Keep Them Coming with Open the Doors Coaching

Ep. 40 - The A stands for Asexual

An episode of Keep Them Coming with Open the Doors Coaching

By Kristen Thomas
Your weekly dose of relationship and sex talk. Hosted by Kristen Thomas, a Relationship, Dating, and Sex Coach living in the Midwest, who will take a look at love, lust, and everything in between. You'll hear personal stories from her and her guests about steamy sex, broken hearts, BDSM, and so much more. Listener discretion advised (18+).

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Your weekly dose of relationship and sex talk. Hosted by Kristen Thomas, a Relationship, Dating, and Sex Coach living in the Midwest, who will take a look at love, lust, and everything in between. You'll hear personal stories from her and her guests about steamy sex, broken hearts, BDSM, and so much more. Listener discretion advised (18+).

Original theme song by MKoussa
Cover art by Fuller Creative, LLC
OTDC Logo by Dazium Design Studio

More places to listen

Ep. 47 - Finding Love During the Holidays
Some people think it’s a terrible time to try to date. However, as a dating coach, I disagree! Have a listen for ideas about where to meet people, how to date during the holiday season, and what do do if you’re in a new relationship. Support her work by visiting her Patreon Page You can support Keep Them Coming via Patreon as well.
December 5, 2019
Ep. 46 - Dating app year end review with Miss Ugly Shoes
She's back! Lauren AKA Miss Ugly Shoes joins me again for a review of all the top dating apps and sites out there. She even shared some stats that one of the sites sent her. She totally nerded out with her research, and I was glad she came on to share what she found, along with some personal experiences. Of course I tell some stories, too! We got a little tipsy enjoying some eggnog together, so have fun laughing along with us, or at us, whichever. 
November 27, 2019
Ep. 45 - Mark your calendar if you want more intimacy
Many couples struggle with having the amount of sex and intimacy that they want. But how do you start having more sex? I offer a simple perspective to shift your mindset about scheduling sex. 
November 22, 2019
Ep. 44 - Nudity is not synonymous with sex with Bellatrixortreat2
On this episode, I interviewed Bella, aka Bellatrixortreat2 on Instagram. What you're going to find out from Bella is that nudity is not synonymous with sex. The internet right now is ripe with censorship and it's the lack of consistency that is really bothersome. Women, women of color, black women, trans and non-binary folx, all these content producers are forced to highly censor themselves online, and many peers who do not fall into those categories are not held to the same standards by the platforms, forcing many to turn to Patreon and Twitter.  Mentioned in the episode: Find Bella Donna on Instagram @Bellatrixortreat2 Support her work by visiting her Patreon Page You can support Keep Them Coming via Patreon as well.
November 20, 2019
Ep. 43 - Do Your Sex Life a Favor with Kristine D'Angelo
I'm joined by a fellow Certified Sex Coach, Kristine D'Angelo, from Portland, OR. I wanted to have her on because I wanted another Sex Coach's perspective on the work we are doing, and current events. She's also the Coach I'm partnering with for a Couples Intimacy Retreat in Jamaica. She is doing amazing work to help make it a more sex positive world, one with less stigma, more normalization, and more pleasure.  Mentioned in the episode: Couples Intimacy Retreat at Couples Tower Isle, Ocho Rios, Jamaica Kristine D'Angelo can be reached via her website:, Instagram @SexCoachKristine, Facebook Kristine D'Angelo Certified Sex Coach Sex Coach U - Find more information about enrollment at Sex Coach U's website. Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching.
November 13, 2019
Ep. 42 - Barrier Babes are on a mission!
On this episode, I’m joined by two of the Barrier Babes. They are bringing sexual health to the Midwest! This organization was founded because Kansas City has a high STI rate and low budget for things like education or resources like condoms. I’m joined by CEO Madison Womack and Enviromentral Educator Michaela Mathiesen and we talked about condoms, period products, purity culture, the fallacy of the Magnum condom, and so much more. They also may have *finally* convinced me to try a menstrual cup. It is no small feat they are trying to accomplish, but Barrier Babes are trying to change the landscape of sexual health in our city while being inclusive doing it. Mentioned in the episode: Barrier Babes is hosting Flowvember at Third Thursday at the Nelson-Atkins Museum of Art. Contact for more information Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching.
