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It's Complicated

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On It's Complicated, Jenifer Golden, Lauren Leonelli and Rob Evors dive into the oh so complicated world of dating and relationships with funny anecdotes, opinions and expert guests. Join them each week as they divulge and navigate their own experiences and relationship status, as the experts weigh in on the dating and relationship topic of the week.
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From Heartbroken to Happy, with Claire the Heartbreak Coach
From Heartbroken to Happy, with Claire the Heartbreak Coach
Breakups are inevitable. They happen to all of us and we have ALL made mistakes trying to get through them. Why isn’t there a class on how to do this if it’s something that WE ALL need to know how to get through? Thankfully, there are people like Claire Byrne, aka the heartbreak coach, who recognize the need for a one stop shop to help navigate the excruciating pain of heartbreak and the importance of moving on. We all share our heartbreak stories, and Claire tells us what she thinks is the FIRST thing you need to do when your heart is broken, and how to stop wanting him or her back and find someone better! @clairetheheartbreakcoach Coach with Claire: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/ Listen to her pod: https://clairetheheartbreakcoach.com/podcast Keep it Complicated with Jen, NotJen, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
49:04
November 16, 2021
We Need To Talk! Can We Postpone Cuffing Season?
We Need To Talk! Can We Postpone Cuffing Season?
It’s November. The temps have dropped to a frigid 68 degrees in LA. Things are just slowly inching towards normalcy and we think it’s much more organic to enter cuffing season a.k.a. the cold, wintry time of year when everyone stops hooking up with abandon and settles down with a partner to watch Hallmark movies and be together for the holidays, with a less pressure kind of vibe. Why do people feel the need to partner up, especially when there are some major boundaries set by a pandemic that starts everyone off at a deficit? Don’t worry, we’re talking it out and recapping our past few episodes to discuss how to hook up without heartbreak if you’re not into getting cuffed or how to level up to the 5th dimension if you’re looking to cuff up for the holidays. Hook up without Heartbreak: @lia.holmgren https://liaholmgren.com/ Buy Lia’s book: https://geni.us/HookupHeartbreak Get Woke with KIMBERLY: @meredith.kimberly https://www.thehealingtrilogy.com/ Buy Kimberly’s book: www.TheHealingTrilogy.com Keep it Complicated with Jen, NotJen, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
41:57
November 09, 2021
Awakening Yourself to Love, with Kimberly Meredith
Awakening Yourself to Love, with Kimberly Meredith
Trust your gut! What are your instincts telling you? How does he or she make you feel? We’ve all heard these questions when asking our friends for advice when it comes to dating and relationships. While they’re all legit things to say, they are kind of vague because how do we really know what our gut, instincts and feelings are saying when we are clouded and confused by potential hopeful excuses or simply just because we are still getting to know someone? We’re lucky to have our guest, world renowned medical intuitive, activist, speaker and author of AWAKENING TO THE FIFTH DIMENSION: Discovering the Soul’s Path to Healing, out November 16th, in to discuss how healing, listening to your inner voice and paying attention to signs can help you find the one when it comes to love. Get Woke with KIMBERLY: @meredith.kimberly https://www.thehealingtrilogy.com/ Buy Kimberly’s book: www.TheHealingTrilogy.com AVAILABLE FOR PRE-ORDER ON AMAZON Keep it Complicated with Jen, NotJen, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
42:14
November 02, 2021
Hookup Without Heartbreak, with Lia Holmgren
Hookup Without Heartbreak, with Lia Holmgren
Friends with benefits. Casual sex. No strings attached. F*ck buddies. We are all familiar with these terms and we have all been part of one of these types of relationships, right? The question is, how can we engage in these situations without someone catching feels and getting hurt? We’re going to talk it out with our new co-host, Rob Evors, to hear his brutally honest male perspective, and our guest, world renowned intimacy coach, Lia Holmgren, aka “The Kink Shrink,” who joins us to discuss her new book, Hookup Without Heartbreak, AVAILABLE TODAY, and breaks down the basics for how to hook up while managing expectations and setting boundaries. Let’s talk about (casual) sex with Lia: @lia.holmgren https://liaholmgren.com/ Buy Lia’s book: https://geni.us/HookupHeartbreak Keep it Complicated with Jen, NotJen, and Rob: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @foreversevors, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
43:25
October 26, 2021
Fears and Loving in LA, Love Pod Tour Edition
Fears and Loving in LA, Love Pod Tour Edition
