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Healing with WORTH

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Heal from betrayal with WORTH. Each week we interview therapists, talk about healthy tools of recovery, and hear women's stories of hope. Our Christ-centered focus combines the science of recovery with the healing power of God.

We are a safe place for you to learn, grow, and find the strength you need to move forward and feel peace again.

Questions? Email us WORTH@lifechangingservices.org
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Abuse Mini Series #1: Hidden Abuse Within Addiction | Identifying signs of abuse from a partner with clinician Kimberly Day | Healing with WORTH

Healing with WORTH May 07, 2020

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Boundaries 101: Why Boundaries are Difficult in Recovery
Mar 25, 202421:52
Mapping the Journey with WORTH Director Kimberly Day

Mapping the Journey with WORTH Director Kimberly Day

In this episode Naomi and Janeen continue their discussion with WORTH Director, Kimberly Day, of the healing journey after betrayal trauma and how the new (and old) WORTH programs help to facilitate support and healing in different chapters of that often complicated and confusing journey.

If you have any questions about any of the programs discussed here or would like to get involved in any of the programs, please email worth@lifechangingservices.org


Mar 16, 202441:21
Deconstructing Gaslighting with Sarah Morales
Feb 28, 202434:26
Where do I fit? What is new (and old) with the WORTH program. Meet the Director

Where do I fit? What is new (and old) with the WORTH program. Meet the Director

In this episode Janine and Naomi interview the Worth Director, Kimberly Day and discuss the WORTH program and how it serves betrayed women in their healing and growth journeys. For more information and to register go to www.healingwithworth.org

Feb 26, 202439:29
Let's Catch up with our Hosts!

Let's Catch up with our Hosts!

In this episode we catch up with Naomi and Janine and where they have grown and what has changed since our break, and how they have used their tools and the insights they are making in navigating their own journeys.

Feb 24, 202425:15
WE ARE BACK! Reviewing the 4 pillars of WORTH

WE ARE BACK! Reviewing the 4 pillars of WORTH

Janine and Naomi are back with our second season of the WORTH Podcast! They review the 4 pillars of Worth (Boundaries, Self Care, Connection and Action), how they have come to understand them, and how they have benefited from them in their own lives.

AND - we have lots more coming! We are excited to be back with you on your own journeys

Feb 23, 202414:04
An Introduction to Safe Space, a New Resource
Oct 05, 202230:48
Looking at Shame with Author Carmel Parker White

Looking at Shame with Author Carmel Parker White

Join us as we talk with Carmel Parker White, author of Love and Betrayal: Stories of Hope to Help You Heal from Your Husband's Pornography Addiction as we dive into her own story along with tackling the shame that comes with sexual addiction. 

To join a Worth support group, go to www.healingwithworth.org

Jul 31, 202249:30
Dating After Divorce - Part 2 With Betrayal Trauma Coach Amie Woolsey

Dating After Divorce - Part 2 With Betrayal Trauma Coach Amie Woolsey

Join us as we talk with Amie Woolsey about dating after divorce. In this episode we dive deeper into trusting yourself, doing your own work, and how to navigate stages of dating after divorce. To book a session with Amie Woolsey or to learn more about her, go to www.chooserecoveryservices.com. 

The Worth Group offers free therapist facilitated Christian based and LDS based groups for women healing from the sexual acting out of their  spouse. Worth uses the betrayal trauma model which looks at betrayal through the lens of an attachment injury and as a result can cause  trauma response in those it impacts. For more information on the Worth  Program go to www.healingworth.org or email  Worth@Lifechangingservices.com

Jul 07, 202238:36
Dating After Divorce - Part 1 With Amie Woolsey

Dating After Divorce - Part 1 With Amie Woolsey

Amie Woolsey, professional Betrayal Trauma Coach with Choose Recovery Services, shares tools and tips around dating after divorce.  Listen as Amie dives into dating, boundaries, children, and more.

Amie Woolsey is a Betrayal Trauma Coach and also a teacher for a young single adult class taught to women 18 and up. This is a 12-week class teaches about how pornography affects relationships, what healthy recovery looks like, what healthy intimacy consists of, warning signs of abuse, red flags, setting healthy boundaries and more. She also teaches courses on abuse along with a Believing In You coaching group for women who are ready to take their recovery to the next level. To learn more about Amie, go to www.lifecoachingwithamie.com or www.chooserecoveryservices.com

To learn more about the Worth Program, go to www.healingwithworth.org

Jun 30, 202229:12
Trauma Bonding with Guest Tony Overbay

Trauma Bonding with Guest Tony Overbay

This week we have Tony Overbay joining our show to talk about trauma bonding. Tony Overbay is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (CA LMFT#92443), a Certified Mindful Habit Coach (CMHC), and a popular  motivational speaker. Tony regularly speaks at corporate training  events, schools, and churches in formal and casual settings mixing  humor, clinical experience, his Christian faith, and a wealth of  personal stories gleaned from years of helping others achieve their  goals. To learn more about Tony, you can go to https://www.tonyoverbay.com/. 

