Harmless Harlots: Ethical Non-Monogamy Enthusiasts

By Jen

Why are all movies, books, and songs about cheating and love triangles (which usually aren’t even triangular)? Why do so many relationships end in adultery? There’s got to be a better way, right? There is! It’s called Ethical Non-Monogamy! And we Harlots are here to explore the wonders of it with you! If you want more authentic relationships, join sisters Liz and Jen every week to unlearn toxic relationship habits!

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Harmless Harlots: Ethical Non-Monogamy EnthusiastsOct 05, 2021

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#33 All Men

Y'all what is going on, for real? Are y'all as depressed as I am?

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Oct 05, 202156:20

#32 The Poly Pages

Welcome to the first live recording of Harmless Harlots! Live in the sense that Liz and I were in the same room for the first time that is

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Sep 28, 202148:28

#31 Off the Deep End

We took a break, and now we're back! With a lot to talk about! It's a long one :)

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Sep 21, 202101:17:38

#30.1 "Exes" and O's

Lizzie brushes off her acting skills and gives us a nice monologue while Jen is taking a break to deal with personal issues. But don't worry, you'll hear all about it later ;)

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Sep 07, 202109:53

#30 In Sickness, and in Sickness

Get yoself someone who brings you soup when your sick. I'll trade six pack abs for a sick pack of Campell's.

I can't believe we're at 30! Thanks so much for everyone's support! We're going to be taking a season break after this episode because Liz and Jen are moving and STRESSED. Capitalism, am I right?

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Aug 24, 202141:42

#29 Polysecurity

Liz and Jen talk about different ways to practice relationships (I mean duh, but in like specific detail) because we're reading Polysecure by Jessica Fern!

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Aug 17, 202142:26

#28 Relationship Crutches

*Trigger warning* We briefly talk about domestic abuse and sexual assault, so if these are triggers for you, feel free to skip over those parts.

The rest of the episode is monogamy, religion, adoption, ya know, the usual. Enjoy!

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Aug 10, 202150:47

#27 And They Were Roommates...

It's good practice to discuss boundaries with everyone in your life: friends, family, roommates, and even sisters ;)

(I'm learning a new audio editing platform, so forgive me if there's a couple mistakes this week...)

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Aug 03, 202153:16

#26 Capitalism is Trauma

We continue our journey into Polysecure. This week, we cover trauma and capitalism. Cuz f*ck that noise.

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Jul 20, 202155:41

#25 Attachment - With Style!

Secure... Insecure... what does it all mean...? We're not 100% sure yet, but we're getting there!

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Jul 20, 202151:03

#24 You're My R.O.C.

Jen and Liz actually talk about polyamory! Thanks to our supporters for getting us copies of Polysecure!

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Jul 13, 202101:00:11

#23 Partner Lite

Jen takes us on another trip to Jen Land, where there's no gender or sexual orientation, but lots and lots of consent!

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Jul 06, 202150:07

#23 The No Code

*Trigger Warning* We talk a lot about consent in this episode; nothing too graphic, but it could bring up traumatic memories for some. We love you and support you and want you to be fully informed

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Jun 29, 202150:51

#21 Friends With Consequences?

Lizzie has a lot to say on how to ethically and successfully have friends with benefits - it can be done. And the current debate: do you use pronouns? Surprise, you probably do. But if you ACTUALLY don't, that's dope.

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Jun 22, 202145:39

#20 To Kink, or Not to Kink

That is the question... The answer? Kink. At least for Jen.

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Jun 15, 202149:07

#19 Hey Sexy Lady!

Have you ever been cat called? It's not fun. But Queer TikTok is! Also, God and gender are apparently dead. I killed at least one of them...

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Jun 08, 202101:03:25

#18 I'm Mad at Disney

Happy pride to all our fellow queers!

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Jun 01, 202145:16

#17 The Game of Mono-Poly

Can monogamous and polyamorous people be together? It sounds difficult, but not impossible!