This episode is a part of Veronica Grant’s Worthy in Love Podcast Tour. Every day for two weeks, the tour featured an episode from a variety of podcasts on how to actually feel worthy in love. Veronica has specially curated this list of podcasts to ensure that you get the most actional, BS-free support to help you feel more worthy in love. Fear and love might feel like opposites but they actually are more connected when you think. The truth is, when you allow someone to love you, you are also allowing them to hurt you because at some point. LOVE feels scary and causes people to be fearful of losing it. All of these fears on top of the trials and tribulations that go along with dating in LA make it scarier than getting a bad perm, and ultimately can cause you to feel unworthy of it depending on how badly you were hurt. This is why we dove deep into the worthiness wound, how entertainment and content affect our self of self worth, ways to feel more confident on a date, why people need to pony up with a reason when rejecting someone rather than ghosting, and how taking a time out from dating can get you closer to your goal. Worthy in Love Podcast Tour: veronicagrant.com/podtour Podcast prior to It’s Complicated: Amy Smith @ The Joy Junkie Podcast thejoyjunkie.com/lovepodtour Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
45:15
October 19, 2021
How to Style Your Profile, with Alyssa Dineen
How to Style Your Profile, with Alyssa Dineen
Would you describe online dating as: daunting, tedious, maddening, annoying or disappointing? If you answered yes to any (or all) of these, then you are in for a treat! We have Alyssa Dineen, the founder of Style My Profile and author of the new book, The Art of Online Dating: Style Your Most Authentic Self and Cultivate a Mindful Dating Life in to discuss what to do when online dating feels like the pits, plus helpful tips for how to determine your style and transform your profile, as well as catapult your dating destiny. Get Styled by Alyssa: @alyssadineen Web - Style My Profile Resources - https://stylemyprofilenyc.com/insta/ Buy her book - The Art of Online Dating: Style Your Most Authentic Self and Cultivate a Mindful Dating Life Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
50:15
October 12, 2021
Sleeping with a Stranger, with Jessica Zimmerman
Sleeping with a Stranger, with Jessica Zimmerman
Traumas come in all shapes and sizes, from break ups, to accidents and grieving the loss of a loved one, to toxic relationships. We've experience them all and are thankful Jessica Zimmerman, author of Sleeping with a Stranger and founder of Zimmerman Events and Education, joins us to discuss defying social and cultural norms, how to redefine relationships and why healing childhood and adult trauma can help you reclaim your true self, in and out of relationships. Heal and Reclaim Yourself with Jessica: @jessicazimmerman_ https://jessicazimmerman.com/ Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
46:34
October 05, 2021
How to Heal Yourself and Find Love, with Veronica Grant
How to Heal Yourself and Find Love, with Veronica Grant
Feeling loved looks different for everyone but the common thread is that often it comes from another individual. With all this trendy self love talk, we tell ourselves we don’t need to seek love from others to feel loved and while that is true, it is healthy to seek love from others, as long as it is not all you depend on to feel love in general. So how can we tell if the love we look for is toxic or not? We have love and life coach and host of Love Life connection podcast, Veronica Grant, in to discuss emotional availability and why women should stop pointing the finger at men, how our patterns and lack of self-love affect relationships, and why we do what we do in our love life. Heal with Veronica: @veronicaegrant https://veronicagrant.com/about/ Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
51:19
August 19, 2021
The Real Reason Relationships Fail, with Dr. Abby Medcalf
The Real Reason Relationships Fail, with Dr. Abby Medcalf
Failed relationships. We all have them but why? During a breakup or separation we spend soooo much time trying to figure out who is at fault when we need to focus on the real issues that cause the same patterns of failed relationships in the first place, so we can fix it in time for “the one.” Most people think problems with communication is the reason most relationships bite the dust but you’d be surprised to hear what our guest relationship maven, author, psychologist, and TEDx speaker, Dr. Abby Medcalf, has to say about what she thinks are the REAL reason relationships fail is! And trust us, you have never heard this one before but it makes SO. Much. Sense. Don’t Fail, with Abby Guest socials - @abbymedcalfthriving Guest Website - https://abbymedcalf.com/ LISTEN - Relationships Made Easy | Podcast READ - Be Happily Married Even If Your Partner Won't Do a Thing | Best-selling book WATCH - Connection Quickies with Dr. Abby | Weekly YouTube Tips Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
53:40
July 08, 2021
When It’s Good To Ghost, with Melanie Hersch
When It’s Good To Ghost, with Melanie Hersch
