I met a lady named Mia tonight at our Brookhaven Toastmasters at St. James UMC meeting. She said she came because she has lost her voice.
So I asked, “When was the last time you remember seeing it? Let’s treat it like a lost set of keys.”
She responded, “Back in 2014.” 😯 Allow me to share her story. But the story is not over. In fact, you’ll see that this is only the beginning!
I’ve been feeling myself pulling away lately. Withdrawing, and not really knowing why. I was unaware of why I was even feeling this way. But I think I know what’s going on now. Just like a lobster must take time to go harden it’s new shell whenever it grows, I must take some time to harden my new shell. Or run the risk of getting eaten alive because of my impatience, and my inability to control my eagerness.
Have you ever heard the saying, “Don’t meet your heroes because they’ll only let you down”? Well, I hate to break it to you... but it’s true.
But instead of avoiding your heroes for fear of disappointment, I believe that we should meet our heroes. For the same reason we think it's not good to meet them. So that we do get let down. Because the moment after the disappointment comes inspiration! The thought, “they’re only human too. Just like me. If they can do it, maybe I can do it!”
Many say that life is a mountain to climb. But what if unexpectedly, and quite suddenly, you find yourself at the top of your personal mountain? Do you set up residence there? Or do you keep going on to the next mountain? Because the next mountain looks even more challenging, but much more beautiful and more rewarding! Do you stay, or do you go? What would you do?
This idea hit me after watching a YouTube video of the 2015 Toastmasters World Champion, Mohammed Qahtani: The Power of Words- https://youtu.be/Iqq1roF4C8s
When he received the award at the end of the video, the audience erupted in applause!! 👏 They clapped and cheered so loud it sounded like some of them were roaring!
I suddenly realized it was because he was in a room full of like-minded people making progress towards their dreams and goals. Not a room full of his close friends and family members... think about that 🤔
After meeting two of my favorite groomers, that I really look up to in this industry, I realized that all three of us share some things in common that I believe is responsible for our success. Even though we’re so different, we all have something in common. I’d like to share what those common traits are in this podcast. I hope you enjoy it, and namaste 🙏
We are all born with something very special inside of us. I call it the light. We all have it inside of us. I want to encourage you to keep shining your light. Even if others have convinced you that your light is wrong. It’s the wrong color. It’s the wrong shape. It’s not bright enough - it will never be bright enough. Don’t believe them! Your light is your own, and it is unique for a reason. No matter what, keep shining. Keep smiling. Knowing that you are meant to shine, and you will always be enough 🙏🤗
I’ve done a lot of thinking recently about how exactly I went from a failing business owner to now a successful entrepreneur. After spending a lot of time meditating on this, I believe that I have defined the three ideas that made the most impact on my life. Tonight as I drive home I’d like to share the 3 life-changing ideas with you. I hope they serve you as well as they have served me. Namaste 🙏
You are currently REAPING what you have SOWN up until now. So if you don’t like what you’re reaping, you’ve got to start sowing better seed. “The soil says, ‘Don’t bring me your needs. Bring me your seeds!’” Jim Rohn
You have something that is priceless, and precious beyond compare. More precious than diamonds, more valuable than gold. It’s called your soul, and don’t ever sell it for anyone or anything!
Everyone is so beautifully precious, and rich beyond compare! All of us! 🤗 I know this to be true in my heart ♥️. I can recognize it. Because I am too 🙏 Namaste 🙏
What if I told you that you're going to die? What if I told you that you've got an inescapable, incurable condition called Life?
How differently would we live each day if we realized we are all suffering from this fatal condition? Would knowing that our time here is very limited change how we approach each day?
This condition called Life will knock you down over and over again until it finally clocks you out for good. No one knows how long you have. Life affects everyone differently. But make no mistake, life is going to get you. When we truly realize this, I believe that each day becomes precious. We will no longer want to waste them doing things we’d rather not do.
No matter how beautifully sculpted, or how intricately designed, there is not a single piece of pottery that would be useful to anyone until it goes into the furnace. I love to use this as an analogy to explain why we must all go into the furnace. Why life puts us under so much pressure sometimes. Because it hardens us. It puts a beautiful, protective glaze around us so that our inner confidence shines out brilliantly. Until we go through hard times, experience difficulties - go into the furnace of life, we will never be useful to anyone. Especially to ourselves!
Life is definitely a journey. With twists and turns, and unexpected obstacles. Sometimes you’re flying high, and sometimes you’re down in the mud. That’s life. Right now I’m in the process of getting myself out of the mud. Wherever you find yourself at this moment, I hope you never give up on yourself! Always remember that you have greatness within you! Unlimited potential, and unique gifts and talents to offer the world. Believe in yourself! And always value yourself... because if you don’t, you’ll have to depend on others to value you... and they won’t. I promise you, they won’t. You must learn to value yourself! You are worth it!! I promise you!!! You’re worth it!!
We are all born with unlimited potential. That is a fact.
