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The Open Bedroom Podcast

The Open Bedroom Podcast

By Jennifer Kaylo

I'm Jennifer Kaylo, host of The Open Bedroom podcast. A Dog Mom. Human Boy Mom. Life partner to Scott. Multi-million dollar revenue generator. Podcast host. Certified sex and relationship coach specializing in helping couples open their relationships, conscious uncoupling, and online dating in open relationships. Common themes include open relationships, swinging, polyamory, online dating and Tinder, and sex.
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EP#136: How to Have a Threeway

EP#136: How to Have a Threeway

Wanna have a threesome? You're not alone!
A threesome is the most sought after sexual experience, and almost 20% of men have had one!
In today's episode I discuss how to find a 3rd through online platforms and the importance of setting boundaries and intentions.
I share my personal experiences, advising on safe sex practices and the significance of aftercare.
My insights aim to create a respectful and safe environment for all participants, ensuring a positive and consensual experience.
0:00 Intro
Alignment with Your Partner (00:01:14)
Discussing the importance of finding alignment with your partner and understanding the dynamics for a threesome.

Advertising Your Intentions (00:03:17)
Exploring the ways to advertise your intentions for a threesome, including online groups and dating apps.

Pre-Threesome Communication (00:06:19)
Emphasizing the importance of clear communication and setting intentions before engaging in a threesome.

During-Threesome Check-Ins (00:13:25)
Discussing the need for communication and check-ins during a threesome to ensure comfort and consent.

Post-Threesome Reflection (00:16:21)
Highlighting the significance of post-threesome communication, addressing emotions, and nurturing relationships.

Personal Experience and Coaching Services (00:19:23)
Sharing personal experiences with threesomes and promoting online coaching services for sex, relationships, and conscious uncoupling.

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Mar 17, 202420:23
EP#135 How to Practice Healthy Non Monogamy - Insights with Ally Iseman

EP#135 How to Practice Healthy Non Monogamy - Insights with Ally Iseman

Today I've got Ally Iseman, a non-monogamous specialist and sexpert, to talk about Healthy monogamy.

We discuss Ally's personal journey into non-monogamy, the importance of communication, and the role of jealousy in personal growth.

Ally shares her insights on setting boundaries, maintaining relationship integrity, and the significance of consent in ethical non-monogamous relationships.

Our conversation covers the diversity within non-monogamous communities, the joy of play and pleasure, and the resources available for those exploring non-monogamy.


The guide's role (00:00:02) Ally explains her role as a guide for healthy non-monogamy, emphasizing her active participation and continual learning.

Introduction to Ally (00:01:07) Jennifer introduces Ally and discusses her journey into the non-monogamous space, highlighting her social media presence and personal experiences.

Challenges in non-monogamous relationships (00:03:52) Ally discusses the challenges and misconceptions in non-monogamous relationships, emphasizing the need for communication and skills applicable to both non-monogamous and monogamous relationships.

Navigating relationship ruptures (00:04:46) Jennifer shares her recent experience of a relationship rupture, and Ali emphasizes the need for guidance and communication in navigating such challenges.

Transition from monogamy to non-monogamy (00:07:10) Ally shares her personal journey from being a serial monogamist to exploring non-monogamy, highlighting the self-development and relationship dynamics involved.

Learning from personal mistakes (00:10:59) Ali discusses the importance of owning and addressing personal mistakes in relationships, emphasizing the need for open communication and self-awareness.

Developing relationship skills (00:13:34) Ally emphasizes the importance of developing relationship skills and creating safe containers for mistakes, highlighting the value of personal growth and learning from experiences.

Defining healthy non-monogamy (00:16:40) Ally discusses the key aspects of healthy non-monogamy, including understanding emotional and physical needs, addressing insecurities, and building relationship security through experiences.

Utilizing jealousy for personal growth (00:18:45) Ally explains the role of jealousy in personal growth and relationship dynamics, emphasizing its potential for self-improvement and relationship insights.

The importance of integrity and consistency (00:19:44) Value of holding oneself and others accountable in relationships, recognizing triggers, and the impact of different partnerships on attachment triggers.

Understanding healthy non-monogamy (00:21:39) Differentiating between healthy and unhealthy non-monogamy, emphasizing the importance of consensual relationships and setting clear boundaries.

Embracing play and pleasure (00:23:13) Exploring the concept of play as an essential part of relationships, finding joy and pleasure, and creating a safe environment for exploration.

Creating a safe and inclusive community (00:25:53) Establishing safety measures such as STI testing, vetting process, and promoting mutual respect and consent in a sex-positive community.

Navigating boundaries and growth (00:28:39) Understanding and communicating boundaries, the importance of consent, and the role of discomfort in personal growth.

Exploring new experiences and communities (00:32:06) Encouraging curiosity, community engagement, and the potential for personal growth through exploring new experiences and environments.


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Ally Iseman is the Founder of Passport2Pleasure.com, which offers concierge guidance, eco-luxury retreats, and online courses and resources for couples and individuals exploring healthy non-monogamy and alternative relationship dynamics. She has been a speaker, community organizer, and non-monogamy educator and practitioner since 2016, committed to promoting consensual, empowered, and respectful interactions as a leader within the sex-positive space. As a certified and respected ‘sexpert’ on non-monogamy and consent, Ally sits on the executive leadership board of one of LA’s most distinguished sensually-creative events. She regularly shares her insights on podcasts and at live events, and has been quoted in numerous consumer and industry-facing publications, further solidifying her reputation as a knowledgeable and influential voice on the subject of non-monogamy and alternative relationship dynamics.


Contact: ally@passport2pleasure.com (personal); hello@passport2pleasure.com (public)

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Mar 10, 202436:29
EP#134: We Got Dumped Via TXT MSG

EP#134: We Got Dumped Via TXT MSG

How we got dumped in a text message, what I've learned through this process, how I'm feeling, and how to break up with kindness. The emotional rollercoaster (00:00:02) 

Jennifer shares her feelings and initial reaction to being dumped via text message.

The dynamics of the throuple (00:01:20) 

Jennifer discusses her experience in a throuple relationship and the events leading up to the breakup.

Processing the breakup (00:04:54) 

Jennifer reflects on her emotional journey and the impact of the breakup on her.

The impact of age and maturity (00:14:37) 

Jennifer explores the role of age and maturity in relationships and the breakup experience.

Approach to breaking up kindly (00:18:02) 

Jennifer shares her approach to breaking up with past partners and the importance of respect and communication.

Lack of closure and changing dynamics (00:22:10) 

Jennifer discusses the lack of closure in the breakup and the discovery of changes in the dynamics of the relationship.

Breaking Up Kindly (00:24:40) 

Discussion on the importance of communicating kindly and respectfully during breakups, and the impact of doing so.

Reflecting on the Breakup (00:25:43) 

Encouragement to provide feedback and share breakup stories in a kind and loving manner, and seeking input from listeners.

Online Coaching Topics (00:27:52) 

Introduction to the speaker's online coaching services, including topics like open relationships, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.


This podcast is sponsored by Coaching With Jen:

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The precursor to this podcast:

EP#128 Taking Breaks in Open Relationships
EP#130 Why Clear Boundaries are Kind in Open Relationships

Mar 03, 202429:31
EP#133: Primal Play with Girlfriend Steph

EP#133: Primal Play with Girlfriend Steph

Our girlfriend Steph and I believe that sex is "playtime" for adults, so we've made monthly Sexploration nights an important event on our calendars. We cover some of the fun we've explored, our recent trip to a dungeon, Steph's recent Primal Play adventure in Austin, TX and more.


Rediscovering Play as Adults (00:00:00)

Jennifer and Steph discuss their experiences with rediscovering play as adults, the challenges they faced, and the importance of incorporating playfulness in their lives.


Primal Play and Its Appeal (00:12:32)

Steph shares her experience with primal play, describing its physical and emotional aspects, and the appeal of letting go of control and embracing animalistic instincts.


Exploring Primal Play (00:17:14)

Jennifer and Steph delve into the concept of primal play, discussing its connection to one's true nature, including exercises and experiences related to primal play, and the significance of embracing one's natural scent and physical sensations.


Taking Small Steps into Primal Play (00:20:07)

Steph suggests small steps for individuals to explore primal play, such as experimenting with different touches, pressures, and interactions to introduce a sense of playfulness and exploration in their relationships.


Play in Non-Monogamous Relationships (00:22:33)

Discussion on incorporating play in non-monogamous relationships and encouraging partners to try new things.


Primal and Sensory Play (00:23:25)

Exploring primal play, sensory play, and incorporating curiosity and childlike exploration into sexual experiences.


Food Play and Sensation Play (00:24:15)

Discussion of primal play involving food, sensation play, and the importance of getting in touch with pleasure and body sensations.


Exploring Sexual Curiosity (00:26:01)

Encouraging reframing and curiosity in sexual experiences, including using sex toys and exploring different sensations.


Pleasure and Mindfulness (00:28:49)

Emphasizing mindfulness in experiencing pleasure, including exploring breath, sound, and body sensations.


Erotic Blueprints and Sexual Fulfillment (00:30:22)

Encouraging understanding of individual erotic blueprints and how different partners may have different sexual preferences.


Sexual Exploration and Playful Experimentation (00:34:27)

Emphasizing the importance of experimenting, following curiosity, and exploring different aspects of sexual play.


Exploration Date and Permission to Play (00:34:51)

Suggesting scheduling exploration dates and giving permission to explore different sexual activities and experiences.


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Feb 28, 202437:29
EP# 132 How to Create Your Own Spank Bank
Feb 25, 202418:35
EP#131: How to Negotiate MORE in your Sex Life with Brian Jenkins

EP#131: How to Negotiate MORE in your Sex Life with Brian Jenkins

The introduction (00:00:02) Jennifer and Brian introduce the episode and set the stage for their conversation about having difficult conversations with a partner regarding sexual exploration and needs within a long-term relationship.

Insight into Men's Resistance (00:03:49) Brian provides insight into why men may be resistant to their partners' desires for sexual exploration, including issues of trust, insecurity, and performance anxiety.

Navigating Edgy Desires (00:07:14) Jennifer and Brian discuss how to navigate when one partner's desires feel too edgy for the other, emphasizing the importance of open conversation and understanding each other's perspectives.

Role-Play Scenario (00:10:29) Jennifer and Brian act out a role-play scenario where Jennifer, as the woman, asks Brian, her partner, to join her in sexual exploration, demonstrating the negotiation and communication involved in such conversations.

Exploring Edgier Desires (00:14:24) The role-play delves into the exploration of edgier desires, including the idea of being watched, visiting a sex club, and potentially involving others, leading to a candid and exploratory conversation between the partners.

