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IT'S NOT THEM, IT'S YOU

IT'S NOT THEM, IT'S YOU

By Joy Dennis
*We are each responsible for our own happiness/misery.*

Follow along as I share my life and the ways that I am always creating my own experience for better or worse. I try to be humorous and thoughtful as I relate my own blunders and lessons, as well as what I am learning from my clients.
Life in a vacuum sucks, we need each other in order to get over ourselves.

I am a clinical Hypnotherapist, Empowerment Coach and Intuitive, and so excited to have you join me.

This podcast covers lots of topics : Relationships, Love, Parenting, Mindfulness, Spiritual Recovery and so much more.
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The Art of Listening
In this episode we talk about listening; to each other, to ourselves and to our inner guidance. So much static gets in the way of authentic communication, and when we can't hear, we can't connect. Come with us as we dive into body wisdom, sports metaphors and paying attention. We cover lots of other ground too, if you've been keeping up with us, you know that there will always be surprise topics in the mix. 
01:04:35
February 15, 2021
Participate: The 8 Essential Elements of Happiness
The final installment in the happiness series: participation. Participation makes for an empowered bookend to the very first episode, forgiveness. Not only do we need to forgive ourselves and others for the sake of happiness, but we also need to move forward together into actively participating in each others' enjoyment of life. When we participate, in effect, we believe. And what we're declaring is that each one of us holds a unique, integral aspect of life to be enjoyed by each other. When we believe (and prove through participation) that we're part of something bigger, things tend to be less daunting, and maybe even fun. 
44:07
February 9, 2021
Be Reasonable with Yourself: The 8 Elements of Happiness
It's a beautiful day in the neighborhood to be your own best neighbor. Why is it that we can muster up kindness and respect for others, but sometimes forget that we also deserve that same energy be spent on our own happiness? Things are becoming more and more obvious as we go through this series: our happiness is no mystery, we're already doing the effort...it's just a matter of making it a priority.
28:29
February 5, 2021
Virtuous Living: The 8 Elements of Happiness
We discuss the many faces of the Virtues as inspired by Western and Eastern thinking and how those Virtues can either be a stumbling block or elevate our happiness.
54:02
February 2, 2021
The Empowered Mindset: The 8 Elements of Happiness
It's never good to fall asleep in the driver's seat--this is especially true for a vehicle in motion. The same can be said for life and your happiness with life. If you're prone to letting others take the wheel, you and your sideseat driver/passengers are in for an exhausting and perilous journey, at best. Your happiness, and the happiness of those you love, depends on you being the driver. Not later down the road. Right now.
46:47
January 31, 2021
Connection: The 8 Elements of Happiness
Connection is a basic human essential. How do we get it? Where do we find it? Why so elusive? In this episode I share some of my own struggles with depression, and how connection became part of my solution. It's not as heavy as it sounds, so enjoy!
44:38
January 25, 2021
Co-Operating With Life: The 8 Elements of Happiness
What does it mean to co-operate with life? Sometimes it's as obvious as making sure you've got gas in the tank before hitting the road, or, doing the menial chores of balancing your checkbook and working within a budget. Much of co-operating with life is: facing facts, tying up loose ends, and paying attention to how you can make the most of what you have right here right now. 
56:16
January 24, 2021
Living in the Present: The 8 Elements of Happiness
What makes happy people tick? One major factor is that happy people live in the moment...not as careless idiots, but as people bound and determined to savor every second of life. If we fixate on the past, we may find ourselves prone to regrets and nostalgia. Fixate on the future, and it's very possible to become overwhelmed by anxiety, or, conversely, unfounded optimism. Being aware of our perspectives on the past and the future and finding balance is how we utilize that information is a good start in finding happiness in the present.
28:50
January 18, 2021
Forgiveness (Part Two): The 8 Elements of Happiness
The exciting conclusion of our discussion of Forgiveness as one of 8 Elements of Happiness.
47:54
January 15, 2021
Forgiveness (Part One): The 8 Elements of Happiness
Our first section in this series addresses the need to clear a path for moving forward with happiness. Forgiveness is that broom, or mop, or bulldozer...whatever works, as long as it's kind to yourself and others. The article referred to in the episode,  "The Social Disease of Contempt", was written by Steven Stosny, Ph.D.
31:21
