Welcome to the Affliction/Resilience podcast hosted by New York Times Bestselling author Judy L. Mandel. We’ve all had some kind of affliction. Whether it’s psychological, physical or situational. And we all deal with adversity in different ways. In each episode, we’ll talk to people who recognize and use their own affliction in their lives, as well as psychologists and other experts who counsel them. It may be addiction recovery, the trauma of disease and treatment, or in the case of the host, her role as a replacement child. Hopefully you will take away useful information for your own life.
Emily Rapp Black is the author of Poster Child: A Memoir, and The Still Point of the Turning World, and most recently, Sanctuary – a memoir.
A onetime Fulbright Scholar, she was educated at Harvard University, Trinity College in Dublin, Saint Olaf College and the University of Texas at Austin, where she was a James A. Michener fellow. She has received many many awards and fellowships, most recently a Guggenheim Fellowship.
Her work has appeared in Vogue, The New York Times, Salon, Slate, Time, The Boston Globe, The Wall Street Journal, Psychology Today, O:The Oprah Magazine, The Los Angeles Times and many others. She is a regular contributor to The New York Times Book Review and frequently publishes scholarly work in the fields of disability studies, bioethics, and theological studies. She is currently associate professor of creative writing at the University of California, Riverside, where she also teaches medical narratives in the School of Medicine.
She talks candidly with me about writing this book about the death of her son Ronan just before he turned three, of Tay Sachs, and then having a subsequent, and healthy, daughter. Her book is beautiful, gripping and thought provoking and I think you’ll find our conversation insightful.
Estee Gubbay is a top travel adviser and writer on world travel. She is the author of the bestselling book Your Travel Bucket List: The Ultimate Guide to Enrich Your Life with Great Adventures and Unforgettable Memories. She is the owner of Luxurist Travel Agency. With more than twenty years of facilitating workshops on goal setting, self-care, and pursuing a life of balance and fulfillment, she uses her expertise to guide her Clients through the process of creating their ideal travel bucket list.
Estee has a unique story of overcoming Chronic Fatigue Syndrome and Ethlos Danlos Syndrome to build a successful travel business in a very challenging time. All of which we talk about on this episode of Affliction & Resilience.
A bonus is getting some great travel tips!
You can find her book on her website: www.luxuristtravel.com
Or call her for travel advice at 1-858-381-7713
Cindy Watson is on a mission to reframe "negotiation" -- how we think of it and how we do it, and to recognize the power of persuasion through a feminine lens. She is the founder of Women on Purpose, a founding partner of Watson Labour Lawyers and a graduate of Osgoode Hall Law School. She has 30 year’s experience as a respected social justice attorney. She is an international speaker and trainer in the corporate arena as well as an author and consultant. Her latest book is The Power of Feminine Negotiation—how to get what you want from the boardroom to the bedroom. When her son was diagnosed with schizophrenia, she found herself negotiating the most high stakes situation possible as an advocate for his care. She found that the same skills that helped her negotiate deals and power dynamics in business, were also the key to working through a challenging mental health system, made even more so by the pandemic. The tools she uses are truly transferrable to everyone's lives.
Her book and other information can be found at www.womenonpurpose.ca.
Dr. Erika Landau is our guest today on Affliction & Resilience. She is a second generation Holocaust survivor. Both of her parents lost their parents and siblings in the Holocaust. She was born in Romania, and came to the US to escape the Communist dictatorship of Ceausescu. Dr. Landau is an Assistant Professor of Pediatrics at the Columbia University Medical Center. In addition to her medical degree, she also holds a master’s degree in bioethics. In light of Holocaust Remembrance Day this past week, it seems fitting that we discuss how survivors were not only those who endured the horrors of the camps, but how the trauma is embedded through generations. Dr. Landau talks about the strength and responsibility of that legacy and how it has served her. She is an amazing example of resilience.
Entertainment publicist, author and public speaker, Patti Hawn has worked on over thirty major motion pictures including some of the most acclaimed films of the last decade. Her credits include Ghost, Glory, Overboard, and Bride Wars.
She made her debut literary effort with her memoir, GOOD GIRLS DON’T, that tells the story of the last generation of young women to experience life on the eve of the sexual revolution of the sixties and the passing of legislation legalizing abortion.
Most recently she appeared in the theater production BLANK, at the invitation of many adoption groups throughout the country.
She contributed a chapter to the book REPLACEMENT CHILDREN: THE UNCONSCIOUS SCRIPT, by Rita Battat and Dr. Abigail Brenner which explores the many stories of people who have found themselves a part of this circumstance…including herself.
Patti is the sister of the acclaimed actress Goldie Hawn. She resides in Manhattan Beach, California with her husband and travels to India, Nepal and Thailand where she works in humanitarian efforts.
Kristina Schellinski, M.A., is a supervising and teaching analyst with the C.G. Jung Institute, Zurich, Kusnacht. She works with adults in private practice in Geneva and is a lecturer and consultant of the Geneva University Hospital Psychiatry Department. Kristina is also one of the co-founders of the Replacement Child Forum (replacementchildforum.com).
We had a fascinating discussion from the viewpoint of both a professional who treats replacement children, and as a replacement child herself. Kristina has a unique perspective for resilience in the face of affliction as well as for parents who have subsequent children after the death of a child.
Her book, Individuation for Adult Replacement Children: Ways of Coming into Being, is an exceptional guide to the replacement child condition.
Fran Dorf is a therapist (LCSW) and lifelong writer, most notably author of three acclaimed, internationally published novels, as well as plays, screenplays, articles, essays, and poetry. Fran’s novels include A Reasonable Madness (BirchLane 1990/Signet 1991), Flight (Dutton 1992/Signet 1993) and Saving Elijah (Putnam 2000). Fran’s first novel, a psychological thriller about a psychiatrist and his possibly delusional patient, became a longtime bestseller in Germany under the title “Die Totdenkerin” which means “The Death Thinker.” In 2018/19 Fran co-wrote a screenplay adapting that novel for a German film producer, and she is co-developing a limited series television drama based on her third novel, Saving Elijah. As a therapist, Fran has a general private practice in psychotherapy, but specializes in bereavement, a subject with which she became intimately acquainted after the 1994 death of her three-year-old son Michael. This loss changed her life in ways that are sweeping and profound.
Rita Battat answers the question of how being a replacement child affected her life and how writing her book has changed her feeling about it. We talk about commonalities for replacement children and discuss some famous replacement children like Elvis, Vincent Van Gogh, and Carl Jung. One way people deal with any kind of affliction is to find a community in order to understand more about themselves.