Ghosting, we have all been ghosted and we have all been the ghoster! When someone just disappears it can cause a ton of insecure thoughts and make it scary to jump back into the dating pool and when you are doing the ghosting it ends up making you feel guilty and like you’re going to have bad karma. If all this strife comes from merely NOT texting or calling someone back then why do we all keep doing it? Lucky for us we have licensed marriage and family therapist and dating coach at eHarmony, Melanie Hersch in to discuss, ghosting: why it happens and why it’s good, how can we fail proof our communication in dating, why our limiting beliefs impact our dating success and what we can do to build dating resilience. Get Good, with Melanie Guest socials - @melaniehersch Guest Website - https://www.goodatyou.com/ Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
44:13
June 10, 2021
Should We Talk About It?, with Gabriela Ulloa
Should We Talk About It?, with Gabriela Ulloa
Have you seen red flags but painted them white? Spotting an issue in someone else is hard because you don’t want to write them off after one incident, but you also don't want to stick around too long and get caught in a toxic relationship. The longer you hold on, the harder it is to let go because feelings grow deeper, you become more attached and you are more apt to make excuses, otherwise known as painting red flags white! We are happy to have journalist and host of “Should We Talk About It,” Gabriela Ulloa in to discuss how to love and forgive yourself by strengthening your mental health, how to avoid burnout and take care of yourself in your career when you are just starting out, and how to create healthy relationships and spot red flags in toxic ones. Talk it Out with Gaby Guest socials - @gabyulloa_ Watch her IGTV - @thoughtsmayvarypod Guest Website - https://gabrielaulloa.com Domestic Hotline - 800.799.SAFE (7233) Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
41:22
June 03, 2021
How to Get What You Want, with Heather Hansen
How to Get What You Want, with Heather Hansen
Tell me what you want, what you really, really want! We all know we need to ask for what we want but when it comes to actually doing it we clam up. Are people going to think we are rude? Are we going to make someone feel bad? And when someone tells you what they want, do we actually want to hear it? I mean, when Tom told you he didn’t want to continue dating did you blame him and make up a bunch of reasons in your head about why he was being an ass or did you just respect that he told you what he really, really wanted? All this honesty talk is hard and we need some direction so we brought self-advocacy expert, on-air legal analyst, and award-winning trial attorney Heather Hansen in to discuss her book Advocate to Win: 10 Tools to Ask for What You Want and Get It, and how you can use the tools of a trial attorney to ask for what you want — and get it. Advocate to Win, with Heather Instagram - @imheatherhansen Website - https://heatherhansenpresents.com/ YouTube - https://www.youtube.com/channel/UC2ecu4d4mKYZuh9QE9ZWhmA Pre-Order the Book - https://www.amazon.com/Advocate-Win-Tools-What-Want/ Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
51:59
May 27, 2021
Be a Boundary Boss, with Terri Cole
Be a Boundary Boss, with Terri Cole
Boundaries! You don’t realize how difficult they are to make until you have lost track of what they are. We have all been in relationships where our boundary lines disappeared because we wanted to be the “cool girl.” If you’ve let your significant-o text their ex and acted unaffected, pretended you didn’t want a commitment more than you really did or played it off like you were fine with the fact that the person you are casually dating is still casually dating other people then you are guilty of blurred boundaries. We've all been there but thankfully after you listen to this show you’ll be able to draw a clear line in the sand and say goodbye to the old “cool girl” who is crying inside because we have our guest, Terri Cole, licensed psychotherapist, global leading relationship expert and author, in to discuss how to speak your truth with ease, her tried and true strategy to uncover when the past is negatively impacting the present, how to navigate conflict with the Recognize-Release-Respond strategy and how to create a boundary blueprint so you can become a Boundary Boss! Get Bossy, with Terri Guest socials - @terricole Guest Website - https://www.terricole.com/ Guide - https://boundaryboss.me/itscomplicated Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
58:09
May 13, 2021
Do Better, with Dr. Stephanie Estima
Do Better, with Dr. Stephanie Estima
Let’s face it, we can all be doing a little better right now and if you’re listening to this pod, you are probably trying to refine, enhance, mix it up or get real about some aspects of your love life. There are a trillion things to discuss when it comes to dating, relationships and love and we’re here to make that inner dialogue a little less complicated with an episode that focuses on one of the most important romantic topics, SEX and ORGASMS! Listen along as author Dr. Stephanie Estima joins us to discuss her new book, The Betty Body, and how we can use intimacy, sex, and orgasms as a way to heal our hormones, and use it as a tool for self-actualization! Do Better, with Dr. Stephanie Estima @dr.stephanie.estima Listen to her pod - Better! With Dr. Stephanie Buy the international #1 best selling book The Betty Body: A Geeky Goddess' Guide to Intuitive Eating, Balanced Hormones and Transformative Sex Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
