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Healing with WORTH

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Heal from betrayal with WORTH. Each week we interview therapists, talk about healthy tools of recovery, and hear women's stories of hope. Our Christ-centered focus combines the science of recovery with the healing power of God.

We are a safe place for you to learn, grow, and find the strength you need to move forward and feel peace again.

Questions? Email us WORTH@lifechangingservices.org
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Mini Abuse Series: Story of Hope after absue with Kim Day
Join Worth as we invite Kim Day, worth therapist comes and shares her own journey of healing from betrayal.  To learn more about the Worth program you can go to www.healingwithworth.org To learn more about our Men's Recovery Program you can go to www.menofmoroni.org
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September 06, 2022
Looking at Shame with Author Carmel Parker White
Join us as we talk with Carmel Parker White, author of Love and Betrayal: Stories of Hope to Help You Heal from Your Husband's Pornography Addiction as we dive into her own story along with tackling the shame that comes with sexual addiction.  To join a Worth support group, go to www.healingwithworth.org
49:30
July 31, 2022
Dating After Divorce - Part 2 With Betrayal Trauma Coach Amie Woolsey
Join us as we talk with Amie Woolsey about dating after divorce. In this episode we dive deeper into trusting yourself, doing your own work, and how to navigate stages of dating after divorce. To book a session with Amie Woolsey or to learn more about her, go to www.chooserecoveryservices.com.  The Worth Group offers free therapist facilitated Christian based and LDS based groups for women healing from the sexual acting out of their  spouse. Worth uses the betrayal trauma model which looks at betrayal through the lens of an attachment injury and as a result can cause  trauma response in those it impacts. For more information on the Worth  Program go to www.healingworth.org or email  Worth@Lifechangingservices.com
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July 07, 2022
Dating After Divorce - Part 1 With Amie Woolsey
Amie Woolsey, professional Betrayal Trauma Coach with Choose Recovery Services, shares tools and tips around dating after divorce.  Listen as Amie dives into dating, boundaries, children, and more. Amie Woolsey is a Betrayal Trauma Coach and also a teacher for a young single adult class taught to women 18 and up. This is a 12-week class teaches about how pornography affects relationships, what healthy recovery looks like, what healthy intimacy consists of, warning signs of abuse, red flags, setting healthy boundaries and more. She also teaches courses on abuse along with a Believing In You coaching group for women who are ready to take their recovery to the next level. To learn more about Amie, go to www.lifecoachingwithamie.com or www.chooserecoveryservices.com To learn more about the Worth Program, go to www.healingwithworth.org
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June 30, 2022
Trauma Bonding with Guest Tony Overbay
This week we have Tony Overbay joining our show to talk about trauma bonding. Tony Overbay is a licensed Marriage and Family Therapist (CA LMFT#92443), a Certified Mindful Habit Coach (CMHC), and a popular  motivational speaker. Tony regularly speaks at corporate training  events, schools, and churches in formal and casual settings mixing  humor, clinical experience, his Christian faith, and a wealth of  personal stories gleaned from years of helping others achieve their  goals. To learn more about Tony, you can go to https://www.tonyoverbay.com/.  The Worth Group offers free therapist facilitated Christian based and LDS based groups for women healing from the sexual acting out of their spouse. Worth uses the betrayal trauma model which looks at betrayal through the lens of an attachment injury and as a result can cause trauma response in those it impacts. For more information on the Worth Program go to www.healingworth.org or email Worth@Lifechangingservices.com
52:55
June 23, 2022
#93 The Divine in You with Valerie Hamaker Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
We have Valerie Hamaker back with us for Part 2 talking about the divine in us!  If you have not listened to Part 1, we encourage you to do so as it is a precursor for this episode.  Some highlights to look forward to in this episode:  Women's psychological development Validation of feeling blame for sexual misbehaviors Sexual history/messaging from culture Sexuality being a good part on oneself Psychological growth Contracts in a marriage Using a partner's addiction to stay underdeveloped Not feeling emotional connection, but longing for sexual connection Sexual recovery Someone going through divorce who wants to grow in their sexual development Please listen in to learn more about these! Show Notes: If you would like to learn more about Valerie, you can do that on her website here. You can also find Valerie on Instagram @valeriehamakertherapy and on Facebook @valhamaker. Below included are the episodes that Valerie talks about in this episode where a couple talks about their recovery/details around it. - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/generation-xhausted/id1474263480?i=1000504331378 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/generation-xhausted/id1474263480?i=1000531369737 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/generation-xhausted/id1474263480?i=1000505721283 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/generation-xhausted/id1474263480?i=1000506570000
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May 20, 2022
#92 The Divine in You with Valerie Hamaker Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
We have the wonderful Valerie Hamaker on the podcast today to talk about the divine that we have in each of us! A little bit about Valerie is she is an individual and couples therapist with special training in trauma recovery, sexual health and sexual addiction recovery, depth psychology, and issues of spiritual development. She presents nationally on a variety of topics and most recently has turned her focus to the tackling of issues of burnout from a depth psychology lens. Valerie’s podcast Generation Exhausted is a weekly commentary on the recovery of burnout in marriage, gender roles, parenting, institutional religion, and body image and she has recently launched an online community in her website [exhaustedGen.com] where she supports people live in their burnout recovery journey. Some highlights from this episode to listen in for:  Women taking ownership for their own development Spiritual sexuality Prohibition, fear, and anxiety around sexuality  Cultural expectations of sexual developments Neutrality around sexual orientations  Shame around sexual development Betrayal trauma and sexuality  Remembering the divine in YOU Individual healing Healing in marriage Show Notes:  If you would like to learn more about Valerie, you can do that on her website here. You can also find Valerie on Instagram @valeriehamakertherapy and on Facebook @valhamaker. Below included are the episodes that Valerie talks about in this episode where a couple talks about their recovery/details around it. - https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/generation-xhausted/id1474263480?i=1000504331378 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/generation-xhausted/id1474263480?i=1000531369737 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/generation-xhausted/id1474263480?i=1000505721283 https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/generation-xhausted/id1474263480?i=1000506570000
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May 12, 2022
#91 Two Truths and a Lie with Linda Winegar Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
We are back with Linda Winegar to talk about two truths and a lie! Meaning the voices in our head.  Some highlights of this episode:  "Jesus doesn't talk to you like that"  Playing Two Truths and a Lie with Linda Alma 48 How to identify when God speaks to us How to stand up against the enemy, Satan Show Notes:  If you would like to learn more about Linda, her passion projects, or downloading her free PDF, please visit her website here.  To listen to any of her Warrior Woman Projects podcasts, please do that here on Apple podcasts.  If you would like to listen to Linda and her husband, Clark, talk about their story, you can do that here. You can also find Linda on youtube.com here. 
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April 28, 2022
#90 Two Truths and a Lie with Linda Winegar Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
We are here today with Linda Winegar to talk about some truths and lies that we may find throughout our healing!  First, we discuss the many passion projects Linda has, and the need that she felt in 2018 to drop all of them when she had her most recent D-day. She felt as though she needed to focus on being a wife and a mother, but that soon seemed to send her into a dark place. Listen in to see why passion projects helped Linda to go forward in her healing.  Linda then goes into her story in how she found Life Changing Services, Men of Moroni, and WORTH.  She then talks about reading the book "Like Dragons Did They Fight" by Maurice Harker. Linda says she finds a new perspective with the way we are tempted from the adversary. It helped her to find mercy and compassion in her marriage.  Show Notes:  To join the WORTH group that these warrior sisters started, please do that here.  If you would like more information or to aid in helping a spouse start the Men of Moroni Program, please do that here.  To read the book "Like Dragons Did They Fight" by Maurice Harker, you can do that here. 
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April 21, 2022
#89 Should I Stay or Should I Go with Amie Woosley Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
We are back with Amie Woosley to dicuss Part 2! In this episode, we are discussing the other end of divorce. Not just the decision, but after you have made the decision, post divorce. What will life look like after divorce? Amie helps us dive a little deeper into this phase of life and what it might look like.  First, we get into how to tell someone of our decision and really get into why we might be telling them. Amie then encourages anyone who is going through the divorce process to look into getting a coach. She goes into why it is such a helpful resource to help us stay emotionally regulated. Our guest also encourages to join a WORTH group that may also aid in not feeling alone during the process. We go over how to join a WORTH group and will also include that in the show notes below.  After divorce, you might find the need to connect more to yourself. Amie inspires us to date ourselves. Find what we really like and what we don't like. That could be going to a restaurant or a movie by yourself. This may be a little nerve wracking at first, but we may need to dive into why it feels that way.  Then we discuss communicating with your ex after divorce and ways to help with that, so you can provide safety for yourself.  At the end of this episode, you may find a golden nugget!  Show Notes: If you'd like to go back and listen to Amie's full story in Bonus Episode #4, you can do that here. In episode 20, she talks about her Worth YSA program that she holds. Listen to that here. To find Amie and more information on her, you can visit Life Changing Services - https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/therapists/, Choose Recovery Services - https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/, and Life Coaching with Amie - https://www.lifecoachingwithamie.com/.
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April 14, 2022
#88 Should I Stay or Should I Go? with Amie Woosley Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
We have back with us the amazing life coach, Amie Woosley, to talk about divorce! She first dives into explaining that in our culture, we may feel as though divorce isn't an option. There may also be a lot of shame surrounding it being "bad" or "wrong". Amie encourages that if you are making the decision, step into it and own it.  She then goes into the steps she takes to help those who are contemplating divorce. First, Amie helps them to unpack the things their brain is offering them. It could range from fear around ruining your children's life to taking care of the finances. Our guest tells of a personal story of how she overcame these fears. Amie gives us some hope by informing us life does not go as expected and that there is the possibility that we didn't get it wrong with the knowledge that we had.  Please listen in for more insights and thoughts around the decision of divorce!  Show Notes: If you'd like to go back and listen to Amie's full story in Bonus Episode #4, you can do that here.  In episode 20, she talks about her Worth YSA program that she holds. Listen to that here. To find Amie and more information on her, you can visit Life Changing Services - https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/therapists/, Choose Recovery Services - https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/, and Life Coaching with Amie - https://www.lifecoachingwithamie.com/.
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April 07, 2022
#87 Mindfulness with Dallin Bruun Part 2 | Guided Meditation | Healing with WORTH
We are back today with Dallin Bruun on the podcast for a guided meditation! In this meditation, we are going to try to put our betrayal trauma aside for a moment, and come up for some air of safety and peace.  To prepare, Dallin asks us to minimize outside distractions, turn off a light, and sit comfortably. He also gives us two instructions as we follow along: Focus on breathing  Relax any potential that we could be doing it wrong  Guided meditation (13:00-28:56) He teaches that mindfulness is a way that we can back away from our current situation with a bit of distance. We find that this is giving our identity a break by choosing to focus on something that is inherently safe. It can also help us learn to tolerate the voices in our head.  Dallin says that mindfulness did not take away the "mess", but it helped aid in a strong sense of self love and compassion. It is just another tool in our tool-belt!  Show Notes:  If you missed Dallin's episode of explaining Mindfulness last week, you can listen to that here.  If you'd like to learn more about Dr. Kristin Nef, please visit her website here. If you'd like to learn more about Tara Brach, please visit her website here.  For free meditations, Dallin recommends Insight Timer. For paid versions, Dallin recommends Headspace.  If you would like to do the research to find mindful meditations that work for you, Youtube.com is an infinite resource. 
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March 31, 2022
#86 Mindfulness with Dallin Bruun Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
As promised, we have Dallin Bruun on the podcast with us today! Dallin specializes in mindfulness based stress reduction. He is a teacher in Lindon, Utah and  has traveled all over the world, attending mindfulness retreats and receiving training from the very best. Dallin has helped individuals use mindfulness to overcome trauma addiction, stress, depression, and a variety of other mental health issues. He has also worked with Dr. Kevin Skinner, a pioneer for mindfulness, for the past 5-6 years applying the principle to help clients in betrayal trauma. In this episode, Dallin tells us that the essence of mindfulness can be summarized in two simple elements:  1. To show up, be conscious, and present 2. Relax control and management   You may find that some of your daily activities are using the practice of mindfulness such as playing with your grandkids or a favorite pet.  Our hosts and Dallin also dive into ruminating thoughts, and how mindfulness can help with these. We hope you look forward to next week when we have Dallin back on to walks us through a guided meditation! Our hosts mention that they could have fallen asleep, it was so calm and peaceful.  Show Notes:  If you would like to know more about Dallin Bruun or to work with him, you can do that here at this website - https://www.addorecovery.com/therapists/dallin-bruun If you would like to listen to Dallin Bruun's UCAP presentation, you can do that here - https://utahcoalition.org/project/mindfulness-see-love/
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March 24, 2022
#85 The Power of Being Still with Carrie Skarda Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
Carrie Skarda is back on our podcast today! This week, she is here to talk more about how mindfulness and meditation can move us into a place of creativity, be a source that can help us to have better prayers and relationship with Jesus Christ, and experiencing forgiveness.  We first dive into the account of when God created the Earth, and that the process was good even when there was much chaos. Carrie points out that no matter our circumstances that surround us, we can be anchored in stillness to act in a way that align with our value systems. If we find ourselves being mindful, we can go from a place of reactivity to creativity.  Carrie quotes President of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, David O. McKay, saying, "I think we pay too little attention to the value of meditation. A principle of devotion in our worship. There are two elements. One is spiritual communion arising from our own meditation. The other instruction from others, particularly those who have authority to guide and instruct us of the two, the more profitable introspection is the meditation. Meditation is a form of prayer." She informs us that we don't always have to be talking with Jesus Christ, but that sometimes prayer is just listening and letting Him warm you. The last point that Carrie discusses is forgiveness. Whatever state you are in, there can be forgiveness. This does not always mean reconciliation with a spouse or even connection to our best self. It is trusting God and that He will walk this journey with us. Listen in for a personal story that Carrie shares of her own experience with this!  Show Notes: If you would like to learn more about Carrie Skarda and her private practice, you can visit her website here. More information about Sixteen Stones Center, you can visit the link here. You will also find information about her book "The Power of Stillness".
