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Julie Clarke is a registered psychotherapist, child and youth care practitioner and somatic experiencing™ practitioner. She works mostly in private practice in Ontario, Canada as well as virtually online offering one on one counselling and therapy as well as parent consultation and trauma work.
#Parenting…Who? aims to connect parents, caregivers and professionals with news and information pertaining to mental health, wellness and all that in between has to offer! And demystify therapy.
In this episode Lisa shares with us how she evolved into the world of home day care.
Lisa is a registered early childhood educator in Ontario, Canada and has been working in the field for over 20 years. She is the mother of 5 and a grandmother of 2.
Lisa shares her journey from becoming a young mother who ventured into the world of home daycare as a way to help someone who was struggling to find care for their child. Lisa’s kids enjoyed having another in the home and this grew into a full-fledged home daycare business. While parenting and caregiving Lisa was keen to know and understanding children better. This led to some workshops that taught a style of parenting that not just wasn’t effective but was also not aligned with Lisa’s intuition as a parent and caregiver. This led to the discovery of attachment and relationship, a style of parenting and caregiving that felt more in line with who she was as a person and a professional. Lisa speaks to the flourishing of this teaching in her personal and professional life but also to the tensions or struggles that accompany this.
Lisa has worked in various sectors including home daycare, non profit and for profit centre based care and over three years in the education system. She has actively volunteered in different aspects with children and in attachment focused study groups.
Her experience working with children is primarily with the age groups 0 to 5 but she has also worked with children up to the age of 12 and has worked with parents in groups/workshops. Lisa has created and been involved with various book clubs, support groups (ADHD) and home schooling and attachment based groups at Children’s Hospital of Eastern Ontario (CHEO) and through the Neufeld Institute.
She returned to school for a second time after having her family to work towards her Bachelor of Child and Youth Care degree and is currently in her last year.
Registered Early Childhood Educators (ECEs)
Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD)
Dr. Gordon Neufeld (Attachment)
Lisa’s Home Daycare Facebook Page
@Children's Rainbow Village Family Child Care
If you or someone you know is having thoughts of suicide or harming self, please proceed to your nearest hospital for medical attention.
PLEASE NOTE: This episode is a heavy topic and may be triggering to some listeners. Please proceed with caution.
Sheilagh provides some context regarding the interaction between the listener and the individual who is having suicidal thoughts; she describes it as both Breath Taking and Breathtaking and how the listener will have an intense visceral response when being told by someone they don’t want to live anymore. How do we go on to support these individuals?
Breath Taking – details of the impact, and how to cope, reclaiming the breath
Breathtaking – the soul connection, existential moment, being the “chosen soul”
What is the role now of the listener?
What to say in the moment
Be the life raft, one of those lovely soft sided, blow up life rafts
Create the visual and felt sense of that role
Death will take us, every one of us. There is an absolute commitment by Death to engage us. The question is… are we willing to make an absolute commitment to engage with Death. Will we accept its presence and its power over us? Will we allow it to say when and how it embraces us? Are we willing to relinquish control?
What is that suicidal person thinking? The suicidal person will often speak of embracing death before it can embrace them – in this moment the person is engaging in the ultimate autonomous act, not losing control to death, rather taking control of death.
The key regardless is to listen to understand not to answer. To hold space and stop time even if only for the moment. In this process the other may find new insights and with that a new quest or they may affirm that the quest is over, feel less distress, more relief and can cross knowing they were accepted, loved and released with dignity.
Julie reviews the Daily Greatness Parents Journal – A Practical Guide for Raising Conscious Kids and Creating a Happy Home for the listeners of #Parenting…Who? Podcast. This journal is a great way to re-set your parenting style or learn to parent in a conscious and loving way if you don’t have children but are planning to. With the prompts in the journal you learn more about yourself through prompts in the journal and questions that encourage deeper self-reflection. For listeners of the podcast enter JULIE15 for a 15% discount from now until February 28, 2019 when you go to purchase a journal at dailygreatness.ca!
