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Life With Jay

Life With Jay

By Jason Refsnider
Life with Jay provides inspirational and practical content to help you become a better version of yourself. I’m not sure where you are right now, but their are great things in store for your destination. I just hope the topics will bring value and progress for your future.
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Know your Land
What’s going on guys, in today’s episode we talk about the importance of knowing your territory. We live in a age where there’s a lot of opportunities to create an online business, start up a small business, learn a new skill on YouTube, work a side hustle, or create content on the internet. The most important part to understand is knowing what’s around you and grabbing a hold of those opportunities.
September 29, 2020
Have you ever found yourself juggling so many things at one time. It seems that the goals you want to accomplish never get finished. The dreams you’ve always wanted to focus on never gets off the ground. In today’s episode, I talk about the importance of focus. How I’m living more on a schedule like never before, even though it’s a work in progress. How I used Covid-19 as a crutch for periods of time. And how I’m relearning and recommitting myself to certain skills I care about. Don’t be discouraged if you’ve felt so many demands come at you simultaneously. We’re all learning and we’re all trying to get better at juggling less important activities.
September 23, 2020
I’m here.
At the beginning of class or work, our teachers and bosses do what’s called role call. If you are present, there are no consequences. However, if your late, then you would experience some kind of penalty. Have you ever noticed that not being present has consequences in our personal development? We get so caught up with the next activity on our calendar or where we should be in a year that we forget about the daily activities required to get us toward our future destinations. Today we talk about the importance of staying present and eliminating our expectations in order to fall more in love with the process.
September 15, 2020
Hey everyone, I know it’s been awhile since the last episode. I’m happy to announce that Life with Jay is back. Here’s a little update of what’s happened with me the past 3 months. I’m looking forward to providing great content and value again.
September 10, 2020
The Bulls dynasty had dominated the 90’s. They were unstoppable. It was a team who couldn’t be stopped. However, their was major problems with Jerry Krause and the players. It got to a point where the roster was blown up after the bulls second three peat. Their was a lot of different agendas and no willingness to work on finding a conclusion. In today’s episode we talk about how pride caused this entire dynasty to end. And how we can learn from the organizations mistakes.
May 21, 2020
Walls of Jericho
Chris Jericho had a submission move which put his opponents in a difficult position. It was called the Walls of Jericho. He would place someone in the middle of a ring and lock their legs. Two choices stood before you. Tap out or move you’re arms and shoulders towards the bottom ropes. That was you’re only option. Covid-19 has created a Walls of Jericho. The submission has stay at home orders, social distancing, and economic challenges. It’s a season where people will either tap out or move toward the bottom ropes until they get themselves back up again. Today we talk about the importance of not giving up and understanding that problems will always be around.
May 8, 2020
Like Mike
In the Last Dance, Michael Jordan said no one should want to emulate my lifestyle. Sounds crazy. Who wouldn’t want to be like Mike? Who wouldn’t want his level of success. But here’s the catch, think about the amount of work he dedicated towards basketball. The long hours. The sacrifices. It’s not easy as it sounds. Everyone wants to become a specific person until they watch the tape of how much effort it takes. In today’s episode, we talk about embracing the successful habits of becoming Like Mike.
May 5, 2020
What report will you believe? Their is a lot of negativity in our society. We can advertise any kind of content. In this episode, we discuss the importance of believing in the right reports and taking control of our negative mindsets.
April 22, 2020
Their are ups, downs, left turns, right turns, and loop holes that get thrown our direction. No matter what happens, we must become adaptable and recover as soon as possible. Wolverine had a self-healing power from enemy attacks. He wasn’t always in a convenient situation, but learned to adapt quickly. In order to bounce back, one must learn to develop a process to recover as soon as possible no matter what occurs.
April 10, 2020
Student Mentality
Being an expert in a profession or trade is a wonderful experience. But how do you remain a student when you’ve become a master. In today’s episode we discuss the importance of being a student for a lifetime. Will never know it all no matter how good we become.
April 8, 2020
Anyone can become the greatest in their field of work. But how do you keep yourself on top without getting comfortable. Antonio Brown was recognized as the best and most consistent wide receiver in the NFL for almost 7 years. The numbers were impressive. However, he’s now looking for a team despite all his talent. In today’s episode, we talk about his stardom to now searching for a second chance.
