Soul Whispers

*TRIGGER WARNING* suicide, life ending thoughts, sexual assault, disordered eating habits and explicit mentions of weight and dieting, and abusive relationships

I go deep into my relationship with my mom, the challenges we’ve had, breaking out of old patterns of blame, holding past trauma, and being able to ascend past the need for parental validation and acceptance. Hear how I’ve been able to invite in more vulnerability within my relationship with my Chinese immigrant parents, as well as how I’ve been healing insecure attachment styles and distorted feminine energy.

TW: some talk about suicidal ideation

(00:43) intro

(04:40) family holiday reflection

(09:10) mother wounds & ending the cycle of blame

(19:02) the journey into consciousness

(28:26) triggers are your responsibility to handle

(30:42) “my parents don’t understand me”

(39:15) not needing parental praise

(41:46) playing “parents are human” with my family

(46:53) my parents are the OG generational trauma cycle breakers

(49:58) releasing insecure attachment styles

(54:05) letting go of girlhood and inviting in divine feminine energy

We've all been there-

Your partner didn't take out the trash and now you feel like they don't care about the cleanliness of the home.

The person you've been dating doesn't respond to a text all day, and now you're bitter and anxious thinking they ghosted you.

Your significant other didn't do the thing you secretly wanted them to do that would have made you feel loved, so now you feel rejected.

It's so human to make assumptions on other people's intentions, and when we default to negativity, it often isn't true and actually shows us where we have insecurities, unspoken desires, and feelings that need to be communicated.

Witness a vulnerable live life coaching session with Chloe who was feeling unloved after her boyfriend didn't greet her the way she expected at the airport and see how leaning INTO the honest feelings you're experiencing is the best (and sometimes the only) way to unblock the flow of love in your life and in your relationship.

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What we'll cover:

✅ reframing goals & owning your desires

✅ understanding the energetic laws of manifestation

✅ using the frequency of truth to make having the life you desire normal

✅ how to unblock your manifestations

Listen in to a live 20-minute life coaching session with Saren, a peer life coach and friend of mine who wanted coaching on money blocks and transforming scarcity to safety as she ascends through making multiple 6-figures in her business.

This time sensitive video asking you to PREPARE for your abundance! I'll show you how to shift your energy to align with ABUNDANCE in 2024 through an in-depth tarot reading & transmissions that hit my Spirit.

(00:00) Intro & disclaimer

(03:40) Soul Whispers Retreat announcement

(05:50) 3 of Cups

(09:14) 5 of Stars

(12:32) The Hermit

(15:07) 10 of Cups & 9 of Cups

(21:07) 9 of Shells - Penguin Spirit

(28:58) 3 of Crystals - Bee Spirit

(37:26) 2 of Feathers - Gecko Spirit

(42:53) 7 of Pentacles

(43:48) 10 of Cups

(44:20) 6 of Swords

(48:36) Energy + Create

Calling you out loud and clear in this episode (as always, with loving intent) because there is NO TIME to waste being unhappy, unfulfilled, and uninspired in your life.

(00:00) intro

(02:53) BS Belief #1: I'm not enough (and IDK)

(07:09) BS Belief #2: I'm different

(12:05) BS Belief #3: What I want is not available to me

If you've been feeling stuck, held back, or whiplashed through life this year- this is for you. THIS is how you're going to reclaim your power and quantum leap into a new timeline to completely change your reality by the end of the year.

(00:00) intro + the need for a plot twist

(02:46) getting the download for the soul whisperer's special

(04:13) why the universe put you here

(07:19) conscious vs. unconscious relationships & sex

(11:19) simplifying as my business expands

(16:48) what's happening in soul whisperer's special

(24:00) the 3 things you need to create your plot twist

(26:59) why people struggle with knowing who they are

(28:36) virtues first, values second, vision third

(34:52) the difference between values and virtues

(37:15) the 6 core virtues that exist

(39:56) changing your values & the purpose of it

(43:35) the beauty of a flexible vision

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"fear serves the ego, not the mission"

(00:00) intro

(02:55) living in a place of fear

(05:27) low self esteem is a function of ego

(08:43) self-preservation through ego

(11:24) permission to just serve yourself

(16:06) how to partner with your ego

(19:07) overcoming ego and building up your self concept

(20:54) when you think suffering makes you valid

(24:07) be willing to be wrong about your fear

(26:42) taking action to build your self-esteem

Are you causing more suffering in your life because you're intolerant to joy and pleasure? Listen in on this episode where Jen invites you to experience the deep healing we receive when we purposefully create more happiness, satisfaction, and self-worth in our lives even when your mind wants to pull you away from it.

