Pause Two Three Life/Mindset Coaching Journeying back to our TRUE Self.

This podcast is not intended to diagnose, treat or give professional advice, I do strongly encourage anyone who may feel they are in a codependent situation or want to explore deeper to consult a mental health professional. I am simply sharing things I have been discovering about myself on my journey in order to help shed some light for others who may be feeling like I was.

Codependency often takes root in the soil of our childhood experiences. Picture a young sapling, reaching desperately for sunlight, yet finding only shadows. Similarly, many of us grew up in homes where emotional nourishment was scarce, not because we were not loved, but its important to remember that our parents or caregivers are only capable of what they know.  We craved love and acceptance, but instead, we were met with neglect or inconsistency, because of many different factors. All of which we can really benefit from letting go of the feelings that may be holding us back due to this past upbringing. Today is the day you can start writing a different story for life and embrace healing and growth.

Lets jump forward to now, to the present moment, because this is where the story can change!! In the present, not past or future!!

Perhaps You find yourself entangled in relationships where your worth is tied to the validation of others.  Acknowledging this is crucial, with kindness!!

 You pour your energy into fulfilling their needs, often neglecting your own.

 But why? Because deep within, a wounded child still yearns for the love and approval denied in youth.

But here's the truth, my dear friend: You are worthy, fully and unconditionally.

 You do not need external validation to affirm your worth. It resides within you, waiting to be acknowledged and embraced.

The journey to healing begins with introspection. 

Take a moment to reflect on your childhood experiences.

 What patterns emerge?

 What unmet needs linger beneath the surface? 

Acknowledge them with compassion, for they shaped the person you are today.

Next, cultivate self-awareness.

 Notice when you feel the need to seek validation from others. 

Pause, remember so many good things come to us during the pauses when we learn to pause and feel our soul guidance, breathe, and remind yourself of your absolute worthiness. 

Practice setting boundaries, honoring your needs, and expressing your truth with courage and authenticity.

Healing from codependency is not a linear path. It requires patience, self-compassion, and a willingness to confront the shadows of the past. But with each step forward, you reclaim your power and rewrite the narrative of your life.

Remember, dear friends, you are not alone on this journey. 

Reach out to trusted friends, mentors,  therapists or myself for some chats for support. Surround yourself with love and understanding as you navigate the depths of your soul.

If you want to dig deeper into healing some unhealed childhood matters, try searching YouTube for Inner child healing! It has brought so much light and understanding to my journey and helped me understand from a place of love, trust and compassion instead just saying it is what it is, and holding on to the things we felt we should of had! 

In closing, I invite you to envision a garden blooming with resilience and self-love. 

Nurture yourself as you would a cherished flower, with tenderness and care. 

Embrace your journey, knowing that healing is possible, and pure freedom awaits those who have the desire and trust in themselves to reclaim their truth.

Thank you for joining me on this journey as we explore deeper the intricacies of our souls. Until next time, may you walk in the light of your own worthiness.

Much peace, love and kindness

Episode # 202 

Codependency Warning Signs: Embracing Self-Love and Growth

This podcast is not intended to diagnose, treat or give professional advice, I do strongly encourage anyone who may feel they are in a codependent situation or want to explore deeper to consult a mental health professional. I am simply sharing things I have been discovering about myself on my journey in order to help shed some light for others who may be feeling like i was 

 Codependency is a behavioral condition that goes beyond the surface level of enabling another's addiction or poor mental health. It is a deep-rooted pattern of behavior that stems from a profound need for approval and an unhealthy attachment to relationships. When we are caught in the web of codependency, we lose touch with our true selves and become entangled in the needs and desires of others.

If you haven't checked out the first episode in this series diggin into codependency please do so ! The link is here ! Also please be sure to subscribe, like and share this to show your support and to help others start loving and living their best life free from the restraints of codependent patterns! 

Common signs can include but are not limited too:

an excessive desire to please,

difficulty saying no, 

poor boundaries, 

fear of abandonment,

and a sense of responsibility for the other person's happiness and well-being.

It is crucial for individuals struggling with codependency to recognize that their well-being matters just as much as anyone else's. By learning how to set boundaries and prioritize self-care, we can start reclaiming our own identity and finding inner fulfillment.

 Self-love and acceptance are key in cultivating healthy relationships with yourself and others. 

Much peace love and kindness!

