The Jen Rufo Show
By Jen Rufo
The Jen Rufo Show May 04, 2020
Finding Success and Finding Yourself with CEO and Model Toi Hardy
CEO, model, and entrepreneur, the stunning Toi Hardy joins me to discover how a young woman can find success in the business world while finding herself at the same time. After getting married at the young age of 18, Toi shares what she had to learn about herself and the struggles one faces in a early marriage while starting a business. Breaking the glass ceiling isn't easy, but women like Toi will always find a way. Join us while we confront societal pressures and find the person we didn't know we could be.
066: Staying Sexy the Healthy Way with Chanel Renee
Chanel Rene joins me to discuss her experience with diet and exercise. The many benefits of staying healthy and the pressure society puts on women in the social media age and the modeling industry. We discuss the dangers and benefits behind diet pills, exercise, and other more taboo weight loss methods. Share stories of our start on Only fans and how our experience has differed so far.
065: LA Swindler On The Loose. Beware!
I interview Bri Stern then Elisha about their experience with the LA swindler. Similar to the tinder swindler, this guy conned many people in LA pretending to be a rich South African pro golfer.
064: Normalizing Bushes and Micro-dosing Mushrooms with Mars
Mars and I discuss how she employed her quarantine bae as an independent contractor during the pandemic to help her with her spicy site. We discuss the problems with porn, what she does & doesn’t do on OF as a professional heaux, and her experience with depression, prescription pills, & micro-dosing mushrooms.
063: Freaky Kinks, Sex Worker Stigmas, and Open Relationships with Monica Huldt (@Swedish_Bella)
Monica Huldt tells all about her journey that led to making millions on OnlyFans during the pandemic. She and I dive into stigmas surrounding sex workers, our kinks of choice, and dealing with insecurities + trolls in this lifestyle. We discuss sexual desires and how we both hope Daddy Elon takes over Instagram so OnlyFans girls accounts stop getting banned.
062: Assholes Live Forever with Kirill & Crew
Kirill, the founder of the clothing brand Assholes Live Forever joins TJRS with some members of his crew including his girlfriend Estee, Gia the pornstar, & Molli a full-time degenerate at ALF. Kirill travels to all of the cities and clubs he isn't already banned from to shower girls with champagne and throw a party where everyone fits in. We discuss how he cultivated a crazy party crew with girls in every city willing to flash their boobs & do crazy siht. Gia the pornstar discusses butt stuff & taboo views on watching her partner have sex with someone else. Then we talk about some crazy stories from ALF parties. BTW my intro is recorded in a hot tub so sorry in advance for the bubbly kinky sex noises. Or not sorry ;)
061: Bitch We’re Starting an OnlyFans with Lauren Mordachini
Host of Thy Queendom Come podcast Lauren Mordachini and I sit down for yet another unconventional talk. We discuss some of our dumb bitch times together, starting an OnlyFans, and a lot of mental health topics surrounding both monogamous & open relationships. In this episode we dive into my on again off again relationship with Birthday Boy, stigmas surrounding attachment styles, & an extremely enlightening discussion about healthy communication & taking responsibility for your personal growth. This is one of my favorite episodes so far! Enjoy!!!
060: Spiritual Shit Show with Kaitlyn Herman
Kaitlyn Herman, known for her time on the reality TV show Big Brother joins me to talk some shit…kidding. This episode is both enlightening & hysterical. Kaitlyn is now an ICF life coach, podcast host, and OnlyFans model…so our talk taps into mental health, using guys for money on OF, relationship attachments, open relationships, masturbation, kinks, TMJ, how therapy is hot, how I got into the open relationship “lifestyle” & how I learned to masturbate at 7 years old. Yup, it’s all over the place and I wouldn’t have it any other way.
059: Sex & Open Relationships with Cara Maria Sorbello
Today I speak to Cara Maria Sorbello from MTV’s The Challenge formerly known as Real World/Road Rules Challenge. Cara and I discuss how she and Paulie (from last episode) navigate their open relationship - so this is a very unique situation where you get to hear both partners POVs back to back..then we all chat together. They talk about inviting other people into their sex life, how not to be jealous, pleasure, & much more. It’s unfiltered, it’s real, and it shines light on a healthy open relationship.
