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The Fight With Our Feelings

The Fight With Our Feelings

By Kaitlin Baldwin
A deep dive into all the ways that we (including myself—a therapist) fight our true feelings. Whether it be through avoidance, judgment & shame, or simply refusing to admit that we feel certain ways—we all do it. I’ll be talking about personal and professional experiences when this fight showed up, and state the honest truth about how the constant battle drains us more than the feelings themselves.
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Episode 19: Humans, Not Diagnoses (with Allison Gibson)
THE RAP INTRO HAS BEEN ADDED *air horn sounds*. The loveliest of lovely humans, Allison Gibson, joins me on the pod at a time when we are both going through it 😅 We talk about the experiences that shut us down when we were kids and how that carried into adulthood. We also grapple with the difficulty of modern-day language and the struggle to validate people's experiences while not invalidating the experiences of others. You know, light stuff. Did you like this episode of The Fight With Our Feelings? Be sure to follow & subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode—and don't forget to write a review on Apple Podcasts! Episodes are released every other Friday. Find Kaitlin on: Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, & Facebook. Interested in working with Kaitlin? Contact her now to see if she's the right therapist for you.
40:34
January 21, 2022
Holiday Break / Schedule for the New Year
Quick update about my current break from podcasting (and all other non-client work) until the new year 🥰
01:47
December 16, 2021
Episode 18: Relatable Therapists (with Kristen See)
Kristen See, Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) joins me in this episode to discuss the confusing grey area of self-disclosure as therapists. We talk about the judgments and hypocrisy in the healthcare field and the intricacies of disclosing your own diagnoses and life experiences when you're in a professional position. Lots of laughs and no lies here—we showed up as honestly as possible for all of you (: Find Kristen through her website here, or find her on Instagram @kristenseetherapy ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- BARRIE FOOD BANK FUNDRAISER FOR ALL OF NOVEMBER! Every follow/sub on Baldwin Psychotherapy's social media platforms in the month of November equals $1 for the Barrie Food Bank, up to a max of $1,000! ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Interested in working with Kaitlin? Contact her now to see if she's the right therapist for you. Did you like this episode of The Fight With Our Feelings? Be sure to follow & subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode—and don't forget to write a review on Apple Podcasts! Find Kaitlin on: Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, & Facebook.
54:37
November 23, 2021
Trailer
idk, it's a trailer
00:53
November 17, 2021
Episode 17: Social Media Monster (with Conor Shirton)
Personal trainer Conor Shirton joins me again to discuss the harmful impacts of social media. We touch on body dysmorphia, polarizing beliefs, business ownership, and how we've both personally changed our relationship with different social media apps. Want to have some input on what topics I discuss next? Answer the question below or give your suggestions to me through @ Baldwin Psychotherapy on all social media platforms (ironic, right?). ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- BARRIE FOOD BANK FUNDRAISER FOR ALL OF NOVEMBER! Every follow/sub on Baldwin Psychotherapy's social media platforms in the month of November equals $1 for the Barrie Food Bank, up to a max of $1,000!  ---------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------------- Interested in working with Kaitlin? Contact her now to see if she's the right therapist for you. Did you like this episode of The Fight With Our Feelings? Be sure to follow & subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode—and don't forget to write a review on Apple Podcasts! Find Kaitlin on: Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, & Facebook.
37:13
November 16, 2021
Episode 16: Rescue Clients (with Renee Ly)
Wow wow wowwwww another guest on the pod! My pal and previous colleague Renee Ly, Registered Psychotherapist (Qualifying) joined me on this episode to talk shop about the people that pull on our heart strings the most: rescue clients. We go into a lot more detail about what we mean by "rescue clients," but essentially, it boils down to those who ask their therapist to make decisions for them—usually because they don't feel confident or safe enough to make the decision themselves. Let us know what you think! -------------------------------------------------------------------------------- FUNDRAISER FOR THE BARRIE FOOD BANK FOR THE WHOOOOOLE MONTH OF NOVEMBER! Follow/like/subscribe on Baldwin Psychotherapy's social media accounts and each one will raise $1 (up to a max of $1000) for the Barrie Food Bank! See social media links below. Interested in working with Kaitlin? Contact her now to see if she's the right therapist for you. Did you like this episode of The Fight With Our Feelings? Be sure to follow & subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode—and don't forget to write a review on Apple Podcasts! Find Kaitlin on: Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, & Facebook.
