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The Stiletto Talk

The Stiletto Talk

By Kay & Shanise Foster

The Stiletto Talk podcast is more than a conversation; it's an invitation to challenge yourself to grow and heal. Join queer couple Kay and Shanise as they explore the true meaning of healing. With our good sis case study, we answer vulnerable healing questions and step into the shoes of another healer. Kick off your stilettos and let's talk!
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Lovers Intuition: a fool in love!

The Stiletto TalkOct 04, 2021

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Ep 11: Your prescription is ready.

Ep 11: Your prescription is ready.

Why is it so damn hard to heal? Healing is a journey and the path is not linear. Do not be intimidated or discouraged to become the best version of yourself. Let's reflect on our good sisters Essence and Taylor. See you in season 5 sis! 

Feb 01, 202332:38
Ep 10: The red flags are flagging!

Ep 10: The red flags are flagging!

Why do we ignore red flags? Many of us have a savior complex and believe that we are capable of changing people for the better. However, people will only change if they are genuinely committed to it. Our good sis Olive finds herself asking the question: should she choose her relationship or herself?

Feb 01, 202340:12
Ep 9: I said what I SAID!

Ep 9: I said what I SAID!

Do you code-switch? Historically black women have felt the need to code-switch. In this episode, we discuss how each of us code-switched throughout our careers as well as our good sis Essence. Essence questions if she no longer code switches would she still be guaranteed a life of prestige and success?

Feb 01, 202336:42
Ep 8: Baddies don't travel in packs.

Ep 8: Baddies don't travel in packs.

Are you breaking generational patterns? We cannot control the patterns imposed on us, but we can decide to stop continuing unhealthy cycles. We explore how we can heal for the generations after us including love, wealth, and mental and physical health. Our good sis Aspen is ready to break the generational pattern that women cannot be trusted.

Feb 01, 202338:20
Ep 7: Girl that's cheap spandex!

Ep 7: Girl that's cheap spandex!

Do you turn a blind eye to your own flaws? Our good sis Ella believes she didn't do anything wrong in her relationship, but we disagree. It's easy to criticize another person's shortcomings, but when the mirror is facing us, we hide! 

Feb 01, 202334:29
Ep 6: A baddie with a fatty.

Ep 6: A baddie with a fatty.

What do you have to offer besides your body? We explore the essence of one night stands and if they can truly lead to committed relationships. Let's dive into the journey of Nija and her Hinge date. 

Feb 01, 202333:32
Ep 5: I am coming for you b*tch.

Ep 5: I am coming for you b*tch.

Why do we seek revenge? They say revenge is a dish best served cold but we believe that it's a dish that you should throw in the garbage. Revenge is a dangerous game that will leave you hurt in the end, at least that's the case for our good sis Coco. 

Feb 01, 202332:12
Ep 4: Love with a side of narcissism.

Ep 4: Love with a side of narcissism.

Did your childhood trauma train you to be with narcissists? Parents create the blueprint for how we navigate relationships in adulthood. But if the generational cycle is not broken they subconsciously teach us how to be with toxic people. Let's talk about our good sis Tiana and the ways that her Dad trained her to be seen but not heard. 

Feb 01, 202334:53
Ep 3: Mom, I am the better version of you.

Ep 3: Mom, I am the better version of you.

Why are parents jealous of their kids? It sounds bizarre but there are some parents that envy their child's success instead of supporting them. Kay & Shanise explore the journey of our good sis Taylor. Her mother will stop at nothing to make sure that she is the main character in every story. 

Feb 01, 202329:47
Ep: 2 Committed to the streets.

Ep: 2 Committed to the streets.

Why do people commit when they are not ready? Kay & Shanise explore ways that a fear of loneliness can create a world of chaos. Let's talk about our good sis Ms. Angel. She has accepted a proposal from the love of her life but is still entertaining her ex. 

Feb 01, 202331:49
Ep 1: You better take care of YOU!

Ep 1: You better take care of YOU!

Why is it so hard to prioritize ourselves? We had to put ourselves first and that meant making some major changes. Some of which caused some discomfort and blocked phone numbers. Tap into how Kay and Shanise challenged themselves to be vulnerable and put their self-care first by all means necessary. 

Feb 01, 202328:44
Season 4: Welcome to the hot seat!

Season 4: Welcome to the hot seat!

Are you ready to be vulnerable? Feel the heat of vulnerability all season long! Kay & Shanise discuss the ways they challenged themselves to sit in the hot seat and heal. We also call our good sis Coco from episode 5 back to the hot seat. All episodes will be released on February 1, 2023.

Jan 20, 202310:50
Have you become the person that you despise?
Jul 04, 202228:23
What would you say to your younger self?
Jun 27, 202230:56
How do you advocate for yourself?
Jun 20, 202233:49
Do you compare yourself to strangers on the internet?
Jun 13, 202219:43
Are you the black sheep of your family?
Jun 06, 202222:57
Do you have abandonment issues?
May 16, 202219:50
My parents do NOT like my partner.

My parents do NOT like my partner.