058: How To Be Poly with Paulie
Paulie Calafiore is a contestant from Big Brother, Ex on the Beach, & MTV's The Challenge. Currently he's training for the US Olympic Bobsled Team. After a challenging public breakup he faced even more challenges in the press when he opened up about his open relationship lifestyle. He and I discuss different kinds of "nontraditional" relationships, sex parties, & how to start the open relationship lifestyle.
057: Dickmatized By Toxic Dick
Today Jen talks about her toxic dick relapse & gives a detailed description of her sexcapades with Birthday Boy. Being dickmatized isn't ideal so she breaks down the importance of self-awareness in any relationship. She goes into detail about her first hotwife/cuck experience with Birthday Boy, discusses her reason behind starting an OnlyFans & shares exciting news about next weeks episode.
February 8, 2021
056: Enter The Slut
I'm back and sluttier than ever. Season 3 kicks off with a reintroduction of me, first orgasms, and trying to resist tempting toxic dick. I share stories about men I've dated in LA (building boy, rooftop toy, & birthday boy), update you on my current situation-ship status, and sprinkle in some uplifting bad bitch wellness tips. Stay slutty my little whores.
The Jen Rufo Show Season 3
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055: Staying healthy in today's world, relationships, and magic mushrooms with Dr. Ryan Monahan
054: Sex & Pleasure with Julianne Vaccaro
053: Owning your sexuality & the power of Women in today's society with Haley Videckis
052: Emotional IQ & Twin FAQ with the Vike Twins
051: Vulnerability in men, dating in NYC, and confident sex with Kaitlyn Herman
050: Balancing work and pleasure, Red flags, and being friends with your Ex with Ian Lara
Jen sits down with New York City comedian Ian Lara to discuss the difficult task of balancing work and pleasure, relationship red flags, and how to be friends with your Ex.
049: Ghosting, the keys to a happy relationship & crazy stories from the road with Monroe Martin
Jen sits down with comedian Monroe Martin to discuss why he's the "king of ghosting", how to keep the spark in long-term relationships, and Monroe shares some hilarious stories from his time spent touring as a stand-up comedian.
048: What's it REALLY like dancing for the Brooklyn Nets?
Jen talks about her experience dancing for the Brooklyn Nets dance team & unpacks her experience from an in-depth first person account.
047: Dancing in the NBA & holistic self-improvement with Ericka Taylor
Jen sits down with Miami Heat dancer Ericka Taylor to talk dancing professionally in the NBA, how dating on the west coast is different from the east coast, and Ericka’s new holistic fitness program.
046: Welcome to The Jen Rufo Show
Jen sits down to talk about rebranding to "The Jen Rufo Show", why it's important to date people who go to therapy, and how to be a gentleman in the bedroom.
045: Dating during a Pandemic, the importance of therapy, and Internet trolls with Chinae Alexander
Jen sat down with Chinae Alexander to talk about navigating relationships during the COVID-19 Pandemic, the importance of therapy and the stigma sometimes associated with it, and also, how to deal with angry internet trolls.
044: Love, Lust, & Self-Improvement with Eric Bigger
This week Jen sits down with Eric Bigger to talk about millennial relationships, life outside The Bachelor universe, and also Eric's new improvement workbook "TRANS-FOR-MA-TION".
043: Dating F-ups & Newlywed Lessons with Ashley Iaconetti
Episode with Ashley Iaconetti from Bachelor Nation. We deep dive into Jen's dating F-ups in LA & Ashley shares about her time on The Bachelor, why she waited so long to have sex, & life hacks for newlyweds.
042: Covid + Dating + Pubes - OH MY! with Pat Quinn & Katie Boyle
It’s season 2 and we’re turning up the heat!