47:17
April 01, 2021
Dating Sucks, You Don't, with Connell Barrett
Dating Sucks, You Don't, with Connell Barrett
Breakups are the worst, are they not? What other time in your life are you expected to completely stop contact with the person that you have the deepest connection with? There is so much conflicting advice on how to handle break ups, it’s hard to know which the best actions are to take in order to help yourself move on and get back to finding love. That’s why we are not all broken up about having author and dating coach Connell Barrett in to discuss breakups and how to go from rock bottom to rock star, how to restore your self-esteem and sell yourself in your dating profile, and Connell is going to crack the code of a romantic connection! Don’t Suck with Connell: @datingtransformation Buy the Book -  Dating Sucks But You Don’t Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow
45:21
March 18, 2021
Make Your Move, with Jon Birger
Make Your Move, with Jon Birger
Dating is sooo different now, are we right? Coming off the heels of the #metoo era and currently slapped in the middle of a global pandemic (that makes seeing and coming in contact with people impossible), meeting “the one” has legit NEVER been more complicated than it is now. We have author and former guest Jon Birger back again to discuss his latest book Make Your Move, why hetero women who make the first move with men have an advantage (especially in the #metoo era), why online dating has proved so disappointing and sometimes dangerous for many women, especially during COVID times and how to make your move offline! Make A Move with Jon: @jon_birger1 Buy the Book - https://www.amazon.com/Make-Your-Move-Science-Dating/dp/1948836904/ref=tmm_pap_swatch_0?_encoding=UTF8&qid=&sr= Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
57:41
February 25, 2021
Intimacy Trends in 2021, with Susan Bratton
Intimacy Trends in 2021, with Susan Bratton
After staying at home and being isolated for a year, we are curious to see what kind of trends will emerge in 2021. Going into offices for work and face to face meetings are out, FaceTime dating and virtual date nights are in! But, when it comes to sex, will people be way more careful (eww germs) or way more sexual because we are all desperate for human touch? Thank goodness we have Susan Bratton, relationship expert, author and trusted hot sex advisor to millions, in to discuss her cutting edge and highly entertaining predictions and trends in the realm of love and intimacy for 2021, that are sure to stretch your possibility for orgasmic pleasure and connection! Make Sex Great Again with Susan @susanbratton Website - https://personallifemedia.com/ Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
57:38
January 28, 2021
Office Romance, with Janelle Perez
Office Romance, with Janelle Perez
Relationships in the workplace is a widely debated topic. Is it appropriate? Have you ever done it? Is it grounds for firing employees? It’s scary to fall for someone in your professional life and it’s even more scary to think that you could be judged differently for entering into a work romance based on your gender. That’s why we’re excited to have former police officer and author of The Moral Police, Janelle Perez, in to discuss exploring a personal relationship in a professional environment, what you should be aware of before you venture down a path of romance with a coworker and how your gender can affect the way your employer and co-workers view your choice. Stand Up with Janelle: @janelleperezofficial Buy the Book - https://www.amazon.com/Moral-Police-Surviving-Discrimination-Enforcement/dp/1544517602 Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow
35:55
January 21, 2021
Does Size Matter Part II, with Emily Morse
Does Size Matter Part II, with Emily Morse
We really wanted 2021 to start with a bang, and not in the current political sense, so we’re bringing back the question: Does size matter? But this time from the female perspective! We are elated to have our very good friend Dr. Emily Morse on to shed some light on this age old debate and see if we can put it to bed! We also discuss why it’s important to talk openly about sex in order to discover greater sexual satisfaction, and how to rev it up for Valentine’s Day! Sex It Up with Emily Morse http://sexwithemily.com Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
44:16
January 14, 2021
Shape Up in 2021, with Calum McGuigan
Shape Up in 2021, with Calum McGuigan
2021 is here and it’s shaping up to feel like a sequel to 2020, which did not get rave reviews! Everyone is “over it” and relationships are being put to the test right now with all that is going on in the world. We think that taking control of your own personal well being is not only good for you but for the potential partner you are searching for OR for the relationship you are currently in! Calum McGuigan, Community Founder of Shape & Foster joins us to discuss how you can inject some confidence into your lives and your new year resolutions...because dating app profiles aren't the only apps that can help you shine! Shape Up & Foster! www.shapeandfoster.com @shapeandfoster Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated This episode is sponsored by Shape & Foster. Sign up now for a special discount on your membership! $99 annually / $14 monthly
