Inside-Out: Interpersonal Transformation at Work

“Every human has four endowments - self awareness, conscience, independent will, and creative imagination. These give us the ultimate human freedom... The power to choose, to respond, to change.” ~ Stephen Covey

Conscious change doesn’t happen without self awareness.

If you’re not fully aware of how your thoughts, opinions, judgements, and limiting beliefs are impacting your results, then you’ll keep getting (largely) the same results.

Awareness is an increasingly popular term, and it goes hand in hand with being more “present” or “mindful.” But when you choose the path of increased self awareness, you start to see it all…what works for you, what doesn’t work for you, what’s creating your success, and what’s blocking your success.

It’s a lot to take in. But the question is…is it worth it?

In this podcast, let's explore advantages and disadvantages to living a life with more conscious awareness, and my humble answer to the question above.

Enjoy!

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If you want to accelerate your personal (and professional) development, become part of a community that you support, believe in, and love.

People are like neurons in a great global brain. When they’re all “firing and wiring together,” as Dr. Joe Dispenza likes to say, we bring innovative, inspiring, and brilliant ideas to life. And in turn, you grow personally by leaps and bounds by simply being surrounded by talented people.

In this article, you learn how powerful connection is to supporting your personal and professional development goals.

Enjoy!

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You have goals.

You have tasks, things to do, people to see, and places to go.

Yet, despite all of our accomplishments, why are so many of us dissatisfied with ourselves? Often, to combat our dissatisfaction, we push ourselves to accomplish more, do more, and be MORE!

But it’s not sustainable. And it may be tough to break this cycle until we address, what I call, “Goal Grief.”

If you want to achieve the kind of success that leads to renewable fulfillment, this podcast has a simple yet important solution.

Enjoy!

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It’s a miracle that anyone understands what anyone else is saying.

When you speak, words come through filters generated from a lifetime of experiences.

It’s not always you who speaks, but it’s your parents, teachers, partners, co-workers, bosses, managers, leaders, news anchors, authors, podcasters, YouTubers, and so on…

Now, there's nothing wrong with this normal and natural process. However, there is another level of communication that will bring you more peace, and create deeper, more meaningful relationships. I call this conscious communication. The first step to conscious communication is being aware that these filters exist. And you need to know how they affect not only what you say but also what you hear.

In this episode, we explore how these filters are limiting your communication, and then I offer three simple steps to bring more peaceful conscious communication into your life.

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“When the trust is high, communication is easy, instant, and effective.”

~ Stephen Covey

As Stephen Covey shares in his quote above, trust is a key ingredient to success in communication. But I suggest that trust not only boosts communication but also resiliency.

Think of it this way, would you rather face economic or competitive challenges with a group of people that you trust or a group of people that you’re wary of? Having an organization filled with trusting human beings acts like an immune system. The company weathers many more influencers or, so called, obstacles and challenges.

So how do you build trust?

As I emphasize in all of my work, start from the inside out! In this episode we explore easy ways to boost your self-trust and cultivate a culture of trust.

Enjoy the show!

If you're like me, you have a tendency to express yourself creatively...alone. But no one is an island. Not only is collaboration inevitable in our interpersonal relationships, it's the only way to create something greater than any individual is capable of creating.

In this episode, I briefly share my experiences with creating in isolation, how I discovered the power of aligned collaboration, and ultimately I define the key ingredients that you need to create productive partnerships with your colleagues. 

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For some people, it's tough to say what they really want to say. Especially to their boss, other co-workers, or even in personal relationships. 

At the same time, we've all had experiences with people who speak their truth. They speak with authority, clarity, confidence, but also with humility, grace, and flexibility. 

You have this ability too! You have a unique, one-of-a-kind voice and message that needs to be shared. Because there's only one YOU, you're the ONLY ONE who can share what's important for you to share. And in doing so, you will turbo-charge your relationships and forge strong bonds of partnership, collaboration, and creation. 

Listen to these three simple ways to practice expressing your true voice – what you really want to say – and enjoy putting these practices into your daily life. 

I had a "hit-me-over-the-head" insight that completely changed my life. It created a sense of liberation and freedom.

The insight? I don't have to prove anything to anyone at anytime about anything. 

I realized that some of my life's biggest decisions were secretly driven by a deep and buried belief that "I'm not valuable enough." So I set out to prove it wrong! I thought things like, "I'll create a business and prove that I can create valuable services that people would pay money for."

It actually doesn't sound all that bad. Heck, some amazing accomplishments in human history were also achieve to prove that it could be done!

But there was a catch to my way of thinking...if anything indicated that I was not creating value (perhaps a slow down in business) it created a nearly crippling doubt. After exploring this doubt and identifying its source, the liberation began. 

I don't have to STOP doing anything I've been doing. I now have the freedom to decide a NEW motivator. And what happened when I did? The flood gates opened: more client calls than I can serve, new opportunities emerged, doubt faded into an imperceptible murmur. 

