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Thousand First Dates

Thousand First Dates

By Heather Blackwell
Memoirs of a serial dater — dirty little secrets and life-affirming wisdom from the perspective of a mental health coach.
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10 Reasons Why They are Jealous of You
Heather discusses her perspective on the reasons other humans (and women, in particular) harbor feelings of envy and jealousy toward empowered people. Check out the popular children’s book “You are Special” by Max Lucado. Also, if you don’t yet know your skill strengths, then take this free Holland Code skills test and find out: https://www.truity.com/test/holland-code-career-test
59:43
February 27, 2022
What are Healthy Boundaries and Do You Have Them?
Heather discusses what it means to have a boundary, the two main types of boundaries, how boundaries are violated, and how to establish healthy boundaries. UPDATE: It is also important to take responsibility for your emotions...I forgot to mention that.
59:36
July 07, 2021
My Metamorphosis Date
Heather describes the narcissistic boyfriend who changed her perspective on dating from naïveté to discernment.
59:02
July 03, 2021
Past, Present, Future: A RoadMap for Personal Success
Heather defines ‘roadmap’ and applies the concept as a personal success strategy for psychology-based healing. Heather also explains ‘roadmap’ in terms of her own journey. ........Ideas to Research: Erik Erickson - Psychosocial Stages of Development; William Glasser - Choice Theory; Abraham Maslow - Hierarchy of Needs Pyramid; and Stoicism
01:00:59
June 25, 2021
Embracing the single life: a conversation with Instagram influencer, Michal Leman
Guest-host, Michal Lehman, and me, Heather Blackwell, discuss a.) why people feel pressured to get married b.) the benefits of single life c.) what it means to “self-date“. If you would like to join the conversation, check out Michal’s IG @mblwrites *HEADS-UP: This episode has a couple of five second pauses.
34:44
June 09, 2021
Overcoming ‘Best Self’ Challenges
Heather discusses how people who desire positive life change can overcome common obstacles related to fear, anxiety, and alienation as it relates to change. Heather also discusses how to choose the right mental health counselor fit for you.
46:45
June 05, 2021
Date with a Romantic Narcissist
Heather discusses her first dating encounter after a two-year hiatus from dating. Key points of this segment are narcissistic behavioral red flags, progression from codependent to independent, and do/don't dating behaviors. (Please share with your network or leave a 5 Star Review!). Correction: Natasha Sattler’s book “Shit Adults Never ‘Taught’ Us” is available now!
47:08
June 04, 2021
Male Empowerment Conversation with Dai Manuel
Dai Manuel guest-hosts with Heather Blackwell to discuss the topic of 'vulnerability' as it relates to strength of character, interdependence, a cohesive self-identity, and a productive/holistically-rewarding life experience. To learn more about Dai Manuel's Men's Empowerment group, contact Dai via Instagram @daimanuel. Also check out Dai’s website at https://www.daimanuel.com/ and Dai’s Life Fitness Manifesto at https://www.amazon.ca/Manuels-Whole-Life-Fitness-Manifesto/dp/1928055079
56:55
June 02, 2021
Let’s Talk About Masturbation and Stuff
Special thanks to IG @scottishtruth for the inspiration of this episode. Heather discusses the main reasons humans feel compelled to engage in intimate partnerships, reasons to be happy as a ‘single’, and the MBTI personality types that are most likely to stay married til death do us part. ..... Free Holland Code Test https://www.truity.com/test/holland-code-career-test ...... Free MBTI Test ..... https://www.16personalities.com/
01:00:00
May 29, 2021
Can Narcissists Be Healed?
Special Thanks to Paul Simard, IG Compatriot and Men’s Mental Health Advocate, for inspiring me to speak on this topic. Check out Paul’s IG @paul_sim17 ..... Heather explores the ideas of psychological brokenness, the effects of child abuse and cortisol on the brain and body, behavioral modification, and factors for psychological healing. Also, the psych-based therapeutic modalities cited are CBT, REBT, DBT, and MBTI. Links to read are: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3548359/ ....... Lara Boyd and Neural Plasticity ...... https://youtu.be/LNHBMFCzznE ...... https://www.webmd.com/a-to-z-guides/what-is-cortisol ...... http://howtopreventalzheimers.com/chronically-elevated-cortisol-kills-brain-cells/ ........ https://www.livescience.com/18453-child-abuse-brain.html ..... https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC3548359/
56:04
May 26, 2021
Psychological Trauma-related Hypervigilance (PTrH)
Heather discusses the definition and origin of Psychological Trauma-related Hypervigilance PTrH (a key factor in Post Traumatic Stress Disorder (PTSD)), emotions related to PTrH, behaviors related to PTrH, and therapeutic PTrH-reduction techniques. Also, special thanks to my Instagram Compatriot, Cesca, for suggesting this podcast topic. Check out Cesca’s motivational IG @beauty_and_the_dark ......... If you find value in this podcast, please consider leaving a Thousand First Dates review at Apple podcast, and please consider sharing my Thousand First Dates content with your social network. Thank you for your support.