November 6, 2019
Ep. 41 - Everyone gets a happy ending with Sierra Simone
Have you ever read a romance novel? This weeks guest is Sierra Simone, a USA Today Bestselling Former Librarian who spent way too much time reading romance novels at the information desk. She lives in Kansas City with her husband and family. We talked about what it's like being a romance author, how queer romance is taking off thanks to more diversity in the genre, but there's ways to get even more diverse voices, especially for women and men of color. Yes, men (15% of readers are male identifying)! We also broke down 'Baby, It's Cold Outside' and how 'good girls have to resist' their sexuality in society. Our conversation about his $1 Billion industry, which is the single largest genre, examines work to be done along with how romance and erotic books can spark the imagination and the libido. 
October 30, 2019
Ep. 40 - The A stands for Asexual
You've heard LGBTQIA, and sometimes people don't know what the last letter stands for. Courtney Lane joined me on this episode of Keep Them Coming for Asexualtiy Awareness Week. A self-described professional weirdo, she's a Victorian hair artist, historian, and an Ace (short for asexual), as is her spouse, and I was so grateful to have her on the show to help dispel myths, give some great perspectives, and to share resources. I feel way more informed after talking to her and I'm sure at the end of this episode, you will too. 
October 23, 2019
Ep. 39 - It's called foreplay because it's supposed to happen BEFORE you PLAY
Foreplay is not just for early in the relationship before you have sex. Foreplay helps you connect, relax, and experience better pleasure. Today I'm discussing some of the reasons it's important, and a refresher on many of the ways you can use foreplay with your partner.  Mentioned in the episode: Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. – take a look for different ways to explore a woman's body. 
October 21, 2019
Ep. 38 - Deleting Diet Culture with Jennifer Martin
Yoga teacher, life coach, public speaker, and author of Emotionally Bankrupt, Jennifer Martin joined me to tell her story of how she overcame eating disorders through stepping into her own worth. She now helps teach others by focusing on helping show them how worthy and loved they are so they too can overcome diet culture. Jennifer is trying to change the narrative around workplace dress codes as well. We talked about our personal coaching philosophies, including how self care is often about radical self love, and what daily practice of that looks like.  Mentioned in the episode Jennifer's website:  My Patreon page:
October 16, 2019
Ep. 37 - Want them to swipe right? A how to guide for your dating profile
A good dating profile matters, but what really makes you stand out from the crowd? How do you showcase your personality in under 400 characters and 6 pictures or less? I'm giving you all my best tips for making your profile catch people's attention.  Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. Find Sensatia Cabaret at
October 14, 2019
Ep. 36 - Lubrication has a bad reputation
There's a lot to consider when it comes to picking the right lube, that's why I've got Kelsey Beach, DPT back on. We are talking about a lot of information that you need to know about lube that is not on the bottle. She and I agree on one thing - lubrication has gotten a really bad rep. Everyone should be using lube!! It doesn't matter your gender or orientation, there's information on here that you need to know!  Mentioned in the show:  Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. uberlube  Foria Awaken  Slippery Stuff  Ah Yes  Jo Lubes  Lube launcher   Dan Savage's Hump Fest
October 9, 2019
Ep. 35 - Cuffing season is here
Cuffing Season! What is it? Should you participate or not? I took gave it some thought, took a stance, and offered suggestions for this fall and winter.  I also took time to thank Dr Patti Britton and Sex Coach U as I have completed my program and I'm now a CERTIFIED SEX COACH!! Woot woot!!