33:04
November 09, 2021
Episode 15: Seasonal Affective Disorder
FUNDRAISER FOR THE BARRIE FOOD BANK FOR THE WHOOOOOLE MONTH OF NOVEMBER! Follow/like/subscribe on Baldwin Psychotherapy's social media accounts and each one will raise $1 (up to a max of $1000) for the Barrie Food Bank! See social media links below. -------------------------------------------------- Things to help with SAD: sun lamp / light therapy lamp (range between $40-$150) (couldn't find the exact one that I use but this is the same company)  vitamin D supplements commit to 1 outdoor activity per day let in natural light (keep your blinds open!) ------------------------------------------------ Interested in working with Kaitlin? Contact her now to see if she's the right therapist for you. Did you like this episode of The Fight With Our Feelings? Be sure to follow & subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode—and don't forget to write a review on Apple Podcasts! Find Kaitlin on: Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, & Facebook.
17:12
November 02, 2021
Episode 14: Doin' Yourself Dirty
It's time for some tea about why we don't meet our goals. And that tea is sizzling. No honestly, we gotta talk about tracking progress. As boring or unnecessary as it may sound, measuring your progress on whatever goal(s) you're working towards is a MUST. In this episode I talk about my own goals & the specific tracking apps/strategies that have helped me in the long run. Interested in working with Kaitlin? Contact her now to see if she's the right therapist for you. Did you like this episode of The Fight With Our Feelings? Be sure to follow & subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode. Find Kaitlin on: Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, & Facebook.
22:34
October 19, 2021
Episode 13: I'm All Alone
I decided to record an episode fresh off of an hour and a half of crying. Why? No clue. Was it worth it? Absolutely.  Inspired by the amaaaaazing movie Wisdom of Trauma with Gabor Mate, I decided to speak about this collective belief system that we are alone in our suffering, and that when we suffer, we are unlovable. I know that there are many areas in my life where I try to counter this idea of being unwanted, & that there are many areas in my life where I curl into a ball and hide away from the world. The only times when I reconnect with myself are when I open up to the world and am held by a supportive and understanding embrace (even if that comes from myself). So basically, that's what the episode is about. Light stuff! Interested in working with Kaitlin? Contact her now to see if she's the right therapist for you. Did you like this episode of The Fight With Our Feelings? Be sure to follow & subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode. Find Kaitlin on: Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, & Facebook.
19:15
October 12, 2021
Episode 12: Towards the Frickin' Fear
THERE ARE POLLS AND QUESTIONS AT THE BOTTOM (?) OF THIS SO PLEASE INTERACT CAUSE IDK WHAT THEY ARE. Have you wondered all this time about whether or not your gal pal Kaitlin had massive social anxiety? Well you'll get your answer here.  In this episode, I talk about scary teenagers, trauma, & my recent whirlwind of skateboarding—all to bring home the biggest reflection I've made in my life: fear is a sign that we care. And it's well worth it for us to walk towards it with open arms rather than run away and hide. Interested in working with Kaitlin? Contact her now to see if she's the right therapist for you. Did you like this episode of The Fight With Our Feelings? Be sure to follow & subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode. Find Kaitlin on: Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, & Facebook.
20:46
October 05, 2021
Episode 11: Am I Faking It?
What's up everyone, it's ya girl, Kaitlin. I wanted to leave the bio at just that but alas, that's not what bios are meant for. In this episode, I talk about this ageless question of "what's the best decision?" I find it really difficult to navigate moments when I need to step back from something—like bailing on plans or giving up some responsibility or taking a break—because I've been trained to doubt my intentions. And that's what this one is about. Interested in working with Kaitlin? Contact her now to see if she's the right therapist for you. Did you like this episode of The Fight With Our Feelings? Be sure to follow & subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode. Find Kaitlin on: Instagram, TikTok, YouTube, & Facebook.
18:50
September 28, 2021
Meditation for Transferring Anxious Energy
I recorded this about a month ago, literally seconds after I woke up & was flooded with anxiety. It also has music—woo!
07:39
September 20, 2021
Episode 10: Three Ways to Journal
My dear, dear friend gave me the idea to talk about journaling on the pod after she listened to the "Livestreaming" episode, as a way to talk about how we can all livestream when we are on our own and don't have someone else to listen to us babble. I wanted to share a few different ways that *I* personally journal that differ from the stereotypical "Dear Diary" format. I was heckin' scattered in this one so enjoy the ride hahaha. Interested in working with Kaitlin? Contact her now to see if she's the right therapist for you. Did you like this episode of The Fight With Our Feelings? Be sure to follow & subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode.
24:16
September 14, 2021
Episode 9: Embracing Discomfort (with Conor Shirton)
Do you even lift, bro? We had our first guest episode on the pod! And oh boy, was it ever fun. Personal Trainer Conor Shirton tells tales from the squat rack and gives a fitness-perspective on themes of fear, shame, & motivation.  Interested in working with Kaitlin? Contact her now to see if she's the right therapist for you. Did you like this episode of The Fight With Our Feelings? Be sure to follow & subscribe to the podcast so you don't miss an episode.