59:34
May 22, 2021
Personality Disorders and Codependency with Jeff Meltzer.
Heather and guest-host, Jeff Meltzer, discuss the origin of and distinction between personality disorders, as well as the idea of codependency. Correction: In the podcast, I say “Episode 12”, but it’s actually episode 14. And the end part got cut-off, but Saturday will be an episode about covert narcissism.
55:56
May 12, 2021
Multiple Personalities: How Many Do You Have?
Heather discusses a term — first identified by Eric Berne — called “Ego States”. Eric Berne wrote a book called “Games People Play.” Heather discusses how ego states affect your personality, your independence, and your relationships. Heather discusses how you can use ego states to develop your self-identity, your self-confidence, your inner peace, and your leadership ability. (If you value my podcast, please share with your network, and PLEASE consider leaving me a 5-Star Review via Apple podcast! : )
55:00
May 09, 2021
Self-Image Building Strategies with Guest-Host, James Ferworn
Please share this podcast with your network and leave an Apple podcast Five-Star review! ....... James and Heather discuss how they each overcame personal struggles using life-coping strategies related to self-esteem, self-image, and goal-setting. Check James out on Instagram @realjpmentality ... James recommends two books for self-improvement, which are "How Successful People Think" by John C. Maxwell and "The 7 Habits of Highly Effective People" by Stephen Covey. Additional book recommendations are "Failing Forward" by John C. Maxwell and "The Speed of Trust" by Stephen M. R. Covey. Also, for those struggling with codependent behavioral tendencies, check out "Codependent No More" by Melodie Beattie.
44:48
May 05, 2021
From Human to Psychopath and Back
Heather discusses how her childhood environment — wrought with abuse — nurtured the evil seed to which all humans are born, and how she painstakingly worked to repair the inflicted damage in order to create a healthy, cohesive, humanitarian self-identity in a 10 year long self-help journey.
59:25
May 02, 2021
Adulting with guest-host, Natasha Sattler, author of self-help book, “Shit Adults Never Taught Us.”
Natasha guest-hosts with Heather to discuss Natasha's new book, "Shit Adults Never Taught Us". Natasha discusses topics from her book from  'saving for early retirement' to 'managing anxiety' to 'managing expectations'. Find Natasha on Instagram @shitadultsnevertaughtus (Please share with your network or leave a 5 Star Review!)
45:05
April 28, 2021
Date With a Lost Boy
Heather describes her dating experience with a man challenged with identity diffusion. Heather also discusses alcoholism, substance abuse, and codependency. (Please share with your network or leave a 5 Star Review!)
39:55
April 27, 2021
Dating Disasters with guest-host, Krystal Centinello
Krystal and Heather discuss dating disasters related to narcissism, codependency, and what they learned in terms of self-worth and self-love. (Please share with your network or leave a 5 Star Review!)
49:04
April 21, 2021
Dating Red Flags: When is It Basic Incompatibility? When is It Abuse-related?
(Explicit-Content) Heather discusses dating red flags in terms of both personality clashes and maladaptive behavior to include personal experiences. Also, take your free personality assessment at https://www.16personalities.com/ (Please share with your network or leave a 5 Star Review!)
57:02
April 17, 2021
From Victim to Victor: Journey to Personal Freedom
Heather discusses a.) how childhood abuse created psychological obstacles that impacted her ability to achieve success as an adult b.) how to remove those obstacles by reparenting with the goal of creating a cohesive self-identity. (Please share with your network or leave a 5 Star Review!)
43:48
April 10, 2021
“Beautifully Flawed” with guest-host Jeffrey Meltzer
Do you secretly feel unlovable? Do you compare your worth to the worth of others? Heather and Jeff discuss empowerment techniques designed to create unconditional acceptance using the cognitive behavioral therapeutic approach. To enlist Jeff's counseling services for adolescents or parent-training, Jeff Meltzer can be contacted at drquintal.com or find his Instagram @therapy.jm (Please share with your network or leave a 5 Star Review!)
49:36
April 07, 2021
Play Stupid Games, Win Stupid Prizes
Heather discusses her dating experiences with men who possess poor character and malfunctioning penises. (Please share with your network or leave a 5 Star Review!)
32:49
March 28, 2021
Clean House and Spark Joy in the Corners of Your Mind
Heather discusses how listeners can resolve past traumatic events in order to have successful, positive relationships. Topics discussed are therapeutic healing techniques to resolve emotional trauma and toxic behaviors to look out for. (Please share with your network or leave a 5 Star Review!)
46:28
March 19, 2021
A Thousand First Dates??
Heather discusses her motivation for going on 1000+ dates. (Please share with your network or leave a 5 Star Review!)
08:36
March 13, 2021