What does this have to do with our interpersonal relationships?

EVERYTHING!

How many of us engage in relationships with the motivation to prove something. To prove that we are valuable in their eyes. To prove that we're smart in their eyes. To prove their words wrong. And this energy, while motivating, is completely stunting and directly blocking the energy of freedom, liberation, and joy. 

Listen to these deeply personal and powerful episode as we translate this wisdom into real and practical approaches that YOU can take, today, to release yourself from the burden of proof, and open the doors to more liberation, freedom, peace, calm, collaboration, partnership, and joy. 

If you like this episode, please subscribe and share with your friends. 

I recently attended the funeral for a family member. During the eulogies and remembrances, what did they talk about? His financial success, his assets, his doubts, his thoughts? No...it was his IMPACT on his most precious relationships with friends, family, and colleagues. 

You, too, will be remembered by your most powerful and inspiring relationships. But this doesn't end with just a handful of people in your life. It actually all starts, from the Inside Out with THE most important relationship you'll have for your entire life: your relationship with yourself!

In this episode, I talk about the balance between receiving and giving in your relationships (internally and externally) in a way that is fulfilling and long-lasting. I also talk about who you really are and what it actually means to have a relationship with yourself. 

I end with a powerful exercise that invites you to think about what others would say about you during your funeral and how powerful & inspiring your relationships have been. 

If you enjoy this episode, please be sure to subscribe and share with others. Even sharing with one friend can make such a huge difference (in addition to knowing that I'd give you the biggest virtual high-five ever!)

Love, Light, and Warm Wishes to you

I help people transform their relationships by working from the inside out. It may seem unbelievable, and I wouldn't believe it myself if I hadn't seen my clients make the transformation. Now, I'm not immune to doing the simple yet not-so-easy work of working on myself from the inside out to transform my relationships. 

Join me on this episode where I do the work -- walk my own talk -- from the inside out with one of my most important and critical relationships (my son and I). 

See how I USE my emotions to finally hear the messages they're trying to send me, and how seeing my son as a REFLECTION of myself gave me understanding, compassion, contentment, engagement, and more enthusiasm that I really wanted. 

If you're not 100% satisfied in your professional work relationships, you have some work to do. In this lively podcast episode, I dive into ways for you to experience true satisfaction in your relationships. And it's not the way you might think. In fact, I start by exploring what TRUE satisfaction really MEANS. It does NOT mean the absence of stress, doubt, guilt, anger, or shame. It's about feeling those (and, in fact, ALL emotions) as one of many PRICELESS sources of information. Your relationships contain a treasure trove of information, wisdom, and clarity. IF you can start to see your relationships in this way, you will have virtually NO CHOICE but to experience true satisfaction. Because you come to realize the truth that ALL relationships have value. And with that value, you can make clear, conscious, aligned, and powerful decisions. 

Tune in and enjoy!

In order to make sense of the world, you run all of your experiences through an intricate and complex filter of stories, judgments, and labels. 

Have you ever felt dissatisfied with a critical professional relationship? I guarantee that it has more to do with the stories you told yourself about that relationship than the actual people involved. 

What's cool is that we can use this very natural and efficient human ability (i.e. telling ourselves stories about the world) to turn the needle and create more satisfaction in your professional relationships. But is starts with the awareness and deeper truth that it's the stories in your mind that are driving much of your experience (satisfying OR dissatisfying). 

Tune in and enjoy! 

Have you ever been around someone who lifts you up just by being around them? What about someone who drags you down just as easily? Ever wonder what's at the source of that energy?

It's a signal...it's a broadcast of electromagnetic energy that we are ALL sending and receiving all the time. This energy is built on what we think and how we feel. 

In this podcast, I share one of my latest discoveries to help you "broadcast" more happiness, peace, enthusiasm, and passion. Not only for YOU, which is SO important, but also to uplift and inspire others...ESPECIALLY those difficult people that you're stressing about at work.

When we "fight" or "flight" with our difficult & stressful relationships at work, it doesn't mean that we literally go running away through the hills and hide in a cave OR slap someone in the face with a leather glove and challenge them to a duel!

At the core of "flight" is avoidance, which shows up as canceling meetings, not replying to emails, or anything else where you're AVOIDING interacting with this difficult person. 

At the core of FIGHT, is a very polarized view: right/wrong, good/bad. It's about protecting what's important to you. 

Both of these methods WORK, but they are very costly in terms of your mental, emotional, and physical health. 

So if you REALLY want to change from a "Fight or Flight" attitude, you need to become aware of what's going on INSIDE. 

The two MAJOR contributors to a Fight or Flight attitude lies in, what I call, "Mirrors" and/or Values. We explore these two sources and WHAT TO DO ABOUT them in this short podcast.

Enjoy!