October 6, 2019
Ep. 34 - The Perfect Pelvis with Katy Rush
My guest has been a Physical Therapist for 21 years, and she's done a little bit of everything, but Katy Rush decided to be a Pelvic Floor Therapist 16 years ago because she realized how underserved this part, our inner core, really was and how much it effects other areas of people's lives and health when something is off kilter. Did you know it takes a woman an average of 8 years to get to the point where she sees a pelvic floor therapist for her issues? This is why I'm having 2 on in a month's time because this issue is so important. And gentlemen, don't turn this episode off just because I'm talking to a pelvic PT, we talk about things you really need to learn about too! Men need to know about periods. You could learn something that helps you support the ladies in your life.  Mentioned in the episode: Katy's website is
October 2, 2019
Ep. 33 - Behind The Camera with Boudoir Photographer Booker T Brown
Most people would call Booker a boudoir photographer, but he's so much more. His work with intimate portraiture helps women, and even some men, with things like self acceptance, body positivity, and something that makes my heart happy, sex positivity! It's still World Sexual Health Month, so I am happy to round out the month with my friend Booker. We discussed the process of doing a shoot, why and when you should do one, and what he's seen from his clients after. "Sexiness cannot be given," he said during the interview, but it can grown inside you, and a shoot like this can be a catalyst for that. I talked about my own personal experience with a boudoir shoot a few years ago. We also discussed why you should wear sexy panties daily, what you can learn from burlesque, and what you should do if you're wanting to learn more about the BDSM scene here in KC. 
September 25, 2019
Ep. 32 - Lube Q&A and School is almost over
I had someone ask me about why I made a recommendation on a lube, and since I'm super slammed finishing school with Sex Coach U, I gave a list of what I'm reading, watching, and listening to.  Mentioned in the episode: Reading: Pleasure Activism by Adrienne Maree Brown Watching: Euphoria on HBO Listening to: Call Your Girlfriend on any podcast platform
September 21, 2019
Ep. 31 - Intimacy and curiosity with Jessica Nickels
LPC and personal trainer Jessica Nickels joined me for this weeks show. She's such a sex positive counselor I would love to just replicate her! Since it's still World Sexual Health Month, we discussed what sexual health means to her, how sexual illiteracy is playing out in issues with intimacy and healthy sexual expression, and that intimacy is more than intercourse. Hallelujah, Jessica! You're singing my song. 
September 18, 2019
Ep. 30 - There's more than one way to be non-binary
Since September is World Sexual Health Month, I hosted Max Sheffield-Baird on Keep Them Coming this week. They shared a lot about their journey, including healing past trauma, exploring kink, why pronouns matter, and how the power of story can transform us. A night of incredible storytelling by Amanda Palmer at her June concert got both of us in the feels. AFP said, “If you can share your story, you must.” So thank you to Max for sharing their story with all of us.
September 11, 2019
Ep. 29 - What's in a pronoun?
There is no magic wand that will change the world overnight and make it a safe place for trans folx. However, we have to start somewhere. What can allies do to learn more, to grow, and to create acceptance for trans and non-binary people in their lives and networks? One small action we can take is to start talking about our pronouns – She/Her/Hers, He/Him/His, and They/Them/Their, and I explain why it matters for cis gendered people. 
September 8, 2019
Ep 28 - Celebrating World Sexual Health Day with Pelvic Floor Therapist Dr. Kelsey Beach
Two things you probably didn’t know before listening to this episode – there’s a World Sexual Health Day, and that there’s such a thing as Pelvic PT. I talked to Kelsey Beech, DPT of Foundational Concepts about why people need to think about their pelvic floor health. She explained what pelvic floor therapy is all about. Take note – this conversation is not just for women! Men have pain in their genitals too that can be solved by seeing someone like a pelvic floor therapist. Kelsey even taught me to do Kegels correctly! We also talked about what our parents think of what we do (hint: her mom was shocked when she found out sometimes she has to put her finger in someone’s anus or vagina), how a whole generation of women were done a disservice by having unnecessary hysterectomies, her work with MTF Trans patients, and how we are owning what we do respectively for people’s sexual health. Mentioned in the episode: Find Kelsey Beach, DPT and other practitioners from Foundational Concepts via their website, Instagram and Facebook.