Life is hitting hard for a lot of people right now- whether you've just been through a lay-off, an end of a relationship, you're moving, changing career paths, or you're entering a new life stage. I know I've been feeling the discomfort of life not feeling stable and the fears that come with not knowing what the future holds.

Today, I'm here to shed some light on how I've been able to find my center, and create a life raft to ride the waves of my emotions through change and how you can ease the discomfort you're facing.

(00:00) personal life updates & common energetic themes

(07:53) 4 ways to go through transitions

(10:39) acceptance vs. surrendering

(16:15) my experience with PMDD

(24:43) resisting & rejecting change

(26:34) avoiding shame makes we reject our knowings

(36:50) the progression from resistance to alignment and trust

(42:29) gratitude & presence as medicine

(49:13) how coaching helps you harness the power of a transition

(51:52) meditation to center your energy and tap into resiliency

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Always optimizing for the best outcome while staying in analysis paralysis? This episode sheds light on a new perspective you can adopt if you find yourself frustrated and overwhelmed by your own inability to commit to what you want to do.

Listen on and find out how decisions don't have to be so scary, permanent, and actually lead to freedom when you allow yourself to just decide.

3 weeks ago, my 3.5 year relationship came to an end… and I’m feeling pretty great now. Here’s the rundown on what I’ve learned, how I’ve grown, and the perspectives I’ve taken to process and move on from my ex-soulmate. FYI- it’s not a sad story, just a raw human experience.

(00:00) Context into my last relationship

(04:10) Soulmates & Soul Contracts

(07:25) Anchoring into relationships

(14:18) Knowing vs. Acting on your knowing

(20:12) Relationships are Expanders

(29:08) Post-breakup feelings & insights

(36:07) You can't manufacture desire

(38:15) Seeing the relationship as a success

(41:41) Empowerment through relationships ending

(46:47) Moving on feeling grounded, joyful, and optimistic in the midst of external chaos

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💻 FOUNDATIONS COURSE: True Self Alignment (learn to be yourself)

Colin Coggins and Garrett Brown are loving fathers, husbands, entrepreneurs, and professors on a mission to change how the world views sales by changing how people view themselves. I had the fortune of learning from Colin and Garrett at the University of Southern California in “Sales Mindset for Entrepreneurs” and they recently published their first book, The Unsold Mindset: Redefining What it Means to Sell, which quickly became a Wall-Street Journal bestseller.

🗣 How to take the "ick" and ego out of selling
​🗣 What the best salespeople do differently that make them the opposite of sleezy sales people
🗣 Why there isn't one right way to sell
🗣 How focusing on self-awareness & personal development make you naturally better at sales

Join us for an unmasked conversation to become an ick-less salesperson and sell more without being someone you’re not.

(00:28) meet Colin & Garrett

(02:48) how genuine love removes shame

(06:36) looking for the good & practicing self-awareness

(10:20) removing ego & the ick from selling

(13:39) selling is service (aka. giving & receiving value)

(18:18) stop hiding your real self

(22:11) your imperfections make you attractive

(26:38) there's no right way to sell or best way to be

(32:08) it hurts to be put in a box

(36:32) using obstacles as breakthrough opportunities

(43:33) "what if they're doing their best?”

(48:00) finding growth and excitement in discomfort

(50:21) you're always in the best part of the movie

Final Questions:

(51:30) Where are Colin & Garrett at in their life journeys?

(54:02) What is your #1 value and why?

(56:24) Where is your soul guiding you right now?

(57:16) When do you feel most like yourself?

(57:28) Why do you choose to keep going every day?

Jen talks about releasing the conditioned shame associated with being a tarot practitioner and how spirituality saved her life (and continues to get her through tough times).