April 3, 2020
In a season of uncertainty, this is not a time to kick back. This is not a time to cry about our problems. This is one of the greatest opportunities we’ve been given. Today we talk about some action steps to take while being quarantined.
April 1, 2020
Tear Down
Their are moments in our process where a purge must happen. Some circumstances may appear good for us. However, the situation might be keeping us from leveling up. In this episode, we discuss the importance of letting people go, job opportunities go, business endeavors go, or whatever scenario positive or negative go for a better quality of life.
March 20, 2020
Stay Ready
For Tuesdays podcast, we’re talking about the major events happening in our world today and why staying ready has become the biggest lesson for our 1st quarter of 2020. You never what type of circumstances are going to impact our plans. But it’s so critical that we never take a day off with our personal development. Because in times like today, our preparation matters.
March 17, 2020
If you’re at a journey in life where passion has died and mundane tasks are taking more control of your dreams, it’s time for a moment of reflection. It’s time to wake yourself up from a dream that needs your interpretation. Of course life is easier watching other people play their part. But your story is just as important and daydreaming isn’t the answer.
March 11, 2020
What happens when you pour a glass of water into a cup? Well you’re hydrated and keeping yourself healthy. In life, their are relationships where people don’t provide the same ingredients and nutrients for your overall well being. I call them takers. The energy can drain you and leave you with nothing but pain. It’s okay to put your foot down and not tolerate connections who aren’t being genuine. Today’s episode, we talk about my own experience with 2 relationships I moved on from last summer because their cups stopped pouring back into me.
March 5, 2020
Out Of Bounds
In the NBA their are fans watching the players compete. The crowd sits on the sidelines while players are playing to win. This scenario can teach us about following crowds instead of positioning ourselves to become a master of our crafts and playing our game. It’s easier to meet the expectations of society. But what would happen if we decided to go against the grain. In today’s episode, their are 3 nuggets which can help you from joining the same crowds.
March 3, 2020
Know You’re Strengths
A 10 on one spectrum and a 1 on the other spectrum. All humans thrive in one niche and fail another niche. Some of those weak characteristics get to much attention. The challenge we face is working on behaviors that’ll never reach a 10. And that’s where personal development gets difficult for someone who doesn’t focus on their strengths.
February 28, 2020
Even Keel
Indifference is a powerful tool. If you’ve never heard about indifference, it just means even keel. In other words, not to high or not to low. Mastering this craft is a life long journey. How does one become indifferent? In today’s episode, we talk about 3 nuggets that’ll keep you in an even keel mindset.
February 25, 2020
Handle You’re Business
If you’re independent like me, sometimes you can feel misunderstood by your peers. You don’t rely on you’re parents for nothing but nice Christmas cards and a little birthday gift. It’s not always easy balancing relationships that aren’t on the same level of maturity. Sometimes the best thing to do is not feel bad, pour less into relationships that aren’t providing equal value, not compromising your goals, and meeting new people.
February 21, 2020
Less Is More
Life gets crazy. No life can be hectic. We run around believing we’re doing more by the massive list written down. But what would happen if we simplified our daily activities toward actions that could bear more fruit. What if doing less brings more results? In today’s episode, the subject is having a smaller list in order to become a person who ends up storing up more treasures in the end.
February 18, 2020
Bad Behavior
It’s easier to tolerate bad behaviors when their not producing negative results immediately. However, overtime the same habits catch up eventually. If you have any bad traits which needs change, stop rewarding the bad behavior. The momentum won’t happen overnight. But it’ll get better down the road if you start now.
February 13, 2020
Roll The Dice
Their are some decisions in life where a leap of faith is required. Some answers won’t come immediately. Some results take longer than expected. Last night I took a huge leap of faith by memorizing a piece 2 hours before going on stage. It wasn’t easy because I still didn’t have all my thoughts in order. Despite the fears, it turned out well. Sometimes you just gotta role the dice and see where you’re feet land.
February 11, 2020
Stamp That
Sometimes we can be scared to state how we truly feel. But the reality is people need a gut check. Not saying a word is only gonna fester. So communicate what you want and don’t apologize even if feelings are hurt. The truth isn’t always pretty.
February 6, 2020
Walking Tall
We all strive for more confidence. But how does one go about walking taller than you’re own insecurities, fears, and doubts. Will discuss 4 pillars you can apply to see a better version of yourself when you step into a room of people.