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May 25, 202152:11

#16 Chaos-sexual

When your sexuality is just... chaos. A few questions: what does it mean to cheat on your partner? Are all "men" monsters? And why do you shave? (Hint, it's probably because of Venus - no, not the goddess)

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May 18, 202157:56

#15 Let's Talk About Sex (And Boundaries)

Can you tell a boundary from a rule? Are you an introvert or an extrovert? Do you know what a femboy is? Everything you seek is inside...

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May 11, 202101:05:12

#14 Sex Brakes

What gets you going? And what slams the brakes? Jen finally remembered to include a link!

Use 2 Words To Talk About Sex — Heartfelt Counseling

Also, do you think Jen could make it as a sex worker? In this economy?

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May 04, 202144:38

#13 People Who Need People

Y'all may think Jen is gender queer because that's "who she is," but no. It's all for the game. Ball is life. He he. We also talk about religion again (someone stop us), and the Greeks. No, no, the other Greeks.

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Apr 27, 202157:47

#12 God Dental Dam It

A little bit of sex education, from us to you

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Apr 20, 202151:12

#11 Call Me By Your Gay

What's the last revelation you had about your identity? Was it your sexuality? Gender? Romantic alignment? Were you glad you had made this discovery? Did you instantly go telling everyone about it? It can be scary, but Liz and Jen have been here before, so we can keep you company no matter what stage you're at.

We also talk about *shudder* first dates. Who grabs the bill when you go out? Does gender matter? Income? It can be tricky to navigate since finances can be a touchy subject. But we have a little bit of experience and a lot of opinions to share about the matter!

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Apr 13, 202150:08

#10 Baby Don't Hurt Me

What is love (love love)? No answers here, but there's some gay fan fic ;)

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Apr 06, 202150:47

#9 Hakuna Amatonormative

Let's talk about The One on Netflix, amatonormativity, and demisexuality on another winding episode with your favorite Harlots!

We also discuss the book Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá, which explores relationship styles from an evolutionary and anthropological perspective.

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Mar 30, 202153:07

#8 Ghost of Ghosting's Past

Are you haunted by ghosting? Maybe you’ve been ghosted or been a ghoster? When is it ok? We also talk about lust, sex, and Martin Luther… Just another normal episode :)

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Mar 23, 202156:59

#7 Raw Relationships

Sometimes sisters just need to rant about the difficulties of intimate relationships, ya know?

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Mar 16, 202151:00

#6 Naked and Unashamed!

This is not a nudist colony! Except, it is :) We also discuss the book Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá, which explores relationship styles from an evolutionary and anthropological perspective.

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Mar 09, 202150:50

#5 Jender and Validation

Jen talks about her encounter with a less-than-poly-friendly therapist. Liz and Jen talk about the importance of validation for relationship styles and gender identity.

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Mar 02, 202149:33

#4 Mating in Capitalist Captivity

*Trigger warning* at about minute 35 we discuss potentially triggering topics like rape and trauma.

Jen has a new boy and Liz reflects on her little sister's journey to becoming the kinky queer she is today. We also discuss the book Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá, which explores relationship styles from an evolutionary and anthropological perspective. And we talk about the book Mating in Captivity by Esther Perel.

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Feb 23, 202150:00

#3 Lizzie's Lovers

Liz is riding a poly high. We also discuss the book Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá, which explores relationship styles from an evolutionary and anthropological perspective.

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Feb 16, 202149:43

#2 Tall Love Triangles

Liz and Jen discuss jealousy and love triangles in the movie Tall Girl.

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Feb 09, 202150:51

#1 Having Sex at Dawn

Liz and Jen talk about their journeys with Ethical Non Monogamy (ENM). We also discuss the book Sex at Dawn by Christopher Ryan and Cacilda Jethá, which explores relationship styles from an evolutionary and anthropological perspective.

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Feb 09, 202150:12

What are Harmless Harlots?

Why are all movies, books, and songs about cheating and love triangles (which usually aren’t even triangular)? Why do so many relationships end in adultery? There’s got to be a better way, right? There is! It’s called Ethical Non Monogamy! Harlots/sisters Liz and Jen are here to explore the wonders of it with you! If you want more authentic relationships, join us every week to unlearn toxic relationship habits!

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Feb 03, 202100:58