29:42
January 12, 2021
New Year, New Boo, with Benjamin Hey! aka The Captain
New Year, New Boo, with Benjamin Hey! aka The Captain
Happy new year! We’re excited for the first episode of 2021 because we have an update from one of our 2020 guests and village members who’s back to keep us in the loop and share a new perspective on a previous relationship...because as we all know - hindsight is 2020! Make Ben Your Boo: @benheyallday https://smarturl.it/ballssingle https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
41:31
January 07, 2021
Does Size Matter?, with Rob Evors
Does Size Matter?, with Rob Evors
Happy New Year’s Eve! We really want to end 2020 with a bang so we’re asking the question: does size matter? We are hard pressed to think of a more asked question in the dating, relationship and sex world. Why can we not settle on a definitive answer? Is it men or women that keep the debate going? Is it the perception from the opposite sex that keeps the question erect (see what we did there)? Can we come up with an answer by the end of this pod? Well, we are happy to have our very good friend Rob Evors in to bring the candid male perspective (he’s good about keeping it real) to the table for this discussion so we can examine if men are self conscious of their size, what men think women think about penis size, if we all really think size matters, and our dating and relationship resolutions for 2021! Be Friends For Evors, with Rob @forevorsevors Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
47:08
December 31, 2020
36 Reasons why Jen is Single, with Jen and Lauren
36 Reasons why Jen is Single, with Jen and Lauren
Dating is an emotional thing, are we right? We feel a lot of things while we are on our dating journeys and in and out of relationships, so we think it’s fair to say that it’s okay to feel a range of emotions about dating and being single, sometimes it’s great and sometimes it is not. This is why we are celebrating Jen’s Bday with a list of 36 reasons why Jen is single, one for every year she has graced us all with her presence on this earth, and they won't all be as pretty as she is. So, in honor of a new year a head for Jen and a new year ahead for the rest of you all, let’s take some time to talk about the good and the bad in hopes to keep our village member status in good standing and to help Jen on her journey of love! Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
47:44
December 24, 2020
Finding Harmony in Love, with Benjamin Hey! aka The Captain
Finding Harmony in Love, with Benjamin Hey! aka The Captain
The holidays are in full swing and we are in the spirit of giving, as long as it’s not germs! This time of year is usually filled with so many parties that by the end the year we are tired, broke and a few pounds heavier. The lack of white elephant parties, holiday work gatherings, ugly sweater soirees, shopping trips and family Christmas eve celebrations leaves less opportunities for single people to meet someone if they are looking to cuff, and for those already coupled up to get out and do fun activities to keep the relationship fresh and exciting. Either way, we all want Santa to get the band back together so we can all celebrate together again which is why we are amped to have The Captain, singer-songwriter Ben Hey, in to discuss dating in the big city during quarantine, how love languages affect the harmony of the dating experience, and how to look inward so you can come out! Get Ben’s Balls!: @benheyallday https://smarturl.it/ballssingle https://www.5lovelanguages.com/quizzes/ Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
54:04
December 17, 2020
Holidate Ideas, with Jen and Lauren
Holidate Ideas, with Jen and Lauren
Restriction fatigue has caused a lack of creativity when it comes to romance because it’s hard to know how to even do it with all the socially distant guidelines changing every day! Many singles are throwing in the towel, and we think that’s a naughty thing to do. So we want to wake up your love lives and serve you some great holidate ideas for every kind of relationship, new and old. Buckle up because this episode is going to blow your burnt out minds and hopefully give you the inspiration you need to keep it merry and bright in the bedroom as we close out this dark-ish year! Make Dating Over the Holidays Great Again with Jen and Lauren: The 36 Questions That Lead to Love Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
31:56
December 10, 2020
Men Are From Mars, with Mara Marini
Men Are From Mars, with Mara Marini
