It's All Up From Here!

Do you lie to yourself or other people? Even small misrepresentations can impact our lives day to day. Today we delve deep into the "stories" we tell ourselves and others. We also talk about how we each have our own "truth" and how difficult that can be in relationships.

How clear are your boundaries when dealing with other people? Shona and Pia talk about boundary issues they have both faced in their personal lives, over the last month, which caught them by surprise. They then share what it looks like to have clear boundaries in an intimate relationship. Lots of great information in this one!

Do you think you're creative? Pia would say that everyone is, and shares how to get in touch with your own creativity. Shona discusses her life long creative journey and how it used to involve her linen cupboard. Yep, that's right, her linen cupboard! Listen in as the girls take a light hearted look at how you can be more creative every day.

In this episode Shona and Pia talk about intimate relationships and how we can rethink or redefine them. Do they need to look the way that they have traditionally? Shona shares her thoughts since her marriage breakdown and also talks about her first foray into online dating, which has been an adventure to say the least!

By special listener request, Shona and Pia do a deep dive into finding your life purpose. If you believe you have a life purpose, and whether or not you think you've found it, listen in as the girls share what they have learnt. They talk about how to find it and how you are never too old, what can stop us from discovering it, plus a whole host of practical tips as well.

You will learn how...

01:34 Shona struggled for many years to find her life purpose.

02:50 How life purpose has two levels?

04:07 To find your life purpose you need to follow this one thing.

08:30 Some beliefs around life purpose.

10:15 What can stop us from finding our purpose?

15:08 Being good at something doesn't necessarily make it your purpose.

16:42 A useful way of seeing your life purpose.

22:33 Shona shares how she always felt jealous of others who seemed to be born knowing their life purpose.

26:49 Some practical tips to help you find your life purpose.

33:00 Look out for signs and synchronicities on your path.

43:52 Words of encouragement if you are trying to find your life purpose.

Why is it so important that we have self belief? How is it different from self acceptance? Why do we need it to achieve the life we have always wanted? These are some of the questions Pia and Shona talk through in this episode. Listen in to learn why self belief is such an important tool in our lives.

In this episode you will learn...

01:13 What is self belief?

05:44 The book that helped Shona with her self belief.

06:18 Shona shares the dream she has run from her entire life.

9:47 A sign to look out for that your self belief is growing.

11:48 Pia's self belief - where it comes from.

13:33 External validation - we can't rely on that.

16:32 How to shift from focussing on needing others approval (external validation) to relying on our own?

24:46 Why people don't go down the path of following their dream.

35:10 Self belief as an enhancing energy.

41:37 The difference between self belief and ego.

There has been a lot of talk recently about people with narcissistic tendencies and this behaviour is absolutely on the rise. Shona and Pia discuss their experiences with narcissistic people they have been in relationship with. After listening you will be able to pick out narcissistic behaviours and understand what's happening in these relationships.

Today you will discover....

02:13 What do we mean by "healing with connection'?

03:53 What is a narcissist?

06:25 Narcissists are attracted to empaths.

10:45 How a relationship with a narcissist impacts our intuition?

12:17 How an empath approaches relationships?

14:45 How a narcissist loves?

16:36 What to look for to learn to protect yourself from a narcissist.

18:42 What Shona learnt dealing with narcissists?

21:33 What Pia sees her mentoring clients have in common?

22:40 What happens when we try to make a relationship with a narcissist work?

24:42 How a narcissist keeps you in relationship.

26:47 What is "narcissistic love bombing" and "narcissistic supply"?

Do you ever feel lonely? Or maybe you're scared to be alone? It's ok if this happens to you. Listen as both girls share when they have felt lonely, what was happening and how they worked through it to become comfortable with and even enjoy their time alone.

In this episode you will discover...

00:43 How loneliness is so prevalent today for many people.

01:20 Shona's experiences with feeling lonely, she goes deep and very personal.

03:41 What's going on when we feel lonely?

04:55 Shona shares when she first remembers experiencing loneliness.

08:26 What's happening when we feel lonely in our intimate relationships?

20:10 Could you travel on your own?

23:27 How spending time alone can be good for us and also a bit scary.

29:29 We are never truly on our own.

30:32 Pia's loneliness trauma.

35:14 What to do if you're feeling lonely.

36:27 How to nurture yourself

Welcome to Season 4 of It's All Up From Here! Join us for a brief chat about how the podcast is growing and changing and where we are headed this season. Thanks for being here x

Season 3 has been a biggie and so we share how it unfolded and how a theme emerged just by talking about things close to our hearts.

As women, sometimes our relationship with anger can be a little fraught. Learn how important it is to express anger and to also understand the difference between our healthy and unhealthy anger. Shona has an epiphany that she shares about how she has coped with angry people in her life.
At the end the girls update you on their latest projects and happenings.

Collectively, as women, most of us have a story of a time we felt we couldn't speak out. In this episode Shona and Pia take an honest look at what it takes to learn to speak our truth as women and why it is so important that we do.
P.S. A lot of beeping out in this one!

Does your family have secrets? Or maybe you have a secret from your own life experience that you have never shared with anyone? Today Pia and Shona talk about the undeniable link between secrets and shame and how this can stop us from being truly ourselves and also from becoming the strong, powerful women we were meant to be.