The Worth Group offers free therapist facilitated Christian based and LDS based groups for women healing from the sexual acting out of their spouse. Worth uses the betrayal trauma model which looks at betrayal through the lens of an attachment injury and as a result can cause trauma response in those it impacts. For more information on the Worth Program go to www.healingworth.org or email Worth@Lifechangingservices.com

Jun 23, 202252:55
#93 The Divine in You with Valerie Hamaker Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
May 20, 202240:27
#92 The Divine in You with Valerie Hamaker Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

#92 The Divine in You with Valerie Hamaker Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

We have the wonderful Valerie Hamaker on the podcast today to talk about the divine that we have in each of us!

A little bit about Valerie is she is an individual and couples therapist with special training in trauma recovery, sexual health and sexual addiction recovery, depth psychology, and issues of spiritual development. She presents nationally on a variety of topics and most recently has turned her focus to the tackling of issues of burnout from a depth psychology lens. Valerie’s podcast Generation Exhausted is a weekly commentary on the recovery of burnout in marriage, gender roles, parenting, institutional religion, and body image and she has recently launched an online community in her website [exhaustedGen.com] where she supports people live in their burnout recovery journey.

Some highlights from this episode to listen in for: 

  • Women taking ownership for their own development
  • Spiritual sexuality
  • Prohibition, fear, and anxiety around sexuality 
  • Cultural expectations of sexual developments
  • Neutrality around sexual orientations 
  • Shame around sexual development
  • Betrayal trauma and sexuality 
  • Remembering the divine in YOU
  • Individual healing
  • Healing in marriage


Show Notes: 

If you would like to learn more about Valerie, you can do that on her website here.

You can also find Valerie on Instagram @valeriehamakertherapy and on Facebook @valhamaker.

Below included are the episodes that Valerie talks about in this episode where a couple talks about their recovery/details around it. -

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/generation-xhausted/id1474263480?i=1000504331378

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/generation-xhausted/id1474263480?i=1000531369737

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/generation-xhausted/id1474263480?i=1000505721283

https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/generation-xhausted/id1474263480?i=1000506570000

May 12, 202239:39
#91 Two Truths and a Lie with Linda Winegar Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
Apr 28, 202224:52
#90 Two Truths and a Lie with Linda Winegar Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
Apr 21, 202223:04
#89 Should I Stay or Should I Go with Amie Woosley Part 2 | Healing with WORTH

#89 Should I Stay or Should I Go with Amie Woosley Part 2 | Healing with WORTH

We are back with Amie Woosley to dicuss Part 2!

In this episode, we are discussing the other end of divorce. Not just the decision, but after you have made the decision, post divorce. What will life look like after divorce? Amie helps us dive a little deeper into this phase of life and what it might look like. 

First, we get into how to tell someone of our decision and really get into why we might be telling them. Amie then encourages anyone who is going through the divorce process to look into getting a coach. She goes into why it is such a helpful resource to help us stay emotionally regulated. Our guest also encourages to join a WORTH group that may also aid in not feeling alone during the process. We go over how to join a WORTH group and will also include that in the show notes below. 

After divorce, you might find the need to connect more to yourself. Amie inspires us to date ourselves. Find what we really like and what we don't like. That could be going to a restaurant or a movie by yourself. This may be a little nerve wracking at first, but we may need to dive into why it feels that way. 

Then we discuss communicating with your ex after divorce and ways to help with that, so you can provide safety for yourself. 

At the end of this episode, you may find a golden nugget! 


Show Notes:

If you'd like to go back and listen to Amie's full story in Bonus Episode #4, you can do that here.

In episode 20, she talks about her Worth YSA program that she holds. Listen to that here.

To find Amie and more information on her, you can visit Life Changing Services - https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/therapists/, Choose Recovery Services - https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/, and Life Coaching with Amie - https://www.lifecoachingwithamie.com/.