We’ve all heard the saying, men are from Mars, women are from Venus, and we can confidently confirm that the sexes operate from different atmospheres. We’re getting mixed reviews though from our single female friends who are receiving some interesting messages on the dating apps! Extremely forward messages detailing a stranger's sexual fetishes can be quite off putting but the argument could be made that honesty off the bat is actually respected! Either way, we have actress Mara Marini in to debate and discuss the differences between male and female brains, the challenges of dating during quarantine, why inappropriate messages on dating apps are becoming a trend and how to edit your profile to repel the crazies! Send appropriate messages to Mara: @popgloss Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
01:00:19
December 03, 2020
Thankful for Change, with Tara Nichols
Thankful for Change, with Tara Nichols
We are thankful this Thanksgiving because we were served an extra helping of good news from our fave astrologer, Tara Nichols. Listen as she offers us a glimpse into future 2021 predictions that will leave us all with a glimmer of hope. Tara also dives deep into eclipse energies, why the current direction of the planets will cause forward momentum and move years of stagnation along, how ALL of this affects relationships and why you may find yourself attracted to someone you least expect, and how we should stay positive because the Age of Awakening is upon us! See Into the Future with Tara: @tarajadestar https://www.tarajadenichols.com Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow
57:43
November 26, 2020
The Sin of Wasting Time, with Rachael O’Brien
The Sin of Wasting Time, with Rachael O’Brien
This year has felt like time is flying at either a snail’s pace or disappears before our eyes. Time is currency, because we truly don’t know how much time we will be fortunate enough to have, so like the old adage, time is money, we don’t want to waste anyone’s and we certainly don’t want anyone to waste ours either. That’s why we are excited to have podcaster and friend Rachel O’Brien clock in to discuss how to gauge when your time is being wasted romantically, how the extra “quality” time from quarantine affects our relationships and how true crime shows help spot the crazies! Be Here with Rachael @rachaelnobrien @sevendeadlysinnerspodcast Guest Website - http://www.rachaelobriencomedy.com/ Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
42:23
November 19, 2020
Significant O Grief Support, with Jen and Lauren
Significant O Grief Support, with Jen and Lauren
It’s officially the start of the holidays and while we love this joyful time of year, we also know that it can bring sadness for some people, especially those that have lost a loved one, whether at the hands of COVID, or otherwise, which is not something that’s easily dealt with. That’s why we are delivering the gift of a quick fix episode where we share our tips for how to approach the matter of grief, especially leading into the holidays so the people we love who’ve lost don’t have to feel so alone. Support your loved ones with Jen and Lauren Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated Thanks to Podcorn for sponsoring this episode! Explore sponsorship opportunities and start monetizing your podcast by signing up here: https://podcorn.com/podcasters/
38:22
November 12, 2020
No Filter, with Zack Peter
No Filter, with Zack Peter
The election dust has yet to settle and it’s the perfect time to break the dating rules by talking about politics. We respect those that don’t kiss and tell so we won’t disclose our dirty voting details, but we will say we are equally excited for change and very uneasy about the potential of unrest. With the hope that we can all eventually just get along, we are distracting ourselves from election stress disorder with author, speaker and host of #NoFilter and #Adulting podcasts Zack Peter who joins the show AGAIN to discuss our love for celebs and reality tv, why we should all consider a self induced dating cleanse, the upcoming cuffing season and why we need Zack's “hack your hangover cocktail guide” after the election. Adult with Zack @justplainzack @nofilterwithzack @theadultingpodcast http://www.justplainzack.com/ Hack Your Hangover Cocktail Guide - HERE Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated Thanks to Podcorn for sponsoring this episode! Explore sponsorship opportunities and start monetizing your podcast by signing up here: https://podcorn.com/podcasters/
44:29
November 05, 2020
Tricks and Treats, with Jen & Lauren
Tricks and Treats, with Jen & Lauren
We are usually excited to mask up for Halloween, however this year things are a bit diff. While we love a good costume and Halloween party, but we also know that those things can't happen right now, we're going to make due with what we've got, kinda like when you get a bunch of plain tootsie rolls in your candy bag! Listen along for our thoughts on what to expect out of the holidays this year, which couples costumes we love and which make us want to barf, and how to celebrate Halloween during COVID 19! Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
24:16
October 29, 2020
Unwaxed, with Sistine and Sophia Stallone
Unwaxed, with Sistine and Sophia Stallone