Reflection and Preparation (00:20:18) Brian emphasizes the need for both partners to be prepared for unexpected reactions and desires, encouraging open and supportive communication as they navigate their exploration together.

Openness and Safety (00:21:32) The importance of creating a safe space for exploring new sexual experiences and addressing potential insecurities.

Difficult Conversations (00:22:23) Tips for having difficult conversations in a relationship, including how to pose the conversation, renegotiate, and address potential concerns.

Leaning into Fear (00:23:24) Encouragement to lean into the fear of difficult conversations and focus on the potential beauty and growth that can come from openness and honesty.

Seeking Help (00:24:41) The benefit of seeking coaching or support for difficult conversations in relationships, and the availability of coaching services from the speakers.


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Feb 21, 202426:07
EP#130 Why Clear Boundaries are Kind in Open Relationships

EP#130 Why Clear Boundaries are Kind in Open Relationships

Scott and I recently had a big relationship rupture that could have been avoided with some conversation and boundaries.

Here's what happen, and how to avoid it in your own relationships.

Setting the stage (00:00:02) Jennifer introduces the episode and sets the stage for the discussion on setting clear boundaries in open relationships.
Importance of clear boundaries (00:01:16) Jennifer shares a personal experience of a weekend trip with her partners, emphasizing the importance of setting clear boundaries in open relationships to avoid misunderstandings and hurt feelings.
Failed communication and misunderstandings (00:02:46) Jennifer describes a situation where lack of clear communication and established boundaries led to uncomfortable experiences and breakdown in relationships.
The need for a container (00:09:29) Jennifer discusses the importance of creating a container with clear boundaries and expectations to ensure safety and avoid hurt feelings in group play situations.
Learning from experiences (00:11:50) Jennifer reflects on the events of the weekend trip and emphasizes the need for clear boundaries, fears, and desires in open relationships based on their experiences.
Creating a safe environment (00:13:06) Jennifer shares a positive experience where setting parallel play boundaries in a group setting created a safe and enjoyable environment for all involved.
Boundaries, fears, and desires conversation (00:16:06) Jennifer encourages listeners to incorporate the boundaries, fears, and desires conversation into their sex lives, emphasizing its importance in creating safety and understanding in open relationships.
Engaging with the audience (00:21:07) Jennifer invites feedback from the audience on the episode's content and encourages them to rate and review the podcast for future support.
Energy and Purpose (00:22:06) Jennifer discusses the energy and purpose behind producing the podcast and its impact on the listeners.
Online Coaching Topics (00:22:06) Jennifer outlines the topics she covers in her online coaching, including open relationships, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.
Hope for the Future (00:23:13) Jennifer expresses optimism about the potential for improvement in relationships and life.
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Feb 18, 202423:17
EP# 129 Sex and Intimacy in a Triad with Dr. Rachael Meir

EP# 129 Sex and Intimacy in a Triad with Dr. Rachael Meir

Dr. Rachael Meir discusses her Triad, what it's like to have sex with TWO partners, dating each person 1:1, and what it's like to live in a threesome.


Journey into polyamory (00:02:20) Dr. Rachel Meir shares her journey into polyamory, from early fantasies to exploring swinging lifestyle and eventually transitioning into a committed triad relationship.

Open-mindedness and acceptance in open relationships (00:08:43) The conversation delves into the open-mindedness, acceptance, and willingness to grow and communicate in open relationships compared to traditional monogamous relationships.

Challenges and rewards of triad relationships (00:11:49) The discussion covers the challenges and rewards of maintaining a triad relationship, emphasizing the importance of clear and conscious communication.

Finding a third in a triad relationship (00:13:47) Dr. Rachel and Jennifer discuss the process of finding a third person for a triad relationship and the importance of clear communication and conscious relationships.

Day-to-day life in a triad relationship (00:16:31) The conversation explores the day-to-day dynamics of living in a triad relationship, including scheduling, communication, and managing household responsibilities.

Nourishing individual and triad relationships (00:19:14) Dr. Rachel Meyer discusses the importance of prioritizing individual and triad relationships through scheduled date nights and nurturing intimacy.

Challenges of threesomes and prioritizing pleasure (00:21:16) Jennifer shares her experiences with threesomes and the challenges of prioritizing pleasure and authentic experiences in a multiple person sexual encounter.

The journey into polyamory (00:22:10) Discussion of the speaker's initial reluctance and eventual comfort in a polyamorous relationship.

Diverse sexual experiences (00:23:06) Exploration of the different dynamics and experiences in one-on-one and group sexual interactions in the triad relationship.

Exploring new sexual activities (00:24:11) Conversation about the triad's exploration of new sexual activities, including role play and using new toys.

Frequency of sexual activity in non-monogamous relationships (00:25:24) Discussion about the potential for increased sexual frequency in non-monogamous relationships compared to monogamous ones.

Intentional intimacy and erotic blueprints (00:27:00) Exploration of how the speaker's approach to intimacy has become more intentional in the non-monogamous relationship, and the differences in erotic blueprints among the partners.

Understanding individual needs and experiences (00:28:30) Conversation about the importance of understanding individual needs and experiences in a non-monogamous relationship.

Connecting with other non-monogamous individuals (00:29:52) Discussion about the speaker's interactions with other non-monogamous individuals and the nuances of their shared experiences.

Professional coaching in ethical non-monogamy (00:31:53) Information about the speaker's professional coaching services for individuals navigating ethical non-monogamous relationships.

Empowering and inspiring others (00:34:36) Encouragement for listeners to follow the speaker and her partners on social media to learn more about their experiences as a triad.


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Feb 14, 202435:25
EP#128 Taking Breaks in Open Relationships

EP#128 Taking Breaks in Open Relationships

This is a very personal episode for me, as Scott and I are currently taking a break with one of our girlfriends and things on this end are tender.

But I believe in sharing what being in an open relationship in real time is like, and my hope is that my transparency and raw feelings help you in navigating your partnerships, too.

When thinking about taking breaks in open relationships, today I cover:

  1. WHY you might need a break

  2. What breaks look like

  3. Tips for creating a new dynamic that needs less breaks

Why Might You Need a Break (00:00:02) Jennifer discusses reasons for needing a break in open relationships, including feeling overwhelmed and relationship dynamics not working.

Taking a Pause in Relationships (00:01:19) Jennifer shares her personal experience of taking breaks and how it helped in building a solid foundation in her relationship.

Reevaluating Relationship Dynamics (00:02:34) Jennifer explains how breaks can help in reevaluating and changing relationship dynamics when things are not working as expected.

Dealing with Rupture and Repair (00:04:33) Jennifer discusses how breaks can be necessary to deal with ruptures in open relationships and the subsequent repair process.

Reconnecting Between Relationships (00:06:43) Jennifer talks about the importance of taking breaks to reconnect and reset the foundation in relationships between dating other people.

What Breaks Might Look Like (00:08:54) Jennifer provides examples of how breaks can be taken, from a few weeks to a few months, depending on the situation.

Client Example of Breaks (00:11:56) Jennifer shares a client example of taking a break to address issues and renegotiate the relationship dynamic.

Creating Space for a New Dynamic (00:17:24) Jennifer discusses creating space through breaks to establish a new relationship dynamic that aligns with the partners' needs.

Practical Tips for Creating a New Dynamic (00:19:37) Jennifer offers practical tips for creating a new dynamic, including scheduling intentional time, family time, and planning capacity for each partner.

Intentional Intimacy Planning (00:24:10) Jennifer explains how she plans intentional intimacy and time with her primary partner using a calendar.

Scheduled Activities with Primary Partner (00:25:17) Jennifer discusses the activities she schedules with her primary partner on Saturdays, including intimate and fun date nights.

Exploration and Learning in the Bedroom (00:26:26) Jennifer shares ideas for exploration nights with her partner, including hiring a dominatrix and trying new activities.

Time with Multiple Partners (00:30:18) Jennifer explains how she schedules time with her partners, including one-on-one and group activities, to maintain healthy relationships.

Importance of Breaks in Relationships (00:31:18) Jennifer emphasizes the importance of taking breaks in open relationships and provides tips for creating a new dynamic after a break.

Personal Time and Self-Care (00:32:30) Jennifer discusses the importance of personal time for self-care and shares examples of activities that fill her up.

Online Coaching Services (00:34:38) Jennifer promotes her online coaching services, focusing on open relationships, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.


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Feb 11, 202435:56
EP#127 Valentine’s Day, Toys, Sexual Preferences, and More!

EP#127 Valentine’s Day, Toys, Sexual Preferences, and More!

Today on the pod, Sierra Bucher and I are back to talk about our Valentine's Day plans.


We talk adult toys, what we're doing for our partners, and for ourselves.


Intro 00:00


Valentine's Day plans (00:02:06)

Sierra shares her plans for Valentine's Day, focusing on self-love, self-care, and practicing self-pleasure.


Masturbating magic and planning for self-love (00:03:05)

Sierra discusses her approach to planning self-love nights, including outfit selection, trying new toys, and using enhancement products.


Favorite sex toy and preferences (00:04:08)

Sierra talks about her favorite sex toy, the 39, and her preference for pressure-based toys and different ways of using them.


Exploring different sexual positions and experiences (00:07:36)

Jennifer and Sierra discuss their preferences for sexual positions and their experiences with different toys and role-playing scenarios.


Challenges with sexual positions and role-playing (00:09:52)

Jennifer shares challenges with certain sexual positions and Sierra provides suggestions and experiences with role-playing.


The excitement of role-playing and public scenarios (00:13:16)

Sierra and Jennifer share their experiences and excitement with role-playing scenarios, including public settings and creative scenarios.


App-controlled vibrators and sensual play (00:19:09)

Jennifer and Sierra discuss app-controlled vibrators, their capabilities, and preferences for sensual play with or without toys.


Exploring Sex Toys (00:20:29)

Discussion about various sex toys, including finger vibrators, c rings, and the grapefruit technique.


C Rings and Sensation Play (00:22:09)

Detailed explanation of c rings, their benefits for sensation play, and suggestions for using them.


Grapefruit Technique (00:26:21)

Description of the grapefruit technique for oral sex, including tips for preparing and using a grapefruit during foreplay.


Diverse Sexual Dynamics (00:30:13)

Comparison of partners' preferences for sexual activities, including spitting and squirting, and the unique dynamics in different relationships.


Relationship Dynamics (00:33:39)

Discussion on the complexity of relationships within a triad and a quad, including the interactions and dynamics between partners.


