Katie On The Flipside

I had no idea that a lot of the anxiety and stress I was experiencing was due to my own codependency. As I started to recognize each piece of the puzzle, I began searching for ways to change. In this series of 10 episodes, I'm walking through each of the toxic behaviors that I identified in myself, how I am working to change them, and how I am keeping myself from absorbing them from others.

Previously:

#1: Unsolicited Advice and Rescuing: https://apple.co/3qkE3Mh

#2 : Other People's Opinions Are NOT Your Truth: https://apple.co/30fNG4o

#3: Get Out of Other People’s Business!: https://apple.co/38dIour

#4: Stop Giving In or Compromising When You Already Said NO: https://apple.co/3qitQ2P

#5: My #1 Biggest Change to Become Happier in My Marriage & Overall Life: https://apple.co/38dzxsJ

#6: Rediscovering My TRUE SELF & Overcoming the Fear of JUDGEMENT: https://apple.co/38dIxht

#7: Overcoming Shame & Self Doubt: https://apple.co/3riEnfZ

#8: Giving Up When Things Aren't Perfect: https://apple.co/3uXlP7a

#9: Is It Someone ELSE'S Fault?: https://apple.co/3cLUpJ5

⦿ Other places to find me:

Shame & Blame in Our Marriage (couple's episode mentioned in podcast): https://apple.co/3uYAtuC

I had no idea that a lot of the anxiety and stress I was experiencing was due to my own codependency. As I started to recognize each piece of the puzzle, I began searching for ways to change. In this series of 10 episodes, I'm walking through each of the toxic behaviors that I identified in myself, how I am working to change them, and how I am keeping myself from absorbing them from others.

Previously:

#1: Unsolicited Advice and Rescuing: https://apple.co/3qkE3Mh

#2 : Other People's Opinions Are NOT Your Truth: https://apple.co/30fNG4o

#3: Get Out of Other People’s Business!: https://apple.co/38dIour

#4: Stop Giving In or Compromising When You Already Said NO: https://apple.co/3qitQ2P

#5: My #1 Biggest Change to Become Happier in My Marriage & Overall Life: https://apple.co/38dzxsJ

#6: Rediscovering My TRUE SELF & Overcoming the Fear of JUDGEMENT: https://apple.co/38dIxht

#7: Overcoming Shame & Self Doubt: https://apple.co/3riEnfZ

#8: Giving Up When Things Aren't Perfect: https://apple.co/3uXlP7a

⦿ Other places to find me:

I had no idea that a lot the anxiety and stress I was experiencing were due to my own codependency. As I started to recognize each piece of the puzzle, I began searching for ways to change. In the this series of 10 episodes, I'm walking through each of the toxic behaviors that I identified in myself, how I am working to change them, and how I am keeping myself from absorbing them from others.

Previously:

#1: Unsolicited Advice and Rescuing (Ep 18): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/18-new-series-codependent-red-flags-top-10-1-advice/id1480258186?i=1000459983761

#2 : Other People's Opinions Are NOT Your Truth (Ep 19): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/19-other-peoples-opinions-are-not-your-truth-2-codependency/id1480258186?i=1000460343730

#3: Get Out of Other People’s Business! (Ep 20): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/20-get-out-other-peoples-business-3-codependency-red/id1480258186?i=1000462808127

#4: Stop Giving In or Compromising When You Already Said NO (Ep 21): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/21-stop-giving-in-or-compromising-when-you-already/id1480258186?i=1000464041146

#5: My #1 Biggest Change to Become Happier in My Marriage & Overall Life (Ep 22): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/22-my-1-biggest-change-to-become-happier-in-my-marriage/id1480258186?i=1000465418327

#6: Rediscovering My TRUE SELF & Overcoming the Fear of JUDGEMENT (Ep 23): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/23-rediscovering-my-true-self-overcoming-fear-judgement/id1480258186?i=1000466798331

⦿ Other places to find me:

I had no idea that a lot the anxiety and stress I was experiencing were due to my own codependency. As I started to recognize each piece of the puzzle, I began searching for ways to change. In the this series of 10 episodes, I'm walking through each of the toxic behaviors that I identified in myself, how I am working to change them, and how I am keeping myself from absorbing them from others.

