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Keep Them Coming with Open the Doors Coaching

Keep Them Coming with Open the Doors Coaching

By Kristen Thomas

Your weekly dose of relationship and sex talk. Hosted by Kristen Thomas, a Certified Sex Coach living in the Midwest, who takes a look at love, lust, and everything in between. You'll hear personal stories from her and her guests about steamy sex, broken hearts, BDSM, community activism, recovering from trauma, and so much more. Listener discretion advised (18+).

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Ep. 80 - Sensate focus and the power of touch with Gigi Chaurand Kammerer

Keep Them Coming with Open the Doors CoachingFeb 04, 2021

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Ep. 94 - Q&A: Staying wet, uncut guys, and sexy initiation
Jul 30, 202125:16
Ep. 93 - Jesus Stole My Power with Stephanie Carey
Jul 14, 202101:07:44
Ep. 92 - Do these 13 things if you want a great sex life!
Jul 07, 202124:51
Ep. 91 - Dungeon Etiquette with Mistress Elliot
Jun 23, 202101:18:27
Ep. 90 - Pandemic Porn Stars Pt 2 with Johnny Araña
Jun 09, 202101:08:51
Ep. 89 - International Whores' Day with Kaytlin Bailey
Jun 02, 202156:53
Ep. 88 - Pandemic Porn Stars Pt 1 with UrChaoticGf
May 25, 202154:39
Ep. 87 - Moving on from a pandemic divorce with SelfCareCEO Kristin Summers
May 11, 202102:07:27
Ep. 86 - Can you be a kinky feminist? With Lida Rubanava
Apr 17, 202101:01:48
Ep. 85 - Visibility Matters with Suzanne Wheeler

Ep. 85 - Visibility Matters with Suzanne Wheeler

My guest today is Suzanne Wheeler. I have been after Suzanne for a while! I wanted her on my show pretty much since I started it. In fact, she was on my list that I compiled when I was thinking about potential early guests. So here I am now episode 85 and it is Transgender Day of Visibility, and I finally have her on the show. Suzanne is the Executive Director of the Mid-America LGBT Chamber of Commerce, the only Transgender Woman leading a Chamber nationwide, but she is so much more than that. Suzanne is an ambassador for the gay community here in Kansas City, making sure that businesses are represented and promoted and has even had a hand in some national policy. We discussed her transition, some of the interesting work that she's done in her life, and we talked so much about all that stuff, we didn't even get around to TDOV, which this year is being on March 31st.


Transgender Day of Visibility is an annual awareness day, celebrated all over the world and it's dedicated to celebrating the accomplishments of transgender and gender non-conforming people, while also raising awareness of the work that still needs to be done to achieve trans justice. (Via GLSEN.org) You've heard me say it on my show before, but if you're a new listener, here's what I think... I am here to help with sexual liberation and there can be no true and full sexual liberation without racial, social and economic justice. Trans justice is a part of that.


A little bit of news for myself. I'm on new social media platform. Catch me on TikTok @coachKristen.

Mar 31, 202159:43
Ep. 84 - Painful Sex No More

Ep. 84 - Painful Sex No More

I truly want people to have painful sex no more. By the way , to the male listeners of this show, this is going to be good information for you to know as well so that you can know how to support your partner, or if you yourself have pain during intercourse. If this is something you or your lover has been ignoring, and it's time for solutions. In this episode, I will walk you through steps for reducing pain or eliminating it all together.

Mar 31, 202121:18
Ep. 83 - Living unLESHed with Alesha Bowman
Feb 27, 202152:40
Ep. 82 - Can't Buy Me Love with Darcie Elizabeth

Ep. 82 - Can't Buy Me Love with Darcie Elizabeth

Think your relationship is strong enough for anything? Two things that drive couples apart most often are sex and money, and I've wanted to have someone on Keep Them Coming to talk about this for a while. Today I am joined by Darcy Elizabeth, who is an energetic money consultant. Just like with sex, there are things we learn from a young age that we carry into adulthood - attitudes that don't serve us, negative beliefs around money, and thinking good sex and wealth are just for other people. We talked about what could be holding people back, The 5 Why's, and transforming your relationship in more ways than one.
You can find Darcie on Instagram and Facebook, as well as her website. Her book, "More Money More Power?" is available in March. Visit her website to pre-order your copy.
Feb 20, 202155:41
Ep. 81 - Filter Off with Zach Schleien
Feb 12, 202141:20
Ep. 80 - Sensate focus and the power of touch with Gigi Chaurand Kammerer
Feb 04, 202101:11:36
Ep. 79 - The Oldest Profession with Kaytlin Bailey
Jan 17, 202150:48
Ep. 78 - An Honest Conversation about Pregnancy & Sex with Dr Kelsey Beach
Jan 13, 202101:08:38
Ep. 77 - Mom, sex, and the pandemic