Julie chats today with Laura Khoudari, a New York City based trauma informed certified personal trainer. In this episode Julie connects with a colleague who is currently training in Somatic Experiencing trauma work. Laura’s mission is to increase access to somatic-based treatment for women and genderqueer individuals living with trauma, anxiety, depression, and chronic pain in order to help them restore healthy nervous system function, touch into their innate resilience, improve their quality of life, and begin to thrive!
The Body Keeps Score by Bessel Van der Kolk
Somatic Experiencing Trauma Institute
Nervous System and Window of Tolerance
The Breathe Network is a resource for survivors of sexual violence
Michael Spencer is the founder of Let's Purify!, an online business dedicated to the purification and upliftment of the “home energy” of our living spaces, personal energy fields, and our planet. Michael has honed a process called Home Energy Purification to help soulful people release attachments to accumulated belongings and experience greater freedom in all areas of life. As a former mental health counselor, and with training as Reiki practitioner and Modern Day Priestess, Michael brings a wide variety of expertise - and a whole lot of heart - to her services.
Michael is also the host of The Let's Purify! Podcast where she shares inspiration, tips, and stories designed to help people get crystal clear about what they choose to carry with them into their next phase of life.
Podcast on iTunes: https://itunes.apple.com/us/podcast/the-lets-purify-podcast/id1428645349?mt=2
Esther is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker, Psychotherapist and Trauma Specialist from New York, U.S.A. Esther speaks to Julie today about everybody having a different life story. Integrative Psychotherapy, the name of her private practice is about picking up the pieces and integrating all the parts of self; experience life in a more wholesome way. Listen as Esther and Julie speak about the importance of a therapeutic relationship and how as therapists we don’t want our clients to always be on their “best” behaviour in session.
Basic Article on “Attachment”
Nathalie Graveline Nurse Practitioner from Even Keel Health in Ontario, Canada will be working out of my physical office effective immediately. Nathalie will bring to the community an abundance of mental health and addiction experience together with her nursing expertise. Nathalie has a strong background in community mental health including helping former patients and clients with complex health and psychosocial needs. Get to know Nathalie a little bit in today’s podcast and if you are not located in and around our catchment area you may benefit from learning a little behind the scenes knowledge of working a case and what goes into it. All in the name of choosing the right mental health professional for your specific needs.
What is a Nurse Practitioner? https://npao.org/about-npao/what-is-a-np/?
As a Licensed Clinical Professional Counsellor hear Alexia Muniz Catan talk about her journey recognizing a gap in her community and creating a program for her not-for-profit in order to meet the need. Alexia attended, onsite at the family’s residence for family support. She provided care for families with intellectual disabilities as well as autistic individuals in her local counties. This then had her moving towards online private practice. Alexia and Julie both work with kids as young as 5 years old, they discuss online practice and their thoughts around what age is appropriate to work with youth online and what online practice would look like with a younger population as online therapy practice emerges.
Alexia practices mostly using Solution-Focused therapy; she looks at the basis of what is comfortable for the client when processing what is going on to help them transition to change. Asking clients about what they did or didn’t like in past therapy experiences and how there is value in knowing, as your therapist, what you didn’t like. A great discussion ensues around the importance of continuing to work with your therapist during times you might feel uncomfortable and assessing if this is a regular pattern in your life that therapy can help with.
Alexia Muniz Catan - Contact - Alexia@daily-living-co.com
Totika - https://ca-childtherapytoys.glopalstore.com/products/totika-game-includes-self-esteem-cards?utm_campaign=pr_r&utm_source=https://www.childtherapytoys.com&utm_medium=wi_proxy&utm_content=en_US&utm_term=a
Alexia Muniz, LCPC on 15 Minute Interviews https://youtu.be/g4_xIGpbAsA
In this solo episode and the first for Season 2 Julie speaks candidly about her experience enforcing her own self-care ritual through a trying time in her life. It is important to remain human in this podcast experience hoping to continue to de-mystify the therapy experience for listeners. We are all human and listen up as Julie shares the human side of herself.