Apr 14, 202231:03
#88 Should I Stay or Should I Go? with Amie Woosley Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
Apr 07, 202236:16
#87 Mindfulness with Dallin Bruun Part 2 | Guided Meditation | Healing with WORTH

#87 Mindfulness with Dallin Bruun Part 2 | Guided Meditation | Healing with WORTH

Mar 31, 202250:14
#86 Mindfulness with Dallin Bruun Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

#86 Mindfulness with Dallin Bruun Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

Mar 24, 202214:06
#85 The Power of Being Still with Carrie Skarda Part 2 | Healing with WORTH

#85 The Power of Being Still with Carrie Skarda Part 2 | Healing with WORTH

Carrie Skarda is back on our podcast today! This week, she is here to talk more about how mindfulness and meditation can move us into a place of creativity, be a source that can help us to have better prayers and relationship with Jesus Christ, and experiencing forgiveness. 

We first dive into the account of when God created the Earth, and that the process was good even when there was much chaos. Carrie points out that no matter our circumstances that surround us, we can be anchored in stillness to act in a way that align with our value systems. If we find ourselves being mindful, we can go from a place of reactivity to creativity. 

Carrie quotes President of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, David O. McKay, saying, "I think we pay too little attention to the value of meditation. A principle of devotion in our worship. There are two elements. One is spiritual communion arising from our own meditation. The other instruction from others, particularly those who have authority to guide and instruct us of the two, the more profitable introspection is the meditation. Meditation is a form of prayer." She informs us that we don't always have to be talking with Jesus Christ, but that sometimes prayer is just listening and letting Him warm you.

The last point that Carrie discusses is forgiveness. Whatever state you are in, there can be forgiveness. This does not always mean reconciliation with a spouse or even connection to our best self. It is trusting God and that He will walk this journey with us. Listen in for a personal story that Carrie shares of her own experience with this! 


Show Notes:

If you would like to learn more about Carrie Skarda and her private practice, you can visit her website here.

More information about Sixteen Stones Center, you can visit the link here. You will also find information about her book "The Power of Stillness".

Mar 17, 202236:23
#84 The Power of Being Still with Carrie Skarda Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

#84 The Power of Being Still with Carrie Skarda Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

We have the wonderful, Carrie Skarda, joining our podcast today! She is a licensed clinical psychologist who has practiced for over 20 years in Salt Lake City, where she lives with her husband and two children. Carrie grew up in Michigan and graduated from Brigham Young University. She is a peace activist as well as a philanthropist. She presents at Sixteen Stones Center for growth and is the co-author of the book "The Power of Stillness".

In this episode, we are going to be talking to her today about mindfulness and meditation. Carrie has her own personal experience with betrayal trauma which led her into the world of these two helpful concepts. She informs us that mindfulness is a way of being aware of this moment and whatever is unfolding in the present from a wise, calm and still place, whereas meditation is a concentrated time set aside. Below are eight ideas that we cover more in depth with Carrie of ways that may help those who experience betrayal trauma:

How mindfulness and meditation can help you:

  1. Cope with bad surprises
  2. Manage negative thinking
  3. See what is really happening more clearly
  4. Move out of reactivity
  5. Move into creativity
  6. Have better prayers
  7. Connect to the Savior in the midst of the pain
  8. Experience forgiveness

We will be having Carrie back on the podcast next week with more about how mindfulness and meditation can move us into a place of creativity and be a source that can help us to have better prayers and relationship with Jesus Christ. Stay tuned! 

 

Show Notes: 

If you would like to learn more about Carrie Skarda and her private practice, you can visit her website here

More information about Sixteen Stones Center, you can visit the link here. You will also find information about her book "The Power of Stillness".

Mar 10, 202239:22
#83 Mindfulness March | Healing with WORTH

#83 Mindfulness March | Healing with WORTH

For the month of March, we wanted to focus on March Mindfulness!

In this fast moving paced world with so many distractions, we thought we'd dive deeper into ways we can be more present in our lives. There may be times especially experiencing betrayal trauma where you have felt that if you could do or be more, it would get easier. In the coming episodes, we'll learn that slowing down, breathing, really honing into our emotions, and where they are in our bodies can help us move forward. We will be having guests Carrie Skarda and Dallin Bruun who will help us understand how we can be more mindful in our lives. It can become a very helpful tool and coping mechanism, but it is not a solution to the problem. 

Carrie Skarda is a co-author of a book called "The Power of Stillness". She talks about our relationship with God and prayer. With Dallin, he specifically does a guided meditation to help us become more familiar with them. 

