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Anytime I hop on the mic and speak to y'all about some personal stuff, it seems to be peoples fav. Most of you know, if you have listened to the podcast before, I am very honest about my anger issue and the fact that I am addicted. I have cycles where my anger can not present at well, but then there are times it just floods out. I am gonna tallk about it.

Nothing is wrong with being proud; I feel like today is replaced with the word ego. But sometimes, too much pride makes you too connected to things. Being tot connected to things and to emotions makes it hard to make good decisions, and sometimes, it makes you a know-it-all. Over time, this will cause your heart to harden, and you may end up like Pharaoh.

People can protect their money, and sometimes they can protect their time. But they do not preserve their energy. Are you feeling tired or emotionally burnt out? It is because you need to start protecting your energy. To achieve inner peace, you have to work on these three things. Losing energy and time always costs money. Tap in

I believe in being difficult because I think difficult people are difficult, and I don't mean negative or attention-seeking. The people who have to oppose things just to be noticed and remarked as "difficult." I am talking about the kind of difficult that creates change, you stand up for yourself, and do not let people walk all over you. The kind of person who strives for change, and gets branded as "difficult to work with".

People will try to attack your character and break you down until you are a shell of yourself. You need to remember that your identity is built around your character and your personality, and no one can take it from you unless you allow them.

I don't feel like I could have ended this episode without talking about boundaries. I feel like when you are working on yourself, you have to face this conversation at some point. What does it mean for you to have boundaries? Firstly, with yourself? Are you respecting yourself and your limits?

Therefore, I feel like to be "That Girl," which embodies focusing on your health and prizing yourself, you need to work on how much energy you put into people and how much they drain you.

To Mark my 33 birthday, I felt like giving some wisdom. So, after 33 years, here are some essential lessons I have taken with me on my challenging yet enlightening journey.

Some I wish I learned in my 20's, which I think would have made life easier. But nevertheless here they are

33 lessons 

1. confidence 
2. Never count yourself out
3. Believe 
4. Find values 
5. Keep trying 
6. Know yourself
7. Admit your faults 
8. Admit your strengths 
9. Don’t believe in work hard
10. Listen to your body
11. Prioritize yourself 
12. Cry 
13. Scream 
14. Have an emotional breakdown 
15. Take a day but get back up
16. Take a mental health day 
17. Get into alignment with yourself 
18. Create a life 
19. Read 
20. Travel 
21. Spend time with yourself 
22. Be kind to self
23. Sell yourself your dream
24. This is not That 
25. You can break a family curse 
26. Rely on self
27. Stop worrying 
28. Be bold
29. Say no
30. Stay firm 
31. Take risks
32. Be quiet 
33. Learn 

So, what exactly does it mean to be 'that girl'? She's not just about looks or style; she's about confidence, independence, and owning her life. And guess what? Building your finances plays a massive role in achieving that.

In this episode, I talk about looking at your finances and becoming financially independent.

 The importance of mental strength. It enables us to endure hardships, navigate challenges, and persevere in the face of adversity. Mental strength empowers us to stay focused, resilient, and determined in pursuit of our goals. But people who are mentally strong eventually break or have breakdowns because they carry everyone else's stuff. Is this you?

A good perfume has the transformative power to make you "that girl" - confident, irresistible, and unforgettable. With just a spritz, it becomes your signature, leaving a trail of allure wherever you go. It boosts your mood, elevates your presence, and evokes admiration from those around you. Embrace the essence of confidence and allure with the perfect fragrance, and become the captivating woman you were always meant to be.

I felt this would be a good episode for number 2. As I said, I wanted to talk about That Girl without really talking about about spending money. But this is about a confidence boost, an instant one.

Ending a relationship is like navigating through a stormy sea of emotions, fraught with uncertainty and heartache. It's confronting the fear of loneliness, facing the unknown, and mourning the loss of shared dreams. The decision weighs heavy on the heart, as memories flood in, intertwining with the pain of letting go. Yet, amidst the anguish, there's a glimmer of hope for healing and growth. It's a journey of self-discovery, learning to prioritize self-love and inner peace. Despite the difficulty, ending a relationship can also be a courageous step towards a brighter, more authentic future.

On this one I talk about setting up the tombstones.

Empowerment is at the heart of being “that girl.” It’s about lifting others up, amplifying their voices, and championing causes that matter. Empowered women empower women—it’s a ripple effect of positivity and strength that creates lasting change in the world. What better way to do that than to create a happier life for yourself? A lot of people depend on external factors to make them happy.

But eventually, all you are doing is bogging yourself down. In this podcast I talk about what I did to channel my Inner "That Girl" starting with cultivating my own happiness. I went back to the things I like and where I needed to make space and time in my life.

A cage doesn't always look like a cage; it can manifest as a mental prison, invisible yet suffocating.  It's the self-doubt that holds you back, the limiting beliefs that confine your potential. Recognize the bars of negativity and fear, and break free by cultivating self-awareness and empowerment. True freedom begins with liberating the mind from its own constraints.

