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GirlBossGuide: Lessons for Ladies who Lead

GirlBossGuide: Lessons for Ladies who Lead

By Deborah Hartung

Being a GirlBoss is often a lonely road and we have to celebrate our own victories and celebrate each other, every step of the way. We all need a little motivation and a friend to tell us how it is and make sure we are keeping it real. Leadership and Culture Changemaker, coach, writer and speaker, Deborah Hartung, is that friend. Episodes are never longer than 15 minutes and always aim to educate, entertain and enlighten you, no matter your age or where you are on your leadership journey. Leadership & Personal Development for women leaders and entrepreneurs (and the men who support us).
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Tradition may be holding you back

GirlBossGuide: Lessons for Ladies who LeadApr 04, 2019

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WFH Tip 4: Productivity

WFH Tip 4: Productivity

Working from home, you will likely find that you are either super productive or you are having trouble focusing and finding your ‘zone’. Deborah recommends a few productivity hacks, such as the Pomodoro timer technique, Robin Sharma’s 90-90-1 principle and using the ‘importance vs urgency’ matrix. You can also read Deborah’s article for Future Females from November 2018, titled “Multitasking is a Myth”
Mar 31, 202007:02
WFH Tip 3: Get Moving & Take Breaks
Mar 31, 202008:47
WFH Power Tip 2: Routine is Important

WFH Power Tip 2: Routine is Important

If you’re working from home (WFH) and practicing social distancing during this coronavirus pandemic, you might be tempted to spend the day in your PJ’s and work on your bed. Deborah advises against slipping into this bad habit and instead, recommends a really awesome morning routine that you can follow to ensure you keep fit and stay motivated- and look great on all those video conference calls you’re suddenly having to join.
Mar 22, 202009:11
WFH Power Tip 1: Space is Sacred

WFH Power Tip 1: Space is Sacred

Coronavirus lockdown and social distancing has many people working from home (WFH) and facing new challenges in creating a balance and distinction between ‘work’ and ‘life’. Deborah has been WFH for 12 years and shares her top 5 tips for sanity. Power Tip 1: Space is Sacred. You need a designated workspace and you need to clear away all the work clutter at the end of the day, to ensure that work isn’t literally spilling over into every area of your life.
Mar 22, 202005:51
Hope and Coronavirus Quarantine

Hope and Coronavirus Quarantine

Deborah has been social distancing for a week now and is already feeling the financial impact of the coronavirus pandemic that is Covid-19. Amidst all the fear, confusion and anger, Deborah reminds listeners to focus on what they can control during this time and to seek out the positives. This too, shall pass.
Mar 22, 202010:13
Cull the Herd & Curate your Tribe

Cull the Herd & Curate your Tribe

All the convenience of the last decade has fundamentally changed the way that humans interact. As we enter 2020, Deborah invites you to let go of some of the people and relationships that no longer serve you and to commit to cultivating relationships with people who light up your soul and make you shine - curate your tribe!
Dec 01, 201910:25
Making Lemonade

Making Lemonade

As irritating as that old phrase is, most of the time, if we look back on our lives at the times we didn’t get what we really wanted, we find that things worked out better than we could have imagined at the time. The challenge is to just lean into life and trust that things always work out as they’re meant to.
Oct 29, 201908:16
Mindfully Grateful

Mindfully Grateful

After recently participating in a global 10 day gratitude challenge, Deborah shares some of her learnings and the importance of being more mindful of all the things we have to be grateful for, on a daily basis. Deborah talks about the free app “3 good things” that sends daily prompts to record 3 good things that happened or that you have to be grateful for, and encourages everyone to give ‘this gratitude thing’ a proper go!
Oct 29, 201908:06
3 Lessons in 3 Months

3 Lessons in 3 Months

After a rather long absence from the podcast, Deborah is back and explaining the 3 main reasons for her absence and the lessons she has learned in the process. Firstly, if you’re sick, you need to rest and recuperate and you shouldn’t be working or sending a sick colleague emails about work. Secondly, it’s impossible to do it all because there is a finite number of hours you have at your disposal and you need to choose how you spend that time and not feel guilty about it. And the final lesson is about being true to yourself and knowing what makes you happy at work and what drains you and doing more of what makes you happy.
Sep 13, 201909:29
If you don’t change it, you’re choosing it

If you don’t change it, you’re choosing it

Sometimes we forget that we have the power to make choices to change our situations and our lives. If you become aware of something that is causing you stress or making you unhappy, you can actively work towards changing it by either making some adjustments to improve it, or by walking away completely. Deborah reminds you to refer back to the GROW coaching methodology (discussed in an earlier episode) you need to make some changes in your life.
Jul 03, 201906:59
Feel the Feeling. Don’t become the Emotion