Keeping it real is our job and we think it should be important to everyone else too, especially when it comes to dating and relationships! The ability to express what you want without compromising what you need to feel safe, secure, happy and loved are skills we should all master in and out of love!  Throw away those reservations you have about seeming too desperate, scaring off a guy, appearing too picky, or skipping that waxing appointment to go au natural!  Be unapologetically true to yourself is the name of the game and no one does that better than the hosts of the Unwaxed podcast, Sistine and Sophia Stallone who are going to dish on first dates, when the right time is to meet the family, the thrills of online dating and how to spot red flags!! Get Waxed with Sistine and Sophia @sistinestallone @sophiastallone @unwaxedpodcast Podcast - Unwaxed  Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
47:41
October 22, 2020
Dating Smarter, with relationship coach Elliott Davis
Dating Smarter, with relationship coach Elliott Davis
People are dating smarter now because they don’t have time to waste on potential partners that are not worth the measures that need to be taken to get close with someone during these times. We’re excited to talk about what dating smarter, not harder, looks like with values-based relationship coach and speaker Elliott Davis as we figure out how to date like a dang genius, why falling in love is easy but staying in love is the hard part, and why he thinks amazing women settle for less than amazing men! Date Smarter with Elliot @the_elliottdavis Elliottdaviscoaching.com - For a free 30 minute coaching call, book an appointment through his website and mention the "It's Complicated" podcast! Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
49:08
October 15, 2020
Go Shorty, Lauren’s 40! with Jen and Lauren
Go Shorty, Lauren’s 40! with Jen and Lauren
It’s Lauren’s birthday and it’s a big one. Milestone events like these all mark significant times in our lives, but this pandemic has taken away some maj celebrations.  Lauren’s choosing to celebrate regardless because there are things to celebrate! We’re reflecting on the past decade, focusing on the decade ahead and discussing things everyone should master by 40! Grow Up with Jen and Lauren Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
40:21
October 07, 2020
Practical Love, with Laura Day
Practical Love, with Laura Day
Follow your intuition! That is advice we have all given and received but how do you really implement that, especially if you are at a relationship crossroads? Well, practical intuition is intuitive healer and speaker Laura Day’s specialty and we have her back for part II where we discuss her book, Practical Intuition in Love, and how intuition can be used to find the right partner, as well as navigate unhealthy relationships. Get Practically Intuitive with Laura Day: @lauradayintuit www.practicalintuition.com Keep it Complicated with Jen and Lauren: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
51:59
October 01, 2020
Unlocking Intuition, with Laura Day
Unlocking Intuition, with Laura Day
I felt it in my gut! How many times have you said that? What is your gut exactly? How well can you tap into your intuition? If you’re feeling anxiety due to the state of the world and all the changes on the horizon, then you are not alone. This is the best time to tap into your inner self and utilize your sixth sense when it comes to all types of relationships in your life because that might be the only thing you can consistently rely on at this point! We are thanking our lucky stars that we have New York Times bestselling author and practicing intuitive Laura Day in to discuss why anxiety is not intuition, the four crisis response types, five ways to unlock your intuition, how to use your sixth sense in love and more! Use your intuition to Seize the day with Laura Day @lauradayintuit www.practicalintuition.com Keep it Complicated with Jen and Lauren: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
01:02:39
September 24, 2020
10 Conversation Starters, with Jen and Lauren
10 Conversation Starters, with Jen and Lauren
We’re giving you a quick fix and helping you get off the dating apps! That goal is easier said than done because when you’re on the app, keeping the convo flowing is half the battle and super important. You never know WHO you are speaking with and what personality type they might have so being clear about what you want and expect with an enthusiastic energy is always a safe bet! Thankfully we found a fun Bustle.com article that is filled with convo starters whilst on the apps and we weigh in on how well we think they would work! Get your fix with Jen and Lauren Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
42:44
September 17, 2020
Just Your Average Girl, with Samantha Matt
Just Your Average Girl, with Samantha Matt
Keeping up with Susie Q on Instagram is so hard! Comparing your life and relationships to others in order to try and “live your best life” is not a healthy way to be. What is wrong with being normal and wanting the status quo? We find out when we take a deep dive into why average isn’t a bad thing with the author of Average Is the New Awesome: A Manifesto for the Rest of Us, Samantha Matt! Listen as we discuss why people need to stop comparing their relationships and relationship status to others, why the insecurities you have might be more average than you think and why being average is actually awesome! Stay Average with Samantha Guest Instagram - @averagepeopleproblems @samanthamatt1 Guest Website - http://forevertwentysomethings.com/ Book - https://www.sealpress.com/titles/samantha-matt/average-is-the-new-awesome/9781580059350/ Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