This podcast is not intended to diagnose, treat or give professional advice, I do strongly encourage anyone who may feel they are in a codependent situation or want to explore deeper to consult a mental health professional. I am simply sharing things I have been discovering about myself on my journey in order to help shed some light for others who may be feeling like i was 

 Codependency is a behavioral condition that goes beyond the surface level of enabling another's addiction or poor mental health. It is a deep-rooted pattern of behavior that stems from a profound need for approval and an unhealthy attachment to relationships. When we are caught in the web of codependency, we lose touch with our true selves and become entangled in the needs and desires of others.

The first step in understanding codependency is recognizing the signs within ourselves.

 Do you find yourself constantly seeking validation from others?

 Do you struggle to set boundaries and prioritize your own needs?

 These are common indicators of codependent behavior that can hinder our spiritual growth and inner peace.

 At the core of codependency lies a fear of abandonment and a belief that our worth is tied to how others perceive us. This distorted view of self-worth can lead us down a path of enabling destructive behaviors in others, sacrificing our own well-being in the process. To break free from this cycle, we must embark on a journey of self-love and self-acceptance.

Healing from codependency requires us to reconnect with our inner light, the divine spark that resides within each of us. In this series we will continue to look at ways to further understand and unlearn many things that may have contributed to codependent behaviors.

 By cultivating a deep sense of self-awareness and compassion, we can begin to unravel the patterns that keep us trapped in codependent relationships. Through mindfulness practices, meditation, and spiritual guidance, we can realign with our true essence and reclaim our power.

As we release the grip of codependency, we open ourselves up to a world of possibilities and growth. By nurturing our spiritual well-being and honoring our authentic selves, we can cultivate relationships that are based on mutual respect and love. Remember, you are worthy of love and belonging, just as you are.

In closing, I invite you to take a moment to reflect on your own relationship dynamics and identify any patterns of codependency that may be present. Embrace the journey of self-discovery with an open heart and a willingness to heal. Together, we can illuminate the path to spiritual liberation and inner peace.

Host: Thank you for joining me on this episode of "Embracing Your Inner Light." Be sure to like, follow or subscribe, next week we will be looking some signs of codependency

 May you walk in the beauty of your true authentic self and shine brightly in the world. 

Until next time, stay connected to your inner light. 

Much Peace love and kindness

 We're diving deep into the world of attachment, exploring the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships, and equipping you with the tools to discern if your connection is flourishing or faltering.

Join along and see what this may awaken in you!!

Fearless Friday!

Fearless by Design: Strategies for Overcoming Fears and Building Confidence

 We all face moments of self-doubt, but with the right mindset and strategies, we can fearlessly work to  overcome them. 

Here are some practical steps examples to help you start building your confidence and breaking through your fear blocks!

 Embrace Your Strengths

Practice recognizing and embracing your strengths. 

Take a moment to reflect on your unique qualities, skills, and experiences. 

What are you good at? 

What accomplishments are you proud of? 

By acknowledging your strengths, you can start to shift your focus from what you lack to what you excel in.

 For instance, if you're a great listener, practice active listening in your daily interactions. By doing so, you'll not only boost your confidence but also enhance your relationships.

 Set Achievable Goals

Start small and gradually work your way up. 

Break down your larger goals into smaller, manageable tasks. 

For instance, if you want to improve your public speaking skills, begin by speaking up in smaller group settings or joining a local Toastmasters club. 

As you achieve these smaller goals, your confidence will naturally grow, and momentum and your desire will quickly move you forward to tackle more significant challenges.

Challenge Negative Self-Talk

Negative self-talk can be a significant barrier to building confidence.

 It's crucial to challenge and reframe those negative thoughts. 

When you catch yourself thinking, "I can't do this," replace it with a more empowering statement like, "I am capable of learning and growing." Practice positive affirmations daily and surround yourself with supportive individuals who believe in your abilities. 

Over time, you'll notice a shift in your mindset, allowing you to fearlessly pursue your goals.

Step Outside Your Comfort Zone

Building confidence often requires stepping outside your comfort zone. It's in those moments of discomfort that growth happens. Start by identifying one thing that scares you but aligns with your goals. It could be giving a presentation, trying a new hobby, or networking with professionals in your field. Push yourself to take that first step, and remember that even if things don't go perfectly, each experience is an opportunity for growth and learning.

