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Hey Babe, I'm Queer!?

Hey Babe, I'm Queer!?

By Alison Jamison Coaching
This is a podcast about coming out in a heteronormative (presenting) relationship--even after ten years of marriage. Hi! We're Alison & Tanner and we've known each other for quite a while (14 & 17 when we met, then lived our separate lives before we got back together... we digress). We had been married about a decade before we came out to each other as anything but the CisHet couple we presented to the world--and each other! Come join us for some queer conversation (& laughs) and see how satisfying it is to be authentic with the folks that matter most in your life.
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Conversations Worth a Listen
It is moving week in the Jamison household and I wanted to share some fun conversations I've had on other podcasts while I'm off. You can check out my Date Forever Episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1yohtBbHm7KtWbMmqcJwfl You can check out My Letter isn't Scarlet, It's Fucking Gold episode here: https://open.spotify.com/episode/1uffldpWfmJga4mzbzlDrG Take a listen and I'll be back next week!
01:25
July 07, 2022
HBIQ 028 - The Case for Coming Out
It's the last day of PRIDE and I'm making the case for the benefits of coming out. It's so worth it. If you want help in your coming out conversation you can schedule a FREE coffee date consultation and we'll chat about support I can provide to help you have the best conversation possible. Schedule your date here: alisonjamison.com/coffeedate
13:54
June 30, 2022
HBIQ 027 - How to have Better Conversations
HOW? How do I have better conversations with my partner? That's my number 1 question and today I'm giving you 3 steps to creating conversations that connect. If you are ready to create a relationship you truly desire schedule your FREE coffee date consultation here: alisonjamison.com/coffeedate
16:08
June 23, 2022
HBIQ 026 Confidently Queer - Conquering Your Imposter Syndrome for PRIDE
We all experience imposter syndrome from time to time. Especially us late-blooming bisexuals. Are we queer enough? Can we be confidently ourselves at PRIDE? (The answer is YES) Join me as I share the 6 steps to creating more confidence. If you'd like to join me for a coffee date consultation you can schedule yours here: alisonjamison.com/coffeedate
21:20
June 16, 2022
May Mini 04 - Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence
For May - Alison is sharing a series of books she loves to recommend to fellow queerious women. Today is: Mating in Captivity: Unlocking Erotic Intelligence by Ester Perel Ester's Podcasts can be found here: https://www.estherperel.com/podcast To Buy: https://bookshop.org/books/mating-in-captivity-unlocking-erotic-intelligence/9780060753641 To book your consultation with Alison: alisonjamison.com/coffeedate
05:21
May 26, 2022
May Mini 03 - Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy
For May - Alison is sharing a series of books she loves to recommend to fellow queerious women. Today is: Polysecure: Attachment, Trauma, and Consensual Nonmonogamy To Buy: https://bookshop.org/books/polysecure-attachment-trauma-and-consensual-nonmonogamy/9781944934989 To book your consultation with Alison: alisonjamison.com/coffeedate
04:48
May 19, 2022
May Mini 02 - Stepping off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life
For May - Alison is sharing a series of books she loves to recommend to fellow queerious women. Today is: Stepping off the Relationship Escalator: Uncommon Love and Life by Amy Gahran To Buy: https://bookshop.org/books/stepping-off-the-relationship-escalator-uncommon-love-and-life/9780998647012 To book your consultation with Alison: alisonjamison.com/coffeedate
05:55
May 12, 2022
HBIQ - May Mini 01 - Untamed
For May - Alison is going through a series of books that she loves to recommend for fellow queerious women. Today Alison is sharing her love of the book Untamed by Glennon Doyle. If you are able please consider calling your representatives regarding the potential overturn of Roe v. Wade and if you are able please donate to abortionfunds.org You can find Untamed Here: https://bookshop.org/books/untamed-9781984801258/9781984801258   Glennon's Non-Profit can be found here: https://togetherrising.org/
13:44
May 05, 2022
024 - Go Bananas
I've gone Bananas!   Specifically for the Savannah Bananas.  They are reinventing baseball and teaching me new ways to reinvent my relationship. You can find them on TikTok: https://www.tiktok.com/@thesavbananas?lang=en To book a call with Alison go to: alisonjamison.com/coffeedate
09:36
April 28, 2022
HBIQ 024 - The Only Guarantee
This week on HBIQ - the only certainty you can expect in your relationship...CHANGE. Alison is sharing some background on her changes in awareness around her sexual identity and how you can better approach changes in your relationship. Join us for a listen. Hey, if you are ready to embrace your queeriosity and up-level your relationship -  I want to invite you to reach out for a coffee date consultation, where you’re going to get clear on what you want and the steps you need to take to get there. If we’re a fit and you want help making your relationship dreams a reality - I’ll let you know how I can best support you. It’s risk free.  You’ll either leave with a plan of action or my 1:1 on-going support as you embrace your identity and re-create the relationship of your deepest desires. Head to: alisonjamison.com/coffeedate I’ll see you there.
