- In this podcast episode, Jenny interviews Amy, who is involved with Widows' Purse, a support group for widows.

- Amy describes how Widows' Purse has benefited her by providing a community of women who understand her story.

- She highlights that most of the women in the group are younger and don't fit the stereotypical image of a widow.

- Amy initially struggled to accept her widowhood and found it helpful to be surrounded by others who could relate to her experience, sometimes even before she fully understood her own emotions.

- Sunah has personally helped Amy with various aspects of coping, including dealing with her children and seeking financial advice.

- Amy encourages women who may be hesitant or unsure about joining the group to explore it and see what it has to offer, emphasizing that it is a safe and therapeutic space.

- Jenny acknowledges that reaching out to strangers can be challenging, but emphasizes that Widows' Purse provides a welcoming environment with a diverse range of personalities and temperaments.

- Amy shares her personal experience and offers valuable insights on what is helpful and not helpful during such a difficult time. They also highlight the significance of genuine support and utilizing the resources available within the community.

Key Points:

1. Avoid Comparisons:

- Each person's loss is unique, so avoid comparing your loss to theirs.

- Instead, express empathy and offer condolences without diminishing their grief by saying things like, "I can understand how you feel" or "You'll be fine."

2. Be Mindful of Your Words:

- Take the time to think before speaking, and avoid saying the first thing that comes to mind.

- The best thing you can do is simply be there for the person, offering genuine support and a listening ear.

- Avoid providing unsolicited advice or empty assurances that everything will be okay.

3. Practical Acts of Kindness:

- Sometimes actions speak louder than words. Offer specific assistance, such as cleaning their house, running errands, or providing financial support.

- These tangible gestures can be incredibly meaningful and show that you genuinely care.

4. Utilize Available Resources:

- Reach out to friends, family, or members of the community who are willing to help.

- Take advantage of their offers, as they genuinely want to be a source of support.

- By allowing others to assist you, you are not hindering their blessings but helping them fulfill the biblical call to care for widows.

Then Jenny and Amy discuss the surprising emotions and challenges Amy faced after becoming a widow.

- Amy shares that she has always been a fearless person but experienced overwhelming fear after her husband's passing.

- Amy talks about how she had to fight against the spirit of fear and remind herself that God has not given her that fear.

- She mentions that she had to work through various emotions such as anger, jealousy, disappointment, loneliness, and anxiety.

- Amy highlights the importance of counseling, support from the church community, friends, and family in helping her cope with these emotions.

- Taking time off work after her husband's death and starting a new job also brought up fears, but she pushed through and overcame them.

- Despite missing her husband's support and encouragement, Amy found that God helped her conquer her fear, allowing her to thrive in her new job and live without constant worry.

- Jenny acknowledges how loss reminds people of their lack of control and the importance of appreciating everyday moments.

- Amy emphasizes the need for a supportive community, turning to God, and continually working through fears and tough emotions.

- The conversation concludes with Amy expressing gratitude for the determination she possesses and the support she receives from the Widows' Purse community.

Check out the Widows' Purse Facebook group or you can email Sunah at widowspurse1@gmail.com for more information.

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51. A widow's journey - Amy's story

Becoming YOUR Best with Jenny Lytle, RNBy Jenny LytleJul 03, 2023