Self-Love and Relationships (00:36:24)

Reflection on personal growth in open relationships and the importance of self-love and thriving in life.


Online Coaching (00:38:38)

Promotion of online coaching services in the areas of open relationships, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.


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Feb 07, 202439:33
EP#126: Menopause, Men & Happiness PART II with Alexandra Stockwell, MD

EP#126: Menopause, Men & Happiness PART II with Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Today's episode with Alexandra Stockwell, MD celebrates the menopausal journey, focusing on how to make this life event a gentle shift vs. an uncomfortable, jarring event.


We talk to our men/partners about how to support the person going through menopause.


How to keep your sex life sexy.


This episode is just delicious, as all of my episodes with Dr. Stockwell are.


Check out our previous episodes:

⁠HERE⁠ on Uncompromising Intimacy once you're done with this one!

HERE for EP#125: Part 1 of this conversation


Intro (00:00:00)

The episode focuses on practical strategies for navigating menopause and maintaining a fulfilling sex life.


Challenging societal conditioning and embracing menopause (00:02:00)

Dr. Stockwell challenges societal conditioning and emphasizes the need to embrace the changes in menopause and sexuality.


Practical tactics for navigating menopause (00:03:53)

Practical advice on dealing with physical symptoms, seeking medical support, and the importance of open conversations about menopause.


Support groups and resources for menopause (00:13:07)

Discussion on the availability of menopause coaches, midlife coaches, and the importance of forming or joining support circles.


Embracing growth and evolving through menopause (00:19:04)

Dr. Stockwell discusses the importance of embracing growth and evolving through menopause, rather than resisting the changes.


Seeking support and resources for menopause (00:24:31)

Encouragement to seek hormonal support, challenge traditional mindsets, and access accurate scientific information on menopause.


Connecting with Dr. Stockwell (00:29:32)

Information on how to connect with Dr. Stockwell, including her podcast, book, and where to purchase it.


The book "The Invitation: Vital Conversations about Menopause" (00:29:36)

Dr. Stockwell discusses her book, its readability, and importance in starting conversations about menopause.


Connecting with Dr. Stockwell (00:30:49)

Dr. Stockwell shares her website and encourages interaction with her work and resources.


Recommendation to follow Dr. Stockwell (00:30:55)

The host recommends following Dr. Stockwell for insightful information, refreshing podcasts, and empowering advice.


Empowerment through conversation (00:31:26)

The impact of Dr. Stockwell's work on empowering women to have conversations about menopause and relationships.


This podcast is sponsored by Coaching With Jen:

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RESOURCES:

Podcast from a man about menopause


BOOK: The Invitation: Vital Conversations about Menopause


Book: You Are Not Broken⁠⁠


North American Menopause Society


Dr Kelly Casperson


Dr. Rachel Rubin

Feb 04, 202433:03
EP#125: Menopause, Men, & Happiness with Alexandra Stockwell, MD

EP#125: Menopause, Men, & Happiness with Alexandra Stockwell, MD

Today's episode with Alexandra Stockwell, MD celebrates the menopausal journey, focusing on how to make this life event a gentle shift vs. an uncomfortable, jarring event.


We talk to our men/partners about how to support the person going through menopause.


How to keep your sex life sexy.


This episode is just delicious, as all of my episodes with Dr. Stockwell are.


Check out our previous episode HERE on Uncompromising Intimacy once you're done with this one!


PART II coming this Sunday on episode 126.


Intro (00:00)


The Missing Archetype of Menopausal Women (00:06:38)

Dr. Stockwell and Jennifer discuss the missing archetype of the perimenopausal and menopausal woman and the lack of celebration for this phase of life.


Supporting Menopausal Women (00:15:52)

Jennifer shares a listener's question about supporting women through menopause, and Dr. Stockwell provides insights on how men can be supportive and understanding during this phase.


Evolving Sex Life During Menopause (00:27:00)

Dr. Stockwell emphasizes the need for an evolution of the sex life during menopause and the importance of mutual understanding and cooperation in this phase.


Men's Shame and Embarrassment (00:27:10)

Discussion on men's shame and embarrassment related to erectile dysfunction and the challenges they face.


Importance of Communication (00:28:08)

The necessity of deep conscious communication in sex lives and the need to have these conversations before menopause.


Varied Experiences of Menopause (00:29:36)

Different experiences of menopause for women and the impact on their relationships, including supportive and challenging scenarios.


Mindset and Sexuality (00:32:22)

The significance of having a growth mindset and societal conditioning in shaping perceptions of menopausal sex and women's sexuality.


Upcoming Episode and Coaching Topics (00:33:47)

Announcement of the second part of the podcast episode and the coaching topics offered by Jennifer Callow.


This podcast is sponsored by Coaching With Jen:

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RESOURCES:

Podcast from a man about menopause


BOOK: The Invitation: Vital Conversations about Menopause


Book: You Are Not Broken


North American Menopause Society


Dr Kelly Casperson


Dr. Rachel Rubin

Jan 31, 202435:29
EP#124: Lesbian Sex: What It’s Like

EP#124: Lesbian Sex: What It’s Like

Bisexuality, bi-curiosity, and bi-situational experiences are increasingly prevalent in the open relationship community.
Reflecting on my own life, I've felt an attraction to women since I was young, but it was within the openness of my marriage that I truly began to explore this part of my identity.
My adventure into bisexuality began with a simple swipe on Tinder, leading to a connection with a woman that would change my perspective on intimacy.

The anticipation before our first encounter was palpable, a mix of nerves and excitement. I want to share with you the raw and honest feelings of that first experience, the sensory journey that was so different from being with a man.

Here's my story.

00:00 Exploring Bisexuality and Open Relationships

01:25 Jennifer's Personal Journey

02:58 First Experience with a Woman

07:46 Preparing for Intimacy

09:53 Physical Sensations and Differences

11:25 Exploring Pleasure and Communication

14:43 Variety and Sensuality in Girl-on-Girl Sex

17:13 Reading and Responding to Body Language

22:17 Extended Pleasure and Orgasmic Experiences

24:41 Creating Space for Exploration

This podcast is sponsored by Coaching with Jen

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Jan 28, 202428:03
EP#123: We only Date Unicorns with Throuple Talk Podcast PART 2

EP#123: We only Date Unicorns with Throuple Talk Podcast PART 2

THIS IS PART 2 (go back to EP#122 if you haven't already listened to it).


Liv, Josh and Char are a throuple that all live together in partnership with their kids in Texas.


What I find so fun about this trio is their relatablity. They're just like you and me.


Business folks, parents, people you'd see in the grocery store.


And their mission in the world is to educate what being in a throuple is like, legalize relationships of "more than two", and bring community to those of us in open relationships.


Scott and I are also in a throuple, and today we discuss why we only date unicorns.


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00:00 Intro


03:40 Affects of the Pandemic

The impact of the pandemic on people's self-reflection and the surge of people coming out as polyamorous.


07:24 Dating Unicorns

Reasons and dynamics for preferring to date unicorns in a throuple relationship.


09:00 Threesomes and Relationship Dynamics

Discussion about the dynamics of threesomes and the importance of connection and bisexuality in relationships.


16:25 Changing Relationship Dynamics

The evolving nature of relationship dynamics and the permission to change one's dynamic at any time.


18:50 Support within the Throuple

How the throuple supports each other emotionally and practically, including the different strengths and support styles of each member.


21:56 Support at Home

The throuple's support for each other in business and personal matters.

Jan 24, 202428:45
EP#122: We only Date Unicorns with Throuple Talk Podcast

EP#122: We only Date Unicorns with Throuple Talk Podcast

Liv, Josh and Char are a throuple that all live together in partnership with their kids in Texas.


What I find so fun about this trio is their relatablity. They're just like you and me.


Business folks, parents, people you'd see in the grocery store.


And their mission in the world is to educate what being in a throuple is like, legalize relationships of "more than two", and bring community to those of us in open relationships.


Scott and I are also in a throuple, and today we discuss why we only date unicorns.


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Jan 21, 202438:35
EP#121: My Night in a Dungeon with a Dominatrix

EP#121: My Night in a Dungeon with a Dominatrix

Today I'm telling you my story of my night in the dungeon with a Dominatrix.

Have you ever been in a dungeon? Are you curious about having an experience like this? Have a story to share too?

You can message me at
hello@jenniferkayloruscin.com to share your story, and I'll read it on an upcoming podcast.

00:00 My Night in a Dungeon with a Dominatrix

03:03 The Couple That Led to My Dungeon Experience

05:05 Learning In The Dungeon

5:45 Negotiating With My Dominatrix

6:15 The Dungeon

7:20 Picking My BDSM Toys

9:07 Getting Double Flogged

10:48 Orgasmic Pleasure

12:12 Aftercare

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Jan 17, 202413:48
EP120: When They Want YOU, But Not Your Partner

EP120: When They Want YOU, But Not Your Partner

This is part 2 of my conversation with Scott, where we explore how we as a couple deal with someone wanting one of us, and not the other.


Be sure and go back to EP#119 and listen to the first part of this conversation.


00:00 (Introduction to the podcast) Scott and Jennifer introduce the podcast and discuss the topic of the episode.

01:05 (Emotional Position and Jealousy) Scott expresses discomfort with Jennifer having sex with another man, acknowledging jealousy and emotional constructs in relationships.

02:55 (Scott's Motivations for Pursuing Others) Scott discusses his enjoyment of being desired by others and the importance of mutual attraction and excitement in shared relationships.

05:27 (Navigating Jealousy) Scott decides not to pursue a separate relationship due to Jennifer's jealousy, prioritizing their relationship and avoiding strain.

09:17 (Desire and Connection with Third Partners) Jennifer emphasizes the importance of genuine desire and connection with bisexual partners, expressing the need for mutual attraction.

11:23 (Shifting Dynamics and Preferences) Jennifer and Scott discuss their evolving preferences in seeking connections with bisexual partners and the enjoyment of mutual involvement.

12:49 (Consideration and Respect in the Relationship) Jennifer expresses gratitude for Scott's consideration and respect in their relationship, emphasizing mutual understanding and appreciation.

15:02 (Impact of Open Relationships on the Couple) Jennifer discusses the impact of open relationships on their connection, emphasizing deeper conversations and increased alignment.

17:07 (Jennifer's Online Coaching) Jennifer introduces her online coaching services, focusing on open relationships, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.

18:15 (Differentiating Their Approach) Scott clarifies their intent to build ongoing connections with partners, distinguishing their approach from casual encounters.

20:24 (Dealing with Couples Privilege) Jennifer and Scott discuss couples privilege, emphasizing the importance of respect and consideration for third partners.

