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Haven Space

Haven Space

By Sara Perry
In this space you will find content on different sexual topics, research that I am working on, random new things I encounter in that research, as well as fetishism topics and coaching. There will be sexual talk, some of which may be considered inappropriate, intense or even disgusting to you. However, this is a safe place for these conversations. This is REAL sex ed. And It's better late than never.

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Blowjobs
Here are the basics about blow jobs with some facts that will blow your mind! For information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
22:03
April 10, 2021
My Pet Monster girls are one year older!
Recon mission with Rudy Sanzibar to learn everything about what one year in the pandemic has done to his little creatures and his big business. Check out @mypetmonstergirl on most platforms for more info For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
27:41
April 3, 2021
Sinning
Have you ever thought the seven deadly sins could be... well... the seven sexy sins? For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
22:59
March 27, 2021
Virginity Fetishes
I know it's your first time hearing this... but this is probably the one fetish that is actually potentially problematic. For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
28:16
March 20, 2021
Oculophilia
I bet you never thought that you would be looking at this body part with different eyes, but here we are. Maybe I should say, an eye for an eye and the whole world... gets horny? For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
25:44
March 13, 2021
Nasophilia
Don't mean to rub your nose in it, but this fetish will certain have you thinking about something that's always right in your face.  For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
22:32
March 6, 2021
Blood Fetishes and Hematolagnia
When blood really is thicker than water, tune in to hear all about this fetish for everything blood related. For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
25:37
February 27, 2021
Armpit Fetishes
Have you ever thought something was the pits, but in a good way? For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
26:11
February 20, 2021
Odontophilia
You'll be dying to take a bite out of this one! For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
18:23
February 13, 2021
Intoxication and Somnophilia
Come learn about how to explore the edges of consciousness in the most hallucinating forms of sexuality.  For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
26:38
February 6, 2021
Speaking of Facial Feminization Surgery
An interview with Dr. Regina Rodman, a facial plastic surgeon in Houston, Texas about her trans-inclusive practice, nuances in decision making and how you can advocate for trans medical access. Follow her and her practice on IG @dr.rodman and get in touch through www.faceforwardhouston.com For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
29:43
January 30, 2021
Gerontophilia
Once you go gray (haired) you never go back. Tune in to the heavily studied but slimly represented world of elderly fetishes. For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
22:44
January 23, 2021
Narratophilia
Ahhh roll up your sleeves and let's get down and dirty with the dirty talk.  For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
23:10
January 16, 2021
Feederism
Ever wonder why some people want to be fed to the point of exhaustion? This one is sure to leave a taste in your mouth, you may even enjoy it.  For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
22:03
January 9, 2021
Sex Dolls
Well, hell-O Dolly! Let's kick of the 2021 Season all dolled up, and learn a little more about realistic dolls and those who like them- and like like them.  For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
26:24
January 2, 2021
Sex Work
Real talk on the world's oldest occupation.  For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
24:07
December 8, 2020
Trans Fetishes
How to date trans people without being a jackass trying to just date trans people. That is it. No clever wording here.  For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
24:02
December 1, 2020
Foot Fetishes
I know you've heard of this one, but there is always more afoot. Let's just say, why are we getting off on the wrong foot when could be getting off to the right one? For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
20:07
November 24, 2020
Furries
They're fun, they're frisky and they're oh so fluffy! Tune in to take a dive into the lives, loves and lessons of the furry community.  For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
21:14
November 17, 2020
Toy Play
Sex toys are all the rave, but is there more to those you crave? Learn them from a historical overview to the lock-box secrets, there are many more types than you can imagine.  For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
32:03
November 10, 2020
Findom and Simps!
Where's the money, honey? Tune in to hear all about this form of BDSM that is sure to leave you wanting more.  For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
20:10
November 3, 2020
Cripping Up Sex: And Interview with Eva Sweeney
Discussing all things disability access with someone who has made it their life's work to go beyond the minimal sexual safety sex-ed and demand pleasure for all bodies.  Eva Sweeney is a 37-year-old genderqueer disabled female who works primarily as a sex educator and freelance writer. Her topics include disabilities and sex, gender, and queer culture. She has been doing sex and disability workshops for over 15 years and started doing this work because she found a huge lack of good sex-positive information for people with disabilities. Eva wrote the book “Queers on Wheels” and has traveled the country giving workshops about sex and disability. She continues to give workshops online and in-person through “Cripping Up Sex with Eva”, and she is also available for private consultations. Check out her links: Twitter: @CrippingUpSex Instagram: @CrippingUpSex Facebook: @CrippingUpSexWithEva Patreon: patreon.com/cripadvice Website: crippingupsexwitheva.com Shop: gumroad.com/crippingupsexwitheva Letter Board Demo: http://bit.ly/EvasBoard For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
26:18
October 27, 2020
Macrophilia
Ever feel like you are being stepped on by everyone around you? Tune in to this podcast on the fetish that is "larger than life" in more ways than one. For more information on me and the work I do, including to purchase books or book a coaching session, please visit www.saraperry.com. If you would like to get members-only access to podcast extras while you support my work, check out my Patreon at www.patreon.com/havenspace.