A Healthy Nervous System - http://www.appliedbiofeedbacksolutions.com/ans-2.html
Emotions Are Physical Emotions Are Physical - Emotions Are Physical - https://psychcentral.com/blog/emotions-are-physical/
In this last episode in the four part series ‘Parenting the Restorative Way’ with Rick Kelly he and I talk about how parents and caregivers can be challenged to communicate with professionals involved with their child. Rick explains how he maps out all the responsibilities parents have and how parents are their child’s village (in relation to ‘It Takes a Village to Raise a Child’) and how parents are managing multiple roles at one time. Recognizing and learning how to be your child’s best advocate while interacting in settings where professionals see themselves as experts can be intimidating, frustrating and negatively impactful.
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In this last episode for season 1 of #Parenting…Who? Podcast Julie takes a bit of time in the intro today to talk about her podcasting experience and an idea moving forward for a season 2 episode. Our guest in today’s podcast is Traci Pirri from homeforthejourney.org. Traci is a Licensed Clinical Social Worker from Austin Texas. She coaches families and individuals on all parts related to the adoption triad – the adopted parent, the adoptee as well as birth parent support. Traci has an interesting perspective as an adoptive parent herself and listen as she delves into the intricate and often times sensitive areas of taking that huge leap of faith called adoption – whatever that may look like for you.
Be sure to leave a comment in iTunes for #Parenting…Who? Podcast – we want to hear from you! And stay tuned for season 2 which will be launched later in the Fall of 2018. Thank you for your on-going support.
Meet Babita Spinelli in today’s podcast! Babita is a Licensed Psychotherapist/Psycholanalyst who practices in New York and New Jersey, USA. A quote from her website “Everything has changed and yet I am more me than I have ever been” by Ian Thomas; this quote really resonated with me (read it again, it’s a deep one!) when I was preparing for today’s interview. Babita shares a personal story about how she committed to doing her own personal work, navigating her own life. As she found herself she noticed how things were changing really helped her to be more connected with who she was. The unfolding of this journey can be huge for those who work through the therapy process. Babita also shares how her love of doors informed the naming of her practice in a unique and special way!
In the last of our 5 part series on Unpacking Eating Disorders Sarah Terwilligar
discusses parental self-reflection and the importance of being healthy and seeking one’s own support. Supporting a loved one struggling with eating and/or an eating disorder can be really difficult. Noticing how and what you say verbally and non-verbally has an impact on the child/youth in your environment and this includes things like dieting. Children and teens should not be dieting and reflecting on your desire to “diet” and all that comes with this has an impact. Increasing your awareness about what is difficult for the child or youth, especially around family dinners, special holidays, celebrations and traditions or going shopping or out for dinner as a family is key as well.
In the 4th of our 5 part series on Unpacking Eating Disorders Sarah Terwilligar discusses - What is an eating disorder symptom, how symptoms are hidden and what this looks like i.e. smearing. We talk as well about learning how to observe and what to look for and the importance of understanding eating disorders first so that you can better observe and understand the symptoms for your child which is one of the foundational reasons we created the Eating Disorder Caregiver Coaching Group!
Understanding more about the mentality of getting rid of nutrition so it doesn’t go in their body, the if I don’t eat it all that’s better (in the case of restriction). And the dangerous effects of pro-Ana websites on social media – what they are and what their intention is.
NOTE: This episode could be triggering**
In today’s episode you will meet Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor Alicia Bradley from Chicago, IL. We have an extensive chat in today’s episode including Alicia’s work with foster and adoptive families and supporting the unique challenges these families face. We also discuss a bit about our online clinical work (we both work with kids!) as well as her after card work with young adults who have aged out of the system – what this means and what the unique challenges they face are, especially when it comes to relationships. Alicia also speaks about her Dialectical Behaviour (DBT) work as well as Oppositional Defiance Disorder and the unique challenges (many power struggles) with this dynamic.
This is the third of a four part series with Rick Kelly. Today we carry on the conversation related to Parenting the Restorative Way. Rick speaks about the key role of relationships is to be intentional and learn about a growth mindset rather than a fixed mindset and why focusing on accomplishments rather than effort is not helpful in the bigger picture.
Some youth are challenged with transitional points in their development i.e. graduating high school where they may have been able to achieve many things but lack a sense of ability about how they could do what they did. Unfortunately this lagging can become a crisis situation for the individual as well as the family as it can happen very quickly.