24:04 (Consideration for Third Partners' Lives) Jennifer highlights the consideration and understanding of the lives and obligations of their third partners, beyond interactions with the couple.

25:10 Respecting Boundaries  The speaker discusses the importance of not sacrificing existing relationships for personal gratification.

26:29 Navigating Misunderstandings The speaker shares a scenario where a misunderstanding about a couple's relationship dynamics led to a potential conflict.

27:55 Prioritizing Partners The speaker emphasizes the importance of respecting the primary relationship and not causing strain or damage to it.

28:54 Couples Privilege The speaker expresses support for couples prioritizing their relationship over open sexual experiences.

29:15 Respecting Others  The conversation concludes with an affirmation of respecting and appreciating others' boundaries and relationships.


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Jan 15, 202430:10
EP119: Scott Spills Why We Only Date Women

EP119: Scott Spills Why We Only Date Women

Today I'm joined by my partner Scott, as he spill all about why we only date women.


Be sure and listen to EP#120 for part 2 of this conversation!


0:00 Intro

00:03 Why do you do it?

Discussion on the excitement of being desired by others and the impact of mutual excitement on attraction.


02:27 Scott's perspective on their dynamic

Scott explains their approach to dating and the challenges of dating as a couple or separately.


04:41 Challenges of dating as a couple

Discussion on the complexities and challenges of dating as a couple, including experiences with other couples.


11:12 Coaching With Jen topics (Podcast Sponsor)

Jennifer discusses the topics covered in her online coaching, including open relationships, online dating, and conscious uncoupling.


12:34 Exploring their feelings and understanding each other

Scott emphasizes the importance of communication and understanding in shaping their dynamic.


14:38 Reasons for being open

Scott shares his perspective on why they became open, including Jennifer's previous experiences and their exclusive decision.


18:23 Navigating their relationship and exploring sexuality

Jennifer and Scott discuss the challenges and intentions behind their open relationship, including exploring sexuality together.


20:45 The blacklight glow party and creating a sacred relationship

Discussion about wanting to experience different environments and the sincerity in wanting to experience them together.


21:59 Feeling infantilized and hurt

The feeling of being infantilized and hurt in the relationship and the subsequent conversation about it.


23:54 Transitioning to an exclusive relationship

The realization of being exclusive, leaving previous relationships, and the transition into an exclusive relationship.


25:01 Confrontation about dating others

A confrontation about dating others and the realization of boundaries and expectations in the relationship.


25:57 Asserting will and creating guardrails

Discussion about asserting will, embracing each other's wills, and creating guardrails in the relationship.


27:24 Why not men? Creating guardrails in the relationship

Exploring the reasons for only dating women and the creation and maintenance of guardrails in the relationship.


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Jan 10, 202428:27
EP#118: The Affect Birth Control Has on Women's Brain PART 2 with Dr. Sarah E. Hill PhD

EP#118: The Affect Birth Control Has on Women's Brain PART 2 with Dr. Sarah E. Hill PhD

Meet Dr. Sarah Hill, a psychologist, professor, and author specializing in women's health and sexual psychology.


Today we discuss cougars, dating, and the affect birth control has on women’s brains.


This is PART 2 of a 2 part series. You can find PART 1 (Episode 116) here .


0:00 Intro

01:04 Age Gap Relationships Dr. Sarah Hill's work as a consultant for Cougar Life, an app for age gap relationships.

01:28 Sexual Double Standards The double standards in society regarding men and women's sexual behavior and the labels associated with age gap dating.

06:34 Beauty Transcending Age Beauty and attractiveness transcending age is discussed, challenging the idea that youth equals beauty and emphasizing the empowerment of women in recognizing their own sexiness.

09:40 The fear of becoming irrelevant Societal script that tells women they become irrelevant and invisible as they age and how this narrative needs to be rewritten.

10:31 Realizing self-worth and desirability Women often underestimate their own desirability and how there are plenty of people who would find them attractive and interesting.

13:42 Challenging beauty standards and body acceptance The importance of accepting and appreciating one's own body, challenging societal beauty standards, and finding attraction in different body types.

19:41 The hormonal effects of birth control Affects of hormonal birth control on women's preferences for masculine or feminine partners.

20:50 Hormonal changes and sexual orientation The possibility of hormonal changes affecting women's sexual orientation, particularly in relation to being bisexual or exclusively lesbian.

24:53 Scent and partner choice The role of scent in partner choice, with Dr. Hill explaining that women are more sensitive to scent and how it may influence attraction and genetic compatibility.

36:47 The hormonal IUD and its effects The affects of the hormonal IUD on a woman's body, including the shutting down of the brain-ovary communication pathway and the blunting of hormonal responses.

The impact of going off birth control on attraction Dr. Hill discusses the research findings regarding how going off birth control can affect a woman's attraction to her partner, including increased attraction and sexual desire in some cases.

34:09 The benefits and changes of using an IUD Jen shares her personal experience with using an IUD, including changes in smell, mood swings, and the recommendation from her OB to continue using it until menopause for its potential benefits in preventing uterine cancer.

39:43 The IUD and its effects on women's hormones The effects of the IUD on women's hormones, including the potential side effects experienced by women who are not ovulating.

40:37 Possible explanations for changes in hormonal experiences Possible explanations for the changes in hormonal experiences, including the hormonal transition of perimenopause and the effects of ovulation while using the iud.

46:28 Women's sexuality and fluidity Women's sexuality and the fluidity of sexual attraction, highlighting research that shows women's sexual arousal can be influenced by various types of pornography, regardless of their sexual preferences.

50:04 The benefits of solidifying relationships with sex Women use sex as a tool to build relationships and feel closer to a partner.

51:06 The role of procreation in sexual attraction Sexual attraction is programmed differently in men and women, with women being more flexible.

51:38 Using personalized porn to enhance sexual chemistry Jen creates personalized porn with her partners and how it has intensified our sexual chemistry.


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Jan 07, 202432:58
EP#117: Reclaiming Sex: What it Feels Like
Jan 05, 202417:21
EP#116: The Affect Birth Control Has on Women’s Brains: PART 1 with Dr. Sarah E. Hill PhD

EP#116: The Affect Birth Control Has on Women’s Brains: PART 1 with Dr. Sarah E. Hill PhD

PART 2 IS NOW LIVE:

https://spotifyanchor-web.app.link/e/MhmJJlMxaGb


Meet Dr. Sarah Hill, a psychologist, professor, and author specializing in women's health and sexual psychology.


Today we discuss cougars, dating, and the affect birth control has on women’s brains.


This is PART 1 of a 2 part series. Next week you can find PART 2 here on the podcast.


0:00 Intro

01:04 Age Gap Relationships Dr. Sarah Hill's work as a consultant for Cougar Life, an app for age gap relationships.

01:28 Sexual Double Standards The double standards in society regarding men and women's sexual behavior and the labels associated with age gap dating.

06:34 Beauty Transcending Age Beauty and attractiveness transcending age is discussed, challenging the idea that youth equals beauty and emphasizing the empowerment of women in recognizing their own sexiness.

09:40 The fear of becoming irrelevant Societal script that tells women they become irrelevant and invisible as they age and how this narrative needs to be rewritten.

10:31 Realizing self-worth and desirability Women often underestimate their own desirability and how there are plenty of people who would find them attractive and interesting.

13:42 Challenging beauty standards and body acceptance The importance of accepting and appreciating one's own body, challenging societal beauty standards, and finding attraction in different body types.

19:41 The hormonal effects of birth control Affects of hormonal birth control on women's preferences for masculine or feminine partners.

20:50 Hormonal changes and sexual orientation The possibility of hormonal changes affecting women's sexual orientation, particularly in relation to being bisexual or exclusively lesbian.

24:53 Scent and partner choice The role of scent in partner choice, with Dr. Hill explaining that women are more sensitive to scent and how it may influence attraction and genetic compatibility.

36:47 The hormonal IUD and its effects The affects of the hormonal IUD on a woman's body, including the shutting down of the brain-ovary communication pathway and the blunting of hormonal responses.

The impact of going off birth control on attraction Dr. Hill discusses the research findings regarding how going off birth control can affect a woman's attraction to her partner, including increased attraction and sexual desire in some cases.

34:09 The benefits and changes of using an IUD Jen shares her personal experience with using an IUD, including changes in smell, mood swings, and the recommendation from her OB to continue using it until menopause for its potential benefits in preventing uterine cancer.

39:43 The IUD and its effects on women's hormones The effects of the IUD on women's hormones, including the potential side effects experienced by women who are not ovulating.

40:37 Possible explanations for changes in hormonal experiences Possible explanations for the changes in hormonal experiences, including the hormonal transition of perimenopause and the effects of ovulation while using the iud.

46:28 Women's sexuality and fluidity Women's sexuality and the fluidity of sexual attraction, highlighting research that shows women's sexual arousal can be influenced by various types of pornography, regardless of their sexual preferences.

50:04 The benefits of solidifying relationships with sex Women use sex as a tool to build relationships and feel closer to a partner.

51:06 The role of procreation in sexual attraction Sexual attraction is programmed differently in men and women, with women being more flexible.

51:38 Using personalized porn to enhance sexual chemistry Jen creates personalized porn with her partners and how it has intensified our sexual chemistry.


Follow Dr. Sarah Hill:

Visit Me Online: http://www.sarahehill.com

Book (Out Now): This is your brain on birth control.

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Dec 31, 202333:44
EP#115: 2023 Year End Review

EP#115: 2023 Year End Review

As we wrap up another year, I want to take a moment to reflect on our journey together and share some exciting plans for the future.

Firstly, I want to express my deepest gratitude to all of you, our listeners. Your support has been instrumental in the growth of this podcast. This year, I've seen an 85% increase in viewers and a whopping 200% increase in followers. I'm thrilled to share that we've made it to the top ten podcasts for over 300 people on Spotify.

A special shoutout to all who left a review for the podcast. Your feedback is invaluable and helps us shape the content we deliver.

This year, we've delved into a variety of topics that have resonated with you. From solo episodes to sex education, BDSM, and anal play, we've covered a lot of ground. I'm glad to see that episodes featuring my partners, Scott and Stephanie, were well-received.

As we look ahead to 2024, I plan to involve Scott and our girlfriends more in our conversations. I'm eager to hear your input on what you'd like to see on the podcast.

The podcast has also helped me establish myself as a sex and relationship coach in the open relationship space. I've thoroughly enjoyed working with clients, helping them navigate the challenges of open relationships. In future episodes, I intend to focus more on coaching and potentially share insights from coaching calls with clients.

