WTF Should I Do W/ My Life?!

This is the final episode of this series, where I share some personal coaching from my "Life Coach in your Pocket" series. This episode is about coping with judgement and criticism from your family.

This is the second episode where I share some personal coaching from my "Life Coach in your Pocket" series. This one is about having fear of public speaking.

About a month ago, I sent an email out to the Sensophy community, basically saying, how dope would it be if you had like a Life Coach in your Pocket.  And any question that you had, BOOM, you could immediately have an answer to it. And I offered the opportunity for people to write me. And I said, for the next 48 hours, I'll be your "Life Coach in your Pocket".

And  I was thinking, what if we shared those messages that I sent to people? Here I share one of those recordings. Let's do this!

I recently spoke on a panel about how to create “extraordinary relationships”. During the talk, I shared my most cutting-edge ideas and hard earned lessons about how to create an amazing love life.

Afterwards, I asked the host, Dr. Aziz, if I could share the private event recording with you - and he said yes. Whether you're single, dating, or in a relationship… If you're looking to improve your love life, I think you may benefit from hearing the lessons that most changed my life… They may do the same for you.

This is the last episode where I do some deep group coaching in a community setting with people in the times of Corona quarantine and the pandemic reconfiguration of the world as we've known it.

This is an episode where I do some deep group coaching in a community setting with people in the times of Corona quarantine and the pandemic reconfiguration of the world as we've known it.

This is an episode where I do some deep group coaching in a community setting with people in the times of Corona quarantine and the pandemic reconfiguration of the world as we've known it.

This is an episode where I do some deep group coaching in a community setting with people in the times of Corona quarantine and the pandemic reconfiguration of the world as we've known it.

This is an episode where I do some deep group coaching in a community setting with people in the times of Corona quarantine and the pandemic reconfiguration of the world as we've known it.

Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.

Here's a bit of wisdom from my earlier GRAFFITI days..

This is an excerpt from a module in my current True Path program about treating perfectionism like a criminal.

Got time? Let's do this!

With love,
Jacob

Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.

Let’s play a quick game.

Without overthinking it… ?

What’s the most inspiring story you’ve heard recently?

A story that made you pause and say *WOW!*...

And not from a sour-face place of disgust...

But from a place of “god damnnnn that shit's inspiring!"

Got one?

Dopesauce.

Today I wanna share with you a story that could be your new answer.

A story so inspiring that I’ve never told it to anyone without it blowing their mind..

A story that'll make you rethink what’s possible with your life (no matter how old you are, how much money you have, or what you think your unique limitations are.)

The story involves an unassuming middle-aged government accountant…

who with ZERO previous experience, decided she was going to…

ride a damn unicycle around the world! ?

I happened to be there when she decided over 2 years ago. And I’ve been following her journey very closely ever since!

I brought her on the WTF podcast so you could hear her tell this insane story directly as it continues to unfold right now!

This was one of the most fun interviews I can remember doing. We talk about:

This crazy story that makes everyone say “WOW!”
How to create a vision that FIRES you up
The hidden power of going “all in”
How to use your obstacles as motivation
Why it’s never too late to change your life

I’ll be bringing Kelli back on the podcast a few more times as the story continues to develop...

But for now, have a listen and let me know what you think!

BALD.

That’s not something I ever thought I’d be...

But last year, I got smacked upside the head with the realization that my hair is thinning.

Like, noticeably thinning.

In the last WTF podcast episode, I spoke with my friend and mentor Pilar Gerasimo about my fear or hair loss and she explained how to get more attractive as you age.

Today I’ve got an update for you: I decided to go head-on into my fear of hairlessness and shave my e-n-t-i-r-e head.

GAHHHHHHHHHHHHH.

It happened in the desert. With 70,000 people. And it did not go smoothly!

I chronicle the adventure in a podcast I just recorded.

Grab some popcorn. Kick your feet up. Come have a listen.

Somewhat smoothly,
Jacob

Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.
We all know we’re gonna die…

But for our sanity, evolution must have installed some kinda "death-denial feature" in our software, because we act like we’ll live forever.

This is why death can feel so shocking. We knew death would happen one day but never really expect it.

Well, that’s been my experience with aging recently. I knew that shit would happen one day, but I thought that day was like 150 years from now.

A little backstory: I recently noticed my hairline starting to recede, so my optimistic self hit up my homey Google, knowing he’d come thru with a solution. But what I found was so contradictory, confusing, and misleading.