17:08
October 20, 2020
Edging
We all like to play on the edge... so why not find out the easiest techniques? Consider becoming a patron and supporting my work while receiving members-only content at patreon.com/havenspace.
19:07
October 13, 2020
Pegged and Proxied
A step further than anal play, strap up your boots and strap on the dildo for this frisky ride. Consider becoming a patron and supporting my work while receiving members-only content at patreon.com/havenspace. To participate in the research named i . the podcast, contact : Dulcinea Pitagora, LCSW, CST https://survey.az1.qualtrics.com/jfe/form/SV_eLkJqYwxUfv1pzL
25:53
October 6, 2020
Disability Justice
Tune in for a little bit more about why we need pleasure access for all bodies, how it affects you, and what you can do about it! Check out exclusive content, support my podcast and more at patreon.com/havenspace
24:33
September 29, 2020
We Need to Talk About Pedophilia
When we talk about attractions, and we think we are being honest and open, we must include even those attractions that are considered immoral in our society. Learn more about this disease, how it operates, how it is treated and how you can be a part of creating a safer world. I warned you, this is REAL sex ed.  For more information on the subject, look up Dr. Michael Seto and Dr. James Canto. If you are dealing with minor-attraction please reach out to one of the following resources for support and valuable tools. https://www.virped.org/ http://ange-bleu.com/en/tag/pedophile-support-group Support my work at Patreon.com/havenspace ***for Patreon only video content***   For my blog, books and nonprofit contact go to my full website www.saraperry.com.
25:14
September 22, 2020
Gang Bangs and Trains
We are taking a train down to party town, breaking down the real gang culture and learning more about this fetish.  Support my work at Patreon.com/havenspace ***for Patreon only video content***   For my blog, books and nonprofit contact go to my full website www.saraperry.com.
29:05
September 15, 2020
ABDL: The Interview
Forgive the difficult connection during the time of Corona and tune in to get the scoop on why acting childish is more than child's play from two littles themselves, Kalaya and Jewel. Explore more and join their community at FetLife.com/groups/120791 for vanilla play and FetLife.com/groups/161706 for dark play. Support my work at Patreon.com/havenspace ***for Patreon-only video content***   For my blog, books and nonprofit contact go to my full website www.saraperry.com.
21:27
September 8, 2020
Adult Babies and Diaper Lovers
With all the reason to take baby steps, the world of ABDL warrants more than one episode. Let's take a look at the psyche breakdown, the history and the preview for a talk with ABDL practitioners next week.  Support my work at Patreon.com/havenspace ***for Patreon only video content***   For my blog, books and nonprofit contact go to my full website www.saraperry.com.
21:06
September 1, 2020
House of Kink: An Interview with Kalaya Reed
Tune in to hear all about the next evolution of kink communities, where they exist, how to join and how it can take your experiences to an embodied progress. This is just the beginning of the ride.  Support my work at Patreon.com/havenspace ***for Patreon only video content***   For my blog, books and nonprofit contact go to my full website www.saraperry.com.
32:48
August 25, 2020
Chocolate for Vanilla Lovers (An outsider's look at BDSM)
This is the first of what will undoubtedly be many episodes touching on BDSM, an introduction into the world of chocolate. This is milk chocolate, to put it mildly. If you've felt like a you didn't dare jump in, this one is the post for you! Check out exclusive content, support my podcast and more at patreon.com/havenspace
24:03
August 18, 2020
Sounding
We are getting a little deep, so lets talk about the internal ways one can be stimulated. This one is sure to leave you with a shy bladder. 
20:11
August 11, 2020
Squirting
Have you ever felt like you were a fish out of water when it came to squirting and female ejaculation? This is the perfect beginners look to leave your thoughts swimming!
25:28
August 4, 2020
Poly part 2
If you consider my interview with Britt Vasicek the start of the convo, this talk covers some of the misconceptions of polyamory, the dirty deets and the in-and-out of the sheets. 