The hysterically witty Pat Quinn, who has lived here in LA for 11 years & works as a comic, writer, actor, & has a CBD company - joins Jen to discuss navigating dating in the city of transplants (aka LA), dating disappointments, NYC douchebags vs LA gas-lighters, being used in LA, addictive personalities + much more.
Katie Boyle, a comic from NYC & originally from Ireland joins to break down the American tiers of dating, commitment issues, dating stories, how to use social media as a tool in a healthy way, abundance mindsets, anti sex shaming, & STDs.
Prepare to laugh for an hour straight
041: "V Courageous" with Matt Ranaudo
Today we discuss updates in life involving crazy dating stories and big steps in relationships. Then Matt joins to discuss his journey on TV while shooting LTYH, BTS secrets viewers didn't get do see, and how he feels about his infamous response to Rudi expressing her feelings to him on national TV. We dive into his dating life now, what he looks for in a partner, and the near death experience that gave him a whole new perspective on life.
040: Get Yourself a Guy That Thinks You're Hot When You Snore
Today we talk about guys vs girls opinions on dating apps, how to be direct on dates without wasting anyones time, and we answer some of your questions! We discuss mistakes we've made in past relationships and crazy dating stories of ours. Then we dive into all or nothing mindsets, how to combat insecurities and being a human (who farts) when dating, body image issues, confidence, and how to be the best/healthiest/most confident version of yourself mentally. Pre-show we spill the tea on the newest Bachelor Nation drama surrounding Clare Crawley and Tayshia Adams.
039: Permission To Be Yourself with Erin Claire Jones
Erin Claire Jones joins to talk Human Design Systems & what they have to offer. A little info on human design charts... each person has a different human design and by learning about your individual human design you have the ability to make choices that are in alignment with your authentic nature. This knowledge will help you live a fulfilling life in your unique way. We break down the different types of design, how to improve the quality of your life in a simple and effective way, how to make the right moment-to-moment decisions, improved relationships, better career choices, & how to manage the challenges of life without getting overwhelmed.
Guest: @erinclairejones
038: Love Yo Self with Mike Johnson
Mike Johnson for President! You may know him from Bachelor Nation but he has big plans to impact the world in a positive way. His new book "Making The Love You Want" is about empowerment, embracing your differences, self love, & self worth. Mike discusses his relationship with Bachelor Nation, how he prides himself on being authentic on and off TV, dating, what he wants in a partner, erotic novels, AND his ultimate fantasy. This is an episode you don't want to miss!
@mikejohnson
037: Life Hacks with J+S
Anotha one! On today's solo episode we share some extra personal stories about our past (and present) romantic relationships. We discuss what it was like dancing for the NBA and lessons we learned during that chapter of our lives. Then we talk about how to act like a boss when dating, at work, and in life & answer a bunch of listener questions!
036: The Aftermath of Being a Reality TV "Villain" with Olivia Caridi
Before welcoming our guest we talk about texting/communicating from a place of self-worth vs desperation, LA men vs NYC men on dating apps, and how Sydney & Nick’s relationship is getting big exposure! Then GBB sits down with Bachelor Nation’s Olivia Caridi who was known as the villain on The Bachelor (Ben Higgins season). We discuss how the show influenced her mental health, her experience with the betrayal of a producer on the show, normalizing mental health battles, dating post show, and how she gives back and helps other reality TV villains navigate the aftermath of being villainized on national TV.
035: Allergic to Life with Kathlena, The Allergy Chef
034: Sex & Living In Your Power with Taylor Nolan
Today we chat with therapist & future sexologist Taylor Nolan known for appearing on The Bachelor & Bachelor In Paradise. We discuss the story behind her decision to go on the show, how to live in your power, & how to step into your sexual power. Taylor shares how communicate your needs clearly in life and in sex, owning your needs, and how to grow sexually with a partner. She's the queen of normalizing authenticity, sex, and putting your own needs first. Tune in for an inspiring and enlightening chat!
