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Held and Healed with Heather Elizabeth

Held and Healed with Heather Elizabeth

By Heather Elizabeth

Held. Healed. Looking back over my life, I see the evidence of God’s presence. I have always been held. In recent years, I began a journey of healing. Healing takes time. I have come so far and there is so much to learn. Join me as I share my story and the stories of others who are held and healed. I am surrounded by a village of fellow warriors. We are using our voices to raise awareness and advocate for survivors. We will explore the realities of sexual abuse, domestic violence and spiritual abuse and glean from resources that will bless you on your healing journey.
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Episode 51: Meet Debra Doak (Survivor, Author, Divorce Coach)

Held and Healed with Heather Elizabeth Jun 17, 2022

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Episode 97: What I Wish Others Understood About Chronic Illness

Episode 97: What I Wish Others Understood About Chronic Illness

Eight and a half years ago, my life came to screeching halt. I contracted a dangerous and mysterious virus that “woke up” many other viruses and diseases that were dormant in my body. Since that time, I have fought with all my might to heal. In this episode, I share some of the things I wish others understood about chronic illness. https://themighty.com/topic/chronic-fatigue-syndrome/cell-phone-battery-spoon-theory-fatigue/? Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065 Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Mar 07, 202447:09
Episode 96: Please Don’t Push Your Religious Practices on Others

Episode 96: Please Don’t Push Your Religious Practices on Others

Many survivors of spiritual abuse may never feel safe attending traditional church again. I invite you to extend curiosity and compassion, not condemnation. Learn more about the Nervous System Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065 Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Feb 21, 202450:54
Episode 95: An Invitation to Be Gentle With Yourself In 2024

Episode 95: An Invitation to Be Gentle With Yourself In 2024

A new year is here and my ONE WORD for 2024 is GENTLE. I’m learning to offer myself gentleness, kindness, and compassion. If I would not say something to a good, safe, and trusted friend, I should not say it to myself. I invite you to join me on this journey. Learn more about the Nervous System Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Learn more about the Held & Healed Haven: https://heatherelizabeth.org/members/vaults/2065 Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Jan 19, 202438:06
Episode 94: Jimmy Hinton: What Forgiveness Is/Not

Episode 94: Jimmy Hinton: What Forgiveness Is/Not

In Episode 6, Jimmy Hinton shared some of his story. In this episode, we unpack what forgiveness is and what it is not. Too often, the burden of forgiveness is placed on the shoulders of victims while abusers are not held to account. We hope that this conversation brings hope and healing to many. Find Jimmy Hinton Author on Facebook, or at his website: https://jimmyhinton.org/. Learn more about the Nervous System Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Dec 09, 202356:44
Episode 93: Tom Pryde: Signs of a Repentant Abuser

Episode 93: Tom Pryde: Signs of a Repentant Abuser

Tom Pryde (Psalm 82 Initiative) and I discuss the true signs of a repentant abuser. I share this resource with survivors every week and it was meaningful to talk through the seven signs with Tom. From Psalm 82: A Letter on Showing Repentance https://psalm82initiative.wordpress.com/2019/07/06/a-letter-on-showing-repentance. Learn more about the Nervous System Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Dec 09, 202351:06
Episode 92: Parental Alienation/DV by Proxy/CAMS

Episode 92: Parental Alienation/DV by Proxy/CAMS

Regardless of the label, Parental Alienation/DV by Proxy/Child and Mother Sabotage is hell on earth. It only takes one abusive patner to destroy a relationship. The abuser often uses DARVO and turns their children against the victim parent. In this episode, I share this reality so that helpers can understand what survivors are going through. I will update these notes when I find additional resources. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset Retreat videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Dec 07, 202348:34
Episode 91: Boosting Your Immune System After Trauma

Episode 91: Boosting Your Immune System After Trauma

Did you know that lonliness, isolation, fear, and trauma can weaken your immune system? In this episode, I share some ways to boost your immune system after trauma. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Oct 21, 202344:34
Episode 90: What Can You Do to Support DV Survivors?

Episode 90: What Can You Do to Support DV Survivors?

