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Homespun Wisdom: Talks With My Neighbour

Homespun Wisdom: Talks With My Neighbour

By Sarah Sharman, Daniel Confino
Neighbourly Conversations over a cup of tea. Sarah Sharman and Daniel Confino present, Homespun Wisdom. Talking about life in lockdown, seeing the funny side of everything, lessons for life, dealing with family, and navigating silly rules and regulations.
Find them on Twitter @sa_sharman @danielconfino : Instagram @Talkswithmyneighbour
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We have wrapped on Home Spun Wisdom: Talks with My Neighbour. But Daniel and Sarah have a new show - 'Honest Conversations' hosted by Spectrum On Air.  So if you haven't had enough click here to listen to more. https://www.spreaker.com/show/honest-conversations
01:20
December 30, 2021
How to get Away With Murder
Daniel and Sarah explore how to do away with each other as a final act in the podcast series. But don't be disappointed, you can catch Daniel and Sarah on their new show Honest Conversations by Spectrum On Air. Search on your podcast outlet or click here https://www.spreaker.com/show/honest-conversations
54:56
September 29, 2021
Two Legs/Wheels vs Four.
*******PENULTIMATE EPISODE*****. First man, then machine. Legs then wheels, but how many is best? Can your pooch outrun Usain Bolt? Why a bike is so much more natural than a car. Managing 4 legs and galloping horses. Have a listen and understand why you need to take the weight off your legs.
44:28
September 16, 2021
Lockdown Blues: Tactile Deprivation and Hugging.
Enough already with fist bumps, knocking elbows or feet. Let’s get back to the serotonin releasing hugs and friendly unthreatening touch. With appropriate warnings for the world of HR, MeToo and taking offence. We suggest a traffic lights approach based on the density of nerve endings to control your basic instincts. Sexbots and AI virtual lovers for those too scared to cope with the risks presented by real people.
44:32
September 12, 2021
Posture, Poise and Deportment: Dramatic Results in No Time.
Pay attention to your body and keep your back straight, your head up and shoulders square. It will do wonders for your self confidence, attractiveness and flexibility through life. We add our unique twist to the usual advice.
53:33
September 09, 2021
Are You Coming or Going?
How do you greet people at the door? From your lover to the debt collector. Opening the door is like raising the curtain on one of your great performances. And then there is the tricky subject of getting people out the door. All your charm and tact and sometimes strong arm tactics are required. Great tips for dealing with Bilble bashers.
54:28
September 06, 2021
Generosity, Kindness and Meanness
What type of person are you on the generosity scale? Is it down to nature or nurture? Do you give to charity, to beggars and are you open to sob stories? Would you give anonymously? Advice versus money and putting yourself at risk to help others. Meanness and unhappiness. How does life experience shape your generosity. Your Day of Judgement awaits.
01:02:31
September 02, 2021
Being Punctual. Does it Matter?
We delve into punctuality. Why you find it so essential to be on time or are not bothered. What judgement can you make about people from their timeliness. Do you fret about getting to the door in time to alight buses and trains? We investigate the causes of on-time anxiety including potty training. Are you always late or early? Find out about yourself through this simple test.
48:28
August 29, 2021
Moving: what you should know with help from Right Said Fred.
Moving your stuff. So stressful and upsetting. And then having to remake a new home with stuff that maybe doesn’t fit and you don’t want any more. How to plan and prepare. We chart a path avoiding the rocks and sharks.
37:06
August 26, 2021
Dropping everything
How ready are you to rush off to a friend in need, whatever the personal cost or career cost. How do different nationalities behave when juggling competing obligations. Who is your emergency contact and why a Brazilian is best….not what you are thinking. Do some people cry for help too easily. All your answers are in here…somewhere
36:29
August 22, 2021
Romantic Dinner a Deux. Guaranteed Seduction or your Money Back.
We think through all the little but important details to ensure your dinner table and seduction plan are properly laid out and you are prepared for all eventualities and hopefully a happy ending. Plenty of practical tips and we are offering free real time advice between courses to ready you for the next round, just like a boxing pro.
53:45
August 19, 2021
Interview With Banx
Award winning cartoonist joins Sarah and Daniel.