She also discusses 3 ways to respond to unpleasant times that will get you feeling better ASAP.

"Don't get kicked out of the tribe" has been seared into our DNA since the dawn of mankind. But why do we feel anxious about the opinions of randos online? Why do we feel lonelier than ever even though we have access to the most people ever?

In this episode we cover:

• The purpose and pitfalls of tribal mentality

• Why individualism leads us to anxiety

• How you can get clear on who your tribe is (even if you don't have one yet)

Reflecting on 25 years of life and the most helpful life perspectives I've learned and cultivated that have gotten me through depression, anxiety, life ending thoughts, and now are lighting the way to help me embrace the human experience as I grow my business, deepen my spiritual practice, and partner with my unique brain and body.  

Welcome to Soul Whispers! Tune in for some divine downloads Jen received from Spirit on enoughness and feel your soul expand as you hear exactly what you needed to hear today.

I've learned a lot in my entrepreneurship/ solopreneurship journey as a health coach and personal trainer to now as a life coach and spiritual guide. The life coaching industry and society's narratives on entrepreneurship creates a lot of noise that can lead you to overthink, outsource your own authority, make misaligned decisions, and live in fear.

While business school and business coaches taught me a lot- some things simply didn't resonate but I felt like I had to hold onto, while other things have been incredibly helpful in keeping me grounded in myself and guided me into making my business feel like home. In this episode, I'm sharing some of my journey and what I wish I could have seen earlier on.

(00:00) intro

(02:58) letting go of the "right way" to build a business

(06:43) imposter syndrome & building an expert self-concept

(12:38) identifying the "shoulds" that are taking away from your peace

(17:21) scarcity mindset & financial instability

(20:50) tips for new entrepreneurs to keep your peace

The down side of solopreneurship, discerning when to work hard vs. surrender to the universe, and identifying impatience as a symptom of entitlement.

What really is spiritual growth and how can you help yourself grow spiritually? In today's episode Jen takes you on a deep dive on how to connect with your soul to create more peace and freedom within your life and be a more effective human as a bonus result. Save and share this episode as it's a masterclass in spiritual development and revisit it anytime you're doing some soul-searching.

(00:17) Intro & True Self Alignment workshop announcement

(05:24) Understanding what IS spiritual development/ spiritual growth

3 TIPS TO GET THROUGH THE 1ST LEG OF YOUR SPIRITUAL DEVELOPMENT

(09:59) Staying open minded & how to look at "happy people advice"

(13:33) Deciding to do things differently

(17:56) Creating space to do things that bring you joy & following your curiosities

3 TIPS TO GET YOU THROUGH THE 2ND LEG OF YOUR SPIRITUAL JOURNEY

(23:09) Building self trust & re-learning how to make decisions

(26:41) Feeling your feelings as an intellectualizer vs. a wallower

(33:21) Hitting your limitations, learning to surrender, and mastering the law of attraction

MY SPIRITUAL LOWS & LESSONS IN 2022

(40:15) The existential drama around me and my business last year, my real thoughts as I was in the dark

(46:16) Re-experiencing suicidal ideation, PMDD, learning how to honor my body in a deeper way

(50:47) Dealing with social media, hate comments, recalibrating my flow on socials

(52:52) Lessons I’ve learned & applying the Yin Yang principle to my life

I’m about to break your brain a bit- in the best way possible. On the final day of 12 Days of Breakthroughs 2022, we’re tackling the final boss, the biggest lie of them all, the conditioning our our very EXISTENCE.

I’m the coach that only dishes out red pills, so get ready to exit the matrix.