October is Domestic Violence Awareness Month (DVAM) and I invite you to DO SOMETHING to support DV survivors. Become informed. Support her in tangible ways. Give without strings attached. Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Oct 05, 202346:05
Episode 89: How Safe Are Your Helpers? (Part 2)

Episode 89: How Safe Are Your Helpers? (Part 2)

In this episode I share some more thoughts on how to determine if a helper is safe, including a post from Tom Pryde of Psalm 82 Initiative. Be safe, dear ones! Purchase the Rest, Regulate, and Reset videos at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Sep 29, 202328:41
Episode 88: How Safe Are Your Helpers? (Part 1)

Episode 88: How Safe Are Your Helpers? (Part 1)

In this episode, I share some concerns I have about those who call themselves pastors, leaders, counselors, therapists, coaches, advocates, etc. I share practical ways to vet these helpers and determine if they are truly trauma-informed. I refer to Wilderness to Wild’s article, Trauma-Inforned: Are Your Helpers Actually Helpful https://www.wildernesstowild.com/community/public/posts/332570-trauma-informed-are-your-helpers-actually-helpful. The Four Tools Framework by Psalm 82 Initiative: https://www.psalm82initiative.org/4-tools-framework/. The Speaking Out On Sex Abuse Podcast (Episode 248), and Held & Healed Podcast (Episode 53). Register to receive the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat (Rest, Regulate, and Reset) Videos here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Sep 14, 202354:24
Episode 87: Resources to Help You On Your Healing Journey

Episode 87: Resources to Help You On Your Healing Journey

In this episode, I share dozens of resources to help you on your healing journey. If you are a survivor and/or someone who wants to know better and do better, this list is a great place to begin. I share some of my favorite books, podcasts, and social media accounts that address domestic violence, spiritual abuse, sexual abuse, and/or trauma. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Aug 07, 202351:07
Episode 86: Why I No Longer Feel Safe In Church (Part 4)

Episode 86: Why I No Longer Feel Safe In Church (Part 4)

In this episode, I address three groups of people: survivors, church people, and spiritual leaders. Survivors, if you no longer feel safe in church, you can leave. Church people, if you attend a church that is harming others, you are endorsing abuse. Spiritual leaders, God sees all, hears all, and knows all. You may be getting away with abuse now, but you will give an account sooner or later. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Aug 07, 202358:49
Episode 85: Why I No Longer Feel Safe in Church (Part 3)

Episode 85: Why I No Longer Feel Safe in Church (Part 3)

In this episode, I continue to share about my experiences in spiritual institutions. I have been a part of a DOZEN different institutions and have had close encounters with HUNDREDS of spiritual leaders and have experienced tremendous abuse and trauma for over four decades. I fought long and hard to address harm in a Biblical manner. (Note: There is some overlap between part 2 and 3. I apologize for repeating myself. Also, I referenced Matthew 25, but I meant Matthew 18. I think I need a nap now.) I spoke up on behalf of others who were being harmed. My voice was ignored and silenced. My spirit grew weaker and weaker. Three years ago, I left corporate religion and pursued safety and freedom. I now experience peace and joy that I never knew before. Ladies, you are invited to the third annual Held & Healed Retreat: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat?mibextid=Zxz2cZ. Please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Jul 29, 202358:14
Episode 84: Why I No Longer Feel Safe in Church (Part 2)

Episode 84: Why I No Longer Feel Safe in Church (Part 2)

In this episode, I continue to share about my experiences in spiritual institutions. I have been a part of a DOZEN different institutions and have had close encounters with HUNDREDS of spiritual leaders and have experienced tremendous abuse and trauma for over four decades. I fought long and hard to address harm in a Biblical manner. I spoke up on behalf of others who were being harmed. My voice was ignored and silenced. My spirit grew weaker and weaker. Three years ago, I left corporate religion and pursued safety and freedom. I now experience peace and joy that I never knew before. Ladies, you are invited to the third annual Held & Healed Retreat: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat?mibextid=Zxz2cZ. Please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Jul 27, 202357:52
Episode 83: Why I No Longer Feel Safe in Church (Part 1)

Episode 83: Why I No Longer Feel Safe in Church (Part 1)