Ep. 77 - Mom, sex, and the pandemic

The pandemic has changed many things, and one of them is how mom's are operating. Many of them have left the workforce and find themselves taking on more of the responsibilities for child care, remote schooling, and much more. Let's say it - they are tired, and one of the first things to go is their libido. How do women maintain a healthy sex life through the stress and changes? Have a listen to Kristen's top tips to get through this time.
Dec 18, 202029:46
Ep. 76 - What's next for burlesque with Petite Renard
Nov 19, 202001:07:26
Ep. 75 - Read Me with Dr Lanae St. John

Ep. 75 - Read Me with Dr Lanae St. John

I'm joined today by Dr Lanae St. John. She's a sexuality educator and an author, and I was so pleased to be able to host her on my show and talk about her book. I know Dr Lanae because of our affiliation with Sex Coach U.  This was such a wonderful conversation about how do you have "The Talk" with your kids. This wasn't a how-to guide about ages and stages. This is really about some key pillars that she feels are necessary for parents to be able to first process themselves - things like communication, consent, respect, pleasure, and fantasy. We also answered it a listener question -one of my listeners found out that her twelve-year-old even after they had a talk about it has still been looking at porn. This is not the first time I've had people reach out to ask the question of what do I do about my kid looking things they really shouldn't be looking at? And especially with as much screen time is some kids are getting right now with lockdown, maybe you're needing to have some awkward conversations. 

We need to talk about how to prepare them for real world relationships one day. How do they build respect with other people? How do they understand pleasure? All these things and more... you'll seriously love this episode. And even if you don't have kids listen to learn more about yourself or how to help young people that you have in your life. 

Mentioned in the episode:

Dr Lanae St. John can be reached by email or on Facebook and Instagram. Her Book "Read Me: A Parental Primer for 'The Talk'" is available at local bookstores and online retailers. Go to her website for more information. 

Want to try DipSea? Dipsea is the first audio platform for sexual wellness. They’re working to put healthy sexuality into the same sentence as exercise and meditation when we talk about living a whole, happy life. Our mission? Empowering you to tap into your sexuality on your own terms. Go to dipseastories.com/selfcare for 25% off an annual subscription (they offer a standard 7 day free trial you will be able to use before committing).

Oct 12, 202001:07:27
Ep. 74 - The Paris of the Plains is kinky AF

Ep. 74 - The Paris of the Plains is kinky AF

Today's episode is all about Kink in Kansas City aka The Paris of the Plains. Yes, for a long time, KC has been known for it's wild side, and Vicky joined me today to help me learn more about what's available for people. Whether you're just getting started moving from fantasy into play, you're curious about kink but don't know what's what, or maybe you're already into it and you don't know where to go for a dungeon or community. She's got the answers for you. So just check the show notes below for all the groups she mentioned in this episode.

Consent Kansas City – Created to provide education and fun to the community. Hosts KC’s largest munch- Why Not Wednesday, monthly parties on 3rd Saturdays of the month, semi-annual Fetish Pop-Up Shop, Community Kinky Campout and more! Fetlife: consent_kc (page) / Consent Kansas City (group) https://fetlife.com/groups/71405


AHS Kansas City – Alternative Human Society D/s lifestyle resource & support group since the early 90s. Monthly meetups 3rd Fridays, monthly parties on 1st Saturdays, annual community Kinky Campout. Fetlife: AHS Kansas City


BKKC – Black Kink Kansas City – Love and encouragement of people of color. Increasing visibility and inclusivity in KC. Monthly meetings 4th Friday of the month. Fetlife: bkkc816913


The Hellfire Club KC – Provide an environment in which people can openly discuss and practice protocols. All welcome to attend. Monthly meetings 2nd Friday of the month. Fetlife: The Hellfire Club – Kansas City


Petplay Corral – 1st Friday of the month. All welcome to participate or observe. Fetlife: Message IX Kansas City & they will connect you with the current team


CG/l Kansas City – Littles group for all Bigs, littles, ABDL, etc. All welcome to participate! Monthly parties 3rd Friday of the month. Fetlife: CG/lkansascity


Poly Discussion Group – anyone curious/practicing ethical non-monogamy. Usual meetings 3rd Sundays Fetlife: Message FeistyRedGoddess and/or ZKiltedFlogger