We hope you are excited for this upcoming month of mindfulness and our guests who will be joining us! Please listen in for ideas of how to be more mindful! 


Show Notes:

If you would like to follow along with Mindfulness March, here is the link to the 2022 Calendar - https://actionforhappiness.org/sites/default/files/Mar%202022.pdf 

If you would like to listen to Dallin Bruun's UCAP presentation, you can do that here - https://utahcoalition.org/project/mindfulness-see-love/

To read more about Carrie Skarda's book, you can do that here - https://www.amazon.com/Power-Stillness-Mindful-Living-Latter-day-ebook/dp/B083LFZBD7

Mar 03, 202213:55
#82 Shooting for the Stars with Emily Sanchez Part 2 | Healing with WORTH

#82 Shooting for the Stars with Emily Sanchez Part 2 | Healing with WORTH

We are back with Emily Sanchez for Part 2 on Shooting for the Stars! This week we are discussing the topic of divorce, as that has been requested by a lot of our listeners. If you would like to read more about Emily, you can do that here in Part 1's description.

In this episode, we start off by talking about how to get comfortable with being single after divorce. Emily helps us to consider the idea in our head that we only have one chance on this earth to marry the "right" person. She references Genesis that alludes to us being whole as we are. At times, we may forget that we still can be happy even when we are not married to someone. We may still feel the uncomfortable pressures of the cultural feeling, family first, but Emily reminds us that this is truly where the Saviors ministry took place. When you feel like the outcast, He is there. 

Emily also encourages us to ask ourselves the question, "Who do I want to become, and how do I want to live?" When starting to date again or looking for a job after divorcing, we have the choice whether to make it a good experience or to focus on the bad. She says, "This is given to you, choose it. There can be power in accepting."

Some may wonder is divorce the right choice? Will my spouse choose recovery later?  Emily has implemented the OEC: Options, evaluations, and consequences to help us really determine this. Listen in if you'd like to learn more. 


Show Notes:

If you would like to know more about Emily Sanchez, please visit her website here.

If you would like to listen to her podcast, listen here on Apple podcasts.

Please follow Emily Sanchez, @ldsdivorcecoach.

If you would like to join one of our Worth groups, divorce or marriage, please enroll here or email us at worth@lifechangingservices.org. We'd love to help walk this healing journey with you!

Feb 24, 202236:23
#81 Shooting for the Stars with Emily Sanchez Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

#81 Shooting for the Stars with Emily Sanchez Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

We have Emily Sanchez on the podcast with us today! Emily Romney Sanchez grew up in a competitive environment and was taught to achieve goals and succeed from her parents and coaches in music and sports through college.  Those coaches inspired her to become a life coach as a way to continually grow, reach higher and motivate others.  Her experience started early as she spoke throughout Arizona on education issues and domestic violence. Through her divorce and single parenthood she managed two different insurance agencies.  After remarrying, she finished her Bachelors degree from NAU and completed training and certification through Strategic Intervention, Robbins/Madanes training, APSATS, IFS and is currently pursuing her master's degree in social work from WNMU.  She is a Divorce Coach who works with distinguished family law attorney, Kevin Jensen, offering seminars and coaching.  She is supported by an amazing husband, Yasser Sanchez, and 5 children.  You can find her on Facebook, Instagram and Apple Podcasts as ldsdivorcecoach.

In this episode, we discuss how to start to shoot for the stars and see our higher self even while experiencing betrayal trauma. We look into why we may struggle with this starting with our society and past. To get out of these meaning frames, Emily encourages us to question our core beliefs. "What do you desire?" As you dive deeper, you may receive retaliation from your spouse or others when bringing up a desire you have. It may be uncomfortable, but you will find that it fills up your core and self respect. 

Emily also reminds us that if we are not in a place to do this, to give ourselves grace. 

Please listen in next week for Part 2 as we go more into the topic of divorce! 


Show Notes: 

If you would like to know more about Emily Sanchez, please visit her website here

If you would like to listen to her podcast, listen here on Apple podcasts. 

Please follow Emily Sanchez, @ldsdivorcecoach. 

If you would like to join one of our Worth groups, divorce or marriage, please enroll here or email us at worth@lifechangingservices.org. We'd love to help walk this healing journey with you! 

Feb 17, 202227:55
#80 Tennis Ball Analogy | Healing with WORTH

#80 Tennis Ball Analogy | Healing with WORTH

Back today with another in our analogy series, and this one is called the Tennis Ball analogy! We want to credit this one to Natalie Hoffman who has written a blog post about it called "How Will You Know Your Marriage is Over?" that we will link below in the show notes. 