Previously:

#1: Unsolicited Advice and Rescuing (Ep 18): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/18-new-series-codependent-red-flags-top-10-1-advice/id1480258186?i=1000459983761

#2 : Other People's Opinions Are NOT Your Truth (Ep 19): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/19-other-peoples-opinions-are-not-your-truth-2-codependency/id1480258186?i=1000460343730

#3: Get Out of Other People’s Business! (Ep 20): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/20-get-out-other-peoples-business-3-codependency-red/id1480258186?i=1000462808127

#4: Stop Giving In or Compromising When You Already Said NO (Ep 21): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/21-stop-giving-in-or-compromising-when-you-already/id1480258186?i=1000464041146

#5: My #1 Biggest Change to Become Happier in My Marriage & Overall Life (Ep 22): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/22-my-1-biggest-change-to-become-happier-in-my-marriage/id1480258186?i=1000465418327

⦿ Other places to find me:

I had no idea that a lot the anxiety and stress I was experiencing were due to my own codependency. As I started to recognize each piece of the puzzle, I began searching for ways to change. In the this series of 10 episodes, I'm walking through each of the toxic behaviors that I identified in myself, how I am working to change them, and how I am keeping myself from absorbing them from others.

Previously:

#1: Unsolicited Advice and Rescuing (Ep 18): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/18-new-series-codependent-red-flags-top-10-1-advice/id1480258186?i=1000459983761

#2 : Other People's Opinions Are NOT Your Truth (Ep 19): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/19-other-peoples-opinions-are-not-your-truth-2-codependency/id1480258186?i=1000460343730

#3: Get Out of Other People’s Business! (Ep 20): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/20-get-out-other-peoples-business-3-codependency-red/id1480258186?i=1000462808127

⦿ Other places to find me:

I had no idea that a lot the anxiety and stress I was experiencing were due to my own codependency. As I started to recognize each piece of the puzzle, I began searching for ways to change. In the this series of 10 episodes, I'm walking you through each of the toxic behaviors that I identified in myself, how I am working to change them, and how I am keeping myself from absorbing them from others.

Previously: 

#1: Unsolicited Advice and Rescuing (Ep 18): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/18-new-series-codependent-red-flags-top-10-1-advice/id1480258186?i=1000459983761

#2 : Other People's Opinions Are NOT Your Truth (Ep 19): https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/19-other-peoples-opinions-are-not-your-truth-2-codependency/id1480258186?i=1000460343730

⦿ Other places to find me:

In today's episode I'm talking about OTHER PEOPLE'S OPINIONS - and why we need to stop giving them so much control over our lives. Nobody knows me like I know me. If I compromise myself because I’m worried about what other people think, I’m not being authentic to myself and am not living to the full potential that God gave me. It has been so freeing to allow myself to be myself despite what other people think and make decisions based on what I know is best for me and my family. It has also give me more personal responsibility so that I am more careful with what I do and say. 

I had no idea that a lot the anxiety and stress I was experiencing were due to my own codependency. As I started to recognize each piece of the puzzle, I began searching for ways to change. In the this series of 10 episodes, I'm going to walk you through each of the toxic behaviors that I identified in myself, how I am working to change them, and how I am keeping myself from absorbing them from others.

⦿ Other places to find me:

I had no idea that a lot the anxiety and stress I was experiencing were due to my own codependency. As I started to recognize each piece of the puzzle, I began searching for ways to change. In the next 10 episodes, I'm going to walk you through each of the toxic behaviors that I identified in myself and how I am working to change them. I've also found that it's important to start observing how often these behaviors show up in the people you spend time with. 

In today's episode I'm talking about giving unsolicited ADVICE and RESCUING people from situations or emotions when it is not your responsibility. This was one of the first things I noticed myself doing, and also the first thing I notice myself slipping back into when I'm not paying attention. It removes SO MUCH stress and anxiety when we realize that rescuing and giving advice is not our responsibility and when we stop doing those things. I have to remind myself that it's actually hurtful to the other person when we do not allow them to experience their own consequences and emotions. 

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Being the BEST version of ourselves is something we all strive to achieve. After all of the physical, mental, and emotional work that we've put into our relationship, this question and thought provoking conversation sheds a little light into how much more work we can do to continue to become that better version each day. Today, we take you along with us for a deep dive of thoughts and daily processes that have gotten us to where we are today. We still have a lot of work to do, but hopefully this video has an impact on you like it does on us. Would love to hear your thoughts about everything we discussed! 

⦿ Today's video was inspired by Dave and Rachel Hollis! Be sure to check out their latest podcast to hear their discussion of this question: https://podcasts.apple.com/us/podcast/72-asking-this-one-question-could-change-your-whole/id1407481308?i=1000456783078

I have had a history of stressing and over-extending myself during the holidays because I didn't know it was ok to make my own decisions and say no to certain things. My husband and I have started intentionally planning more downtime at home with our kids. We're no longer accepting guilt trips and feeling the pressure to be everywhere and do everything. Allowing yourself to get over-stressed and exhausted to keep someone else happy is not healthy and it's not ok. As a grown adult, you can decide what's best for you and your family! Here's to a happier, peaceful, more refreshing holiday season. ❤️

Like any other couple, Cullen and I disagree on things and get into arguments. Those arguments have, at times, involved yelling, screaming, passive aggressive comments, and the silent treatment just to name a few. But we are on a journey of changing all of that. Today we're sharing with you some things we've learned about how to communicate our needs and concerns to avoid small disagreements turning into big fights.  