Guest: @taymocha
033: In Pursuit of Orgasms with Lora DiCarlo
Lora Haddock DiCarlo founded sex tech company Lora DiCarlo in 2017. She's won numerous awards including being listed as one of the top 53 women CEOs disrupting HealthTech by Forbes. On this episode we discuss the importance of sexual self-discovery, exploring personal stimulation you enjoy and how to identify your individual & unique Pleasure Profiles to benefit you solo and with a partner. Her devices are tools to explore your physiology and better understand the beautiful complexities of your body in new ways.
Guest: @lora_dicarlo @loradicarlo_hq
032: Humanizing the RealityTV "Villain" with Julia Rae
Today we have on Julia Rae known for her role as the “villain” from Bachelor ABCs Listen to your heart. We sit down with her and find out she’s everything, but the villain! We talk with her about her experience on the show, how shockingly short her time there was, and lots of behind the scenes of the show and reality tv. Julia struggles with deciding between the nice guy and the “hard to get” guy a predicament we can all relate to! We get to know the girl we should have seen on reality tv and how she wanted to use her platform and time on the show to raise awareness for people who struggle with cystic fibrosis as she does. This is a must listen for anyone that’s been misunderstood or learning to rise up from difficult situations in this episode with Julia Rae!
Guest:
@itsjuliarae
031: Finding Strength Against All Odds with Sadie Strong
From head cheerleader to the military, Sadie Strong comes on the pod to chat about topics ranging from how she met her fiancé at Prince Harry's veterans sports event to her experience as a female in the military. We dive into how love is normally found when you're NOT looking for it - and how it might unexpectedly show up in the form of a guy with a man bun and a fanny pack! Sadie shares what happened to her in the military. The double standards, systemic gender inequality, and mistreatment towards women in the armed forces AND her opinion on how we can begin to solve these issues.
Guest: @sadieestrong
030: Married At First Sight with Elizabeth Bice & Jamie Thompson
This episode features Beth and Jamie from the TV series Married At First Sight. They took a leap of faith when they walked down the aisle to marry a complete stranger - and they are still going strong! We discuss what it's like to date backwards, get their advice for newlyweds, and helpful tricks for couples quarantining together. We even get the story behind their "Basic Caucasian Sex" mugs... Tune in to find out what's next for this couple and for self-love & personal development mindset hacks!
Guests: @justbeth____ & @jamie_the_hubby
029: Manifesting Love & Money with Amanda Blair
Today we have on Amanda Blair a ‘To Be Magnetic’ Manifestation and relationship coach to teach us how we can take control of our own realities to reprogram our minds and manifest our dream lives. We talk releasing limiting beliefs and growing our self worth to shed traumas and blocks of our past to create endless opportunities for the future. Amanda breaks down the manifestation formula, teaching us to identify tests (cough cough fuckbois) so that we can truly find the relationship, the job, the apartment, and more of our dreams. We get a little Woo Woo here, but our mission is to help our listeners cultivate the best life possible and Amanda Blair does exactly that! So tune in, get out a pen and paper, write down the list of your dream life and tune in as Amanda helps us to manifest it!
Guest:
@xoamandablair
028: Brotox & Placentas with Matt Donald
Get yourself a guy that isn't afraid to hang with the girls and talk botox and placentas. We have that very guy on the podcast today and he‘s single ladies!! We sit down with Matt Donald today, a Bachelorette ABC and Bachelor in Paradise fan favorite who made a big impact in a short amount of time. We know him as the sweaty endearing guy who was afraid to kiss our girl on the beach last year, but he’s so much more! Tune in as we talk dating in LA from the male perspective, who he has his eyes on in #Bachelornation, and to see us grill our boy Matt Donald on why he was so afraid to kiss Sydney in Paradise. If you're looking to date your boy inquire within, and enjoy this great episode with Matt!