Feel the Feeling. Don’t become the Emotion

It’s ok to be sad or heartbroken or disappointed or to feel fear in a moment. Recognize the emotion. Sit with it for a while. Feel it and let it go. Don’t allow an emotion to control you or define who you become.
Jul 03, 201906:18
Patience and delayed gratification

Patience and delayed gratification

In our world of ‘always on’ we have all become socially conditioned to expect instant gratification. We are losing our ability to have patience and to understand that some things take longer than others. Deborah invites you to be realistic about your goals and the things you want and how long it would go to achieve or attain these, and to then actively practice patience in waiting for things to come to fruition or to unfold as they should.
Jun 26, 201906:36
Health, wealth and time

Health, wealth and time

After a 4 week absence due to illness, Deborah is back and sharing her very personal insights on the importance of looking after our own health and wellbeing and being selfish with our time. Money cannot buy us health and it cannot buy us more than the 24 hours we have in each day, so choose wisely and take care of yourself. For additional inspiration, watch the video by Jay Shetty about this very topic.
Jun 26, 201908:56
Just ‘love’

Just ‘love’

Instead of assuming that love is romantic or familial, Deborah encourages listeners to distinguish love-based actions and emotions from those that are fear-based and to act from a place of love, more often. For additional reading, check out Scott Stabile ‘Big Love’ and Sonia Chocquette ‘traveling at the speed of love’. Let’s make the world a better place by showing more love to all living beings!
May 29, 201906:35
Belief in Self

Belief in Self

You need to believe in yourself and your abilities, fiercely and unequivocally. Don’t let the fears of others - or your win negative self talk - get in the way of achieving your goals or taking risks to change the world. You are amazing and should be grateful just for ‘you’ every single day!
May 28, 201906:00
The Myth of Closure

The Myth of Closure

Are you still stuck on an event from the past? Something ended and you don’t really know why? Deborah talks about what she calls the ‘myth of closure’ and how you can move on by accepting an apology you will never get and making peace with an explanation you may never hear. Turn the page and move on with the story of your life after a chapter has ended, without clinging to needing some explanation or validation.
May 24, 201910:18
Stop Starting & Start Finishing

Stop Starting & Start Finishing

How many projects have you started and not finished? How many of those projects still belong on your to-do list? Deborah invites you to follow this inspiring mantra: stop Starting, start finishing and start where you are. No more procrastinating and no more feeling bad about all those unfinished projects. Do what you can with what you have and start where you are.
May 21, 201905:58
A Personal SWOT

A Personal SWOT

Your fear and self limiting beliefs are the only thing standing in the way of a world of opportunities for growth, Discovery, success and abundance. Deborah invites you to start a personal SWOT analysis to really start looking at the things that make you amazing and set you apart and to then identify just one opportunity that you can grab right now. The worst that can happen, is that someone says ‘no’. And there will always be other opportunities- the more you put yourself out there, the more you will see this to be true. What are you waiting for?!
May 20, 201908:08
Not My Job

Not My Job

The shadow side to being kind and empathetic and always willing to help others, is that we take on burdens that are not ours to carry. In this episode, Deborah reminds you that there are certain things in life which are possibly causing you anxiety and stress and overwhelm right now, which are not your job and not your responsibility. Identify the things that you’re objectively not responsible for and remind yourself that it’s ‘not my job’ and let it go, instead of adding more to your plate.
May 14, 201908:53
A lesson in not taking things personally

A lesson in not taking things personally

Deborah shares a very personal story about the importance of not internalizing the behaviors of others and not taking things personally. It’s important that we see people for who they are and meet them where they are on their journey and that we choose our battles wisely to conserve our emotional energy. Never take anything personally. It’s not a reflection of you - it’s a reflection of them.
May 13, 201910:36
3 lessons on Taking Chances

3 lessons on Taking Chances

Deborah shares the top 3 Lessons she has learned over the past few years about taking chances in life and going after your dreams.
May 08, 201909:53
Changing your Habits will Change your Life

Changing your Habits will Change your Life

Simply having knowledge about something doesn't actually lead to lasting change. If we truly want to change our lives, we need to change our behaviors and we need to create healthier, more positive habits for ourselves. In this episode, Deborah explains why you should set some small, manageable goals and use a habit tracking app to really internalize the change.
May 07, 201908:58
The Best Compliment Ever

The Best Compliment Ever

What is the best compliment you have ever received? A compliment about your character and your way of showing up in this world? What lasting impression are you leaving on the people you interact with? Even if the interactions are brief and fleeting, you can still make sure that you are remembered for your warmth and empathy and kindness and authenticity. Deborah invites you to think of your absolute best qualities and to shine those into the world more often. She also asks that you tell your friends and loved ones what their best qualities are, so that they too, may rise to meet their best self.
May 02, 201907:09
Be the Architect of your own Life
Apr 29, 201908:12
Reason, season or lifetime