What you’ll uncover in this episode:

🎁 Going past the “what” you are to discover WHO you are

🎁 Discuss soul contracts, understand why you’re here & discover your unique path in life

🎁 Look at why you’re suffering & How to ascend your consciousness to get out of the matrix

🎁 What the real purpose of personal development is & the journey to embody your true self

(00:17) intro & overview

(01:35) Part 1: Who you are

(10:37) Part 2: Why you're really here

(18:29) Age of Aquarius & how the energy of the world is shifting

(23:26) Part 3: Why you're struggling

(28:35) Part 4: How to ascend your consciousness to get out of the matrix

💊 More Red Pills 💊  

✨ Soul Readings: Tarot Coaching 

Here’s what we cover in this episode:

🎁 How to take up space & stop making yourself small

🎁 Feeling disconnected from your job, suicidal ideation, and honoring your true desire to reconnect with yourself

🎁 Developing the belief that money & having nice things IS for you- not just for “rich” people

🎁 How to see your humanness as an asset & be authentic

(00:19) Kristen's background & the 2 biggest beliefs that held her back from being herself

(05:39) Relearning to take up space

(09:51) Replacing old conditioning with new ones

(11:43) Buying the "rich people" bread & making money safe to spend

(18:08) Quitting her corporate job to honor her truth

(19:50) TW: suicide & when suicidal ideation is a manifestation of soul misalignment

(27:00) Giving yourself space to get mental health support

(29:04) The emotional rollercoaster after quitting & starting her business

(36:34) What it looks like to let yourself be human & not want to be perfect

(40:23) You can have it all, but not all at once

(45:11) Taking pressure off yourself & lower your expectations

(48:26) How to do less in your business, and still create amazing results

(55:16) Authenticity & what does it really mean?

(57:32) Where to find Kristen & work with her

Kristen King is a certified life and business coach who specializes in helping women reclaim their fucks from bullshit they don't even care about so they can create more space for themselves in their own lives.

She helps her clients learn to root out the sneaky patterns of perfectionism and people-pleasing that are sucking the life out of them so they can actually have a life they LOVE — instead of the one they got stuck with. When Kristen’s done with you, you'll give way fewer fucks and have a lot more fucking fun.

Connect with Kristen!

Personal development isn’t about constantly seeking to “better” yourself, “fix” your bad habits, and chasing “growth” to bypass being human.

It’s about learning to embody 100% of who you truly are and celebrate the divinity that lives within your humanity.

In this episode, I cover:

🎁 What spiritual/emotional bypassing is & why we as a society do it

🎁 How emotional bypassing is harmful and new ways to think about your emotions

🎁 Allowing the human experience and processing emotions

🎁 How to be productive and make “logical” decisions while going through difficult times

(01:27) What is spiritual bypassing?

(02:44) How bypassing your emotions hurts you & social conditioning around emotions

(04:58) New paradigm to think about emotions

(06:22) Building tolerance for contrasting emotions

(08:41) Righteous Anger

(09:21) "Emotions get in the way" & what to do

(10:30) Tools to process your emotions

(14:55) How to know if you've finished processing an emotion

(16:14) Using discernment to be productive and process your emotions

(19:33) Logic & Emotions in decision making

Work With Me

✨ Soul Readings: Tarot Coaching

How to actually take the path less traveled (from a 25-year old Tofu Master) 🧑🏻‍🍳

Here's what we cover:

🎁 How being self-motivated is driven by a strong connection to your values

🎁 The importance of community to find courage in taking an unconventional path

🎁 Why plant-based foods get a bad rep and what’s actually true about it 

🎁 How to find wisdom in failure and never let critics tell you what’s possible in the world  

(02:17) How George uncovered social conditioning early on 

(04:15) Veganism & the disconnect people have to their food 

(05:57) 3 phases of change when there's cognitive dissonance 

(07:51) Having a predisposition to help, a sense of justice, and feeling empowered to create change 

(12:07) Finding community to help stay motivated to create social impact 

(16:55) Dealing with not having support 

(21:49) Why tofu is awesome 

(24:31) 3 categories of plant-based cooking & creationary foods 

(32:37) Plants can be delicious 

(38:54) Change your mind about tofu & plant based proteins 

(43:01) "if you turn every failure into wisdom, you can't lose” 

(44:21) A note on privilege

(47:41) Worst piece of advice George has come across 

(57:00) Where you can find and connect with George

George Stiffman is an entrepreneur, evangelist of creationary plant based cuisine, chinese tofu master, and author of “Broken Cuisine” he’s revolutionizing the way people perceive plant based cuisine and is on a mission to heal the earth by healing our relationship with food.  