13:28
April 14, 2022
HBIQ 023 - Relationship Lessons from a Little Black Dress
Join Alison as she shares the lessons she's learned in her first slow fashion challenge and how failure isn't a moral failing. To learn more about the 100 day dress challenge you can visit: https://journal.wooland.com/post/2020/5/1/100-day-dress-challenge If you are ready to embrace your queeriosity and up-level your relationship -  I want to invite you to reach out for a coffee date consultation, where you’re going to get clear on what you want and the steps you need to take to get there. If we’re a fit and you want help making your relationship dreams a reality - I’ll let you know how I can best support you. It’s risk free.  You’ll either leave with a plan of action or my 1:1 on-going support as you embrace your identity and re-create the relationship of your deepest desires. Head to: alisonjamison.com/coffeedate
10:06
April 07, 2022
HBIQ 022 - Love Languages
This week Alison and Tanner take the 5 Love Languages quiz and share their results. Love Language Quiz
32:28
March 24, 2022
HBIQ 021 - Committing to Decisions
This week Alison and Tanner discuss how they make life-changing decisions relatively quickly as a couple. Then, Alison proposes a challenge to you, the listener. Enjoy!   Mentioned in this episode:  "The Gift of Fear" by Gavin de Becker |  "Blink" by Malcolm Gladwell
31:08
March 17, 2022
HBIQ 020 - Identity Sufficiency
This week Alison and Tanner discuss how to feel like you are enough in your own identity and avoid some of the pitfalls of harmful, unhealthy attempts to fill any insufficiencies. If you would like to work with Alison on your feelings of lack or insufficiency, please head over to AlisonJamison.com to book a consultation.
20:07
March 10, 2022
HBIQ 019 - NRE (New Relationship Energy)
This week Alison and Tanner chat about NRE, what it is and how to maintain it over a decades-long relationship. If you're excited to put a bit of that NRE back into your relationship(s), head on over to alisonjamison.com and book a consult with Alison.
19:46
March 03, 2022
HBIQ 018 - Betrayal
This week Alison and Tanner talk about how to recognize if you're feeling betrayal as well as some tips to overcome the drama we, as humans, tell ourselves about it so we can move forward in our committed relationships. If you're feeling betrayal in your relationship(s), come on over to alisonjamison.com and see if Alison can help.
17:35
February 24, 2022
HBIQ 017 - Expectations
This week we talk about how expectations could be getting in the way of having the relationships we want and what to do about that. To work with Alison on your own expectations head on over to alisonjamison.com.
20:22
February 17, 2022
HBIQ 016 - Getting Back Into The Groove
This week we're getting back into the groove... of life and podcasting.
44:45
February 10, 2022
HBIQ 015 - We're Back... Well, Almost
A quick update on the hiatus before we get back into regularly scheduled programming.