The last point for today, remember to celebrate your achievements, no matter how small they may seem. 

Acknowledge your progress and give yourself credit for stepping outside of your comfort zone. 

Celebrating your wins will reinforce positive feelings and motivate you to continue building your confidence

Remember, building confidence is a journey, and it takes time, courage and effort. By embracing your strengths, setting achievable goals, challenging negative self-talk, stepping out of your comfort zone daily, and celebrating your achievements, you can start building your confidence, even in the face of fear and self-doubt.

If you found this helpful, be sure to subscribe and share it with others who may benefit. Stay confident and keep striving for your goals. Until next time, much peace, love and strength to you!

 Betrayal is a complex emotion that can leave us feeling hurt, angry, and lost. It often involves the breaking of trust, whether it's by a friend, partner, or even ourselves. But have you ever considered that betraying ourselves can be the most detrimental form of betrayal?

 So, how do we break free from this cycle of self-betrayal? Grab your cupppa yummy and join me, as we look at the power of self-betrayal and ways to stop betraying and start LOVING and LIVING your true AUTHENTIC LIFE!!

Fearlessly setting healthy boundaries with others. 

🚧 We're not emotional sponges, soaking up everyone's struggles.

Take a moment to recognize what's yours to carry and what isn't. We can be supportive without shouldering the weight of the world. 🤝

Stop absorbing negativity that isn't yours. It's okay to say no, to protect your energy. Your mental health is non-negotiable! 🌈

Let's spin the narrative. Focus on what uplifts you, and be a source of positive energy. 

3 steps to help you start fearlessly  setting and enforcing boundaries in your life.

1. Clearly communicate your limits: Express your needs and limits to others in a clear and assertive manner. For instance, if you have a friend who frequently asks for favors that overwhelm you, you can kindly say, "I value our friendship, but I need to prioritize my own well-being right now. I won't be able to help with this favor."

2. Learn to say "no": It's important to recognize that saying "no" is not selfish but rather a way to honor your own boundaries. For example, if you're feeling overwhelmed with work and someone asks you to take on an additional project, you can respond by saying, "I appreciate the opportunity, but I'm currently at capacity and won't be able to take on any more projects."

3. Practice self-care: Prioritize self-care activities that help you recharge and maintain your emotional and physical well-being. This could include setting aside time for meditation, exercise, or engaging in hobbies that bring you joy. By dedicating time to self-care, you are setting a boundary around your personal well-being.

Setting boundaries is a continuous practice that requires self-awareness and self-compassion. It may take time to establish and enforce boundaries, but doing so will ultimately lead to healthier relationships and a more balanced life. Is it time for you to stop letting fear get in the way of LIVING YOUR AUTHENTIC LIFE?

Remember, you're a magnet for what you radiate! Set those boundaries, and let the good vibes flow. ✨ 

Much Peace, love and Kindness to you!

Today, we're diving deep into the world of attachment, exploring the differences between healthy and unhealthy relationships, and equipping you with the tools to discern if your connection is flourishing or faltering.

Guided meditation on unconditional love, helping you to give and fully receive a love like no other.

 Today we dive into the profound concept of unconditional love. In this episode, we will explore what unconditional love truly means, how to give and receive it, and the transformative power it holds in our lives. So, let's dive in!

Welcome to this guided meditation on allowing yourself to feel your emotions without judgment

Join me, as I share my deeply intense at times, thoughts and provide some further seeds for your mind on what it means to experience emotions without judgment, why it is so important to understand this.

This includes the intense emotions that may arise when you least expect it..

Or when you know damn well that  the emotions are coming…

Either way it sucks and can seem impossible to dig up the strength to let yourself just feel and focus on the negative for a time… in a healthy and non damaging way.

This podcast maybe just the words you've been needing to hear :) If so, drop a comment or message! Id love to hear from you!

What if that trauma and pain you are feeling was sent to you from the universe for a purpose?

The universe needs us to help others. What if we use the trauma and pain to help us find our inner strength and self love.

As we begin to sit with and visualize our pain and trauma as burning rock that has attached itself inside our body.  The ONLY place that trauma can live is INSIDE US.

