Self success

Desperate makes u most vulnerable. While being vulnerable can be a good thing sometimes, desperation can make you put what’s most important on the line and have you suffer possible long term or total loss.

Make sure you think about how dire your situation is before taking the next step because once you do something, you can't turn back. Some may say sometimes there may be a second chance, and there always will in some situations but usually you've already incurred some damages. 

Don't corner yourself or pressure yourself too much that you're not making the best decision for yourself. If you start to lose a sense of responsibility in protecting yourself, and become more of a target to crooks, you may lose everything you've worked hard to get up until that very point. You have to remember, you got yourself up to that successful point in your life, whether you feel like it is successful or not. Though it may not even feel like success, if you're growing and not getting yourself into trouble, you're always moving in the right direction in life, and that, is self success, regardless of what anyone thinks.

Investing in yourself is the biggest thing you can ever do. 

Depending on what type of lifestyle you want, education can be of utmost help. It can help you get paid more, it can make you more marketable when you apply for jobs. Having a higher education can help you stand out and set you apart from others who have less education, especially if you lack the experience in the field you apply for versus if you were without that education.

Just because you earn money, doesn't mean it's enough. It especially doesn't mean it's enough even if you're earning higher money than minimum wage. If you can't afford your own place and feel comfortable about it, or even feel great about it, you're probably not earning enough income. 

Investing in yourself in learning how to manage your finances when it comes to earning, saving, and allocating to make more money, is one that can really turn your life around. It can grant possible freedom if you make enough to cover all expenses for your current living situation and more, independent of earning money through employers.

Spirituality is something we all need. It helps you become more in tuned with yourself. In some cases, it's an uplift of self that everyone needs to make you feel better about your own situation or to enhance your situations. 

You can become a better worker by watching motivational videos, listening to inspirations, or other podcasts that may help change your perspective of things, which can cause a change in behavior and attitude. In turn overall, you can become a better person.

Your interests overall is well worth the investment such as cooking. If you want to make sure you're getting the best food to have a healthier lifestyle, and you enjoy food. If you have no experience in cooking food, let alone follow directions, maybe you can sign up for a cooking class to learn the basics and go from there. If you're cheap like me, you can just learn to cook better by making pricy mistakes. Organic food isn't cheap lol. 

Invest in yourself so you become an asset. If you continue to do this, everyone else will start to become liabilities. Do you want to be a liability or an asset? Your choice.

Hold onto family if you can.

Family can be a foundation we all cannot avoid and that can really shape how you will become or who you are right now. Family can really help you in ways that will serve a purpose for what you plan to do in life; work-wise, relationship-wise. 

Grandparents can be the starting point that leads to where you discover what's most precious to you, what's precious to one of your parents or both. And who can cause you to incorporate what you were used to, carried onto your new family.

The apple doesn't fall far from the tree. Sometimes the legacy of ur parents lives within you. And u show it by doing something related to what they were doing through the captivated heart and the fond memory u carry while doing the related task or perhaps become a professional at it through your careers.

Your family can uplift you in the greatest way possible, but they can also bring you down in multiple ways as well. That doesn't mean just because you came from a broken home, that you can create a complete one for yourself, with your new family.

Learn how to manage your money so it won’t cause issues with relationships or stress and worry for yourself.

Spend your money wisely and modestly and still get what you want.

Saving is part of great money management but if it's in a savings account generating interest below rising inflation rates, your money is depreciating. 

Learn how to make money work for you instead of depending on earning money. Do you really want to keep working after your supposed retirement age? I don't think you would like that idea. 

Don't live like you might die tomorrow unless you have some type of illness or do lots of risky things. Also consider living like you still have a long way to go, because you'll never know, you just might.

Communication can be extremely hard but it's important to do enough of it to maintain and strengthen the bond between you and your mate. Make sure you do your part, otherwise, don't have expectations. Strong communication at home can translate into a successful marriage, a successful career, a successful parenthood for you and your kid(s), and a successful life. Life is hard. If you can do lighten up your load by just communicating, by all means, do it. Help yourself, help your love, help your life.

There's all types of friends. Good friends, bad friends, friends that are your family, true friends, and untrue friends. Make yourself count by valuing yourself before determining who's worth your time, emotion, and trust. 

If it ain't fixed, it's broken. It doesn't mean you have to break yourself to fix someone else's issues. 'You can't make a bad movie good' is what my film professor said. Get out while you can!

What is your heritage? 

Can it be something you're proud of?

Can it make you stronger?

Will it help with no shame? Would it help with judgement from others that can potentially hurt you?

Being interested in your heritage, culture, traditions can help you bring so much passion that success comes easy.

It can help you escape your everyday life to focus on what you're actually passionate about. 

Find yourself and success will find you.

Having expectations can strain relationships with everyone and everything else around you, leaving a sour taste in your mouth each time. Not everyone likes being disappointed every time. There's positive aspects as well as negative aspects in having expectations, just be realistic about it and meet yourself in the middle.

Does common sense really exist? Isn’t everyone at different levels? Don't settle for being a teacher who can't teach, be one that teaches well. Don’t beat yourself up over your own expectations and don't expect others to read your mind.

What do you find yourself doing or feeling when you find your partner's schedule now conflicts with yours? How do you deal with it? 

A few ways. Focus on your goals, strengthen your relationship with others, and do activities you can enjoy either by yourself or with others. It can be a blessing in disguise.