To cut through the chaos, I decided to reach out to another friend (and scientifically validated health revolutionary), Pilar Gerasimo. She’s the creator of Experience Life magazine (3 million+ people readership) and the co-host of The Living Experiment podcast.

When Pilar hit me back with some tough-love about acceptance, my initial response was something to the effect of: “Ah, fuck!”

I pushed back… she pushed back even more… and then she suggested I open up to my community about these personal challenges I was navigating. And so we recorded a podcast all about how to age wisely!

Come listen in and you’ll learn about:

The important difference between aging from “fear” vs “fun”
How to avoid losing your “social value” as you get older
Increasing your confidence + eliminating your “aging” insecurities
How to not become “George Costanza” and give up on looking good
Rebelling against society's anti-aging propaganda and taking your power back

I go into some p-r-e-t-t-y, p-r-e-t-t-y personal stuff in the interview.

Have a listen and then hit me back and let me know whatcha think!

The wisdom in this conversation was super helpful for me. And I hope it’s helpful for you too!

Peace yo.
Jacob

Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.
Lately I’ve become a fucking warrior.

Something clicked, and I’ve entered into a completely new mode of operating:

I’m meditating every single day - 100% no skip days.
I’m taking cold showers every single day - 100% no skip days.
I stopped masturbating - as a single man, this ain’t no walk in the park.
I’m working out 6 days a week - occasionally 2x per day.
And I've been skipping down the sidewalks of New York! SKIPPING!!! (...to challenge my fear of what people think of me.)

It’s like I’ve become Unleashed. And this is just the beginning…

I’m on the verge of signing up for a 10 day silent meditation retreat… or going to do martial arts… or competing in my first Spartan Race.

The craziest part about all this... IT FEELS EFFORTLESS.

And because of this powerful energy inside me, it feels like my dreams are inevitable.

So what changed? Why am I doing this? And how can you benefit from this too?

8 months ago my life was good, comfortable, and successful by most people’s standards.

Shit, it was successful even by my own standards back then.

But after some huge growth earlier in my career, I realized it was now only improving marginally. And despite my hard work ethic, I wasn’t getting to the level I really wanted to.

Looking back, I started to secretly doubt if the massive success I once dreamed of was actually possible for me. So I told myself I didn’t need anything more than what I currently had. I was using “gratitude” as a crutch for “settling”.

Thankfully, I listened to that little voice of wisdom inside which urged me to slow down and take a hard honest look in the mirror. And as I did, I got the sense that I was valuing comfort more than living up to my potential. And it was time for a massive change!

I’ll save the play-by-play details of what’s happened in the 8 months since then, but essentially, I made a series of hard, yet liberating decisions...

I pressed pause on my biz growth, ended my 4 year relationship, went offline to reinvent myself, and committed to becoming the man who’s capable of creating a “10 out of 10” life in every single area...

(impact, love life, finances, health, fun, lifestyle, family, etc.)

During that time, I traveled thru Africa, Russia, and Amsterdam in a deeply introspective state, studying cutting edge neuroscience and piecing together the secrets of human transformation.

Suddenly it hit me… “I know exactly what my next mission is!”

While researching brain-science, I realized that most personal development courses fall short of delivering lasting change because they don’t address all parts of the human operating system.

Sure, you can make some progress in one area, but without getting the complete picture of how the human operating system works, you’re living on unstable foundations. And you’re definitely not accelerating your growth at a rate that’ll bring your full potential to life.

So I decided to take on the ambitious task of creating a process that methodically takes you through the steps of unleashing your potential and transforming into the next level of what’s possible for you.

That’s why I’m excited to announce the unveiling of my new program... Unleashed... a 5-month “growth accelerator” for 12 selective bad-asses who dare to go head-on into their greatness.

By becoming Unleashed...

You’ll shatter the self-imposed limits that have stopped you from achieving more success, happiness, and freedom - and know you’re contributing to the world in a way that actually matters.

Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.
In today’s episode, Jacob gets interviewed by Ellie Aaron on The Ellie Aaron Hour podcast.