46:18
August 15, 2021
Or Was it a Dream?
Can you be sure what is real. Suspended disbelief compared with magical reality. Elvis Costello’s “When did I stop dreaming” is analysed. Astral travelling and recurring death dreams. Footprints on the ceiling will leave you questioning everything around you.
59:30
August 12, 2021
Rain on Me
It rains from time to time. Are you a fairweather type who avoids the rain or do you glory in the experience…singing in the rain. Rain can be romantic, huddled under an umbrella. Rain dances and cloud seeding rain. It’s raining, it’s pouring the old man is snoring. Why it never rains on China’s parades. Turning up bedraggled at your hopeful romantic partner……does he take you in?
38:49
August 08, 2021
Your Favourite Mug
Why are people so possessive about their tea or coffee mug, at home and work? We explore the hidden secrets and stray off course into mug shots and being a “mug”. There’s one born every minute.
53:33
August 05, 2021
Perfect Hosts and Guests. It’s complicated.
Making people feel comfortable. Being a considerate guest. Top tips getting ready to entertain. How to be the host from hell with coaster rules. Using breakfast menu options as short cut to “why don’t you stay the night?”. Dirty stop our kits and brief-cases. Don’t forget the thank you card. It’s all there for your enjoyment as Sarah and Daniel play the perfect hosts.
56:20
August 01, 2021
Film Warnings: Sex, Violence and Global Warming
The film industry needs a whole new set of warnings for the sensitive types, covering green issues, proper disposal of unwanted stuff, dicks caught in zips, inter-generational envy, Venetian blinds, heart stopping frightening scenes and so much more.
55:25
July 29, 2021
“Under New Management”: a positive or negative?
Don’t go changing to try and please me (Billy Joel). From restaurants to your own life, we explore the siren call of the new. What difference do the people make who manage your life, from Executive Assistants to Actors’ Agents. Microsoft installations and patches, “business as usual”, the blitz all get the Sharman/Confino treatment. WARNING: very funny at times (you’ll know because we will be laughing uncontrollably).
40:14
July 25, 2021
What is Your Face Really Saying?
You never see your true face. What effect does your “resting” face produce. Your bitch face, your lying face, your cum face…we hold up a mirror to your pulled or unwitting facial expressions.
54:12
July 23, 2021
It's Too Darn HOT
Strategies for keeping cool during the heat wave. Wacky ideas to try at home at your own risk. Global warming: saving photos while destroying the planet.
39:53
July 20, 2021
Interview with Nicola Rossi - Author of Rockstar Ending
Award winning Nicola joins us for a chat and tells us about her leap from the sanitised corporate world to her dystopian vision of technology and society so convincingly portrayed in her published works.
57:55
July 18, 2021
European Heaven and Hell. Diversity is dangerous in the wrong hands.
National stereotypes are useful. The Brits make the best police and the Italians the best lovers. The Danes are lazy snd the French make the best chefs. The Swiss are the go-to organisers and the Germans the wurst lovers. Can it be that simple? We investigate.
47:07
July 15, 2021
The art of non-verbal communication.
Forget polite discourse. This is the world of animal spirits and short distance signals and messaging. It’s primitive, instinctual and sometimes culturally specific. Posture, body language, hands and fingers are all potent weapons in your communications arsenal. Getting attention in restaurants. Being sexy without saying a word and much more. It’s all there. WARNING Contains vulgar signs and gestures.
56:37
July 11, 2021
Sacrifices. Blood, money and time.
Why do we bother to make sacrifices and what do we expect in return. Upsetting the gods and why a superior being is vital; even the Queen. Laying down your life for another and being martyred for your beliefs. Balloon debates and lost-at-sea cannibalism. It’s a heady mix which will leave you facing an existential crisis.
45:42
July 08, 2021
Think of Your Life as a Movie: Take 2
Stand back from your life for a moment to think about who is calling the shots. Can you change the plot and get a new scriptwriter. Do you have agency or does your fate decide. Reworking real life situations that went wrong by doing a movie style “Take 2”.
39:35
July 04, 2021
Interview with Barry Yarde, bespoke furniture designer and maker.