In this episode, I explain exactly how I started my weight loss journey and how I've kept up the momentum. It's so hard to make changes when you're not motivated. It feels impossible to change when you don't know where to start and your life is already going a million miles a minute. But you CAN do it and I'm going to share some tips on HOW!

Loving my body and having a positive self-image has always been hard for me. After realizing the effect MY negative body image could have on my kids, I have been working hard to change it. In this podcast, I explain how I've been able to love my body and myself more. The more I've learned, the more I feel so strongly about the importance of getting rid of our negative self-talk. Our negative self-talk becomes our kids' inner voice, and it would break my  heart for my kids to think the negative things about themselves that I have thought about myself. I hope this podcast can help you learn how to love yourself more and start on the journey to a positive self-image!

Cullen and I sat down and talked about some things we've recently learned about Shame & Blame in our marriage. How it was impacting us and how changing our communication patterns has changed the course of our marriage - and our relationship with our kids! We received several comments during the livestream we were doing on Youtube about how eye opening the discussion was, so I wanted to put the content here in podcast form to reach anyone else that might need to hear it. ❤️

"Other people's opinions are none of your business." I was first introduced to this idea by Rachel Hollis in her book, Girl, Wash Your Face, and I truly didn't understand how it could be possible. It's only been in the past year of working on my recovery from codependency that I have been able to truly NOT base my opinions of myself on other people's opinions. If you are struggling with basing your worth and your opinion of yourself on what somebody else thinks, hopefully this podcast will open your eyes to the joy that's on the other side of valuing yourself because of who YOU know you are. 

Being in a relationship with somebody who struggles with addiction is one of the loneliest and most difficult places to be. All you want is for them to stop using and get back to being themselves. I get so many questions about what to do when you're in that place and your partner has no desire to change or get help. I discuss my answer to that question in this podcast. 

Over the past year, my husband and I have made so many personal changes and so many relationship changes. We have worked hard at learning how to understand each other better while we're learning about ourselves. Even with all the relationship work, we still disagree and fight! Today we are sitting down together and sharing a few things we've learned about accepting each other and minimizing the impact of a major argument or fight. We share with y'all about our Enneagram numbers and how those have impacted our understanding of ourselves and each other as well! 

Over the past year, I have learned for the FIRST time that it’s not just OKAY to say “No” when you need to without feeling guilty, but that it’s IMPORTANT and healthy to know how to do that! Just because your likes & dislikes, your life agenda, or your personal preferences are different from someone else’s doesn’t mean you should feel bad for wanting to live YOUR life the way that’s comfortable for you. It almost blows my mind that I didn’t understand that making decisions based on what somebody else likes doesn’t make any sense - you are living YOUR life, not theirs!! I’ve become so much more aware that listening to my gut feelings, reading the signals my body gives me, making my own decisions, and trusting myself to do what’s best for my family and me is so freeing. I know there are so many people who have told me they struggle with boundaries & saying “no” too. I don’t want anybody stuck where I was! I want to share what’s been helpful to me in overcoming this and what bumps I’ve run into along the way. ❤️

It’s been almost a year since I started creating a series of videos on Youtube sharing about how my life was starting to change. Although I shared A LOT as I learned and changed, I want to share more. I never know exactly how to answer all the questions I get recently: “How have you lost so much weight?” “How did you learn to trust again?” “How did you get past the resentment?” “How did you keep fear & obsessive thoughts about what else might happen from consuming your mind?” “How did you learn to trust yourself, love yourself, and believe in yourself?” There is no straight-line answer to any of those questions! And there’s no “quick fix” to overcoming any of this. I haven’t even mastered them all, but the truth is...it takes WORK. Actual work. Mental work. Emotional work. Learning constantly. Physically practicing new skills. Accepting that the clichés “two steps forward and one step back,” “progress, not perfection,” and “it gets worse before it gets better” are TRUE and NORMAL.

I certainly don’t have all the answers, but I want to share what I’ve learned. I want to go back and dive deeper into what I was doing behind the scenes of the past year and how I MADE the changes I was preaching about. I don’t want anybody else stuck where I was. If I can help one person by sharing the things that helped me, then it’s worth it. We all deserve to live a fulfilled life, and we all CAN! Y’all stay tuned, because I’ve got some things to share. ❤️