In this podcast you will learn:

Why Fear isn't a problem and how we can alchemize it to move into the next phase of our life 
Why cold showers and embodiment practices are so important to get us out of our heads and into the present moment
How to calm yourself down during challenging emotions 
How to find your “soul voice” and intuition 
How our intimate relationships bring up exactly what we need to work on and heal our inner wounds 
How to maintain connection and freedom in Partnership 
Why making money will help you show up for others more 
Money being a feedback loop of goodness 
How getting into a state of abundance brings more money into our life 
How being playful is a wealth magnet

Thanks for rocking with us on today's podcast! Drop a comment and let us know your favorite big idea. It’ll help rewire your brain to ensure you don’t forget what you’ve heard. And besides all that brainiac business, we’d just love to hear from you :)

Also, you can leave a rating & review for WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! on iTunes. That way, it helps other peeps discover the wisdom. Finally, you can subscribe on iTunes to get all new episodes as soon as they drop!

A shout out to YOU!

Whether you've listened to the podcast once, or for years, the fact that we share some of the same values as far as growth, freedom, and contribution means the world to me. Thank you for allowing me into your journey.

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Does it ever feel like no matter how much you work on yourself…
…no matter how much effort you put in…
…that you still haven’t arrived “there” yet?
Yuppppp. I know, that frustrating feeling sucks!

BUTTTTT… you’re not alone. This is actually a huge trap that *everyone* falls into at times.

I recently found the perfect analogy to explain how this phenomenon works. So tune in now!

In this episode, Matt D’Avella – filmmaker, director, and minimalist– interviews Jacob.

They explore topics like:

How I got started out
Some of my early struggles and breakthroughs
Everything from personal finance to Matt’s sex life
Drunk life coaching
And more!

In today's episode, Jacob is interviewed on the podcast Starting From Nothing with Andy Drish. Andy is an entrepreneur, speaker, and traveler. He is the CEO of The Foundation, which helps entrepreneurs help companies from scratch.

In this episode, you will learn:

The "Three Golden Principles" that shift stuckness and create clarity
What is "Inner Game" and how to get more in touch with yours
How to train yourself for the next layer of challenge.

In today's episode, you will learn:

- The “3 Golden Principles” that Shift Stuckness and Create Clarity

- How to Follow Einstein's Easy-To-Use Strategy For Problem-Solving

- 5 “Fast-Path Questions” to Stop Doubting Your Ideas And Start Moving Forward

- The #1 Mistake That Keeps You In Fear And Stops You From Playing a Bigger Game with Better Results.

Today I wanna talk about a problem that I see. And the problem is with a happy life.
I mean, we see this all the time, right? People are looking for a life of smooth-sailing and blissed-out happiness. But lemme ask you this...

What’s your biggest dream that’s deep down in your heart?
Whatever your wildest dream is, I ask you this…
Say I could make that dream a reality for you. Right now. Today. In this moment. That was your reality...

Would having what you want be easy? Or would having it force you to face challenges bigger than most challenges you’ve ever faced before?

We think that our biggest dreams will make us happy… but the reality is far from that.

So what do we actually do?

Here’s the key...

It’s not that we shouldn’t wanna follow our dreams. We should!!!
But instead of wishing for a life that’s challenge-LESS, we need to TRAIN for the challenges.
Ahead of time!!!

Are you training for the life you actually want? Or are you foolishly just wishing it’ll fall into your lap one day by doing the same things you’ve always done?

In other words… are you more focused on SURVIVING than you are on THRIVING?! Which do you think is the wisest approach?
If you’re ready to TRAIN for the life you want, that’s what I call “mastering your Inner Game”.
You want to make it so that when the challenges arise, you’re prepared so that you can seize the opportunity.

So many of us stay stuck in this loop of trying to avoid these things because we’re not training for the challenges. We’re not actually doing the deep, inner game immersion and overcoming some of those limiting beliefs and inner roadblocks. We’re not committed to upgrading our mental, emotional, physical and spiritual levels and evolving to go beyond that... to actually actualize our potential and to create the best version of ourselves!
Sure, success is great, but what does it actually TAKE to get there?
It’s the Inner Game.

And if you’re interested in immersing yourself with the Inner Game, I’ve created a 10-week training program to dive deep into how to become the best version of yourself.

Find out more at www.sensophy.com/theinnergameimmersion

Not some glorified, success-promising, make-a-million-dollars crap, but the DEEP work to remove the limiting-beliefs and blind-spots that are there.

...To overcome whatever fear is standing between you and what you want

...To master your mind, optimize your energy, and get you connected to something bigger, whatever that is.

We’ll be doing this through comfort-zone challenges and training your mind through engaging in deep practices. This is not an informational thing where I give you “7 things you should learn” or memorize. This will be *experiential*.

