It's Just You and Me
By Julie Maxwell
I am very biased but I think my people are very interesting people and I want to showcase that. I've already found so much joy in love creating spaces where people feel like they can be vulnerable. And so we talk and then to make the conversation more even, I offer every guest an opportunity to ask me anything that they want at the end of each episode which I am calling my moment of vulnerability. Join me on this journey.
The views, information, or opinions expressed on this podcast are solely those of the individuals involved.
It's Just You and MeJun 04, 2021
Dad's journey with AA
Resources:
Alcoholics Anonymous - www.aa.org/
Gamblers Anonymous - www.gamblersanonymous.org/ga/content/about-us
The world of fan fiction
Jen talks to the pod about fan fiction and I am delighted.
Resources:
An Archive of Our Own - https://archiveofourown.org/
What is sacred
Amy joins the pod to talk about what sacred means to her and to the people in her life.
Resources:
Johnnyswim Tiny Desk - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=l0f6KGsrt-4
Johnnyswin Live from the Backyard - https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=X52aEkT0Ess
Conservation hunter
John talks about what it's like to be a hunter and conservationist and teaches Julie things she has always wanted to know about guns and hunting.
Resources:
A Snapshot of the Boone and Crockett Club - https://www.boone-crockett.org/snapshot-boone-and-crockett-club
Ducks Unlimited - Conserving Wetlands & Waterfowl https://www.ducks.org/conservation/how-du-conserves-wetlands-and-waterfowl
25 REASONS WHY HUNTING IS CONSERVATION https://www.rmef.org/hunting-is-conservation/#:~:text=Thanks%20to%20the%20money%20and,are%20more%20than%2030%20million
Pandemic wedding
Aydin talks about what it's like to plan and have a wedding during a global pandemic. And we talk about delicious food.
OCD
Shawn shares what it's like to have OCD and how he manages. And a sad update to listeners is that Shawn's spider I reference numerous times has died.
Resources:
A New Yorker in the pandemic
Emy shares what it's been like to live in NYC during the pandemic and then we both share a lot of thoughts about inequality.
A conversation about not having children
Nick talks to the pod about being an adult who is married and happy and doesn't have children.
Finding your birth family
Ro talks to the pod about being adopted and finding her birth family in her 60s.
Political nerd
Mel teaches me what the Overton window is and we talk about conspiracy theories.
Internet friends
Mending
Noah talks about what it means to them to mend their own clothes and how we should all think of our clothes as stories.
Follow Noah on insta: @n.r.carsonnelson
things Noah referenced:
1. Greenpeace's Detox My Fashion campaign: https://www.greenpeace.org/international/act/detox/. Is primarily focused on the effects of chemicals used in clothing manufacturing, particularly on waterways but also the larger environment and by proxy the humans who depend on waterways and air (spoiler alert: all of us, but mostly non-white people & those in the Global South).
2. Mend!: A Refashioning Manual and Manifesto by Kate Sekules: https://bookshop.org/books/mend-a-refashioning-manual-and-manifesto/9780143135005
3. Mending Life: A Handbook for Repairing Clothes and Hearts by Sonya & Nina Montenegro: https://bookshop.org/books/mending-life-a-handbook-for-repairing-clothes-and-hearts/9781632172525?aid=609
Leaving politics to sell stories
Joel talks about his pivot from being a successful political consultant to opening up a vintage market in his own front yard.
Resources
Interracial Marriage
Beth talks about what it's like to be in an interracial marriage and raising mixed-raced kids in today's world.
Resources:
Intermarriage in the U.S. 50 Years After Loving v. Virginia - https://www.pewresearch.org/social-trends/2017/05/18/intermarriage-in-the-u-s-50-years-after-loving-v-virginia/
Uganda, a Fulbright, a pandemic
Lauren talks about her PhD work and the special place Uganda holds in her heart and what it means when you are awarded a Fulbright but a global pandemic hits.
Killjoys
Ilyse talks about what it's like to be a killjoy. And how killing joy can be one of the most radically wonderful things in the world.
Check out Ilyse's podcast (with the best Megan Goodwin) on all pod spaces. Keeping it 101: A Killjoy's Introduction to Religion https://keepingit101.com/
Traveling to Cambodia at the beginning of a global pandemic
Heather talks about the trip her and her husband took to Cambodia right as COVID-19 was becoming a global pandemic.
Interfaith activism
Randy talks about interfaith work and always saying yes to things.
Teaching in Ferguson
Elly talks about what it's been like for her to begin her teaching career in Ferguson, MO amidst racial tensions.
Travel
Forrest talks about why he loves to travel and the adventures he has been on.
Diagnosis: Uncertain
Emilie talks about what it's like to be in a medical system that can't tell you what might be wrong with you.
Resources:
The Dress Promised Me Something the Doctors Couldn’t from Modern Love
I Won’t Be Your Cancer Poster Child from Huffington Post
Everything Happens For A Reason: And Other Lies I’ve Loved by Kate Bowler
Being a professional musician
Dana talks about what it takes to be a professional musician and why music and the arts are so important.
Resources:
Leaving the church
Julie is here with the pod to talk about how she left ordained ministry and her current relationship with all things church.
Resources:
Struggling with (Non)violence by Julie Marie Todd
Getting Political
Erin talks to us about what it's like to be politically active, especially over the last few years.
Already Toast
Kate shares about her new book, Already Toast, and what it's like to be a caregiver to people you love.