Given enough time and effort, there’s no telling where someone could end up in life. But what if you’re not born with any noticeable gifts or talents? What if you’re not super smart, or tall, or strong? What if you’re not physically attractive? None of these things matter. Even the least likely person can become a Superhero, even if everyone else believes that it’s impossible.
All you have to do is understand this simple formula: Great Power = Great Responsibility.
Which also means: Great Responsibility = Great Power
All you have to do is take a great level of responsibility for your own life. Own it! All of it! The good and the bad. Stop blaming others or allowing yourself to be the victim. Take charge of your own life!
By taking personal responsibility, you become powerful! With Great Responsibility comes Great Power!
I never actually met Mark Cuban. 😔
This was just a dream that I had that was REALLY intense! It was such a vivid dream, and it felt so real.
I’m sharing this dream with you because the advice that my imaginary Mark Cuban gave me totally changed my mind set. I hope it helps you too 🙏❤️
I love the butterfly analogy!
The symbolism is powerful! We retreat from the world and struggle within, then return transformed into a beautiful new being. How beautiful is that? But there were a couple things that I missed about the butterfly analogy that would’ve really helped me had I understood them.
I’d like to share the two points that I missed in hopes that you get the idea much sooner than I did, and it will save you much heartache. 🤗❤️
I would like to share an idea that I got while watching the new Green Hornet, with Seth Rogen and Jay Chou. The idea is, “how do you do anything is how you do everything. “ if there was no excellent espresso, there would be no Kato. If there was no Kato, there would be no Green Hornet. The magic all started with a cup of coffee. Because how you do anything is how you do everything.
After the Toastmasters meeting tonight, I was so excited that I streamed live on YouTube to share my experience. Then I called my wife, got in the car and drove off. Halfway home I realized I left my journal on top of the car and never got it before getting back in! So I drove back to retrace my steps, but I couldn’t find it anywhere. My journal is gone, I’m freaking out, but after talking about it I’m feeling much better about the whole situation.
Rather than fight your fears, struggle with anxiety, learn to dance with them. Accept them as a necessary part of your story. Acceptance does not mean resignation - throwing your hands up in the air and giving up. Acceptance means understanding.
I’m so scared to release this podcast. I’m afraid of what people may think, or that their opinion of me may change. What if I lose all my fans? Or my clients? But something keeps telling me to publish this. No matter what the consequences are, I want to live more honestly.
This idea came up while doing a goal-setting session for a livestream on our YouTube channel. I gave the example of Aladdin and the genie 🧞♂️. He couldn’t make the princess fall in love with Aladdin ❤️
When making goals of your own, keep in mind, you can’t make anyone love you. Or treat you better - or treat you fairly. You cannot change or control people or circumstances. All we really have control over is ourselves, and how we respond to the people and circumstances in our lives.
However, just like Aladdin realized, you can’t change others, but you can change yourself. Become the kind of person who attracts the people and circumstances you wish you had in your life. Become the best version of yourself 🤗🙏
Today I had to say goodbye to my wife and daughters. They leave for Arizona to help and be with family out there. My father-in-law is lying in a hospital bed, not responding well to medication, and it looks like this may be their last chance to say “goodbye” 😭
Knowing what to do and actually doing it are two completely different worlds. We all know what we should do. That’s easy. It’s deciding to do what we know we should do that’s the challenge.
In this episode I explain why I believe that hard work is not enough. The key is to care about the work you do. The more you care, the more rewarded you’ll feel and people will appreciate you more as well. I use the example of my time working at a liquor store. I understand now why I had such a bad experience, and how different it could’ve been if only I had cared more about the work I was doing. Working hard might pay the bills, but true fulfillment only comes by genuinely caring about the work you do for others.
Loving your job, your craft, the work you do is literally a matter of life and death! Brian Tracy says that if you don’t love your job, get out of it the way you would get out of a burning building! Because that’s what it’s doing to your life! Soon the job you hate will burn all the creativity and desire that’s always been in your heart. Love the work you do! It’s literally a matter of life and death!
I’ve been thinking about letting go of resentments recently. Letting go of the past, and allowing old wounds to heal - forgiving myself and others for past mistakes. So when I heard Rudolph the Red-Nose Reindeer, it was like hearing it for the first time! I heard it differently this time. I asked myself, “What if Rudolph was bitter and resentful like me?” He wouldn’t have gone down in history, that’s for sure. At least not in a good way. It was because Rudolph was much wiser than me, he knew to let the past go and be willing to help when needed. “Then all the reindeer loved him! They even shouted out with glee! Rudolph the red-nose reindeer, you’ll go down in history!”
We are all like the Golden Buddha in Bangkok, Thailand. We are brilliant and priceless, but we’ve been convinced that we are not enough. We’ve been covered up with clay and made to believe that we are worthless. Sometimes the only way to discover, uncover, the greatness hidden inside is for life to break us. Only by falling out of the sky and having our outer shell removed can we reveal the brilliance that has been inside of you all along.