You’ll go out into the world, show up at your best and at the end of the 10 weeks, if you engage in the program, you’ll be in one of the best shapes that you’ve ever been in your life in ALL of these areas.

I’m beyond excited to take my best work, bring it to you with a community and be by your side as we go into the deep Inner Game to create the outer success that we’re inspired to have.

Join us in January 2017 for a free comfort-zone challenge!
If you’re up for playing, this challenge will help you…

Expand your assumptions about what you think is possible in your life
Develop the skill of asking for what you really REALLY want
Overcome your fears of rejection and develop more courage

I had a suicidal day about 6 years ago...
Yes. That’s after I started Sensophy (a life-coaching company). And no, the irony doesn’t escape me.

I couldn’t explain this at the time. But in hindsight, I was having a panic attack trying to grapple with massive amounts of uncertainty about my future… and even more scary, about who I was.

It took me 10 years to learn this excruciating lesson that I’m about to share with you. But first, let’s rewind for some real-talk about how this all started.

Growing up, I had this big shame that I wasn’t man enough. And it came from everywhere. Society. Hip-Hop. Even my pops. So I was always afraid about being seen as feminine...
But as as a teenager, I didn’t understand the difference between being feminine and being gay.
Seemed like the same thing to me. And so I would obsess over this question of “Am I gay? Am I gay? Am I gay?”

As a scared little boy trying to validate his manhood, I did everything I could to prove I wasn’t gay.

And as I grew up into my 20s, that scared “Little Jacob” was still inside of me… trying to prove his hetrosexuality by doing manly-man things like kick-boxing, racing his motorcycle through rush-hour NYC traffic, and sleeping with as many women as he could.  

But no matter how many notches I got under my belt… every so often there would still be this voice that came into my mind and said… “But you’re gay, though. Stop pretending.”

This wasn’t the voice of wisdom, intuition, or truth. It was the voice of fear. The voice of shame. The voice of “not-enoughness”. And I tried everything I could think of to make my mind shut the fuck up already.

When the external action didn’t work (kick-boxing, motorcycling, sexing), I tried to cover it up internally with standard personal-development stuff… affirmations... meditations… mantras.
But there was no amount of “self-improvement” that could make up for a lack of “self-acceptance”.
And while on my blog I was preaching about “knowledge-of-self” being the gateway to happiness... I still didn’t know (with 100% certainty) that I wasn’t gay.

It was bad. Really bad. So bad, that I considered taking my own life one day. So I pulled out a journal and listed all of the reasons not to.

The only reasons I came up with were people’s name that I cared about. But even then, I was so ashamed of what these people would think of me.

At this point, the voice in my head was pounding so loudly that I could barely hear my own thoughts. I finally decided... “Okay. Fine. If I’m gay, let me be gay.”  I thought that’d be enough to quiet my unrelenting mind that just wouldn’t stop yelling at me.

But. even. after. facing. my. worst. fear. and. leaning. into. it…

The questioning still didn’t stop!

And THAT's when I learned one of the hardest lessons ever...
It wasn’t about making peace with being gay or not… It was about making peace with the fact that I’ll never know.
When I came to accept the idea of “I will never know”, THAT’S when I found peace.

Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.
In today's episode, Jacob interviews Michael Balchan.

Michael is a Harvard-educated commodity trader and film producer turned executive coach and peak-performance consultant. Michael's custom programs combine the most powerful methods and modalities of personal growth, psychology, performance science, physiology, wellness, and the world’s spiritual traditions. His latest book, Meditation: What, Why, and How To Meditate (Hint: Breathe in. Breathe out.) - is available on Amazon.

In this podcast you will learn:

How to use the secret power of mediation to take your life to the next level
How to increase mental clarity and reduce stress through meditation
How to upgrade your existing meditation practice
The biggest common mistakes to avoid when meditating
A simple hack to boost your willpower in under 60 seconds

Thanks for rocking with us on today's podcast! Drop a comment and let us know your favorite big idea. It’ll help rewire your brain to ensure you don’t forget what you’ve heard. And besides all that brainiac business, we’d just love to hear from you :)

Also, you can leave a rating & review for WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! on iTunes. That way, it helps other peeps discover the wisdom. Finally, you can subscribe on iTunes to get all new episodes as soon as they drop!

Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.
In today's episode, Jacob speaks about using our intuition and how to maximize happiness using the "integrity-gap".