MAsT – Masters And slaves Together – Interested and/or practicing Power Exchange. All are welcome. Monthly meetings last Wednesday of the month. Fetlife: MAsT: Kansas City


KC Pioneers – Levi-Leather club in Kansas City,MO. They promote the leather lifestyle through social events and community service. Regular meetings, education nights, and parties.Facebook: KC Pioneers. Website: www.kcpioneers.club Fetlife: KC Pioneers


RSG of KC - Rope group that holds occasional events and an annual Rope Camp. Fetlife: Rope Study Group of Kansas City


Scouts of Submission - Designed to provide an outlet for s-types to develop life skills & lifestyle skills and serve the community. For anyone identifying as an s-type. No gender restrictions. Can be a badge seeking scout or just a attendee of classes/events. Semi-regular meetings
Fetlife: SOS_KC


Subspace_KC – Forum for support and education of all s-types and bottoms. A mission to create a safe space for all s-types regardless of their label to find support and community engagement. Regular meet-ups. Also have an active chat group on Dischord: message sassmissive for link.
Fetlife: subspacekc


The Meat Locker - It is a group for gay/bi men to  socialize, learn, and be around others like them in the kink community. Message Consent Kansas  City to receive a link to the dischord chat.



Sep 29, 202058:57
Ep. 73 - Let's FINALLY talk about sex

Ep. 73 - Let's FINALLY talk about sex

 It is pretty common for couples to not talk about sex. But why? Why is it so hard for some people?! Kristen dives into a few of the reasons why, and how to get past it, especially if you've been together a while and never had The Talk. 

Sep 04, 202024:07
Ep. 72 - Tap that feminine energy

Ep. 72 - Tap that feminine energy

Tapping into feminine energy isn't just for female identifying folks, it's for everyone. This episode with Dave Witcher is about feminine energy and its ties to sexual energy, creativity, and much more. He left the tech sector 5 years ago, and we talked about his journey to living the life, from a dark night of the soul to finding peace. Dave and Kristen's talk about how to use this energy to empower your entire life. 

Aug 26, 202001:06:48
Ep. 71 - Expanding your position repertoire
Jul 25, 202023:29
Ep. 70 - How does race affect your dating life?
Jul 15, 202057:50
Ep. 69 - The Joy of 69ing
Jun 09, 202030:05
Ep. 68 - Celebrating self-pleasure during National Masturbation Month

Ep. 68 - Celebrating self-pleasure during National Masturbation Month

It's my masturbation month episode for 2020. May is National Masturbation Month and some people have asked me, "how did that get started?" There's certainly a month for everything these days, so I researched and shared it's origins. I found this sex toy company called TENGA who does research into masturbation and I divulged some sexy deets from their 2019 Self-Pleasure Report. I also discussed sex toys to make masturbation more fun, especially for men, lube, and some thoughts on what parents can do to help their kids understand self-pleasure.  

May 16, 202023:27
Ep. 67 - Releasing through rope play with Bird Girl

Ep. 67 - Releasing through rope play with Bird Girl

I was incredibly honored to have a new friend that I made on the internet on my show today.  Her Instagram handle is @KCBirdGirl, but just for short, we'll call her Bird Girl.  Bird Girl participates in rope play. She shared some of her experiences at a recent roleplay conference happened before the shutdown, of course. And she talked about having to really show up and be present and just be her true self. She had to work through some imposter syndrome. She shared how she finds that rope can be very meditative and actually mentioned using mindfulness techniques during her sessions, during her , what we call, scenes. We also tried to debunk some myths, especially when it comes to sexuality and BDSM. I think you will be just as fascinated by this conversation as I was because I don't really participate in road place. This was all new to me.  A couple of quick things I want to mention. 

First off, I have a new service offering. I am now going to be offering not just hour long sessions, but also 30 minute sessions. So, if because of the shutdown, you're looking for some support, some help with your sex life, send me a message. Kristen@openthedoorscoaching.com.  It's also National Masturbation Month! I'm sure my next episode is going to be about masturbation, but if you can't wait until then, you can actually go back to my second episode, which was almost a year ago. That's right! I have been doing Keep Them Coming with Open the Doors Coaching for a year.   If you'd like more of my content besides the podcast, follow me on social media. I invite you to please join my email newsletter, especially my not safe for work newsletter, The Dirty Bird. Please remember to subscribe, rate, share this show.   

