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Why? Creative on Friday. Creating a clear space within, to do the hard work outside yourself. Like a happy hour on a Friday.

Grief I believe was inherited in to my life by witnessing it in my parent from a young age. Their grief and pain became internalized in to me. I remember the moment seeing my son's eyes - they looked how I felt when I was his age. And I wanted to stop the cycle so he could have a different experience of life, his own.

Kia ora and welcome to "Grief Centre with Indigenuity on Mondays." I use the word grief but I mean many other things. Like anger, sadness, loss, trauma, being stuck, frightened. The hole. Disassociation - disconnecting from yourself mometarily is not 'sexy' these days where everything is about vulnberability and connection. However...it's a pragmatic tool that has helped me to be able to overcome overwhelm, loss and messy situations to buy my own houses for my kids.𝘛𝘰𝘥𝘢𝘺, 𝘸𝘦 𝘦𝘮𝘱𝘩𝘢𝘴𝘪𝘻𝘦 𝘵𝘩𝘦 𝘪𝘮𝘱𝘰𝘳𝘵𝘢𝘯𝘤𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘨𝘪𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘨𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘧 𝘪𝘵𝘴 𝘳𝘪𝘨𝘩𝘵𝘧𝘶𝘭 𝘴𝘱𝘢𝘤𝘦. 𝘞𝘦 𝘦𝘯𝘤𝘰𝘶𝘳𝘢𝘨𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶 𝘵𝘰 𝘯𝘢𝘮𝘦 𝘺𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘨𝘳𝘪𝘦𝘧, 𝘣𝘦 𝘬𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘵𝘰 𝘪𝘵, 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘳𝘢𝘤𝘵𝘪𝘤𝘦 𝘭𝘦𝘢𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘪𝘵 𝘣𝘦𝘩𝘪𝘯𝘥 𝘰𝘯 𝘔𝘰𝘯𝘥𝘢𝘺𝘴. 𝘉𝘺 𝘤𝘳𝘦𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘵𝘩𝘪𝘴 𝘪𝘯𝘵𝘦𝘯𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘢𝘭 𝘳𝘪𝘵𝘶𝘢𝘭, 𝘸𝘦 𝘩𝘰𝘯𝘰𝘳 𝘰𝘶𝘳 𝘦𝘮𝘰𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯𝘴 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘧𝘰𝘴𝘵𝘦𝘳 𝘢 𝘴𝘦𝘯𝘴𝘦 𝘰𝘧 𝘭𝘪𝘣𝘦𝘳𝘢𝘵𝘪𝘰𝘯 𝘢𝘯𝘥 𝘱𝘦𝘢𝘤𝘦. 𝘛𝘰 𝘬𝘦𝘦𝘱 𝘮𝘰𝘷𝘪𝘯𝘨 𝘧𝘰𝘳𝘸𝘢𝘳𝘥.

Nearly 25 years ago I was introduced to mindfulness, compassion and hope as a practise. Then I have seen that with daily practise, the profound change.

Aonga Ake e te whaanau. Today is Monday, we make space for our grief, anger, resentment. You know, the kind of experiences that have been holding us back on our journey. Today I discuss the origins of why I started Grief Centre on Mondays. It's probably not what you think. It was actually about how I managed to keep myself calm amongst other people's bull kaka, greed and behaviour. In particular how whaanau behaved around land, whenua, trusts and money. Paru, sad, bad behaviour.

I discuss how being stuck looked in my experience and the approach that has given some peace for my whaanau.

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Every property I've ever bought, the finance journey was filled with 9 x NO, and 1 x Yes right at the end. This is normal. Practise Hope so that you don't give up. It's a skill and a virtue. Today we delve into the concept of cultivating hope within yourself. Let's explore the practices, tools, and perspectives that allow us to nurture and foster hope. In terms of homeownership and whenua, you need hope. Lots of it, because often the process feels like it is always a 'NO'. Will you consider retraining yourself to see NO as - Not Yet. 🟡 Hope is a practise 🌼 You can rewire your self to feel hopeful 🟡 To feel hopeful, try thinking of yourself when you were little. Visualise give you, what you needed to feel hopeful and joyful. + Try acting with compassion to yourself; kind to the version of you that needs to hear warm words of encouragement. Visualise and physicalise kindness to you. Tune in to the weekly podcast, like a midweek cup of tea with ourselves.

Our Tūpuna (ancestors) carry their own mamae (grief), and sometimes we inherit a portion of it. Today, we explore the mamae we've inherited and how it impacts our lives. By acknowledging and understanding this inheritance, we can embark on a journey of healing and liberation.