Reason, season or lifetime

As with all things in nature, human relationships also go through cycles and we can be a lot happier and healthier if we all let go of our expectation that human relationships should last ‘forever’ or that any kind of a relationship ending, is somehow a ‘failure’. Deborah explains the approach of ‘reason, season or lifetime’ and reminds you that all things generally come to an end and reach their sell by date. And that is ok.
Apr 23, 201908:50
The People who Light you Up

The People who Light you Up

Deborah recently got to spend time with one of her best friends who was visiting Johannesburg from Chicago. Being around someone who brings out the best in us, someone who encourages us to do better and be better, is one of the most rewarding parts of being alive. Deborah encourages you to find your tribe. People smarter than you. People who make you laugh. People who encourage and support you. People you can talk to and be vulnerable with and people who challenge you and help you grow. People who light you up and bring joy to your heart.
Apr 23, 201908:51
Finding purpose in a cause

Finding purpose in a cause

In a world of suffering, violence, poverty and efforts to erode human rights, Deborah invites you to be aware of what is happening in your community and to find a cause that sets your soul on fire. Anything - Animal rights or children or education or women’s or LGBTQ rights or the environment. Find something and DO something. Donate your time or your expertise. Support a cause that is bigger than you and your job and your friends. Positively impact and change the world and leave a lasting legacy.
Apr 12, 201906:56
Niko-Niko Mood Tracking
Apr 08, 201907:51
Tradition may be holding you back

Tradition may be holding you back

In the corporate world, there are few phrases worse for innovation and growth than “we’ve always done things this way”. We have many traditions in our families, our communities and our workplaces that may well be outdated and not serving us or bringing us any joy. Deborah invites you to look at some of the traditions you uphold and do a quick audit. Are these aligned with your values and your purpose? Do these traditions bring you joy? Do they make sense? Or are they holding you back or causing you anxiety?
Apr 04, 201906:35
You are Enough

You are Enough

Deborah encourages you to realize that you are Enough, right now. You don’t need a better job or car or house. You don’t need to lose a few pounds, first. Your worth as a human being doesn’t depend on what you do for a living or what possessions you have or your physical appearance. You are Enough right now and you deserve to love yourself. Right now. Just as you are.
Apr 02, 201904:41
Dealing with conflict

Dealing with conflict

Conflict is inevitable. Combat is optional. In this episode, Deborah discusses the importance of embracing disagreements and conflict as a learning opportunity and truly knowing your motives and being aware of your ego. Engage with empathy and use active listening to build relationships. Don’t let your ego take over and escalate verbal disagreements into full-blown combat that breaks down people and ruins relationships.
Apr 01, 201908:08
Quit the Judgment

Quit the Judgment

Ever noticed how judgmental we are of others? What they’re wearing, their body type, their physical appearance in general? When we judge everyone else, we also tend to judge ourselves more harshly and we are dealing with a global pandemic of low self-esteem. Deborah invites you to quit the judgment on others. Be kinder to everyone you see and be kinder to yourself. It’s how we change the world.
Mar 25, 201909:06
The Company we Keep

The Company we Keep

There are really only 2 kinds of people in this world - those who energize and inspire us and those who drain and deplete us. Deborah invites you to be mindful of how you feel around certain people and to start becoming more selfish with your time and protecting your energy better, by spending as little time as possible with energy vampires.
Mar 19, 201905:56
Healing a Broken Heart

Healing a Broken Heart

If you’re dealing with some kind of heartbreak, be kind to yourself and allow your heart time to heal. Deborah shares 3 tips for recovering from heartbreak and making sure that you don’t compromise on who you are, simply because you’re hurting right now.
Mar 15, 201905:46
Have to vs. Get To

Have to vs. Get To

Deborah shares the transformative power of flipping the script on yourself and replacing every “I have to..” statement with a more positive grateful statement, starting with “I get to..”. Change your thinking and you change your life. Focus on positivity and gratitude and you will find you have more and more positive things to be grateful for.
Mar 13, 201907:23
Be a Change Maker

Be a Change Maker

If you want to change your life, start by changing your mind - the thoughts and beliefs that are holding you back. If you want to change the world, start with yourself. Be clear on your purpose and your goals and focus on those, ignoring the irrational fears and self-limiting beliefs. Don’t allow yourself to be distracted by other people’s drama or problems. This is your journey, so just do YOU.
Mar 12, 201906:54
Know your Motives

Know your Motives

How often do you question your own motives or gain clarity on your intentions before you speak up or take action in your life? Deborah shares a personal account about a friend who had to ask this very tough question of himself recently and had to confront whether or not he was perhaps being manipulative. They key to changing the world is always in changing our own behavior and it starts with self-awareness. Know yourself and know your motives.
Mar 08, 201907:21
The Power of Active Listening