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March 17, 2022
#84 The Power of Being Still with Carrie Skarda Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
We have the wonderful, Carrie Skarda, joining our podcast today! She is a licensed clinical psychologist who has practiced for over 20 years in Salt Lake City, where she lives with her husband and two children. Carrie grew up in Michigan and graduated from Brigham Young University. She is a peace activist as well as a philanthropist. She presents at Sixteen Stones Center for growth and is the co-author of the book "The Power of Stillness". In this episode, we are going to be talking to her today about mindfulness and meditation. Carrie has her own personal experience with betrayal trauma which led her into the world of these two helpful concepts. She informs us that mindfulness is a way of being aware of this moment and whatever is unfolding in the present from a wise, calm and still place, whereas meditation is a concentrated time set aside. Below are eight ideas that we cover more in depth with Carrie of ways that may help those who experience betrayal trauma: How mindfulness and meditation can help you: Cope with bad surprises Manage negative thinking See what is really happening more clearly Move out of reactivity Move into creativity Have better prayers Connect to the Savior in the midst of the pain Experience forgiveness We will be having Carrie back on the podcast next week with more about how mindfulness and meditation can move us into a place of creativity and be a source that can help us to have better prayers and relationship with Jesus Christ. Stay tuned!    Show Notes:  If you would like to learn more about Carrie Skarda and her private practice, you can visit her website here.  More information about Sixteen Stones Center, you can visit the link here. You will also find information about her book "The Power of Stillness".
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March 10, 2022
#83 Mindfulness March | Healing with WORTH
For the month of March, we wanted to focus on March Mindfulness! In this fast moving paced world with so many distractions, we thought we'd dive deeper into ways we can be more present in our lives. There may be times especially experiencing betrayal trauma where you have felt that if you could do or be more, it would get easier. In the coming episodes, we'll learn that slowing down, breathing, really honing into our emotions, and where they are in our bodies can help us move forward. We will be having guests Carrie Skarda and Dallin Bruun who will help us understand how we can be more mindful in our lives. It can become a very helpful tool and coping mechanism, but it is not a solution to the problem.  Carrie Skarda is a co-author of a book called "The Power of Stillness". She talks about our relationship with God and prayer. With Dallin, he specifically does a guided meditation to help us become more familiar with them.  We hope you are excited for this upcoming month of mindfulness and our guests who will be joining us! Please listen in for ideas of how to be more mindful!  Show Notes: If you would like to follow along with Mindfulness March, here is the link to the 2022 Calendar - https://actionforhappiness.org/sites/default/files/Mar%202022.pdf  If you would like to listen to Dallin Bruun's UCAP presentation, you can do that here - https://utahcoalition.org/project/mindfulness-see-love/ To read more about Carrie Skarda's book, you can do that here - https://www.amazon.com/Power-Stillness-Mindful-Living-Latter-day-ebook/dp/B083LFZBD7
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March 03, 2022
#82 Shooting for the Stars with Emily Sanchez Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
We are back with Emily Sanchez for Part 2 on Shooting for the Stars! This week we are discussing the topic of divorce, as that has been requested by a lot of our listeners. If you would like to read more about Emily, you can do that here in Part 1's description. In this episode, we start off by talking about how to get comfortable with being single after divorce. Emily helps us to consider the idea in our head that we only have one chance on this earth to marry the "right" person. She references Genesis that alludes to us being whole as we are. At times, we may forget that we still can be happy even when we are not married to someone. We may still feel the uncomfortable pressures of the cultural feeling, family first, but Emily reminds us that this is truly where the Saviors ministry took place. When you feel like the outcast, He is there.  Emily also encourages us to ask ourselves the question, "Who do I want to become, and how do I want to live?" When starting to date again or looking for a job after divorcing, we have the choice whether to make it a good experience or to focus on the bad. She says, "This is given to you, choose it. There can be power in accepting." Some may wonder is divorce the right choice? Will my spouse choose recovery later?  Emily has implemented the OEC: Options, evaluations, and consequences to help us really determine this. Listen in if you'd like to learn more.  Show Notes: If you would like to know more about Emily Sanchez, please visit her website here. If you would like to listen to her podcast, listen here on Apple podcasts. Please follow Emily Sanchez, @ldsdivorcecoach. If you would like to join one of our Worth groups, divorce or marriage, please enroll here or email us at worth@lifechangingservices.org. We'd love to help walk this healing journey with you!
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February 24, 2022
#81 Shooting for the Stars with Emily Sanchez Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
We have Emily Sanchez on the podcast with us today! Emily Romney Sanchez grew up in a competitive environment and was taught to achieve goals and succeed from her parents and coaches in music and sports through college.  Those coaches inspired her to become a life coach as a way to continually grow, reach higher and motivate others.  Her experience started early as she spoke throughout Arizona on education issues and domestic violence. Through her divorce and single parenthood she managed two different insurance agencies.  After remarrying, she finished her Bachelors degree from NAU and completed training and certification through Strategic Intervention, Robbins/Madanes training, APSATS, IFS and is currently pursuing her master's degree in social work from WNMU.  She is a Divorce Coach who works with distinguished family law attorney, Kevin Jensen, offering seminars and coaching.  She is supported by an amazing husband, Yasser Sanchez, and 5 children.  You can find her on Facebook, Instagram and Apple Podcasts as ldsdivorcecoach. In this episode, we discuss how to start to shoot for the stars and see our higher self even while experiencing betrayal trauma. We look into why we may struggle with this starting with our society and past. To get out of these meaning frames, Emily encourages us to question our core beliefs. "What do you desire?" As you dive deeper, you may receive retaliation from your spouse or others when bringing up a desire you have. It may be uncomfortable, but you will find that it fills up your core and self respect.  Emily also reminds us that if we are not in a place to do this, to give ourselves grace.  Please listen in next week for Part 2 as we go more into the topic of divorce!  Show Notes:  If you would like to know more about Emily Sanchez, please visit her website here.  If you would like to listen to her podcast, listen here on Apple podcasts.  Please follow Emily Sanchez, @ldsdivorcecoach.  If you would like to join one of our Worth groups, divorce or marriage, please enroll here or email us at worth@lifechangingservices.org. We'd love to help walk this healing journey with you! 
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February 17, 2022
#80 Tennis Ball Analogy | Healing with WORTH
Back today with another in our analogy series, and this one is called the Tennis Ball analogy! We want to credit this one to Natalie Hoffman who has written a blog post about it called "How Will You Know Your Marriage is Over?" that we will link below in the show notes.  In this episode, we are going to go over how Natalie explains this analogy and how it might apply to our life. For a moment, let's pretend that your relationship is like a game of tennis. The ball is going back and forth between you and your spouse. Once in awhile the ball drops, which may represent relationship conflict. When it drops on your side, you pick up the ball and resolve the conflict. Sometimes, it drops on your spouse's side, but you find that he may not want to pick it up. So what do you do? You go over to his side and pick up the ball because you want the game to keep going. Please listen in to find ways of how this might apply to your relationship! You may find that this analogy usually captures the question, "Should I stay, or should I go?"  Show Notes:  A coaching class to help women navigate that space and trying to figure out if she should stay or go in her relationship. First Thursday of every month at 9am MT. FREE! Email amie@lifecoachingwithamie.com for more information If you would like to read Natalie Hoffman's blog post "How Will You Know Your Marriage is Over?", you can do that here.  If you would like to learn more about Natalie Hoffman, please visit her website here. She has a podcast, book, online coaching group, as well as so many other things.
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February 10, 2022
#79 Getting to our Why's about Divorce with Roxanne Granata. Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
We are back today with Part 2 about getting to our why's about divorce with Roxanne Granata!  Last week, we discussed our why's about staying and how to navigate that.  If you missed this episode, please see show notes to listen in as there are insights for staying and divorcing as well.  In this episode, we are talking more about moving into separation and possibly divorce and what that might look like. One question Roxanne encourages us to ask ourselves to think more about is "Do I feel more peaceful being separated/distancing myself than I do when we're together?" She tells us that trusting our gut will help guide us through these decisions, but that choice does not need to be made immediately. There also may be some fear of the possibilities after divorce, but she also gives experiences of the change that might result because of that decision.  Please listen in for insights of the decision of divorce and thoughts/ideas of how to navigate that. Ultimate question: What is the life you want to have and experience? Show Notes: If you would like to listen in to #78 on our Why's of Staying with Roxanne, please do that here.  If you would like to listen in to the 70 episodes that Roxanne has released, please listen in here. If you would like more information on Roxanne Granata, please visit her website and instagram below: www.roxannekennedygranata.com Instagram: Roxanne Kennedy Granata If you would like to be apart of Worth's marriage or divorce groups, you can enroll here and receive the first 6 months free!
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February 03, 2022
#78 Getting to our Why's about Staying with Roxanne Granata. Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
We are back today as promised with a new episode with the lovely Roxanne Granata! Roxanne is a betrayal trauma coach, the author of Cutting Ties, the host of the Choose In Podcast and a speaker and advocate helping others move through trauma and other life problems and on to a happy and healing life. She has been divorced and now remarried for the past 2 years. Together they have 7 children and one grandbaby. Roxanne has graciously accepted to come on to discuss the topic of divorce, as that as been highly requested by you, our listeners.  In this episode, we discuss the why's of staying in a marriage.  Roxanne informs us that there might be two common reasons why we may fear the thought of divorce and helps us to recognize some underlying feelings that might be associated with these. If we choose to stay, there may be some "poisonous" behaviors present that we may need to watch out for. She gives us a few examples, as well as ideas of how to keep ourselves safe and healthy.  Next week we will be back with part 2 on the "why's of divorce" and we hope you'll listen in as both give great insights!  Show Notes:  If you would like more information on Roxanne Granata, please visit her website and instagram below:  www.roxannekennedygranata.com Instagram: Roxanne Kennedy Granata If you would like to be apart of Worth's marriage or divorce groups, you can enroll here and receive the first 6 months free! 
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January 27, 2022
#45 Interview with Dr. Jill Manning. Barriers to Boundaries Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
Re-releasing Part 2 of our interview with Dr. Jill Manning!  This episode is in response to a listener question on how to set boundaries.  In the previous episode we addressed what boundaries are, what they are not, and how to set them.  In this episode we will be discussing barriers to boundaries, reasons why we have a hard time setting and keeping boundaries, and how to overcome these barriers. The quicker that we can learn to be effective in identifying, finding, setting boundaries, and forcing and upholding those when, and if they are violated, will be a gift to healing for both people. We are not suggesting the person setting boundaries is responsible for both people's healing paths, but it will have a positive effect on the whole family. We are grateful to have Dr. Jill Manning, Ph.D., LMFT, CCPS, CCTP, BC-TMH with us to discuss the topic of boundaries. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in working with individuals impacted by betrayal trauma in their primary relationship. Over the last 20 years, her academic and clinical work has been featured in numerous peer review journals. Television programs, TV shows, magazine articles, including the Oprah magazine. She is a former social science fellow at the heritage foundation in Washington, DC. And while she was in that role, she testified before the US Senate subcommittee about the harms of pornography on the family. She currently serves on the board of directors and the advisory council for Fight The New Drug. She is a native of Calgary, Alberta, Canada, and currently lives in Colorado with her husband and two daughters. Thank you for sharing you time and expertise with us Dr. Manning. Make sure to check out our show notes with resources Dr. Manning shared with us. Show Notes and Resources: 1. Personal Boundaries: A Worksheet for Betrayed Individuals https://drjillmanning.com/product/personal-boundaries-a-worksheet-for-betrayed-individuals/ 2. Eleven Responses to Boundary Violations https://drjillmanning.com/product/eleven-responses-boundary-violations/ 3. Boundary Work Bundle (Combines both documents at a discounted rate): https://drjillmanning.com/product/boundary-work-bundle/ Link to the entire Digital Download Store: https://drjillmanning.com/digital-downloads/ Link to Free Printables: https://drjillmanning.com/product-category/all/free-printables/ https://drjillmanning.com/product/bookmark/
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January 20, 2022
#44 Interview with Dr. Jill Manning on Boundaries. Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
To start off the year, we are re-releasing this episode with Jill Manning on Boundaries! We will be back in 2 weeks with a new podcast for you with Roxanne Granata!  During our healing journey we hear how important boundaries are, but how do we know what boundaries we need and then how do we set them in our relationships? This episode is in response to a listener question on how to set boundaries.  This can be a really difficult concept for some people to understand, especially if you haven't been used to setting them.  It's one of the key components related to our healing , especially if we continue to be in a relationship where there have been patterns of lying present, we really need to protect ourselves.  Some of the takeaways that we would love for you listeners is  Understanding what a boundary is, and what it's not The different types of boundaries Why boundaries are essential to our healing Where do we begin We are grateful to have Dr. Jill Manning, Ph.D., LMFT, CCPS, CCTP, BC-TMH with us to discuss the topic of boundaries. She is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist who specializes in working with individuals impacted by betrayal trauma in their primary relationship. Over the last 20 years, her academic and clinical work has been featured in numerous peer review journals. Television programs, TV shows, magazine articles, including the Oprah magazine. She is a former social science fellow at the heritage foundation in Washington, DC. And while she was in that role, she testified before the US Senate subcommittee about the harms of pornography on the family. She currently serves on the board of directors and the advisory council for Fight The New Drug. She is a native of Calgary, Alberta, Canada, and currently lives in Colorado with her husband and two daughters. Thank you for sharing you time and expertise with us Dr. Manning. Make sure to check out our show notes with resources Dr. Manning shared with us. Show Notes and Resources: 1. Personal Boundaries: A Worksheet for Betrayed Individuals https://drjillmanning.com/product/personal-boundaries-a-worksheet-for-betrayed-individuals/ 2. Eleven Responses to Boundary Violations https://drjillmanning.com/product/eleven-responses-boundary-violations/ 3. Boundary Work Bundle (Combines both documents at a discounted rate): https://drjillmanning.com/product/boundary-work-bundle/ Link to the entire Digital Download Store: https://drjillmanning.com/digital-downloads/ Link to Free Printables: https://drjillmanning.com/product-category/all/free-printables/ https://drjillmanning.com/product/bookmark/
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January 13, 2022
#77 New Year 2022 Preview | Healing with WORTH
Happy New Year! We are so excited to start this year off with you and highlights that are coming! Many of you have asked to hear more of topics on divorce and how to navigate that. We are fulfilling the request! To help us discuss these, we have invited Roxanne Granata, Amie Woosley, and Emily Sanchez to help us better understand when it might be time to consider a divorce or when you might know when to stay married. We hope that you will watch out for these podcasts as they will be released in the first few months of this year! Please listen in as they share perspective that could be helpful for many. We also want to start the new year with a little fun! If you go on apple podcasts and give us a review, we will be reading the review and calling out tag names during our podcast. When and if yours's is called, we will be sending you a little gift from us to say thank you. Our thank you of helping us reach other women who may be experiencing betrayal trauma in silence who could receive the help that they need. Thank you for listening and we hope you'll continue to!  Show Notes:  If you would like to join our marriage or divorce Worth groups, please do that here. To submit a review, please go to apple podcasts and search Healing with Worth. We'd love to get your feedback!  If you have any questions, topics you'd like discussed, or any guests that you'd like us to reach out to, please email us at worth@lifechangingservices.org
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January 06, 2022
#76 End of Year THANK YOU | Healing with WORTH
To end the year with a bang, we wanted to do a recap of some of our favorite episodes from 2021! It has been a great year with so many wonderful guests and professionals that we've had the pleasure of interviewing on the podcast. They have given us insight into healing, and we hope that you have found validation, guidance and hope in your journey through these episodes. If you would like to listen to any of the podcasts mentioned in the episode, some will be included in the show notes below.  If you have anything you would like to hear us talk about, questions, interview requests you can reach out to us at worth@lifechangingservices.org Show Notes:  If you would like to listen to Kim Day's Sexual Abuse episodes, listen here. If you would like to listen to Jeff Ford's Emotional Abuse episodes, listen here.  If you would like to listen to Noelle McBride's Divorce episodes, listen here.  If you would like to listen to Jeff Steurer's Therapeutic Disclosure episodes, listen here.  If you would like to listen to Jill Manning's Boundary episodes, listen here.  If you would like to listen to Tammy Gustafson's episode, listen here. If you would like to listen to Jody Steurer and Jamee Adam's episodes, listen here. 
