The Howard & John Show

We're retooling our podcast. John and I discuss our direction and our goals. We also discuss the nature of taking on project that aren't really "work." 

There's no shortage of eating advice available on the internet. John and I discuss our personal relationships with food and share our struggles.

This week, John and I discuss guilt. We're not talking about the legal definition of guilt. Rather, we're interested in the small slights, perceived and real, that we inflict on others during the course of our everyday lives. It turns out that guilt isn't just a bad feeling, it's an opportunity to reflect and grow.

Making decisions is universally challenging. Howard and John break down their processes and share their executive struggles. Hint: you're probably making too many decisions.

It destroys our sleep. It strains our social bonds. It makes our worlds smaller. It's anxiety, a fear reaction without an identifiable source. How do we cope with anxiety? What do we do to calm the fear? Howard and John discuss anxiety and we explain why we disappeared for a while.

It's hard to say no. But that doesn't mean you shouldn't do it. In fact, the art of saying "no" may be the best way to save yourself and others from disaster.

You don't need to be a student to learn. Learning is a mindset that can be cultivated at any age, even in midlife. And it can be one of the most rewarding things we can do. Howard and John share what they've learned about learning and how they continue to learn even as they age.

If 2020 has taught us anything, it's that you never know what the future holds for your finances. Be prepared and start an online side hustle. Yes, you can do it.

Howard and I got into a conflict about a post that I wrote about the first presidential debate. The conflict was illuminating, and good. Here's what we learned from it and what we think about conflict in general.

We all experience failure. It’s baked into success. John and I share our stories of when things go sideways. Spoiler alert: failure is just a mindset, and we prove it.

A new Netflix independent docudrama, The Social Dilemma, is creating a stir among social media thinkers. Are we losing our ability to communicate and respect those with opposing views? What does the future look like when the all of our brains are manipulated and monetized by digital algorithms? We break it down.

We all have more agency than we often realize. We can reshape our lives. We can even reinvent ourselves. That's what we talk about in today's episode. We, Howard Lerner and John Pa, share our stories of reinventing ourselves and what we learned from those moments.

What is fear and why is it so powerful at a time in human history when angry bears and rolling boulders are hardly threats?

Tapping your own creativity takes courage and, for most, an audience. We discuss how to overcome your fears and let your muse guide you.

What does it mean to start and build a romantic relationship in midlife? Howard and John discuss their real experiences.

The Imposter Syndrome is a belief that you're inadequate, destined for failure and soon to be declared a fraud. Howard and John get real about feeling insecure and what they do to cope.

One of the good things about getting older is our ability to form new healthy habits. Howard and John discuss their routines, habits and motivations and how being kind to yourself, setting reasonable goals and asking yourself exactly what you want out of a new habit will set you up for success.

These are chaotic times but is it a good time to start something new?

You've accomplished a lot in your life. Inspiration and motivation has never been a problem before. But, all the sudden, you're in midlife and you're finding it hard to get jazzed about ideas and inspired about projects. We discuss motivation at midlife.

We throw the word around a lot, but what does it really mean to "trust?" a business? 

The Covid19 pandemic has caused unprecedented disruption to the world's small retailers. What does the future look like for restaurants and main street ?