February 4, 2020
Scoreboard Watching
The objection of basketball is scoring more points than you’re opponent. At times you’ve probably watched teams make a huge comeback. You wonder how do you blow all that momentum? One major factor is watching the score. Playing not to lose is what gets teams in trouble. The same principle happens with our life. We get caught up in how many wins gathered today and then lose momentum tomorrow. In today’s episode, we talk about the importance of maintaining you’re momentum regardless of how much progress you make. Being comfortable will leave you in a position where that big lead could swing in a negative direction.
January 30, 2020
Mamba Mentality
The news of Kobe Bryant and his daughter passing away was devastating. In honor of his death, will discuss his mindset to life, basketball, and his family. We lost a great human being and it’s someone we can emulate in whatever dream we’re pursuing.
January 28, 2020
Jump In
Taking a risk is easier said than done. We get caught up with our doubts, fears, and stress that can prevent us from jumping into new experiences. Today we talk about my experience of getting on a roof I’ve never inspected before and how I managed to sign up the homeowner despite all his objections thrown at me. If you want more for yourself, put you’re best foot forward and take immediate action.
January 23, 2020
The 40 year old version
The actions we take now matters. Think about you’re business, health, finances, and passions you want to manifest. If you keep on waiting, you’re future self won’t benefit from the lack of intensity and effort. So face those doubts and fears head on. Fail forward so you’re future version will be stronger once it arrives.
January 21, 2020
We’ve been taught that nothing happens without hard work and dedication. But do you ever find yourself on the grind that you forget to reward the good behavior. Or maybe you’ll rewarding bad behavior on a regular basis. Whatever the case is for you today. Don’t forget to bless yourself when you’re making progress and cut off the bad behavior which is hindering you’re growth.
January 16, 2020
He Say She Say
We all make up things in our head. But assumptions are never as real as they seem. Always find out the facts.
January 15, 2020
Life is going to present curveballs at your progression. Sometimes we can allow ourselves to get flustered and out of sync. The best response is making the proper adjustments when things appear out of control. Two approaches that would help us out is listen and ask questions. None of us enjoy making changes on the fly. But their are moments where decisions are expected to be made immediately. When you can adjust your focus, not many surprises can steer you off course.
January 9, 2020
Help Me
All of us need help. The challenge is being willing to ask. Two is better than one. Today we talk about the importance of seeking for personal accountability and putting our pride to the side.
January 8, 2020
The Waiting Game
Our generation has so much access to information. Our world promises expectations that we can have the best spouse, the fanciest car, the advanced degrees, the nice house, and the perfect kids as soon as possible. The expectations bring a sense of I want it right away instead of playing the waiting game. To kick off 2020, let’s remember that patience can stop us from over stressing and existing in the future. Nothing happens overnight. But knowing and applying this concept are two different things.
January 3, 2020
What I Learned
Today is the final episode for this year. Here are the three skills I gained from 2019. I hope these experiences provide value in your personal development. Happy New Year!
December 28, 2019
Mr. Grinch
The Grinch was an unhappy character. He wanted to ruin people’s lives during the Christmas season. He was a lonely guy. No one understood his behaviors and he wouldn’t allow people in. Some of us walk around as a Grinch. We harbor up Anger, Bitterness and Hatred from past experiences. In order to overcome our flaws, we must demonstrate emotional intelligence, humble ourselves, and self-control. I hope this season brings joy, peace, and love. Merry Christmas!
December 24, 2019
The Cycle
In our culture, we get the hang of giving without receiving enough in return. We give our time to work, our time to professors and school demands, our time to family, and the list goes on. But their should be a harmonious cycle with giving and receiving. I’ll admit, I’m still getting the hang of receiving from others. With that said, their are 5 pillars which can help you become a better giver and a better receiver at the same time.
December 22, 2019
If you’ve played a string instrument, you probably had to learn scales and octaves. But after learning the basics, you got better overtime. Their was a rhythm developed. Then eventually you’re peers saw you as the expert. Maybe you find yourself stuck in a rut. Maybe you are unsure of yourself. Whatever challenges you face today, the solution is finding a rhythm. Once the flow begins in your personal development, those same mountains aren’t going to keep you down as long.
December 17, 2019
Street Rat
If you struggle with thinking less of yourself, you aren’t alone. In the movie Aladdin, he was labeled a “Street Rat.” However, his vision of living in the palace would bring hope to a hopeless situation. It’s so easy to look at our current problems and believe this is what society expects of me. But that’s a belief we can redefine if we put in the mental work. In this episode, we talk about the gradual process from thinking like a street rat to thinking like a King or Queen.