Resources:
Buy Already Toast: https://www.penguinrandomhouse.com/books/659447/already-toast-by-kate-washington/
Kate's website: https://www.kawashington.com/
Kate's Twitter: https://twitter.com/washingtonkate
Signup for Kate's newsletter: https://tinyletter.com/alreadytoast
Kate's latest opinion piece for the New York Times: https://www.nytimes.com/2021/02/22/opinion/us-caregivers-biden.html?smtyp=cur&smid=tw-nytopinion
Kate's latest piece for Time Magazine: https://time.com/5944624/how-to-help-a-caregiver/
Kate's playlist for caregivers going through it: https://open.spotify.com/playlist/1nRkMNZW5sIlWSzHjRumuz
Link to Brad's book: https://www.finishinglinepress.com/product/the-scars-aligned-by-brad-buchanan/
Body image
Amy talks about how she has gotten comfortable in her body and how freeing that has been for her.
Dorothy and Elizabeth
Jen talks about our grandmothers, Dorthy and Elizabeth, and shares stories about who they were and how much we are like each of them.
Grandma
Grandma is here to share about her life and we are so thrilled.
Adoption
Laura tells us what it's like to adopt a baby and what a ride it is.
So you want to get a PhD
Jana talks about being a life-long learner and lover of all things higher ed.
And as an update, as of February 22nd, Jana has defended her dissertation and is officially a doctoral graduate!
The Family Crumb
Annie talks about making bread and The Family Crumb, her cottage bakery in Arkansas.
Resources:
The Family Crumb instagram (follow for BEST content)
Chosen Families
Taylor talks about what it means to be part of a chosen family and how that has helped them to blossom.
Since this recording, Taylor has come out as trans and this recording is using his previous pronouns. We are so proud of him!
Julie shares what its like to move multiple times and why she's done so in her moment of vulnerability.
What music means to me
Betsy talks about being a musician and what music does to her soul. Musical resources:
The Symphony No. 5 in C minor of Ludwig van BeethovenOp. 67
The Firebird by Igor Stravinsky
Alright, Alright (Seth and China Kent)
Loretta Lynn - Van Lear Rose album review
Brittany Howard Tiny Desk Concert
Nathaniel Rateliff (feat. Julie Davis) | Early Spring Till (Live Session)
Chronic annoyance
Alison talks about what happens when we don't know what's wrong and neither do the doctors. And how that has changed everything about her life.
Old gays
Heike talks about what it's like to be an old gay.
Julie talks about her wonder and delight in people.
Let's talk about depression
Hannah shares what it's like to live with depression and thrive.
Julie shares what she needs most in the coming year.
Resources:
The Secret Struggle of the Great Ss. Ignatius & Alphonsus: Scrupulosity
Why we should care about Native Plants
Maurya talks to us about what native plants are, why we should care about conservation, and what we can do to save the planet.
Julie answers the hard question of if she ever sees herself coming back to Chicago.
We are each others business - a discussion about suicide
Erin talks about her suicide attempts and why we should all talk more openly about mental illness and suicide.
"We are each other's business; we are each other's harvest; we are each other's magnitude and bond." - Gwendolyn Brooks
If you or anyone you love needs help, please visit National Suicide Prevention Lifeline https://suicidepreventionlifeline.org/ or call 1-800-273-8255. You are not alone.
A journey to Morocco
Katy talks about being in the Peace Corps, what it meant to her and how it changed her life.
Julie talks about someone who means a lot to her.
Resources:
Let's talk about sex and Catholicism, bebé.
Kahm joins us today to talk all things sex and religious studies, with a focus on Catholicism. A warning to all that sex, body parts, etc are explicitly but tastefully discussed.
Julie shares her thoughts on her own sexual education in her moment of intimacy.
Resources:
Family history
Kathy (Julie's mom) talks about why she's so interested in family history and shares some stories of her adventures in ancestry.
Julie is asked about where she'd want to travel.
Tales of a workplace disaster
Samantha joins to pod to bring some brevity to this dark season of the year, sharing stories of the time she was part of a catering staff at some very fancy parties. It gets really ugly, really quickly.
Julie shares her favorite memories of Samantha's husband Bryan.
Adult friendships, the agony and ecstasy
Ryan talks about friendship through the years, as a kid and now as an adult.
Julie talks about not only coming out but coming out in a pandemic.
The Story Our Clothes Tell
Michelle talks about how life changing making her own clothing has been and the stories our clothes share with the world.
Julie talks about what it feels like to be a femme plus-sized woman.
Resources:
Michelle's website (with links to her amazing weekly newsletter and her books)
We found love in a dusty place
Nat tells us his love story and what it means to be open to possibility.
Julie talks about where she would go if she could go anywhere and what's stopping her.
Chickens
Abby talks about raising chickens and how she was a horse girl.
Julie talks about why she's afraid of birds.
Coming out to ourselves
Hafsa shares the story of coming out, how it ties into her work as an anthropologist, and what it feels like to be seen as queer.
Julie talks about why she's doing this project and what it means to her.
Resources:
Touching Feeling: Affect, Pedagogy, Performativity by Eve Kosofsky Sedgwick
Tuna
Chris shares stories about his beloved dog Tuna and what it is like to deal with sudden loss of a companion.
Julie answers where is a space that she feels most vulnerable, most like herself.
Resources:
IRL: Finding Realness, Meaning, and Belonging in our Digital Lives by Chris Stedman
Bernie Sanders-loving Minneapolis dog goes adorably viral [VIDEO]
Garbage television that we love so dearly
Ali talks to us about her love affair with television that could be called garbage and what it means to learn from others whose lives are filmed.
Julie is asked to recall a ridiculous experience in her moment of vulnerability.
A Story About Recovery
Marissa tells us about her journey to sobriety and the value of talking about our dark times. *
Julie's moment of vulnerability pushes her to think about what she's afraid of.
*A warning to our listening friends, there is discussion of self harm and substance abuse in this episode.