The Power of Active Listening

Listen to ‘understand’ instead of just listening to ‘respond’. Active Listening is a powerful tool that will help you improve relationships and make people feel genuinely seen and heard. By focusing your attention on the speaker and being respectful and empathetic, you will be amazed at how your relationships change for the better.
Mar 07, 201908:01
Top 5 Traits of Toxic People

Top 5 Traits of Toxic People

Actions always speak louder than words and it is possible to identify toxic people and avoid them, if you look out for the top 5 traits that Deborah has found to be common in all toxic people she has encountered. Keep an eye out for the article for Thrive Global on this topic, later this week.
Feb 28, 201908:51
Actions Speak

Actions Speak

When meeting new people or assessing current relationships, Deborah reminds us that people can say all kinds of things, but the real test is found in how those people act and behave. Don’t just listen to words. Watch actions and behaviours - those will tell you exactly who someone is.
Feb 27, 201906:30
Overcoming Digital Isolation

Overcoming Digital Isolation

In Part 2 of the Lessons on Digital Isolation and resultant loneliness, Deborah shares 4 practical tips to get you out of your digital cocoon and back to making some real human connections again. You will feel SO much better, both physically and emotionally. You can also read the article 👉👉👉http://www.lionessesofafrica.com/blog/2019/2/14/can-i-get-a-connection-3-tips-to-overcoming-lonelinessnbsp-in-a-digital-age
Feb 26, 201907:14
Digital Isolation

Digital Isolation

Are you perhaps allowing technology and your digital life to become a replacement for IRL connections? Deborah talks about how technology could be contributing to feelings of loneliness and isolation and could be depriving us of human connection. Do a quick stock take of who is important in your life that you haven’t seen in a long time. Is technology creating a false sense of intimacy and connection?
Feb 25, 201906:57
Evolve or Repeat

Evolve or Repeat

Have you ever noticed a pattern repeating itself in your life? Perhaps in your relationships or your career? Deborah invites you to take stock of these experiences and ask ‘what is this trying to teach me?’. Listen to the expression of your soul in that moment. That inner voice, your heart, knows what to do and what is necessary for you to evolve and grow. If you listen to your fears and your ego, you’re just going to be stuck - Repeating the same experiences until you learn the lesson and move on.
Feb 19, 201906:19
Schedule your Priorities

Schedule your Priorities

Your daily and weekly schedule should reflect the priorities and things that are truly important to you. Deborah invites you to examine your schedule and see how much time you have scheduled for family or fun or fitness and to then make adjustments accordingly. In saying ‘no’ to activities that drain our energy, we are able to create more time to say YES to the things that add joy and balance to our lives.
Feb 18, 201906:15
Real vs True

Real vs True

Deborah invites you to learn to distinguish between real feelings in a specific moment and question whether the accompanying thoughts and beliefs, are really true. Chances are, the feelings are real but the thoughts are not. You can learn to flip the script and change the thoughts so that the feeling isn’t entirely overwhelming.
Feb 12, 201905:24
Be more selfish with your time

Be more selfish with your time

Deborah invites you to take a look at all the things on your ‘to do’ list and to examine how many of those are actually YOUR responsibility and how many are other people’s problems and responsibilities that have now become yours to solve. It’s ok to be more selfish with your time and to say NO to the people and activities that drain your energy. It’s the only way to have more balance in your life and to make sure you’re putting yourself, first. You cannot pour from an empty cup..
Feb 11, 201906:60
The 90/90/1 Principle
Feb 06, 201907:49
The ‘wheel of life’ Exercise

The ‘wheel of life’ Exercise

In order to create more balance in our lives, or embark on a personal journey to create the life we dream of, completing a ‘wheel of life’ assessment is a very useful tool. It allows us to see a visual representation of areas of our lives that need improving. A powerful tool to gain insights and to start a transformation journey with.
Feb 05, 201907:35
Don’t take anything Personally

Don’t take anything Personally

How others behave and act towards us, is never about us and always about them. Yet we are so arrogant and self absorbed that we are quick to make things personal and to become defensive or hostile. Deborah invites you to practice the Second Agreement (from The 4 Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz) and to approach all people with more empathy and understanding, removing yourself and your issues from the equation, in order to build better interpersonal relationships.
Feb 04, 201910:00
Is your Job Slowly Killing You?

Is your Job Slowly Killing You?

Stress and burnout don’t happen overnight and the signs are there if we just look for them. Headaches, digestive problems, changes to eating or sleeping habits or lack of interest in sex - all signs that you’re headed for burnout and need to make a change. Deborah encourages you to listen to your body, trust your intuition and find something that feeds your soul and doesn’t just line your pockets. No amount of money is worth your physical health or your overall wellbeing.
Jan 29, 201908:22