December 15, 2019
2 Sides
One of the easiest things to do is make assumptions about ourselves, the future, and current situations. However, it’s so important to find out the truth rather than draw conclusions. We don’t know what we don’t know. Their are 2 sides to every story.
December 10, 2019
Being afraid is normal. But running from the fear isn’t going to help us. In today’s episode, I share a recent experience I had with getting on a roof, going to my previous church tonight for a candlelight service, and why regret will haunt your indecisiveness.
December 8, 2019
A To B
Transition is a part of life. We were once kids and now we’re adults. We once liked a favorite color and then we changed our favorite color. We once had a crush on a person and now we now longer have any interest. The point is transition always goes on. The key is staying the course, taking immediate action, and be adaptable in all the changes going on.
December 3, 2019
Live Your Truth
Have you ever found yourself in an environment that causes you to put on a mask? Sometimes it can be difficult to manifest our true selves. It took me almost two years to find myself when I moved to Florida from the DMV. In today’s episode we talk about the importance of living your truth and not backing down when people don’t understand your purpose.
December 1, 2019
Walk Away
Do you find yourself in a situation that is running the same cycles over and over again? Your frustration is building day by day. You wonder if things will ever get better. Maybe it’s time to look at the problem through a different lens. Maybe you need to walk away. Today we talk about a situation I faced with a homeowner yesterday and my decision to walk away from my father for good this past summer.
November 26, 2019
We all struggle with our thoughts. Lies and truth are constantly at war against each other. Some days were on a high and other day’s were on a low. The mind is a powerful weapon. In today’s episode, we discuss the importance of your mindset and how to keep changing it’s negative patterns.
November 25, 2019
Get it done
Maybe I’ll do it next time. How about next week? How about next month? Does this sound familiar? All of us have been indecisive at some point on what we like to accomplish. Today we talk about taking action and making sure the actions are producing fruit. Anyone can be productive, but not everyone can be fruitful.
November 19, 2019
All of us have expectations for a great future. However, why do we find ourselves getting caught up in disappointment? In today’s episode, we talk about managing those expectations in order to keep the momentum of your process moving.
November 18, 2019
Move the Line
In the game of Football, the offense has 70-80 yards to move the ball into the endzone. Sometimes their are big plays and sometimes their are longer drives. But the main objection is getting first downs. When it comes to our results, we should focus on moving the line. It’s all about momentum. The scoreboard will take care of itself if you move the line.
November 12, 2019
Mental Toughness
If you want to be great at anything, you have to develop a mind which has a never say die attitude. In this episode, I talk about the last 72 hours and the things I had to endure. Let this be a lesson to always rise above the challenges and make no excuses.
November 11, 2019
Does it matter?
Are you constantly bombarded by the busyness of life that you aren’t focused on the things which are most important to you? Is your daily activities leaving behind generational changes? If their is something important you want to focus on, then put your focus on that today.
November 5, 2019
ACL Recovery
An ACL takes 6-9 months to recover. Their are certain procedures the human body is required to go through if they want their ACL to function without any more problems. In regards to challenges, the best thing you can do is give it time. Not every situation needs an answer right away.
November 3, 2019
The Mute Button
Have you ever watched people on social media discuss all their dreams and aspirations? But then it never comes to past. Maybe it’s time for a check up on your content. Not every little move needs an audience. Today we talk about sharing content that’s result oriented verses content that’s insecure oriented.
October 29, 2019
Expose Yourself
Do you have gifts you’ve wanted to master but concerned with seeing it become successful. Well I want to know you aren’t the only one. However, it’s time for people to see the light inside of your soul. Their is an audience waiting for your message today. Here are 2 practical tips which can push towards going after your dreams.
October 28, 2019
The Vehicles For Success
Are the vehicles giving you a sense of direction or do you feel confused and lost? Do you find yourself having to fix the same problems time and time again? Maybe it’s time to take a deeper look into which vehicle is guiding you. Life with Jay talks about the changes he had to make in his destination. Why mentors are important. Why you should expect resistance in your endeavors. How being open minded will bring the right vehicles into your lane.
October 22, 2019
Why you should love Monday’s
Have you ever found yourself feeling alive on the weekends and dead on Monday’s. Well I have 2 simple nuggets that can help you shift your perspective.
October 21, 2019