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December 30, 2021
#75 Macaroni Necklaces for Christmas this Year | Healing with WORTH
We want to wish you all a Merry Christmas! In this episode, we discuss the Macaroni Necklace Analogy. It is also known as the airplane or buffalo/squirrel analogy.  Have you ever received a macaroni necklace from your child that they made at school that day? You get so excited because they feel so proud of their efforts and want you to wear/be proud of it too. You may smile and wear it around the house, but at the end of the day, you won't wear it to church.  This can often correlate with the relationship we have with our spouse and their sexual behaviors. If you are interested in learning how, please listen in! We recommend you say no to the macaroni necklaces this year for Christmas and know that your safety is important.  Show Notes:  If you would like to join Jody's Worth group, or any other Worth marriage or divorce group, please do that here at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/enroll/ If you would like to read more about pioneer mode that Janeen was talking about, please visit our website with many other recovery terms and concepts here https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/common-recovery-terms-and-concepts/
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December 23, 2021
#74 Special Interview with Naomi and Janeen on the Choose To Be Podcast | Healing with WORTH
We have a special episode for you today! Naomi and Janeen were invited to be on the amazing Choose To Be podcast with Choose Recovery Services' therapist Alana Gordon and Amie Woosley. Our hosts share a little bit more about their stories and how they came to be the hosts of the Healing with Worth podcast.  We discuss the importance of having support when you are going through betrayal trauma or divorce, struggles that can arise in religious culture through healing, how to know when we come to a point where we need help, and gaining worth and empowerment in your journey.   Hopefully this helps you get to know our hosts just a little bit better!  Show Notes:  If you would like to listen in to any of the Choose To Be podcast from Choose Recovery Services, you can do that here https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/podcast/ If you would like to learn more about Alana, Amie, or team members of Choose Recovery Services, you can do that on their website: https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/ If you would like to join the Worth program, marriage or divorce groups are available at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/enroll/
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December 16, 2021
#73 Greenhouse analogy | Healing with WORTH
Another analogy to our series!  Here we are discussing the greenhouse analogy. This term, along with many others, comes from the director of Life Changing Services, Maurice Harker, who has studied psychology and human relationships for the last 25+ years. He often uses this term to help those women who are looking to repair their marriages, but it can also be applied to those who are needing distance to provide safety for themselves.  To give a better understanding, we go over the ways a greenhouse provides safety for a plant to survive and thrive such as supplying the proper temperature, nutrients, sunlight, water, etc. It also protects the plant from outside elements such as freezing or scalding temperatures.  This same concept can be applied to women who are experiencing betrayal trauma. They may have felt the affects of outside forces, so now they find they are needing to provide safety for themselves. Listen in to find ways of how to do that!  Show Notes:  If you would like to enroll in one of our Worth marriage or divorce groups, you can do that here at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/enroll/
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December 09, 2021
#72 Weather Checks and When the Wind Blows Analogies with Jody VanDrimmelen | Healing with WORTH
We have Worth therapist, Jody VanDrimmelen back with us to talk about weather checking and when the wind blows analogies! The weather checking analogy comes from the founder and director of Life Changing Services, Maurice Harker. If you would like to read more about it, you can follow the link below.  This concept of weather checking is much like how we check the weather outside to determine how we dress, navigate possibly dangerous areas, and what path we take to our destination. To determine if it is safe to engage with our spouse, we might put our hand on his chest to see what the reaction might be.  We also discuss the concept of when the wind blows. This idea often corresponds with weather checking because you may be noticing different behaviors in your spouse. He may be telling you everything is fine, but your gut is telling you something different. Listen in to hear of ways that we might find the need to disconnect to a safe distance if red flags arise or if everything is okay.  Show Notes:  To read more about the term "weather checking", you can do that here at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/common-recovery-terms-and-concepts/ To join the Worth program, you can enroll here at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/enroll/ We would love to help you in your healing process. 
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December 02, 2021
#71 Thanksgiving of Healing | Healing with WORTH
Wishing you all a Happy Thanksgiving!  We know that the holidays can be a hard time of year when dealing with betrayal trauma, so we didn't want to leave you without a podcast and hopefully a little upliftment.  In this episode, we talk about the wonderful gifts healing from betrayal trauma brings into our lives. Those range from having the words to explain the struggles we deal with to the connections we have felt with women who are going through similar circumstances. If you are feeling alone this day, please listen in and know we are here with you! We have felt this pain. Maybe you are not in place to feel grateful for some of the things we've talked about or others you can think of, and that is okay! Meet yourself where you are today, and have compassion for yourself. You have gone through some really hard things!  Show Notes:  If you would like to join our healing groups through Worth, please do so at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/enroll/
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November 25, 2021
#70 Buffalo/Cow Analogy | Healing with WORTH
Today, we are explaining the buffalo/cow analogy!  This analogy comes from Rory Vanden in his book "Take the Stairs". He indicates in his book that we all have storms in our lives. Rory grew up in the state of Colorado. Because of the topographical landscape, it's one of the only places in the world that has buffalo and cows. When storms start brewing, both of these animals react in different ways. Listen in to see how!  Sometimes, we may be in denial of the storms in our own lives which is part of the grieving process. We don't realize the storm that is coming or even the storm that may be already here. We talk a little about our own experience with this, and the process of becoming aware.  Show Notes:  If you would like to read more on Rory Vanden or his book, you can do that here https://www.roryvaden.com/take-the-stairs To join our Worth married or divorce group, please do that here https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/enroll/ We'd love to help you in your healing journey! If you have any questions or comments about this analogy, please email the Worth podcast coordinator at worth@lifechangingservices.org.
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November 18, 2021
#69 Anger and Women Speaking Up with Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
We are back with Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams for Part 2 of our discussion talking more about anger in social situations as well as church culture! Talking about anger, we feel that we cannot talk about boundaries along with it. One of the reasons we may feel anger is because of the expectations of other people that we might do things for. If we do feel anger, that may mean that we may need to set a boundary with that person. It might be really scary to set boundaries because of the way the other person might react. Boundaries will definitely test our relationships with the people around us. As Jody said in the podcast, "Saying what I need to say matters more than preserving a dysfunctional relationship."  Speaking up, despite the consequences, can fuel something inside of us to keep doing so. At times, our speaking up can be perceived as having anger even if we do not feel that emotion. Anger can then be used as a defense mechanism against us. We may feel the need to change our behavior in how we spoke up. Jamee gives us the reminder that "the battle is often less with the people in our lives than it is within our own head." Jody and Jamee give us a few ways to get out of our own head. Listen in to find out those ways! Show Notes:  If you would like to learn more about Jody, Jamee, and their podcast, you can do that here - https://speakupsister.net/ To listen to their Speak Up Sister podcasts, you can listen on any platform or find them here on their website - https://speakupsister.net/the-podcast-2/ If you missed our previous episode with Jamee and Jody #68, you can listen to that here - https://anchor.fm/healingwithworth/episodes/68-Anger-and-Women-Speaking-Up-with-Jody-Steurer-and-Jamee-Adams-Part-1--Healing-with-WORTH-e19nnpg
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November 11, 2021
#68 Anger and Women Speaking Up with Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
We are interviewing two sisters in this episode, Jody Steurer and Jamee Adams! These women are the creators of the Speak Up Sister podcast (link below). Grounded in the doctorine of the church of Jesus Christ, Jamee and Jody draw from His gospel and the latest scientific research to bring validation, education, tools and support to women all over the world. They're conversations are often geared towards women who want to speak up. In their podcasts, they give a little more insight into why we don't, why our voices need to be heard, and how we can do that.  The topic that we wanted to discuss with them today is anger and women having the opportunity to speak up.  From the Speak Up Sister podcast, “Pretending we don’t feel anger (which is really just avoiding), stuffing anger, talking ourselves out of it… all these can keep us from using our voices about things that really matter.”  — from Episode 3, Anger, Part 1 Last week, we spent a little time talking about anger, so we thought this would be the perfect follow up episode to provide more understanding on the subject. We discuss experiences with our parent(s), spouse, and children of why we might feel anger or why we have the thoughts about our anger.  Make sure to tune in next week for Part 2 talking more about anger in social and church culture with Jody and Jamee!  Show Notes:  If you would like to learn more about Jody, Jamee, and their podcast, you can do that here - https://speakupsister.net/ To listen to their Speak Up Sister podcasts, you can listen on any platform or find them here on their website - https://speakupsister.net/the-podcast-2/ If you missed our previous episode on Anger (#67), you can listen to that here - https://anchor.fm/s/bba5990/podcast/rss
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November 04, 2021
#67 Anger | Healing with WORTH
In this episode, we discuss the emotion of anger. We feel that there are a lot of misconceptions around anger, so we wanted to talk a little more in depth. To help us in this task, we are also pulling from Harriet Lerner's book "The Dance of Anger" to better help us explain from a therapist!  Harriet Lerner says, "Anger exists for a reason, and it always deserves our attention and respect."  Have many of us felt that feeling anger was wrong?  On the churchofjesuschrist.org website it gives this definition of anger: "It is true that there is a rare time and place for the expression of righteous anger—the Lord himself has expressed indignation and anger when the circumstances warranted such reactions. Righteous anger is a controlled response to an unrighteous situation, however, not the kind of emotional outbursts most of us are all too familiar with." How can we find ways that we can express our "righteous" anger without leaving our value systems? We discuss some of those ways! SHOW NOTES: If you would like to buy or read more on Harriet Lerner's book "The Dance of Anger", you can do that here https://www.amazon.com/Dance-Anger-Changing-Patterns-Relationships/dp/0062319043 Anger is part of the grief cycle. If you would like to read more about 'anger' or the grief cycle, you can do that here https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/betrayal-trauma-stages-of-grief/  If you would like to enroll in Worth marriage/Worth divorce groups, you can do that here https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/enroll/
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October 28, 2021
#66 Pioneer Woman Analogy | Healing with WORTH
Pioneer Woman Mode, a term Maurice Harker, director of Life Changing Services, deemed for women who are struggling in the world of their spouses sexual misbehaviors. This term has been used throughout many of our podcasts, so we thought we'd dive a little deeper into explaining what really is "pioneer woman mode". "Pioneer Woman mode embodies the sacrifice that Mormon Utah Pioneer women made. These women were thrust from their homes, often with their children and little or no provisions. They were forced to walk, sometimes barefoot, pulling handcarts with their belongings, responsible for providing for their needs and those of their children. Pioneer Woman Mode refers to assessing the situation, and creating a safety plan for oneself. " -https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/common-recovery-terms-and-concepts/ We may find ourselves in this situation, and we want to be ready! Show Notes:  If you would like to read more about ideas of how you can prepare yourself, you can do that here https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/common-recovery-terms-and-concepts/ under the term "Pioneer Woman Mode" and "Packing Your Wagon". To join the Worth group that Naomi was talking about, you can do that here. https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/ President Dallin H. Oaks is quoted from his talk "Modern Pioneers" from 1989. You can read or listen to the full talk here. https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/1989/10/modern-pioneers?lang=eng
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October 21, 2021
#65 Interview with Tammy Gustafson | Ways and Why We May Feel "Stuck" during The Healing Process | Healing with WORTH
Are you feeling stuck in your betrayal trauma? Maybe don't understand why?  We have Tammy Gustafson back with us in this episode. She helps us go over the ways we might get stuck in our healing process from betrayal trauma. Below she lists the most common ways and a little insight into why: 1. Shame 2. Anger 3. Focusing on his emotions rather than hers 4. He's doing a lot of work, but there's no change 5. The question: Should I stay or should I go?  Show Notes: If you have not listened to episode 52, we encourage you to go back and do so. https://anchor.fm/healingwithworth/episodes/52-Interview-with-Therapist-Tammy-Gustafson--Healing-with-WORTH-e11uefj If you'd like to reach out to Tammy Gustafson, you can visit her website betrayalhealing.com. If you are feeling stuck and want to dive deeper, she also has a digital program on these five stuck points. There are not only videos going through everything, but it also has worksheets with each one of these where women can kind of do a deep dive of guided self-reflection to see "where am I at? What is my next step to help her get unstuck and to be able to continue to go on with her healing journey."