In this episode, we are going to go over how Natalie explains this analogy and how it might apply to our life. For a moment, let's pretend that your relationship is like a game of tennis. The ball is going back and forth between you and your spouse. Once in awhile the ball drops, which may represent relationship conflict. When it drops on your side, you pick up the ball and resolve the conflict. Sometimes, it drops on your spouse's side, but you find that he may not want to pick it up. So what do you do? You go over to his side and pick up the ball because you want the game to keep going. Please listen in to find ways of how this might apply to your relationship! You may find that this analogy usually captures the question, "Should I stay, or should I go?" 


Show Notes: 

A coaching class to help women navigate that space and trying to figure out if she should stay or go in her relationship. First Thursday of every month at 9am MT. FREE! Email amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com for more information

If you would like to read Natalie Hoffman's blog post "How Will You Know Your Marriage is Over?", you can do that here

If you would like to learn more about Natalie Hoffman, please visit her website here. She has a podcast, book, online coaching group, as well as so many other things.

Feb 10, 202241:49
#79 Getting to our Why's about Divorce with Roxanne Granata. Part 2 | Healing with WORTH

#79 Getting to our Why's about Divorce with Roxanne Granata. Part 2 | Healing with WORTH

We are back today with Part 2 about getting to our why's about divorce with Roxanne Granata! 

Last week, we discussed our why's about staying and how to navigate that.  If you missed this episode, please see show notes to listen in as there are insights for staying and divorcing as well. 

In this episode, we are talking more about moving into separation and possibly divorce and what that might look like. One question Roxanne encourages us to ask ourselves to think more about is "Do I feel more peaceful being separated/distancing myself than I do when we're together?" She tells us that trusting our gut will help guide us through these decisions, but that choice does not need to be made immediately. There also may be some fear of the possibilities after divorce, but she also gives experiences of the change that might result because of that decision. 

Please listen in for insights of the decision of divorce and thoughts/ideas of how to navigate that. Ultimate question: What is the life you want to have and experience?

Show Notes:

If you would like to listen in to #78 on our Why's of Staying with Roxanne, please do that here

If you would like to listen in to the 70 episodes that Roxanne has released, please listen in here.

If you would like more information on Roxanne Granata, please visit her website and instagram below:

www.roxannekennedygranata.com

Instagram: Roxanne Kennedy Granata

If you would like to be apart of Worth's marriage or divorce groups, you can enroll here and receive the first 6 months free!


Feb 03, 202239:00
#78 Getting to our Why's about Staying with Roxanne Granata. Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

#78 Getting to our Why's about Staying with Roxanne Granata. Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

Jan 27, 202233:06
#45 Interview with Dr. Jill Manning. Barriers to Boundaries Part 2 | Healing with WORTH

#45 Interview with Dr. Jill Manning. Barriers to Boundaries Part 2 | Healing with WORTH

Re-releasing Part 2 of our interview with Dr. Jill Manning! 

This episode is in response to a listener question on how to set boundaries.  In the previous episode we addressed what boundaries are, what they are not, and how to set them.  In this episode we will be discussing barriers to boundaries, reasons why we have a hard time setting and keeping boundaries, and how to overcome these barriers.

The quicker that we can learn to be effective in identifying, finding, setting boundaries, and forcing and upholding those when, and if they are violated, will be a gift to healing for both people. We are not suggesting the person setting boundaries is responsible for both people's healing paths, but it will have a positive effect on the whole family.

We are grateful to have Dr. Jill Manning, Ph.D., LMFT, CCPS, CCTP, BC-TMH with us to discuss the topic of boundaries. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in working with individuals impacted by betrayal trauma in their primary relationship.

Over the last 20 years, her academic and clinical work has been featured in numerous peer review journals. Television programs, TV shows, magazine articles, including the Oprah magazine. She is a former social science fellow at the heritage foundation in Washington, DC. And while she was in that role, she testified before the US Senate subcommittee about the harms of pornography on the family.

She currently serves on the board of directors and the advisory council for Fight The New Drug. She is a native of Calgary, Alberta, Canada, and currently lives in Colorado with her husband and two daughters. Thank you for sharing you time and expertise with us Dr. Manning.

Make sure to check out our show notes with resources Dr. Manning shared with us.