September 4, 2019
Ep. 27 - Listener Q&A: Down there hair care and a small member
Today I'm answering listener questions! The first was about what to do about body hair removal, so I reviewed lots of options, which includes maybe you don't remove it at all! The second listener question was from my first piece of "fan mail". The listener asked what they should do about a very awkward topic - the dude she's dating has a small penis. I love answering listener questions like this! Keep them coming by emailing me at  Mentioned in the episode: The Womanizer - You can find all the models they make at their website
September 1, 2019
Ep. 26 - We're All Bad in Bed with Shelby Simpson
Ever wake up and think, "I just need to write a book about all my embarrassing sex stories"? Well, Shelby Simpson did, and then she turned her book tour into a stage performance that was absolutely delightful, funny, and oh so relatable. We talked about her journey to becoming an author, her travels around the world, why women talk about our embarrassing sex stories (and men don't) how she's not considered a "sexpert" and invited to talks that also happen to involved panels about dildos on a stick and your first threesome, and most importantly, how she's embracing what she bring people - freedom and empowerment.  Mentioned in the episode: We're All Bad In Bed by Shelby Simpson, who you can find on Twitter and Instagram
August 28, 2019
Ep. 25 - A little dirty talk goes a long way
Your mom may have said to you before to "watch your dirty mouth". The only time I want you to watch your dirty mouth is when you're practicing how to say something sexy to your partner in the mirror.  Dirty talk can actually enhance your experiences in the bedroom for a number of reasons, and if you're not any good at it, you can practice with Slutbot. Yes, there's a bot that can text you and practice with you so you can get really good at dirty talk without ruining the moment with your partner.  Mentioned in the episode: Get Slutbot from Juicebox by texting 415-233-4603
August 23, 2019
Ep. 24 - Relationship Anarchy!
As promised, here’s another perspective on poly life. Rose Hinsz AKA Rae AKA Self Care Siren is in the health and wellness industry like I am, but hey since this is a podcast about sex and relationships, she was on KTC to share more about ethical non-monogamy, and what she practices which is called relationship anarchy. We discussed her journey into this, because it’s not like she just woke up one day and decided she could love more than one person. Mentioned in the episode: Enbyby Wild Flower Sex   Find Rose/Rae on Instagram as Visit my Patreon pageto become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. 
August 21, 2019
Ep. 23 - FLR requires some TLC
If you’ve been considering a female led relationship (FLR), there are a number of things to consider. I discuss what it is, who it may be right for, a wide range of how this can be expressed and practiced, WIIFY, potential pitfalls, and how to avoid them.  Mentioned in the episode: Yes, No, Maybe list: Download the PDF from Books about FLR – A Woman’s Guide To a Female Led Relationshipby Victoria West Visit my Patreon pageto become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. 
August 16, 2019
Ep. 22 The Imperfect Therapist: Healing through somatic therapy
Jaree Basgall is a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor and a trauma-informed yoga teacher. Jaree offers an integrative approach to therapy, incorporating methods supported by neuroscience, including EMDR, Somatic Experiencing, Yoga, Acceptance and Commitment Therapy, inner child healing, and mindfulness. Jaree has over 7 years of experience helping individuals who have been impacted by trauma, anxiety, and depression. Jaree’s primary intention is to provide a safe space where individuals feel seen, heard, and supported in their journey of healing and growth.  Topics included understanding what somatic therapy is, ways trauma stays in our body and methods to unleash it, why women disconnect during sex, transgenerational trauma, how perfectionism can manifest in procrastination, and overcoming bad sex advice. Jaree also did a great job highlighting who in the medical field could benefit from trauma-informed training. She’s out there doing her part, like I am, to help people heal and live their very best sex lives.   Mentioned in the episode: Find Jaree Basgall at www.jareebasgall.comor Instagram @The.Imperfect.Therapist Brené Brown – The Gift of Imperfection Visit my Patreon pageto become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. 