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October 14, 2021
#64 The Ways Betrayal Trauma Affects our Relationship with God, Priesthood Leaders, and Church Culture with Kim Day. Part 3 | Healing with WORTH
What a great way to end our discussion on the ways betrayal trauma affects our relationship with God, priesthood leaders, and church culture! We do hope that you feel the spirit of healing as Kim Day gives us more insight into her personal story on this episode!  Kim opens up and talks about a personal experience she had when she first came into Worth as a participant. She had written a letter to a general authority about the struggles that she herself and others in the Worth program were experiencing with betrayal trauma. Soon after writing the letter, she was reminded of an old bible story that was an answer to many of her questions. Much to her surprise, she also later received a response to the letter she wrote.  Listen in to find more about it! Show Notes:  You can find the full story of Abraham and Isaac in Genesis 21-22 of the bible.  If you are interested in joining the Worth group, you can do that at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/ free for the first 6 months.
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October 07, 2021
#63 The Ways Betrayal Trauma Affects our Relationship with God, Priesthood Leaders, and Church Culture with Kim Day. Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
We have Worth therapist, Kim Day back with us talking about betrayal trauma and the way it affects our relationship with God, priesthood leaders, and church culture. In this episode, we dive a little deeper into the expectations we have around the church and possible ways of how to reconcile them.  First, starting off by praying to God if we should continue into marriage with a future spouse, but later finding out that there is a pornography addiction/sexual misbehaviors. We may start to question ourselves receiving revelation and the trust we have with God. Kim then gives a possible alternative to this whole experience!  Second, we touch on the topic of the expectations we might have for our priesthood leaders, more specifically our bishops. We as a church culture, want Bishops to fix all problems; including ours. That is their job right? Here in this episode, we find more about what their role might look like in this situation.  We realize that everyone's story is so different, so if you are experiencing these things, we have our Worth group to help at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/
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September 30, 2021
#62 The Ways Betrayal Trauma Affects our Relationship with God, Priesthood Leaders, and Church Culture with Kim Day. Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
Do we have expectations of what life was supposed to look like?  Especially when faith was such a core component and is such a core component of our identity. Here in this episode, Worth therapist, Kim Day talks about how this type of trauma really hits our identity in so many different ways. She lists at least 3 major reasons that our faith or our relationship with God or our emotions around a church, can feel strange or even threatened. Of the 100 women who answered our survey, more than 63% felt they had gone through a significant spiritual crisis as part of their journey–usually pretty close around their time of discovery. -Lisa Taylor, pastoral sexual addiction specialist When something goes wrong, or is painful, in close association with the gospel or a gospel principle or ideal, those can become fused. They can become linked, not always, but sometimes they can. 
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September 16, 2021
#61: Interview with Aneladee Milne, Director of Daughters of Light and Women Warriors of Light | Healing with WORTH
Are there resources for teen girls and women struggling with pornography?  Statistics show that 30% of women struggle with pornography.  This is not a "male" problem and women need help too.   We sat down with Aneladee Milne, director of Daughters of Light and Women Warriors of Light part of Life Changing Services to learn more about these programs and how they help teen girls and women.   This program helps with issues girls and women face.  Self-harm Depression Anxiety Eating disorders Low self-worth Risky behaviors Sexual misbehavior Overwhelming sadness if you would like more information or to contact Aneladee you can reach her on her website:  Daughters of Light | Therapeutic groups for young women (lifechangingservices.online)
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September 09, 2021
Abuse Mini Series #11: Sexual Abuse Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
One more re-release for summer before new episodes come back next week! We hope you've enjoyed them.  There was so much more we felt we wanted to cover on the topic of sexual abuse that we are back with clinicians Alana Gordon and Kimberly Day. Kim and Alana explain that we may have received unhealthy ideas or messages growing up about sexuality from our families of origin, church culture, or friends.   We discuss what is healthy sexuality vs unhealthy sexuality What are unhealthy messages regarding sexuality How to find a safe person to converse about sexuality in your relationship. What impact can this have on our recovery? Show Notes: You can find the episode Kim references on Healthy Sexuality (Mini Series #9) with Jeanne Vattuone here:  https://anchor.fm/healingwithworth/episodes/Healing-with-WORTH-Healthy-Sexuality-with-Jeanne-Vattuone-Mini-Series-on-Abuse-7-emak0u "Finding a way to explore this other paradigm of what does healthy sexuality look like where there is no pressure, there isn't coercion. It is completely consensual where there is mutual respect and partnership. Where you can be present in the moment and playful. Where you can be vulnerable and safe."
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September 02, 2021
Abuse Mini Series #10: What Are The Signs Of Sexual Abuse In A Relationship? | Healing with WORTH
Another re-release of some of our favorite episodes during this summer break with all of you. We will have new episodes for you in September!  We are back with clinicians Alana Gordon and Kimberly Day to discuss another aspect of abuse; Sexual Abuse.  Kim expresses that there is a difference between sexual impact caused by a spouse's addiction and unhealthy sexual behaviors versus sexual abuse.   We discuss how these two aspects can manifest in a relationship.  What is Sexual Abuse in a relationship?   What are the signs of sexual abuse and unhealthy sexuality in a relationship?   What impact can this have on our sexual relationship? Show Notes: You can find the episode Kim references on Healthy Sexuality (Mini Series #9) with Jeanne Vattuone here:  https://anchor.fm/healingwithworth/episodes/Healing-with-WORTH-Healthy-Sexuality-with-Jeanne-Vattuone-Mini-Series-on-Abuse-7-emak0u "Unhealthy sexuality is coercive or nonconsensual. And whenever you have that coercion or any degree of non-consent, that is unhealthy.  Non-consent absolutely is exploitive, it's abusive."
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August 26, 2021
#46 How to Use Boundaries to Create Safety | Healing with WORTH
As we take a little summer break with all of you, we wanted to re-release some of our favorite episodes. We will have new episodes for you in September!  After our interview with Dr. Manning we wanted to further discuss the topic of creating safety through setting boundaries.   Living with a sex addict is risky behavior as they may be living a secret life unknown to us.   How do we create safety for ourselves?   We at times in our healing journey thought safety meant a physical safety, safety from harm, as well as having the physical necessities of life.  We need to take into consideration safety also means from verbal, emotional, and financial harm.   Assessing where our safety risks are, allows us to see where we need to create boundaries in our relationship.   Show Notes: A new round of WORTH YSA classes are starting May 4th.  We live in a world where pornography is pervasive.  If you wish you could prepare your daughter to be strong, empowered and have knowledge to have a healthy relationship this is the class for her!  Taught by Betrayal Trauma Coach Amie Woolsey.  Learn more about this class and register at https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/worth-ysa/
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August 19, 2021
Abuse Mini Series #7: Healthy Sexuality with Jeanne Vattuone | Healing with WORTH
As we take a little summer break we wanted to re-release some of our favorite episodes.  We will have new episodes for you in September! We had the pleasure of having licensed clinician Jeanne Vattuone coming and speaking to us on the topic of healthy sexuality.  Jeanne breaks us out of our comfort zone as she addresses sensitive topics: What does healthy sexuality look like in a relationship?  What is mutual consent in a sexual relationship?   Jeanne has been a Licensed Clinical Social Worker since 1998.  She is a Certified Sex Addiction Therapist, trained with Dr. Patrick Carnes, and is a Certified Clinical Partner Specialist Candidate.  Jeanne works with sex addicts and their partners providing individual, group, and couples therapy.  She is also trained in EMDR.  Jeanne is a CSAT and a CCPS Supervisor.  To find out more and to work with Jeanne https://willowtreesantarosa.com/sex-addiction-therapist-contact-us/clinicians
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August 12, 2021
#17 Finding Yourself After Betrayal (Exclusive Interview) | Healing with WORTH
Come and meet Hali the Intake Coordinator--the voice on the other end of the phone. Hali started her path down this healing journey about 6 years ago when she found Life-Changing Services during a series of crises that happened in her marriage. She has trained under Maurice Harker and his team and worked in different capacities at Life Changing Services ever since. She is a Life Coach, a Betrayal Trauma Coach and she works on the WORTH team as the Intake Coordinator. (WORTH Stands for Woman of Rebirth Therapeutic Healing) In her capacity with the WORTH team, she is the voice on the other end of the phone when a new client has their intake phone call before getting started in the WORTH group.  She coaches our Worth Rising Worth YSA classes. Hali has a great passion for working with young people as well. She works with some of the youngest clients in the Sons of Helaman program as a Personal Warrior Trainer. She also leads a Young Women’s Group where she helps young girls gain Christ-Centered tools at an early age to stay true to who they are and realize their full potential. If you would like to work with Hali you can reach her at https://www.chooserecoveryservices.com/team/
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August 05, 2021
#60: Beauty For Ashes, Divorce and The Latterday Saint Woman with Noelle McBride. Part 3 | Healing with WORTH
In this last interview with author Noelle McBride she shares with us that we are meant to experience joy in this life, in every facet of our lives, through trials, heartache, and repentance.  When we are in the midst of trials, trauma and heartache, what can this mean for us and how can we access this joy?   We are so grateful for Noelle coming and taking the time to share her journey and experience with us.  If you would like to learn more about Noelle and her workshop you can reach her at BellaNoelle Design – design a beautiful life. Show Notes: For more information and register for Noelle's workshop you can find more on her website. You can find Noelle's book here
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July 29, 2021
#59: Beauty For Ashes, Divorce and The Latterday Saint Woman with Noelle McBride. Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
Is joy possible when going through betrayal trauma, a separation, or divorce?  In this second interview with author Noelle McBride she shares with us how becoming a "ruthless editor of her life" helped her find joy going through divorce.  Often as latter-day saint women, we struggle with wondering where we belong in the great plan of happiness if our lives are looking very different from how that plan is typically perscribed.  Noelle shares with us what things she needed to remove from her life, and changes she made to find that joy and happiness.   If you haven't listened to the first episode with Noelle make sure to go back and listen to Episode 58. Show Notes: To read more about Noelle's experience you can find a copy of Noelle's book here Follow Noelle on Social Media or check out what other services she offers on her website Boundaries by Henry Townsend:  Boundaries Updated and Expanded Edition: When to Say Yes, How to Say No To Take Control of Your Life: Cloud, Henry, Townsend, John: Amazon.com: Books
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July 22, 2021
#58: Beauty For Ashes, Divorce and The Latterday Saint Woman with Noelle McBride. Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
We had the privilege of interviewing Noelle McBride to discuss her new book Beauty for Ashes, Divorce and The Latter-day Saint Woman.  As she talks about her divorce you can hear some of the many internal struggles that Christian women go through, especially women of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints, due to our understanding of the eternal nature of families and marriages. We are often hanging on to these marriages at great expense to our psychological and even physical wellbeing. Even while there may be a need to end the marriage, it is a very difficult process to work through. Over the next couple of episodes, we are going to talk about her book and discuss some of the internal struggles that Noelle went through and how this process of battling moves us into a refining process. Show Notes: You can find Noelle's book on Amazon:  Amazon.com : Beauty From Ashes Noelle Mcbride
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July 15, 2021
#57: How betrayal trauma affects motherhood with KayLee C Dunn | Healing with WORTH
After betrayal there are many internal struggles that a mother faces as she tries to meet her own emotional needs and then balance those with the needs of her children.  In the hard moments we "should ourselves" or in other words give ourselves guilt trips about all the things we think we should be doing.  That can be pretty common with women in general, but then you throw the mom guilt in with betrayal trauma and it can heighten destructive unhealthy patterns.  We are so grateful for KayLee Dunn coming on the podcast to explain how betrayal trauma affects mothering and how to connect with our children and balance our own healing.  We love KayLee's honest and realistic approach to mothering while dealing with betrayal trauma.  We hope that you will feel validated and uplifted as we did talking with her! Kaylee is an EMDR therapist and she specializes in betrayal, trauma, and unwanted sexual behaviors. She provides tele-health therapy services to women and men in Utah and Arizona.  She also co facilitates a weekly live group discussion through her free Facebook community called Awake Resilience From Betrayal. Kaylee is also a mom to triplets who are seven and twins who are five years old.  Show Notes: Follow Kaylee on instagram @kayleecdunn and join her free private facebook community:  Awake Resilience From Betrayal
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July 08, 2021
#56: Our Recovery. Part 3 of Hers, His and Our recovery | Healing with WORTH
In this last episode of Hers, His and Our recovery we felt like this particular topic was a little out of our scope.  And then we realized there are benchmarks that both of us are looking for to know if he is ready to take the next step of couples recovery with us. And so we're going to share with you some of those benchmarks that we are looking for to know that our relationship is ready to go to the next step. Listen as we discuss 5 ways to know if you are ready to move into couples recovery work.  We address how do we know if we're ready?  How do we know if he is ready?   Please keep in mind there are contraindications for entering couple therapy. When there is abuse, untreated mental illness, active addiction or lack of motivation to give up those outside the relationship for the benefit of the primary relationship. As part of couples recovery we discuss the benefit of a proper full therapeutic disclosure.  If you missed the interview with Geoff Steurer MS LMFT this year, make sure to go back and listen.  We had an excellent discussion with Geoff on what a therapeutic disclosure is and the steps to prepare for one.  You can listen to that episode here. Show Notes: Dr. Jill Manning's rule of five and its criteria for determining readiness for couple therapy.  Home - Dr. Jill Manning (drjillmanning.com) Geoff Steurer episode on therapeutic disclosures:  https://anchor.fm/healingwithworth/episodes/35-Geoff-Steurer-MS-LMFT-on-Therapeutic-Disclosures-Part-1--Healing-with-WORTH-enah93
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July 01, 2021
#55: His Recovery. Part 2 of Hers, His, and Our Recovery | Healing with WORTH
Continuing our discussion on Mine, His, and Our Recovery, in this episode we talk about his recovery.  In the beginning of our own recovery journey, this was important for us to understand because we felt like we needed information and tools to be able to discern whether or not he was in recovery.  One important lesson we have learned is we cannot control or manage his recovery.   Listen as we discuss a list of ways to tell if he is working his own recovery from Rhyll Croshaw's book, "What Can I Do About Me?" Show Notes: This episode discussion stems from Rhyll Anne Croshaw's book "What Can I Do About Me?  To read or download the book you can find it on Amazon:  What Can I Do About Me?: Rhyll Anne Croshaw: 9780981957616: Amazon.com: Books
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June 24, 2021
#54: Her Recovery. Part 1 of Hers, His and Our Recovery | Healing with WORTH
On the podcast we talk about recovery all the time and we wanted to break it down and be more specific. Over the next 3 episodes we talk about what our recovery looks like as betrayed, what his recovery looks like as the betrayer or the addicted, and then what couple recovery looks like. These are three separate categories in this process that sometimes we want to lump all together under the umbrella of "recovery", and they really are distinct and separate categories.  In this episode we're going to start with our recovery and what that looks like, and give some specifics on what to look for. If you're wondering, am I in recovery or where am I in recovery, we hope that you find this episode helpful today.
