Just livin' life
By Bk and Nobue
This is Just livin' life with BK and Nobue. A show where BK and Nobue discuss candidly the ups and downs of relationships, friendships, parenting (from their inexperienced perspective at least) and life in general.
2021 - The year that was; the best of times and the worst of times. As we close out the year and the season, we thought to reflect on the past year: the wins, losses, joys and sorrows. Grateful to have made it out alive. We hope you'll take some time to reflect too, and be grateful for the pockets of sunshine through the stormy year. Wishing you a Happy 2022!
December 29, 2021
Decide, Don't Slide
Ever found yourself in a situation and wondered how you even got there? Ever noticed how often we just slide and glide through life, going through the motions, going with the flow? Think of the satisfaction that could come from being intentional and deciding the course your life takes, and not allowing it to just happen to you? This week we talk about being active and willing participants in our lives. Taking control and making decisions about the life we want, and not just sliding through it.
November 15, 2021
Staying Compatible by Staying Yourself
Sometimes in relationships, we can lose ourselves over time and before we know it, the person we were before we fell in love is completely gone, and in essence, the person our partner fell in love with is gone too. This week we talk about how to be in a relationship and not lose yourself; how to be part of a "we" without losing "me".
November 10, 2021
Submission ≠ Subservience
A round (well square) table discussion with our friends, Sipho and Thando Hobane, a young married couple like us, on the rather controversial topic of submission. What is it? Does it mean losing one's self? Is it unconditional or earned? Is it a thing in the 21st century?
October 14, 2021
Vulnerability - baring one's soul!
In this episode, we talk about vulnerability - baring one's soul to another, at the risk of being hurt, but in the hopes that we won't be. We review how we (often subconsciously) fail at it, and the reasons why, from personal experience. Our overall lesson is that we should do better at making ourselves vulnerable to the people we love, because vulnerability is the gateway to true companionship!
September 29, 2021
Marriage: Expectations vs. Reality (our experience)
When we look forward to marriage, we all build up these expectations about what it's going to look like, what the date nights will be like and the long weekends. Unfortunately, sometimes expectations don't become reality. In this episode, we chat about a few of our individual expectations that didn't necessarily become reality. Enjoy!
September 23, 2021
You can't 'FIX' people!
We've all looked at someone and thought, "I know exactly what they need, I know just how to fix them!". But do we? Can we fix people? Sadly, the answer is no. We can inspire, educate and support them towards change, but we humans simply cannot fix people.
September 14, 2021
You've changed, as you should!
In the words of Heraclitus, "The only constant in life is change." If this is true, why then are we so uncomfortable with change? Why is it so unnerving and scary to embrace and express, and yet, once done, it can be the most liberating feeling ever? In this episode, we discuss change - How it's unavoidable and bigger than that, needed. We need to change to grow and, and we need to grow to live. Nkazi's post: https://m.facebook.com/story.php?story_fbid=10223869395715510&id=1614292868 Relatable Whispers Podcast where my mom talks about parenting: https://podcasts.google.com/feed/aHR0cHM6Ly9hbmNob3IuZm0vcy8xZmJlMmZlOC9wb2RjYXN0L3Jzcw?ep=14
September 07, 2021
So money ...
In this episode, we discuss money. We talk about our value system, the foundation, which informs how we view and use money. We then tap into the importance of being conscious that two individuals can be at different phases of their financial lives, based on our personal experience being 6 years apart in age, and how to tackle that. Lastly, we give a glimpse into how we use and allocate our money - the system that works for us, and might work for someone else. Enjoy!
August 31, 2021
Being a Couple
The shift from being single and carefree to being in a relationship or from courtship to marriage with someone isn't always a natural and smooth transition. The dynamics change so quickly. Suddenly you begin to share your life with someone and you are accountable to them. Failure to transition in a healthy way can lead to disgruntlement in a relationship which may lead to premature termination of the relationship. In this episode, we explore what it means to be a couple and give a few tips that helped us with our transition.