Remember, the podcast is also available as a video podcast on Spotify and YouTube. I encourage you to watch and engage with us in this format as well.


Most Listened to Episode:

Ep#97: with Danielle from Openly Committed and I chat about her 13 year open marriage.


Most Shared Episode:

Ep#86 with Charlie McConnell shares how to create Intentional Intimacy with our partners.


My Favorite Scott Episode:

Ep#94: with Jennifer & Scott discuss Men: How to be Amazing at Sex


#1 BDSM Episode:

Ep#83: with Wendy Perkins Shoef and I explore how BDSM can be a helpful tool for individuals with ADHD to redirect their brain, relieve stress, and improve focus. Wendy views pain as a reset that clears her mind from negative thoughts and distractions.


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1. Leave me a voicemail to share on future shows:


2. Send me an email!

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Dec 24, 202326:37
EP#114: Co-Creating a Sex Practice with Daniela Stevens

EP#114: Co-Creating a Sex Practice with Daniela Stevens

Today Sex and Relationship coach Daniela Stevens and I discuss how to co-create a sex practice!

Timestamps:

(00:00) Intro


(00:57) Co-Creating a Sex Practice

Daniela explains what a sex practice is and how it can enhance sexual intimacy and connection in relationships.


(03:20) Shifting from Orgasm as the Goal

Daniela discusses the pressure and expectations around orgasm, and how focusing on pleasure instead can lead to a more fulfilling sexual experience.


(08:03) Exploring Pleasure Beyond Penetration

The conversation shifts to the importance of pleasure and intention in sexual experiences, and the potential for exploring different types of orgasms and sensations.


(11:08) The intention of moving towards sexual intimacy

Discussion about creating dedicated time for sexual intimacy, addressing obstacles, and building connection.


(15:18) Creating a naked pleasure practice

Exploration of redefining sex as a naked pleasure practice, removing pressure and focusing on sensitizing oneself and the partner.


(19:49) Co-creating something beautiful with our partners

Conversation about finding ways to co-create intimacy and pleasure with partners, even if it's not penetrative, and the importance of open communication and connection.


(20:53) The sex practice and creating opportunity

This topic discusses the importance of having a sex practice and creating opportunities for sexual intimacy in a relationship.


(22:24) Building trust through non-sexual intimacy

Non-sexual intimacy, such as cuddling, can help build trust and support a more sexual intimate relationship in the future.


(23:06) Cultivating energy and opportunity for sex

The importance of acknowledging and cultivating both the energy and opportunity for sex in a committed, long-term relationship is discussed.


(32:16) The commitment to regular check-ins

Discuss the importance of setting a regular time and place for check-ins to move towards sexual intimacy.


(33:58) Creating intentional time for sexual practice

Emphasize the significance of scheduling dedicated time for sexual practice without distractions.


(36:29) Different offerings and programs

Daniela shares information about their offerings, including a free email course, coaching sessions for individuals and couples, and upcoming guided practices for self and partner sex practices.


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Dec 22, 202341:24
EP#113: Moving Through Shame with Dr. Alison Ash

EP#113: Moving Through Shame with Dr. Alison Ash

I'm excited to share some insights from my latest podcast episode with Dr. Alison Ash, an intimacy coach, Stanford lecturer, and the founder of Turn On Love.

In this episode, we delved into the often-avoided topic of shame, particularly around intimacy and personal needs.

Dr. Aly shared her expertise on how to navigate through this complex emotion and cultivate healthier relationships.


Key takeaways:

  1. Recognizing Shame: We discussed how shame is a natural response to societal expectations of self-reliance and independence. Acknowledging its presence is the first step towards healing.

  2. Cultivating Safe Relationships: Dr. Aly emphasized the importance of fostering relationships where you feel safe, accepted, and a sense of belonging. It's within these relationships that we can gradually reveal our needs without fear of judgment.

  3. Releasing Shame through Empathy: We explored how empathy and acceptance from others can help release the shame we carry. However, it's crucial to expose shame gradually to avoid overwhelming ourselves.

  4. Challenging the Myth of Normality: Dr. Aly encouraged us to be authentic and share our true selves, even if it goes against societal norms. This authenticity can lead to a deeper sense of belonging.

  5. Teaching Children about Needs: We touched on the importance of teaching children to identify and communicate their needs from an early age. This approach can promote a healthier understanding and acceptance of needs in society.

  6. The Art of Saying "No": We discussed the challenge of saying "no" when we can't meet someone else's needs. Dr. Ash advocates for delivering the "no" with empathy and understanding.

But that's not all! We have an exciting episode coming up where Dr. Aly and I will be discussing champ pussy giving and receiving. Stay tuned for this enlightening conversation!

In the meantime, you can connect with Dr. Aly through the links provided in the show notes.


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Dec 11, 202324:33
EP#112: FMF Threesome: What It's Like

EP#112: FMF Threesome: What It's Like

This week I'm talking (in graphic detail) about what it's like to have an FMF threesome.

Warning: This is an episode for adults.


The FMF Dynamic: In my open relationship, I've found the FMF dynamic (female-male-female) to be a fascinating exploration of intimacy. It's a dance of energy, attention, and touch, where everyone feels included and cherished.

The Importance of Consent and Communication: Open relationships thrive on clear communication and consent. It's crucial to be mindful of each other's comfort levels and to ensure everyone is on the same page.

The Joy of Sharing: I've discovered that sharing my partner with others is not just exciting, but also a way to explore different angles and experiences that may not be possible in a one-on-one setting.

The Aftercare Experience: After an intimate encounter, the importance of aftercare cannot be overstated. It's a heavenly experience that involves snuggling, cuddling, and discussing future encounters to avoid any confusion or misunderstandings.

Coaching: If you're experiencing any challenges in your open relationship, I'm here to help. My coaching sessions are affordable and designed to help you navigate the complexities of open relationships.


Remember, the goal of open relationships is to bring partners closer together, not drive them apart. With guidance, they can be enjoyable, fulfilling, and sexually satisfying.

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Dec 03, 202326:10
EP#111: Redefining Separation: A Journey of Conscious Uncoupling

EP#111: Redefining Separation: A Journey of Conscious Uncoupling

This is a podcast episode that I recorded recently with Rachel Maine on her podcast Owning Your Sexual Self.


Conscious Uncoupling is a journey of self-discovery, self-preservation, and setting boundaries.


It's about recognizing the expiration date of a relationship and navigating the aftermath in a way that prioritizes your well-being.


It's a reminder that the end of a relationship can be the start of a new chapter, and that love can take many forms.


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Nov 27, 202334:01
EP#110: Jen Turns 40!

EP#110: Jen Turns 40!

This week I get you all to myself... YUM!


I'm getting raw about my most profound lessons, ideas, and curiosities that have shaped my journey as I turn 40. I hope these nuggets of wisdom will spark your curiosity and inspire you to join me on my podcast.


  1. The Power of Self-Discovery: My 20s were a whirlwind of self-discovery, from figuring out who I was to navigating marriage, motherhood, and a career. But it was the courage to leave an unfulfilling marriage that truly marked my journey towards self-realization.

  2. Embracing Entrepreneurship: My 30s were transformative. I ventured into entrepreneurship, starting my own business, Growth Spurt Sales and Marketing. I made over $3 million dollars. My ultimate goal? To empower mothers to leave their cubicles, work from home, and enjoy the freedom to spend quality time with their children.

  3. The Joy of Flexibility: My business has allowed me to work from various locations around the world, from Hawaii to Ireland. The joy of not having to wake up to an alarm clock is priceless. And yes, I do schedule massages on Monday mornings to celebrate my achievements!

  4. The Importance of Self-Care: As an entrepreneur, I've learned that self-care is not a luxury, but a necessity. It's during these moments of relaxation that I generate my best business ideas.

  5. Navigating Relationships: My journey through my 30s also involved navigating the complexities of relationships. From realizing the need for sexual exploration in my marriage to embracing the fluidity of relationships, it's been a rollercoaster ride.

  6. The Value of Authenticity: As I step into my 40s, I've learned the importance of being true to oneself. By simply being myself, I attract clients who want to work with me and individuals who want to be my friend.

  7. Embracing Change: As I look towards the future, I'm ready to embrace the changes that come with my children growing up and the challenges of becoming an empty nester.

I hope these insights have piqued your interest. If you'd like to hear more about my journey and the lessons I've learned along the way, I invite you to tune into the Open Bedroom podcast. Don't forget to subscribe, write a review, and share it with your friends. Your support is greatly appreciated!


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Nov 19, 202336:32
EP#109: Adults-Only Resorts: A Candid Chat with Justin Skaggs

EP#109: Adults-Only Resorts: A Candid Chat with Justin Skaggs

Ever wondered what it’s like at an adults-only resort?

I’m talking with Justin Skaggs, the leader of my Ethical Non-Monogamy group, On The Border, and he’s spilling the beans.


  1. A Peek into Hedonism Resort: Justin shared his recent experience at Hedonism resort during "bi week". This isn't your typical resort getaway. It's a place where people from all walks of life, including bisexual, transgender, gay, lesbian, and straight individuals, come together to engage in a variety of activities, from motor bunny testing to BDSM classes.

  2. Nudity, Consent, and Comfort: Contrary to popular belief, adults-only resorts aren't just about nudity. Yes, there are areas where nudity is allowed, but there are also 'prude' sections where clothing is required. The key takeaway? Consent is crucial and everyone can choose their comfort level.

  3. A Home Away from Home: Many guests refer to the resort as "home" because it provides a sense of acceptance and allows them to be their authentic selves. It's a place where deep connections and friendships are formed, and where physical appearances take a backseat to meaningful conversations.

  4. The Significance of 'Bi Week': Justin emphasized that "bi week" was even more accepting and inclusive than regular weeks at the resort. It provided a safe and celebratory environment for bisexual men, a group that often lacks spaces to be themselves.

  5. Creating Safe Spaces: We discussed the importance of creating safe and accepting spaces for bisexual men and the challenges they face in being open about their sexuality. We also touched on the role women can play in encouraging acceptance of bisexual men.

  6. Upcoming Events: If you're intrigued by our conversation, you might want to check out the upcoming Miss No Swimsuit competition at Hedonism resort. More details can be found on Tom's Trips.

I want to thank Justin for his openness and for sharing his experiences. If you're curious to learn more, I encourage you to listen to the full podcast episode.