We love going to amusement parks as a family. My daughters love screaming as they feel their stomachs rising up out of their throats! 😂 That’s why the rides are so fun! The feeling that we’re going to die is why we go on the scariest rides, and we laugh afterwards. Some even go back in line! I like to think of planet earth that way. As a huge amusement park here in our galaxy. Some of the rides are safe and boring... and that’s fine if that’s your style. But for me, I’m here for the thrill!! For the laughs, the experiences, and the meaningful relationships that we create along the way.
The willingness to help others is what will motivate and inspire you to push yourself to learn more, try harder, and do the things that scare you. It’s what pulls you through the tough times when you fail or embarrass yourself. Like Alicia Keys says, “We are here. We are here for all of us, that’s why we are here.” 🎶
Focus on helping and serving others to the best of your ability. Not chasing the money. do it for what it will make of you, not for what can get, but who you will become! “Success is not something you pursue. Success is something you attract by the person you become.” Jim Rohn
Life is not about “getting it done” - accomplishing more than others or proving that you’re better. It’s about enjoying this experience we’re having called Life! So take the pressure off of yourself. The pressure to win, or to prove yourself to others. You’ve already won! So just breathe, enjoy this moment, and feel the relief come over you.
“Holding a grudge & harboring anger/resentment is poison to the soul. Get even with people…but not those who have hurt us, forget them, instead get even with those who have helped us.”
― Steve Maraboli
Although trophies, certificates, plaques and ribbons may fade away after we’re gone; the experiences we share with others, and the impact we have on the lives of others will last forever. #doitforthestory
Many people are playing the lottery tonight. Hoping to win millions and finally live a problem free life. But how many of those people have ever considered this one question after they do win: “and then what?”
I realized while trying to save this little snakes life over the weekend, that I don’t get upset up a snake for acting like a snake because I understand how a snake is supposed to act. This made me ask myself, “what if i approached everything like that?”
A special shout out to Santino, who also has a podcast on Anchor called The Crypto Kid where he talks about crypto-currency like bitcoin. I really appreciate the voice message, and the encouragement 🙏🙏🙏 Thank you so much!
In this episode I share my experiences from the time we owned a grocery store in the West End. During the time we owned the grocery store, we never got robbed. But the owners before us and after us all got robbed. I believe the difference was in the way we treated people.
Life is about the challenges and the struggle to overcome insurmountable obstacles. Even if you had the code to activate GOD Mode, would you really want to? Isn’t the joy of winning sweeter when it’s difficult?
Dr. Bruce Lipton has proven scientifically that our thoughts affect our bodies. Jon Kabat Zinn teaches us how to be more aware of the moment by breathing. I believe that by combining these two concepts - being more mindful of our thoughts and paying attention to our breath, we can live more for filled lives. Lives that are not so dominated by feelings of anxiety, Fear, sadness or anger. Then life takes on a whole new meaning.
I believe that everyone should start their own podcast, blog, or YouTube channel. You could even write a book! You're not doing it to try to get likes or subscribers, or to try to get rich & famous. You're doing it because we need your unique piece of the puzzle in order to get a clearer picture of what life is all about.
Misery loves company, but suffering hates it. We all have to suffer sometimes. That’s uncontrollable. What we can control is how we respond to the suffering. Misery is a choice, and it not only loves company it needs it. In this episode I offer my opinion on where misery comes from - why ppl feel miserable.
Sometimes it’s easy to feel down when others don’t give you the recognition you feel you deserve. People like your wife or your children or whoever it is you think you’re doing it for. Just remember the only thing that matters is how you feel about yourself. It’s so you can feel proud of yourself. Not so others can appreciate you. Because what if they don’t appreciate you the way you thought they would? It’s not for them it’s for you. When you do an outstanding job, you can feel good about yourself and proud of yourself.
The story of five monkeys in a cage perfectly illustrates why people behave the way they do when they see you going after your dreams. Don’t take it personal, don’t be offended, and don’t be surprised. It’s not because they hate you. Actually because they care. They’ve just been programmed by the generations before them.
When you’re in some serious trouble, who can you count on? Those are your friends, and the people you want to spend your time with the most. You don’t look to profit from them or look for benefits. Friendships are for our pleasure, not for our profit.
When I was a kid, I dreamed of one day becoming a rapper. But unfortunately, I let embarrassment, and the opinions of others, end my rap career before it ever got started.
The book I mention in this episode is called The 5 Second Rule: Transform your Life, Work, and Confidence with Everyday Courage by Mel Robbins. Available on Amazon: https://amzn.to/2L2SEHQ
When I got my DUI and I landed in jail for the first time, I thought my life was over. I thought I had completely ruined my chances of ever having a good life. Looking back now it was the best thing that could’ve ever happened to me!
Decide what YOU want out of life, and have the faith in yourself to go for it! You can achieve your dreams. Just be sure they’re your own. “Before scrambling up the ladder of SUCCESS, make sure it’s leaning again the right wall.” Steven R Covey