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June 17, 2021
#53: How Moving From Isolation to Connection Helps In Your Recovery | Healing with WORTH
How can breaking free from isolation that betrayal can create, to connectiion help us heal? Brene Brown says, "I define connection as the energy that exists between people when they feel seen, heard, and valued when they can give and receive without judgment and when they derive sustenance and strength from the relationship."  We personally recognize that isolation is such a lonely place to be. One of the benefits of coming out of isolation into connection is that it really helps to combat the loneliness that you feel and to validate your experience and your feelings.  We have experienced healing and validation from sharing our story with others who can personally and deeply relate to you. Listen as we share our first steps into connecting with others and recovery groups that have helped us. Show notes: If you would like to find out more about joining a WORTH group you can learn more about us and enroll here
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June 10, 2021
# 52: Interview with Therapist Tammy Gustafson | Healing with WORTH
Tammy Gustafson, Licensed Professional Counselor with Live Free Counseling, joins us today on the podcast to share her personal story of betrayal and recovery and becoming a therapist and coach.  She has a particular passion for helping wives who've experienced sexual betrayal trauma heal and move forward. Tammy specializes in helping women heal from the bad things that happened to them so they can move forward in life with purpose, joy, and confidence.   Show Notes: For a free empowering gift from Tammy head to her website betrayalhealing.com Book Recommendations: Worthy of Her Trust: What You Need to Do to Rebuild Sexual Integrity and Win Her Back: Arterburn, Stephen, Martinkus, Jason B.: 9781601425362: Amazon.com: Books Rescued: Martinkus, Shelley S: 9780982638279: Amazon.com: Books
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June 03, 2021
#51 Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting and Manipulation with Jeff Ford MS LMFT Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
This episode is the second part of our interview with Jeff to discuss a topic he is very passionate about.  Over many years of working with men and women dealing with sex addiction, he is helping the women he works with individually and in group recognize the emotional abuse the sex addiction is causing in their relationship. Helping women break free of denial and recognize the emotional abuse, gas lighting and manipulation, women will then have questions of what do I do now and how do I move forward?  Now holding on to that reality, we need to learn how to set boundaries.  Group therapy plays a vital role in helping women with the guidance of a therapist and support of other women make those boundaries and learn how to keep them in their life.    We hope you enjoy this week's episode and stay tuned for part 2 coming next week. Jeff Ford MS, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in St. George, UT. Jeff specializes in treating pornography and sexual addiction. He also works with spouses and family members that are affected by addiction. If you would like to know more about Jeff or how to work with him you can contact him at https://aspirecounselinggroup.net/jeff-ford-ms-lmft/
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May 27, 2021
#50 Emotional Abuse, Gaslighting and Manipulation with Jeff Ford MS LMFT Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
Jeff Ford MS, LMFT is a Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist in private practice in St. George, UT. Jeff specializes in treating pornography and sexual addiction. He also works with spouses and family members that are affected by addiction.   We are honored to have Jeff with us today to discuss a topic he is very passionate about.  Over many years of working with men and women dealing with sex addiction, he is helping the women he works with individually and in group recognize the emotional abuse the sex addiction is causing in their relationship. Helping women break free of denial and recognize the emotional abuse, gas lighting and manipulation, women will then have questions of what do I do now and how do I move forward?  Now holding on to that reality, we need to learn how to set boundaries.  Group therapy plays a vital role in helping women with the guidance of a therapist and support of other women make those boundaries and learn how to keep them in their life.   We hope you enjoy this week's episode and stay tuned for part 2 coming next week. If you would like to know more about Jeff or how to work with him you can contact him at https://aspirecounselinggroup.net/jeff-ford-ms-lmft/
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May 20, 2021
#49 Somatic Experiencing and EMDR with Randi Gray. Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
Today's episode is the second part of our interview with licensed therapist Randi Gray on Somatic Experiencing and EMDR work in trauma recovery. At the end of 2020 we had a WORTH member come on the podcast and share how Somatic Experiencing helped her in her healing recovery.  This week we have Licensed therapist Randi Gray LCP, NCC on the podcast to discuss how Somatic Experiencing and EMDR can bring your recovery to the next level. Randi explains that Somatic Experiencing focuses on resolving fight flight and freeze responses that can sometimes can get trapped in our body during the initial traumatic experience.  This type of therapy allows for the completion of those self protective responses and release that energy, helping us move forward and take us to the next level of healing. Traumahealing.org states, "Somatic Experiencing® International is the leading authority on the SE™ method and is a major provider of training and educational programs. SE is a body-oriented therapeutic model that helps heal trauma and other stress disorders. Developed by Peter Levine, Ph.D., it is the result of the multidisciplinary study of stress physiology, psychology, ethology, biology, neuroscience, indigenous healing practices, and medical biophysics, with more than 45 years of successful clinical application." Show Notes and Resources: To learn more about Somatic Experiencing and find a therapist to work with: https://traumahealing.org/ For more information about EMDR and to find out if it would be helpful in your recovery you can learn more here To contact Randi Gray you can find her on her website at: https://www.randigraycounseling.com/ Or email her at: randigraycounseling@gmail.com
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May 13, 2021
#48 Somatic Experiencing and EMDR with Randi Gray LPC, NCC. Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
Today's episode is all about how to use a specialized form of therapy to release trauma from your body and bring your recovery to the next level. At the end of 2020 we had a WORTH member come on the podcast and share how Somatic Experiencing helped her in her healing recovery.  This week we have Licensed therapist Randi Gray LCP, NCC on the podcast to discuss how Somatic Experiencing and EMDR can bring your recovery to the next level. Randi explains that people generally use talk therapy to learn healthy coping skills where with EMDR and somatic experiencing you are doing deeper level of work, helping you access parts of your brain that stores trauma. Goodtherapy.org states "Somatic Experiencing® (SE™) was developed by Peter A. Levine, PhD to address the effects of trauma. Levine developed this approach after observing that prey animals, whose lives are routinely threatened in the wild, are able to recover readily by physically releasing the energy they accumulate during stressful events. Humans, on the other hand, often override these natural ways of regulating the nervous system with feelings of shame and pervasive thoughts, judgments, and fears. Somatic Experiencing aims to help people move past the place where they might be “stuck” in processing a traumatic event."
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May 06, 2021
#47 Reasons We May Fear Creating Safety Through Boundaries | Healing with WORTH
"What are you willing to sacrifice for your safety and well-being?"  In this follow up episode to creating safety through boundaries we discuss what fear we personally have had creating boundaries and what also may be holding you back.  Dr. Jill Manning shared with us in her interview in Episode 44 and 45, the top 5 barriers that hold us back from creating boundaries for ourselves. This list is from her 21 barriers that can be downloaded on her website (link in show notes).  In this episode we go through her top 5 barriers and relate them to our own personal experience in our relationships.   People Pleasing Low Self-Esteem Depression Comfort Concern's For Your Children Not Ready Show Notes: https://drjillmanning.com/product-category/all/free-printables/
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April 29, 2021
#43 Interview with TC and Jon Jolley. Story of hope after betrayal. Part 3 | Healing with WORTH
This is the final episode of a 3 part interview.  At the beginning of this year we shared with you that we really wanted to have stories of hope from couples who have both worked their recovery through betrayal trauma and addiction.  Make sure to listen to the first parts in Episodes 41 and 42 before listening to this episode.  In this episode TC and Jon Jolley share where they are today and how they got involved in producing a video of their story on the church's website.  To watch that video you can find it here: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/manual/help-for-spouses/stories-of-hope/god-supports-us?lang=eng They were so gracious to share their time with us and their story of betrayal, addiction, and today their beautiful message of hope and healing.  We have turned their story into a three part series for you.   https://www.facebook.com/search/top?q=worth%20-%20women%20of%20rebirth%20and%20therapeutic%20healing @healingwithworth6
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April 01, 2021
#42 Interview with TC and Jon Jolley. Story of hope after betrayal. Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
This is part 2 of a 3 part interview.  Make sure to listen to the first part in Episode 41 before listening to this one.  At the beginning of this year we shared with you that we really wanted to have stories of hope from couples who have both worked their recovery through betrayal trauma and addiction. In this episode TC and Jon Jolley share what their separation period was like for each of them. They were so gracious to share their time with us and their story of betrayal, addiction, and today their beautiful message of hope and healing.  We have turned their story into a three part series for you.  Please listen to next weeks episode to hear their complete story. https://www.facebook.com/search/top?q=worth%20-%20women%20of%20rebirth%20and%20therapeutic%20healing @healingwithworth6
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March 25, 2021
#41 Interview with TC and Jon Jolley. Story of hope after betrayal. Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
At the beginning of this year we shared with you that we really wanted to have stories of hope from couples who have both worked their recovery through betrayal trauma and addiction. We are so grateful to introduce our first couple sharing their message of hope with you.  TC and Jon Jolley were so gracious to share their time with us and their story of betrayal, addiction, and today their beautiful message of hope and healing.  We have turned their story into a three part series for you.  Please listen in the next two weeks to hear their complete story. In this first part TC and Jon share their story from each of their perspectives on what they went through from Jon's first disclosure and the aftermath of all that was brought to light.