April 05, 2020
Navigating Long Distance Relationships
Life sometimes leads us to unfavourable circumstances. A long-distance relationship is one such example. The temptation is often to throw in the towel and completely give up on the relationship but that need not be. In this episode, we explore how to navigate long-distance relationships. We can say from experience that hard as it might be, it is possible to have a beautiful and healthy long-distance relationship, it just takes being intentional.
February 22, 2020
Remember the day you first fell in love with your person? How there never seemed to be enough hours in a day for you to say all you had to say to them? Have you watched those warm fuzzies slowly dwindle? How you are both still so in love with each other but it just ain't quite the same anymore? In this episode, we explore why that is. "Love is like a friendship caught on fire. In the beginning a flame, very pretty, often hot and fierce, but still only light and flickering. As love grows older, our hearts mature and our love becomes as coals, deep-burning and unquenchable." - Bruce Lee
February 15, 2020
In this episode we talk about money, the ups and downs of merging your financial lives within a relationship. Enjoy, and as always be sure to leave a comment, like, share rate and review. Find us on social media: https://facebook.com/justlivinlifepodcast https://twitter.com/justlivinlifePC https://instagram.com/justlivinlifeonig
July 30, 2018
In this episode we talk about forgiveness as a follow up to last week's episode on apologising. Enjoy! Like and review our facebook page: facebook.com/justlivinlifepodcast Find us on twitter: @justlivinlifePC Support us on Patreon: patreon.com/justlivinlife
June 29, 2018
Apologizing is strength
In this episode, we talk about apologising, how it can be hard sometimes but is always necessary. We also talk a little about the five apology languages. Enjoy! Like and review our facebook page: facebook.com/justlivinlifepodcast Find us on twitter: @justlivinlifePC Support us on Patreon: patreon.com/justlivinlife
June 19, 2018
Get good at fighting
In this episode, we talk about conflict resolution. Every relationship will have arguments because we're all different people. Unless you learn to be good at fighting you won't survive. Enjoy! Like and review our facebook page: facebook.com/justlivinlifepodcast Find us on twitter: @justlivinlifePC Support us on Patreon: patreon.com/justlivinlife
June 11, 2018
The apple does not fall far from the tree
In this episode, we discuss the effects that our environment early in life can have on who we become later in life. We talk about how to talk about and possibly unlearn some of the bad traits we may have picked up from our parents. Enjoy! Subscribe to our Youtube channel: www.youtube.com/channel/UCNNaw5_xYuNle7jUU5Y8mmQ Like and review our facebook page: facebook.com/justlivinlifepodcast Find us on twitter: @justlivinlifePC Support us on Patreon: patreon.com/justlivinlife
June 06, 2018
Flaws: Finding beauty in the cracks
In this week's episode we explore a few ways to approach flaws in your partner within a relationship. As the adage goes, "Consider how hard it is to change yourself and you'll understand what little chance you have in trying to change others." We all have flaws, ultimately we need to choose one with flaws we can live with then live and let live. Enjoy! Like and review our facebook page: facebook.com/justlivinlifepodcast Find us on twitter: @justlivinlifePC Support us on Patreon: patreon.com/justlivinlife
May 28, 2018
Love isn't enough
In this episode we talk about love, we share how love is not enough to sustain a healthy and happy relationship. In fact, in a lot of cases if love is all that's there then it can be quite detrimental. Enjoy! Please rate, review, comment and subscribe. https://facebook.com/justlivinlifepodcast https://patreon.com/justlivinlife
May 21, 2018
In this first episode of the Just livin' life podcast we talk about friendship within a relationship and how we think it's one of the most important elements of any relationship. We also chat a bit about our plans for the podcast. We hope you enjoy. Please leave your comments and help us grow. Follow us on facebook at https://www.facebook.com/justlivinlifepodcast/ Follow us on Sound Cloud at https://soundcloud.com/justlivinlifepodcast/ep1 Subscribe to our Youtube Channel at https://www.youtube.com/channel/UCNNaw5_xYuNle7jUU5Y8mmQ
May 15, 2018