Barry is a fascinating combination of inspired design and millimetre precision who makes life enhancing furniture around his clients. Are you more traditional oak or hipster cherry? His attention to detail terrifies his tailor when Barry the maker, becomes Barry the client from hell with a weird taste in linings. Be inspired.
53:18
July 01, 2021
Season 3 Trailer
After more than 50 episodes we are in step like accomplished tango partners. Our new theme music, courtesy of Isaac Dyer, beautifully captures the new vibe and feel of our collaboration with sudden moves and changes of direction, all performed with perfect timing.
01:41
June 27, 2021
Looking a million dollars
The place of jewellery in adorning the face and body. How to get more bang for your buck. Jamming combinations of rings on your fingers. Pearls and brooches dissected. Jewellery safety tips. Evolution in a blind alley for stunted watch makers. Daniel misunderstands gravitation and puts on weight to make his heavenly body more attractive and upsets some old ladies with a Faustian “look sexy again”pact.
01:00:17
June 24, 2021
Flat-packed brains. How IKEA screwed up.
Daniel loses his rag over IKEA’s crass position on GB News. Then slams them for the unforgivable sin of cutting a vertical before considering the wisdom of cooling off before reacting. Does the unconscious keep working on our problems overnight. Corporate and national disasters when there was no adult in the room.
42:57
June 22, 2021
Bumpity, bump bump bump.
Oh to go back to the smooth ride of the 1950s. You're in for a bumpy ride as we explore how the engineering angels of the perfect ride do battle with the jackhammer devils of the speed bump invented by a Nobel prize winner. Ha!
39:21
June 20, 2021
Thieves, thieves, tramps and thieves
Your whole life is exposed and at risk. Both physical and digital. Strategies for protecting your most prized possessions. How to create a memorable and wholly unique password. Ways to persuade people to reveal their innermost secrets and what is in the second drawer down, left hand side.
36:07
June 17, 2021
Wow your audience.
The world is your stage. From speeches, to interviews, to presentations, to sex, to sport we give you the confidence and techniques to perform at your peak and give of your best. .
50:51
June 13, 2021
Rub a Dub Dub
Can shower gels really live up to their exotic names. Do they bring out the animal in you, turn you into a sloth, even a sex monster and wash away your sins. Shower gel clash examined. Daniel in the dog house after an on-board tomato juice goes all wrong.
37:51
June 11, 2021
I’m OK, thanks
We do a 360 on the miserabilist use of “OK” and advocate for higher expectations. Marginal utility theory and Bruce Bogtrotter’s approach to demolishing that Triple Chocolate cake. How not to waste Contino Gran Reserva 2000 Rioja; a capital offence.
36:47
June 06, 2021
Damsels in distress and chivalry
When did you last replace a fan belt with a stocking? Slipping into something more comfortable. What is expected of men these days and do they take advantage of women in difficulties.
39:57
June 03, 2021
If I Had A Hammer....
Choosing the right hammer, the sexist Pirelli Calendar gets close examination, valuing artists, Zen meditation and stripping for money. The “Buzzard” in Leighton Buzzard attracts our curiosity. Also our first midtro.
33:04
May 30, 2021
The Award Goes to...
Are you influenced by Oscars, BAFTAS, award winning labels, Parker points and 5 star reviews or are you guided by your own instincts.
31:53
May 27, 2021
Will the true you please stand up
Are you more in person or more online. Is your identity fixed or are you still delving into the dressing up box. We strip you bare and leave you shivering in no man’s land to contemplate your true self. Not for the faint hearted.
41:28
May 23, 2021
A Strong Firm NO!
“No” can be the hardest word. We help you practise in front of the mirror of your hidden other self. Push back rather than be a push-over. Experience a whole new world of personal power where people don’t take your “no” for an answer.
30:19
May 20, 2021
How Low Can You Go?
Recorded remotely. A bonus episode looking at how the knee is the most  overlooked and misunderstood joint. Did Sam and Ria get engaged? The Japanese and West African customs of bowing. A Robert Maxwell story  involving HM The Queen. Don’t be a knee jerk and take a listen.