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March 18, 2021
#40 Interview with Dr Adam Moore. How to heal from trauma. Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
We are happy to share part 2 of our interview with Dr Adam Moore.  Dr. Moore is a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-owner of Sila health, which operates mental health counseling offices in Utah and Nevada.  He also hosts a mental health podcast called Pocket Therapist, and has been a guest on dozens of other podcasts. He is a relationship and mental health expert and specializes in treating compulsive pornography use. Listen as we discuss the process of healing from trauma and what we need to go through in order to heal through "neural network rewiring". How do boundaries help us heal from trauma? How do we work through our triggers when we live with the person causing them? How do we prepare our own children for marriage one day knowing what we know about pornography and how pervasive it is in our culture To find out more about Adam and his work you can find him at: https://adammmoore.com/ Show Notes: Dan Solen https://utahvalleycounseling.com/blog/therapists/daniel-solen/
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March 11, 2021
#39 Interview with Dr Adam Moore. Healing from trauma Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
We were honored to have Doctor Adam Moore on the podcast!  Dr. Moore is a licensed marriage and family therapist and co-owner of Sila health, which operates mental health counseling offices in Utah and Nevada.  He also hosts a mental health podcast called Pocket Therapist, and has been a guest on dozens of other podcasts. He is a relationship and mental health expert and specializes in treating compulsive pornography use.   Listen as we discuss the process of healing from trauma and what we need to go through in order to heal through "neural network rewiring".   How long will it take to heal from trauma?   How do we know if we are healing from trauma?  Adam explains that a sign that we are working through our trauma and healing is that we can be presented with events that usually trigger us and have a different response. To find out more about Adam and his work you can find him at: https://adammmoore.com/ Show Notes:  Studies show that married women are more likely to experience trauma symptoms than single women who's partners have a compulsive problem with pornography.   Susan Johnson EFT https://drsuejohnson.com/
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March 04, 2021
#38 Physical Intimacy Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
In this second part of the conversation of Physical Intimacy we discuss what our beliefs are today around sexuality and some of the boundaries we have in place to have safety. We want to point out that safety involves much more than physical safety. It involves spiritual, emotional, and mental.  All types of safety are necessary to be established before you reach the connection of physical. If those other types of safety aren't established we are missing trust in the relationship which is a foundational part of a relationship. Trust is the groundwork for relationships to build any kind of connection on. Show Notes: Jason Carroll: BYU Professor, Department of Family Life https://fhssfaculty.byu.edu/FacultyPage/jc32 Laura Brotherson: Agency, Change and Sex https://maritalintimacyinst.com/wp-content/uploads/Agency-Change-and-Sex.pdf  
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February 18, 2021
#37 Physical Intimacy After Betrayal Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
This week we discuss how betrayal in a relationship affects physical intimacy as well as what physical intimacy can look like in a healthy relationship. Physical intimacy is a very complicated issue when addiction and pornography is present in a marriage. It's a very individual matter how you decide to share or not share physical touch and intimacy with your spouse. Safety is a very high priority and that's really determined by each woman in each circumstance.  What applies to us may not feel it applies to our listeners, but we are hoping that we can have a great discussion on some principles to help guide our listeners through this really sensitive topic and hopefully that will help you to get clear on some of the boundaries that you may need to implement in your own life. We really encourage you to listen to your gut, listen to things that really resonate with you and feel good in moving forward in this area. Notes: Quote: Dr. Terry Olson, "Chastity and fidelity are more than just sexual abstinence before marriage and physical fidelity after marriage. This is because human sexuality is not simply a physical matter. As the world invites us to believe chastity and fidelity begin in the spirit, not the body and involve the giving of our hearts are broken. Hearts are softened hearts to our mates. Unequivocally." M. Russell Ballard's talk: The Lord Needs You Now!: https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2015/09/the-lord-needs-you-now?lang=eng Episode on Healthy Sexuality with Jeanne Vattuone: https://anchor.fm/healingwithworth/episodes/Healing-with-WORTH-Healthy-Sexuality-with-Jeanne-Vattuone-Mini-Series-on-Abuse-7-emak0u
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February 11, 2021
Abuse Mini Series #9: Licensed Clinicians Kim Day and Geoff Steurer Discuss Abuse Model | Healing with WORTH
Today's episode is from an episode on Geoff Steurer LMFT The Illuminate podcast with one of our WORTH clinicians Kimberly Day LMHCA.  https://anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast/episodes/Confronting-abuse-in-marriage---Kimberly-Day---Episode-74-enjsj4 Geoff's show notes: "In this episode I interview Kimberly Day, LMHCA, about how to better diagnose and confront abuse in marriage. Kim says that when we think of betrayal trauma and really understand the dynamics of a relationship when one partner is addicted to porn or sex, it's important to look at all abuse dynamics to get a complete picture. Abuse is an important and often underappreciated dimension in a multi-dimensional problem. Download the graph that corresponds with this episode (https://geoff-steurer.mykajabi.com/abuse-download?preview_theme_id=3204962) and you'll see that one axis is our typical 'addict-mode' behaviors: acting out, lying, even gaslighting (even though that is abuse), etc.- these are behaviors that rise out of the compulsions to act out, keep it secret, addict-mode thought distortions, etc.  Along this axis is where most all addiction and betrayal trauma is assessed and treated. But there is another dimension that helps us explain and more deeply understand and support a lot of people - that is the dimension of the Abusive Attitudes and Beliefs held by the addicted partner, including entitlement and superiority, out of which abuses of power and control, objectification of family members, and other forms of dehumanizing treatment arise. These are the underlying currents of devaluing and dehumanizing the partner that are the source of a lot of trauma, though they are very rarely fully recognized or addressed. This perspective/model helps us to explain some of the confusion that both practitioners and partners experience when the "acting out" is dealt with, but the treatment toward the partner does not improve. In this episode, we dialogue around what it might look like in each of the four quadrants and how the experience and the sources of trauma and safety/lack of safety may be different in each. We contrast the "Acting out High/Abusive Attitudes Low" quadrant from the "Acting out Low/Abusive Attitudes High"- this type of differentiation is what Kim believes is being missed when we blanket cover all addiction as abuse, or when we ignore so many other forms of abuse and clump them all into addict-mode behavior." Download the chart here: https://geoff-steurer.mykajabi.com/abuse-download?preview_theme_id=3204962
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January 28, 2021
#36 Geoff Steurer MS LMFT on Therapeutic Disclosures Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
This is the second part of an interview of Geoff Steurer MS, LMFT on therapeutic disclosures.   A full therapeutic disclosure is: "As detailed as you need it to be, including the truth about all sexual behaviors past and present. Accompanied by professional care for you before, during, and after the disclosure." www.btr.org Show Notes: Formal Disclosure Documents by Mary A. Lee LMFT , CSAT-S "Disclosing Secrets:  An Addicts Guide For When, To Whom, And How Much To Reveal" by M Deborah Corley Ph.D. and Jennifer P Schneider M.D. "Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal: Volume 1: How Disclosure Can Help You Heal" by Dan Drake and Janice Caudill To find Geoff and access his work or online courses you can reach him at:  https://www.geoffsteurer.com/ or on his podcast The Illuminate https://anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast
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January 21, 2021
#35 Geoff Steurer MS LMFT on Therapeutic Disclosures Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
We were fortunate to have Geoff Steurer, Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist come on the podcast to discuss therapeutic disclosures.  A full therapeutic disclosure is: "As detailed as you need it to be, including the truth about all sexual behaviors past and present. Accompanied by professional care for you before, during, and after the disclosure." www.btr.org Listen as he answers our questions: How long the therapeutic disclosure process should take What if you feel not everything was disclosed in the first disclosure When is the right time to have a therapeutic disclosure  We are so grateful to Geoff, for his expertise, for the work he is doing to help marriages heal, and his validation to us. Show notes: "The research shows that over 90% of people who complete a full therapeutic disclosure and end up staying together.   It's an act of healing, a gesture of contrition, of humility, of trying to rebuild trust and it's worth doing." To contact Geoff or to learn more about him head to his website: www.geoffsteurer.com Geoff's Podcast "The Illuminate": https://anchor.fm/illuminate-podcast
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January 14, 2021
#34 Message of Hope for 2021 | Healing with WORTH
With the start of the New Year we wanted to share some exciting interviews we have coming up .  We will be having therapists Dr. Adam Moore, Geoff Streurer, and Dr. Jill Manning on the show.  We are so grateful to them and their willingness to come share their expertise on betrayal trauma with us.   Look for those to be released in the upcoming weeks ahead. We also wanted to share a message of hope to all of you.  Hope that whatever has brought you here that you will be able to rebuild your life "brick by brick" into something more than you could ever imagine. We are so grateful to you for listening and going on this journey.  If you have anything you would like us to discuss or potential guest requests we would love to hear from you!  Email us at worth@lifechangingservices.org
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January 07, 2021
Teen WORTH #11: Interview with teens on their experience with their own fathers' betrayal | Healing with WORTH
With the holidays here we wanted to share some of our past favorite episodes with you in case you missed it or would like to take a second listen.  This episode was previously released on 9/3/20.  We were so impressed with the vulnerability and strength of these girls to share what they have learned and how they have grown through the Teen WORTH program and how it's helped their families. To learn more about Teen WORTH head to our website:  https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/teen-worth/ 
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December 30, 2020
#33 Holiday Self-Compassion | Healing with WORTH
With Christmas and New Year's around the corner, there are a lot of things that we do in a family dynamic, that often during this time when you are experiencing so many emotions around betrayal that bring up a lot of mixed emotions. We wanted to put out an episode to offer some validation, share some of our experiences, and some of the ways that we've coped and dealt with some of these emotions that come around the holidays when you are in this situation. Wising that all of you may find some peace this Christmas Holiday season.
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December 22, 2020
#32 Reflections on 2020. What we learned this year, gratitudes and favorite episodes | Healing with WORTH
Hosts Naomi and Janeen reflect on this past year, favorite episodes, and their takeaway of their personal growth from 2020.  We hope this will inspire you to go back and listen to some of the previous episodes you may not have heard yet. Thank you for listening and supporting us in our journey to help all women and especially women with betrayal trauma.  If you have anything you would like to hear us talk about, questions, interview requests you can reach out to us at worth@lifechangingservices.org Previous episodes mentioned in this episode: Stop Gaslighting And The Crazy Making In Your Life (Exclusive Interview) | Episode 13 listen here The Truth Behind Gaslighting (Exclusive Interview) | Episode 14 listen here Teen WORTH. Interview with teens on their experience with their own parents' betrayal | Episode 25 listen here WORTH YSA. Interview with Betrayal Trauma Coach Amie Woolsey| Episode 20 listen here Healing with WORTH: Somatic Experiencing in healing from betrayal trauma | Episode 31 listen here
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December 17, 2020
#31 Somatic Experiencing in healing from betrayal trauma | Healing with WORTH
WORTH mentor Kara joins us this week to discuss Somatic experiencing and how it can be beneficial to our listeners journey in healing.  Kara is a volunteer for WORTH.  She is involved in the development of a psychoeducational class, the mentor groups and sister in arms program for Life Changing Services. Kara is a latter day Saint and a mother of four. What is somatic experiencing?  How can Somatic Experiencing help in our recovery journey with betrayal trauma?  Somatic Experiencing is used for trauma in the short term and for developmental trauma as an adjunct to psychotherapy that may span years. Somatic Experiencing attempts to promote awareness and release physical tension that remains in the aftermath of trauma.  https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Somatic_experiencing#:~:text=Somatic%20Experiencing%20is%20used%20for,in%20the%20aftermath%20of%20trauma. Show notes: Awakening The Tiger by Peter A. Levine https://www.amazon.com/Waking-Tiger-Healing-Peter-Levine/dp/155643233X The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk M.D. https://www.amazon.com/s?k=the+body+keeps+the+score&i=stripbooks&crid=3EJYWE85A0USS&sprefix=the+body+%2Cstripbooks%2C297&ref=nb_sb_ss_ts-a-p_1_9
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December 10, 2020
Abuse Mini Series #8: Recognizing and Responding to Destructive and Abusive Relationship Patterns with Kimberly Day | Healing with WORTH
Recognizing and Responding to Destructive and Abusive Relationship Patterns: A Stay by the Tree webinar special In this episode of our special Stay By the Tree series, we are joined by clinician Kim Day, LMHCA, CCPS. Kim tackles a very delicate topic by being open and straightforward as she talks to women. She talks about people's ways of thinking, behaviors that can be destructive to a marriage, and setting healthy boundaries. To find out more about Mother's Who Know and the free services they provide head to their website: https://motherswhoknow.org/?fbclid=IwAR2CBXNw4FsaOmb3NNpxb0bD98SsYJbPBXpMsDBLVH_9S5AzIdPc-Z2-wf0 Talk Referenced in this episode is from a BYU devotional by Lili Anderson, Three Realms of Law, Light and Life. https://video.byui.edu/media/Lili+Anderson+%22Three+Realms+of+Law%2C+Light%2C+and+Life%22/0_k2l3a4f2
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December 03, 2020
Bonus #10: Finding Strength Amidst Challenges with Alana Gordon LMFT-I | Healing with WORTH
This episode is from a presentation WORTH director Alana Gordon LMFT-I gave on the Mothers Who Know Stay By The Tree Webinar Series. Mothers Who Know, founded by Karen Broadhead, is an online community where mothers support other mothers and learn how to protect children against pornography.  To learn more about them and find out how to sign up for their free online classes head to their website: https://motherswhoknow.org/ You can follow Mothers Who Know on social media: https://www.facebook.com/MothersWhoKnow.LCS https://www.instagram.com/mothers_whoknow/
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November 19, 2020
#30 How to practice self care during Covid-19. Interview with Jody VanDrimmelin | Healing with WORTH
By now you and your family have been home for 7 very long months.  This added pressure of helping kids with distance learning or home schooling and possibly working and doing school themselves has added to many women's plate during 2020.  For women with betrayal trauma struggling to find the time to take care of yourself is already difficult, how do you practice self care during covid?  How do you make the time to even do this?  One of our wonderful WORTH therapists Jody VanDrimmelen, MSW, LCSW came to speak on the podcast about the topic of self care and gives us great tools and tips how to make this is a priority during this time of working from home, school from home, church at home, and even therapy at home!   We learned so much from this episode and hope that you will be able to take these tips and start working on just one at a time to care of you today. You can learn more about Jody and the work she does in and out of WORTH at https://www.ldscounselordfw.com/
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November 05, 2020
#29 Grief. What role does grieving play in betrayal trauma? Part 2 | Healing with WORTH