Show Notes and Resources:

1. Personal Boundaries: A Worksheet for Betrayed Individuals

https://drjillmanning.com/product/personal-boundaries-a-worksheet-for-betrayed-individuals/

2. Eleven Responses to Boundary Violations

https://drjillmanning.com/product/eleven-responses-boundary-violations/

3. Boundary Work Bundle (Combines both documents at a discounted rate):

https://drjillmanning.com/product/boundary-work-bundle/

Link to the entire Digital Download Store: https://drjillmanning.com/digital-downloads/

Link to Free Printableshttps://drjillmanning.com/product-category/all/free-printables/

https://drjillmanning.com/product/bookmark/

Jan 20, 202236:10
#44 Interview with Dr. Jill Manning on Boundaries. Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

#44 Interview with Dr. Jill Manning on Boundaries. Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

To start off the year, we are re-releasing this episode with Jill Manning on Boundaries! We will be back in 2 weeks with a new podcast for you with Roxanne Granata! 

During our healing journey we hear how important boundaries are, but how do we know what boundaries we need and then how do we set them in our relationships?

This episode is in response to a listener question on how to set boundaries.  This can be a really difficult concept for some people to understand, especially if you haven't been used to setting them.  It's one of the key components related to our healing , especially if we continue to be in a relationship where there have been patterns of lying present, we really need to protect ourselves.  Some of the takeaways that we would love for you listeners is 

  • Understanding what a boundary is, and what it's not
  • The different types of boundaries
  • Why boundaries are essential to our healing
  • Where do we begin

We are grateful to have Dr. Jill Manning, Ph.D., LMFT, CCPS, CCTP, BC-TMH with us to discuss the topic of boundaries. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in working with individuals impacted by betrayal trauma in their primary relationship.

Over the last 20 years, her academic and clinical work has been featured in numerous peer review journals. Television programs, TV shows, magazine articles, including the Oprah magazine. She is a former social science fellow at the heritage foundation in Washington, DC. And while she was in that role, she testified before the US Senate subcommittee about the harms of pornography on the family.

She currently serves on the board of directors and the advisory council for Fight The New Drug. She is a native of Calgary, Alberta, Canada, and currently lives in Colorado with her husband and two daughters. Thank you for sharing you time and expertise with us Dr. Manning.

Make sure to check out our show notes with resources Dr. Manning shared with us.

Show Notes and Resources:

1. Personal Boundaries: A Worksheet for Betrayed Individuals

https://drjillmanning.com/product/personal-boundaries-a-worksheet-for-betrayed-individuals/

2. Eleven Responses to Boundary Violations

https://drjillmanning.com/product/eleven-responses-boundary-violations/

3. Boundary Work Bundle (Combines both documents at a discounted rate):

https://drjillmanning.com/product/boundary-work-bundle/

Link to the entire Digital Download Store: https://drjillmanning.com/digital-downloads/

Link to Free Printableshttps://drjillmanning.com/product-category/all/free-printables/

https://drjillmanning.com/product/bookmark/


Jan 13, 202237:27
#77 New Year 2022 Preview | Healing with WORTH
Jan 06, 202212:01
#76 End of Year THANK YOU | Healing with WORTH

#76 End of Year THANK YOU | Healing with WORTH

To end the year with a bang, we wanted to do a recap of some of our favorite episodes from 2021! It has been a great year with so many wonderful guests and professionals that we've had the pleasure of interviewing on the podcast. They have given us insight into healing, and we hope that you have found validation, guidance and hope in your journey through these episodes. If you would like to listen to any of the podcasts mentioned in the episode, some will be included in the show notes below. 

If you have anything you would like to hear us talk about, questions, interview requests you can reach out to us at worth@lifechangingservices.org


Show Notes: 

If you would like to listen to Kim Day's Sexual Abuse episodes, listen here.

If you would like to listen to Jeff Ford's Emotional Abuse episodes, listen here

If you would like to listen to Noelle McBride's Divorce episodes, listen here

If you would like to listen to Jeff Steurer's Therapeutic Disclosure episodes, listen here

If you would like to listen to Jill Manning's Boundary episodes, listen here

If you would like to listen to Tammy Gustafson's episode, listen here.

If you would like to listen to Jody Steurer and Jamee Adam's episodes, listen here

Dec 30, 202125:34
#75 Macaroni Necklaces for Christmas this Year | Healing with WORTH
Dec 23, 202116:29
#74 Special Interview with Naomi and Janeen on the Choose To Be Podcast | Healing with WORTH
Dec 16, 202140:04
#73 Greenhouse analogy | Healing with WORTH
Dec 09, 202136:26
#72 Weather Checks and When the Wind Blows Analogies with Jody VanDrimmelen | Healing with WORTH
Dec 02, 202148:29
#71 Thanksgiving of Healing | Healing with WORTH

#71 Thanksgiving of Healing | Healing with WORTH

Wishing you all a Happy Thanksgiving! 