43:25
May 18, 2021
Sign in blood and drag your fingernails through your scrawl.
Your signature can reveal so much about your personality. Practice a signature that presents your inner tiger. Comparing handwriting on dating sites. The power of handwritten love poems. The dangers of faked cheques and suicide notes. Girls be careful if you tattoo in “courgette” script on your back.
37:11
May 16, 2021
I’m free, what’s free, not for free.
They say the best things in life are free. What about the birds and bees? Random acts of kindness. Where there’s a queue there’s something for free. The joys of ill-gotten gains and giving stuff away.
45:11
May 13, 2021
Lazy Bones
Don’t be a busy fool or a useless dreamer. Practical advice on getting by on low energy solutions, Daniel’s failed application to be the laziest ever Governor of The Bank of England. Edison’s take on genius. The dangers of intervention when doing nothing is usually best.
35:56
May 10, 2021
New Age Men
Are you in touch with your feminine side. Do you cry at the movies? Are women really any nicer than men? Are women a civilising influence? So many questions, so few answers. Nik Kershaw’s “Billy” makes a brave attempt.
43:40
May 06, 2021
Life is no picnic
An exploration of how the seductively incomplete lost treasure map meets the fantasy picnic (in Sarah’s case from Aldi). Food anxiety and oral greed explained through Hansel and Gretel. Life is no picnic and no picnic will ever be the same.
36:45
May 03, 2021
David Kurten Interview: Mayoral Candidate
We talk to David about his route into politics, his strong principles and what he stands for as mayoral candidate leading his own new Heritage Party.  https://heritageparty.org/ https://twitter.com/davidkurten?s=20
39:36
May 01, 2021
Survival guide to home/office working
Coping with working at home, kitchen congestion and dangers of the fridge. Reinventing yourself and taking no nonsense for your “ta daa” dramatic return to the office.
48:57
April 29, 2021
Take It Away - Leftover
Over-catered. Over-ordered. Doggy bags. Take away hell. Don’t make a meal of it. “Too Good To Go” deals. Sarah confuses legovers with leftovers and takes a deep dumpster dive for bread.
38:53
April 25, 2021
Jingle Jangle
Famous tag lines for adverts put under the microscope to identify the clever tricks of the most persuasive. Daniel gets ripped off buying shoes. Lock up your Rolos.
46:37
April 22, 2021
Crying over spilt milk
Crying over spilt milk, cry baby, crocodile tears and turning on the waterworks. Should we suspect or trust tears? Biology of why we laugh and cry. How to respond to hurt and anger and when not to use rational debate in the face of emotion. Sarah makes her annual joke.
32:12
April 18, 2021
Cooking on Gas
Your preferred heat source is just the start of a deep dive into being your true authentic self. The fabled “blue flame”, when your inner beauty is evident and you can’t burn any brighter. Thank you Randy Crawford for the inspiration.
37:48
April 15, 2021
Laughing your head off. The long drop.
Hanging, electric chair, garrotte, guillotine, firing squad, off with your head. An analysis of the inhumanity of it all. Our most macabre podcast. “Favourite Hour” by Elvis Costello and “25 Minutes To Go” by Johnny Cash discussed. WARNING: Daniel tears up!
28:02
April 11, 2021
Repaired with Love
Do you have time to make or repair things? Are they better afterwards showing patina and hinting at a rich life story. The Japanese art of Kintsugi explored. Embracing and beautifying moth holes in your favourite jumper.
35:12
April 09, 2021
Make it or Buy It
An unforgettable journey into the benefits of new versus second hand, made to measure versus freebies and upscaling.... and the joys of admiring your own creations. It’s all there for you to rummage around in our quirky bazaar.
37:08
April 05, 2021
Pastimes, hobbies and passions.
Finding an activity to lose yourself while time stands still. Ideal for inter galactic travel, lockdown blues and eternal youth.
41:13
April 02, 2021
I’m so sorry
Apologies, excuses and explanations. A guide for the perplexed.
39:44
March 26, 2021
Arty, Party, Smarty, Hearty
A rare philosophical investigation into the theory of attraction. Understanding how you present and are perceived. Will probably ruin your life.