It is our duty and purpose to feel the pain and recognize our strength as we visualize moving that trauma and pain UP and out of our body and into the universe. This may be difficult, you may have strong emotions as you move thst trauma up and up… That is the trauma fighting you because it knows it will die once it is forced out of your body. You are stronger than the feeling of that trauma. Once you release that trauma and pain into the universe the universe TRANSFORMS that pain into LOVE STRENGTH COMPASSION AND PEACE and YOU have just helped yourself abd the entire universes.  Those billions of pieces of smashed trauma are now spreading LIGHT AND STRENGTH to others who are experiencing pain like you did.

This meditation will guide you through a visualization that can help to release what is causing the pain.

Disclaimer: Please note that while this meditation aims to support emotional healing, it is important to understand that it is not a substitute for professional counseling or therapy. If you are dealing with severe trauma or negative emotions, it is highly recommended to seek the guidance of a qualified mental health professional. This meditation should be used as a complementary tool to support your well-being, but it is not intended to replace professional help.

Anxiety is a common experience that many people face in their daily lives. It can be triggered by various factors such as work-related stress, personal relationships, or even uncertainty about the future.

Anxiety is a natural response to stress or perceived threats. It is our body's way of preparing us for potential danger. However, when anxiety becomes excessive or persistent, it can interfere with our overall well-being and quality of life.

Anxiety can manifest in different ways, including physical symptoms such as a racing heart, shallow breathing, muscle tension, and restlessness. It can also lead to racing thoughts, excessive worry, difficulty concentrating, and a sense of impending doom.

The good news is that there are techniques we can practice to manage and lessen anxiety. This meditation aims to provide you with tools to navigate through anxious moments and cultivate a state of inner peace and tranquility.

If you haven't checked out the 1st part of this EPISODE on frequency vibrations and what it all means, be sure to click here and check it out first!!

Raising your vibrational frequency is one of the most powerful ways to improve your life.

 It’s not just about feeling good but also about manifesting the life you want and deserve.

Today, we will explore how to raise your vibrational frequency and the tools you can use to do so.

  Isn't it time you started LOVING and LIVING your BEST life?

1 SELF CARE& SELF AWARENESS 

Morning Routine: Begin your day with a few minutes of self-reflection. Consider journaling about your thoughts and feelings.

Mindful Moments: Throughout the day, take short breaks to check in with yourself. Practice deep breathing or mindfulness exercises to stay present.

  Prioritize Self-Care: Ensure that you allocate time for activities that bring you joy and    relaxation. This could be reading, taking a bath, or engaging in a hobby.

2 POSITIVE AFFIRMATIONS and MEDITATION

Morning Affirmations: Start your day with positive affirmations. Speak words of encouragement and positivity to set a good tone for the day.

Meditation Breaks: Incorporate short meditation sessions into your day. This could be as little as 5-10 minutes of focused breathing or guided meditation.

Before Bed: End your day with positive reflections. Express gratitude and reaffirm positive intentions for the next day.

3 GRATITUDE 

Gratitude Journal: Keep a gratitude journal and write down three things you're thankful for each day. This practice helps shift your focus to the positive aspects of life.

Express Gratitude: Take moments to express gratitude verbally to others. It could be a simple "thank you" to someone who has helped you or expressing appreciation for the beauty around you.

4 BEING IN NATURE

Outdoor Breaks: Incorporate short outdoor breaks into your routine. This could be a walk in the park, sitting in a garden, or simply spending time in nature.

Connect with Elements: Spend time observing and appreciating nature's elements—earth, water, air, and sunlight. This can be grounding and uplifting.

 5 GIVING  

Random Acts of Kindness: Look for opportunities to perform random acts of kindness. It could be as simple as holding the door for someone or offering a kind word.

Volunteer Work: Allocate time to volunteer for a cause you care about. Giving back to the community can provide a sense of purpose and fulfillment.

Share Knowledge: Share your skills and knowledge with others. This could be through mentoring, teaching, or helping someone with a task.

By the end of this podcast, you will better understand how to raise your vibrational frequency and the tools you can use to do so.