Until next time, stay curious and keep exploring

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Nov 12, 202337:03
EP#108: What is Swinging?
Nov 05, 202315:17
EP#107: Postpartum Intimacy: How to Reconnect with Coach Brianna Carey

EP#107: Postpartum Intimacy: How to Reconnect with Coach Brianna Carey

I'm thrilled to share with you the latest episode of our podcast, where we dive deep into a topic that's often left unspoken - postpartum intimacy and relationship dynamics. Our guest, Brianna Carey, owner of Intimacy Evolution, shares her personal journey and professional insights on this matter.


The Postpartum Intimacy Challenge: After childbirth, many women struggle to reconnect with their bodies and sexuality. Brianna story is a testament to this, as she experienced physical pain and emotional guilt when trying to resume her intimate life.


The Healing Journey: Brianna discovered she had scar tissue and vaginismus, leading to her pain. She embarked on a healing journey, using pelvic floor therapy and vibration therapy to reprogram her body to associate pleasure instead of pain.


The Power of Patience: Brianna emphasizes the importance of taking things slow, removing pressure, and focusing on pleasure rather than penetrative sex. She also highlights the impact of breastfeeding on arousal and lubrication, suggesting scheduling intimate moments and gradually building up desire.


The Role of Pelvic Floor Therapy: Pelvic floor therapists specialize in addressing issues related to the pelvic floor, such as painful sex or complications after surgeries. Brianna dispels the misconception that incontinence is always caused by weak pelvic floor muscles, noting that tightness can also be a factor.


Support for Postpartum Dads: The first year after childbirth is often the toughest on a relationship. Brianna and her partner, Mark, aim to help couples repair their relationship quickly by creating a strong foundation of communication. They emphasize the importance of offering support and community for both men and women.


I hope these insights spark your curiosity and encourage you to listen to the full episode. Brianna's story is a testament to the power of resilience, self-discovery, and open communication.


Remember, it's okay to take your time, to seek help, and to communicate openly with your partner. You're not alone in this journey.


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Oct 30, 202340:16
EP#106: What is Polyamory?

EP#106: What is Polyamory?

This week is a solo episode, where I discuss “What is Polyamory?”.

Polyamory Defined: Polyamory as a heart-centered approach to relationships, where the focus is on building deep, meaningful connections with multiple partners. It's not just about sex; it's about love, connection, and emotional intimacy.

Polyamory vs. Swinging: I explore the difference between polyamory and swinging. While the former prioritizes emotional and intellectual connections, the latter is more about transactional sex with less emphasis on personal connections.

Types of Polyamory: There are various forms of polyamory, including poly fidelity, solo poly, hierarchical polyamory, non-hierarchical polyamory, throuples, and kitchen table polyamory. Each type offers a unique dynamic, catering to different needs and preferences.

Parallel Polyamory: I introduce the concept of parallel polyamory, where multiple relationships operate independently, allowing for distinct relationships to coexist without merging.

My Personal Journey: I share my personal journey with polyamory. My partner, Scott, and I are in a hierarchical throuple and practice kitchen table polyamory. My story is a testament to the fact that polyamory can be a fulfilling and enriching lifestyle when navigated with respect, honesty, and open communication.

Free Guides: I offer two free guides - one on how to open up a relationship and another on the different types of polyamory. These resources are invaluable for anyone considering an open relationship.

The world of polyamory is as diverse as it is beautiful. It's all about understanding what kind of open relationship you want and having open, honest conversations with your partners.

Explore the world of polyamory with an open mind. You never know, you might discover something new about yourself and your relationships.


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Oct 23, 202319:04
EP#105: TikTok’s The Bratty Cat Shares His Story on Polyamory & Kink

EP#105: TikTok’s The Bratty Cat Shares His Story on Polyamory & Kink

I had the pleasure of hosting Kevin, also known as The Bratty Cat on TikTok. Kevin is not just an amazing human and one of my favorite TikTokers, but also a member of the kink community, non-monogamous, has 4 partners, and 4 cats.

We covered so many subjects, I’m going to add them below along with clickable timestamps:

The journey in the kink and polyamorous communities [00:01:16] Kevin discusses his experiences in the kink and polyamorous communities, including his transition from swinging to polyamory and his interest in BDSM.

The concept of a masochistic bratty submissive [00:04:35] Kevin explains the three components of being a masochistic bratty submissive: masochism, brattiness, and submission.

Understanding the dynamics of being a brat and a brat tamer [00:06:27] Kevin delves into the unique relationship between a brat and a brat tamer, discussing how brats challenge authority and how brat tamers handle and guide them.

Negotiating Boundaries and Consent [00:09:10] Discussion about negotiating boundaries and consent in the kink community, including the inevitability of crossing lines and the need for communication and resolution.

Types of Punishments in BDSM [00:10:11] Explanation of the two types of punishments in BDSM, including punishment for wrongdoing and punishment as a means to control bratty behavior.

Managing Multiple Partners in Polyamory [00:12:34] Insight into the speaker's experience of managing multiple partners, including the unique circumstances of each relationship and the challenges of balancing time and communication.

Reluctance to Ask for Sex [00:17:40] Kevin discusses his struggle with asking for sex and the fear of coming off as sexually aggressive.

Difficulty Vocalizing Desires [00:19:27] Kevin talks about the challenge of vocalizing his desires as a submissive and the importance of explicit communication.

Repression and Inability to Communicate Desires [00:22:04] The host shares her observations of women's repression and inability to vocalize desires during sexual encounters, emphasizing the need for empowerment and communication.

Hierarchy: Definition and Misconceptions [00:27:04] Kevin explains his definition of hierarchy and why he believes everyone should work towards being non-hierarchical.

Descriptive Hierarchy vs. Actual Hierarchy [00:27:44] Kevin clarifies the difference between descriptive hierarchy (shared finances, living arrangements, etc.) and actual hierarchy (power dynamics and decision-making).

Non-Hierarchical Relationships and Embracing Change [00:29:43] Kevin discusses non-hierarchical relationships, where feelings and emotions are allowed to shift and change, and opens up about the possibility of drifting apart from his long-term partner.

The journey of finding new partners [00:36:24] The host discusses how letting go of a previous partner led to finding a new partner and the positive experiences that came with it.

Polyamory and multiple partners [00:37:58] The guest explains the concept of polyamory and talks about his partner's other partners, including a nearby partner and a long-distance partner.

Jealousy and the fluidity of relationships [00:39:15] The guest discusses his experience with jealousy in relationships and emphasizes the importance of recognizing that love doesn't last forever and that partners are autonomous.

STI Testing Best Practices [00:46:35] The guest discusses general best practices for STI testing, including how often to get tested and what factors to consider.


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Oct 16, 202355:05
EP#104: Feeling Grounded in Partnership with Jake Voss

EP#104: Feeling Grounded in Partnership with Jake Voss

Today, I'm excited to welcome back Jake Voss , a returning guest from EP#76: Men: Decoding the Dating Mystery with Jake Voss is a divorced father of two, working in the education space, and a men's fashion consultant.

Since we last spoke, he's found his life partner Liza, and since we recorded this podcast they've now married!

Feeling Grounded in Partnership [00:02:19]
Jennifer and Jake discuss their personal experiences and offer advice on feeling grounded in a partnership.

Rediscovering Myself [00:05:45]
Jake talks about how he rediscovered himself and reconnected with his partner, leading to a grounded and fulfilling relationship.

Taking the First Step [00:09:08]
Jake emphasizes the importance of self-reflection and readiness before taking the first step towards finding a life partner.

Reflecting on your readiness for a committed relationship [00:10:31]
Discussing the importance of being accountable and ready for a committed relationship before expecting the same from a potential partner.

Being who you want to attract [00:11:42]
Emphasizing the need to be honest about what you want and to align your actions with the type of partnership you desire.

Reflecting on the type of people you attract [00:12:48]
Examining patterns in the kind of partners one attracts and reflecting on the reasons behind these patterns.

The importance of honest communication [00:20:17]
Early on in a relationship, it is important to communicate your desires and the direction you are heading. Keep checking in and be mindful that as you get to know each other, what you say about yourself may change.

Keeping people around and being open-minded [00:21:56]
Instead of quickly moving on from potential partners, be open to the possibility that the person who can be an amazing life partner may not fit the "perfect" physical attributes. Learn to dig in and give people a chance.

Teachability and growth in relationships [00:27:50]
People can learn and grow in relationships. Instead of seeking someone who already fits a specific mold, be open to teaching and learning together. Communicate your desires early and revisit them multiple times.

Sharing desires and kinks [00:30:27]
The importance of openly communicating desires and interests early in a relationship to avoid compromising oneself or the relationship.

Establishing communication practices [00:31:48]
The need to establish safe spaces for open communication and exploration as individuals and as a couple, allowing for growth and evolution in the relationship.

Scheduling fun and exploration [00:33:07]
The significance of scheduling activities and experiences that are new and exciting as a couple to keep the relationship evolving and maintain a sense of curiosity and intimacy.

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Oct 08, 202338:18
EP#103: How to Have 3-Hour, Gourmet Sex With Your Partner
Oct 01, 202340:39
EP#102: Empowered Sexuality with Coach Serena Rose

EP#102: Empowered Sexuality with Coach Serena Rose

Today I have the incredible Serena Rose, a sex and relationship coach on to talk with us about sexual empowerment The Topic of Empowered Sexuality [00:01:38] Introduction to the topic of empowered sexuality and the questions and curiosity surrounding it. Understanding Empowered Sexuality [00:09:14] Exploring the concept of empowered sexuality, its connection to personal growth and self-awareness, and the importance of knowing oneself in order to show up powerfully in relationships. Empowered Sexuality and Traumatic Experiences [00:12:18] Serena discusses how she was taught from a young age that sex is wrong due to traumatic experiences and how it affected her journey towards empowered sexuality. Unlearning Shame and Connecting to the Body [00:13:23] Serena shares her experiences of embracing her sexuality and learning to connect with her body through personal development and exploring kink. Understanding Sexual Needs in Relationships [00:15:36] Jen and Serena discuss the importance of understanding each other's sexual needs in relationships and the lack of knowledge and communication that can arise, even in long-term partnerships. The journey to empowered sexuality [00:25:05] Serena discusses her journey in finding empowerment in her own sexuality and shedding protective layers. Practicing empowered sexuality [00:26:00] Serena shares a practice of being present, curious, and in tune with your body to cultivate the ability to be turned on by life. The evolution of empowered sexuality [00:28:23] Serena reflects on how her empowered sexuality has changed throughout her divorce and subsequent relationships, and the importance of emotional availability and safety. Choosing to be Yourself [00:39:04] Serena discusses the importance of being comfortable and confident in your own center, even when triggering others, and honoring their feelings without muting or changing who you are. Showing Up as Your True Self [00:40:12] Serena emphasizes the need to consistently show up as your authentic self, even if others may not understand or relate to the changes you've made, using her own experience of switching careers as an example. Empowerment through Consistency [00:41:29] Serena shares a personal story of how consistently saying no to smoking cannabis empowered her to make choices aligned with her spiritual journey, despite initial confusion and judgment from friends. - Connect with Serena: https://www.instagram.com/spiritualsexcoach/ - Connect with Jen: https://www.instagram.com/theopenbedroompodcast/ - This podcast is sponsored by my Patreon. 7 day free trial: https://www.patreon.com/JenniferKayloRuscinPodcast *** This episode is sponsored by my "After Dark" Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/JenniferKayloRuscinPodcast Please subscribe to the podcast! Spotify: https://open.spotify.com/show/1EmsUcd7s9n4HNNR0LDyG5?si=7f3a8f95e08142ea iTunes: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/the-open-bedroom-podcast/id1523922106 Leave me a voice message!: https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theopenbedroompodcast/message YouTube: https://www.youtube.com/ @theopenbedroompodcast Jen's Links: https://linktr.ee/jenniferkayloruscin

Sep 25, 202347:18
EP#101: How to Make it Safe for Men to Have Vulnerable Conversations with Shana James

EP#101: How to Make it Safe for Men to Have Vulnerable Conversations with Shana James

Shana James is a coach, author, and podcaster who has been working with men for the past 20 years. 