01:16
February 03, 2022
HBIQ 014 - Life Happens
This week we take some time back for ourselves and our family.
03:55
January 06, 2022
An HBIQ Conversation With... Amanda Ferrat (HBIQ 013)
This week Amanda Ferrat joins us to kick off our conversation series: An HBIQ Conversation With...  She is a certified Emotional Wellness Counselor and helps women find their Core Badass! She joins us to share her new, evolving identity as a Queer, Asexual, and Aromantic woman as well as some wisdom for those that may feel the same way.   You can find Amanda on Instagram at ValueYourselfCounseling or in the Badass Women Breaking Barriers Facebook group. Finally, if you're looking to find a flag that best represents you: 21 LGBTQ Pride Flags and What They Stand For (seventeen.com) 
41:54
December 30, 2021
HBIQ 012 - Gender & Sexuality Galaxies
Why Galaxies? It's not a spectrum. This week we share our labels, why we chose them, and how to find your own. Gender & Sexuality Galaxies (PDF from Action Canada for Sexual Health and Rights) The Kinsey Scale
25:56
December 23, 2021
HBIQ 011 - Finding Community
On this week's episode we discuss how to dive into the queer community, a few reasons why you might want to, and creative ways to get started.
27:33
December 16, 2021
HBIQ 010 - (Bi)Sexual Revolution
This week we talk about why so many people are coming out now, why you may want to come out even if you're already in a partnered relationship, and our thoughts on the invisible majority of the LGBTQIA+ community, Bisexuals.   The study mentioned, "INVISIBLE MAJORITY: THE DISPARITIES FACING BISEXUAL PEOPLE AND HOW TO REMEDY THEM" can be found here: https://www.lgbtmap.org/file/invisible-majority.pdf
32:55
December 09, 2021
HBIQ 009 - Interpretation Trap
This week we travel back in time and revisit our favorite fight and why it was happening. Then, we discuss how to stop falling into the conversational interpretation traps we set for ourselves.
32:55
December 02, 2021
HBIQ 008 - Processing Place
This week we explore the four (4) options for experiencing feelings, why many of us resist emotions, and how to truly feel your feelings.
25:43
November 25, 2021
HBIQ 007 - Conversational Space
This week we share what Conversational Space is, the difference between listening and deep listening, and the questions that will help you uncover the true meaning of what anyone is saying.
21:12
November 18, 2021
HBIQ 006 - Conversational Safety
This week we share the three parts of conversational safety (physical, mental, and emotional), why it's important, and how to create it. (US) National Domestic Violence Hotline: call 800.799.SAFE (7233) or text "START" to 88788 
23:48
November 11, 2021
HBIQ 005 - Conversational Purpose
This week, we're digging into the PSSP Process, specifically Purpose. We answer, "What is Conversational Purpose?" "Why is it important?" and "How do you find it?"
36:32
November 04, 2021
HBIQ 004 - Purpose, Safety, Space, Place
Four Ingredients to a "Better" Hard Conversation--Purpose, Safety, Space, and Place--and why those four elements help you craft your coming out conversation.
18:51
October 28, 2021
HBIQ 003 - The Conversation
Join us while we discuss our identity revelations and how Alison came out to Tanner. Mentioned in this week's episode: Dan Savage's podcast "Savage Lovecast" (formerly "Savage Love Podcast")
47:54
October 21, 2021
HBIQ 002 - Our Love Story - Part 2 of 2
The second part of Alison and Tanner remembering and retelling their love story from meeting in high school to becoming a married couple.
29:11
October 21, 2021
HBIQ 001 - Our Love Story - Part 1 of 2
The first part of Alison and Tanner remembering and retelling their love story from meeting in high school to becoming a married couple.
26:06
October 21, 2021
HBIQ 000 - Introducing "Hey Babe, I'm Queer!?"
Episode 1 will drop later this month!
01:19
October 06, 2021