46:16
March 22, 2021
Are You Sitting Comfortably?
Keeping up a conversation while captive in the hairdresser, dentist and advice on surviving interrogation/torture. Complicated Newtonian physics made simple. Galileo and unwanted hair all get the Sharman/Confino shock treatment.
45:55
March 19, 2021
Civic Duty
A somewhat serious investigation into what it takes to be a good person, neighbour and citizen. Only Joking!
46:55
March 15, 2021
Rental vs. Ownership
A sideways look at the traps and pitfalls of ownership and the siren call of rental. Daniel goes too far, encouraged by his Roman Law tutor. “Usufruct”explained (no spelling mistake).
36:57
March 12, 2021
In a Pickle, have some cake.
Join Sarah, Daniel and Jayne on this jocular discussion about taking the time to make amazing food ingredients and preserves, pickles and mince pies during lockdown
36:48
March 08, 2021
The Butcher, The Fishmonger, The Cheese Shop and the Greengrocer
An irreverent look at shopping local for today’s meals and making cheese presentation into an art form.  
40:19
March 05, 2021
Send You On Your Way
Leaving home and preparing your kids to reach escape velocity from parental gravitational tug.
45:17
March 01, 2021
Aunt Today, GodFather Tomorrow
Examining the proper role of naughty aunts, uncles and godparents.
46:41
February 26, 2021
Method in your Madness
Are you ruled by order or chaos? The twin forces of the universe can destroy all in their path including your relationship when nobody can find the sellotape.
38:50
February 22, 2021
Q Manners
Manners maketh man. Social media and the Wild West, Queuing etiquette. It’s all here for you to disentangle.
38:25
February 19, 2021
Waiting For Life To Begin
A rambling conversation on ageing, car anxieties and seizing the moment.
48:18
February 15, 2021
Mi Namo
Rethinking the impact of your name, how to change it and living with embarrassing names. Vikings, Essex marshes and the Inquisition all thrown in for free.
30:29
February 12, 2021
Time and Breathing
A sideways look at breathing correctly and time management
20:42
February 08, 2021
Stay in Your Lane
Road traffic and parking problems and how to escape and avoid fines
34:09
February 05, 2021
Signed, Sealed, Delivered.
When the perfect online world of clicks meets the messy real world of deliveries, your problems have just started.
29:46
February 01, 2021
Dark and Mysterious
A must-listen for lovers of the dark arts. What happens when we lose control over events and our actions. What did happen with that Christmas jumper. Plus how to get off a murder rap.
32:46
January 29, 2021
Slow Lane
How do you keep moving? An irreverent look at health and fitness during lockdown.
38:40
January 25, 2021
What A Picture!
A not too serious discussion on how to improve your photographic skills. Portrait, landscape and contre jour. All is illuminated.
36:05
January 22, 2021
Have You Got Time For Tea?
Sarah and Daniel stop to have a pot of tea. 
11:10
January 18, 2021
What's your price?
Practical advice on the art of negotiation. Will probably save you a small fortune.
30:50
January 15, 2021
Would you like a biscuit with that?
A forensic and data driven report into the murky world of broken biscuits where no biscuit is safe Artwork by Jayne Confino.  Music composed by Isaac Dyer.
22:23
January 11, 2021
Christmas Crime...sorry time.
Looking back at time well spent with family during the festive holiday. Music composed by Isaac Dyer.
29:36
January 08, 2021
A Present or a Gift?
How do you choose the perfect gift and should you be there to give it in person? Plus how to unwrap a present.
30:31
January 08, 2021
Who's that Knocking?
Daniel and Sarah explore what it means to be a Neighbour from a Biblical, legal and lived-experience perspective. Gets very messy. Don’t leave home without listening.
35:09
January 06, 2021
Homespun Wisdom :Talks with my Neighbour. TRAILER
Join Sarah Sharman and Daniel Confino; two neighbours, generations apart and socially distanced of course. Sharing practical insights into life in unscripted and unedited conversations that will make you giddy with delight, laugh and cry uncontrollably. Artwork by Jayne Confino. Music composed by Isaac Dyer.
01:02
January 06, 2021