of these 3 statements when screening you for solution focused therapy.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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141. EMOTIONS; Life curated
Can you curate your life? Is what you're doing now in line with your vision of how your life should be?
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
140. EMOTIONS; Lose the labels....like "imposter syndrome"
Don't put yourself in a box and give yourself a label - it's a self-fulfilling prophecy!
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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139. EMOTIONS; Celebrate every small win
In solution focused work it's the small wins that are often the most powerful. Make sur you celebrate your small wins to keep it solution focused.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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138. SOLUTION FOCUSED THEORY; Can it fit in real life?
I don't expect you to be positively solution focused all the time - it would be exhausting. What we do in sessions is brain training, preparing you for the challenges which come in ALL our lives.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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137. BEFORE THERAPY; How do I find the right therapy (and therapist) for me?
You are the expert of you so here's some advice on how to find the right solution for you.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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136. ASK YOURSELF; Are your issues impacting others?
Often you can be so consumed with anxiety or depression that you don't notice the impact this has on the ones you love. If you can't change for yourself, maybe you can change for them.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
135. BEFORE THERAPY; Giving it all away
I'm happy to give away all my knowledge in this podcast and my book - because I want to take away the mystery of therapy. Find out more in today's episode.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
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134. EMOTIONS; Depression and Suicide
***Trigger Warning*** In today's episode I talk about the very sensitive subjects of suicide and depression. Please skip this episode if you find these subjects difficult to think about.
However, I do talk about the solution focused process of helping people and the reasons why we should celebrate every small win, I hope this episode helps you or someone you know.
Find out more about my solution-focused work with individuals and organisations, my book and online course on my website: www.ginlalli.com
You can also join my Facebook group
133. HAPPY NEW YEAR; New Years Resolution 2.0
Fallen off the wagon yet? Then don't panic - listen to this episode and understand why new years resolutions are unsustainable - try small consistent intentions instead.
You can join my private FaceBook group and follow me on Facebook for some live videos on how to empty your stress bucket - the Solution-focused formula I use with clients.
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You can send me a direct voice message here if you want - you never know, I might feature you in the next episode????
All my details and more information about what I do, including press articles and my blog, can be viewed on my website www.ginlalli.com
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132. THINK ON THIS; The wonderful world of manifesting
My opinion on manifesting and why, if you're not careful, it could be very damaging.
You can join my private FaceBook group and follow me on Facebook for some live videos on how to empty your stress bucket - the Solution-focused formula I use with clients.
I'm also on Twitter and LinkedIn
You can send me a direct voice message here if you want - you never know, I might feature you in the next episode????
All my details and more information about what I do, including press articles and my blog, can be viewed on my website www.ginlalli.com
You can buy the print and ebook versions of my book here:
Amazon: https://lnkd.in/g8QEmk3Z
Waterstones: https://lnkd.in/g3KzJpZH
Book Depository: https://lnkd.in/gKrkYG7n
Blackwells: https://lnkd.in/gBHWcBnz
Barns & Noble (US): https://lnkd.in/gkpwHHXR