Against the Grain by Author J. Cafesin

Are you Christian? Catholic? Jewish? Morman? Muslim? WHY?

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This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2023/04/27/what-religion-are-you/

Are you living your best life right now? Do you even know if you are?

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2023/03/31/the-good-life/

Opposites in harmony define balance...and horror.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2023/03/07/the-yin-yang-of-love/

I was driving north from L.A. to Seattle, and it hit me like running into a brick wall when I saw the Welcome to Oregon sign— something was wrong with the place...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2023/02/17/the-character-of-a-place/

My relationship with my DOG will remain one of the most stable, even exchanges of love and respect I will ever know...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2023/01/10/about-face-a-dog-story/

RELIGION did NOT invent morality...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2023/01/05/atheism-and-morality/

When a butterfly flaps its wings in Central Park, it does NOT cause a typhoon in India. But the Butterfly Effect is very real, and very personal, for all of us...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/12/01/the-butterfly-effect/

Why doesn't my gardener leave his job for Americans and just go back to Mexico?

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/10/27/the-truth-about-immigrants/

Harsh as it seems, even to me, I wished for my father a speedy journey into a pleasant dementia.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/10/19/yin-yang-of-dementia/

Do you want to build your career, maybe your own company down the line, or even write novels full time? Business success, in whatever you choose to do, requires networking...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/10/04/on-networking/

Simple really, but oh, what a simple little kindness can do…

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/09/30/5074/

As the mother of a 10 and an 8 yr old, I do not want to be perceived as strange or different. I want to blend like homogenized milk...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/09/21/the-folly-of-perception/

Am I two inches from making writing fiction my full-time career, or the next step is a 200 ft drop to homelessness?

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/09/19/on-writing-fiction/

How to shut out the voices of doubt that tell U you're not good enough...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/09/07/on-self-doubt/

When I need money, [as an Atheist] why don’t I go rob someone. Or shoplift?

When I’m attracted to my neighbor’s husband, why don’t I hit on him, get intimate if he’s into it?...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/08/24/4970/

Anyone, man or woman, obsessed with becoming great [at anything] should recognize the sacrifice and costs of pursuing brilliance...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/08/15/making-it-with-your-muse-2/

Is Web 3.0 really a good thing for any of us? 

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/08/09/4905/

I am an Empath.

Wait! Before you roll your eyes and click off this post, read on...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/08/08/i-see-you/

Ask me my religion, and I’ll say I’m a Californian. We are a culture all our own out here; active, progressive, wildly creative—fantastically separate from anywhere else, yet intricately connected to the world.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/08/01/love-letter-to-ca-native/

The secret to learning just about anything...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/07/19/learning-how-to-learn/

Digital Marketing is NOT necessarily effective marketing. This podcast is a lesson in what makes marketing that brands and SELLS your offerings...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/06/15/marketing-101/

This is a dog story, about Killer Dog Face, my BFF for 16 yrs, and the choice to put her down...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/06/13/about-face/

My love for, and the loss of my first dog...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/06/13/the-gift-and-cost-of-love/

Change the BELIEF by both sexes that women are lesser than men, and change the actions of SEXISM... 

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/06/01/how-to-end-sexism/

Ever thought of killing yourself? Felt depressed for so long that checking out of life seems harder than living it? Why to choose living...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/05/26/4594/

Are you a conservative Republican supporting the NRA and espousing their beliefs instead of engaging in reason? Time to STOP believing in lies and START THINKING!

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/05/25/4581/

Genetically destined to be fat? Bullshit. Fat is NOT a state of being. For most, it’s merely a state of mind.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/05/24/on-being-fat/

Are you proud to be fat? You shouldn't be!

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/05/23/4555/

Ever say something and only PART of it is heard?

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/05/13/between-what-is-said-and-what-is-heard/

Are you living with Depression? Here are some non-drug inducing ways to combat it...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/05/12/living-with-depression/

A friend's descent into madness...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/05/12/4513/

How to create effective marketing campaigns...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/05/10/the-psychology-of-marketing/

Are you in therapy? Spending $1000s or more, and much of your life's time? Here's the truth of why...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/05/09/therapy-for-change-or-ego-massage/

Aging is scary, challenging, hard! But there is an upside... As I considered it, the more I could see how integral LAYERING is to being alive.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/05/05/the-layering-of-life/

I was 16 weeks pregnant, with my first baby, when the results of an amnio told me that the wanted child I was carrying was not healthy. We had to make a choice, graced by the fact we had the legal right to do so, but to this day, I question that choice...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/05/03/abortion-and-choice/

THIS IS MARK ZUCKERBERG NOW! He is still the same ugly, petty, small man/child, pulling the same ugly crap he did at Harvard, indifferent to anyone but himself.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/05/02/the-truth-about-mark-zuckerberg/

We agreed before having kids that we’d raise them without religion. We could not teach them what we do not believe...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/04/29/raising-kids-without-religion-2/

Racism is taught, not inherent to our nature is the common wisdom, but this "wisdom" is WRONG.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/04/29/we-are-born-racists/

Genius is not only doable for most every child, but for all of us with hard work and persistence.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/04/27/how-to-raise-a-genius/

Living as Atheists in a Christian neighborhood has made it difficult for my husband and I, but is even harder on our kids!

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/04/07/atheist-in-america/

MARKETING is NOT "digital advertising." Here is how to build a SUSTAINABLE startup...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/04/04/__trashed/

Critical Race Theory is being taught to our kids, but it is THEORY. This is a real life story how "reverse racism," IS racism, no matter the culture it comes from.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/03/25/__trashed/

LOVE is an ACTION. This blog illuminates why we all fail in loving.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/03/23/love-defined/

Raising a generation of spoiled, unmotivated, under-educated Americans can not, does not, and WILL NOT compete in our global economy.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/03/21/jobless-america/

A rough flight from New York to San Francisco with my 3 yr old daughter, and the American Airlines flight attendants were beyond lazy, they were downright RUDE!

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/03/17/the-terrorist-within/

Are you COOL? A hip, slick, and trendy influencer? What makes one COOL? The answer...

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/03/16/on-being-cool/

Never in my wildest dreams did I imagine the feeling we call LOVE could be this intense.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/03/16/the-power-of-love/

My son's first 4 day camping trip taught me how to let him grow, and reclaim MY life.

This episode is also available as a blog post: http://jcafesin.com/2022/03/01/letting-go-of-our-kids-2/