027: Spiritual AF with Kaitlyn Herman
Today we have on Kaitlyn Herman best known for Season 20 of Big Brother, a contestant that made a huge impact in a very short amount of time. We talk to Kaitlyn about her obsession with Reality TV ultimately landing her on her guilty pleasure Big Brother, as the spiritual, woo woo, life coach who fell out of love with her boyfriend while on the show. We talk with Kaitlyn about how she remains true to herself, dealt with backlash after Big Brother, and the cutest story about her parents watching her on Reality TV. We break down the recent drama between her and former Bachelor Canada contestant, our thoughts on Sugar Babies, and how Kaitlyn fights certain temptations to do work that aligns with her purpose all in this very fun episode with Kaitlyn Herman!
026: Boy BYE with J+S
When a certain someone from Summer House ghosts you, you pull up and fly solo! Today’s episode is just Jen and Sydney! We talk the double standards between men and women on Bravo’s Summer House, the craziest dates we’ve ever been on ending in shattered glass and dental emergencies, and what we’re both working on currently. This impromptu episode is entertaining and empowering so press play and enjoy!
025: F*ck, Marry, Cancel with Kirpa Sudick
Today we have Kirpa Sudick on to cure any case of the Monday’s you might have. If you’re looking for a laugh or some cringey tales this ones for you! We talk how Kirpa's lack of connection for Colton, some behind the scenes Bachelor moments they could never air, and what Kirpa’s learned from her past relationships and at one point being engaged. We get into one night stands, celebrity hook ups, orgasms and lack there of, and so much more all in this very fun episode with Kirpa!
024: Dating 101 with Ben Higgins and Jessica Clarke
I sit down with Ben Higgins from season 20 of The Bachelor and his fiancé Jessica Clarke to talk all things dating and relationships. As we all know, being The Bachelor gives you quite a lot of dating experience to say the least... so I talk to Ben about what it was like to be The Bachelor and how his current relationship with Jess is different from past relationships. They break down how their relationship is non-traditional (for 2020), what works for them in their relationship, give dating advice for singles, and tell the crazy story of how they met in this digital age.
023: Unity of the Sexes with Carmen Carrera
Carmen Carrera is a transgender ICON. Born a boy in New Jersey in 1985, she's inspired and paved the way for so many with her commitment to owning and living her truth. She's tackled multiple fields including reality TV, modeling (Sports Illustrated), and now has multiple businesses including a talent agency. Carmen is a trailblazer in diversity and the trans community and she's just getting started. We discuss her childhood, when she realized she wanted to make a full transition, dating, and much more!
022: F*ck the Bullshit with Diggy Moreland
Diggy Moreland joins to discuss current events following the death of George Floyd & the state of the world as it reopens following covid-19. You may know Diggy from ABC's season 13 of The Bachelorette and seasons 4 and 5 of Bachelor in Paradise. We discuss Diggy's experience on these shows and what dating after the cameras turned off has been like for him. Season 13 of The Bachelorette featured the first African American Bachelorette, Rachel Lindsay. This season in particular had its fair share of racial based drama so we dive into Diggy's perspective about what actually happened behind the scenes. We learn Diggy's type of woman, what he collects, & some very important mottos to live by...
021: Make Money Moves with Jason Tartick
Keeping the flame alive in relationships is hard enough, let alone throwing finances into the mix... I sit down with Jason Tartick. You may know him from season 14 of The Bachelorette. He's a business consultant & founder of Restart, a consulting agency. Since money is a touchy subject for many, we break down how to gain confidence surrounding finances as an individual and how to navigate finances in a healthy relationship. We also discuss what post corona dating might look like and how to use this time to level up in all areas of life. Get ready to make some money moves!!!
020: Just Do You with Peta Murgatroyd
She’s a wife, a mother, a 7 year DWTS alumn, and so much more! Learn how Peta began her long running career and passion in dance at the young age of 4 and how she turned her talents into a successful career dancing all around the world. She gives us insight on how she keeps the romance alive in her marriage and how her and her now husband found their way back to each other after a year apart. Peta tells us how her life has changed for the better giving birth to her son who she describes as her favorite person in the world and how she manages to balance it all in this incredibly inspiring episode with Peta Murgatroyd!