Connect with George! 

When we don’t feel like we have enough or don’t feel like we are enough, we’re bound to feel anxious, out of control, and pressured. But, scarcity is an illusion of doubt, fear, and ego- when we can reframe our thoughts and feel safe in our lives, we’re able to see the truth and move towards freedom.

Here's what we're covering in this episode:

🎁 Identify scarcity mindset & how it presents itself in your mind and body

🎁 Breakdown the most common scarcity-rooted beliefs and replace them

🎁 Open your perspectives on time & stop overthinking

🎁 Help you tap into the feeling of sufficiency and abundance

(00:32) what scarcity mindset is & how it feels

(01:46) "I don't have enough”

(02:37) Covert ways "I'm not enough/ I'm not good enough" comes up

(04:18) Knowledge Scarcity

(05:22) Time Scarcity & managing your time

(06:42) Willpower, Resourcefulness, and Confidence

(08:38) Honoring your desires without fueling lack and scarcity

(10:28)"I don't know what I'm doing" / "I don't know how”

(13:32) Perfection & "I'm behind" "I'm not fully healed”

(14:21) the power of knowing you can never be "fully healed”

(16:36) healing as an upward spiral

(20:22) "I'm behind in life”

(21:51) Scarcity mindset goes through cycles as well

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✨ Life Coaching & Guidance

You don't have to suffer so dang much- for days, weeks and years of your precious life. There’s a clear path to change, and it’s through calming your nervous system and reframing your crappy thoughts

This video will cover: 

🎁  Overcoming money mindset blocks as an entrepreneur 

🎁  Using principles rooted in Buddhism to create inner peace and freedom 

🎁  How to tend to your sensitive self 

🎁  Light forms of hypnosis that can help you release anxiety, judgement, and fear to become more at ease in life

(00:00:00) Intro

(00:03:10) Undoing "We are not rich" & "rich people are bad people”

(00:10:37) Yolanda's background teaching at a Monastic Institute & how Buddhism influenced her money mindset

(00:12:22) How Yolanda married a monk

(00:16:34) Mental fracking- undoing conditioning to have massive faith and trust in your intuition

(00:18:21) How to wake up with a heart and mind at peace (especially as a Highly Sensitive Person)

(00:24:13) What is a highly sensitive person (HSP)?

(00:30:10) 3 techniques to put your nervous system at ease

(00:35:10) How to actually integrate self-care tools

(00:54:32) Hypnosis/ self-hypnosis: making changing your brain easier

(00:56:59) A note on causing your own suffering & how to get out of it

(01:04:19) Where to find Yolanda & work with her

Yolanda is a life coach who helps sensitive, spiritually-minded women with practical self-care, so that you can stop:

...eating all the things

...feeling low-grade depressed

...being stressed and

...mad at your loved ones.

She's also a travel writer and Tibet expert who, with her husband Lobsang, helps make Tibet travel more simple, safe and ethical & she's a plant-based food fanatic and lover of movies and hikes.

Want to be powerful instead of a popular people-pleaser? Watch this til the end.

Learn more about 1:1 coaching and apply to work with me here: https://www.jencui.com/1on1 

This video will cover: 

🎁  3 Requirements to stop being afraid of what other people think of you 

🎁  How to dethrone the inner critic holding you back 

🎁  3 Main Blockers of confidence & massive action 

🎁  Why shame and fear as shitty motivators & how to motivate yourself instead  

(00:00) intro + how shame conditioning shows up in every culture 

(03:15) #1: Desire (honest & soul-deep) 

(04:08) #2: Safety (external & internal) 

(05:31) what you need to cultivate internal safety 

(10:47) #3: Confidence in yourself 

(12:47) 3 biggest blockers 

(18:37) why you don't need shame

LINKS MENTIONED: ✨ Episode 058. 3 skills to master to become unafraid & stay grounded in uncertainty https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/6jJZQyCKQvb

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Men have feelings too, and they need to know they can express it safely and meet themselves with compassion. Hear how you can cultivate compassion as you cultivate your skills from a black-belt professional Brazilian Jiu Jitsu competitor & coach.