In this episode, I share about the first 24 years of my life inside spiritual institutions. I have been a part of a DOZEN different institutions and have had close encounters with HUNDREDS of spiritual leaders and have experienced tremendous abuse and trauma for over four decades. I fought long and hard to address harm in a Biblical manner. I spoke up on behalf of others who were being harmed. My voice was ignored and silenced. My spirit grew weaker and weaker. Three years ago, I left corporate religion and pursued safety and freedom. I now experience peace and joy that I never knew before. Ladies, you are invited to the third annual Held & Healed Retreat: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat?mibextid=Zxz2cZ. Please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Jul 21, 202357:25
Episode 82: A Message for Stay-at-Home Mamas

Episode 82: A Message for Stay-at-Home Mamas

This episode comes straight from my heart to the hearts of stay-at-home mamas. I share a bit of my story and some things I wish I had known 25 years ago. I celebrate ALL good, loving, and safe mamas and want to offer SAHMs some things no one offered me. Check out the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat (Rest, Regulate, & Reset) here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Jul 13, 202352:44
Episode 81: Gratitudes & Goodness Glimmers

Episode 81: Gratitudes & Goodness Glimmers

Glimmers are the opposite of triggers and they can be cues of safety, beauty, healing, joy, and peace. In this episode I share about my journey of glimmer hunting, and invite you to join me. Intentionally seeking out gratitudes and goodness glimmers has been very regulating and healing for me. For more info about the 2023 Held & Healed (Online) Retreat (Rest, Regulate & Reset): https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Jul 06, 202344:44
Episode 80: Are Your Kids Safe at Church/Camp/Youth Group/VBS?

Episode 80: Are Your Kids Safe at Church/Camp/Youth Group/VBS?

I have experienced religious institutional abuse and trauma as a child, as a teen, and as an adult. My hope and prayer is that we can learn from past mistakes and know better and do better to keep our kids safe. Blog post: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/35558/is-your-vbs-kids-camp-safe-?. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.
Jun 22, 202342:42
Episode 79: Prayers for a Gentle Father’s Day

Episode 79: Prayers for a Gentle Father’s Day

Father’s Day is another special occasion that can be very painful for survivors. Instead of saying “Happy Father’s Day,” I pray for a Gentle Father’s Day for you and yours. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Jun 15, 202324:09
Episode 78: Forms of Abuse (Part 2)

Episode 78: Forms of Abuse (Part 2)

Abuse is so much more than broken bones and bruises. Sarah McDugal created a resource that outlines 18 forms of abuse. In this episode and the previous one, I share examples of each form. For the full list, go to https://www.wildernesstowild.com/. Ladies, you are invited to join us for the third annual (online) Held & Healed Retreat. Our theme is Rest, Regulate & Reset and Sarah McDugal is our guest speaker. Register at https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Jun 08, 202342:46
Episode 77: Forms of Abuse (Part 1)

Episode 77: Forms of Abuse (Part 1)

Abuse is so much more than broken bones and bruises. Sarah McDugal created a resource that outlines 18 forms of abuse. In this episode and the next one, I will share examples of each form. For the full list, go to https://www.wildernesstowild.com/. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
May 25, 202334:54
Episode 76: The Spoon Theory

Episode 76: The Spoon Theory

If you are battling chronic illness, you have limited amounts of energy to complete daily tasks. The Spoon Theory helps to explain how to plan your days so that you don’t run out of energy (“spoons”) and take from tomorrow’s reserve. This concept, along with the cell phone battery analogy, will help you and your loved ones understand your limitations. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
May 18, 202344:01
Episode 75: Prayers For A Gentle Mother’s Day

Episode 75: Prayers For A Gentle Mother’s Day

Mother’s Day can be difficult for survivors of domestic violence. In this episode, I share encouragement for survivor mamas and offer practical ways for helpers to bless those sweet mamas. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
May 11, 202344:01
Episode 74: The Link Between Abuse, Trauma, and Chronic Illness (Intro)

Episode 74: The Link Between Abuse, Trauma, and Chronic Illness (Intro)

In this episode, I discuss the link between abuse, trauma, and chronic illness. Emotional abuse is physical abuse because it forces us to live in a constant state of fight, flight, freeze, or fawn. Our bodies wear down over time and every system suffers. I invite you to join us for the third annual Held & Healed Retreat. This year we will meet online. Our guest speaker is Sarah McDugal and our theme is Rest, Regulate, and Reset. We will be offering practical tools for nervous system regulation. Register now, space is limited! https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, you are invited to join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
May 04, 202329:05
Episode 73: What is Held & Healed?