Linda Meier Abdelsayed grew up in Germany and France. After graduating from the American School of Paris in 2004, she moved to the U.K. and received a Bachelor of Arts in Music and Psychology in 2007. She then moved to California and graduated from Pepperdine University with a Masters in Clinical Psychology in 2009. Since graduating Pepperdine, she has worked with the Los Angeles Department of Mental Health, Regional Centers, Insurance Companies, and Private paying clients.
In addition to her clinical experience, she has also been an Adjunct Practicum Professor at Pepperdine University in their Masters in Clinical Psychology program guiding and supporting students to make strong clinical decisions as they learn to become therapists themselves. Linda is licensed in both California and Illinois.
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Have you struggled with an unpleasant experience with pleasure and/or your sexuality?
Today my conversation with Tracy Montgomery, a Certified Sexological Bodyworker and somatic sex educator helps to normalize why pleasure is important in your life. How uncomfortable is not unsafe and what this means including the notion that we can trust ourselves to know when something is right. Tracy talks about getting turned onto life and how we can change the world when we feel good about ourselves.
We also talk about being mindful, present and in the moment and how something like shame disconnects us from being present in our own body. Shame is pleasure interrupted in our bodies – when we avoid the bad stuff we can’t feel the good.
Dr. Liz Bonet has her own successful podcast series known as Hypnotize Me with over 50,000 downloads! She discusses with me today what led her towards hypnotherapy work through her own experience with an urge that came up in her parenting style that contradicted who she wanted to be as a parent.
Dr. Bonet intuitively sought out support in this area and was able to process things to the point this subconscious urge become much less afterwards. This is the goal of hypnotherapy ~ retrieving a different answer and aligning subconscious with conscious. She speaks about the processes of doing hypnotherapy and core healing work and why this is important to your role as a parent in your child's life. Learn how the work of core healing hypnosis can help you heal your own (old) wounds.
Evelyn is a Registered Social Worker with a Master in Social Work and a Master of Arts in International Development Studies. She shares how her passion for helping people turned into a job working in a men's homeless shelter. Together we discuss the importance of self in a helping relationship, working with a vulnerable population requires this! A homeless men's shelter is one place where self-loathe is ever present. Evelyn discusses how she works with helping men identify the self-hate they carry with them and how aligning negative behaviours with personal values; personal values that may first need to be discovered. She also discusses the importance of language and how we miss the opportunity to connect with someone through making assumptions and using language that has different meanings for both people. Discussing the impact of family of origin and why understanding, not blaming, family of origin plays a role towards recovery.
Amanda practices as a Licensed Clinical Social Work in Connecticut, U.S.A. Julie and Amanda met in a forum for Online Therapists and share a conversation with you between two therapists. Amanda shares about her draw to become a therapist, the influence in her life as well as Eye Movement Desensitization and Reprocessing (EMDR) therapy as a solution to some traumatic experiences.
Mindset: The New Psychology of Success
The Power of Vulnerability
My guest today is once again Rick Kelly. This is the second of a 4 part series. Rick discusses shame and how what happens to our child/youth also happens to us as their parents. How we can't protect our kids in all circumstances - how we must check in with ourselves and help them learn how to be in the driver's seat of their life!
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What I have realized is the interviews and connections with my guests are so rich with information that we can not possibly do just one episode. Rick is no exception! Rick is a fellow colleague and Child and Youth Care Practitioner. He has over 40 years working as a child and youth worker and prides himself on thinking outside the box using innovation, creativity, prevention, health promotion, advocacy and systems change. In our time in this first episode Risk provides some insight into how he accidentally fell into the world of Restorative Practice and how this newfound knowledge opened many doors, paradigms and ways of looking at things and he hasn't turned back since. To learn more about Restorative Practice and within the context of parenting your child I guarantee you won't look back. Restorative Practice is an extremely powerful practice that can change lives, build and connect communities and dare I say truly make a difference in a world that is open and welcomes this practice.
NOTE: This episode could be triggering**
This is episode three of our series, together with my colleague Sarah Terwilligar, we continue to discuss elements of our new virtual eating disorder caregiver coaching group program.