This video will cover: 🎁  Conditioning men receive that block them from their emotions 🎁  Going against cultural expectations that don’t serve you 🎁  How to be confident without arrogance & humble without imposter syndrome 🎁  Leading a community with compassion that goes beyond the competition

(00:01:21) cultural conditioning around expressing emotions as the eldest male in a first-gen Asian-Australian household

(00:07:42) the journey to learning how to allow and process emotions

(00:10:21) "there's always someone who has it worse" - gratitude as a tool to gaslight yourself vs. lift yourself up

(00:15:03) the antithesis to "someone has it worse than you" & cultivating true gratitude

(00:17:02) lessons from jiu jitsu & re-evaluating respect in filial piety and sport hierchies

(00:22:12) keeping your ego, arrogance, and imposter syndrome in check in a competitive sport environment

(00:27:24) the importance of being compassionate in martial arts

(00:31:18) how to stop focusing on other people & compete against yourself & when you know you're not trying

(00:37:05) the importance of expressing "i don't know," skill mastery, and humility

(00:49:02) how Mikey came into jiujitsu as a career

(00:57:51) expressing vulnerability & compassion - you're not alone in your feelings or failures

(01:04:32) vulnerability is not a weakness & your dreams are worthy

Mikey Vong Lay is a Brazillian Jiu jitsu black belt. He’s competed at many high level tournaments including but not limited to the asian open, pan-american, and world championships. Aside from competitions Mikey is a jiujitsu coach and has been since he was a blue belt. Mikey comes from a large first gen Asian-Australian family so taking this career path was definitely unconventional, but he’s so grateful to be doing it.

Listen on to:

• Uncover what lies about love may be unconsciously holding you back from love
• Learn why blaming love for hardships in life drives love further away from us
• How to rectify unhelpful social conditioning and your past beliefs about love
• Find out what it takes for you to be a true love match with someone else

(00:00) Intro & intention

(00:46) Lie 1: "love is hard”

(08:54) Lie 2: "love makes you do stupid things”

(16:02) Lie 3: "love should be unconditional”

(18:59) Self-love: where unconditional love is possible

(20:47) Learning to leave someone even if you love them

(24:20) Reminder about who you are

⬇️ My Offers ⬇️

✨ Soul Readings: Tarot Coaching

Listen on to uncover how to approach your life, dating, marriage, and parenthood with more love, curiosity, and authenticity.

🎁 How to reclaim your free time and still be a loving mompreneur

🎁 Prioritization tips to create work-life balance

🎁 What you should REALLY be looking for when you’re dating

🎁 Why it’s way better to be your real self on a first date & how to stay open to people if their political and religious beliefs are different from yours

(00:00) Intro to Kelly

(01:29) unbrainwashing what it means to be a good parent

(03:33) redefining "selflessness" as a mom and reclaiming your time as a mom

(08:16) mom guilt as a working mom (entrepreneur-mom life)

(10:57) how to discern when you need time for yourself vs. when you can give more to others

(12:37) dealing with time scarcity as a mom & learning how to prioritize realistically

(15:07) Kelly's dating life in college & meeting her now husband

(18:20) dating advice if you really want to find love

(24:25) being your true self on dates & how to deal with different political or religious beliefs

(33:12) questions you need to be asking yourself to find long-term partner material

(36:27) challenging the way that you date

(37:06) Kelly's dating course, dating/ matchmaking service, and coaching

Kelly Feng is a certified life coach and is better known as Dear Love Coach. Her passion is helping people lead their lives with love and wants to bring wholesomeness back to dating. Kelly is also a mom of 2, a wife, and along with coaching has an Airbnb business.

Enjoy this video!

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Know that you are NOT the problem if you don’t seem to be able to change and see just how far we’ve been brainwashed by historical systems of oppression, how to start recognizing unhelpful social conditioning, and get practical steps to start being your true self.