43:58
September 07, 2021
Episode 8: A Routine for Self-Awareness
I’m in a cemetery talking to the trees (and all of you). It's also time that I give you the key, the answer, the solution you've all been waiting for..................................................................................................................................... it's mindfulness. And it's easier than you might think. In this episode, I talk about my own hesitations around mindfulness & meditation, then I walk through ways that you can bring it into your own life—with structured goals & spontaneous sessions!
29:31
August 31, 2021
Meditation to Slow Down with a Task
I had to hold this epoxy glue together for 5 minutes so here's a quick meditation to slow down while completing a task.
05:51
August 24, 2021
Episode 7: I'm Rooting for You
This one is all about the good, warm, fuzzy feelings that we get when we actually do the work—and why I chose to be the therapist that I am. I've spent these first few episodes talking about the fight or how & why we do it, but I haven't really spoken to the overwhelming pride & relief we feel when we stop fighting. And in particular, why I care so much about this work. I talk about my incredible gratitude for every single one of my clients & every single one of you that chooses to do the work.
26:52
August 24, 2021
Episode 6: Livestreaming: A Relationship Saver
Relationships, am I right? With my partner's permission, I spent today's episode discussing this thing we do called "livestreaming." Basically, it's when we are feeling some type of way, and we get to word-vomit out whatever feelings and thoughts and worries are coming up so that we can process it a little easier. There's no benefit to keeping stuff inside, AND, there are many ways to say how we feel without blaming the other person. Listen to me ramble for under 22 minutes (wow—first time ever?) as I get real honest about relationship insecurity.
22:00
August 17, 2021
Episode 5: Am I Fighting?
Calling all archers, swordsmen, and shielders (I'm not a history/war person so I really need to drop this metaphor)! Or in more relevant terms, calling all passive people, angry people, or defensive/avoidant people!!! It's time to take a pause and check in with yourself. You're listening to a psychotherapist—did you really think I was gonna let you sit back and never do the work?  In this episode, I thought it would be helpful to give some actual (clinical) labels to the ways that we fight with, avoid, or deny our true selves—AND give you a downloadable worksheet to boot (link below)! Based on the model of Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, I talk about the different ways we can be present, open up, and do what matters. These are the underlying processes that I assess & check-in on to gauge how my clients (and myself) are doing on a regular basis. CHECK-IN WORKSHEET: https://www.baldwinpsychotherapy.com/self-help-resources
30:09
August 10, 2021
Episode 4: Control is a Fighting Word
People tell me they want to "control" their feelings better all the time. Like, all the time. And this stirs up a bag of mixed feelings for me because I know that control is the opposite of freedom. Control does not allow room for self-compassion. Control does not lend itself well to reality. In this episode, I talk about the reasons why we usually crave control, how my understanding of the word control changed after a terrible relationship, and how we can feel good & proud about our responses without having to limit, constrain, or deny our true feelings.
26:57
August 03, 2021
Episode 3: Wounding Ourselves
In this episode, I describe 5 ways that we hurt ourselves on a daily basis: numbing, distracting, denying, projecting, & shaming. I also added in a little bonus discussion about how anxiety can feel like we're more in control and more "productive" than feeling sad, lonely, or hopeless. I thought it was important to talk about these actual methods of fighting & avoidance before talking about all the other good stuff; sometimes I forget that this isn't common knowledge to everyone and I know I'll be referencing these terms a lot, so I wanted to bring them up early on. I'll be off as of NOW for 1 week so please listen & don't talk to me 😂  I'll be out in a cabin with no service anyways so I'm totally joking—any and all feedback is massively appreciated! 
26:45
July 20, 2021
Episode 2: Less Buts, More Ands.
It's the SECOND episode of the pod!! Still very scary & very exciting. In this episode, I talk about the duality of our experiences; how we can feel, think, sense, or want opposing things at the same time. First, I share a little bit more about me & my fight, break down the "singularity" mindset, explain the importance of duality, and pause awkwardly as I hear a motorcycle drive by. I also swore a few times (woops—sorry mom). 
30:08
July 13, 2021
5 Minute Simple Meditation
I use a variation of this meditation with myself and a lot of my clients. I wanted to present it in a few ways, with different lengths, so that you can use one that's accessible to you.
05:11
July 03, 2021
3 Minute Simple Meditation
I use a variation of this meditation with myself and a lot of my clients. I wanted to present it in a few ways, with different lengths, so that you can use one that's accessible to you.
03:10
July 03, 2021
1 Minute Simple Meditation
I use a variation of this meditation with myself and a lot of my clients. I wanted to present it in a few ways, with different lengths, so that you can use one that's accessible to you. 
01:10
July 03, 2021
Episode 1: The Struggle is Real
It's the first episode of the pod!!! I wanted to open things up by being a little vulnerable, a little scared, and totally honest. I explain what I mean by "the fight," talk about experiential avoidance, and have a really tender moment near the end. There was also a power outage halfway through recording which was fun to deal with. Thanks for listening; it means the world to me.
30:36
July 02, 2021