In this podcast you will learn:

How to up-level your happiness while reducing anxiety
How to get action-clues from your future successful self
How to overcome fear and become more confident
Bonus: Hear Jacob say a bunch of curse words that’ll piss some people off.

Thanks for rocking with us on today's podcast! Drop a comment and let us know your favorite big idea. It’ll help rewire your brain to ensure you don’t forget what you’ve heard. And besides all that brainiac business, we’d just love to hear from you :)

Also, you can leave a rating & review for WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! on iTunes. That way, it helps other peeps discover the wisdom. Finally, you can subscribe on iTunes to get all new episodes as soon as they drop!

Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.
In today's episode, Jacob is interviewed by Niall Doherty.

Niall has traveled all around the world without flying and helps people get started working online. He has lived everywhere from Ireland, to Tenerife, to a trailer park in New Jersey.

In this podcast you will learn:

- How Niall got clear he would travel the world for 3+ years

- When it does (+ doesn’t) make sense to quit your job to travel

- A 3-step “threat assessment” process to overcome fear

- The 3 main components to self-sabotage

- How to uncover and retrain limiting-beliefs

Thanks for rocking with us on today's podcast! Drop a comment and let us know your favorite big idea. It’ll help rewire your brain to ensure you don’t forget what you’ve heard. And besides all that brainiac business, we’d just love to hear from you :)

Also, you can leave a rating & review for WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! on iTunes. That way, it helps other peeps discover the wisdom. Finally, you can subscribe on iTunes to get all new episodes as soon as they drop!

Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.
In today's episode, Jacob is interviewed by Bryan Teare. Yes, you read that right - the roles have reversed and Jacob is in the hot seat this time. This episode is from when Jacob was a guest on Bryan's podcast, The Quarter Life Comeback, and the two of them jam out on some really juicy topics.

Bryan is a coach, entrepreneur, and podcaster. Up until 2013, Bryan was living a comfortable, "normal" life checking all the boxes and following the rules. Until he realized that there had to be something more.

He quit his job with no plan B, did some soul searching, training and certifications, and is now helping others live better and become the best versions of themselves.

In this podcast you will learn:

- How to distinguish between wanting more and being ungrateful

- Why you don’t ACTUALLY want to travel (and what it is you DO want)

- Why the answers you’re looking for aren’t in your head

- How to live with more authenticity (plus a challenge from Jacob)

- How to make the best use of your twenties
 
Thanks for rocking with us on today's podcast! Drop a comment and let us know your favorite big idea. It’ll help rewire your brain to ensure you don’t forget what you’ve heard. And besides all that brainiac business, we’d just love to hear from you :)

Also, you can leave a rating & review for WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! on iTunes. That way, it helps other peeps discover the wisdom. Finally, you can subscribe on iTunes to get all new episodes as soon as they drop!

Welcome to the WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! podcast.
I've got this huge soulful vision I'm working toward for 2017.

(I'll save the details for another time.)

I've been working toward this vision for months. But before I pour the rocket-fuel into this ship and blast it out into the cosmos, I decided it would be good to step back for some clarity and extra alignment.

In today's episode, I bring you behind the scenes of that adventure. A journey to a little place you probably never heard of called Russia.

So you ask, whyyyyyyyy Russia? Why not Bali or Japan or Hawaii?

Great question. And you'll have to listen to the episode to find that out, plus a whole lot more madness. :)

In this podcast you will learn:

- How to use "level 3 consciousness" to create more flow, clarity, and fun in your life

- The life-hack I used to save $300 and nearly die of laugher in the process. :)

- A secret trick anyone can use to create extraordinary and unexpected opportunities.

Are you "all-in" on becoming the best you?!
Then check out The Inner Game Immersion. It’s a 10-week process where a select group of people join me in playing full-out and becoming the best version of themselves.

We do that through an uncommon mixture of comfort-zone challenges, mind-training techniques, heart-opening exercises, productivity-hacking practices, energy optimization tweaks, accountability systems, and world-class coaching. You can find out more by going to sensophy.com/tigi.

Thanks for rocking with us on today's podcast! Drop a comment and let us know your favorite big idea. It’ll help rewire your brain to ensure you don’t forget what you’ve heard. And besides all that brainiac business, we’d just love to hear from you :)

Also, you can leave a rating & review for WTF Should I Do w/ My Life?! on iTunes. That way, it helps other peeps discover the wisdom. Finally, you can subscribe on iTunes to get all new episodes as soon as they drop!