This episode is a continuation of Episode 28.  We recommend you listen to that episode first then come back and listen to this one.  In this episode we will continue the conversation how grief affects us in betrayal trauma with the stages of anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance.  When you discover the sexual betrayal of your primary attachment, it plunges you into pain, loss and grief. The losses are extensive and can shake the foundation of trust for everyone and everything, even God. The trauma and feelings that can ensue parallels the sudden loss of a loved one.  If you are needing support and connection we invite you to enroll in a WORTH group:  http://healingwithworth.org/
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October 29, 2020
Bonus #9: Roxanne Kennedy Granata, author of Cutting Ties | Healing with WORTH
The audio for this bonus episode is from a previous webinar in WORTH with Roxanne Kennedy Granta.  We were so grateful to have her come and speak with us and for her graciousness to allow us to share her story with you today. Roxanne is the host of the podcast "Choose In".  She shares personal life experiences with her audience to connect in an open, honest, and vulnerable way. With over 1,000 hours of study, counseling, mentor groups, and facilitating 12-step partner groups, she has become a specialist in navigating through Betrayal trauma. She is the Author of Cutting Ties – Healing Betrayal Trauma as the Spouse of an Addict, Host of the Choose In Podcast, Motivational Speaker with over 15 years of experience, and a personal Mentor for those ready to uncover what is holding them back. She guides you to see your reality with truth so you can choose healing and move forward in life becoming the best version of yourself. “Go from, I don’t know what to do, to taking action and get your life back.” To reach Roxanne or to listen to her podcast:  https://www.roxannekennedygranata.com/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/RKennedycuttingties Instagram:  @roxannekennedygranata https://www.instagram.com/roxannekennedygranata/?hl=en
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October 22, 2020
#28 Grief. What role does grieving play in betrayal trauma. Part 1 | Healing with WORTH
This episode is the first of a two part episode.   When you discover the sexual betrayal of your primary attachment, it plunges you into pain, loss and grief. The losses are extensive and can shake the foundation of trust for everyone and everything, even God. The trauma and feelings that can ensue parallels the sudden loss of a loved one.  Listen as we discuss the stages of grief; shock, denial, obsession, and anger.  The second part of this episode will be released later this month. If you are in need of support we invite you to enroll in one of our free therapeutic led support groups:  http://healingwithworth.org/
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October 15, 2020
Abuse Mini Series #6: Financial Abuse | Healing with WORTH
In this continued discussion on the topic of abuse in domestic relationships, therapists Kimberly Day LMHCA and Alana Gordon LMFT-I discuss financial abuse and what that may look like in a relationship. Financial abuse may be hard to recognize in a domestic relationship.  It is defined as the withholding of funds, controlling one's ability to make money or have access to the family funds.  Listen as we discuss the signs of financial abuse. If you are in a difficult relationship where you may see signs of abuse and unsure what steps to take the National Domestic Hotline can help!   Please call 1-800-799-SAFE
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October 08, 2020
#27 Your Questions Answered #2 | Healing with WORTH
Hosts Naomi and Janeen respond to questions from listeners.   How do I move on from my unsalvageable marriage? How can I request a therapeutic disclosure if my husband's therapist is recommending against doing one? We love hearing what you would like us to talk about on the podcast.  You can email us at worth@lifechangingservices.org or message us on social media. instagram: @healingwithworth6 facebook:  WORTH - Women of Rebirth and Therapeutic Healing
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October 01, 2020
Bonus #8: Finding Power To Faithfully Move Forward | Healing with WORTH
This episode is from a previously recorded webinar by divorce life coach Amie Woolsey.   When trials present themselves we often feel powerless in these difficult circumstances. How can we access the power within, and the power from Christ when I'm feeling so overwhelmed? Is it possible to view our circumstances differently and how can we access that power to keep moving forward? Listen as Amie shares a few tools and perspectives that have helped her in her healing journey by discovering her power and the power of Christ to move forward. If you would like to work with Amie she can be reached at Amie@Chooserecoveryservices.com To learn more about WORTH and to enroll in one of our free therapist facilitated support groups, head to our website at: http://healingwithworth.org/
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September 24, 2020
#26 Setting Boundaries With Bishops Or Other Ecclesiastical Leader | Healing with WORTH
Today’s episode is going to encompass the topic of bishops and boundaries. If you are listening to this and you are not a member of the church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints. A bishop is the head of a congregation. He is asked to be in charge of affairs of a small congregation. This episode is mostly going to discuss how to have boundaries when going to any ecclesiastical leader to discuss this issue so you don’t encounter additional trauma. To enroll in one of our therapist facilitated peer support groups for married and divorced women experiencing betrayal trauma due to a spouse's pornography use, sexual addiction, and/or sexual acting out head to our website: http://healingwithworth.org/
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September 17, 2020
Bonus #7: Recovery Model With Alana Gordon | Healing with WORTH
This week's episode is a recording from a class taught in WORTH.  Alana Gordon director of the WORTH group and therapist for Life Changing Services teaches about the recovery model and what that looks like for a man working recovery and the woman in her healing journey.   To join one of our free therapist led support groups you can enroll here:  http://healingwithworth.org/ For more information on our Teen WORTH program mentioned in our episode:  https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/teen-worth/
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September 10, 2020
Teen WORTH #25: Interview with teens on their experience with their own parents' betrayal | Healing with WORTH
Two young women come on the podcast with our Teen WORTH coach Hali to share their raw and emotional experience discovering their father's betrayal.  This is a very emotional and powerful episode hearing how betrayal has affected their life.  After listening you may want to share this episode with your own teens who may be aware of your situation.  It's difficult to know how to much to share and how this may be affecting them.    To enroll in one of our WORTH programs and find out more about Teen WORTH:  https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/teen-worth/ If you have any questions about any of our programs or have questions you would like us to answer on a future episode you may email us at:  worth@lifechangingservices.org
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September 03, 2020
Abuse Mini Series #5: Physical Abuse | Healing with WORTH
In this week's episode Janeen continues the discussion of abuse with the physical aspect with therapists Kimberly Day and Alana Gordon.   What we have learned is,  the victims aren't always aware that they are being physically abused as the affects of this type of abuse are not always manifest in really overt or overtly injurious type of incidents.  Kim and Alana discuss the questions what do you do if you are in a physically abusive relationship? How can you give yourself permission to reach out for help when you're married with a partner who is particularly prone to violence. If you need help  please reach out to the National Domestic Violence hotline.  You can chat with someone online at https://www.thehotline.org/ or call 1-800-799-7233
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August 27, 2020
#24 Listener Question. "How Do I Know If I Am Making Progress?" | Healing with WORTH
This episode is from a listener question: How do I know if I am making progress?  The hosts discuss their healing journey and looking back on where they were and how far they have come and discuss tools that you can use to gauge your own recovery and where you are at today?  Do you have a question you would like us to answer on the podcast?  Email us at worth@lifechangingservices.org To learn more about our WORTH groups and the programs we offer head to our website at http://healingwithworth.org/ For a free copy of the book "Like Dragons Did They Fight" by Maurice Harker:  https://www.lifechangingservices.org/freebook/
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August 20, 2020
Bonus #6: Back to Basics. My Battle Plan For Betrayal Trauma | Healing with WORTH
This bonus episode is from a class previously recorded in WORTH taught by one of our Betrayal Trauma Coaches Ashly.   Ashly shares with us tools that help with the effects of betrayal trauma.  Listen as she relates the scriptures to how boundaries, self care and relying on the Lord are all things that help us in our times of need. If you are interested in working with Ashly as a betrayal trauma coach you can contact her at Ashly@chooserecoveryservices.com or book with her at choose.clientsecure.me For more information about our Men of Moroni program for men struggling with sexual addiction and acting out of the marriage you can head to the Men of Moroni website at:  https://lifechangingservices.online/menofmoroni/
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August 13, 2020
#23 Trust | Healing with WORTH
Trust is the foundation of the relationship between romantic partners. When addiction appears, it can wear down trust over time or shatter it all at once.  The hosts discuss how to distinguish between forgiveness and trust, what trust may look like before a partner is in recovery and after recovery, and how long the process takes for husbands to rebuild it depending on where they are at.   Hosts discuss concepts from Brene Brown in her book "Daring Greatly".  To join one of our therapeutic led groups for betrayal trauma head to our website https://lifechangingservices.online/worth/
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August 06, 2020
Abuse Mini Series #4: Spiritual Abuse | Healing with WORTH
WORTH therapists Kimberly Day LMHCA, CCPS and Alana Gordon MFT-I, discuss the aspect of Spiritual abuse in a relationship and give us tools to decipher if you may be experiencing this in your relationship. What does it look like, feel like when it's right?  What does it look like, feel like when it's off?  How to tell the difference between spiritual abuse or if our partner is having an opinion different than our own. If you would like to join one of our free therapist facilitated peer support groups for married and divorced women experiencing betrayal trauma due to a spouse's pornography use, sexual addiction, and/or sexual acting out head to our website http://healingwithworth.org/
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July 30, 2020
Bonus #5: Dietary Wellness In Recovery | Healing with WORTH
This bonus episode is from a class taught in WORTH where we discussed a holistic approach to healing trauma in your body and how trauma affects our body. If you would like to join one of our free therapy facilitated support groups you can find out more and enroll at http://healingwithworth.org/ To learn more about our WORTH YSA and enroll in our class http://healingwithworth.org/
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July 23, 2020
#22 Why Does Forgiveness Matter In Recovery? | Healing with WORTH
Do you have inner turmoil and conflict around the concept of forgiveness? In this episode, we talk about our experiences with forgiveness. We talk about why we chose to forgive, the benefits of forgiveness, how it is complicated in addiction, and what forgiveness is not. We know first hand how forgiveness is a delicate topic that creates confusion, pain, and even guilt for partners who’ve been betrayed and traumatized by the addict in their life.  We can relate, the pain is real.  So tune in today! 
48:30
July 16, 2020
Abuse Mini Series #3: Therapists Discuss Different Lenses Of Abuse | Healing with WORTH
Therapists Maurice W. Harker, CMHC and Kimberly Day MHCA join Healing with WORTH host Naomi to discuss litmus tests to know the intent of your partner.  They make the very important point that whether or not a partner is intending to harm and abuse, the pain is still real and needs to be addressed.   To learn more what Life Changing Services has to offer head to our website:  https://www.lifechangingservices.org/ To join a therapist led support group for your betrayal trauma head to:  http://healingwithworth.org/
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July 09, 2020
#21 At Last, The Secret To Escaping The Drama Is Revealed | Healing with WORTH
Did you know there is a way out of the drama triangle? In this episode, we reveal the secret and how it has made a huge impact on our recovery. The Dreaded Drama Triangle (DDT)™ is a toxic interplay of three distinct roles; Persecutor, Victim, and Rescuer, which was first articulated by Dr. Stephen Karpman in the 1960s (and known as the Karpman Drama Triangle). In this episode, we Briefly explain what the Drama Triangle is; why it is important in our recovery work; and how to get out. If you want to listen to a Ted talk that is mentioned in the episode here is the link  https://www.ted.com/talks/lucy_barnes_the_dreaded_drama_triangle To sign up for our WORTH YSA class for single women 18+ you can register here: http://healingwithworth.org/  You can participate in our WORTH YSA giveaway by sharing and commenting on our facebook post about WORTH YSA: https://www.facebook.com/HealingwithWORTH/?ref=bookmarks or on Instagram @healingwithworth6 https://www.instagram.com/healingwithworth6/
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July 02, 2020
#20 WORTH YSA. Interview with Betrayal Trauma Coach Amie Woolsey | Healing with WORTH
Amie had been married for 18 years before she came to understand why her marriage was falling apart. Her ex-husband's addictions and abuse had caused enough damage, it was time to heal. During her healing process she wanted to understand more, not only about betrayal trauma but about pornography addiction itself.  This led to a passionate search for knowledge and truth surrounding this plague.  Her search led her to Life Changing Services where she immediately knew she had to be a part of this company and this important work. Under the direction of Alana Gordon she wrote the WORTH-YSA course for single women and is passionate about helping to educate and empower women in this day where the rules of dating has changed due to the pervasive nature of pornography.  She has seen so much value in learning tools and gaining understanding that allows women to make better choices for themselves and gain a sense of greater individual worth. She is life coach,  a betrayal trauma coach and a WORTH group mentor for both Life Changing Services and Choose Recovery Services. She is passionate about helping women find hope and healing through their own journey. If you would like to work with Amie you can reach her here: https://choose.clientsecure.me/ https://www.lifechangingservices.org/lifecoaches/amie-woolsey/
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June 25, 2020
Bonus #4: Miracles During Turbulent Times With Betrayal Trauma Coach Amie Woolsey | Healing with WORTH
Amie shares with us her story of finding miracles during the most turbulent time of her life.  Listen as Amie shares how reading scriptures and truly listening helped her find answers to her earnest prayers.  When there seemed no possible way, a path was made before her and she was able to find peace and safety. Amie Woolsey is a Betrayal Trauma Coach and also a teacher for WORTH YSA a class taught to women 18 and up.  This is a 12-week class for women 18+ to learn about how pornography affects relationships, what healthy recovery looks like, what healthy intimacy consists of, warning signs of abuse, red flags, setting healthy boundaries and more. If you would like to learn more about WORTH YSA or connect with Amie you can find us at: http://healingwithworth.org/
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June 18, 2020
#19 Packing Your Wagon an Exclusive Interview with Maurice W. Harker, CMHC | Healing with WORTH
Healing and recovery often take a while, Maurice uses the analogy of "Packing Your Wagon" to help women prepare for the long journey ahead.  Maurice W. Harker, CMHC, is the originator and Director of Life Changing Services. Life Changing Services has grown into a nation-wide service provider with over 35 clinicians, along with many mentors, and life coaches working together to serve over 1,000 clients per week. He is the originator of  Sons of Helaman, and Men of Moroni, sexual self-mastery training programs.  These programs have helped thousands of youth and men recover from pornography addiction and other sexual related issues. He is also the originator of the WORTH Group (serving women in Betrayal Trauma). Maurice is the author of Like Dragons Did They Fight – a synergy of eternal principles and accurate science for personal self-mastery.  He is also the author of I’m Not Okay, You’re Not Okay, And That’s Okay, a book on healing and building healthy relationships. He is the author of And the Man Knew His Wife, a book designed to help couples improve the quality of their marital intimacy. To download a free copy of Like Dragons Did They Fight:  https://www.lifechangingservices.org/freebook/ Maurice specializes in providing therapeutic services with interventions that accurately synchronize effective psychological science with eternal principles.  He is most known and sought after for the work he does with individuals and couples who have been traumatized by sexual misbehavior.