Shana shares her experiences and insights on creating safe spaces for men to have vulnerable conversations, feel their feelings, and work through their problems. 

She discusses her shift in perspective on men and emphasizes the importance of looking “underneath the surface” and assuming the best in men. 

Want more from your man? Shana also provides practical advice on how women can create safe spaces for men to open up and explores the importance of open communication in relationships

The underbelly of men [00:00:52]

Shana shares her experiences of working with men and seeing their vulnerability and desire for connection.

Seeing men differently [00:01:58]

Shana discusses why she sees men differently and how her perspective allows her to have positive experiences with men.

Experiencing vulnerability in men [00:04:47]

Shana talks about an exercise where men express their emotions and she witnesses their deep longing for love and connection.

The importance of holding space for men [00:09:00]

Women often aren't taught how to hold space for men, and men are taught not to express. Creating safe spaces for vulnerable conversations.

Building safety and intimacy in relationships [00:10:59]

When women feel empowered and don't need a man to be a certain way for them to feel good about themselves, relationships become stronger and more loving.

Advice on holding space for men [00:12:09]

A practice for women to hold space for their partners by asking open-ended questions and creating a safe environment for vulnerability and emotional expression.

The importance of vulnerable conversations [00:19:06]

Discussion on the significance of having open and honest conversations about desires and fears in a relationship.

Creating a safe space for communication [00:20:00]

Exploration of the need for non-judgmental and compassionate communication to foster a safe environment for sharing.

Venting and making requests [00:21:22]

Advice on the importance of conscious venting and transitioning into making requests to empower oneself and improve the relationship dynamic.

The importance of conscious connection in relationships [00:29:30]

Discussion on how most people struggle with vulnerability and checking in with their partner's needs.

The power of presence in a relationship [00:30:14]

Sharing a personal experience of feeling more connected and present with a partner during a dinner date.

Encouraging appreciation and support in relationships [00:31:27]

Exploring how expressing gratitude and appreciation can encourage more positive behavior in a partner.

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Sep 17, 202334:54
Ep#100: Celebration + Moving to a New Country for Personal Growth and Self-Discovery with Tony & Cristina

Ep#100: Celebration + Moving to a New Country for Personal Growth and Self-Discovery with Tony & Cristina

I'm thrilled to share with you the 100th episode of our podcast!

It's been an incredible journey, and I couldn't have done it without your support. To celebrate this milestone, I invited back two of our favorite guests & my friends, Tony and Cristina, for a deep dive into their lives beyond the usual topics.


Here's a sneak peek into what we discussed:


Previous Tony & Cristina Episodes of The Open Bedroom:

Episode 42: Open Relationships 101: Discussion about the basics of open relationships and terminology.

Episode 48: Open Relationships Part Two: Exploration of how to ask for an open relationship and the next steps if the partner says yes or no.

Episode 56: Sexcapades: Sharing of favorite sex stories, including both enjoyable and awkward experiences in the lifestyle.

Growing the non-monogamous tribe [00:12:57] Discussion on the challenges of finding like-minded people in a small town and the potential for building a community through education and events.

Building a community through vacations [00:13:31] Exploring the idea of planning vacations to connect with other non-monogamous individuals and couples in different locations.

Exploring tantra, plant medicine, and holding space for couples [00:15:19] Tony and Christina discuss their journey of exploring tantra, sacred sexuality, plant medicine, and holding therapeutic space for couples using MDMA in Mexico.

The challenges of open relationships in Mexico [00:25:00] Discussion on the barriers and challenges faced by adults in open relationships and the importance of reintroducing play and fun into relationships.

Creating a ceremonial space for MDMA therapy [00:25:50] Explanation of the process of creating a ceremonial setting for MDMA therapy, including sage, incense, and setting intentions.

Moving to a new country and culture [00:36:09] Tony discusses how moving out of his hometown was a catalyst for stepping into his power and shedding old versions of himself.

Feeling at home in Mexico [00:41:06] Christina talks about how going back to Mexico allowed her to connect with her roots and feel a sense of ease and belonging.

Building a home in Toto Santos [00:42:28] Tony and Christina share their plans to buy land and build a forever home in Toto Santos, while also traveling and growing their businesses and community.

Finding mentors and asking questions [00:46:30] Discussion on finding mentors and seeking advice from people who are already doing what you want to do in life.

Stepping into purpose and power [00:48:27] Exploring the broader aspects of life beyond open relationships, including being a nomad, moving to Mexico, and discovering personal purpose and power.

Sharing more of our story [00:49:19] The importance of sharing more about themselves beyond being open relationship coaches and their plans to build a sex-positive and BDSM community.


This episode is a celebration of not just the podcast, but also the journey of personal growth, exploration, and embracing one's true self. I hope you find it as enlightening and inspiring as I did.


Thank you for being a part of this journey. Here's to the next 100 episodes.


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Sep 10, 202345:58
EP#99: Breaking the Rules: A Candid Conversation on Dating, Relationships, and Openness with Cashelle Kali

EP#99: Breaking the Rules: A Candid Conversation on Dating, Relationships, and Openness with Cashelle Kali

Today we have Cashelle Kali, a guest who is in an open relationship and known for breaking rules in various aspects of her life. 

She discusses the outdated thinking around dating and relationships, and Cashelle shares her perspective on the subject. 

She talks about her unconventional lifestyle, her belief in individual sovereignty, and her experiences with dating multiple people.

We also touch on topics such as sleeping in separate bedrooms, the healing benefits of cuddle tribes, and navigating relationships as a mother.

Cashelle emphasizes the importance of open and honest communication in all types of relationships. 

The episode concludes with Cashelle offering advice on communicating needs and desires without blame, and Jen expressing gratitude for her insights and growth.


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Key Timestamps:

The energy of breaking the rules [00:03:02]

Cashelle discusses the idea of breaking societal rules and imposing rules on her own sovereignty in dating and relationships.

Letting go of labels and expectations [00:04:11]

Cashelle talks about the importance of letting go of the need for labels and expectations in relationships and embracing growth and learning.

Intimacy without sex and redefining relationships [00:09:31]

Cashelle explains her relationship with her female partner, which is intimate and seen as a partnership, but without a sexual component. She also discusses the difference between best friends and intimate partners.

The trend of sleeping in different rooms [00:12:07]

Discussion about the trend of younger couples choosing to sleep in separate bedrooms and questioning the happiness and desire to be with their partner.

Meeting touch needs without sex [00:13:13]

Exploration of how the guest discovered a new type of relationship where her touch needs were met without the expectation of sex, leading to increased creativity and income.

Openness about dating and relationships with children [00:14:44]

Conversation about Cashelle approach to discussing dating, multiple partners, and honesty with her teenage daughter, as well as conditioning her to make her own rules in relationships.

The importance of deep connective communication [00:24:03]

Jen discusses the importance of deep connective communication and the need to find friends who can fulfill that role.

Joining a cuddle puddle club without discussing with partners [00:24:42]

Cashelle mentions joining a cuddle puddle club without discussing it with their partners, which may lead to broken agreements.

How to communicate needs and seek help from others [00:26:10]

Cashelle provides a simple statement to communicate unmet communication needs and asks for help from others in meeting those needs.

Sep 03, 202330:32
EP#98: Vulva Mapping with Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown

EP#98: Vulva Mapping with Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown

This week on the podcast I have SEXperts Leah Piper and Dr. Willow Brown as we discuss the fascinating concept of vulva mapping and the importance of understanding and embracing one's own body for pleasurable experiences.


Leah’s specialty is in Tantra Yoga, Positive Psychology, and a myriad of somatic therapies.


Dr. Willow specializes in Taoist sexology, acupuncture, and functional medicine.


Understanding Vulva Mapping

A practice that involves understanding the different parts and erogenous zones of the vulva, such as the clitoris and vestibular bulbs. Many people are unaware of these structures, and we encourage listeners to explore and appreciate their own bodies.

Leah and Dr. Willow stressed the importance of feeling secure and connected with one's body and sexuality. They acknowledged that societal pressures and insecurities can hinder this process, but also highlighted the healing potential of embracing and witnessing one's own beauty.

Practical Advice for Vulva Mapping

Setting up a sacred space with candles and music, using a mirror to observe changes in color and shape, and using lubrication for enhanced pleasure are all components of Vulva Mapping. 

We delve into the anatomy of the vulva, discussing the various parts and emphasizing that there is more to it than what people traditionally thought. Leah and Dr. Willow explain that vulva owners have as much erectile tissue as men, and encouraged vulva owners to imagine the same level of arousal and pleasure. They highlighted the importance of allowing blood to flow and noticing changes in color and swelling.

Appreciating the Natural Beauty of the Vulva

Leah suggested taking a private picture of the vulva to appreciate its natural beauty and uniqueness. She addresses the asymmetry of the labia and compares them to the asymmetry of breasts, emphasizing that it is normal and should not be judged.