Mentioned in the episode: NARIX or North American Rope Innovation Exchange - A rope conference

May 06, 202048:40
Ep. 66 - Stay home and masturbate

Ep. 66 - Stay home and masturbate

We are still under a stay at home order, so the CDC has politely asked us to stay home and masturbate.  Not just the CDC, several state agencies have put out requests for people to be more cautious with their sexual activity. Right now, a lot of people are not staying at home currently with a partner, so that has had some effects on people's buying habits. And of course, specifically what I'm talking about is sex, toys. Vibrators, dildos, sex toys, all the things are flying off the shelves.

I don't really know anybody at any of the big toy manufacturers, but I do know a Pure Romance consultant, so I had my friend and neighbor, Kelly Jackson on again. This is her second appearance on Keep Them Coming and we talked about what she has seen during this lockdown. We also talked about mutual masturbation, some of the health benefits of masturbation, as well as how to introduce toys into the bedroom, especially if your partner's not quite so keen on having a toy during intimate times. And we had a moment in our fields where we talked about what we hope to see as far as some cultural shifts after COVID.

Apr 28, 202044:34
Ep. 65 - The Walk Must Go On: How the 32nd Annual AIDS Walk KC manages change during social distancing with Eric Thomas

Ep. 65 - The Walk Must Go On: How the 32nd Annual AIDS Walk KC manages change during social distancing with Eric Thomas

 Eric Thomas is the Board President of the AIDS Service Foundation. He came on the show to tell me more about the Foundation as well as AIDS Walk Kansas City. With COVID-19 and Kansas City's stay at home order, we're certainly not going to get thousands of people together for an in-person walk. We talked about the pivots that they're making to still be able to service their organizations that help people in the region, not only with their diagnosis, but with living full healthy lives with HIV and AIDS.  We also talked about how there is such a different understanding between generations of HIV and AIDS and some of the stigma as well as the U = U campaign and what that means for our new understanding of living a life with HIV. I couldn't help with what's going on in the world discuss some of the things that I wish could have happened in the early days of the HIV epidemic. It's kind of strange talking about one pandemic when you're in the middle of another one. 

I hope what you'll get from this episode is that there is a lot of hope. There's been a lot of research over the last few years, and there are people in the community who are out there dedicated to making sure that there is prevention, there's treatment, and that there's resources for everyone in our community. I hope you not only learn something about this organization, but you learn something about HIV and AIDS today. There's still a lot of stigma. There's still a lot of misinformation, miseducation, and just a lack of education , and of course, educating people about STIs and human sexuality is what I am here on the planet to do, so I hope you enjoy our conversation.

Apr 20, 202055:32
Ep. 64 - Vegan sexuality, cannabis, and thriving in high stress times with Shelley Fritz

Ep. 64 - Vegan sexuality, cannabis, and thriving in high stress times with Shelley Fritz

You might notice that today's episode is a little longer than normal, and that's for good reason. I did the interview with Shelley Fritz originally in February, and life's changed a little bit. So what I have at the end of today's episode is a followup interview. I've never done this before, but I thought it was worth it because Shelly had discussed some things that she had coming up with some workshops, and obviously life's changed. Shelly is a holistic healer. She's a coach. She focuses on helping people find clarity. She's also cannabis coach. She's writing a book. We talked about, of course, two of my favorite topics, which is sex and cannabis . We discussed how it can help post-menopausal women, uh, people who have painful intercourse, painful periods. Cannabis can absolutely add to your sexual experiences and we talked about some of the ways to do so. And we got into talking about the difference between using cannabis as a drug to get high versus a medicine. Shelly is also a vegan, so we discussed ways that a plant based lifestyle can enhance your sex life. This conversation was phenomenal. So I think that you're going to want to listen to the entire thing, break it up into a couple sessions if you need to.
Let me know what you think. I'd love to hear back from you,
Kristen@openthedoorscoaching.com is my email or send me a direct message on any of my social media channels. Please rate, like, and subscribe this podcast and share it with anyone that you think might benefit from hearing it. I always love and appreciate hearing from my listeners, especially right now when we're all practicing social distancing... Call it physical distancing. We can still keep socializing. We just got to find different ways to do it. So if you want to reach out, please do so.
For anyone that is interested in coaching sessions with me, I am now offering 30 minute and 60 minute virtual sessions. I can coach you from anywhere thanks to technology. I work with couples and singles. Again, shoot me an email if you would like some more info.
Mentioned in the episode:
Shelley Fritz can be reached at ShelleyFritzHealing.com or shelleyfritzhealing@gmail.com
Russel Brand and Brené Brown interview on YouTube
Mic the Vegan and Female Erectile Dysfunction
The Game Changers – Film about plant based eating and athletes
Weed The People – Available on Netflix
T. Colin Campbell Center for Nutrition Studies
Apr 10, 202001:16:16
Ep. 63 - Courting is back : Tips for phone and video chat dates

Ep. 63 - Courting is back : Tips for phone and video chat dates

I want to talk about how courting is back! Basically, unless you are married or living with your significant other, everybody is in long distance relationship mode. So this episode is for you, whether you are single and you are on the dating scene, or you are in a relationship but you're currently separated, this episode is to help you all out. 