We know that the holidays can be a hard time of year when dealing with betrayal trauma, so we didn't want to leave you without a podcast and hopefully a little upliftment. 

In this episode, we talk about the wonderful gifts healing from betrayal trauma brings into our lives. Those range from having the words to explain the struggles we deal with to the connections we have felt with women who are going through similar circumstances. If you are feeling alone this day, please listen in and know we are here with you! We have felt this pain. Maybe you are not in place to feel grateful for some of the things we've talked about or others you can think of, and that is okay! Meet yourself where you are today, and have compassion for yourself. You have gone through some really hard things! 


Show Notes: 

If you would like to join our healing groups through Worth, please do so at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/enroll/

Nov 25, 202125:03
#70 Buffalo/Cow Analogy | Healing with WORTH
Nov 18, 202122:59
#69 Anger and Women Speaking Up with Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams Part 2 | Healing with WORTH

#69 Anger and Women Speaking Up with Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams Part 2 | Healing with WORTH

We are back with Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams for Part 2 of our discussion talking more about anger in social situations as well as church culture!

Talking about anger, we feel that we cannot talk about boundaries along with it. One of the reasons we may feel anger is because of the expectations of other people that we might do things for. If we do feel anger, that may mean that we may need to set a boundary with that person. It might be really scary to set boundaries because of the way the other person might react. Boundaries will definitely test our relationships with the people around us. As Jody said in the podcast, "Saying what I need to say matters more than preserving a dysfunctional relationship." 

Speaking up, despite the consequences, can fuel something inside of us to keep doing so. At times, our speaking up can be perceived as having anger even if we do not feel that emotion. Anger can then be used as a defense mechanism against us. We may feel the need to change our behavior in how we spoke up. Jamee gives us the reminder that "the battle is often less with the people in our lives than it is within our own head." Jody and Jamee give us a few ways to get out of our own head. Listen in to find out those ways!


Show Notes: 

If you would like to learn more about Jody, Jamee, and their podcast, you can do that here - https://speakupsister.net/

To listen to their Speak Up Sister podcasts, you can listen on any platform or find them here on their website - https://speakupsister.net/the-podcast-2/

If you missed our previous episode with Jamee and Jody #68, you can listen to that here - https://anchor.fm/healingwithworth/episodes/68-Anger-and-Women-Speaking-Up-with-Jody-Steurer-and-Jamee-Adams-Part-1--Healing-with-WORTH-e19nnpg

Nov 11, 202136:56
#68 Anger and Women Speaking Up with Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

#68 Anger and Women Speaking Up with Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

We are interviewing two sisters in this episode, Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams! These women are the creators of the Speak Up Sister podcast (link below). Grounded in the doctorine of the church of Jesus Christ, Jamee and Jody draw from His gospel and the latest scientific research to bring validation, education, tools and support to women all over the world. They're conversations are often geared towards women who want to speak up. In their podcasts, they give a little more insight into why we don't, why our voices need to be heard, and how we can do that. 

The topic that we wanted to discuss with them today is anger and women having the opportunity to speak up. 

From the Speak Up Sister podcast, “Pretending we don’t feel anger (which is really just avoiding), stuffing anger, talking ourselves out of it… all these can keep us from using our voices about things that really matter.”  — from Episode 3, Anger, Part 1

Last week, we spent a little time talking about anger, so we thought this would be the perfect follow up episode to provide more understanding on the subject. We discuss experiences with our parent(s), spouse, and children of why we might feel anger or why we have the thoughts about our anger. 

Make sure to tune in next week for Part 2 talking more about anger in social and church culture with Jody and Jamee! 


Show Notes: 

If you would like to learn more about Jody, Jamee, and their podcast, you can do that here - https://speakupsister.net/

To listen to their Speak Up Sister podcasts, you can listen on any platform or find them here on their website - https://speakupsister.net/the-podcast-2/

If you missed our previous episode on Anger (#67), you can listen to that here - https://anchor.fm/s/bba5990/podcast/rss


Nov 04, 202123:52
#67 Anger | Healing with WORTH

#67 Anger | Healing with WORTH

In this episode, we discuss the emotion of anger. We feel that there are a lot of misconceptions around anger, so we wanted to talk a little more in depth. To help us in this task, we are also pulling from Harriet Lerner's book "The Dance of Anger" to better help us explain from a therapist! 