Why are we all so busy all the time? Everyone seems to be constantly on the go. Today the girls share what they have learnt about how to manage family and busyness and they also discuss what they think the busyness is all about.

Have you ever judged the way another person is parenting? Today Pia and Shona talk about when they have judged other mothers and what they realised was actually going on for them when they have done that. They also share how we can all stop doing it!

Most of us feel some trepidation when we think about explaining sex to our kids. Shona and Pia share their very different approaches and explore how having an understanding of your own sexuality is really important.

Does your family name mean something to you? Does it give you an identity, a sense of who you are? Shona shares a shocking family secret, recently discovered, that has impacted who she is and her whole family's identity.

How do you feel about social media? If you're like us, it's a bit of a love/hate relationship! Shona and Pia discuss their thoughts about using social media, the impact they feel it has had on them and the radical stance they are going to take with it moving forward.

Welcome to Season 3! This subject is one of Pia and Shona's favourite things to talk about. The journey to self-love and acceptance can be a long but absolutely worthwhile one. Listen to learn how to truly love and accept yourself more everyday.

Shona springs the idea of an interview on both her parents and happily, they agree! Shona's mum shares about hardships she overcame from her own childhood to make sure her family was different from the one she grew up in. Shona's Dad discusses what it means to be a father and what he did to connect with each of his very different children. There is a lot of simple wisdom in this episode, we do hope you really enjoy it.

Ok, so we learnt what a toxic relationship looks like from our other podcasts, "How to Know When its Time to End a Relationship". In this sequel episode, Pia and Shona share the steps you need, the practical how-to, to actually end these toxic relationships in a way that is healthy and respectful to the other person and also lets you take care of you! This can be such a difficult thing to do and we openly share the lessons we have learnt about how to do it well.

Kids screen time, it can be a battleground! Shona and Pia discuss how hard it can be monitoring and managing your families screen time. They share the signs they look out for, that indicate kids have had too much time looking at screens and also how to establish screen time guidelines.

What are the signs we need to be aware of that it might be time to end a relationship? Shona and Pia discuss 5 things they look for that can mean any relationship is turning toxic and unhealthy.

All relationships are a very important part of our lives. Deciding when and if to end a relationship with a family member, partner or friend can be a very difficult decision. Shona and Pia share about relationships they have had to end and how they made this decision, the impact a poor relationship can have on you and ways to move forward without bitterness and resentment.

What makes family unique? All families have their own culture, their own way of doing things, and so what happens when you partner up and try to merge two different cultures together within your new family. Listen for tips on how to do this, how to make the most of the differences and create a new family culture that works for everyone.

Boundaries can be so hard to set and keep, and in part two of their chat about this topic, Shona and Pia share more tips on setting great boundaries with your kids. They also have a very open discussion about smacking and share their thoughts on that polarising issue.

Shona and Pia discuss change and how it's a part of not only being a parent but of living life everyday. So how do you cope with change? How do you thrive through change? Listen as the girls share their hard won thoughts and methods.

Season 2 is here and first off Shona and Pia give an update on all the news since last season. Then, stick around for a great surprise at the end. You'll love it!

A bonus episode that came about because Shona cleaned out her cupboards! Listen as Shona and Pia both reflect candidly about their year as parents. Learn what they did well, where they struggled and their hopes for 2019. They show you how you can reflect too and why it's a good thing to do.

It's that time of year, let's celebrate! Shona and Pia share their very different approaches to Christmas and how they make it work for them to get the most joy out of the day. Pia discusses her new book (it's about doing Xmas your own way) and it's goodbye and thanks for Season 1. We'll catch you for Season 2 in 2019. Happy New Year!!

Ever totally lost it with your kids? Of course you have and so have Shona and Pia! Here's how they handled it and listen out for tips on managing your child's anger as well.

We all want our kids to be happy, healthy and successful but what does that actually mean and how do we do that? Shona and Pia discuss their thoughts on defining success for their children and Shona has a quick chat with her son Adam, to see what he says about it.

In this two-part series Shona shares what she has learnt after working with teenagers and then raising two of her own. Drugs, teen pregnancy, rebellion, she talks about it all. Her different perspective will leave you feeling excited about your kids becoming teens.

In this two-part series Shona shares what she has learnt after working with teenagers and then raising two of her own. Drugs, teen pregnancy, rebellion, she talks about it all. Her different perspective will leave you feeling excited about your kids becoming teens. Listen at the end to Jacobs brutally honest answer about what he didn't like about me as a mum.

We all get those little nudges and inklings about our kids. Learn how to use and listen out for your intuition, the benefits it has for you and your family and finally, how to tell the difference between anxiety, control and intuition.

Learn the three steps to setting boundaries with your kids that Shona learnt during her time as a Youth Worker and then refined with her own kids. Understand the benefits of letting kids face the consequences of their behaviours and why role modelling boundaries is so important as they become adults. Listen at the end for Shona's son Jacobs take, on the worst punishment he ever got!

Hi and welcome to our first podcast! Shona and Pia introduce themselves and discuss their plans for the podcast. Listen out for the bloopers and raw honesty from our kids at the end of the podcasts!