Apr 01, 202020:38
Ep. 62 - Cancer and the Kinky Girl
Mar 25, 202001:24:34
Ep. 61 - Getting busy during a state of emergency
Mar 13, 202016:06
Ep. 60 - Pegging, Part 2: a female perspective
Mar 11, 202058:08
Ep. 59 - Pegging, Part 1: A male perspective
Mar 04, 202001:07:31
Ep. 58 - Let the bra revolution begin!

Ep. 58 - Let the bra revolution begin!

With a title like "let the bra revolution begin," you might think that this episode is just for the ladies, but let me tell you, it is not just for breast owners. Gentlemen, I think you'll enjoy this episode because, I mean, come on... We talk about boobs, a lot, about boobs, a lot about tits. I even strip down and get fitted for a bra on this episode. So if you want to hear me talk about my tits, you'll enjoy this episode. But beyond that, Kerry Phillips is an entrepreneur. She has started her own fashion business, Firebrand Revolutionary Bras. We talked about the history of bras and their evolution, how you can make your own, how to make a bra fit properly, and we discussed an upcoming event called Bra Couture KC.  I know you will enjoy this episode if you like talking about boobs. Feel free to send me anytime about episodes at Kristen@openthedoorscoaching.com.

Feb 28, 202057:55
Ep. 57 - Sitting with pain with Victoria Henderson
Feb 20, 202056:32
Ep. 56 - Pageantry and transparency with Miss Black Trans International Nyla Foster
Feb 13, 202041:10
Ep. 55 - Sex and dating after divorce with Timmy Gibson
Feb 06, 202055:60
Ep. 54 - Clearing For Launch with Jennifer White
Jan 29, 202001:27:31
Ep. 53 - Mojo Rising with Jessica Rousseau
Jan 22, 202001:07:58
Ep. 52 – Resolutions for your Relationship

Ep. 52 – Resolutions for your Relationship

As you head into a new year, a new decade even, there are some things you may want to consider before setting goals for you and your partner. Assessing the state of your relationship takes care and compassionate communication. I walk you through how to not let it turn into an argument, how to pick your priorities for a stronger relationship together, and how to keep that change going well beyond winter time.

Mentioned in the episode:

Mating in Captivity – Esther Perel

The 5 Love Languages – Gary Chapman

Hold Me Tight – Sue Johnson

The Power of Vulnerability – Brené Brown

Come As You Are – Emily Nagowski

Small Changes Big Shifts and Dr Michelle Robin – smallchangesbigshifts.com

Jan 15, 202026:18
Ep. 51 - Let's talk about sacral chakras, baby!

Ep. 51 - Let's talk about sacral chakras, baby!

Christi Clemons Hoffman is a lifetime intuitive, teacher, and consultant whose passion is connecting people with their spiritual team. She’s a Reiki master, does hypnosis, and lives in Kansas City. We discussed our sacral chakras and how we often hold a lot of tension in that area due to shame and trauma. We also talked about how you can pull energy from your lovers, how you need to find someone who’s energy matches yours, as well as what akashic records are. You can catch Christi speak at the Good Living Expo (https://goodlivingexpo.com) or find her podcast on her website at Radiate Wellness (radiatewellnesscommunity.com), which is on iTunes, Google Podcasts, and more.

Jan 08, 202001:04:03
Ep. 50 - Advocating for Authenticity with Cici Glasgow
Jan 02, 202058:05
Ep. 49 - Making Moves with Karla Martinez
Dec 18, 201956:30
Ep. 48 - Mama Sutra with Natasha Ria El-Scari
Dec 12, 201901:01:20
Ep. 47 - Finding Love During the Holidays

Ep. 47 - Finding Love During the Holidays

Some people think it’s a terrible time to try to date. However, as a dating coach, I disagree! Have a listen for ideas about where to meet people, how to date during the holiday season, and what do do if you’re in a new relationship.


Dec 05, 201921:57
Ep. 46 - Dating app year end review with Miss Ugly Shoes
Nov 27, 201901:29:47
Ep. 45 - Mark your calendar if you want more intimacy
Nov 22, 201915:15