52:46
September 10, 2020
Relationships in Retrograde, with Tara Nichols
Relationships in Retrograde, with Tara Nichols
Astrology can tell us a lot about relationships and timing, so why don’t more people use it as a guide to help find their soulmates, twin flames or even their north node? What does that even mean, you ask? Well, we have intuitive astrologer Tara Nichols back on to explain all things astrology including what Mars in retrograde is and how it seeking Aries for the next 6 months affects us, which houses show you your gifts and the kind of relationship you will have, how to approach former loves who come back into the picture, and how a couple’s chart compatibility can help predict relationship success! Tap that Astrology with Tara: Guest Instagram - @tarajadestar Guest Website - https://www.tarajadenichols.com/#/ Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
55:49
September 03, 2020
It’s In the Cards, with Whitney Walker
It’s In the Cards, with Whitney Walker
What would you say if your therapist offered you a tarot card reading? (We’d say yes, duh). People who act as life guides, whether they’re your bffs, psychics, yoga instructors, therapists or tarot card readers, can all provide valuable perspectives and advice. We are fortunate enough to have Licensed Marriage and Family Therapist and spiritual guide and tarot card reader Whitney Walker in to discuss the personal narrative that often keeps us from engaging openly in dating and relationships, how the ego and the heart conflict, what attachment styles are, and how tarot card readings and therapy complement each other and can help guide you on a path to find your twin flame/soul mate!! Get Tarotious with Whitney: Website - womenwaken.com LinkedIn - linkedin.com/in/whitney-walker-16b77794 Psychology Today - https://www.psychologytoday.com/profile/781848 Find Out Your Attachment Style - Quiz Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
01:15:38
August 27, 2020
Home is Where the Heart Is, with Michelle Crochet
Home is Where the Heart Is, with Michelle Crochet
Dating and real estate are more connected than you think. If communication and trust are key factors in a romantic relationship, think about how important they are in a relationship with a real estate agent too. Falling in love with a person and falling in love with a home are equally as complicated but they can also be very rewarding. We are lucky to have entrepreneur, wife, mom, investor and real estate agent Michelle Crochet in to discuss the key to a successful marriage, why singles should invest in property and themselves, and why couples need to get real when purchasing real estate! In Da House with Michelle: @michelle.crochet.la Guest Website - https://michellecrochet.kw.com/ Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
49:07
August 20, 2020
Sometimes Your Words Just Hypnotize Me, with Ryan Haddon
Sometimes Your Words Just Hypnotize Me, with Ryan Haddon
Imagine if you could access your subconscious mind in order to help you find love! Well, you can with some hypnotherapy! Not the “you’re getting sleeeepy” type of hypnosis but a therapeutic state of relaxation guided by an expert like life coach, hypnotherapist, spiritual mentor and meditation teacher Ryan Haddon. Listen as we break down and discuss the relationship triumvirate, why someone's type might keep them from finding their soulmate, and how to manifest the relationship you want! Get Hypnotized with Ryan @ryanhaddoncoach Guest Website - https://ryanhaddon.com/ Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
49:16
August 12, 2020
Happy Days, with Thomas Edwards Jr
Happy Days, with Thomas Edwards Jr
Why does feeling happy have to be so complicated? Dating and relationships are hard enough, so layering a pandemic into the mix definitely makes it feel like it’s NOT a piece of cake! Coach and creator of Level Up, Thomas Edwards Jr. joins us again to discuss why the importance of happiness, in and out of relationships, is the key to getting through the tough times we are facing today! 1up yourself with Thomas @thomashedwardsjr Guest Website - https://www.thomasedwardsjr.com/ Free Masterclass - https://www.thomasedwardsjr.com/pl/144940 Dynamic Dating - https://www.theprofessionalwingman.com/dynamicdating Keep it Complicated with Jen and NotJen: Host Socials - @jenifergolden, @laurenleonelli, @complicatedshow Shop our store - https://www.amazon.com/shop/complicatedshow Support - https://www.patreon.com/itscomplicated
52:16
August 06, 2020
My Loneliness is Killing Me, with Jared Freid
My Loneliness is Killing Me, with Jared Freid
Doesn’t isolating feel like the opposite of dating?! So what do you do if you are single and looking for love, but you aren’t allowed to get closer than 6 feet to someone? You get the advice from the Dear Abb