(01:17) understanding how deep social conditioning goes & listening to the desire for personal growth

(02:47) defining what truth, reality, and belief really is

(07:43) social conditioning is neutral, until it's not (identifying helpful vs. unhelpful conditioning)

(09:15) beliefs are changable- but this is why it's so dang hard for so many people

(10:43) fear of uncertainty & how evolution has helped and hurt us

(12:41) blaming yourself and having self-compassion as you change

(18:37) the key to deconditioning & how to discern "truth" by feeling into your body

(20:31) discerning your inner critic vs. intuition

(25:31) [TW: suicide] sublime conditioning from media & social settings

(30:39) 1 major shift that helped me get out of the depression hole

(35:34) how diet culture is a byproduct of the patriarchy

(38:11) intersectionality & understanding your identities to uncover covert brainwashing

(40:00) education status based conditioning

(42:35) a hard pill to swallow if you want to grow and evolve

(44:56) how to know what you truly want from life and from yourself

(47:53) stop suffering so much by creating suffiency and cultivating acceptance in the present

(50:16) what you need to hear today

(50:47) how to work with me

Learn how to breakthrough your own brainwashing that made you wrongly believe you’re broken and you just need to “try harder.” Tune in on this insightful conversation about neurodivergence, productivity, and loving your brain.

(00:57) "there's only one way to be" and the process to unbrainwash overachieving

(05:35) creating your own process with a neurodivergent brain to create sustainable success

(11:33) how celebrating yourself helps you enjoy the process & unique ways to celebrate yourself

(16:28) how to move past the fear of letting the process be fun & easy if you've been trained to be a high achiever

(19:24) flow state- what it is, what it is not, how to get in it, and why it's key to being creative and enjoying work

(24:51) discerning the right amount of challenge to skill ratio using your emotions

(28:14) dropping time pressure when time blocking to create more flow

(30:52) flow states are addicting

(32:32) how to balance making time to process difficult life circumstances and wanting to work

(38:20) how to start building brain-awareness and partner with the way your brain works

(43:10) what autism really is & experiences masking it to function in a neurotypical workplace

(51:34) final thoughts & how to work with Mattia + apply for their program Love Your Brain

(54:48) bonus: the antithesis to "just try harder”

Mattia is an interdisciplinary composer, life coach, and hypnotist helping neurodivergent creatives love their brain. Today, They are sharing how they went from never feeling accomplished enough despite being extremely high-achieving, and how they found their unique process to creating that works well for their ADHD and autistic brain.

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12 Days of Christmas just got un-brainwashed. Say hello to 12 Days of Breakthroughs 2022 edition! This year, I'm bringing on some incredible guests to crack open your mind, body, and soul and get rid of the rotting crap that's been holding you back. Listen on to make your 2023 incredible.

“Freedom is not a state of being, it is a practice that strengthens every time we participate in the act of choosing- choosing what we what, who we are, and how we will live our lives” - Jen Cui

In this episode, Jen shares a sneaky limiting perspective that keeps people in overwhelm and stuck when they really just want to be free in their life. She shares her story of how she creates freedom in her business and what stopped her from creating it early on.

Listen on to find out how you can tap into true freedom for yourself.

This is where you will create your own compass.

This is where you will slay your demons.

This is where you will evolve phase after phase.

Embody your soul-self.

(00:17) Self-sabotage through perfectionistic thinking, getting started in non-ideal situations, and jealousy

(05:26) The thoughts that are cockblocking you from achieving your goals and getting moving

(12:11) Why “I don’t know how” is B.S. and the difference between hope vs. belief

(14:35) Bypassing your emotions/ your nervous system & how to expand your capacity to receive

(25:40) Self-sabotage through gaslighting your dreams to be “realistic”

(29:56) Announcement #1: Tarot & Oracle Card Readings in October & how to use it to unblock yourself

(31:27) Announcement #2: The Soulful Sisterhood in-person meet-ups in Los Angeles & Halloween Party!

(33:41) Announcement #3: Peep into the Sacred Self & how to get in on it now!

It's time to reflect and renew your energy! In this episode, get a quick and dirty energy read of today and get some of the most POWERFUL questions to consider to best utilize the energy of the Autumn Equinox to clear the slate and manifest what you want, before you open up a new soul contract or dive straight into setting end-of-the-year goals.