Remember that consistency is key when incorporating these practices into your daily routine. It's not about making drastic changes overnight but rather building habits that contribute to your overall well-being over time. Listen to your body and adjust these practices to suit your unique needs and preferences

• We take a dive in to frequency vibration of our emotions and what you need to know about what it means to RAISE YOUR VIBRATION!! Vibrational frequency emotions refer to the energy or frequency at which our emotions vibrate. Everything in the universe, including our emotions, vibrates at a certain frequency. Emotions such as love, joy, and gratitude vibrate at higher frequencies, while emotions like fear, anger, and sadness vibrate at lower frequencies. WHAT IS YOUR VIBRATION quiz and lots more info to BLOW YOUR MIND!! https://whatsmyvibration.com/ Check out more by Kaya Usher here https://thesimplicityplatform.com/

  
  

What if that trauma and pain you are feeling were sent to you from the universe for a purpose? The universe needs us to help others. Trauma and pain are sent to us to help us find our inner strength and self-love. As we begin to sit with and visualize our pain and trauma as the burning rock that has attached itself inside our body. The ONLY place that trauma can live is INSIDE US. Our duty and purpose is to feel the pain and recognize our strength as we visualize moving that trauma and pain UP and out of our body and into the universe.

This may be difficult; you may have strong emotions as you move that trauma up and up…

That is the trauma fighting you because it knows it will die once it is forced out of your body. You are stronger than the feeling of that trauma. Once you release that trauma and pain into the universe, the universe TRANSFORMS that pain into LOVE, STRENGTH, COMPASSION AND PEACE, and YOU have just helped yourself and the entire universe.

Those billions of pieces of smashed trauma are now spreading LIGHT AND STRENGTH to others who are experiencing pain like you did. It's our duty to release that trauma so the universe can transform it, and we can help spread PEACE, LOVE AND STRENGTH and the goodness that others AND ourselves need. What will you focus on letting go today?

In today's episode, I want to bring awareness to something I never understood until recently. A spiritual awakening does have to be a religious relationship. Discover what finding the "higher power" can mean if you are not feeling right referring to your higher power as "God" .

My spiritual awakening has brought such a shift in my life, helping me find my sense of purpose, reducing my intense daily life-destroying relationship with anxiety and helping me find my true self with a sense of pride and self-love. This journey has taken a huge turn, and it is something that needs to be shared by everyone! Is it time for YOU to break up with the life-destroying relationship you have with anxiety, shame, guilt, lack of self-love and so many other emotions finally, and LET GO OF WHAT NO LONGER SERVES YOU and START LIVING YOUR BEST LIFE AS THE TRUE UNIQUE YOU!

Mental Fitness is so important but sadly it does not get the attention it needs, we tend to focus only on Physical Fitness. Lets broaden our thought process and look at simple ways to practice Mental Fitness in our everyday life!

Take a few minutes to slow your mind and give yourself some much deserved gratitude.

Today we are looking at 10 ways that life is really a lot like a Marathon. We will look at 10 ways to better look at navigating this life and how the same applies to training for a Marathon OR any big goal in life! Plus I will share how the Marathon went!! Its a great one friends!!

Join me today as I share some personal thoughts on embracing our Mental Fitness. Disclaimer time, I am not offering professional help, I am simply a human sharing some thoughts that may help you on your journey. If you are struggling with your Mental Health please reach out to a professional, this is not a struggle you need to face on your own!

Music credits : Huge shout out to my dad Chris Young, Opening and closing songs are written and preformed by Chris Young!

One week to go and the nerves are real! Join me as I share 10 lessons learned so far in this journey of training for a Marathon, that can pertain to life in general also, not just for us crazy folks who like to run!!

Intro and Ending songs credits go to Chris Young. Intro Song "Apprehesive" written and composed by Chris Young Ending Song " What You Take Away" written and composed by Chris Young.

In this episode on Goal Setting, I pay tribute to a life cut short, and give some ideas and thoughts on keeping focused and meeting your life goals, whether they are big or small.

As a disclaimer, please know I am not a professional therapist or professional anything, I am simply one human sharing this journey called life. Please seek professional help, if things feel to heavy for you on your own.

Intro and Ending songs credits go to Chris Young. Intro Song "Apprehesive" written and composed by Chris Young Ending Song " What You Take Away" written and composed by Chris Young.

Join me as I share a sneak peak into Episode 4 on Goal setting and share one of my Bucket List Goals with you all. Goal setting is a life long task, it takes focus, and refocusing, readjusting, and facing set backs, my hope is this will motivate and encourage others.

Take a few minutes for yourself and celebrate some down time!!

Short intro to a variety of meditation forms to help you bring peace into your day!

Revamped podcast, new ideas, new topics, lots of seeds to drop and lots to get excited about as we journey this life together!

Not every person will find a good fit for a therapist right off the bat. This is ok, keep searching until you do.