August 14, 2019
Ep. 21 - Tuning in to your gut when it says 'Yes' or 'No'
Many of us are not accustomed to tuning in to what our body is saying in situations. It’s often the first thing to say ‘yes’ or ‘no’ before we utter a word. Our bodies are constantly giving us signals, and some people call that their gut instinct. This brief exercise will help you become more attuned to what your body is telling you. With practice, you can learn to recognize physical signals and use them to make better decisions.  Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. 
August 9, 2019
Ep. 20 - Grown Up Sex Ed
Keli Jackson is a sexual health educator who has her own Pure Romance business. She’s been in the industry for over a decade. She helps women explore the most intimate relationships in their lives – those with their partners and those with themselves. That’s a really fancy way of saying she likes to help people have waaaay better sex! We talked about sex education, the orgasm gap, the hookup culture, why men often fear sex toys in their relationship, LGBTQ representation in her industry, and of course, pleasure products. Or sex toys. And lube. We talked about sex toys and lube…a lot.  Visit my Patreon pageto become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. 
August 7, 2019
Ep. 19 - Heartache and healing: A bereaved mother's story
Emily is a wife, mom, educator, and a listener of KTC. She and her husband lost a a child this year, and she reached out to me about being on the show. Content warning – we do talk about some heavy topics surrounding their loss, but there is a lot of beauty and healing in her story. We also discussed emotional intelligence, empowerment around childbirth, fertility issues, and even strayed into talking about some humanist principles.  Visit my Patreon pageto become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. 
July 31, 2019
Ep. 18 - On stage with a Magic Wand
Ever stand on stage next to a vibrator and talk about sex? Well, I did! During a storytelling performance of Shelf Life called Guilty Pleasures, hosted by David Wayne Reed, I told a room full of strangers a story involving sex toys, religious upbringings, purity culture, and finding inspiration.  Mentioned in the episode: Sex Coach U Hitachi Magic Wand Visit my Patreon pageto become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. 
July 26, 2019
Ep. 17 - Being a healthy influence
She may not like the title of “influencer”, but Teresa Maly surely is one! She’s a social media entrepreneur and blogger who focuses on health, fashion and body image. She really seems to try to help women from all walks of life love what they’ve got and feel good, in and out of their clothes, no matter their budget. Her story of growing up in a working class family in rural Iowa really shaped how he moves through the world, and we talked about her recovery from disordered eating, as well as being open about mental health.  Mentioned in this episode: Her Instagram is @teresamaly  Kansas City Fashion Week  It Was Me All Along by Andie Mitchell Rachel Hollis from Girl, Wash You Face Central Exchange Visit my Patreon pageto become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching. 
July 24, 2019
Ep. 16 - Crossover episode with KTC and Neandertalk Podcast
I talked with Ryan Westa of Neandertalk Podcast. He's the one that got me to finally start my own show! We talk about a lot...this is a long episode but we just couldn't stop chatting. He shared his perspective on dating as a single dad. I educated him a little about pelvic floor therapy, which is not just for women. Ryan asked about those gas station pills, you know, the "extenders". And while talking about my experience at Bonnaroo Music and Arts Festival, I talked about my first LSD trip.  Mentioned in the episode: Neandertalk Podcast - find him on Instagram or YouTube where you can watch our interview.  Eat Read Love - tarot reader on YouTube The Realennials, Rich Dad Roundtable, Startup Hustle, and Open Belly are some of our favorite KC podcasts 
July 17, 2019
Ep. 15 - Hold up a sec...WTF is polyamory?