(01:22) why doing this work is so important

(05:03) overview of the 3 strategies and the 2 prerequisites required to use them

(07:23) identifying fears, feeling fear, and processing the emotion

(14:35) breaking down fear, disappointment, shame & pain

(20:55) tending to your nervous system & noticing your triggers

(32:01) how to execute on the 3 strategies to be unafraid

(44:39) breaking free from scarcity mindset in The Soulopreneur Collective

"How was it?! Tell me everything!!!" 

Well, everything and nothing has changed. This episode is chock full of insights and codes to unlock your highest self, so sit down, keep your mind open, and get ready for a wondrous trip.

(00:17) Disclaimer about this episode

(01:33) My 9-day self-retreat, intentions, how this happened

(17:49) The trip come-up experience and lots of crying

(28:05) The energy shift mid-trip

(30:36) Addressing my past with suicidal ideation/ depression & the come down experience for me

(59:17) Post-trip experience, what happened the next few days, overall insights that has impacted me since

"I don't even know how to have fun anymore..." it's a sad statement that I feel rings true in most adults. So on the journey to creating a fantastical life- what role does fun play? What even is "fun"?  

Fun is not a one-size fits all definition. It's nuanced and goes beyond pleasure. Listen to this episode now and learn to reclaim your version of fun, and open yourself up to how you can have more fun in life NOW.

What if we are not the problem? What if you're not deficient, defective, or have a "disorder"? What would it look like to work with yourself instead of against it?

Explore all of these questions and start making life easier on you.

- Jen's exploration in learning about ADHD

- Why labels are helpful and hurtful & the grey area on every spectrum

- The over-pathologicizing of behaviors

- How I view diagnoses & disorders

- 5 tips on how to work with your unique brain

- Coming home to yourself

- Getting support through 1:1 coaching and The Soulopreneur Collective

Links mentioned in the episode:

Experimentation and commitment are two sides of the same coin, and when used intentionally, can lead to incredible results. However, when used unintentionally (or with shitty intentions) leads to *pppft*

Listen now to find out how to use them in your life.

Sangam Stanczak is a certified life and parenting coach, mother, wife, and pioneer of One Community. She is also an environmental engineer, yoga instructor, dreamer, believer - bottomline - an agent of world change since I was 10 years old. Tune in to hear more about Sangam's story, how she didn't wait to be fully healed from her trauma in order to pursue her dreams, and how you can start to align your life with your beliefs now.

(0:18) Introduction to Sangam Stanczak

(7:45) Generational trauma and working through your past (TW: sexual abuse)

(15:06) Having compassion and letting go of anger for yourself and in parenting

(23:53) Growing through what you go through, living by your truth, and how Sangam aligns her life and decisions based on her values of sustainability and environmentalism

(35:56) How living in an RV was a pivotal moment in taking a stand in her true self

(49:49) Choosing your hard and the mindset to cultivate delayed gratification to create a sustainable future

(56:07) Sangam coaches Jen on wanting to be more eco-friendly and to tap into a future-oriented sustainability mindset

(1:04:11) Building solutions around the human conditions & One Community

(1:13:01) Hot take questions

Not sure if you're growing? Feel like you've come a long way, but then get pulled back? Here are some signs that you're growing in your personal development journey and what the growth trajectory looks like as a life coaching client.

(0:17) What you’ll discover about yourself in personal development and in coaching

(3:06) Meta thinking & real time course correction

(7:49) Phrases you’ll stop saying, blame, honesty, and life ownership.

(10:37) Detaching your self-concept, worth, or peace of mind to an external result

(11:27) Growth feels like ASS: hitting belief ceilings and acclimation pain

(21:49) Stop saving your 10/10’s and elevating your baseline

(24:52) Stepping into your future self & creating who you are

I say this with love: shut up, and listen to this episode because it will change the trajectory of your life forever- if you let it.

(0:17) what this episode is all about

(2:53) reaching your goals do not change your brain chemistry NOR excuse you from the human experience

(7:53) trust is the answer to all of your questions

(12:13) how to re-sensitize yourself to trust & acclimate your nervous system to risk

(23:54) the model of trust

(24:55) trust is an action, circumstance, thought, feeling, and a result

(32:13) how to get a transformation from my online content & an opportunity to dive deeper