In this episode we are going to discuss Understanding the Eating Disorder, helping caregivers with understanding, from a practical lens, what it is like to not just have an eating disorder but also understanding the eating disorder voice, symptoms and the reason empathy is so important.
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Evanye shares how she came to about her work in 'The Self Love Center', a space she created for people pleasers, worriers, over-thinkers and people tired of doing the same old things in their life. For people who describe themselves as unhappy and just want to be free from pain, hurt and fear. Are 'core wounds' running the show for you? Evanye speaks about how having friction in your life is necessary to grow and through this process she asks people 'What stories are you telling yourself?" and how not to get lost in their stories which ultimately can become a big part of their identity and how to get out of this space; feel more peace and accept where you are. Loving yourself is part of your story and Evanye helps you to learn where to look to find this!
(free class starting May 6 2018!)
Sheilagh O'Sullivan is a Lost and Found Specialist. She works with those aged 14 years + from all walks of life helping them to find fulfilling, meaningful and emotionally uplifting lives.
Her areas of focus are loss, grief and bereavement as well as compassion fatigue, vicarious trauma and burnout and adoption. In today's podcast Sheilagh will define grief and mourning, dual process and provide a resource based on an image that can be helpful to contextualize grief.
O’Sullivan Psychotherapy osullivanpsychotherapy.com
Dennis the Menace dennisthemenace.com
Patrick Bazinet patrickbazinet.com
This is episode two of a series with my colleague Sarah Terwilligar, we discuss aspects of our new virtual eating disorder caregiver coaching group program. In this episode Sarah is sharing the spectrum/continuum of disordered eating where it starts and how it progresses. There is no one size fits all presentation with an eating disorder, it looks differently for everyone. Eating disorder sub-types are introduced and explained and how thinking ‘this is just a phase’ is unhealthy and why. We spoke about how one does not need to have a formal diagnosis and how a negative body image could exist without disordered eating. Asking, are these issues disrupting your life? Are you pre-occupied with your size and shape?
This is two of a series of episodes on the topic of eating disorders and disordered eating, stay tuned for more!
Together with my colleague Sarah Terwilligar we discuss aspects of our new virtual eating disorder caregiver coaching group program which in this episode includes a discussion about social media and the comparative nature of this medium; how this can impact language we use specific to dieting/calories/body image/self-esteem. We also discuss a spectrum of where one may land in terms of disordered eating or eating disorders and the importance of accepting your own body rather than living up to social media perception. This is one of a series of episodes on the topic of eating disorders and disordered eating so stay tuned!
Please note, any and all information provided by this podcast should not be used as a substitute to seeking professional guidance that may be relevant to your own personal situation. This podcast is not intended to be a substitute for mental health therapy.
In this episode I dedicate the full episode to reviewing a wonderful, easy read document – one where you don’t have to be a clinician or therapist to understand! The title is “Developmental Trauma Close Up”. This article was writer by Dr Shoshanah Lyons, Dr Kathryn Whyte, Ruth Stephens and Helen Townsend. The authors state that above all this is an article of hope. I wanted to share that hope to you, the listeners that may be struggling either as a parent or a caregiver of a child or youth or as an adult who finds themselves struggling with day-to-day life and how, when viewed in the context of trauma-informed care your perspective may change. Please note, any and all information provided by this article should not be used as a substitute to seeking professional guidance that may be relevant to your own personal situation. This podcast is not intended to be a substitute for mental health therapy. See related video.
The idea for a podcast came to me because I wanted an opportunity to share my knowledge, insights and information. So many individuals are struggling with or are challenged, even if from time to time, aspects of mental health or mental health wellness, balance in their lives. Rather than sit back and wait for clients to book sessions with me I wanted to spend some time connecting to my passion which is helping people.
I love listening to informative podcasts and I hope that this podcast can be a great resource for you or someone you know. For this initial, raw and completely unedited podcast you get an opportunity to get to know me for me, how I found myself becoming a therapist; my journey as a mature student and parent venturing into the world of University studies. It was a very big decision with a huge pay off in the end and I am happy to be here.
Show Notes: www.sarahterwilligar.com/