Ownership comes with three things. Responsibility in your work, home, and hobbies. Acceptance that you're no longer ashamed of certain things that may have happened in your life. You're no longer beating yourself up over things you can't change. Accepting the past is owning who you have become and without your past, you wouldn't be where you are today. Finally, recognition. Recognition helps you understand what it took for you to be where you are now and focusing on what matters, which is where you are now and what things you have control of in order to become someone you want to be in the future. 

You never have to renew it.

There’s no recurring fee.

It’s with you for life

You can make the most out of it.

What can u say to kids about diplomas?

It can be one of ur most powerful assets.

I think one of the most important moments spent are times with family because they mold you into what you can become. That's why I believe conversations at the dinner table with family is not something we all may appreciate in the moments but reflecting back can be fond memories that we wish to carry on when we create our own families. 

It helps with learnings, when u share what u learned, u get a deeper understanding of the subject. When others share, u learn new things or a deeper understanding of what the topic was about.

You have a deeper bonding with the family and a deeper understanding of ur family members. You have a deeper understanding of yourself.

Sometimes it can shape what you look for in a mate.

Conversations can help you become more able to express yourself so you won’t have so much built up inside (good mental therapy).

It can help with telling stories that lead to a head start in your career as a high level employee.

For the sake of your mental health, recognizing that there may be an issue on the rise, taking the time to reschedule can help you over the long term. Do what you have to do to get what you want to get and know when the balance needs to be made. Do what's best for your household, your career, and your self gratification.

what does it mean to be independent?

why be independent?

-liberating

-increase confidence in facing fears

-increase self esteem, makes you feel better about yourself

-no one has to worry about you

-helps you develop knowledge that can be passed down to others.

Cons about being dependent:

-Always need someone there beside you. As you grow older, you’ll notice not everyone has the time in the world to help you.

-there are several people who don’t have to know you, who can help you. sometimes being independent means being able to ask for what you need help with.

Things you can do to become independent

-push yourself more times than enough to experience what it feels like to be on the other side

-make your own decisions, could be asking others, researching, but ultimately giving yourself reasons why you made that decision based on your findings.

Gain more experience

Make you feel important when you’re relied upon

Financial independence

If you are dependent you are also limited on others to make you successful.

It's important to give yourself credit and recognize that you deserve more. 

Reflect, recognize, and transcend. 

Many things can happen when you ask questions. You become more resourceful, great questions lead you to great answers, curiousity builds character, you build references, you know more things as you research the questions you ask. Bad questions lead to death, you don’t grow, and life gets boring. What can questions do for you? 

Something we don't actually take the time to think about can cost us some sort of discomfort in our lives. Isn't it worth the time to do something that's a win/win/win for yourself? 

Motivation pushes you to do things you don’t want to do and motivation pushes you to do things because you enjoy doing it. It's hard to keep motivated but when you find a ritual or make something a habit where it becomes second nature, it can really reprogram your subconcious mind and help you through things you never would have thought you could get over.

Being resourceful can have such great benefits and can cause greater impacts in your life. Scientists use this technique all of the time. Steve Jobs was someone who used this technique over and over. This is how entreprenuers get their title. They use their knowledge to combine the resources they have, to invent things we all need or want. If you know how to be resourceful, you can find anyway to get to where you want to be, want, or need. 

What is the one thing that keeps a person from feeling confident, from being themselves, and from moving forward? Judgement can strip away a person's personality and their self worth. But judgement from others is not nearly as important as the judgement we place on ourselves. Don't look ahead at what others have to say, look ahead to where you belong. Be creative, let your mind and feelings guide you. And only then, will you see, what you're really worth. 

Sometimes moving forward can seem detrimental after mourning from a loss. But where's that going to get you? Life can still be full of taste, touch, seeing, smelling, and feeling. There's always an imbalance if there's too much of anything. What matter's most is what's going on in your mind. Maintaining a healthy mental mind is something we all need to master. These are just some of the few suggestions that I like in maintaining mine. I hope it will help you too.

If you want people to listen and pay attention to you, you have to consider building vocabulary. It's just the name of the game. If there's room to learn, there's room to succeed. Bigger words, bigger wallet. Use it wisely and effectively. Think quickly, think critically. Good luck!

Everyone tries to find out why they were put on this earth.  Many of us are focused in all the wrong places. Perhaps the fundamentals were already there but we were too deaf from all the distractions to hear what we really needed. We always need to focus on what's in front of us. Ourselves. Because the purpose, is you.

You know you are not walking a straight path, if your past is constantly showing that you need to rethink about taking the next step, without considering the importance of what it was trying to tell you in the first place. The longer you avoid it, the more "ifs" will come in to question. 

If you are are not exploring your curiosities, if you are not listening to your gut, if you are not listening to your thoughts, how will you find where you fit in this world? 

Three factors can enhance your living conditions. Your mindset, your emotions, and your behavior. There’s a rich mindset and a poor mindset. First you have to figure out what is in your mind. You have to be aware of everything that surrounds your mind, good and bad. Taking precise and well thought out plans will make your journey more reachable. Most people’s lives shift according to how much they feel in moments they wish for some sort of change. The way you live is dependent on the choices you make. The choices you make turns into the actions you take. Control your mindset, control your emotions, control your behavior, control your path.

Sources:

Book by Robert Kiosaki "Rich Dad Poor Dad"

Nir Eyal, Jeff Bezos, Oprah, Bill Gates ; Youtube

Tony Robbins, Jim Kwik ; Podcast

Tv Series: The Big Bang Theory