32:48
July 28, 2020
Quarantine, Sex Toys and Porn, oh my!
An interview with Rudy Sanzibar on his rise to the top of the dildo pyramid, the birth of the Great American Dildo Company, making monster porn and do you really need any other reason to listen to this shit?  Check out my YouTube channel for a sneak at the dildo presentation mentioned in this podcast or help support me and my work while getting the full BTS video at patreon.com/havenspace.
28:29
July 21, 2020
Cuckolds
When your kink is so flexible but common that it's mentioned everywhere from Shakespeare to Hamilton, there's gotta be something to it. Tune in to learn about watching your partner and what it has to do with ultimate control. 
23:54
July 14, 2020
Crossdressing
Interview and conversation with a self-defined cross dresser, the ins and outs of his particular inclinations and dynamics, and how you can try it on for size. 
28:05
July 7, 2020
Shibari
Let me show you the ropes on this ancient bondage play! 
22:20
June 30, 2020
Cum Play
Learn about about the origins of ejaculation play and ejaculation avoidance. 
27:50
June 23, 2020
Amputee Fetishes
Ever wonder why people love amputated limbs? Tune in for the details and fun facts!
27:49
June 15, 2020
Breaking up with Diet-culture Dating: A conversation with Playboy writer Dana Hamilton
Dana Hamilton has written (oftentimes humorous) essays inspired by her very bizarre life, most notably surrounding sex, travel, and eating disorder recovery. She is Playboy sex columnist, a former roadtripper, and an anti-diet dating coach. Dana is passionate about sex positivity, body positivity, and pointing out the toxic similarities between the diet industry and modern dating. As an anti-diet dating coach, she helps people make peace with their bodies and develop the self-confidence necessary to have the sex and dating experiences they deserve. Follow her at Instagram and Twitter: @dana_hamilton_ Website: DanaHamilton.com Patreon: Patreon.com/DanaHamilton
31:33
June 8, 2020
MILF
Mother's Day has come and gone, but why do we love mothers so much? What makes them sexy and what does that say about us? Tune in to find out. 
19:56
June 2, 2020
Threesomes
Let's get down to the nitty gritty on the unicorn hunt and the very real unicorn poop (AKA residual drama) left behind.
23:29
May 25, 2020
Sex Parties
Ever wondering what's the scoop on partying like Hugh Hefner? If you have, this episode is for you! How to get the right crew together or join in another's ball, the etiquette and the things to consider.  Support my work at Patreon.com/havenspace ***for Patreon only video content***   For my blog, books and nonprofit contact go to my full website www.saraperry.com.
22:44
May 18, 2020
Breeding Fetish
There is a whole underground and under-literal-covers world of sexy talk relating to getting pregnant. But how do you talk about getting knocked up without getting knocked down? The do's and don'ts of this sexy (and biologically necessary) dialogue. Support my work at Patreon.com/havenspace ***for Patreon only video content***   For my blog, books and nonprofit contact go to my full website www.saraperry.com.
24:06
May 11, 2020
Consensual Non-monogamy - A conversation with Britt Vasicek from Poly-want-a-podcast
Join us as we freely discuss polyamory, the start and the work.  Support my work at Patreon.com/havenspace ***for Patreon only video content***   For my blog, books and nonprofit contact go to my full website www.saraperry.com.
23:59
May 4, 2020
Negotiations
Tired of getting into a fight every time you are trying to tell your s/o(s) what you want and how you want it? Learn how to set yourself up to have the most successful conversations with your partner/s.  Support my work at Patreon.com/havenspace ***for Patreon only video content***   For my blog, books and nonprofit contact go to my full website www.saraperry.com.
22:15
April 27, 2020
Consent Explained
What is it? What it it NOT? How can we determine consent, can it be negotiated and can it be coerced?  Support my work at Patreon.com/havenspace ***for Patreon only video content***   For my blog, books and nonprofit contact go to my full website www.saraperry.com.
21:36
April 20, 2020
Glory Holes: No Holes Barred
Ever though glory holes were just in naughty videos? Here's the scoop on the glory loop. The what to look for, how to look for it and what you need to keep in mind.
20:17
April 13, 2020
Everything you need to know before you go to a sex club!
Sex clubs are NOT a myth! But there are definitely things you must know before you go so you don't end up with an uh oh! If your goal is go get curious without getting frisky with the locals, this is the pod for you. Sex clubs before the sex!
20:08
April 6, 2020