Is it necessary for your friends/family to like your partner? We are revisiting Ms. Charlotte from season 2 episode 7 and she has an update! Let's get into it. The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Apr 25, 202231:59
Why is it so hard to say NO?!

Why is it so hard to say NO?!

Do you struggle saying no sis? Let's talk about Erleen. Sis is 44 and struggles to set boundaries with her daughter and co workers. The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Apr 18, 202233:54
Money or Wealth?

Money or Wealth?

Should you manifest money or wealth? Let's talk about Kendra! The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Apr 11, 202233:48
Sis I was a sister wife once!

Sis I was a sister wife once!

Are we conditioned to subscribe to monogamy? Let's talk about Brielle and Ava! The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Feb 14, 202234:37
Stay out of my WOMB!

Stay out of my WOMB!

Are you less than a woman if you decide not to have kids? Let's explore the journey of Olivia. The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Feb 07, 202233:06
"I've be fantasizing about women!"

"I've be fantasizing about women!"

Is it too late to explore your sexual identity in your 30's? Ms. Tiffany, we need to talk! We love all of our sister friends straight, queer, non-binary, trans, and questioning! This is a safe space for YOU. Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk. 

Jan 31, 202238:00
Can your parent be your bestie?

Can your parent be your bestie?

How do you develop a relationship with your parents as an adult? Let's talk about Charlotte. The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Jan 24, 202236:32
Black church trauma

Black church trauma

*Trigger Warning.* Have you experienced black church trauma? Let's talk about Terrica. The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Jan 17, 202235:24
Sis you are the toxic one!

Sis you are the toxic one!

How do you know when you are the problem? Let's talk about Tanisha! The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Jan 10, 202233:50
Dating potential!

Dating potential!

What does it look like when your partner is not on your level? Sis we have to talk about Ms. Shae. The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Jan 03, 202232:26
"Gold digging hoe!"

"Gold digging hoe!"

What is the difference between being a gold digger and wanting someone finically stable? Let's talk about Ms.Kourtney is sis a gold digger? The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk

Dec 27, 202139:17
Jealous Bish!

Jealous Bish!

Why are strangers more supportive than friends and family? Let's talk about Ms. Asha. The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Dec 20, 202130:46
Confused, pissed off, and stuck!

Confused, pissed off, and stuck!

Why is it so hard for people to walk away from things that no longer serve them? Let's talk about Ms. Morgan! The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Dec 13, 202134:01
Bonus episode: Level Up sis!

Bonus episode: Level Up sis!

We are revisiting our good sis Monica and have much to update you on while we explore the question of what will it take for you to level up? Season 2 drops December 13th! The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Nov 22, 202128:45
Grown Woman Sh*t

Grown Woman Sh*t

Sis it's our season one finale and we are exploring the question of are people being forced to become entrepreneurs? Can we talk about Ms.Farrah? The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Nov 08, 202130:39
Healing your inner child

Healing your inner child

How do you heal from poor parenting? Let's explore the story of Ashlee. The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk.

Nov 01, 202132:44
Broke but satisfied: "Popcorn mentality!"

Broke but satisfied: "Popcorn mentality!"

Why are people willing to sacrifice everything for instant gratification? Lets talk Ms. Loraine. The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com So kick off your stilettos and let's talk. 

Oct 25, 202128:03
Case of the ex: "My ex is my best friend!"

Case of the ex: "My ex is my best friend!"

Can you remain friends with an ex? Let's discuss Kimbrea. The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com Our good sis case studies are inspired by fictional characters to assist with further exploration of our healing question. So kick off your stilettos and let's talk. 

Oct 18, 202126:34
Bootleg Manifestations

Bootleg Manifestations

Why are your manifestations not coming to fruition? Let's discuss Cassie! The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. So kick off your stilettos and let's talk. Learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com Our good sis case studies are based upon fictional characters to assist with further exploration of our healing question. We would love to hear your thoughts click here and submit your voice message to be featured on our show. Submit your voice messages: https://anchor.fm/kierra-foster/message

Oct 11, 202126:56
Lovers Intuition: a fool in love!

Lovers Intuition: a fool in love!

Why do we ignore our intuition in relationships? Let's discuss Monica. The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com Our good sis case studies are inspired by fictional characters to assist with further exploration of our healing question. So kick off your stilettos and let's talk. We would love to hear your thoughts click here and submit your voice message to be featured on our show. Submit your voice messages: https://anchor.fm/kierra-foster/message

Oct 04, 202127:02
Botched self-esteem and BBLs

Botched self-esteem and BBLs

Does having plastic surgery mean that you have low self-esteem? The Stiletto Talk explores different questions and stories to help enhance your healing journey. To learn more about The Stiletto Files brand visit our website at www.thestilettofiles.com Our good sis case studies are based upon fictional characters to assist with further exploration of our healing question. So kick off your stilettos and let's talk. We would love to hear your thoughts click here and submit your voice message to be featured on our show. Submit your voice messages: https://anchor.fm/kierra-foster/message

Sep 27, 202125:40