For the Month of March, the series drops every Thursday at 12 pm

Let’s be real—being “that girl” isn’t always easy. It means facing criticism, judgment, and adversity head-on. It means stepping out of your comfort zone, taking risks, and embracing failure as a learning opportunity. But through it all, remember that your authenticity is your superpower, and it’s what sets you apart in a world that often encourages conformity. I want to just talk to y'all about what you can expect from the series. I broke it into four sections where a person can begin a unique journey. Often, when this subject comes up, I think people think a lot about money and how expensive the "The Girl" aesthetic is, but it's not about the look. It is more about wearing the confidence.

So, what does it take to embody the essence of “that girl”? It starts with self-awareness and self-acceptance. Knowing who you are, what you stand for, and what you want from life lays the foundation for authenticity. Embrace your quirks, your passions, and your imperfections—they’re what make you beautifully you.

I decided to reclaim my life, realizing the importance of taking charge. Embracing this journey means breaking free from constraints, making choices aligned with my dreams, and shaping my destiny. Empowerment comes from within, and seizing control transforms challenges into opportunities, turning the page to a chapter where I am the author of my narrative.

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On this episode, I wanted to give my thoughts on Kat Williams and the interview he did. There were so many suitable life lessons that it is easy to miss. While he definitely threw some shade, he also provided, I think, a lot of encouragement to the underdog or people that work their butt off and do not get recognized.

"Chop wood, carry water" is a Zen proverb that emphasizes the significance of mindfulness and presence in everyday tasks. It suggests finding meaning in the simplicity of life's routine activities. By focusing on the process rather than the end result, one discovers profound insights and a deeper connection to the present moment. This philosophy highlights the transformative power of mindfulness, encouraging individuals to find purpose in the mundane and appreciate the journey as much as the destination.

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In life, prioritizing your well-being sometimes means ignoring negative people and, when necessary, cutting them off. Surrounding yourself with positivity fosters personal growth and mental peace, allowing you to focus on relationships that uplift and inspire. Setting boundaries is a powerful act of self-care, creating space for healthier connections and a more fulfilling journey.

There are some people in life who love to be negative because they secretly hate themselves, they will always find a problem and an issue but will never fix it. Notice when you have a solution or try to fix it...they hate you now...You took away the only reason they live...Just cut them out and don't engage bothering u is there food.

Black History Month is a powerful time for black people to celebrate and own their unique experiences. Embracing one's blackness fosters pride, resilience, and a deep connection to a rich cultural heritage, contributing to the collective narrative of strength and accomplishment. It's an opportunity to amplify voices, challenge stereotypes, and inspire future generations.

It also serves as a time to remember that black people are resilient and that we have fought and earned our seat at the table.

People misunderstand value as though it is something that is controlled by external factors. When in reality it is something that is controlled by Intrinsic factors and our nature. Lots of people have internal conflict because they go against or operate outside of their important values, the thing that she pilot their daily lives

People say this all the time, but words matter. What you say to yourself and the narrative that you create about yourself really matters. Words have the power to empower or disarm you and in remembering that you need to be mindful of what you to yourself or what you say about yourself. This is adding limits to yourself, and remember you are limitless but words do have the power to bind you.

They will never. I just saved you a lot of mental energy. Does not matter what you do or say for them they will never value or appreciate you. Worse whenever you have to tell someone that you don't valued it is a sign that you need to leave the situation alone. Stop wasting your words on people who frankly could care less about you. They will just find someone else to burn out.

One day you just wake up and realize how much of your energy you have spent on things and people that do not matter. How much energy you spend minding other peoples lives and visioning what it would be like to be them. To some extent you are probably exhausted because you are trying to live in someone else's path. But some conversations you just have to kill. One of the ones I found my energy drained on is having children or being married, I dropped that conversation because if it is my path it will happen if it is not then... C'est la vie

So I did not do a recap podcast. I did not feel like reliving the trials of 2023. Instead I wanted to talk about what I learned and what we can all learn from hard times and how we can foster a better sense of self.

Broke people both spittually and phsyically.

Sandpaper is used to make things soft, it is used to smooth things over. But it is also used to form and shape, it is used to sharpen and object visually so you can see the curves.

Why did I use this? Sandpaper I would liek to use to symbolize peace which when you have peace you have the ability to have form, you have the ability to be smoothe.... Listen and see if you can connect

Welcome to the Holiday Season! This December is different from the rest because this year I want to encourage you to pay attention to the people and the language around you. People have a way and trying to cut down your dreams and let you know that you will never do better than where you are. I want to promote a BETTER you walking into 2024.

I am not saying that you have to drop people, but I am telling you that you need to start paying attention to what people are saying to you and about you. My father called me worthless and told me that I had never amounted to anything. It hurt, he sought otther ways to attack me financially, but it was no use. Once you understand people try to project there feelings of self to you and make it your narrative, nothing they say will effect you.

People who adapt are the people who have strong will. Life has lots of changes, it is just about how you roll with the punches. By the way no decision is a decision. So strap up and get your head in the game.

Sometimes it is necessary. Who is your true person? Are you not tired of people telling you who you should be and how you should act? Do you not feel better when you embody your true persona.