Vulva Mapping Introduction [00:00:44] * Leah and Willow discuss the importance of understanding the vulva and its anatomy for pleasurable experiences. Exploring the Vulva [00:02:11] * Leah explains that the vulva has erectile tissues and discusses the importance of pleasuring the outer surface layer. Creating a Sacred Space [00:06:54] * Willow suggests setting up a sacred space with candles and music, using a mirror to witness the changes in the vulva during arousal. Vulva Anatomy and Arousal [00:10:16] Explanation of the erectile tissue in the vulva, the importance of blood flow, and the range of swelling and color changes. Embracing Asymmetry and Body Judgments [00:12:11] Discussion on the natural asymmetry of vulvas and the need to stop judging and comparing one's own body. Exploring the Clitoris and Sensitivity [00:19:08] Explanation of the clitoral hood, the potential issue of lichen sclerosis, and the invitation to explore sensitivity and access points on the clitoris. Vulva Mapping and Arousal Expansion [00:21:06] Leah and Willow discuss the importance of understanding one's own vulva and how to explore and expand arousal through vulva mapping. Yoni Witnessing and Sacred Space [00:22:53] They explain the concept of yoni witnessing, which involves creating a sacred space to explore and appreciate the beauty and changes of the vulva. Rewiring Neural Pathways and Mind-Body Connection [00:27:20] Leah and Willow talk about rewiring neural pathways to enhance arousal and pleasure, and the importance of the mind-body connection in experiencing heightened sensations.


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Aug 27, 202332:40
EP#97: Exploring Non-Monogamy: A Conversation with TikTok Star Danielle from Openly Committed

EP#97: Exploring Non-Monogamy: A Conversation with TikTok Star Danielle from Openly Committed

I recently had the pleasure of interviewing Danielle from Openly Committed, a TikTok star with over 133K followers and over 2 million likes, where she shares her experiences and insights about non-monogamous relationships.


As a wife and mother, Danielle is just like any other person you might meet. However, her journey from a small town in Texas to England, where she currently resides, and her 13-year-long non-monogamous relationship with her British husband and unique storytelling ability make Danielle fascinating to follow.


The Journey to Non-Monogamy

Danielle and her husband decided to explore non-monogamy early in their dating phase. They began creating content about a year and a half ago to provide examples of healthy non-monogamous relationships, as they found limited resources when they started their journey. Danielle's husband initially appeared in their content but later decided to step back due to the negative comments they received. Despite this, Danielle continues to create content and engage with people who ask genuine questions about non-monogamy.


The Growing Interest in Open Relationships

We attributed the growing interest in open relationships to two main factors. Firstly, the increasing conversations around gender fluidity and the exploration of sexuality, particularly among younger generations like Gen Z. Secondly, the idea of a global consciousness that is becoming more accepting and open-minded. We compared the perception of open relationships to the legalization of gay marriage, which was once viewed as bizarre but is now widely accepted.

Danielle's Personal Journey with Non-Monogamy

Danielle shared her personal journey with non-monogamy, explaining how it evolved over time. After becoming parents, she and her husband realized they had been monogamous for about a year and decided to explore polyamory. Danielle described her experience with polyamory, stating that she’d had multiple boyfriends whom she cared about deeply. Currently, she and her husband are more open to meeting new people and having casual connections.

Dealing with Jealousy

When asked about jealousy, Danielle acknowledged that she experiences it, but believes that the positive emotions and experiences that come with non-monogamy outweigh the negative ones. She emphasized that insecurities and jealousy are personal issues that individuals need to address themselves. Communication with her partner is crucial in navigating jealousy, as they can provide support and understanding.

The Impact of Hate Comments

Danielle also discussed her experience with hate comments and the polarizing nature of viral content. She reflected on her first viral video, acknowledging that it may have come across as fake and insecure. She receives hate comments suggesting that a woman cannot possibly want to share her husband or be in an open relationship for herself. Danielle attributes the polarizing nature of her content to the extreme opposing views on monogamy and non-monogamy.


A Couples Guide to Opening Up

To help couples navigate non-monogamy, Danielle has created a course called "A Couples Guide to Opening Up". The course combines advice from over 20 successful open couples with her own recommendations and stories, providing a one-hour guide for couples looking to navigate non-monogamy.


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Aug 20, 202355:24
EP#96: Long Term Monogamy & Passion: Is it Possible? With Coach Dora Bradford

EP#96: Long Term Monogamy & Passion: Is it Possible? With Coach Dora Bradford

I'm thrilled to introduce you to a dear friend and colleague, Dora Bradford. Dora is a women's healthcare provider and an intimacy coach who has been working as a nurse practitioner for almost three decades. We're going to delve into the topic of monogamy and passion in relationships, a subject that is close to my heart. The Journey to Intimacy Coaching Dora and I met during our training as sex and love coaches and quickly formed a strong bond. Dora, a divorced woman with two adult children, was inspired to transition into intimacy coaching after witnessing the struggles of women who were hesitant to discuss their intimacy issues with their partners. Monogamy and Passion: Can They Coexist? As someone who has been in two monogamous marriages that lacked passion, I've often wondered if marriage and passion are synonymous. Can they coexist? Dora believes they can. She shares her perspective on creating a sensual and intimate experience with a partner, emphasizing the importance of touch. Not necessarily sexual, but caressing and being slow and methodical in exploring each other's bodies. Creating a Sensual Experience Dora mentions a book that suggests using eyelashes to caress a partner's body, creating a fine and sensual touch. I can relate to this, as my therapist once suggested various ways to make love throughout the day, such as doing household chores, picking kids up from school, grabbing the groceries, or giving a massage. Dora suggests feeding your partner delicious snacks and creating a sensory experience with mood lighting, music, and scents. We both agree that planning and prioritizing intimate moments is crucial to avoid falling into a rut in a relationship. Finding Time for Intimacy We also discuss creative ideas for finding time for intimacy in busy schedules. Suggestions include scheduling intimate time, getting a babysitter or asking family members for help with childcare, booking a hotel room, or taking advantage of opportunities when the kids are at school. The Frequency of Sex in Relationships The frequency of sex in relationships can vary greatly from person to person. Some women go months without sex, while others have sex multiple times a day. Communication and Compromise Dora emphasizes the importance of communication and finding a compromise that satisfies both partners' needs. Even if gourmet sex isn't possible multiple times a week, couples can still engage in spontaneous and unplanned intimate moments. Reigniting a Sex Life Finally, we discuss how to reignite a sex life when a couple has fallen into the rut of living like roommates. Dora suggests hugging, holding each other, and engaging in eye gazing to gradually reconnect and create a sense of safety. I hope you found this conversation as enlightening as I did. Remember, it's crucial to make time for intimacy and prioritize it despite the demands of daily life.  If you enjoyed this episode, please subscribe, write a review, and share the podcast with your friends.  Your support through my Patreon account helps keep this podcast going.  Connect with Dora: Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/coachdorabradford/ Facebook: https://www.facebook.com/dora.bradford Group Coaching Program: Website: https://www.dorahelpmyintimacy.com/ Connect with Jen: https://linktr.ee/jenniferkayloruscin Leave me a voice message that I can share on future episodes: ⁠https://podcasters.spotify.com/pod/show/theopenbedroompodcast/message⁠ This podcast is sponsored by my Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/JenniferKayloRuscinPodcast Shop sex toys ⁠HERE⁠! $10 OFF ADULT TOYS & LUBE: Use JENK at Checkout. Follow Jen: https://linktr.ee/jenniferkayloruscin
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EP#95: Women: How to be Amazing at Sex

EP#95: Women: How to be Amazing at Sex

I'm Jennifer Kaylo, your host at the Open Bedroom Podcast. Ladies, I hope these nuggets will inspire you to join us on this journey of self-discovery and sexual empowerment.

1. The Power of Self-Exploration: My journey to loving my body, embracing my curves, and accepting my post-pregnancy changes has been transformative. I encourage you to start with body mapping to learn what your body likes.

2. Communication with partners is key. Knowing your own body and what brings pleasure can enhance sexual experiences with partners. Explore your bodies, become familiar with what brings you to orgasm.

3. Toys, Tools, and Techniques: From the toys to everyday objects, we explore different tools for pleasure. I also share some of my favorite apps like Guided by Glow and Bellesa for mental stimulation.

Remember, the key to a great sex life is curiosity and experimentation. Jen’s “Mr Yellow” referenced in this episode.

4. Resources for Learning: I recommend various resources, including books and courses, to help you on your journey of sexual discovery. Knowledge is power.

5. Being a Love Leader: I introduce the concept of being a love leader in your relationships and sex life. It's ok to take the lead and be proactive in planning activities and experiences. I hope these topics have sparked your curiosity and entice you to join us in this episode of The Open Bedroom Podcast. Remember, you're not alone on this journey of self-discovery. Let's learn, grow, and evolve together. Don't forget to subscribe, like, and leave a review to support the podcast. Your support means the world to me. Jen Leave me a voice message that I can share on future episodes: This podcast is sponsored by my PatreonShop sex toys HERE! $10 OFF ADULT TOYS & LUBE: Use JENK at Checkout. Erotic Blueprint Quiz


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Ep#91: Sex Ed Censorship: Where to Find Amazing How-To Videos with Whitni Miller

Ep#91: Sex Ed Censorship: Where to Find Amazing How-To Videos with Whitni Miller

Meet the amazing Whitni Miller, queer sex educator, intimacy coach, & TikTok star. 


Whitney's knowledge and expertise in sex ed shines through as she discusses the importance of understanding both the biological and psychological aspects of sex. 


One thing that impressed me was how Whitni manages to deliver her content in a way that never feels uncomfortable or overly sexual. 


Her calm and safe manner of delivery stems from her background in yoga and working in stressful environments. 


It's truly refreshing to see someone who can make such sensitive topics approachable and educational.


Whitni opens up about her experiences with censorship on popular platforms like TikTok and YouTube. Her accounts have been shut down, and she's had to resort to using coded language and emojis to avoid detection. 


Talk about a frustrating battle when most of our audiences are on these major platforms.


Luckily, Whitni found her safe place on Patreon, where she can provide more explicit and uncensored content. 


Her Patreon content includes props and demonstrations, making the information more accessible to her neurodivergent audience. 


I’m one of Whitni’s Patreon members, and I cannot recommend her content enough. It’s so educational, and I’ve learned so much.

I hope you enjoy


This podcast is sponsored by my After Dark Patreon account: patreon.com/JenniferKayloRuscinPodcast


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EP#90: Part II: Sex After The Storm: How to Leverage Difficult Conversations to Bring You Even Closer to Your Partner with Coach Brian Jenkins
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EP#90: Part I: Sex After The Storm: How to Leverage Difficult Conversations to Bring You Even Closer to Your Partner with Coach Brian Jenkins
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EP#89 PART 2: Shifting Desires in Intimacy with Andre Lazarus and Susannah Rose
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