Harriet Lerner says, "Anger exists for a reason, and it always deserves our attention and respect." 

Have many of us felt that feeling anger was wrong? 

On the churchofjesuschrist.org website it gives this definition of anger: "It is true that there is a rare time and place for the expression of righteous anger—the Lord himself has expressed indignation and anger when the circumstances warranted such reactions. Righteous anger is a controlled response to an unrighteous situation, however, not the kind of emotional outbursts most of us are all too familiar with."

How can we find ways that we can express our "righteous" anger without leaving our value systems? We discuss some of those ways!


SHOW NOTES:

If you would like to buy or read more on Harriet Lerner's book "The Dance of Anger", you can do that here https://www.amazon.com/Dance-Anger-Changing-Patterns-Relationships/dp/0062319043

Anger is part of the grief cycle. If you would like to read more about 'anger' or the grief cycle, you can do that here https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/betrayal-trauma-stages-of-grief/ 

If you would like to enroll in Worth marriage/Worth divorce groups, you can do that here https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/enroll/


Oct 28, 202137:15
#66 Pioneer Woman Analogy | Healing with WORTH

#66 Pioneer Woman Analogy | Healing with WORTH

Oct 21, 202135:05
#65 Interview with Tammy Gustafson | Ways and Why We May Feel "Stuck" during The Healing Process | Healing with WORTH
Oct 14, 202146:01
#64 The Ways Betrayal Trauma Affects our Relationship with God, Priesthood Leaders, and Church Culture with Kim Day. Part 3 | Healing with WORTH
Oct 07, 202122:33
#63 The Ways Betrayal Trauma Affects our Relationship with God, Priesthood Leaders, and Church Culture with Kim Day. Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
Sep 30, 202129:31
#62 The Ways Betrayal Trauma Affects our Relationship with God, Priesthood Leaders, and Church Culture with Kim Day. Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

#62 The Ways Betrayal Trauma Affects our Relationship with God, Priesthood Leaders, and Church Culture with Kim Day. Part 1 | Healing with WORTH

Do we have expectations of what life was supposed to look like? 

Especially when faith was such a core component and is such a core component of our identity. Here in this episode, Worth therapist, Kim Day talks about how this type of trauma really hits our identity in so many different ways. She lists at least 3 major reasons that our faith or our relationship with God or our emotions around a church, can feel strange or even threatened.

Of the 100 women who answered our survey, more than 63% felt they had gone through a significant spiritual crisis as part of their journey–usually pretty close around their time of discovery.

-Lisa Taylor, pastoral sexual addiction specialist

When something goes wrong, or is painful, in close association with the gospel or a gospel principle or ideal, those can become fused. They can become linked, not always, but sometimes they can. 




Sep 16, 202146:18
#61: Interview with Aneladee Milne, Director of Daughters of Light and Women Warriors of Light | Healing with WORTH
Sep 09, 202150:02
Abuse Mini Series #11: Sexual Abuse Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
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Abuse Mini Series #10: What Are The Signs Of Sexual Abuse In A Relationship? | Healing with WORTH
Aug 26, 202142:57
#46 How to Use Boundaries to Create Safety | Healing with WORTH

#46 How to Use Boundaries to Create Safety | Healing with WORTH

As we take a little summer break with all of you, we wanted to re-release some of our favorite episodes. We will have new episodes for you in September! 

After our interview with Dr. Manning we wanted to further discuss the topic of creating safety through setting boundaries.  

Living with a sex addict is risky behavior as they may be living a secret life unknown to us.  

How do we create safety for ourselves?  

We at times in our healing journey thought safety meant a physical safety, safety from harm, as well as having the physical necessities of life.  We need to take into consideration safety also means from verbal, emotional, and financial harm.  

Assessing where our safety risks are, allows us to see where we need to create boundaries in our relationship.

 

Show Notes:

A new round of WORTH YSA classes are starting May 4th.  We live in a world where pornography is pervasive.  If you wish you could prepare your daughter to be strong, empowered and have knowledge to have a healthy relationship this is the class for her!  Taught by Betrayal Trauma Coach Amie Woolsey.  Learn more about this class and register at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/worth-ysa/

Aug 19, 202136:43
Abuse Mini Series #7: Healthy Sexuality with Jeanne Vattuone | Healing with WORTH
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