What stories about you are keeping alive? Changing is such a hard thing to do, believe it or not we keep negative stories and things alive to feed our narratives about self. Believe it to not continuing to tell yourself you are not worthy, actually protects you. It enforces you to stay in your bad relationship, stops you from getting hurt. But it also stops you from growing. Change is necessary for growth.

Probably the most shocking thing I have ever experienced while being in New York City out of Canada and getting that email. Really thought I would have died of a heart attack. It is so awful when someone goes behind your back, smile in your face and then does something so underhanded. Just to be cruel

How do you go about making changes to yourself?

So tired of people playing the victim. Like they attack you and come at you and then they cry, or get angry because you refuse to accept their behaviour. This is the cousin of gaslighting. People like to "tell you the truth" but whose truth is it? We all have a different perception of an event we all saw, because we are conditioned by our previous experiences and responses. When you tell someone something or ask them for advice be very careful because people have their own agenda, they also carry their baggage into your situation.

I am going to be honest here about how I have been feeling

Lets talking about relationships.

If anyone has had any unpleasant dealings with me, I will totally apologize. In this episode I get super vulnerable about something that has taken root in my life. A condition that has changed my outlook, and I think I went through the stages of grief, because the life I wanted not sure I can achieve it with the obstacle. But then in then through the podcast I realize I can I just have to change my procedure. Thus podcast episode is for anyone who is lost, do not wait to get a diagnosis to change, make the change now. Figure out what you want and what you need to do to sustain yourself.

When I was forced to make a change

Okay, so full transparency, when I recorded this, my migraine had disappeared. I suffer from migraines but never to this extent. Anyway, I was given a medication which I took to help me counter the pain I was in. I mean, my body swole, I felt hot all over, and on day 4, I thought I was losing my mind. What was interesting was how well I controlled my thoughts which I mean, the only thing I thought about and worried about was losing my mind, but also trying to stop the pain. No other concerns; I did not know about money, work, or anything. Just the migraine was my focus, and also be scared I would get a stroke from this. Where does the matrix come from? Well, I was given the blue pill to stop the migraine, and when I finally woke up migraine-free, things seemed very different; I realized that the migraine while I suffer from them is being fed by the current high intense stress I am under. The fact that I have been under an incredible amount of pressure from all outside factors... Listen to what happened next...

What are you maintaining in your life that you don't need to? Everything takes work. You have to preserve things otherwise, they wither and die, and sometimes even with maintaining, they die like plants. Some things are worth keeping, but not everything; some people will work seven jobs for something designer, but for what reason? Now I am somewhat materialistic, but I stopped maintaining things because I no longer have the mental space to do it. I now evaluate the maintenance of something such as a relationship. I ask myself, is this worth the care? It is like buying an expensive car, well it is costly to maintain the cost of the car...do you have the money? We have many thoughts about anything that involves money, but why not when it demands are energy?

Do you know a settled person is an unhappy person? What do you think about settling? A lot of people feel like settling is safe, but is it not a life not lived. Should you not take risks and stray off the path? Sometimes the best thing you can do for yourself is carving out your own path.

The family it the...Can you complete that sentence? Most of you were aware last year was very difficult because I have an aging parent. My father, unfortunately, takes advice from family members who do not care about him. I can be honest my father has not been the greatest with his siblings, sometimes being negative and getting into their business. So I get that, but people don't realize that some people mean you harm, see you in a vulnerable position, and finally use that to lead you to your demise. On the other hand, I am fair, and I realize people have their problems; as they age, they do not in any way want to hear about your problems. And thus, they will say whatever to get you off the line.

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What does this mean to you?

This one is short but it is about courage. Courage is essential to stoicism because a lot of hard things require courage. Being honest does require a lot of courage; speaking up for truth and honesty also does require a bit of courage.

Welcome to July!This is about stoicism. I will give you the steps I have used to create my life in times of stress. This is the intro to what the rest of the month will be like. My voice is way calmer and lighter. I did that with the intention of not adding too much excitement. Here I go over the principles and how I incorporated them into my life.

How can you be free? What does Freedom even mean to you? To me, being free means that I wake up and I make my own choices free of underlying motivations like, for example, making money. It is being able to do something without having any master in place. It is the ability to live my life the way I want to and not how society wants me to do it. Can we create our own freedom? In this podcast I go over how it possible in some extent to create your own freedom, but know that it has conquences.

How to get rid of gaslighters? This one was personal because I honestly fall into this trap with people. I have gotten a lot better at not falling in. People that gaslight I would like to believe they do not do it on purpose, but they actually do. Most people who gaslight know exactly what they are doing but they just want you to be the bad guy. Because somehow blaming you, completes their whole life, and now they can cry or be sad because of the evil you have done them wrong.

Let’s talk about limits we put on ourselves, believe it or not what we say about and to ourselves matter. Let’s keep this in mind all year around. The stupid talk that you say to yourself, does play over and over like a record in your head. How you can change this, is by finding out what your limiting beliefs are and how you can reframe them. How can you change the conversation you are having with yourself? Listen to find out.

Sending out lots of prayer to her family, but mostly her children! This is a terrible tragedy and I pray for her children, this is awful she was so young! But heaven got another angel!