Episode 73: What is Held & Healed?

Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse is an active Facebook group for women. In this episode I share the goals of the group as well as the resources we offer. Ladies, please join us at https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Apr 27, 202340:00
Episode 72: The Healing Power of Tears

Episode 72: The Healing Power of Tears

In this episode I share the physical and emotional benefits of crying. So many have been taught that tears make us weak, manipulate, or unwell. In reality, there are many benefits to tears and they can help us to heal and regulate our nervous systems. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Apr 21, 202342:37
Episode 71: Child Sexual Abuse Survivor Resources

Episode 71: Child Sexual Abuse Survivor Resources

Trigger Warning: This episode focuses on child sexual abuse. Two takeaways I hope every listener hears: Let’s stop calling it child pornography and call it what it is: child sexual abuse material. And, convicted child sexual predators do not belong in churches. I share resources to help individuals and institutions know better and do better (from Jimmy Hinton, Clara Hinton, Sarah McDugal, Daron Pratt, Exodus Cry, Operation Underground Railroad, RAINN, Rachael Denhollander). Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Apr 14, 202345:43
Episode 70: Practical Ways to Support DV Survivors

Episode 70: Practical Ways to Support DV Survivors

As a follow up of last week’s episode, I share practical ways to support DV survivors. This episode speaks to helpers who are walking with survivors. I pray that this will encourage many to step up and represent the hands, feet, and heart of Jesus to others. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Apr 07, 202347:34
Episode 69: Neutrality Is Always Choosing the Abuser

Episode 69: Neutrality Is Always Choosing the Abuser

When abuse is a factor, neutrality is always choosing the abuser. Fact. If your loved one has been abused (there are many forms of abuse) and you don’t stand with her, you are siding with the abuser. In this episode, I unpack common responses that lack care, compassion, and empathy. In my next episode, I’ll share practical ways to love and support survivors. Register for the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat (with guest Sarah McDugal): https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Mar 31, 202348:00
Episode 68: Shoutout to Survivor Single Mamas

Episode 68: Shoutout to Survivor Single Mamas

March 21 was National Single Parent Day. In this episode, I share encouragement for survivor single mamas who are doing the hard work of healing while pulling quadruple duty with you kids. I see you. Join our third annual online retreat where we will focus on Rest, Regulate, and Rebuild. Learn more here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/2023-held-healed-online-retreat. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Mar 23, 202333:54
Episode 67: Please Help Us Help Others

Episode 67: Please Help Us Help Others

We need your help! Honor Project Movement is empowering women who are rebuilding after abuse. Through 1:1 resource coaching, Financial Freedom Coaching Groups , and DV Crisis Response Counseling Groups, we are helping women feel seen, heard, understood, and equipped. We match needs to resources (groceries, clothing, furniture). WE NEED YOUR HELP! Please share this podcast with anyone who may be interested in our mission. Please give if you are able. $5 or $5,000, every gift is appreciated. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. National DV Hotline: https://www.thehotline.org/
Mar 18, 202320:19
Episode 66: Toxic Positivity & Spiritual Bypassing

Episode 66: Toxic Positivity & Spiritual Bypassing

Toxic positivity and spiritual bypassing are common responses to abuse and trauma. They add layers of trauma onto trauma and cause great harm. In this episode, I share definitions and examples of each and offer suggestions for words that heal. If we know better, we can do better. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Mar 09, 202350:05
Episode 65: Twelve Truths to Renew Your Mind After an Abusive Marriage

Episode 65: Twelve Truths to Renew Your Mind After an Abusive Marriage

In this episode, I share twelve truths that I desperately needed to hear 25 years ago. If you are in an abusive marriage or are walking with someone who is, this episode is for you. Here is a list of books that are not abuse/trauma-informed, books that communicate unhealthy, or abuse-enabling messages and have been rated or reported to be very harmful to Christian women. https://www.amazon.com/shop/sarahmcdugal/list/1G6MN69AXZB6L. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Feb 25, 202342:06
Episode 64: What Can Give So You Can Live?