Since my last episode, some listeners have emailed me and said they wanted to know more about what the f*ck we were talking about with all this polyamory stuff. Here's a sort of beginners guide to ethical non-monogamy.   Mentioned in the episode: The Ethical Slut by Dossie Easton and Janet W. Hardy More Than Two by Franklin Veaux
July 12, 2019
Ep. 14 - A Poly Perspective
Have you ever heard of polyamory? It's a term that's gaining prominence in today's lexicon, but what is it? My guest Marcel Wilson and I discuss some of the nuances of this relationship structure, because for some it's anything but structured, other's it's highly regimented.  If you'd like to reach out to Marcel about Sex Positive KC, you can reach him at   Mentioned in the episode: The Ethical Slut by Janet W. Hardy and Dossie Easton Psychosexual Somatic Therapy  
July 10, 2019
Ep. 13 - Help! I lost my orgasm!
On today's show, I'm addressing two listener concerns; One female listener is struggling with achieving orgasm, and one male listener doesn't know what to do with he and his partner's mismatched libidos.  Visit my Patreon page to become a supporting patron of Open the Doors Coaching.  Betty Dodson's website has lots of information to check out. 
July 5, 2019
Ep. 12 - Your bedroom needs attention
Self-described former corporate addict turned entrepreneur, Robyn Stevens became certified in feng shui in 2012, and founded her business, Robyn Stevens Feng Shui, in 2013. She is a member of the International Feng Shui Guild, frequent TV guest, and sought after speaker. Robyn works with residential and business clients through one on one consultations, workshops and private events to make sure their space is ready for love and prosperity. I learned so much about how to make sure my space is inviting to love, as well as some energy shifts I could make to let go of the past.  Visit me on Instagram to see some of the changes I made to my office space after this episode. 
July 3, 2019
Ep. 11 - A sign in my face
Signs are all around us, right? Sometimes, it’s a bit more literal. As someone who recently took one to the face, I found a lesson in this particular accident. I’ve always run into things, just ask my mother. This time, the words I said to the stranger witnessed my mishap have become a new mantra to help me move on from the past. 
June 28, 2019
Ep. 10 - Sexual Health Optimization AKA Get your junk fixed
Jonathan Salter is the founder and owner of EVRNU Clinics. I got to donate my vagina to science when I got to be the recipient of a Viveve Treatmentwhen they did their training sessions before opening, so we discuss what it is, what it does, how it works (Psssst…it’s vaginal rejuvenation). We also discusses some procedures for men that are out there like Gainswave, and why a penis pump is actually something all men should have at home. 
June 26, 2019
Ep. 9 - Joel Speaks Out
Joel Barrett of Joel Speaks Out is an LGBTQ writer, speaker, and gatherer. As a business mentor, he supports entrepreneurs from a wide variety of backgrounds. As a queer advocate, he brings people together to socialize and support one another. We talked about bi invisibility, his upbringing as a fundamentalist Baptist, his time in ex-gay therapy (AKA conversion therapy) , and he shared some fun stories about Presidential candidate Mayor Pete Buttigieg.  Mentioned in this episode: Risk Podcast episode featuring Joel’s story Correction: The Daily Mail story about Joel’s coming out  UMKC Small Business Development Center Mid-America LGBT Chamber of Commerce
June 19, 2019
Ep. 8 - Wanna go backstage? A guide to trying anal for the first time
Listener question: "Can you please explain to people how to start engaging in anal play? I talk to a lot of people, men and women, who are scared because they don’t understand how to work up to it and the various ways you can engage in anal play without jamming a huge dick or toy in your ass.” That's a direct quote! And, of course, I’m more than happy to talk about anal intercourse and play. I'll talk about solo play, how to talk to your partner, breathing techniques, and lube do's and don'ts.  Mentioned in this episode: Couples Intimacy Retreat in Jamaica: I’m co-hosting a retreat to help couples grow closer, physically in emotionally. If you and your partner are thinking about a getaway to rejuvenate your intimacy, visit Travel Unrivaled. You can find sex positive, ethical erotica, and educational DVDs at Alexander Institute. If you're interested in knowing more about becoming a sex coach under the mentorship of Dr Patti Britton with Sex Coach U , visit the site and sign up for a vision call to see if it's the right program for you. 