𝗔𝗼𝗻𝗴𝗮 𝗮𝗸𝗲 𝗲 𝘁𝗲 𝘄𝗵𝗮𝗮𝗻𝗮𝘂. "On Wednesdays, We Practise Hope," where we cultivate and nurture the flicker of hope within you until it blazes into an unstoppable flame. In this episode, we touch on the power of consistent practice and resilience because 𝗛𝗢𝗣𝗘 doesn't always come naturally at first. Most of the last few years has been believing in something that did not exist in my day to day...happiness. But just practising the feeling, that there is something around the corner, eventually it arrives. Just like muscles that grow with training. 

Kia ora. Welcome back to "Grief Centre with Indigenuity on Mondays." Today, I invite you to reflect on how long you've been feeling stuck. Stagnation can hinder our growth and healing process. Together, we'll explore the roots of this stagnation and discover ways to move forward with intention and resilience.

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On Fridays, we make space for creativity. You don't always have to be doing crafts - sometimes just about play or experiencing freedom. Taking back control or the feeling of control over your life. Even if it is just a few minutes or an hour of your week. And from that feeling of freedom and play, that feeling is actually wealth. If we learn what it feels like, it starts to become more and more present in our life - after that the money is easy.

On Wednesdays, we practise hope. We take the small flame of hope, we grow it until it's abundant. We do this because Hope is a behaviour, a practise. It doesn't always come naturally. So by having a practise where every Wednesday we think and associate ourselves to hopeful thoughts. Eventually it comes present in our lives.

On Mondays we practise grief. We give ourselves permission to feel grief, resentment, anger - everything that comes up in our lives that prevents us from reaching for what we want. On Mondays we let it have it space. We park it there and then we get on with the rest of our week.

Imagine this as a virtual space that I hold for you to name your grief, acknowledge all that you have been through or perhaps still going through. Resentment, anger, sadness, hardship. Speak gently to yourself while I hold a few moments here for you. Let your voice be heard, name what's holding you back.

Today's questions:

• What is holding you back?
• What feelings are you holding but need permission to feel?
• How will you honour everything you are going through?
• When do you plan for time to replenish?

Things to consider:

• There are 52 Mondays in a year
• Giving yourself a moment every Monday to address, name and hold space for your grief will mean 52 days of practise
• It takes practise to hold space for emotions
• Stretch yourself a bit more each week
• Eventually you will learn to unpack and off load anything that is holding you back

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Today I've recorded my own reflections on where my grief, resentments and control issues rise up in my life. It's been wearing me out a bit lately. Particularly in trying to translate my annoyances about relationship money, and instead telling the authentic truth.

 Make time and space to pause. I do this through being creative. It uses another source of energy that seems bottomless and so I get a break from stresses. In this space and time, the answers to problems just flow and follow.

Listen in to some ideas to give you a midweek boost of hope. Two options to support your journey.

Update on workshops, scholarships and the importance of coaching while you relearn how to thrive.

These next set of videos and podcasts are about the behaviours and disciplines that I embrace, to have a healthy Money Thermostat.

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Today's livestream relates to our Current stage in CleanBanking. My husband has graciously agreed to let me interview him on his money mindset he has and grew up with.

Together we will share how our mindsets have clashed. And then how we also worked to harness this and move forward. I would say we have resolved our differences, but we are committed to a common goal and some how we manage to row in sync often enough that the waka does shift forward.

We achieve our financial goals together as a couple at a later stage in life, perhaps because we have no time to waste, so we just have to.

We are going to investigate what our backgrounds taught us that have shaped our inner money voice/mindset.

I would like anyone who can, to voice record what your money mindset is, why and how it affects or benefits you. Please send your voice recording in. We can all benefit from sharing in our experiences (voice recording keeps your anonymity)

A timeline of emails, letters and events following my 2020 application to the Māori Land Court for succession to whenua māori

Reading through some of my email communications with the Case Manager at the Māori Land Court. 

Dedicated to my sons, their whakapapa Māori, Moriori, Niue, Atiu and Tahiti. May our mokopuna never be tenants on any of your whenua throughout Te Moananui a Kiwa. Love from mummy.

Next week's episode is about the Patriarchy and my problem with it. I don't want to be a whinger, name and shamer, bleating about mamae without offering a solution. 

So each week I will share with you a shorter interlude the gets to the point, the solution, for how I overcome a problem - before I talk to you about the problem. Then, you can listen to the following episode for more context, perhaps just to listen to my story.

Inspiration for the interlude is from one of my favourite albums by OutKast; an interlude to set the scene before the next waiata :)

A kaupapa to keep sharing with my followers on how I self represented in the Māori Land Court.

My goal is to break the whānau cycle of holding secrets for poor whānau ethics, greed and intra-oppression (the oppressed now opress) and instead share the experience for others to follow the solutions that worked for me.

The theme of Mondays will be Māori Land. No I am not open for individual consultations but will instead share and it is up to you to follow.