Episode 64: What Can Give So You Can Live?

You are one person. You have a limited amount of time, energy, and resources each day as you rebuild after abuse, trauna, and chronic illness. Taking care of yourself and your kids is a lot. It may be time to say no to others. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Jan 26, 202330:39
Episode 63: Three Books for a Gentle New Year

Episode 63: Three Books for a Gentle New Year

I pray that 2023 is gentle with you. I pray for peace, healing, and freedom. In this episode I share three books that offer gentleness, compassion, and care. All three are written by therapists who have survived trauma and/or abuse. They offer tools for regulating your nervous system. I have been blessed by these: It’s OK That You’re Not OK (Megan Devine), The Lord is My Courage (KJ Ramsey) and Try Softer (Aundi Kibler). Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.
Jan 13, 202334:34
Episode 62: Prayers for a Gentle Christmas

Episode 62: Prayers for a Gentle Christmas

Holidays are not easy for survivors. I wrote “A Gentle Christmas Prayer” on Christmas morning to share with survivors. In this episode I also share some tips from the Held & Healed Holiday Help Workshop. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Dec 30, 202243:32
Episode 61: Meet Megan Owen (Survivor, Advocate, Counselor)

Episode 61: Meet Megan Owen (Survivor, Advocate, Counselor)

In this episode, I chat with a dear survivor/advocate/counselor/warrior sister. Megan founded Give Her Wings and Give Her Wings Academy which is where I received life-changing training and certification. She has since handed that torch over and founded Mountain City Christian Counseling where she provides care for survivors. We chat about domestic violence, spiritual abuse, deconstruction, and so much more. Honor Project Movement partners with MCCC to offer DV Crisis Response Groups. Learn more at https://www.mountaincitychristiancounseling.com/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Dec 09, 202247:52
Episode 60: The Harm of Indifference

Episode 60: The Harm of Indifference

In a recent conversation with my friend Indie, she said, “People being indifferent to your suffering is harm.” In this episode, I define indifference and apathy and offer ways to become curious and compassionate about others. The holidays should be a natural continuation of doing life together. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to support Honor Project Movement as we help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Nov 30, 202231:04
Episode 59: The Power of “And”

Episode 59: The Power of “And”

In this episode, I give some updates on life, Held & Healed, and Honor Project Movement. I also share about the power of “and,” as we can simultaneously face and feel emotions that seem contradictory. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to help us help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Nov 11, 202243:55
Episode 58: What is Spiritual Abuse?

Episode 58: What is Spiritual Abuse?

What is spiritual abuse? After enduring this reality for over forty years, I finally learned it had a name. In this episode, I ask some hard questions and invite you to consider if your spiritual institution is abusive. These questions are also written in a blog: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/35557/are-you-experiencing-spiritual-institutional-abuse-. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to help us help survivors https://honorprojectmovement. Please excuse the abrupt ending, my alarm went off and finished the episode prematurely. I may re-record later, but for today, please accept “done over perfect.”
Oct 14, 202239:30
Episode 57: Two Years of Held & Healed

Episode 57: Two Years of Held & Healed

In this episode, I share about the journey we’ve been on in Held & Healed. For two years, we’ve been learning, growing, and healing together. Survivors have felt seen, heard, understood, and validated. I invite you to purchase the Safer Spaces Summit here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/safer-spaces-summit-2022. Register for the 2023 Held & Healed Retreat here: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/held-and-healed-retreat-2023. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to help us help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Sep 30, 202240:52
Episode 56: Nervous System Regulation Resources

Episode 56: Nervous System Regulation Resources

In this episode I share some basics about nervous system regulation, as well as some of my favorite resources. I have learned how to rest and restrict, but regulation was the missing link. Over the past year, I’ve been learning so much and I want to pass these gems on to you. During the final ten minutes, I also discuss ways that we can be a life-line to other survivors, and not pull them under the water. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/. Donate here to help us help survivors https://honorprojectmovement.org/.
Sep 07, 202247:58
Episode 55: Are You Weary?

Episode 55: Are You Weary?