January 11, 2021
Introducing the 8 Elements of Happiness
Over the next few weeks, we'll be discussing  8 Elements of Happiness. Among other things, this episode sets you up with a brief road map for our journey together. 1. Forgiveness; 2. Living in the Present; 3. Acceptance and Cooperation; 4. Connection; 5. The Empowered Mindset; 6. Cultivating Virtues; 7. Being Reasonable; 8. Believing in the Big Picture
25:39
January 8, 2021
How To Hit Your Thumb With a Hammer, Or How to Be a Complete Tool
Griz inadvertently  pushes Joy into some deep processing. Nice going!  Joy takes the time and space to do her personal work, which sounds a lot like what she tells her clients to do. It seems like everybody is winning these days.
22:29
January 4, 2021
Unlocking Creativity- Hypnotherapy Session
Ready to tap into your creativity? Feeling uninspired and blocked? This hypnotherapy track is just the thing to get you back on your path to creation! Journey with me as we release blockages to your creative flow, discover tools for cutting through mental clutter and map out your future creative successes.  
23:11
January 1, 2021
The Perils of Self-Care
Don't let the buzz word fool you, Self-Care isn't all bubble baths and chocolate bon-bons. Nope. The most effective forms of self-care also involve a big dose of tough love.   
29:60
December 28, 2020
Could It Be That Seasons Are the Spice of Life?
Joy discusses the value of observing and embracing seasonal shifts in our lives...Griz not so much. We also discuss creative blocks and their possible purpose in the life of an artist. 
27:14
December 21, 2020
Good Grief
Joy does another sample session with Griz. This time around they talk about Griz's hang ups with offering proper condolences and where that comes from. 
29:31
December 18, 2020
Everybody Trance Now!
Befriend your subconscious so that you can stop being your own biggest obstacle. It can be challenging to get out of your own way, so why not get the inside scoop? Joyful Life Intuitive
33:10
December 14, 2020
When Things Go Sideways Maybe Try Flying
This episode contains some helpful responses to when things don't work out as we expect them to.  Doing things the same old way because that's what's comfortable and that's how we've always done them isn't one of those pieces of advice.  We can keep plodding down the same path that habit has made a rut of, but that's probably not getting us where we want to be, now is it?  When the world goes sideways, it might be a good time to buy a cape, stretch out your arms, and forget about former pedestrian ways of life. Yes, this might mean that all that happens is that you're just wearing underwear over your tiger-striped leotard and wriggling around on your living room floor, but you definitely are one scooch closer to living your best life.  For further resources, please visit Joyful Life Intuitive 
27:49
December 11, 2020
Did You Ever Get Any Sweet Jumps?
In this episode, Griz and I spin around a bicycle-as-growth metaphor, he tries to get me to reveal the intuitive process that I use when working with clients, and also gets me to talk about my most terrifying experience riding a bike.  Joyful Life Intuitive Guidance
29:10
December 7, 2020
Tricky Little Elf
The new format continues as I have Griz identify his long relationship with lower back pain. Fast driving and unreliable car metaphors pervade and it seems at some point in the ride a Tricky Little Elf has taken the wheel. A discussion, inspired by Raphael Cushnir's The One Thing Holding You Back, comes up. And we talk about what it is that Griz's back is trying to say to him.
32:50
December 4, 2020
Does Teamwork Make the Dream Work?
A new, exciting, conversational format starts this episode.  Now you can hear what it might be like to participate in coaching sessions!  I'll be teaming up with Griz Dennis, covering various topics. But first, we'll hit up the elephant in everybody's house these days: MAJOR LIFE TRANSITIONS. Just like all worthwhile adventures, these COVID times we're living in demand flexibility, hope, and creativity. We're all being faced with the choice to cling to old ways and habits that hinder our potential happiness, or, to grab the tiger by the ears and go for the ride of a lifetime. In this first, new-format episode, we're making a true leap of faith together. Griz quits his job and comes to work for me! Will it work out? It's a real cliffhanger. Stay tuned! Want to book a session? Visit me at JoyfulLifeIntuitive.com
33:48
November 30, 2020
Whose Line Is It Anyway?
Exploring and understanding the beautiful side of Boundaries
15:19
February 5, 2020
Past, Present, Future (no Goblins)
What does cultivating Presence look like? Listen to find out, and watch out for Goblins.
16:26
January 18, 2020
Let's Try to be Friends
How do you show the people you LOVE that you actually LIKE them?
12:20
January 10, 2020
Moving Past Perfection into Action
I would love to hear from you! Please email me at Itsyoupodcast@gmail.com to ask questions, arrange to be interviewed or to comment. Thanks!
14:47
January 8, 2020