June 7, 2019
Ep. 7 - The Cam Girl Next Door
With years of experience in the online porn industry through cam work and running an amateur porn website, Crystal has done a complete 180 from her sheltered Midwestern upbringing, where sex was a taboo subject. Crystal has learned that sex and sexuality don’t have to make you feel dirty, and can help you learn a lot about yourself and what you want out of life. Through exploring BDSM, fetishes, sugar daddies, and swinging, she’s come to accept that sex is an important part of life, no matter what you like. 
June 5, 2019
Ep. 6 - Getting back into dating after a long term relationship
On today’s episode, I answer a listener question about what I recommend for people who are looking to get back into dating after ending a long term relationship. This is an area I support clients with often, so I shared some of my best advice for getting back out there on the dating scene. 
May 31, 2019
Ep 5 - Bi and single and ready to mingle!
My interview with Lauren Caldwell. She’s single for the first time in her adult life after two back to back long term relationships, and now she’s diving head first into the dating world. Some of our topics included digital dating, our favorite condom, dating deal breakers, masturbation because May is National Masturbation Month, and fangirling over Queer Eye.  Mentioned in this episode: Follow Lauren @missuglyshoes on Twitter for more of her dating mis-adventures.
May 29, 2019
Ep. 4 - Why isn't sexual health included when we discuss self-care?
This topic has been on my mind for a while. As someone who has become more active in the health and wellness community the last few years, I’ve found that sexual health and wellbeing is often ignored when many practitioners talk about self-care. I discussed what sexual health means, why aren’t providers talking about sex as part of self-care, and how I believe we can change this.  Mentioned in this episode: World Association of Sex Coaches Code of Ethics World Health Organization definitions of sexual health
May 24, 2019
Ep. 3 - Gender as a journey
Jay Pryor is an Executive Coach, Owner of Jay Pryor Coaching, and is an LGBTQ+ activist from Lawrence, KS. For Jay (they/them), being an activist is about more than raising awareness, it’s about helping kids see they are not alone. We talked about neuroscience, how the coaching approach works, what their journey through transitioning was like, being an activist, why visibility matters, intersex people “are superheros”, gender reveal parties are problematic, bathroom bills in state legislatures are bullshit.  They have a book called Lean Inside: 7 Steps to Personal Power that helps companies change their culture.   Mentioned in the episode: GLSEN is an organization that works in K-12 schools to create safe spaces for LGBTQ+ students.  The Gender Reveal Party – Jay’s one human show coming soon! Visit for more details. 
May 22, 2019
Ep. 2 - Happy National Masturbation Month!
On today’s minicast, I’m talking about masturbation because May is National Masturbation Month! This one is a little more for the ladies, but hey, guys can gain some insights by listening, too.  Young women often don’t learn much about masturbation. They think there are right or wrong ways to explore their bodies, or they have received negative messages about self-love. This episode aims to help dispel some myths, provide resources, and reduce shame around masturbation. Also – don’t judge your partner for masturbating! We all need to get off on our own to maintain our sexual health.  Mentioned in the episode:– take a look for ways to explore your body by learning about other women’s experiences. Interactive masturbation on your iPad is a thing! Betty Dodson– Grandmother of Masturbation. Her site shows videos about all sorts of masturbation techniques.  Mutual masturbation – ever laid next to your partner and played with yourself? I explain how to do it, and why it can help you learn more about you and your partner’s body. 
May 15, 2019
Ep. 1 - Have you ever tried VR porn?
In this inaugural episode of Keep Them Coming with Open the Doors Coaching, host Kristen Thomas discovers virtual reality (VR) porn for the first time. She and guest Steven Fuller discuss the pitfalls and the potential uses of this kind of pornography. They discuss the long history of porn driving tech, as well as what the future could hold for this industry. Happy National Masturbation Month!  You can learn more about Kristen's coaching practice by visiting her website at or find OTDC on Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram. She's a relationship, dating, and sex coach, and yes, that's a real thing. 
May 2, 2019
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