Rebuilding after abuse is exhausting. Give yourself grace, dear one. This episode is a message from my heart to yours. I invite those who are able to give generously at https://honorprojectmovement.org/ to help survivors with mental health resources. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org.
Aug 31, 202224:34
Episode 54: Honor Project Movement

Episode 54: Honor Project Movement

I have a HUGE ANNOUNCEMENT to make! Our nonprofit, Honor Project Movement, has officially launched! You can give TODAY to help meet the needs of survivors! Go here to give your tax deductible donation: paypal.com/us/fundraiser/charity/4601668. We are raising funds for Domestic Violence Crisis Response Groups, financial and safety coaching, benevolence, and so much more. The needs are great and we have many women waiting for resources. Thank you for your consideration and generosity. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Aug 05, 202235:15
Episode 53: How to Choose a Safe Counselor or Coach

Episode 53: How to Choose a Safe Counselor or Coach

In this episode, I tackle this huge question. I also reference several other resources which offer more questions to ask. I share from this blog post and encourage you to pass this info on to others who need it: https://heatherelizabeth.org/blog/35393/how-do-i-choose-a-safe-counselor-or-coach. For more info about Held & Healed Haven, Rebuilding: Finances, Safer Spaces Summit, or our upcoming retreat, visit https://heatherelizabeth.org.
Jul 15, 202242:06
Episode 52: Traumaversaries

Episode 52: Traumaversaries

Do you find yourself grieving, feeling agitated, on edge, and extra triggered? You may be experiencing a traumaversay. Your body remembers things your brain may not be able to process. Awareness and preparedness can help us face these painful memories. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Jul 07, 202233:53
Episode 51: Meet Debra Doak (Survivor, Author, Divorce Coach)

Episode 51: Meet Debra Doak (Survivor, Author, Divorce Coach)

Debra is a separation/divorce/life renovation coach who has a lot of wisdom about navigating finances during these transitions. We discuss financial abuse, spousal starvation, parallel planning, waiting with intention, financial planning, mediation, choosing a lawyer, and more. Learn more about Debra’s book, coaching, and courses at: https://www.debradoak.com/. Join my Rebuilding: Finances Course at: https://heatherelizabeth.org/page/rebuilding-finances. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Jun 17, 202248:41
Episode 50: Meet Luke & Lauren Smallcomb (Survivors, Advocates, Therapist, Nurse)

Episode 50: Meet Luke & Lauren Smallcomb (Survivors, Advocates, Therapist, Nurse)

In this episode, I talk with my dear friends, Luke & Lauren Smallcomb. They have combined their skill sets (trauma therapist and mind-body practitioner) to create Flourish Therapy. I learn new things from them every week and am excited to introduce you to them. Find their contact info for Facebook, Instagram, YouTube or their podcast through https://flourishtherapy.co/. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Jun 09, 202250:07
Episode 49: Abuse/Trauma-Informed Boundaries

Episode 49: Abuse/Trauma-Informed Boundaries

In this episode, I share some tips for setting and holding boundaries. As you rebuild after trauma and abuse, you will find your voice. Setting boundaries is a way to respect yourself and honor your healing journey. I offer Boundaries Group Coaching where we discuss these truths and apply them in everyday situations. For registration information, go to Heatherelizabeth.org and choose the Boundaries Group Coaching option. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. Or, find me at https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
Jun 02, 202232:52
Episode 48: A Week of Truth

Episode 48: A Week of Truth

What a heartbreaking and gut-wrenching week for the survivor community. Everywhere we turn, there are stories that shake us. In this podcast, I share about a Round Table discussion I participated in with Thomas Pryde (Psalm 82 Initiative) and Sarah McDugal. We went through the video from the Indiana pastor’s “confession” of “adultery” with a 16 year old girl. Watch here: https://www.facebook.com/sarahmcdugalauthor/videos/686921625944312/. The releases of this video, the sexual abuse data base by SBC, and the docu series “Sins of the Amish” and the Josh Duggar sentencing all occurred within three days. I offer suggestions for taking care of ourselves, honoring boundaries and limitations, and practicing self-care during these trying times. Ladies, please join us on Facebook at Held & Healed: Christian Women Rebuilding After Abuse https://www.facebook.com/groups/616663178999357/. For a list of my services: https://heatherelizabeth.org/.
May 26, 202249:33