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June 11, 2020
Abuse Mini Series #2: Webinar-Manipulative Tactics of Addicts With Clinician Kimberly Day. Your Questions Answered | Healing with WORTH
Clinician Kimberly Day is back with a webinar on abuse addressing listener questions. There is a common disbelief that if a spouse is not a monster then we must not be dealing with abusive behavior. Kim helps us understand how to view the abusive behavior to evaluate the impact, interaction, and intent of a spouse.   We discuss the following questions and more:   Now that we can recognize these behaviors what do we do with this information?   How do we not accept the abusive messages or behavior and not  internalize those messages? If you have questions for future episodes for this mini series on abuse please email us at:  worth@lifechangingservices.org You can follow us for more content on social media: Facebook:  WORTH - Women of Rebirth and Therapeutic Healing Instagram:  @healingwithworth6
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June 04, 2020
#18 How to break the cycle of pornography use for future generations? Interview with Kristen Jenson from Protect Young Minds | Healing with WORTH
It's not about having the best filters or filling their head with information. It's about capturing the heart and minds of those we love that will break the cycle of addiction for future generations. This episode was inspired by a listener question: Knowing what we know now and what we have faced, how can we help educate others and break the cycle for future generations? We reached out to Kristen A. Jenson, author of Good Pictures Bad Pictures; Porn Proofing Today’s Young, and Good Pictures Bad Pictures Jr. and founder of ProtectYoungMinds.org to engage in a conversation about our listener’s question. Here is a link to Kristen's website www.ProtectYoungMinds.org for more information and FREE parenting guides to help parents and other caring adults protect kids from pornography’s influence. Website/books:  https://protectyoungminds.org/books/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/ProtectYM/ Instagram: @protectyoungminds Twitter: @ProtectYM
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May 27, 2020
Bonus #3: Finding Healing in Connections | Healing with WORTH
Today's bonus episode comes from one of our psychoeducational classes offered to members of WORTH.  Hali teaches how finding connections in body, spirit and social interactions and finding time to be still can help us in our healing. To join a free therapeutic facilitated WORTH group you can find us at http://healingwithworth.org/ For more content you can follow us on  Facebook: WORTH - Women of Rebirth and Therapeutic Healing   Instagram:  @healingwithworth6 If you have any questions or would like to share any comments about today's episodes you can email us at worth@lifechangingservices.org
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May 21, 2020
Abuse Mini Series #1: Hidden Abuse Within Addiction | Identifying signs of abuse from a partner with clinician Kimberly Day | Healing with WORTH
We are beginning a mini series within the podcast surrounding Domestic Abuse.  WORTH Clinician Kimberly Day, explains the difference between the behavior of an addict and the behavior of domestic abuse.  Listen as our host Janeen, and WORTH director Alana Gordon introduce this special audio recorded by Kimberly on the potential signs of abuse in a relationship.   We would love to hear your thoughts on this topic and any questions you may have.  Please email us at worth@lifechangingservices.org.   You may follow us for more uplifting and inspiring content: Instgram:  @healingwithworth6  Facebook:  WORTH - Women of Rebirth and Therapeutic Healing  Twitter: @HealingWORTH
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May 07, 2020
#16 Your Gaslighter Doesn't Want You to Learn How to Turn Off the Gas--PART 2 | Healing with WORTH
Gaslighting is a response to stress; people become either gaslighters or gaslightees when they feel threatened.  Are you stuck in the Gaslight Tango?  In all likelihood, both of you have Gaslight Triggers, situations that start you dancing.  In this episode we discuss the last 3 ways to turn off the gas: Identify Your GaslightTriggers, and His.  Focus on Feelings instead of "Right" or 'Wrong." Remember That You Can't Control Anyone's Opinion--Even if you're right! These five points come from the book The Gaslighting Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life by Dr. Robin Stern We would love to hear your thoughts on this topic and any questions you may have.  Please email us at worth@lifechangingservices.org. You may follow us for more uplifting and inspiring content: Instagram:  @healingwithworth6 Facebook:  WORTH - Women of Rebirth and Therapeutic Healing Twitter: @HealingWORTH
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April 30, 2020
Bonus #2: What is a Full Therapeutic Disclosure? With directors Alana and Luke Gordon | Healing With WORTH
This bonus episode is from a class taught by various members in WORTH.  The class we have chosen to share with you today on Therapeutic Disclosures is taught by our director Alana Gordon along with her husband Luke.  We wanted to give you a sample of one of the great resources we have in WORTH for our members.  The audio has been edited to protect the privacy of all participants of the class.  Alana and her husband Luke discuss the purpose of a full therapeutic disclosure, weighing the pros and cons and walk us through the process. Disclosures can give us the informed decision to choose to stay in a relationship.  The disclosure process has been shown to be beneficial to the majority of people, but each person should come in with their idea of why they're doing the disclosure and how it can be helpful to the relationship. To join one of our support groups for betrayal trauma or to find out more what WORTH has to offer head to our website: http://healingwithworth.org/ If you have any questions for us about our program or things you would like us to discuss on future episodes you may email us at:  worth@lifechangingservices.org
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April 23, 2020
#15 Your Gaslighter Doesn't Want You to Learn How to Turn Off the Gas--PART 1 | Healing with WORTH
Have you ever been in a conversation where you are constantly second-guessing yourself; your feelings, your perceptions, your memories and by the end of the conversation you think you are going crazy?  If yes, you are being gaslighted. Did you know that there are 5 ways to turn off the gas in gaslighting?  In this episode we will explore the first two ways to turn off the gas: (1) Sort out truth from distortion (2) Decide if the conversation is a power struggle. If it is, opt-out. The hosts explain how gaslighting affects your brain. They give tips on how to stop idealizing your gaslighter and how to start thinking for yourself. They teach you how to recognize a power struggle and then disengage. They discuss how to recognize a genuine conversation from an abusive one.  These five points come from the book The Gaslighting Effect: How to Spot and Survive the Hidden Manipulation Others Use to Control Your Life by Dr. Robin Stern We would love to hear your thoughts on this topic and any questions you may have.  Please email us at worth@lifechangingservices.org. You may follow us for more uplifting and inspiring content: Instgram:  @healingwithworth6 Facebook:  WORTH - Women of Rebirth and Therapeutic Healing Twitter: @HealingWORTH
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April 16, 2020
#14 The Truth Behind Gaslighting (Exclusive Interview) | Healing with WORTH
Luke Gordon,  director of the Men of Moroni program for Life Changing Services as well as a former missionary of an Addiction Recovery Meeting for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, joins hosts to discuss gaslighting and how it affects the betrayed spouse. Gaslighting is considered a pattern of manipulation and emotional abuse in which a person seeks to sow seeds of doubt with a person making them question their own memory, perception and sanity.   https://lifechangingservices.online/menofmoroni/
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April 02, 2020
#13 Stop Gaslighting And The Crazy Making In Your Life (Exclusive Interview) | Healing with WORTH
Luke Gordon, director of the Men of Moroni program for Life Changing Services and who has also been a missionary of an Addiction Recovery Meeting for the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints, joins hosts to discuss part of his recovery journey.  After being trapped in sexual addiction for many years, he is now sharing his experience of recovery and hope with others who are trapped in the plague sexual addiction. https://lifechangingservices.online/menofmoroni/
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March 19, 2020
#12 Who Else Wants To Master Their Emotions? | Healing with WORTH
Hosts continue their discussion on emotions. They describe briefly the science behind our emotions and how our brain process them, and different tools that are helpful to deal with them. https://positivepsychology.com/emotion-wheel/ No Hard Feelings: The Secret Power of Embracing Emotion at Work Liz Fosslien Like Dragons Did They Fight Maurice W. Harker, CMHC http://www.lifechangingservices.org/product/like-dragons-did-they-fight-ebook/?fbclid=IwAR0GPHYgsSnPeMyYXtbbjmp00LDBL4hmf16VF6j4k-p9DWTCoXxTWKOubKM Can We Trust Our Feelings and Intuition? Eckhart Tolle https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Ci8ZAj6Z8C4
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March 05, 2020
#11 Answered: Your Most Burning Questions About Intense Feelings | Healing with WORTH
Intense feelings and emotions surface during a betrayal. Hosts share what they have learned about emotions, and why it is important to develop a strong emotional awareness. They share tips on how to navigate through the turbulent water of our feelings without getting lost or overwhelmed. It is a skill that can be developed that will benefit all aspects of our lives and will allow us to connect with others and respond rather than react. When we can put a name to our emotions it will help us to understand ourselves and the impact it has on others. Our emotions affect health, performance, well-being, motivation, sense of fulfillment, and decision-making skills. https://positivepsychology.com/emotion-wheel/ The Journey from Abandonment to Healing Susan Anderson The Body Keeps the Score: Brain, Mind, and Body in the Healing of Trauma Bessel van der Kolk.
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February 20, 2020
#10 A Rock And A Hard Place | Healing with WORTH
There are basic needs that each of us needs in a relationship such as honesty and trust.  For the betrayed, we wonder how we are ever going to get these needs met when we have no control over the behavior of the addict.  In this episode, we discuss authentic power and how to take care of ourselves and navigate through this difficult stage of the recovery process. Moving Beyond Betrayal The 5-Step Boundary Solution for Partners of Sex Addicts" by Vicki Tidwell Palmer
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February 06, 2020
#9 Don't Let Your Faith Become A Causality Of Your Trauma | Healing with WORTH
Women can experience a crisis of faith when dealing with betrayal trauma. While each crisis will be unique to the individual, when it does happen it seems like our whole world comes crashing down. Generally,  a faith crisis points to a kind of falling apart, a disintegration of one's former world that was previously held up by beliefs and propositions. Each of the hosts shares their heart-wrenching crisis of faith and how they got through it. While each of their stories is filled with pain and sorrow they realized that God is merciful and will buoy us up in times of challenge.  The hosts also share the many gifts that they have been given through the tender mercies of God. Many times these gifts came in such an unusual manner and with such precise timing that it really did confirm to us the reality of God’s existence that he has and always will buoy us up in times of trials. Life hurts us all in different ways, but it is how we respond — and who we become — that determines whether a trauma becomes a tragedy, and how the victim becomes the victor. Worth the Wrestle - Sheri Dew Women and the Priesthood - Sheri Dew Live up to our Privileges - Wendy Ulrich Increase in Learning - David A. Bednar Act in Doctrine - David A. Bednar Power to Become - David A. Bednar Healing through Christ https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/general-conference?lang=eng https://www.byupathway.org/
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January 23, 2020
#8 What Everybody Ought To Know About Dealing With Strong Emotions | Healing with WORTH
Emotional Self Care is all about how human beings have an innate desire to connect, to experience dynamic relationships with one another.   In addiction, however, this attachment is severed and leaves the betrayed feeling unsafe, which produces the fight, flight, or freeze response.  Though they are all three natural survival instincts none of these responses promote healing from trauma or rebuilding of a relationship. Learning what these strong emotions look like, sounds like and feels like, and applying the 7 suggested strategies, will help you be more aware of those responses in your own body and you will be better equipped to connect with those around you. 
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January 09, 2020
#7 How to Fast-track Your Physical Self-care | Healing with WORTH
Hosts share stories and discuss the importance of physical self care in order to maintain balance and deal with the added stress betrayal trauma creates in the body.   The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel van der Kolk Solving the Autoimmune Puzzle by Dr. Keesha Ewers Be Faithful, Not Faithless by Steven W. Owen Young Men General President https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2019/10/13owen?lang=eng Watchful unto Prayer Continually - Elder David A. Bednar https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2019/10/22bednar?lang=eng Check out Life Changing Services other podcasts: Mothers Who Know https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/mothers-who-know/id1444889135 Eternal Warriors https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-eternal-warrior-podcast/id1451471172
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December 26, 2019
#6 If You Can Learn You Can Change | Healing with WORTH
Intellectual self care is an important aspect of betrayal trauma recovery.  Hosts share what has been helpful to them in their recovery journey. 7 Habits of Highly Effective People  - Steven R Covey What Can I Do About Me - Rhyll Croshaw https://byupathway.lds.org/ https://rowboatandmarbles.org/wordpress/wp-content/uploads/2011/10/Sitting-in-a-Rowboat-eBook-9-15-11-2nd-revised.pdf
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December 12, 2019
#5 What Is Self-Care And Why Is Self-Care Important? | Healing with WORTH
Dealing with a loved one struggling with addiction takes an enormous amount of energy.  Next to understanding boundaries, self care is one of the most vital components of healing from betrayal trauma.  The hosts discuss what self care is and different analogies as to why it is important.  This is the first of many episodes focusing on the different aspects of self care. Vicki Tidwell Palmer https://beyondbitchy.com/ Looking Through Windows https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=dbFiB7oiQs4 Life Changing Services Podcasts https://www.lifechangingservices.org/
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November 27, 2019
Bonus #1: How To Survive During the Holidays an Interview with Alana Gordon | Healing with WORTH
Alana Gordon LMFT-T and Director of the WORTH program shares her 10 tips for the betrayed to thrive during the holiday season.  Links for this episode are talks given in general conference of the Church of Jesus Christ of Latter Day Saints Neal A Maxwell-"Remember How Merciful the Lord Hath Been" https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2004/04/remember-how-merciful-the-lord-hath-been?lang=eng&cuid=f4959e8502e32f5b2a14b64d7995dfd9 Dieter F. Utchdorf-"Grateful In Any Circumstance" https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2014/04/grateful-in-any-circumstances?lang=eng
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November 21, 2019
#4 Boundaries--How to draw people in rather than push them away | Healing with WORTH
Boundaries are needed in order for us to feel safe.  They help to protect ourselves and other family members when loved ones are struggling with destructive behaviors.  Generally people have a difficult time in setting boundaries, but learning how to do so will not only protect ourselves and preserve our own self worth, but will be a blessing to our loved one.  As we set boundaries, we will have greater capacity to love others.  The hosts share what they have learned about setting boundaries and their personal stories in doing so.  For more information visit https://healingwithworth.org/ Divine Love https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/ensign/2003/02/divine-love?lang=eng Brene Brown https://vimeo.com/274228723 Adam Moore http://adammmoore.com/2014/06/12/defining-and-enforcing-boundaries-in-sexual-addiction-recovery/ Moving Beyond Betrayal - Vicki Tidwell Palmer  Facing Heartbreak - Stefanie Carnes
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November 14, 2019
#3 What is Betrayal Trauma? Part 2 - Interview with a WORTH Therapist | Healing with WORTH
Last week we discussed our different analogies about what betrayal trauma has felt like for us in the form of trucks, manure and pits. We have Kimberly Day with us today.  She is one of the WORTH therapists with Life Changing Services, and is a Licensed MHCA Therapist who gives her insights on betrayal trauma. To sign up for a WORTH group or read our blog you can find us at http://www.healingwithworth.org/
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October 31, 2019
#2 What is Betrayal Trauma? Part 1 - The Truth | Healing with WORTH
The term “betrayal trauma” refers to the damage that is caused when you experience a betrayal in your relationship that damages the trust, safety, and security of the bond you have with your partner.  The hosts use analogies to explain how betrayal trauma affects them and their families.   To find more analogies you may relate to check out our blog at https://healingwithworth.blogspot.com/p/blog-page_28.html
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October 17, 2019
#1 How Betrayal Trauma Recovery Group Saves Lives | Healing with WORTH
In our first episode the hosts introduce themselves and how they found WORTH.  They discuss the importance of reaching out and knowing how to find people to safely share your story.  Not one person will be able to perfectly respond to what you need, but with empathy they can show you love in your time of need.  WORTH groups help these ladies know they are not alone and many of the thoughts and feelings they have after their "disclosure" day are shared by women of their same faith all over the country.  If you are interested in joining or finding out more about WORTH you may find us at http://www.healingwithworth.org/ Check out our other Life Changing Services Podcasts:   The Eternal Warrior Podcast:  Helping young people in their quest of self-mastery, sharing their stories from the battlefield in the war against Satan and pornography. Mothers Who Know: Mothers Who Know that when we take care of ourselves, we can take better care of everyone else. Like Dragons Did They Fight: Karen Broadhead, parent support specialist, interviews individuals from various Life Changing Services (LCS) programs and gets their personal stories, feedback, advice to others, and lessons learned.
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October 03, 2019